Wrapping up the month of May, here’s a quick screenshot review of the month’s news. Let me know which ones you like the most. Thanks for your input, -David M Masters
Wrapping up the month of May, here’s a quick screenshot review of the month’s news. Let me know which ones you like the most. Thanks for your input, -David M Masters
|Social Prison of the Mind||The Difference Between Support and Advice||Unintentionally Hurt Someone|
|Do You Have a Closed Mind or an Open Mind?||Surviving Abuse in Grace||Grief and Grieving|
|Domination||Oxytocin Awakening Love||Invisible Ties that Bind|
|The Man Who Didn’t Believe in Love||I Am Evil and Hatred||I need your help. What should I do?|
|You Never Do Love Wrong||My Partner’s Ex Keeps Coming Up||Infectious Toxicity in Relationships|
|Make Someone Love You||Red Flag Obsession||Accepting Responsibility and Change|
|Who Are You Under Pressure?||You can’t expect someone else’s love to make you feel loved||Who Do You Look Up To?|
|The Scorpion and the Frog||Grandparenting||It’s Your Fault Mom and Dad|
|Dare to Be You||Should You Be in Prison?||A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson|
|Thank You for Loving||Outside the Box|
If you know someone who is comfortable inside the box dictated by our socially engineered lives, after you have spent some time in exploration outside the box, sharing your ideas, feelings, and data obtained outside with someone inside, this conversation can be difficult at best.
Society imprisons us by structural cages of thought which are more effective high levels of containment than any bars of any cell in any prison. When you put a prisoner behind bars, he or she longs for the life which exists on the other side of the bars.
How more effective would it be if you could make the prisoner believe that life on the other side of the bars would cause him or her to burst into flames and experience painful longsuffering death. If you could do this, then managing prisoners could be very easy. If effectively administered, with this level of fear, you would not even need bars at all.
You could paint a line on the floor and condition a prisoner to believe that crossing the line will cause him to burst into painful flame. Just in case the prison thinks there is the potential of a greater life on the other side of the line, all you have to do is to show him a dancing flame with a soundbite of agonized screaming, and the fear is reignited. The prisoner rejects the thought of life on the other side of the line.
After a while, you can even eliminate the line as a boundary, because the prisoner knows anything “over there” is flaming pain and death.
While this may sound ridiculous on the surface, this is the life that peoples of the world live in the prisons of their minds every minute of every day.
Social engineering constructs the invisible cells of our minds which are the highest level of containment, reinforced by fear. To keep you from thinking outside the cell or box, the boundaries of the perimeters are shown a dancing and screaming flame on the television, or via some other media, to keep us afraid of thinking outside the box.
There are so many sequential layers of the fear. Fear of not being accepted or loved. Fear of not being clothed, fed, or a roof over your head. Fear of pain or being punished. Fear of being prevented from having the experiences you desire.
Speaking of desire, even what you want can be dictated by the social engineers. How impressive is that?
There are socially-engineered acceptable methods of getting what you want. Any method of attaining those things which you desire outside the commonly held view of what is acceptable is confusing or rejected by those who safely reside inside the social prison.
Some methods will be punished by law, and others are disregarded as freak accidents, such as being hit by lightning or winning the lottery.
Acceptable methods would include, going to school, followed by secondary education, working very hard in a professional trade for which you have paid to be trained, and keeping one’s self focused on the things you desire, in a high level of debt, while maintaining a reasonable credit score.
This is the society of consumers which has been socially engineered.
Managing a consumer’s indebtedness can be a difficult balancing act, so there has been a mechanism initiated by the engineers whereby if a consumer has gotten out of control, every once and a while, an indebted consumer can start the cycle over again by filing bankruptcy, because having a hoard of active consumers is far more critical to the operation of the social machine than actually paying one’s debts.
Yet, every now and then, someone gets a glimpse of life outside the box.
Even though it is frightening, more and more of us, are questioning the socially-engineered prisons of our minds and daring to explore life outside the box.
When you’re feeling challenged in life, it’s good to talk to someone to get support and advice but keep your wits about you. While Proverbs asserts there is wisdom and success the counsel of many it’s important to know the difference between support and advice.
It’s not good for you, or anyone, to keep your thoughts and emotions bottled up inside where emotional wounds can fester, get infected and spread their destructive poison.
When you’re talking to friends, especially those who are good at being supportive and/or empathetic, you might mistake the good support of a friend for advice. Try to remember there may be a dramatic difference between support and advice.
Support validates your feelings, friends who empathize with you understand and can even feel your feelings about the subject at hand. They support how you feel and agree with your point of view. If this is confused as advice, it can cement your position. This can lock you into a single perspective on a particular issue, and while you may feel better in the interim, this is probably not serving your highest and best.
The caveat regarding confusing support with advice is an important distinction because doing so can lead to dire results and is often the basis of enabling someone instead of healthfully or positively advising someone you care about.
Advice is best when the advisor challenges your point of view or position, encouraging you to take a look at your situation from different perspectives. Instead of blanketly agreeing with your, feeling sorry for you, making fun of your situation, or devaluing the other participants, situations, or circumstances, they challenge you.
Good advice comes from those who ask you to consider what it might like to be the other players in your situation or circumstance?
Or how might you have done it better?
Most of the time, when you’re feeling upset, all you need to do is to talk to someone, in an effort to get it off your chest, blow off steam, or let out some frustration. A good friend can help you to laugh at or find humor in even the most tragic circumstances. You’re not looking for advice. In fact, if all you’re doing is to look for someone to listen to you, attempt to understand, or support you, and if they hit you with a barrage of advice, this can be offensive.
It may be abrasive, may even feel like an assault, feeling as though someone is trying to tell you what to do, or control you, when they give advice, when all you were looking for was someone to talk to. Someone who could listen to what you have to say without judgment or advice.
Keep this in mind when someone wants to talk to you. Unless they specifically ask you for advice, they might just be coming for you to talk. And in these moments, the best thing you can do is to actively listen to what he or she is saying, to be supportive, and attempt to understand or feel what it might be walking in his or her shoes.
This is especially hard for me. Since most of the time, when people come to me, they are seeking advice, I just assume that’s why people talk to me, so I start to advise, even when I was never asked for advice. This presumptive position is erroneous on my part, and I need to work on trying to understand and know the difference between establishing if someone wants advice or just wants to talk it out.
Especially when someone is in crisis, its best to start with active listening and supporting only offering five words of your own, then following up later with more objective approaches.
The basic rule of thumb is, if someone is just sharing their story or feelings with you, and they have not asked for your advice, they just want someone to listen and be supportive. It seems like an over-simplification, but it’s true. And it might be harder than it sounds.
Especially if a friend is sharing a story which makes you feel sorry for, upset, or you are empathetically feeling your friend’s feelings and you want to help. You want to offer advice in an effort to alleviate your friend’s pain or angst. Resist doing so if they have not asked you for your help. Your help is best offered in the form of listening and supporting, not trying to advise.
When you are ready to seek advice, it’s good to collect input and data from a variety of sources representing different ideas and perspectives before deciding on a course of action, this is where there is wisdom and success for those who consult with a multitude of advisors.
No one can tell you what to do, all they can do is to share their ideas or feelings based on their experience(s) from their own perspective. Seeing any challenge or situations from many vantage points is beneficial for you, and there is indeed wisdom in doing so.
Sometimes things are said, decisions are made, actions are initiated that help you to create the sacred space you need to progress forward on your life’s mission. Life goes on, and periodically, we unintentionally hurt someone by our decisions or actions, and this is no fault of yours.
You’ve been true to yourself and said or done the things which were necessary for your survival or growth, and you never have to apologize for doing what is right for you in any moment because your responsibility is to care for yourself. If you do not look after yourself, who will?
And if you think about it, you’ve probably been hurt by someone else unintentionally.
When you become aware of how your decisions, words, or deeds have affected someone negatively your inner self can start to put you down or make you feel guilty. Guilt does not serve you, but if you can switch the mode from guilt (which is destructive) to remorse all you must do is to learn from this experience, forgive yourself, and move on.
To do so, realize that you are not broken, are not in need of fixing, and accept that sometimes shit happens. Don’t listen to or accept abuse from your inner voice, you are perfect in every way, even if you do make mistakes, or if someone is hurt unintentionally by anything you said or did.
You didn’t do anything wrong and you are not a bad person. There was no malice in your action because you are a being of love and wouldn’t do anything intentionally to hurt anyone. Even if someone else sees something that you’ve said, thought, or done as “bad” you are not bad, and that was clearly not your intention. Things happen, and it is what it is. That is all.
Seek to speak to someone empathetic to your plight. Their understanding and support can help to reduce the negative energetic impact of this particularly confusing state of mind. You might attract someone who can lend you a different perspective on the issue enabling you to see the situation from a different point of view. All valuable data to take away from this episode adding to your knowledge base and increased awareness. Something to keep in mind if you face a similar situation in the future.
Sometimes your personal network will give you the support you desire, and it never hurts to engage the efforts of a third-party counselor, consultant, or coach for a sound aerial perspective and objective view.
Remaining open-minded rather than closed-minded will allow you to look for clues to uncover the hidden treasure(s) in this seemingly unfortunate episode of your life, for within each conflict there is a valuable lesson to be learned if you are open.
If your seeking within to find rhyme or reason in an effort to make sense of all this comes up blank, think of you from your higher perspective watching the whole scenario from a higher vantage point. Then ask yourself for advice. What advice might you give yourself, or someone you cared deeply about, who might have found himself or herself in the very same situation?
If you still think you don’t know, how would you answer if you did know?
You must find the wherewithal to forgive yourself for unintentional casualties of your decisions. Unforgiveness and allowing yourself to suffer in guilt is self-abuse, destructive, and will cause your immune system to deteriorate rapidly.
Forgiving yourself allows you to go forward in love, more aware, achieving your highest and best, continuing on your path to a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.
God bless you. You are forgiven.
We all probably feel as though we are generally open-minded. Generally. Do you have a closed mind or an open mind?
Success in life generally finds itself in the company of the open-minded individuals while it is more elusive for those with closed minds. Knowing your propensity for having either a closed mind or open mind might give you insight into your level of struggle for survival or tendency to have life evolve more naturally.
For instance, if you are more likely to seek to be understood rather than the need to understand others, you’re probably less open-minded than you might think you are.
When encountering a person with a difference of opinion, are you more likely to try to understand why they feel the way they do? Or do you try to convince him or her that you’re more knowledgeable and have a greater sense of expertise about the subject at hand?
An open-minded person is more interested in hearing, understanding, and may be interested in trying to understand how it might feel for someone else to have a different perspective. While a closed-minded person will assert his or her beliefs.
When someone tries to tell a closed-minded person something they already possess some knowledge about, they are likely to cut them off mid-share with, “I already know that.” In contrast, if the open-minded person knows a lot about a subject, they are willing to ask questions and listen to information, even if it represents knowledge they already possess, with the chance that they may uncover a previously undiscovered nugget or idea to consider.
A closed-minded person will state facts and statistics, rather than ask exploratory questions, like an open-minded person.
Opinions and thinking are the inalienable rights of the closed-minded person, while open-minded people are more concerned about learning more about the opinions of others and how they feel about things.
An open-minded person is always interested in raising their knowledge or awareness, with a hint of the potential knowingness of the possibility of believing something that might be expanded upon or even be wrong. Truth evolves over time. That’s why they’re more apt to be so inquisitive, as opposed to being stuck in their ways.
Open-minded people can contemplate two opposing ideas for a period of time, filtering, balancing, and comparing them to each over for a while, instead of quickly adhering to a single thought, belief, or perspective without being open to new ideas or information.
A closed-minded person is more apt to interrupt or talk-over those who are attempting to communicate their thoughts on any given subject. They are content with hearing their own voice and exerting their expertise. What others think is of little interest to them, which could create a potentially toxic energy in relationships.
If you’re a closed-minded person who wants to come off as an open-minded person, you may use the “wrong-but maneuver.” That is, to exert a bit of superiority while coming off as being understanding, like saying,
then exerting your opinion, belief, or highly regarded statistical data.
Close-minded people exert their superiority and do not engage in discussion or battles that might challenge their beliefs.
Open-minded people are more likely to exert their humility rather than their superiority.
People who are more likely to be open-minded often have a past which includes failures from which they have learned valuable lessons, while the closed-minded individual is hardly able to admit to having made mistakes in the past.
Closed-minded people are more likely to claim they have been victimized or blame others for what might have been considered a failure.
If you’re seeing some of the signs of being closed-minded in yourself, don’t be too concerned about it because you can become more open-minded, but not if you don’t know.
Most closed-minded people have no idea that they are. In most cases, they think they are completely open-minded. Seeing the inconsistency within yourself can be the key to overcoming closed-mindedness.
And if you’re open-minded, there is no judgment for those who are closed-minded, they are only doing the best they can with what they have. Maybe one day, they can change. If they don’t, it’s okay.
It takes all kinds to make the world go ’round. We all have different parts we play in the symphony of life.
For the exceptional survivors of abuse, they are surviving abuse in grace, achieving their highest and best, living their best life, and making the world a better place. You could join their ranks if you so desire.
One day you wake up and realize you cannot go on another day, trying to convince yourself that you are living a normal life, when the truth is, you’re willingly subjecting yourself to emotional and/or physical abuse. Looking at your life from some vantage point outside of your self-made prison walls, you can see your previous denial and captivity, and you ask yourself what can I do about it?
In this lucid moment, you can shrink yourself back down into your previous state of denial and allow yourself to suffer even more because it is what you know. The abusive relationship feels like home, even if it is incredibly painful and destructive.
Somehow you feel like this is the life you deserve in some way because you feel unworthy of a happy and healthy life. So, you resign yourself to accept this as your lot in life and continue to pretend as if this is your destiny and continue to submit to your own self-victimization. Even so, there is a part of you following your momentary lucidity, which acknowledges that all you would have to do to live a better life would be to remove yourself from the abuse.
The abuse you subject yourself to could be at the hands of another but there is a far more pervasive abuser to whom you could submit yourself to. It is much more difficult to separate or protect yourself from the abuser who does not come from without but within. Nobody can abuse you worse than you can abuse yourself.
When the abuse from without meets the abuser from within face to face, sometimes it can be too much for a person to handle. If embracing the possibility of an epiphany is not an eminent option, the pain can be so overwhelmingly great, that notwithstanding another day can feel like the only way to stop it would be to stop another day from coming, leading to suicidal thoughts.
If you can find hope within yourself, you can begin to see where you are is not where you wanted to be. If you can reclaim a vision of the life you wanted, the one you intended to have and can see how you are living a life in conflict to your calling, you can take the time to revisit your initial idea of what a good life might be for you.
In this moment, the you that has submitted yourself to abuse dies, you no longer have to be a shock absorber, and you are reborn as the child of God you were originally born to be.
You have lived a great deal of life not respecting the divine life which is your calling. While you have been reborn, there is some work that needs to be done to figure out how to rectify the life you’ve lived up to this point in time. Not doing the work will suppress the emotions which could be detrimental you living a healthy life,
Thankfully, if you have access to the Internet, there are many resources available for you to get a grip on your new life and how to overcome the victimization you’ve subjected yourself to in the past enabling you to heal and grow.
The key which unlocks the treasure chest of your divine life is the realization and acceptance that while it appears that you have deviated from your life path by subjecting yourself to abuse, in fact, the abuse has indelibly provided you with the exact education, skills, abilities, and experience you need to go forth, fully empowered to live not only a better life, but your best life, and make the world a better place.
Nothing happens by coincidence or accident. Look for ways to uncover the treasures hidden in the experiences you’ve endured to reach this pivot point in your life. If you allow yourself to step back from the perspective of victimhood, and to see it from a more divine perspective, you can see how you can come out of this life of training to be fully equipped to live your best life and now are more qualified to impact others in a positive way. No one is more fully qualified than you because no one has endured what you have, and if they have, you are the only living person who can offer them hope of a better life.
As you heal and grow you can see more clearly how you were so blessed to endure the life you’ve led up to this point and how you could not have such a bright future awaiting you without having been so exquisitely educated by your unique experience(s).
As you move on from your previous life it is a good idea to mark the segmentation of your new life from the old with a period of grieving. It may include taking a time of sabbatical to grieve, heal, and let go of the past. Forgiving yourself and preparing yourself for moving on takes as long as it takes, and there is no right way or wrong way to do this. It is unique to you. Take as long as you need for this transformative process. It doesn’t matter what other people think, or if they judge you in the process.
When you are ready, you can allow the new you to fully emerge.
Will it be easy? Probably not. You will face new opportunities and challenges along the way, but you find satisfaction and peace that you are more prepared than ever to face whatever you encounter on the road ahead.
Your new life will have new friends, new players, as you go forth in a new direction. It is easy to feel like the lone wolf, but life will bring to you new faces and personalities. Some will need you, some will support you, and others will challenge you along the way, but all are there for increasing your highest and best potential.
Celebrate the new you, honor your past and retain all the blessings, lessons, and wisdom which has been bestowed upon you.
You are so amazing.
When you have suffered a loss, any kind of unexpected (or even anticipated) loss it is a normal and positive detour to take in your life to grieve. To deny yourself any of the 7 phases of grief, will likely subject you to bottling up emotions, which will impact your life in negative ways.
Please find ways to love yourself and allow yourself to progress through any of the stages in any way you feel is best for you. There is no right way, there is no wrong way to do it, and take as much time as you need.
No one can tell you how to do this, as there is nothing more intimate and personal than your grief and grieving.
Briefly, the 7 phases of grief are,
Your world has just been turned upside down, and you did not see this coming. You cannot believe that this thing did not work out like you had planned. You did your best to do everything right to ensure your success. Yet, here you are, all your hopes and dreams destroyed as you can clearly see the rubble. Of course, you’re going to freak out, and no one would blame you because we’d do the same thing, if we were you.
There is a great deal of emotional expression that will run the gamut. One minute you will be feeling like the very life is draining out of you, unsure whether you can take another breath, or experience another heartbeat. The pain from your heart spreads throughout your whole body and you find yourself battling depression.
After a time spent dealing with having your feelings hurt to the core and the suffering that comes from that you move into the pissed and pleading phase. You are angry at everything, everyone, whether they were involved or not, and even worse, you get pissed at yourself. You start thinking about what you could have done wrong, or what you could have done better, and while you are fully aware of the unrepairable rubble, you start pleading for a second chance, may even attempt to rebuild something out of sheer will, but you realize at some point you cannot do anything about it. Them, you try to beg, or plead with God for another chance, like Groundhog Day.
Breaking, letting yourself crumble to a place where you feel like you are helpless to do anything about what has happened. You resign yourself to deciding that there is life on the other side of this, and now you can re-evaluate and plan for getting better, and if you’re committed to finding a way to move on, you can start to find your new normal.
You’re starting to get through the day, one step at a time, and the steps are not quite as difficult as they were in phases 1 through 4. You’re feeling your body, mind, and soul start coming back to life. You are now starting to feel good enough to rebuild a new, more improved version of yourself.
Now you’re back on the path to healthful healing, getting over this particular episode and you start making plans to live a better life by being able to have some increasing clarity on this tragedy. From this vantage point you are able to separate the good from the bad and look to find the lessons and find the hidden treasures, the messages that were only for you, that you could not have been open to or received in any other way, and you find ways to integrate this new awareness into the more evolved version of you.
Your evolution is complete, and you have let go of this thing which you can now leave behind in the past while retaining all that is valuable and/or necessary for the survival of the new you. How do you know you’ve let go? Because you can think about what you lost, and you have no negative feelings associated with it. Loving this new you means you don’t judge yourself for anything that’s happened in the past, you fully love and accept yourself and realize that we’re all just doing the best we can with what we have, and love what is, without judgment.
Domination is the bane of the human condition. In the beginning, God bestowed domination upon us over the fish of the sea, and over the fowl of the air, and over the cattle, and over all the earth, and over every creeping thing that creepeth upon the earth (Genesis 1:26).
Then we fell and it all went to hell in a handbasket, and our ego determined to dominate everything and everyone, each other, and our selves.
Of course, we can’t dominate everything or everyone, because some people are more powerful than we are, so we seek to dominate everything and everyone that we can. In the event that our attempts to dominate someone or something is unsuccessful, we play the part of the abused victim but find a renewed sense of superiority by finding something that we can dominate.
There’s an obsession with domination wrestling to exercise itself within all of us, and it’s gotten out of control.
If you’ve been dominated by someone or something and you’re unable to find someone or something to usurp your authority over, you want to destroy someone or something, if that is not an option, the least you can do is put someone down, or so something disrespectful… something.
Of course, not all of us want to dominate or destroy everything. Some of us have either refused or given up on the idea of demonstrating our ability to have dominion over someone, these are the martyrs.
This is the cycle of domination. We are the dominated, the dominators, the martyrs.
Many of us are unaware that we are being dominated by others who exercise their domination with the most effective sleight of hand. Smoke and mirrors keep us distracted and obscure the high-level domination that has been taking place every day for thousands of years.
You can see how the cycle of domination has terrorized and caused great suffering to our planet, all life upon it, as well as among countries, peoples, races, families, and personality types, affecting all relationships in a destructive manner.
Some of us are breaking the cycle and putting the ego on notice. We’re opting out of this cycle of domination.
This is part of the evolution of the human race.
We are coming to the realization and beginning to see that we are caught up in this cycle of domination.
If you’ve opted out, you don’t seek to dominate others. Instead, you are the supporters and edifiers, seeking to find your own source of power without having to usurp your authority or dominion over others.
Destruction is not present within your personal vibration as you seek to love and edify yourself and others.
This is the current state of affairs of the new evolution of the human race. Domination, violence, and control are the unsustainable virtues of the human race which will only lead to our eventual extinction.
Love begets love and life flourishes in love’s vibration.
There’s a new world coming, full of life, love, peace, and harmony.
And you, yes you, are an integral part of this burgeoning evolution… if you dare.
Well known for its increasing the bond between those who are in love, Oxytocin is also an active component in the process of spiritual advancement. You will find Oxytocin awakening love, opening the heart to new possibilities, making you more curious about expanding thought, having a sense of purpose, and a desire to make the world a better place.
We continue to uncover the part that Oxytocin plays in the part of love and relationships. Quaintly referred to as the “cuddling hormone,” Oxytocin fosters a feeling of connectedness between two people. Active when a personal bond is felt between a mother and her child, as well as men and their children, as well as increasing the connection between the romantic couple in love.
When you’re actively falling in love, you will find a natural increase of Oxytocin makes everything associated with love much better. Combined with extra doses of Dopamine, you feel even better, with increased intimacy, sexual satisfaction, and more in love. You have a tendency to overlook “the small stuff” and see the big picture and all the possibilities the two of you may be able to share in the future.
Couples who share an Oxytocin-fueled sexual bond have an increased potential for not only being connected to each other, but also in achieving higher shared levels of spirituality, and impactful effect on others, the local community, and the world at large.
This is not dissimilar in the role that Oxytocin plays in your spiritual advancement. It makes you feel as if you are part of a bigger whole, fostering a feeling of connection with others, even the whole of humanity.
Scientific studies report groups with increased Oxytocin levels feel more, “love, sincerity, hope, inspiration and interest,” when compared to their peers.
Fostering an optimistic outlook with unlimited possibilities for the advancement of the world, including the proliferation of love, peace, and harmony between all peoples, as well as an increased interest in self-improvement and spiritual expansion.
Left to itself in the process of falling in love, levels of Oxytocin are likely to level off then fall, causing a reduction in the early phases of the love process, leaving the participants to question each other, but combined with spiritual awakening further increases bonding and a longstanding growth in love, connectedness, and optimism.
The connection between romantic love and burgeoning spiritual exploration could very well keep a couple in this state of romantic exhilaration while combining forces to make the world a better place, exponentially.
Far beyond the hormone’s role in social bonding, childbirth, and sexual reproduction, Oxytocin is also referred to as the Bliss hormone playing a part in expanding consciousness and spiritual enlightenment.
Oxytocin also increases the efficacy of the use of imagination’s role in engaging in processes such as the Law of Attraction, manifestation, creating abundance, increased potential for an inclination to prayer and/or meditation.
To make Oxytocin even more interesting, you will find this hormone increases the positive impact of the immune system, self-healing, and cellular regeneration.
More and more, the more we learn about the connection between science, the built-in hormonal and expansive evolution of human potential and its connectedness to something far superior than imaginable by our less-evolved ancestors, is ushering a new world of possibilities for all of us.
The invisible ties that bind us together are unseen shackles which keep us tethered together. These energetic cords are like umbilical cords through which the person or people that to whom we are connected draws energy, our very life force, from us.
You become connected to so many people throughout your course of life, and if you continue through life without doing a bit of spiritual and emotional cord-cutting, you remain deeply connected to the people whom you’d be better off freeing yourself from.
The first cords you establish are those that connect you to your parents, good or bad, loving or hateful, these cords connect you to your parents for life, unless you can go through the process of freeing yourself from their energy drain.
You are also energetically corded to people you admired, loved, cared for, people who have befriended you, done a favor for you, have had sex with you, or abused you. You can feel the connection when you think about any of these people. That energetic charge is very active because you are still connected to these people, and they are draining your energy, not unlike energy vampires, even though they may not be currently actively participating in your life today.
Whenever you make a promise, vow, or are indebted to someone, an energetic cord is connected. The connection remains, even long after the situation is rectified, expired, or the debt has been paid, unless you go about the work of disconnecting this invisible energetic connection.
You may have gone about the work of severing your relationship with a person from your past, yet, the invisible ties that bind remain keeping you connected to a person whose energy you would be better off without. As long as you are still connected to this person (these people) you will be unable to focus your energies and abilities to achieve your highest and best.
You will still be able to maintain a better life, but while these cords remain and persist in draining your precious energy, you may be prevented from realizing your best life.
Especially in past relationships, when you have pledged your love to someone, even long after that relationship has run its course, the connection and the energy drain persists as you continue to be haunted by the person you promised to love.
Traumatic energy connections also keep you connected to individuals and incidents which you would much rather be free from, holding you back and restraining your full potential in the present moment. These negative energetic cords are a leading contributor to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
While you remain connected, you will continue to attract these people to whom you are connected or other people who share a similar vibration, life, lifestyle, negative energy, or psychological profile.
When this energy remains connected to you, it clouds your vision and will project itself onto those new people, relationships, situations, and circumstances, triggering false cues or suspicions as the energy of the connection is projected onto your viewscreen of the present.
As unfair as it might seem, it remains a matter of fact, that unless these cords are cut, and you are free from these energetic drains from the past, it will hinder your potential to live your best life, free from these shadows and connections, and it may lead to physiological decline in health, wellness, and may promote a sensitivity to disease.
Psychotherapy might suggest a violent attempt to dig down into the recesses of your mind, having to drag you through each detail of the past, which is a traumatic process in itself, and though it may be effective, can take months or years of therapy (which works incredibly well for the therapists bottom-line).
For this reason, I prefer more modern (or ancient) methods of cutting cords from the past which are far less invasive, instantaneous, and have lasting results.
Think about how you know this to be true and ask yourself if you think now is a good time to sever the invisible ties that bind you to the past, so you can live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.
Hit me up, if you need a referral.