Disaster or Miracle Find the Blesson

Life is a crazy journey. It’s full of unexpected twists, turns, trials, and tribulations, with the occasional tragedy thrown in for flavor. What you get is a cocktail for disaster or the foundation for limitless miracles. The tipping point, the pivot which lays perfectly in the center of your life delicately balancing every situation and circumstance, is controlled by you. So, it’s up to you whether is is a disaster or miracle and to find the blesson

Every challenge you face comes with emotional weight on either side of life’s balance beam.

The slightest influence, what you feel, what you think, what you do, even the smallest bit of energy equivalent to the weight of a snowflake, is enough to upset the delicate balance, sending all that emotional weight tumbling on the side of either disaster or miracles.

No two life events are the same. Each has different degrees of emotional weight associated with it. Some have such little emotional weight, that whether it falls on the side of disaster or miracle the emotional impact is barely noticeable. In other cases, the emotional weight is so heavy that it could have life-threatening emotional impact if hurled on the side of disaster. On the other hand, if sent cascading on the side of miracles would be cause for incredible celebration.

In either case, the actual upsetting of the balance, the process of tipping it one way or the other, is shocking and unsettling. Even if very heavy emotional weight is sent crashing on the side of miracles, an uncomfortable period of adjustment may be necessary before the celebratory outcome can be felt or realized.

Curse or Blessing

It’s all up to you, whether every challenge you face feels like a curse or a blessing. You will feel the emotional outcome according to which side it falls on.

Turning Emotional Disasters into Miracles

What if all the weight shifted and crashed down on the negative side of disaster? Is there a way to convert negative emotional weight into positive, even miraculous, emotional weight?

The answer is, and will always be, unequivocally, “Yes.”

You can turn bad emotional weight into positive emotional weight, but it will take some inspired, attentive, and focused work to be done by you if you are interested in engaging this transformative process.

This is the work that my colleagues and I do every day when helping people overcome the emotional trauma experienced by individuals just like you who bear the burden of carrying a high-level degree of heavy negative emotional weight.

The very carrying of such emotional weight takes a toll on your body, mind, and soul. You feel the negative impact of it and carry it around with you wherever you go. Sure, you can find ways to mitigate the damages or stave off the effects for a while, but when the smoke clears from whatever method you’ve used to stop the pain, all that weight is safely stored and remains.

To move it from one side to the other will take some work on your part.

Whether it looks like medical intervention, therapy, counseling, consulting, coaching, or private personal or spiritual growth, there are many resources available for you to achieve the process of metamorphosis, turning your tragedy into priceless treasure.

Find the Blesson

The starting point is to find the blesson; the blessing and the lesson that was hidden amongst the pile of negative emotional weight which was represented by the specific event, situation or circumstance to which it is associated.

In this way, you can start the cleanup process. Some of the negative weight can be eliminated, destroyed, demolished and swept away or discarded, if necessary, while the rest (all the good, valuable and blessed weight) can be transmitted to the positive side of miracles. Following the period of adjustment, not only will you feel the relief from there being significantly less weight on the negative side (never having to carry it again), but you will also feel the positive attributes associated with moving weight to the positive side, which makes you feel better, satisfied, fulfilled, even joyous and blessed.

And your efforts of doing the work necessary to diligently execute this process are forever accompanied by a sense of pride in the knowledge of the fact that you did this deep and meaningful work on your own.

Be an Inspiration

Having gone through this process of personal discovery, healing and transmutation of negative emotional weight into positive, you have become an expert, like only you could be, regarding the challenges which you have overcome.

There was a divine purpose for your enduring both the challenge and the overcoming of it, and that is to offer hope to others who without your encouraging story of having been there, done that, and not only survived but thrived from having come out on the other side.

You have become the lighthouse, saving others from the potential dangers of encountering similar plights.

You are the lighthouse beaming your beacon of hope to the world; a world facing little hope of a positive outcome when facing unbearable odds and having little hope, if any.

My Love Life’s In Crisis

My Love Life’s In Crisis!

What Can I do?

Your relationship has been going on for a while, but there’s this one thing you thought would work itself out but your partner has continued to do something that just doesn’t sit right with you. You thought your love would be enough and your partner would let go of this thing or vice but instead, it’s gotten worse. Now what? You’re asking, “Is it time to confront my partner?” And, if so, “What’s the best way to confront my partner?”

You’ve probably been watching this thing go on, and you sort of thought it would just resolve itself, but it’s gotten worse and there could be consequences. Only you know how this is affecting your relationship and your partner just goes on oblivious to the impact this activity is having.

It could be an activity that leads to a loss of health and wellness, or is causing the breakdown of the relationship and could include anything from eating and drinking to gambling and other extra-curricular activities. Even worse, you know this activity, whatever it is, is causing you to lose respect and admiration for your partner. And left unchecked, could lead to the end of this relationship.

When it’s getting to the point where you’re contemplating leaving the relationship altogether, you’ve let it go on for too long, and is more likely than not, due to your codependency. Codependency is an addiction and the single largest contributing factor in relationship failure.

You have to come to grips with the idea that in reality, this is all because of you. For whatever reason, you didn’t say anything long ago and you might even have the inclination to ask, “How did we get here?” But in your heart, you know it was because you didn’t care enough about yourself to say anything when you first noticed, and now it’s escalated into all this. You allowed it and now it’s out of control.

Denial is a powerfully destructive emotion which could make you think this is all your partner’s fault because he or she is engaged in the actual doing of whatever it is, but it’s not true. You are the only one to blame because you turned your head and allowed this thing to grow and expand.

You must love yourself enough to speak up for yourself when you know something is happening that is just not right. Waiting too long, until a thing grows so hugely out of proportion that there can be little hope of recovery, is nothing short of criminal.

All is not lost

There is still hope, but it is far more complicated at this point to address the issue, after letting it go for so long.

Thankfully, there is an emotion more powerful than denial. In fact, it is the only emotion that may be more powerful and it is powerful enough to overcome any obstacle that stands in the way of your having the loving relationship you so ling to desire.

For your partner, there is no greater motivator than to preserve the love that he or she so greatly desires.

I know, men get a bad rap for being strong, in control, personally devoid of sensitivities, but in reality, they are longing to love and be loved, honored, respected, and adored just as much as you. They want to do the right thing and be appreciated for doing it, so give them a chance.

As much as you might think they could care less about you, if you ask them what is the most important thing in their relationship is, they invariably reply that it is “your happiness” which is the most important thing to them.

Even though you’ve let things get out-of-hand, you still have love on your side and because you have let this thing erode your affection for your partner to this point, the idea of losing everything could be a powerful attention-getting proposal for initiating change (even though this is not the best approach).

Waking up to the idea that one could lose one’s life as they know it, including family, kids, friends, finances, reputation, and most importantly, “love,” could be the best motivation for making rapid significant changes.

On the other hand, if not handled properly, it could signify the relationship’s breaking point and ultimate failure.

Our society holds our men to such a high expectation of being strong and powerful that we offer them little love and loving support and this is one of the contributing factors to such higher rates of suicide of men over women. A man is far more likely to take his own life as the result of relationship failure.

Often failed relationships and the lack of support for men is the leading cause of male suicide which outnumbers women four-to-one. When all they really wanted was the chance to love, be loved, and to please their significant other but were not allowed the chance to do it or make it right due to miscommunication or some other contributing factor beyond their control or knowledgebase.

The only hope of making through this crisis together can be found in

1. Establishing Sacred Space

The home, or at least someplace in it, should be defined as “sacred.” This activity will never breach this place. Also, this place is reserved for safe conversation and exchange, where the topic of this crisis can be discussed without judgment.

2. Allowing Time for Healing

Both the accuser and the partner engaged in the activity must agree to allow the time necessary to address the behavior, which may have become a growing addiction over time. Just as this issue has developed over time, it may take some time to change the behavior.

3. Being Open and Honest

It is incumbent for both parties to be both honest and open when communicating about this behavior which has gotten out of control. Yu need to express how this activity makes you feel, what your innermost thoughts are, where your mind goes, how it affects your heart, love and admiration. And your partner needs to be offered the same courtesy through this tough time.

4. Sincerity and Compassion

This is the time to be sincere and compassionate, not superior or demanding. No pointing of the finger, insisting, “You did this,” or, “You did that.” For heaven’s sake, don’t nominate yourself as the flawless almighty by accusing your partner of being any less human by asking, “Who does that?” as if no other human being on the planet would consider doing such a thing. This is the time to imagine what it might feel like to be in his or her shoes right now. What if it was your partner issuing you an ultimatum right now?

5. Get Help

If there is time, space and the ability to seek out a relationship coach, clergy, or counselor, consider reaching out for to someone for support and a fresh perspective. The relationship might not be salvageable but if it is, someone with a clear perspective and access to additional resources might be able to save all the good things your relationship represents.

Let’s face it. You didn’t get into this relationship for all this drama, even if you contributed to it. The truth is, you loved your partner, and the reasons you decided to align yourself with him or her are probably still there. Even though you might not be able to see clearly through the veil of the current crisis.

If this conflict was the result of your codependence, be aware that your next relationship will not be any better until you move through the dependence continuum from codependence, to independence, then onto interdependence, when you can successfully manage a healthy relationship.

Love can prevail over a crisis, but it will take action, not just words, motivated by pure love to get from here to there.

You can do this, if you want to.

Catch a Wave for a Better Life

How Did You Feel Today?

Tell me, how was today for you? What if every day could be like today, would that make you happy? Was today the best day ever, one of those days that was better than the days before, or was today very similar to the days of your life as one slowly merges into the next with little change or variation? How did you feel today?

Do you want to have another day, like today, tomorrow?
Would you like to have a better day?
What if every day could be better than the day before?

When you’ve decided to live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place. You can say, “Goodbye,” to the same ol’ same ol’ routine of life, but you’re going to have to do some work to make it happen; you can’t just wish for a better life and expect to simply step into it. No fairy godmother is going to wave her magic wand and make it happen. If you want a better life, you’re gonna have to do something, maybe more than you bargained for, but it will be worth it if you really want a better life.

If you’re not going to do the work to live a better life, then that’s okay too. There’s nothing wrong with making the best of the life that you have, but there is a decided and purposeful difference between making the best of what you have and living your best life ever.

It’s all up to you, which would you rather do?

Make the best of the life that you have

Or

Live your best life ever and make the world a better place

There’s no right or wrong answer; it’s all up to you. What do you want to do?

If you want to live your best life and make the world a better place, it will take more than buying my book, and it will take more than reading it. It’s going take action, and it might not be easy. This might be too much to ask of yourself, so if it sounds too much like work to you, then you’re probably not being called to such a high level of excellence, and there’s no problem with that. You can always make the best of the life that you’re living.

If you’re looking to live a better life, be aware of the rare opportunities to catch a wave that could help to raise your vibration and ride that wave. But just like riding a surfboard, if you’re not making the effort to stay on the wave, it will go on without you.

If you missed that wave and it has left you behind, don’t panic; that wave was not meant for you. There’s always another wave. The next big wave could be bigger or better, maybe now, who knows, but one thing’s for sure: Another wave will come.

Inexperienced surfers are expected to crash and burn the first few times when trying to catch a wave, and that’s okay, too, because there’s always another wave.

No use in worrying about the one you missed because another one is on its way. Maybe the next one will be the one for you. Maybe, you will be able to exert the effort necessary to make sure it doesn’t pass you by; and if it does, no problem.

You cannot coast and do nothing and expect to ride the wave. It’s just not going to happen, and if you want to make the best of the life you’re living there’s no fault in that.

God is holding a treasure trove of blessings for you, no matter where you are in life.

Just keep loving and doing the best you can with what you have.

Love, love, love… love is all there really is.

Note: The seventh wave is the biggest wave

Make Your Dream Come True or Not

I know you’re hearing people tell you that you should, “Do what you love,” and the most optimistic encouragers might add, “and the money will come.” While a good part of my work is helping people find their passions and monetizing them, when you hear someone say you can make a fortune doing what you love (which is true) you may have noticed that while it sounds so good at first, something inside you is making you feel like this is not true. You can make your dream come true or not.

Both thoughts are right. While it’s true that you can do what you love and get paid handsomely for it, it is also true that you might not be able to make a dime doing what you love.

When I meet people and they have an idea about the work I do, most of them tell me they have this great invention, business idea, or unwritten book that will change the world and will make a bazillion dollars overnight. Great!

These are the kinds of people that I work with every day, but most of them disqualify themselves as a prospective client by answering the following questions:

1. What have you done today to promote your project?
(Talking to me doesn’t count.)
2. What have you invested in your project before today?
3. What other projects have you completed in the past?

If you don’t have passionately positive answers to these three basic questions, you are a dreamer. No problem with dreamers; we love them, we need them, life would be lackluster without the dreamers in our lives.

Not to be dissuaded by feeling like their answers may have disqualified them, they usually follow up with something like, “No, I don’t want to do it. I want you to do it; you can even put your name on it. I just want you to do it because you’re the master doer. You make things happen. Just do my thing and we’ll split the bazillion dollars 50/50.”

Now, don’t get me wrong, there are serial marketing money making masters who are always searching for the next thing they can exploit, make as much money as they can, then bail out and go on to the next thing. These are not the kinds of people that I work with (okay, maybe I do work with some people, like that).

My preference is to empower someone who is passionate about their project, mission, or message, and they’re actively doing something about it.

Make Your Dream Come True

You can make your dream come true; no doubt about it. I see it all the time, people making their dreams come true, and there’s little more satisfying for me than being able to watch the transformation take place in real time. But the key to making your dreams come true is found in the first (most important) word, “Make,” your dreams come true.
Just like you can’t just imagine a chocolate cake, or repeat the affirmation, “I am enjoying the chocolate cake which is materializing in hands,” and expect it to materialize before you, like magic (although, this can happen, it takes more than just imagination and affirming statements), so it is with your dream; you must “Make,” your dream come true.

The manifesters and creators are busy doing the work of making their dreams true. This is “the secret” to their success; they do the work of making their dreams come true every day.

Everything is Energy

Energy creates all things and if you’re a fan of Einstein, you know that Energy equals MC squared. M represents mass; that means you must have something to work with. C represents speed (the speed of light in a vacuum). So you need something physical to start with, and speed; moving in a particular direction… Squared. That means you’re actively moving twice the speed of anyone else. This is the formula for manifesting or creating anything from energy (which everything is).

Even when you hear about an overnight success, you have no idea what work went on that no one was privy to, going on diligently behind the scenes, laying the foundation for the sudden impact of the idea burgeoning into full expression.

There’s nothing glamorous about doing the work of building your dream when it appears to be fruitless. The law of sowing and reaping is never more clearly apparent than in your life as the manifester or creator. You diligently work your project until you reap the reward of your efforts, the juiciest and most satisfying fruit of all.

Or Not

“Oh, that’s too much work for me. I don’t need another job.”

Awesome. Instead, then, focus on your innate skills, what you’re really good at, and do that. If this is your calling, do that. We need you just as much as we need the manifesters and creators and by all means,

Keep Dreaming

You never know when your dream will fall into place, in the perfect planetary alignment, in the right hands at the right moment in space and time.

 

 

Get ‘er Done with Accountability

You have an idea, you want to do this good thing to make the world a better place, but it seems like you just can’t seem to take the steps necessary to gain enough momentum to bring your idea to life. How can you get ‘er done with accountability?

It’s not unusual for someone who spends a great deal of their life serving others, to neglect their own personal projects. If this applies to you, you could greatly benefit by attracting others to support you and your project, not just encouragers, but accountability partners.

You wouldn’t let someone down who was depending on you to get something done, right? Instead of putting the needs of others before your own needs, you need to feel the same way about serving your own project and accountability partners can increase your obligation to make your project as important to you as someone else’s needs might be.

Your accountability partners are the individuals you recruit who are willing to basically keep you on track, following through on your intentions, and taking the steps necessary to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

You can select your accountability partner from your current circle of influence, such as family, friends, teachers, trainers, doctors or other professionals. For some, it is better to bring in an unprejudiced third-party to increase the accountability (and maintain a certain level of privacy and decorum) like hiring a coach, who is less likely to allow you to slack as much as someone who is more empathetic toward your plight. A professional will be more dependable, reliable and will help to keep you on track if you’re unable to find an adequate accountability partner in your current circle of influence.

When you make a deal with your accountability partner, especially if you have a tendency to not prioritize your own projects. If this is the case, you will need to create a system of checks and balances and your accountability partners can help raise the bar.

Because of your tendency to not follow through on your own projects, you will need to contract with them by giving them your word in your own integrity that you will perform a certain task, or do something specific, within a certain time line. You determine your own deadline, and you agree with your accountability partner, that you will perform particular tasks, or else.

Or else?

Yes, you make an agreement with your accountability partner in your own integrity to do something by a certain deadline or else you must pay the consequences for not following through. You create your own consequence, but it should be great enough (it should hurt) to persuade you to prefer and prioritize your task, increasing your accountability to yourself.

If you fail to follow through, as you promised, your accountability partner makes sure that you keep your word and pay the price for letting yourself down. Of course, the consequence would vary wildly from person to person, because a particular activity that would seem like punishment to one person, might be a cherished moment for someone else.

Since you’re less likely to do the right thing for yourself and you’re more likely to do something for someone else, your accountability partner is your someone else who can help you get ‘er done for your own project.

If you tend to procrastinate or put your own projects on the back burner, an accountability partner can make all the difference.

Angry Much?

Every once and a while, you are likely to lose your grip, allow anger to overtake you and lead you into an emotional display that, depending on how you handle it, could have negative or positive ramifications.

While it’s easy to give in to your emotions when they well up inside of you, there are other alternatives that can give you control of anger, or any other emotions if you are proactive and inclined to do the work necessary to make yourself the master of your emotions.

People are always their weakest when they are angry.

Knowing what anger is, and what causes it to rise up inside you, is a good place to start when trying to tame this wildcat.

Anger is a fear-based negative emotion fueled by the stress hormone, “cortisol,” that could be triggered by nearly anything, such as, pressure from school or work, unexpected change, challenging life circumstances, feeling as though you’re being attacked (or lorded over) by other people, as well as underlying fears like feeling threatened, perception of impending pain, jealousy, disappointment, low self-esteem, fear of failure, or loss.

Giving in to the emotion of anger can actually have a detrimental effect on your physical, psychological and spiritual health. When you are enveloped by anger, your heart rate speeds up, blood pressure builds, stress hormones are released en masse which creates a toxic cocktail for your body and its associated systems.

Think early physiological deterioration, aging, and failing organ function, memory loss, acute minor motor skills, reaction time, just to name a few.

Getting a handle on your anger is one of the best ways to look younger, increase your quality of life and longevity.

Keeping a list handy where you can note when you are triggered to feel anger and what caused the emotion to make you start to feel angry would help to get an idea of when you might be most susceptible to a potentially volatile outburst.

When you’re experiencing a calm state of mind, and are willing to set aside a few minutes to do so, make a list of things that you can think of that make you angry.

To give you an idea, here’s a copy of a client’s list (used by permission):

• When I get an automated computer voice and a long list of numbered options when I call a business for assistance
• Dealing with impatient customers at work
• Having to deal with my mother-in-law (she doesn’t like me much)
• Crazy drivers on the highway during my commute
• Checking my stock values and finding they’ve decreased again

Here are some ideas that help keep the wild beast at bay when you’re feeling like your bubble of calm is about to burst

Chill out; literally. Grabbing something cold and refreshing, like a frozen drink (or a drink with a lot of ice), a slushee, shaved ice or ice cream can hit the spot, and the temperature jolt to your system can have a calming effect, reducing your potential angry outburst.

Take an exhilarating break by taking a walk, or a hike (subject to time and available access). This helps take care of your body, while cortisol (the stress hormone) subsides and is overrun by happy and healthy hormones, such as endorphins, endocannabinoids, dopamine, and serotonin.

If you’re in a private place, you can always crank up the tunes, dance to the music, or sing along as best you can to your favorite song(s).

Write a letter. You don’t have to send it, just write out your emotions, how this person, place or thing made you feel angry. If you’re keeping an anger diary, be sure to leave space for something good that happened today, also.

Do things differently. If you’re exposed to an activity regularly during your day which set off your anger response, alter your routine so as to avoid that particular trigger (like taking an alternative route to and from work, etc.).

These are just a few ideas to get you started on taking charge of your anger, placing you in the driver’s seat of your emotional storage facility.

Knowing what sets you off, and having some tools to interrupt your pattern can move you quickly toward a healthy, happier life, shaving years off your appearance and supporting your long and more satisfying life.

What Is Your Mission?

What is your mission?
Show me.

If you’re really serious about carrying out your life’s mission, you have it clearly defined and written out. Why? Because you will need to refer to this every once and a while to see if you’ve been distracted, or thrown off track by life and its many detours.

In the event, you haven’t created a hard copy of your life’s mission, when is now a good time to write your life’s mission.

Although it may sound overwhelming, you need to approach delineating your life’s mission as a continual work in progress, just like you. Having an idea of your life’s mission clearly defined helps you focused on the work which is in alignment with your purpose, and this is subject to change according to changes and growth in your life as you traverse along your life’s journey.

Before you start writing your mission down on paper (or on your device) it will be helpful to do a quick inventory of your unique skills, talent, and special abilities. Also, take into account when you find yourself “in the zone,” doing the things that you are passionate about and/or activities, that when you’re fully engaged in them, time just seems to disappear.

Create a visualization of what your best day ever might look. See it clearly in your mind’s eye. If you could have your life any way you wanted it, what would it look like? Make your wildest fantasy-day part of your life’s mission.

Write down a list of the things which are the most important to you. The issues which you feel strongly and represent your core values.

Taking all these things in consideration, answer the question,

What am I here for?

In other words, assuming you came to this planet with a specific mission to accomplish, the reason for your being here (which you did), what would it be?

Your inventory of your unique skills, talent and special abilities, passions, what your perfect day might look like and your core values all support your mission. They are part of your being, who you are, and are specially formulated for you and the accomplishment of your mission.

Everything you need to accomplish your life’s mission was placed inside you before you were born and in the best-case scenario grew matured and you honed these special skills along the way to today. In others, their innate abilities may have been suppressed or neglected, in this case, it’s time to start allowing them to come to life.
Now, you have a map that will point the way to your life’s mission. You may not have a clear picture of it yet, but do the best you can, knowing that it will become more and more clear as you start working toward achieving it.

Revise you mission as necessary along the way.

If you have no clear idea about your mission, there is little hope that you will do a very good job of accomplishing it.

So, what is your mission?

Show me.

Where Am I? Lost?

You’ve stepped out of the fog of socially acceptable “normalcy” to forge your own individual path creating leading to a higher vibratory life’s journey. It’s exhilarating, as you continue to grow, change and see things from new, fresh perspectives.

You’re having such an enjoyable time of it, then you stop to survey your surroundings, finding yourself in unfamiliar territory, your first reaction is to panic as you realize that you don’t know where you are and you haven’t even left a trail of breadcrumbs to follow back to safety.

Other fear-based emotions start to set in, you feel your vibration descending and you’re wondering if this whole journey is all it’s cracked up to be?

Where am I? Lost?

Although you might not be able to see it on the surface, but this place, while it might appear to be desolate, scary, maybe a little dangerous, is the most amazing place that you can find yourself in, because you are in a state-changing transition position.

Of course, when you find yourself in these unfamiliar surroundings, you can retreat in fear of what lies ahead (which there’s no harm in that) or you can do what you can to gain your composure, center yourself as best you can, and with as much a calculable sense of direction as possible, keep making your way forward, in anticipatory expectations of something so amazing coming your way.

It is reasonable to expect to leave some of your old self behind, this triggers your sense of danger because a part of you will be dying as you move beyond this inconvenient and uncomfortable place.

This part of you does not want to be left behind, and there’s a part of you that is frightened about leaving it behind due to its having been a part of you for so long. It’s hard to imagine going on without it. That’s why so many people, take it by the hand and retreat to find a way to sustain it, and that’s okay, if you’ve determined it’s not your time to move on.

No one can tell you when it’s time for your transition, only you can know when you’re ready to take the leap.

There’s a part of you that knows you’re not alone in all this, and certainly this is very true, God, the creator of the universe, and everything terrestrial, extra-terrestrial and beyond is there with all the power, support, and has placed all the tools, skills and special abilities to make it through this trying time.

When I find myself in these dark places, I immediately start to look for something more amazing on the horizon and I start making arrangements and calculations to navigate toward it, not matter how my feelings might be telling me just the opposite. This is counter-intuitive and not come easily for me. I have only learned this due to my own experiences of being in my deepest darkest unfathomable depths in my life; and every time, “every time,” something so amazing was waiting for me on the other side of transformation. And, when I felt God was not there, may have never been there, ever, He and all his angels were surrounding me all along; just hard to imagine when you’re in that dark place.

Knowing this doesn’t make the pain or suffering of the transition process any less so, but if you’re like me, there is an enthusiastic expectation that things will get better. Not only better, but so exponentially better, it’s hard not to be excited about the possibilities, even when you’re in the depths of despair.

This moment, though it feels like it could last forever, is temporary, even though it could last for several days to a few years for the transformation to take place.

Don’t give up.

I know it’s hard to wrap your head around the idea of there being any quality of life waiting for you beyond this experience, but it’s always true that,

All things work together for good

Nothing could be more true, even when it seems like the most unlikely possibility.

These is not an empty quote, affirmation, or phrase used to just get you through this rough spot.

What can I do?

You can offer up as little resistance as possible and allow that part of you to come up, so that you can deal with it and allow it to die off. Stay strong, faithful and true to you and your purpose in this life.

Don’t lean on your own understanding, you can’t muscle or think your way through this process as it is a method which can only be positively navigated by the heart and soul. Have faith that your angels are there, will not let anything you can’t handle to take place. They (your angels) will allow you to face your challenges face-to-face knowing what is waiting for the newly expanded version of yourself, while never leaving your side.

Surrender to the process allowing things be what they are and keep moving forward in the best way you can.

Choose to Change EMP

Feeling uncomfortable? Things not turning out the way you had planned? Are you stuck between a rock and a hard place?

When the going gets tough, it’s easy to turn and run and proclaim from the rooftops that you’re a victim of ________________ (fill in the blank).

On the other hand, you could consider the idea of choosing to change. You might reply to such a suggestion with something like, “Of course I would like things to change! Yes, let’s change this thing!”

More likely than not, you are not able to change that thing which is troubling you at the time, but you could choose to change something, right now, in this moment, that could change your life forever.

In fact, it’s the only thing you can do which delivers immediate, measurable, impactful results in a heartbeat. Know what it is?

You Can Change You

This is no wimpy, namby-pamby, rinky-dink, woos-out, whiny, “Well, if I can’t do anything else, I guess I’ll just try to look for the Brightside,” BS. No, this is the strength and the power that is your birthright to have dominion over any obstacle or challenge you might face.

It is your Ctrl-Alt-Delete Trump Card, which you can wield like dropping an EMP (Electromagnetic Pulse) bomb, and Wham! Out go the lights.

In that moment, the whole world changes, from the inside out. You’re no longer the victim. You are in charge of your world, and let the world take notice; for you are a formidable, unlimited, sole-battalion of power with hair-trigger laser accuracy.

“Don’t even think of screwing with me.”

Because you are unscrewable.

It is only possible if you choose to take charge. If you choose to take responsibility and control and change, making the adjustments necessary, you become invincible.

Sound frightening?

Hell, yeah; it means saying, “goodbye,” to the weak-kneed sheep being led around by media and society, like a mindless victim in a zombie-like state, accepting life as its doled out to you, just like you (and everyone you know) were robotically programmed to respond.

Yes!
This is the juncture in your life, where you say,

“I’m not taking your shit anymore!”

“I wield the most powerful force in my universe!”

The times are a changing, and you’re becoming a part of that change if you choose to.

To be a part of the change, you must become the fully-empowered changing-weapon, always looking inward first to change and charge your weapon for deployment.

Don’t be fooled by the sinister sleight-of-hand move or others who will try to keep you small, your power minimized, by thinking you need someone else to help you do this. If you want to do this thing, you have to do it on your own.

This is not a follow-the-leader approach to making yourself feel better. No, that’s the false flag of the enemy, meant to distract you, while secretly maintaining control of you.

No, it’s time to break-free and embrace the powerful you that you were born to be.

Sure, you can take hints from others who may have forged their own way, but you must not follow their footsteps (although you could momentarily) but your real power lies within you waiting to be released by you and you alone.

Are you ready to choose to change and launch your highest and best you?

Love and Marriage

Love is something that we all seek in many forms. Even if you thought that you didn’t want love, if you look at any desire you have for a person, place, thing, or ideal, chances are, beneath it all is love, the longing to love or be loved.

Love permeates all things and as elusive as it might appear, it is always there for you in unlimited volume and scope. Love is so pervasive it is hard to comprehend. Yet, we attempt to define it and put it in our cozy little boxes, but it is for more than you could ever conceive of.

Primal attempts to define love were based on feelings. If two people cared for each other more than they did other people, this was the definition of love.

The love between two people led to a pledging of love one for the other before family and friends. This couple was considered to be married.

The concept of marriage was promptly adopted and promoted by the church, and now we have the sacred bond of marriage.

Before science was a highly thought of concept, people were more likely to believe in magic and to them love appeared to be a magical spell that would overcome an otherwise mostly rational person, turning them into someone who might sacrifice all for the love of another. A cherub with a bow and arrow was blamed for the spell, his name was Cupid.

Courtship is the idea that represents a person who becomes enamored of another then exercises a series of socially accepted rituals to profess one’s affection for the other person in the hope of winning his or her heart.

Love is also considered a passionate sexual bond that exists between two people.

Upon this foundation, we have built revised concepts of love, such as the proliferation of the idea of the sacredness of marriage and its move from religious control to the government (which was a highly profitable move, indeed), though there is a waning of the acceptance of the marriage ideal in the current generation.

Prior to governmental control and profiteering of marriage, divorce was rarely an option. Since the introduction of legally sanctioned divorce and annulment, marriage has become an incredible financial resource for the powers that be.

Modern technology has greatly affected the courtship rituals as it has expanded with the use of mobile devices and social networking. Nonetheless, even though it has changed to adapt to the times, the courtship rituals have survived throughout the ages.