You can’t expect someone else’s love to make you feel loved

You can’t expect someone else’s love to make you feel loved. When I see a friend, or love and romance client place so much emphasis on feeling loved from someone else, I can’t help but see trouble ahead.

You know how it goes. These are the kind of souls so dependent on receiving validating love from another person that they feel desperately alone, with declining self-worth, when they’re not feeling deeply connected to someone else.

When they’re in love with someone, their whole life centers around the object of their affection, which is glorious and feels so real, while things are good. When things are bad, they are the worst, and when the relationship ends, it is devastatingly tragic.

I’m no stranger to this type of love which is both selfless and selfish at the same time. I loved like that. I didn’t know there was any other way to feel loved, except to feel it from someone else.

It wasn’t until I learned to find the source of my love within that I came to know that true love originates within my heart and spills over to those around me. It’s a completely different approach to love.

Now, when I see people struggling with seeking love from outside themselves I can empathize with them and support them in the best way that I can while they continue to ride the love rollercoaster of their own making.

Not everyone is open to the idea of finding the unlimited source of love which when it is discovered, you realize that it has been there all the time, though this has been hidden from you all your life. So, it’s somewhat of a shock when you discover it.

It shakes up everything you know. Most people are just not able to conceive of such a concept, so they remain in their self abusive cycle of seeking love from someone or something outside themselves.

To say, you can’t expect someone else’s love to make you feel loved, is not completely valid because being loved by someone else does make you feel incredibly good. Not unlike the high from using cocaine. It’s no surprise how addicting it can be.

It’s choice, one you must honor. Be there to rejoice with them when they are in the throes of love. Support them, letting your love spill out over them when they need it, when it all falls apart.

You can’t expect someone to understand a concept which is completely foreign to them. To try to explain the idea of loving yourself and having unconditional love for others, you might as well be speaking a different language. They are unable to hear you.

This concept is so wildly opposed to anything they understand about love, it is just not within their reach. And I understand because I was there, too.

It takes a great deal of personal, deep inner work, to get there, but it is so worth it.

For those who are open to the idea, whose hearts are fertile ground for loving at the next level, Awakening to True Love is there for you to explore the possibilities.

Exponential love, personal growth, and expansion awaits those who dare to love completely in an entirely new way.

Who Do You Look Up To?

Thank God for the people who rise up and do the things that most of us would hardly dare. They inspire us and call up our inner strength and the wherewithal to do that thing, the thing that makes us more than we would otherwise allow us to consider as within the realm of possibility for ourselves. They are our heroes.

We’ve looked up to people who were more than we thought we could be since we could remember. Likely you looked up to your parents, first, then set your standards higher, inspired by a teacher, someone is a life-saving capacity, authority figure, or other inspirational icon.

Having someone to look up to can help us rise to the occasion as we use their image to inspire us to be more in a moment when we might hardly be able to muster the courage to keep going on.

Setting the bar high, Reformed Calvary Youth Leader, Janie Tinklenberg, coined the phrase, “What Would Jesus Do?” which evolved into a worldwide WWJD campaign, complete with multimillion-dollar merchandising support, which swept through popular culture in the nineties.

When faced with a morally challenging situation, one could ask one’s self, “What would Jesus do?” in a critical moment. You could substitute the icon with any inspirational icon, who might inspire you, asking, “What would Oprah do?” or, “What would Steve Jobs do?” Having someone you look up to who inspires you can help to empower you in those darkest of moments.

We look up to role models who are exceptional individuals active in sports, are actors, visual or performance artists. Others are inspired by public leaders, inventors, scientists, physicians, or those who have given their lives in service to others.

Then there are the artists, composers, musicians, singers, and pop icons, whom we are the fans of, and our inspiration could become excessive or intense, bordering on the edge of extreme idolization.

For the most part, we look up to people who are the kind of people we aspire to become. These people have qualities we admire, such as, compassion, empathy, generosity, humility, tolerance, responsibility, and trustworthiness.

Then there are those who long to acquire the traits of the most powerful personalities who dominate anything and everything in their path, these are the ego-driven psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists, who see positive human qualities as weakness.

There is no wrong way, and no right way, to be inspired by anyone, and it’s completely up to you, to decide who inspires you. Some may even choose to reject being inspired by anyone at all.

In any case, as in all relationships, its important to keep your wits about you, even in your admiration of others whom you find as inspirational, remembering that they are people too (with the exception of deities, I suppose).

While you may be able to use your heroes or idols as a source of courage in those challenging situations and circumstances, don’t be discouraged when you discover that they are not much unlike you. And therein is the secret of becoming more than you otherwise might think possible.

This gives us hope. Courage to go on, to be more, to give more, live a better life, and even make the world a better place.

The Scorpion and the Frog

While I have spent my life in the support of empowering people to change their lives for the better, there are some people who simply cannot or will not change.

Only an individual can choose to do the work of creating massive change in their lives. I see it all the time, alcoholics and drug addicts stop being slaves to their substances. Victims of childhood abuse, leave their propensity for violence behind, becoming loving and supportive members of society. Criminals become law-abiding citizens, and the poverty-stricken change their lives and become highly prosperous.

Even diseased or disabled patients, find ways to heal themselves, saying, “Goodbye,” to their maladies, once and for all, living long, healthy, and wildly satisfying lives.

Nobody knows the capacity for a person to change their lives more than I, yet, even so, there are some people who are incapable of doing the work necessary to change.

Which reminds me of a contemporary fable of,

The Scorpion and the Frog

In the story of the scorpion and the frog, a frog meets a scorpion on the side of a riverbank. The scorpion wants to reach the other side to save his family, but there is no way to get across for him because scorpions are unable to swim.

The scorpion comes upon a frog and beckons him to engage in conversation, but the frog is apprehensive, thinking this might be a trap because scorpions prey on frogs.

The scorpion assures the frog that no harm will come to the frog because the scorpion must make it to the other side of the river to save his family, and since the frog can swim, he could offer the scorpion safe passage to the opposing river bank by allowing the scorpion to ride on the frog’s back to cross the river.

The frog asks, “How will I know you won’t sting me and kill me?”

“Because” answers the frog, “I need your skills of swimming to get me to the other side to save my family. If I were to sting you, and you were to die, I might not be able to make it to my family in time to rescue them.”

The frog and the scorpion make a bargain and agree to enter into a contractual agreement where the scorpion vows not to harm the frog.

So, the scorpion crawls onto the back of the frog and the frog starts to swim across the river.

All is going well, then about halfway across the river, the scorpion stings the frog.

The dying frog screams at the scorpion, “I am going to die, you are going to drown, and your family will suffer peril! Why would you do that?”

To which the scorpion replies, “Sorry, I couldn’t help myself. After all, I am a scorpion. It’s just the way I am.”

The frog dies and the scorpion drowns.

Unfortunately, no matter how much you might like someone that you care about to change, you cannot do it for them. You cannot make someone change when they do not have the inclination or capacity for change.

Do not bargain or enter into contractual agreements for change of another person because you cannot make anyone change. Certainly, people are capable of changing, but the choice to go about doing the work relies solely on their ability and commitment to themselves.

Sometimes, the threat of loss can help to motivate someone to change, but even so, the process of actually making the necessary changes falls on the person who you might like to see change.

Don’t be surprised when someone breaks their commitment to you with little remorse, only offering an irreverent, “It’s just the way I am.” After all, he or she couldn’t help him- or herself,  as it was simply a part of his or her undeniable nature, he or she was a scorpion.

 

Grandparenting

Having just found out that I am going to be a grandparent once again, I can’t help but think about how blessed I am to have more than a handful of grandchildren to love. Of course, I am happy for my children who have dared to embrace parenthood in these both exciting and challenging times.

These are the times you look so forward to in the lives of your children. They’ve grown up, and of all those times when you’ve been blessed to tears, so happy and proud for their amazing accomplishments, this is the best, creating life, and doing their best to give birth and love a divine being to adulthood.

What an incredible opportunity for your children, their children, and those of us who are honored with the title of grandparent. I love these little cherubs so much, and to be able to watch them grow and interject the occasional kernel of truth, supporting and encouraging them to dream and never lose the expectation their dreams could come true.

As a grandparent, my relationship is unencumbered by the day to day responsibilities of direct parenting, so my time spent with my grandchildren is a celebration life and liberty.

I have friends who are not grandparents, and they do not know the blessings that come with grandparenting. For those of us who share the grandparental vocation, we enjoy all the benefits of grandparenting.

It’s not just having a relationship with and participating in the lives of our grandchildren which we get to enjoy. No, there are so many more advantages to being able to express love via the grandparenting connection.

Being an active, loving and supportive grandparent helps to maintain the frequency of love vibration in your body, which ramps up your immune system, keeps you looking younger than your peers, and increases your life expectancy.

Grandparents who are engaged in the lives of their grandchildren are more prone to optimism, happiness, and a higher quality of life. And it’s not all about you, the lives of grandchildren are also greatly enhanced by having active grandmothers and/or grandfathers.

Grandparents who are unable to participate in the lives of their grandchildren, suffer from reduced immune systems, are more likely to fall victim to depression, sickness, disease, and reduced life expectancy.

In contemporary society, opportunities for active grandparenting are in recession. The breaking up of the family structure is more commonplace, as children are leaving the nest and moving away, making maintaining a connection more difficult.

Not to mention the increasing popularity of divorce, or the growing popularity of couples not to marry at all, which means our children may never experience the benefits of being happily married, all among the myriad changes in our societal structure which makes maintaining a grandparental relation more difficult.

If you’re a grandparent and you’ve played a non-active role in the life of a grandchild, know this: It’s never too late to reach out and develop the grandparenting connection your grandchild longs for, and you desire, as it is an intrinsic key component in the successful life experience of those of us who share the human condition.

Thankfully, technology has advanced to a point where it can help to bridge the gap of separation due to geography or emotional disconnection.

Your grandchild needs you, just as much (if not more) than you need him or her.

We can be there for our grandchildren, help them to live better lives, prevent the decline of family relationships, and in doing so help to make the world a better place.

If you don’t have a grandchild, you can achieve the same results by adopting the role of a surrogate grandparent to the child of a niece, nephew, or grandchild of a friend, or other relatives.

Congratulations, and heartfelt gratitude to my baby, who’s bringing another into the world.

Joyful tears…

It’s Your Fault Mom and Dad

When any of us are working with a client, we will use any effective means necessary, whatever will achieve the greatest measurable results in the least amount of time possible. One such method is to blame one’s parents for the client’s current circumstance. While this may seem a disservice to parenting and could potentially drive a chasm between the child/parent bond, the results make it all worth it.

When someone is in crisis, helping them overcome their most difficult challenges can be tackled by having an anchor, a base from which to launch their new more empowered approach to starting over.

In childhood, we are all victimized, traumatized, and programmed to be fearful. We learn about injustice, how to lie, and how to represent ourselves as “a good person” to others, even if we know this person is not who we really are. Our dreams are crushed, and we let others tell us what we should believe, do, how we should act, what we’re allowed to feel.

If you parented a child, even though it was no fault of yours, you were an active participant in the reprogramming and socialization of your son(s) and/or daughters(s) and assisted into transforming innocent and empowered children of God into subservient taxpayers. You didn’t know any better, and you were only doing the best you could do at the time, having fallen victim to the same programming in your youth.

It’s been going on for thousands of years, and no one would fault you for how you raised your child/children, that is, until now.

Your son or daughter is reaching out for help, and help is here for him or her, but unfortunately, you are the key, possibly the sacrificial lamb, which will usher in a better life for your offspring.

Many parents, and even I, would gladly take a bullet to help any of my children have a better life.

If your son or daughter is reaching out for help, try not to take it personally, as you are blamed for your son or daughter’s sense of incongruency. This dichotomy between what your child was brought to this life to do, and the way you participated in robbing them of their highest and best, would drive anyone to the brink.

For thousands of years, very few have awakened to the knowledge of having a higher calling in life. In the past, the socialization of our children was an effective way of controlling humanity en masse. That is, until now.

Your child is awakening, and the truth is, it’s not their fault they are they way they are, it’s yours, not yours alone, because all of society supports this programming, but you were the closest person to them in those most formative years.

You were the first person to deny your child’s divinity and assist in his or her reprogramming.

Your son or daughter did suffer the consequences of your parenting. While you are to blame, you are not at fault. Following the assignment of guilt, comes forgiveness and the realization that had your son or daughter lived your life, he or she would have done the very same thing(s) to his own son or daughter.

Your son or daughter may need to focus on the errors of your parenting to get through this crisis. There may be anger and hurt feelings, and rather than defend yourself and complicate things by trying to justify the past, the most honorable approach you could take is to assert your good intentions and take the heat, in effect falling on your own sword, for the benefit of your child.

You’re defending yourself or justifying your actions will only hinder or delay your child’s healing and advancement. Love your child, and let him or her act out in any way necessary to get a grip and move on. Try not to take it personally, just love your child now more than ever.

In this way, you can be there more for your child than you have ever been in the past, if you humble yourself and love him or her more than ever before.

Also, know this, your influence in your child’s life, even with all the mistakes you may have made, and the things that you could have done better if given the chance, were all a specialized part of making your child more powerful than he or she could have been without you.

So, bless your child, and these things will be realized as he or she grows beyond this crisis.

In this moment, by sacrificing your ego and silently focusing on the needs of your child right now, this is your chance to make right all the wrongs and help your son or daughter achieve his or her highest and best, live a better life, and make the world a better place.

God bless you and all that you do.

Dare to Be You

I have friends who have dared to share their innermost feelings in publicly accessible formats. Dare to be you. It takes an enormous amount of courage, to be honest, open, and incredibly vulnerable in an effort help prevent others from suffering your fate(s), even at the risk of opening yourself up to ridicule, spectacle, and attacks by the haters scouring the waves looking for their next victim.

Unless you are a psychopath, sociopath, or narcissist, you can imagine the strength it would take for someone who has been victimized to muster the wherewithal to make a stand for him or her self, maybe against his or her predatory abuser, only to be further victimized and abused by haters and trolls for doing so.

Why would anyone want to do such a thing?

Haters are gonna hate because there’s a basic flaw in the human condition, one that is constantly comparing ourselves to everyone else and judging everyone else at the slightest hint of not seeing eye to eye with us. Unfortunately, when we’re feeling a little down, nothing makes us feel better than seeing someone else suffer more than we are. It makes us feel a little better, even if it means we must knock someone else down a few notches ourselves.

Part of the latest evolution among human is moving away from the barbarian mindset of judgment and the tendency to see ourselves as superior to other human beings in some way.

We have this proclivity to judge others based on their beliefs. If they believe a thing to be true which we also believe, we find it easier to accept them. On the other hand, if they believe something which we cannot conceive of, we judge them. We might try to convince them to think the way we do, which only makes them defensive, driving us further apart, so we reject them.

Yet there is room for all things to be true, just as they are in the truth matrix. The truth matrix is vast and includes all things, all beliefs, all ideas and imaginations, real and unreal, all possibilities and impossibilities.

If you think back only five years, you will likely conclude that even you have learned something in these recent years which has changed the way you believed about something, likely many things. Life and knowledge are progressive and what is true today, may not be true tomorrow.

Then, on a deeper level, those things which we fail to face that are hidden deep within ourselves, are the things we hate to see in others, and it becomes our mission to stay as far as we can away from them, to in effect keep ourselves safe from we cannot face ourselves. This is the function of your shadow self.

This letting go of judgment lends itself to the acceptance of others just as they are, wherever they are, realizing we are all in this (human) experience together. Not only that, but we’re all intrinsically connected and essentially “one” in our shared experience of life, while each of us maintains our own unique individuality.

From this more evolved perspective, all things are good, and we believe that everyone has the right to believe whatever they want, and we can compassionately concede that if we’d lived the life of that person, we’d believe the same way in this time and space. We would also defend another person’s right to believe whatever is true for them and realize that truth is an endless continuum.

Still, here we are in the midst of this emerging growth among the human populous, some of us growing and expanding into the higher evolved beings that we are becoming, and others not so much.

For a while (it could take years) the barbarians will continue to walk among us, and as much as they might be unlike us, they are still a part of us, as we are represented in this day and age, of humanity.

So, there will be haters, who will challenge, belittle, and attack you at every opportunity. Don’t let them stand between what you were called to do, or to prevent you from embracing all your special qualities, or make a stand for what you believe in.

Just know this, you are always right, and there is nothing wrong with you. Dare to be you. And consider this, there is nothing wrong with them. It just is what it is, and we’re all doing the best we can with what we have.

And I love you, just the way you are.

Should You Be in Prison?

Should you be in prison? Statistics provide predictive clues about children who when subject to certain sets of variables will end up suffering a premature death, commit suicide, or end up living a life behind bars, possibly even death row.

Keeping in mind that people are not statistics, and there are always objections to the rules, there are certain situations of lifestyles which when you see a child having to succumb to these circumstances can turn nearly anyone into an armchair prognosticator.

With hindsight being 20/20, we can review the lives and lifestyles of adults who have been incarcerated, unexpectedly arrived in emergency rooms, or prematurely registered to mortuaries.

What you find, as you might have expected, is that many of these adults lived underprivileged lives in their youth. If a child’s life is impoverished, and lacking in many areas of life, such as strong parenting figures, positive support systems, and self-esteem, this increases the chances of having trouble later in life.

This is the stereotypical observation.

The data which you might find shocking is that many adults whose lives end prematurely, live lives either revolving through the legal system or spend life behind bars, were raised in families that were thought to be privileged.

Their families lived in nice homes, lived in better areas of town. Their homes had well-manicured lawns, with nice cars in the driveway. These kids wore designer clothes, went to the best schools, got good grades, and participated in sanctioned extracurricular school activities, were members of the Boy Scouts or Girl Scouts, and reached high levels of achievement in and outside the classrooms.

While there are hundreds of variables, some of the most common ones include

Lack of Positive Connection

Positive connection includes spending time commiserating with family and positive role models, not excluding positive human touch. A contemporary term respecting the aspects of positive connection is, “nurturing.”

Children who are denied being able to develop a positive connection with a parent or alternatively other supportive family members may find themselves short-changed as they grow into adulthood.

Connecting with your child takes time, which many successful parents have very little of when running the rat race and trying to keep up with the Joneses, so to speak. With many families depending on two incomes, there’s a good chance that there may be no one home when latchkey kids come home from school and learn to fend for themselves.

Touching is a key component in connection, without it babies die. Humans are designed to connect via positive skin-to-skin exchange. So, it’s not enough to be there, you need to be touching.

In contemporary society, the idea of touching a child probably sounded a warning alarm inside your head, because touching a child is bad. And this has set the alarms of many parents initiating a perceived panic and struggle with the idea of maintaining positive physical contact with their offspring (especially those of the opposite gender) to avoid possible misinterpretation or legal ramifications.

Many parents have found themselves trying to explain themselves in front of a judge or have even been incarcerated because someone accused them of inappropriateness in positive physical nurturing of a child.

That would strike fear into the heart of any law-abiding loving parent.

The child is left to pay the price for this lack of nurturing as they approach adulthood and continue to have to find ways to cope in a world that is out of control.

Even so, there are children who have faced the worst of circumstances in their early years, who come from the most modest, even severely abusive childhoods who become powerful members of society.

These are the unsung heroes.

If you knew the details of their childhoods, you might ask them, “Should you be in prison?”

Statistically, maybe so, but these people found the wherewithal to go against the odds, take charge of their own lives, and decided not to become a statistic.

If that’s you, I thank God for you and admire you for taking the high road to live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.

May God bless you and yours.

A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson

Sometimes you run across a book which is so timelessly written that it is inspirational at all times. Every time you revisit it, new revelations appear via changes in your own evolution. Such a book is A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson.

While the basis of Williamson’s work is based on a Course in Miracles, don’t let that inhibit your potential to gain access to her intuitive interpretations of the course’s material.

The Jewish author who is well-educated and incredibly intelligent details her breakthrough to love via the course’s materials. A Return to Love awakens and inspires all its readers of the possibilities which avail themselves to us, if we only believe, see, and refuse to deceive, ourselves and others.

If you know what it’s like to run into a relationship only to find that heartbreak and discontent are the rewards for your daring to take a chance for love, Williamson’s book will offer inspiration and hope, while challenging your base beliefs which fail to serve you in any authentic manner.

Williamson is transparent about her own experiences and relationships as she bears all to the reader in a smart and honest manner, delineating her own failed attempts at looking for love in all the wrong places.

If you are willing to embrace the material, you can separate yourself from your ego and bask in the presence of your empowered personal freedom. Loving and caring for yourself and allowing this love to expand and envelop not just potential suitors, but anyone that comes within a stone’s throw of you.

If you choose, you could let go of your critical view of others and insecurities which set you and your partner up for a tragic failure. At one moment you can be flying high “in love,” only to leave behind a smoldering crash site.

I applaud Williamson’s daring to challenge readers to consider the idea of entertaining the idea of unconditional love, a primarily unpopular point of view these days in a world overpopulated by wounded victims of Hollywood-inspired love.

Yet, if you dare to choose to love unconditionally, you are rewarded by an unrestrained peace, harmony, and love which spreads across the expanse of your life.

Relationships provide us with opportunities to see those pieces of us which lay hidden within our psyches, tucked away, and preventing us from becoming our highest selves. Understanding this creates a new perspective on all relationships, even – and more importantly – romantic relationships.

Romantic relationships allow us to be naked, not physically so much as emotionally. As you stand before your mate emotionally exposed, those hidden parts of you rise to the surface, and you can become aware of what stands between you and your greatest love.

From this perspective, if you are triggered by your loved one, it is not an assault; it is an invocation to look deep inside and an opportunity to grow and change. This is the miracle of true love.

Approaching love with a divine combination of humility, love of yourself, and passionate love, without judging others or usurping power or ideals over your mate, ushers in the basis of unconditional love, “I love you no matter what,” in contrast to, “I love you if…”

Marianne Williamson’s prayer for impending love goes something, like this:

“Dear God, You know and I know, I have more potential for neurosis in this area than in any other.

Please take my attraction, my thoughts and feelings about this person and use them for your purposes.

Let this relationship unfold according to Your will.

Amen.” ~ Marianne Williamson

For more information see: A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson

Thank You for Loving

If you’re an Earth Love Angel, I thank you for loving.

I am surrounded by people who vibrate at the frequency of love (which is 528 Hz according to Dr. Leonard Horowitz). The lives of these people actually resonate at the love vibration, as they love life with every heartbeat. At every opportunity they look at all life brings to their attention through the eyes of love. They are tender, compassionate, empathetic, do not pompous, nor do they judge others.

If you are one of the earth’s love angels, living your life in love, then you have an honorable place at the table of true lovers. You are love personified and your love is infectious. As you live your love life you inspire others to believe such a love exists. Thank you for loving with everything you’ve got.

Thank you for love

Thank you for love that inspires others to believe that true love is possible, ever present, and motivates them to take action. To do the deep inner work of finding the resonance of love which resides in all of us but is rarely tapped into.

Seeing your love in action inspires all of us who see you living your love life out in the open to join the love revolution by living our lives more in love, greeting everything in life which presents itself to us with an open heart pouring love out of endless supplies directly from the source of love which is the energy permeating all matter and space.

Thank you for love and all love’s endless possibilities.

Thank you for your love

Thank you for your love, the love shared between you and me, as well as all others who are blessed enough to bask in your presence. Your love inspires me to rise to new heights of living a life of love.

Your love not only reflects my love but magnifies my love exponentially, for which I am forever grateful. Thank you for your love which helps me to see all the love I could be.

May love fill your heart with gratitude

May love fill your heart with gratitude for the love in all of creation, love of family, love for your friends, love for everyone, those who hurt you, love that never ends.

You are so blessed to have all the power of love tenderly placed within you, which when accessed plugs you directly into the source of all life and love. This connection is sacred and more powerful than any weapon ever conceived of.

With this love, you can become empowered with the eternal love that never ends. You can love yourself, and others, in such a way that the angels bow in honor of the love you are becoming.

How blessed are we to be able to have such a powerful love?

May this love fill your heart with gratitude for being blessed with such a love as this, as I am grateful for the love that we share, whether we are separated by land or air. I am forever grateful for the love, and the love that you are.

Outside the Box

Waking up to the idea that everything you’ve been taught, everything you believe, and everything you know, is a lie, can be just too much for the average person to imagine. No one would judge you if you got a chance to get a glimpse behind the curtain, or look outside the box, if you disregarded it as folly, a dream, or a nightmare.

So much of what we know about this life, as we know it, was beat into us, the result of being reared by parents, taught by teachers, and supported by our peers and the media, which keeps us in a manageable state of mind, safely inside the box, easy to control by the factions on the planet with the authority to do so.

Yet, there remains a part of us which cries out from deep within, it’s been so stifled that it can barely be heard above the noise of society, that something’s not right. It doesn’t sound right, look right, fell right, when we’re restricted to life inside the box. Most of the time, when our inner voice breaks through, we disregard looking outside the box as a silly thought. If you’re foolish enough to raise the idea to a friend, he or she will laugh at you, as if it were meant to be a joke. For if they thought you might actually be thinking outside the box seriously, your friends would be very worried about your sanity.

Let’s say you have a dream of doing something significant, maybe owning your own business, or teaching others about an insight you have, which you think will benefit the greater community. You are likely to disregard this dream as a silly passing thought because you are not worthy of undertaking such a project.

You talk yourself out of it very quickly so as not to entertain the thought too long because you are not wealthy enough, unqualified or not educated enough, or lack the credibility to engage in such an activity. Not to mention the impending doom brought on by fear of failure from within the box.

Even though the thought or the dream may be an indication of your calling. Had you not been programmed not to dream, you would be able to imagine or realize that even the thought of your dream was actually a premonition, a scene from your future outside the box if you only had the ability to imagine it and step into the dream.

But your ability to use your imagination and dream (as it pertains to you and your life, as dreaming and imagining works of fiction are often encouraged) has been squashed early in life and reinforced throughout your life inside the box.

Imagination is the most powerful weapon you have against the machine of programmed life inside the box. Dreaming and visualization are keys to new life, new possibilities, and you’re having the ability to have an impact and make the world a better place.

You have been programmed with a sort of self-restraint which keeps you moderated, afraid or inhibited about embracing the idea that your life has purpose, that you have a divine assignment or mission in life outside the box.

We live in a constant state of fear which prevents us from daring to think or reach outside the box. Having the courage to take the risk of engaging in thoughts or activities which are socially acceptable helps to break the chains of the fear and restraints which have been imposed on us by the controllers.

Outside the box is where all the adventure and truth can be found, allowing you to grow and expand beyond what would have ever been possible from inside the box.

When you start thinking or moving outside the box, your world starts to change as you become more self-empowered, willing to go places and do things which you may have felt were not possible before. The real you start to emerge from your cocoon.

From this expanded point of view, you can see others who remain inside their boxes, and you do not pity or judge them. You realize that at this time in space we are all just doing the best we can. You feel fortunate to have found your way outside the box, but do not judge others for doing the best they can with what they have. You have compassion for them and you love them, no matter what.

As the numbers of us who venture outside the box increases, the day will come when the box is irrelevant and lose its effectiveness to control any of us, and the whole world will be free, but for now, you are but an explorer exploring the vastness of life which few could relate to from inside the box.

Once you step outside the box, it’s easy to become focused on the initial concept which garners your attention. Keep looking, exploring, and expanding your horizons. There is always something else waiting to reveal itself to you. Retain the ideas which resonate with you and your calling, and file away those which might not appeal to you. These concepts are waiting for the explorers to whim they are a match.

You will cross paths with people you will meet outside the box. Exchange ideas, and learn from one another, but be cautious not to be overwhelmed by someone else’s mission, if it is not in harmony with your mission. There is a tendency to be distracted by the fanfare of someone else’s momentum. Seek your own energetic vibration, and be true to that.

The more you grow and expand, the smaller the world appears to be. When you might have resigned yourself to live in a particular part of the world because it was within your box of safety, you will become more apt to want to move about the planet freely as part of your exploration and expansion.

Will you dare to look outside the box?