Tolerate Much?

When you see someone going through a difficult situation, or having trouble navigating their life path or suffering an enormous misfortune, as though they were thrashing through the brush with a machete the whole way, what are your thoughts?

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Do you think,

A – What a freak (or alternatively),

They should get a life, or
If they’d been through what I’ve been through…

B – I wonder what it’s like to be in that person’s shoes?

Immediately, you get the idea that I’ve set you up, to give you a choice of selecting either disrespect or empathy. Honestly, though, what is your knee-jerk reaction? I hear a lot of people being disrespectful.

You might be surprised, if I were to ask those same people if faced with a similar situation (just the same, only different) their reply would be to unequivocally stand on the idea that their first response would be one of empathy.

An interesting observation, don’t you think?

It’s no wonder it’s so difficult for people to get along with each other these days.

Tolerance is the ability, skill or innate psychological behavior of allowing others to be the way they are, regardless of whether it is in contrast with you. And the best type of tolerance is celebrating that people are the way they are, and that’s okay.

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If tolerance is considered to be a spectrum, on the left-hand side of the spectrum there would be judging and rejection, on the other end would be love and acceptance. Certainly there are a myriad of tolerant or intolerant behaviors and attitudes in between those two extremes.

Why are we likely to be intolerant?

Because we’ve been programmed that way since birth; our parents, their parents, public schools, our peers, the media, and now with social media and immediate access to information via the World Wide Web, our first reaction is to reject and alienate others.

To laugh at their misfortune, make fun of their condition, call them ugly, fat, disgusting, ignorant or stupid.

Oh, it’s hilarious (you might think) but what’s really going on in that viral video clip?

You don’t know… or is it that you don’t care?

This leads me to believe that there exists a conspiracy promoted by the powers that be to keep us divided, to intentionally pit us one against the other, in an effort to keep us weak and dependent on the government for assistance. And they’re fueling the fire of polarization, like no one’s business.

Don’t believe me?

If you’re on Facebook, take a look at your feed. See any dissention there? What videos are popular on YouTube? Anyone watch the nightly news lately?

Then there’s You and Me

Maybe we’re the only ones, the two of us; together we could agree to be more tolerant, to try to understand others as we would like to be understood and accepted for all our talents and inadequacies on our good days and bad days.

After all, aren’t we all just doing the best we can with what we have?

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The next step in human evolution is tolerance. Tolerance = Loven

Intolerance is illogical

To be intolerant, doesn’t even make good sense.

It’s as if, when engaged in the activity of judging or ridiculing someone else, the person who is doing it can’t even see the hypocrisy in their doing so… How do we find congruency at all in this degree of superiority and isolation?

Even now, as you read these words, there are some who are locked, loaded and ready to attack me, twist my words and suggest that I am promoting some kind of crazy campaign. This is not addressed to them.

This is addressed to you: That one other person, who along with me is making a commitment to be more tolerant… because to you and me, it makes more sense to treat others as we would like to be treated.

Are you with me?

Demon Hunters and Ghostbusters

Having been exposed to (and worked with) professionals in the paranormal, I am convinced now, more than ever, that all things are possible. Things that (I thought) defy logic, rational explanation and scientific qualification or verification (to varying degrees) exist all around us.

All the stuff of fanciful or science fiction and horror stories appear to be true though exaggerated for print and screen for our amusement. So true, in fact, that the government spends millions of dollars researching and weaponizing it.

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Meanwhile, in the private sector, there are individuals whose calling in life includes mitigating the damages of this paranormal activity surrounding any of us, or all of us, at any given moment.

You might say, “That can’t be true. If all that stuff was existed, I would know about it,” like I did.

I applaud this perfect state of ignorance that I once held tight to with my naïveté in full regalia. Take my advice: stay there.

To hear these individuals tell their story, few of them sought out the awareness of the paranormal. In most cases, the paranormal activity in which they currently specialize sought them out against their better judgment or will.

This one thing remains true:

Seek and you will find

This is to say that those who decided to specialize in specific paranormal activity our of pure curiosity and succumbing to the burgeoning researcher and scientist within, discovered and found themselves embroiled with the very thing they were investigating.

Their stories led me to conclude that not only

All things are possible


Everything is

It appears that “anything that you look for, you will find,” is the truest of all truisms.

If you look for ghosts, you will find them. This proves true for anything from aliens and multidimensional travel to demons and Bigfoot.

It’s as if nothing exists until you look for it, then once you do – if your intentions are focused on finding it – it (whatever it is) enthusiastically appears for you to experience fully. Likewise, if you seek to disprove the existence of any or all of these things, the data comes bubbling up to support that which you seek.

That said, your attention is better spent elsewhere – anywhere – rather than to explore the paranormal yourself.

Paranormal activity aside, the same is true in real life within and around the interactivity of our human interactions and communication, one with another.

If you’ve been hurt or abused and hold within our heart the pain of said abuse, you will find abusers wherever you look. This is a different kind of demon hunter, but not quite as dissimilar as you might think at first blush.

I run into this type of demon hunter all the time, and they come in all ages, shapes and sizes, so you may not be able to determine one until you see them discovering the things they are afraid of everywhere, all around them, in everyone they meet. It’s as if they are being haunted by their own ghosts.

They continually find themselves being victimized asking, “Why is everyone out to get me?”

Certainly, you could demonize anyone from politicians to saints; ergo if you look for it, it will appear and be real to you – possibly even more real to you than anything you’ve witnessed – now, more than ever.

The question remains:

Is it better to seek and find?


Is it better to look away and remain naïve?

I find it’s better for me to choose when to look and when to look away; for some things can be so complicated and compelling so as to become an obsession leaving me wanting even more, thereby distracting me from my calling of helping others achieve their highest and best.

In this respect

‘tis better to correctly discern when and where to look

Because if you do, you will surely find it.