How to Talk About Love and Money

The key to the successful love relationship is to be able to get ahold of yourself, open the line of communication and how to talk about love and money.

In the romantic relationship, the issue of money matters is the number one reason for the relational breakdown and the decline of the love relationship, leading to a breakup, broken hearts, wounded people, dejection, and divorce.

Opposing points of view do not necessarily indicate an impasse.

When something presents itself to the relationship which is connected to the money issue, seek to be empathetic, to put yourself in your partner’s shoes, to understand, feel, or imagine what it might look like from his or her perspective, while compassionately expressing your point of view.

Even though how you feel about money is a closely guarded emotionally charged core value, do not be afraid to get to know what it is, in detail, and be willing to communicate and express the intimate details about how you feel about money to your partner in a safe environment. And don’t wait for a money crisis to do so. It may be too late at that point to have avoided a potential irreconcilable difference.

When reviewing your own money style, ask yourself if this way of thinking really serves you? Does it serve the relationship? Does it usher in the opportunity for abundance or a better life? Is your style of dealing with money restrictive or expansive?

Only you can determine what is the perfect way to feel about or deal with issues surrounding money. It will take some effort, work, digging deep within yourself, while learning about your partner’s money issues, too, and you can do this.

Once you have a handle on the issue, seek a way that you both can emerge from this as winners. For instance, if one of the partners wants to go on a vacation and the other wants to save money, keep talking. Even though it appears that these are on opposite ends of the spectrum, you can look for ways that you can take a vacation and save money at the same time: Win/win.

Don’t think of win/win as a compromise because it is not. It’s learning and growing through a potential challenge and emerging in a more elevated conclusion advancing your union further, while coming closer together.

Realizing and understanding that both parties bring to the relationship money values to which they are deeply connected. These are deep emotional connections which have developed over a lifetime, and truth be known, is more connected to familial influence or survival instincts, and may be rooted in a sense of lack.

The loving relationship can assist in the emergence of a truly independent and more advanced evolutionary approach to dealing with money issues which is a higher and more integrous concept of money and how to deal with it. Thanks to the relationship, if you can push through money issues and not walk (or run) away, you can develop your own independent money values, free from the past, while retaining the good stuff.

If you think about it, you can probably see the connection between how you feel about money and how your parents dealt with money issues, and depending on the age of your parents, when you were growing up and establishing your own money type, this probably had a huge influence on whether you became primarily a saver, or a spender.

It’s often a healthy idea for a couple to have three bank accounts, one for each partner, and a joint account representing the majority (say, 90%) of the joint income. This allows for each partner to maintain a degree of financial independence and freedom to exercise their own needs and desires without having to explain themselves every time they make an expenditure.

Remember, that when dealing with financial issues in a relationship, there really is no right or wrong way to approach money, just different ways, and they’re all okay. Don’t be too quick to judge your partner’s money type just because it varies from yours. It can often be helpful and advantageous for two different money types to be in a relationship together, bringing balance and harmony to the overall financial outlook of the couple.

Every couple is different, and their money solutions will vary. You have to figure out what works best for you and your relationship while expanding love and not letting it deteriorate.

It’s really all about trust. Trusting each other and yourselves.

Did You Make Your Bed Today?

I’m not much of a bed-maker if no one’s looking. I figure, “What’s the point if no one’s there to appreciate the fruits of my labor?” Especially, if you’re like me, in between relationships, you might think that few minutes might be better spent doing something else in your preparation for the day ahead.

Sure, if there’s someone you’re sharing the bed with, or if you are having company and don’t want to be embarrassed by having an unmade bed, which might be perceived as an indication that you might not be as diligent as you’d like to be thought of, you might be more inclined to make the bed.

But when no one’s around and there isn’t anybody to see if you’ve made the bed, or not, what do you do?

Inspired by Arielle Ford (author of the wildly acclaimed, The Soulmate Secret), I began making my bed in the absence of a witness as an affirmation to the universe, that I was ready and willing to welcome the woman whom I would live out the rest of my dreams and days with.

I haven’t had anyone to keep track of my bed-making skills for years, still, I make my bed every day. I’ve since expanded my morning ritual to include my intention to do this thing with integrity as a bold statement of my intentions for the remainder of the day ahead, and my willingness to the right thing no matter what the day may bring.

“Integrity is doing the right thing, even when no one is watching.”

When you make your bed in the morning you send a powerful message to the universe expressing your explicit intention,

“I am starting this day with the intention to live a better life, to be open to all the good things that life has in store for me. I avail myself to in even in the smallest of ways to make the world a better place, and it starts right here. Right now, with my declaration in the action of making my bed, I affirm I am ready to do my part to change the world.”

A simple ritual, a prayer of intention, dignified by the inspired action of making your bed.

It is not uncommon for me to ask a perspective or new client about their daily bed-making routine. Why? Because it is a potential indicator of a person’s willingness to do the work necessary to influence their desired outcomes in life.

I agree with Admiral William H. McRaven’s 2014 commencement encouragement,

“If you want to change the world
start off by making your bed.”

 

If you’re making your bed every day, you’re in good company. A 2017 survey of the most successful, powerful, and wealthy people in America today reveals these people share a common trait: They start their days by making their beds.

Plus, after a long day of you putting forth your best efforts, effectively facing anything that may have attempted to slow your roll or interrupt your flow, when all is said and done, a nicely-made bed awaits you.

It is an unexpected joy that you might take for granted after a while, but if you’re like me, there are those days when you are pleasantly delighted after a busy day to be invited to enter the gates of the sweetest of dreams by a nicely made bed, even if you’re the only one who will appreciate it.

You’ve started and ended your day with a positive vibration and the best intentions to make the world a better place.

And the universe responds in kind. All this for making your bed in the morning.

If you want to make a difference, make your bed.

Did you make your bed today?

Feeling Old? Best Time to Get Started

A growing segment in the people that I am working with these days are the folks which many of you would refer to as the elderly, while every year, these people are looking more and more like my peeps, my classmates, and cronies. Many of them are inspiring me to no end and may have no idea they are mentoring me into increased longevity and quality of life.

The trend that I am seeing (I am unaware of the national statistics on this) is that more older adults are tapping into their inner beings, uncovering their gifts, talents, and special abilities as they embrace their purpose, message, passion, and mission (and here’s the most interesting part) they are monetizing it, as they fulfill their life’s work.

Whoa, that’s why I say, “It’s never too late.” Like many other older people who grabbed their brass rings in their golden years, nothing could stand between them and their desire to live a better life. These people don’t just slip away into retirement. They will never retire. They will continue benevolently giving and extracting the best this life has to offer until they’ve breathed their last breath. And if you ask them, many will insist that their work will survive long after they’ve left.

The Internet is providing for these people an incredible ability to grow their ideas exponentially at unimaginable speed, allowing them to quickly disseminate their message, and self-monetize their own ministries or businesses, with little or no start-up cash. This is leveling the playing field, allowing normal people, like you and me, to enter the global marketplace. Never before have the opportunities been so vast, with such a low cost of entry.

Many are excited about being able to create a legacy, to leave something behind for their children, finance college educations, brighter futures for future generations, and make a contribution to the community of the world. Something that seemed unreachable or impossible only a few years ago is now within their grasp.

While other seniors are relaxing, riding around in golf carts, going on group tours, and watching television programs, these older superheroes are saddling up to do the greatest work of their lives. They’re starting businesses, organizations, movements, and supplementing their income, continuing to expand and improve their lives along the way.

Having a life full of wisdom and experience to draw upon, gives these people an edge over privileged youngsters who are the inheritors of prosperity and opportunity, and in many cases, this new trend is closing the gap between youth and the aged, as we are seeing the world begin to change. It’s starting to look a little more like the days of yore when youth respected and revered the wisdom of their elders.

I look up to and admire these senior citizens who aren’t sliding away into retirement and basically waiting for the end to come. No, these folks are playing out their years full on, and guess what? They report having better health, wellness, and happiness, as well as the increased financial support from their efforts. They have a powerful reason to get up every morning, seize the day, and feel good about their contributions.

They have not ceased to learn how to embrace these emerging technologies, they are uncovering their skills and honing them every day. They are the late-blooming Jedi Masters. And they’re doing a great deal of this from the comfort of their homes with very little overhead; it’s absolutely amazing.

I am also impressed at how these advanced parents are able to invite their families to participate in their enterprises. In an age when families are highly dysfunctional and disintegrating rapidly, a family business can help reunite and cement the family relationship, which may have been passé not long ago.

Stronger seniors, stronger families, stronger youth, with greater independence, opportunity, prosperity, and fulfillment.

If you’re younger, it might be time to have a talk with your parents, or grandparents, about what they might like to do with their lives. May you can help empower them to get from where they are to where they’d like to be and see their dreams come true.

If you’re steadily advancing in age, maybe now is the time to take action and start this new, most exciting, chapter of your life.

It’s never too late.

And for those of you who are doing it, and giving it all you’ve got: Thank you.

You are my heroes, my inspiration.

I love you guys.

Barbarians in Love

Just like when you dip a strawberrian into chocolate and it alters the experience of the strawberrian from its original format, so do barbarians change when they are dipped in pure love. Once a barbarian is dipped in pure love they are changed forever, never the same. This is the evolution of barbarians in love.

I was born a barbarian into a barbarian world; a world full of hate, and the struggle to imprison its inhabitants in various levels of restraint in prisons without walls, as one might think of them.

Like a good barbarian, my instincts were to feel bad when I didn’t get what I wanted and desire to smash anything I didn’t agree with. I was brainwashed and trained isolate myself from others who did not think like me, to believe things that were not true, and in some cases, would fight to defend the falsehoods, even to the death, if necessary.

Then, one day I awakened from the fog and I began to look at the world from a different perspective. From this vantage point, I could see (though not clearly, yet) the prison planet and the machine that ran it. It was hard to believe, as such thoughts are only the meat of science fiction or the rantings of madmen, or so I was led to believe.

The prison planet is so vast, well-conceived and the construct executed with such a high degree of intensity and precision, that the barbarian prisoners have no idea that they are prisoners at all. Even though they are provided a clue, if only they could see that the prisons of the barbarians are microcosms of the prisons which they themselves are held captive by. Only their prison is not constructed of concrete and steel.

Our prisons are constructed externally by borders, but more importantly, the most powerful weapon of restraint used by our jailers is our own minds, which are socially-programmed from birth.

There is a way out of the barbarian prison, and its simple enough. All you have to do is to open the door and walk out, if only you had the key. You might be lucky enough to spy an open door and see it as an opportunity to escape. So, you raise enough courage to make a break for it.

On your way out the door, you are attacked by prison guards who you never noticed before. They wrestle you to the ground and restrain you, and drag you back into the barbarian prison, where they feel safe, and call it, “home.” They’ve been so acclimated to the prison life that they cannot conceive of living life any other way.

You can leave the prison, but you must have the key, and you must do it alone. Once outside the barbarian prison walls, you will find others who have made it outside as well. Kind of a ragtag bunch but growing in numbers.

Love is the Key

Barbarians in love can walk right out. Bathed in pure love, and allowed to evolve, changes the barbarian matrix altogether, you can unlock the door at will, and exit the prison, and once you do, things will never be the same. Oh, sure, you could return to the prison and turn yourself back over to the authorities. Some people even slip in and out of the prison undetected.

Then, there are those who are finding their own ways to survive and thrive outside the prison walls, and their numbers are growing.

Regardless of what you believe the state of the world is today, one day you (or future generations) will look back on this present day, knowing this was our barbaric age of human history.

When the population outside the prison reaches critical mass, there will be no more need for the barbarian prison at all, and it, and all the people, the system, and the machine will fall and crumble to the ground.

This is the new evolution of the human spirit which is breaking free from the prison and making its way to a better, love-filled world of peace, liberty, and prosperity, the likes of which cannot be imagined within the prison walls, except for the fanciful daydreamers, science fiction writers, and madmen.

Welcome to the other side.

You are the evolution.

How’s This Year Gone for You?

You are heading into the final lap of the year, and if you’re like me, you take some time out to reflect the progress you’ve made over the last year.

How is this year different or better than last year?

What have you done to make adjustments, to be a better person, to live a better life, and potentially make the world a better place?

Have you achieved your highest and best and been true to fulfilling your purpose? Did you share your message, embrace your passion, and perform your mission in life?

If you desire to have a highly productive and successful life, you have the best of intentions, but the intention is not enough to make the significant changes you desire to make in your relationships, your career, your health and financial well-being, or to live your best life.

You need to take action.

What good are your dreams or desires if you are not moving closer to them?

Your dreams are valid. So valid, in fact, that in the moment you dreamt or visualized the life you want, it was manifested and made so. That vision is just as real as you and I are, you only have to move from where you are to where the life you dream of waits for you… and it’s a lot closer than you might think.

You know where you are, and you know where you want to be. All you have to do is to move closer to what you want a little bit each day. At the very least, every year you could be 365 steps closer to where you want to be. Now, that might not be enough to get you from here to there, depending on the average size of those steps. Not to worry. Even if they were the smallest of baby steps, after a year, you can look back and clearly see the cumulative effect of each step.

You are closer to having everything that you’ve ever wanted than you were last year.

In my life, I am blessed to be working with people who are proactively making major steps to achieving their highest and best, living their best lives, and making the world a better place. This is my mission.

Whether my ministry is labeled coaching, consulting, or counseling, being in the room with someone when they have a breakthrough or epiphany is the icing on the cake of the work I do. For me, or anyone in my line of work, this is the blessing; it’s what makes it all worth it.

Why might you seek out someone like me to join you on your journey to a better life?

Because by this time next year, you want to look back and see the massive change, maybe have many breakthroughs and epiphanies yourself.

If you want more control over your life, to map out, plan, and execute strategies to achieve your goals, whatever they may be, you will be far ahead of the game if you have a coach, not unlike an Olympic athlete, acting as your accountability partner.

Other benefits include better management of your resources, discovering and exercising your unique gifts, skills, talents and special abilities, thereby maximizing your potential.

Improving your relationships, increasing your social value in the community, seizing opportunities, and making the best decisions along the way. Living your life with less stress, better health, more happiness, excitement, and satisfaction from achieving your highest and best.

You can do this on your own, or you can do it better with third-party support.

Don’t be looking back next year thinking that you might have made better progress if you had a little support, felt better about yourself, had more energy, more time, more money, better friends, or had been born into a more successful family.

Life can be overwhelming, full of things that could distract you, potentially get in the way, or throw you completely off-track, derailing your best efforts to make better progress.

Sometimes it looks like life has the deck stacked against you, maybe it feels like success is not even within your grasp and you’re feeling like you just cannot see light at the end of what appears to be an endless dark tunnel separating you from what you want.

Don’t believe the lies.

You are closer to what you want than you might think.

Give the Free Gift of Love This Holiday Season

This holiday season, how would you like to give a free gift to help make the world a better place? It won’t cost you anything but a few heart-felt moments of your time, while you take a break from all the hustle and bustle of the holidays. Join us, this year, in sending love to the world.

For most of us, this time of year is a joyous celebration with family and friends. Our hearts are filled with love and optimism for the coming year. For others, it can be the worst time of year. We’re unable to see it because the hectic pace of increased activity this time of year keeps us distracted from those suffering, in pain all around us.

While we are concentrating our efforts to deal with all the issues of holiday preparations and celebrations, others are alone, feeling as though there is no love for them in the world, and are even taking their own lives. The holiday season is known for increased rates of suicide. Lonely, sad, people without love are killing themselves because they think the endless sleep is the only way to stop the emotional pain.

You can help. You can join us for a few moments periodically throughout the season this year, or at least during Christmas Eve, Christmas Day, and a few moments during the New Years celebration, to send love to the world. These days represent the highest suicide rates. When most of us are feeling our best, others are feeling their worst.

What does it take to send love to the world?

Simply spend a minimum of three minutes to send love to the world in any manner which resonates with you. You can pray, mindfully meditate, light a candle, or use any other method to focus your intention on sending love energy to those who desperately need a little love at this critical time of year. Not just those suffering, or potentially suicidal, but everyone who might need a little love, even your family and friends.

If you need a little help in sending love to the world, feel free to join us by using this

Sending Love to the World Guided Meditation

This is a free gift from you to the world, a world so in need of love in these troubling times, and as you freely give this precious gift of free love, you are blessed in return for your benevolence.

Rewards for Sending Love to the World

You receive the benefits of flowing love through you, sending love from your heart to others, and the world. Just a few minutes of sending love to the world increases the love energy throughout your entire body, affecting the molecules of your body. Your immune system is boosted for eight hours, and many people report physiological healing from the process, as well as a sense of peace and wellbeing for six hours.

This is an invigorating, energizing, love-filling exercise which can certainly take the edge off of any holiday frustration, or when your energy reserves are running low.

But what if I’m not really feeling the love, or don’t have much love to give?

This is the best time to send love to the world because as you flow love through you and to others and the world, you are filled with love, and you will experience feeling love’s increase for six hours.

So, if you’re not really feeling the love this holiday season, then by all means, sending love to the world is just what the doctor ordered. It’s the best thing you can do for yourself and the world that doesn’t cost you a dime.

Love. It’s the most powerful energy in the world, and it’s a free gift to the world,thanks to you.

God bless you for sending love to the world this year.

Are You a Being or a Bot In the Video Game of Life?

If we’re all living in one big video game, as Elon Musk believes, might it be helpful to know which people we interact with are “real?” (Real meaning that they are authentic beings hooked up to a machine, not unlike a virtual reality video game.) And might it be to your advantage to be able to identify those which are just computer-generated models or bots, which appear to be real, but are really “fake?” (Fake meaning there is no actual live being living the experience on the other side.)

Are You a Being or a Bot In the Video Game of Life?

The best players in the video game of life contend there are clues to whether a being with whom we interact in this virtual world (which seems very real) are connected beings or computer game simulations.

Characteristics of Real Beings

The characteristics of real beings living in this virtual reality world are different from those generated by the “system” which runs this massive simulated life experience. The people, like you and me, who are off-grid somewhere hooked up to the machinery for the experience share the following qualities:

They look out for others, possess a high degree of compassion, care more about their fellow man, and other participants in the game, such as animals, and the environment which shapes the world we live in. They want to contribute to making the game even better for other players.

In terms of influence, the real beings are less compelled to impress or seek approval from others. They’re fairly confident about who they are in this game and don’t need to be supported by others to have a sense of value for their lives. If their mission in life leads them to the stage, they do so in humility, if not reluctantly, and have no intrinsic need to be the center of attention.

Real players find comfort in quiet time, solitary moments, and relaxation to restore and recharge themselves and are humble because they really have nothing to prove.

If you’re real, you’re often found being that way. For instance, if you have a problem with someone, you can talk to that person face-to-face, express your concerns to see if you can work anything out, or make sense of something you don’t understand.

Integrity is important to the real players in the video game of life. They have a high sense of honor which has them wanting to be true to themselves and others. They will expend extra effort to keep their promises and to do the right thing, regardless of how they feel, or unforeseen circumstances. They are dependable and keep their word.

You will find real live life game players uplifting and acknowledge others for a job well done, or an enthusiastic effort, even if someone has fallen short of their intended mark. We understand everyone’s just doing the best they can (including ourselves), and applaud those why try their best.

The motivation for real beings is grounded in the greater good, so they often can be found helping and supporting others in the game of life. They desire to see and help as many other players as possible have the most success, joy, love, and living out the best game for them in this life, even if they get nothing in return for their support.

Characteristics of Game-Generated Bots

The computer/game-generated bots with whom we share the video game of life are just as real as we are, though they do not have a person connected to them, like us. They can be identified by the following characteristics:

They see themselves as being better than others (especially players hooked to the machine, like us). They lack respect for the players but tend to align themselves with sources of power to influence their standing within the game. Therefore, if you are in an influential position within the game, while you wield this power, they will feign support, alignment, friendship, love, and acceptance, to draw upon (and possibly drain) your power to improve their position in the game.

Bots are always looking for acceptance of others, seeking to validate their existence. They can be found exerting a great deal of effort to be accepted by others, and have no qualms about lying or being dishonest in their attempts to create value in their lives, essentially by “fooling” others (and themselves) into believing they are real.

Bots are anxious, unsettled, and are constantly on the lookout for ways to advance their position in the game, desirous to be in the spotlight. They will seek entertainment, excitement, and finding new ways to have access to others to extract life force and gain points in the game. In a meeting, if they are not in front of the room, or on stage, they will seek to get as close as possible or exert their superiority or excellence in some way. They find it difficult to relax but will pretend to relax with someone else, if they think it will potentially increase their position in the game.

Contrasting the humility of real players, bots find it necessary to brag and boast about their experiences, performance, achievements, possessions, or position. They believe this will attract “followers” in order to increase their value or influence.

Bots have no inclination to keep it real (because it’s not) and they have no problem talking behind others’ backs and spreading unsubstantiated rumors. Plus, they think the putting down of others, gives themselves an even greater sense of superiority.

The bots in the game of life are likely to tell you whatever you want to hear and make promises they never intend to keep. It’s hard to trust a bot due to their track record of not following through while possessing a litany of likely (or unlikely) excuses for not keeping their end of the bargain.

Bots could care less about what you’re doing but may look at recognizing or rewarding your efforts for a job well done as a way to manipulate you or persuade you to follow him or her. They are also prone to criticism or putting someone down for not doing better, especially if it makes them look or feel superior.

When a bot does something good, he or she has to announce it to the world. Since they are only motivated to advancing their position in the game, they will only do something to help someone else in the game, if it will add power or influence to their overall strategy and accumulate points. Otherwise, you’re on your own.

Successful Love Relationship

While there is a high degree of focus on chemistry and compatibility in relationships these days, the work I do with couples seems to support the idea that the most unlikely matched couples can count their relationships among the most successful and long-standing, deepest loves by integrating basic characteristics into the existing relationship. This hugely supports the Love is a Choice concept.

First of all, if you’re going to have a successful relationship, you must be willing to set aside your “what’s in it for me” mentality. Your relationship needs to be based on mutual respect, support, compassion, and a sincere desire to grow and evolve yourself as you love your partner and augment your partner’s work to achieve his or her highest and best. If this level of love and support is reciprocal, your love will grow immensely in concert with one another, and you both will be able to share the best things this life has to offer together.

Your relationship moves from a me-based to a we-based foundation.

In a we-based relationship, you give more of what you desire to get what you want. It’s more about the giving, and the receiving is a natural result of your selfless benevolence and generosity.

When you first notice incongruency in your relationship, recognizing that something is making you feel bad about your partner, first look within yourself. Ask yourself, “What could this have to do with me?” If you can think objectively, searching deep within, you may discover what you are feeling is in reaction to something unresolved within you, or alternatively, you are more the source of your discontent than your partner by trying to impose unnecessary judgment of restrictions based on life experiences from your past.

In this respect, in a real relationship, your partner is a mirror, reflecting yourself back to you, enabling you to see glimpses of the deep work that might be part of your personal growth and evolution waiting to be unveiled and dealt with. This should be your first thought when sensing discord because, in an enlightened relationship, your partner would never seek to make you feel bad. His or her desire is only to completely love and support you.

Growth necessitates change, so don’t be surprised when you look back at the beginnings of your relationship and think about how your partner is not the same person you started this journey with. One would hope not. The changes brought about by your continued growth and change within the relationship should be cause for celebration, with the hope or expectation that tomorrow and the days and years that follow will lead to even more growth and change increasing life energy and mutual expansion.

Without growth and change, a relationship goes stagnant and is unsustainable.

Living in the now is an important key component in the most successful relationships. As in all areas of life, there will be ups and downs, mistakes will be made, challenges will arise, and unexpected circumstances will visit the relationship. As quickly as possible, retaining the wisdom from the experience, abandoning the past, and living in the present moment, is a huge factor in the most successful relationships. And for God’s sake, do not hold a grudge against your partner. Repressed dissention and/or guilt will drain the energy from your love. Left to spread, like a cancer, will lead to love’s death.

Like love, happiness is also a choice. Make opportunities to include joyous time that you spend together as a couple. Don’t resign yourself to being so serious that you do not allow time for fun. Find ways to incorporate laughter and joy into your relationship to help raise your love vibration.

When facing opposition, remember there is no right or wrong, as, in all things in life, there is balance. Your partner is entitled to his or her opinion, and remember that nothing in this relationship is written in stone. Something that is said, felt, or believed today is always subject to new information, seeing something from a different perspective, and/or personal growth. So, let it be and agree to disagree for the moment. Don’t let the differences come between you, rather celebrate your differences in the now, and wait to see what is birthed from the process.

If whatever you focus your attention on grows (and it does) then look for the good things in your relationship and focus your attention on these things. How can you celebrate all your partner brings to the relationship? Look for opportunities to express your affection, appreciation, and gratitude to your partner and remember to make time to communicate these things intimately to your partner one-on-one.

Be open and honest with your partner and be courageous enough to express your needs and concerns along the way in a safe and sane way, while allowing your partner the same sacred space for healthy communication along the way. Every couple will encounter rough spots, and when you do, do not let them come between you. Use them for constructive, creative forms of expression, and don’t take it personally if your partner needs to blow off some steam. Be prepared for it, allow it to happen, then after things calm down, revisit it and see if together you both can make some sense of it.

Love represents the most powerful energy in the universe. It is always there, waiting for you to access it and apply it, first to yourself, your relationships, then the world.

You have a very exciting love-filled joyous life ahead.

Kill Them All

When a megalomaniac doesn’t like the idea of other groups of people possessing opposing views, he or she might insist the dissidents be silenced with little regard to innocent casualties. “Kill them all!” was a swift and effective command of the Catholic Church during the Crusades for cleansing a geographic area of heretics. Trying to ascertain who might be Catholic or not in a targeted area was simply too time consuming and inefficient, so when the Pope was questioned about whether fellow Catholics might be killed in the attacks, he added, some form of, “God knows who are his,” to the command to kill them all.

Later, the phrase and similar basic idea was adopted by United States military special forces as, “Kill them all and let God sort them out.”

Similarly, the royal charge to silence dissidence, “Off with his head,” represents the most effective way to silence someone who is resistant to compliance, especially if the dissident has anything to say about it. This phrase was adopted by popular culture and is demanded by the Queen of Hearts in Carrol’s Alice in Wonderland.

Ever since Cain and Abel, when the human ego feels as though it has been slighted, disrespected, or has suffered an injustice, a swift killing is the most effective method of making things right.

Instantaneous death is admittedly the most effective way to silence someone who doesn’t think or believe like you do.

Your ego (my ego, all of our egos) wants others to think, believe, and feel the way it does, and the unrestrained ego expects and demands compliance. In fact, the unrestricted ego believes sudden death is suitable punishment for anyone (or anything) that gets in its way.

How early in life does this appear in life? Hang out and listen to an active playfield in at any grade school in the USA and you will hear at least one child whose ego has been the victim of an assault utter, “I will kill you,” or alternatively, “I hope you die,” or wishing sudden death visits one or more of his/her classmate(s).

While this may appear to be barbarian and you might like to think that we are too civilized these days to adopt such philosophies, assuming we are far more likely to suggest something more civil, like, “Lock him up and throw away the key,” because that is a far more enlightened response than suggesting someone lop his head off.

Yet, all the assertions of, “I am right,” and, “You are wrong,” and holding onto the expectation that anyone could truly align with someone else’s way of thinking is simply too far from logic to be conceived of. To kill, imprison, brainwash, or otherwise punish someone into compliance is not sustainable.

For instance, we, as a society, are imprisoning Americans at an increasing rate every year. In fact, if things don’t change and we keep incarcerating people at current increasing rates, in the next forty years, you will either be in prison or working for a prison. Unsustainable.

The courts maintain (much like the Pope during the Crusades) spending too much time, money, and effort to sort out the details is far more ineffective than making more rules and erring on the side of punishing innocents. In effect, “Jailing them all,” and let God figure it out.

This more civilized method of keeping our streets clean, and removing the free-thinking, non-compliant, poor, mentally-challenged, or undesirables from society seems to be a solution we all can live with. Or can we?

As the current human evolution continues, the more evolved or enlightened individuals realize that punishing people for not thinking the way we do is not the answer.

What is the answer?

Be True to Yourself

When you’re getting an idea of who you are, not the you you’ve been programmed to accept but the you that came to this planet with a clear purpose, message, passion, and mission, you are in the process of defining your unique and individual self and you want to be true to yourself, the you that you are becoming.

You are knowing your truth (which may change periodically as you continue to grow and expand in your own personal evolution), have a desire to achieve your highest and best, want to live a better life, your best life, make the world a better place, and have a strong compulsion to be true to yourself.

“To thine own self be true”
~ Wm Shakespeare

While being true to yourself seems simple enough on the surface, beneath and deep within yourself this sense of congruence can look like so many things depending on where you are on your personal journey.

You know you’re being true to yourself when you’re feeling good about who you are. You really like the you that you are becoming and are starting to love yourself for who you are.

That voice inside your head which badgered you with different forms of negative self-talk is fading away into the dark void as your self-confidence rises to match the acceptance of your divine mission.

Understanding that communication is the key to delivering your own unique message, you are finding new and better ways to express yourself and speak your truth without offending the people you are trying to effectively communicate with.

You’re not having to maintain different personalities for different work, social, friend and family situations. You can represent your self as yourself without having to compromise, impress anyone, or care about what anyone else thinks, and you’re feeling good about it.

You are living a more centered and congruent life and are able to manage life’s situations, circumstances, and unforeseen obstacles which may arise, without the panic or sense of helplessness that you may have once felt in the past.

There is a simple ease for finding places of peace and joy in all things, decision-making comes without confusion or conflict, and you are more able to exercise your daily feats with accuracy, a high level of precision and performance.

All this is true for you when you are being true to yourself.

To be true to yourself you can give up the activities which no longer serve your new, more expanded self.

You no longer feel the need to kowtow to others, so you don’t need to play games anymore. You don’t need to manipulate, fear someone might be trying to manipulate you, or even feel like having to laugh falsely regarding an off-color joke or remark which conflicts with your alignment.

Remember when you felt a sense of guilt or compulsory obligation to agree with someone, or compliment someone who really didn’t deserve it out of fear of not being liked, loved, or regarded as a nice person? You don’t do that anymore.

Misrepresenting or compromising your authentic self is no longer an option, and now, the idea of it seems not only incongruent, but feels like hypocrisy, or lying. In fact, you’re realizing, you can be totally honest, never needing to lie again, not even to spare someone’s feelings, because now you are finding ways to agree to disagree without lying or compromising, without dishonoring someone else’s right to maintain their own opinion, even if it contrasts your own.

Your openness and honesty empower you to be who you are, in all your strength and in your weakness, without having to make apologies if you’re experiencing a moment when you’re not on your game 100 percent. You’re allowed to have a bad day, or a less than peak moment, without having to apologize to yourself or anyone else.

Militaristically forcing yourself to do the things that you need to do to get to where you want to be in a devil-may-care, take no prisoners-type attitude no longer serves you. You are finding new, more positive, ways to find the motivation to do the things that serve you on the way to achieving your highest and best.

You don’t have to compromise your integrity anymore, not when you can be true to yourself.