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Wrapping up the month of August, here’s a quick screenshot review of the month’s news. Let me know which ones you like the most. Thanks for your input, -David M Masters

What Are People Like Who Are Tolerant?

Prison of the Mind Conspiracy Theories
Overcoming Addictive Behavior When Love Dies in a Marriage I Didn’t Mean to Be Mean
The World is a Better Place Because of You Personal Growth and Change Abusive Relationship
I Want My Life to Have Meaning No Such Thing as a Lie Cheaters Have Nothing to do with You
You Are Called No Lies Settling Into Your Power How to Deal With the Emotional Outbursts of Others
Romantic or Unconditional Love Look for Evil Get More Evil What If Nobody Could Hurt You?
Growth Amidst Chaos When You Let Someone Hurt You

 

 

What Are People Like Who Are Tolerant?

There is a lot of talk about what it means to be tolerant. While the idea of tolerance, by definition, can vary from person to person, everyone has their own take on what being tolerant means. So, what are people like who are tolerant?

Autumn portrait of a beautiful young woman laying on dry autumn leaves

In general, they have a positively wider view of life, the world and its interaction with the universe, as well as the part people play in the world and the overall scheme of things which take place and change over time.

In our common societal nomenclature, tolerance is often seen as a disrespectful allowance of things less desired. To tolerate something is to allow something to play out which one believes or knows to be “wrong” while silently resisting the making fun of or ridiculing the subject, painfully restraining their wanton expression of disapproval, anger, or trying not to throw up. This is not tolerance.

Tolerance is the basis of the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” (Matthew 7:12). While popularized by the words of Jesus, the idea of treating others as we would like to be treated spans as a common thread among most, if not all, religions from Confucius (and even before) to more recently evolved religious thought which continues to emerge throughout the world.

In the United States, tolerance is the basis of the First Amendment to the Constitution, which grants Americans the right to embrace any religious ideology and the right to express themselves freely in word and peaceably in deed without interference or threat from the Government.

Tolerant people are less likely to judge others as they are more accepting of people who share differing opinions or world views. They are more likely to see the varying shades of gray in thought patterns and are intrigued about them, seeing their similarities, differences, and allow (may even celebrate or defend) the differences of thoughts and beliefs among people.

It would be difficult to find a racist among a group of people who were truly tolerant, as people who practice tolerance see the human race as one, without ethnic divisions.

Those who practice tolerance are more likely to accept things as they are, even in the worst of circumstances. Tolerance leads to believing that things will happen along one’s life journey which are unexpected, even oppressive painful, and this is all of a higher, grand design.

Tolerant people are more apt to learn from mistakes and hardships suffered in life, and to look for the sacred message or gift hidden amongst the drama or trauma of life.

Tolerant people seek to understand without judgment. Someone who practices tolerance is likely to wonder rather than defend. That is to say, a tolerant person’s first reaction to a new idea or a concept which on the surface appears to be undesirable or conflictive is wonder rather than the intolerant person’s first line of defense, to reject, defend, and ready themselves for debate or battle.

A tolerant person asks themselves to wonder why someone might think, speak, or do something that might be interpreted as disrespectful, rude, abusive, or mean. Keeping in mind that if he or she were in the shoes of the abrasive person, the tolerant person would have done the same thing, because this person has lived an entire life preparing to act out in just this way.

Therefore, tolerance is kind and compassionate about other people’s state of mind, even though they may be vastly different, for they are just like us, doing the best we can with what we have.

Tolerant people are curious about what might be going on “behind the scenes” but contemplate these things without judgment, without blaming or demonizing anyone or anything which might be perpetrating the conflicting thought or situation.

The tenet of the tolerant is to live and let live without prejudice.

You tell me: What are people like who are tolerant?

Comment below…

Prison of the Mind

You are an amazing being with a divine nature which you were fully empowered with when you were first conceived. On this world, there is a counter-divinity program which is designed to stomp out the sacredness of your divine nature and the main weapon wielded to snuff out your inner flame is society’s prison of the mind.

In the prison system, there exists a continuum of restraint systems which are used to control individuals with a propensity to break laws or resist the expectations to conform to social norms.

This spectrum of restraint spans from very loosely-enforced broadly-accepted behavior which allows the most freedom to move about a specified area with minimal monitoring to highly-restrained with very limited movement within a very small space, monitored continually.

Society has its own similar levels of restraint, which are also a spectrum spanning from borders designated by geography with the highest level of freedom bestowed upon those expressing the greatest amount of conformity, to those with less desire to conform to social norms, disobey the rules, or are steadfastly rebellious in nature.

If an individual resists conformity enough, those who refuse to submit may find themselves amidst smaller systems of restraint in an effort to control the uncontrollable or force them into compliance. It is believed by exerting the right level of force over a period of time, an individual will give up, and eventually accept the life of conformity in exchange for more freedom.

The most powerful and personal method of restraint used by society is the prison of the mind which is fueled by fear of danger, restraint, and punishment.

Social engineers know if they can control the minds of the people by the tightest, invisible, prison of their own mind(s), they have successfully created a society of manageable subjects, who will monitor and police themselves. For those who resist, there are other avenues of intervention or restraint to encourage their submission spanning from counseling and drug therapy to in-patient treatment and imprisonment.

The prison of your mind is the most powerful method of restraint which keeps you from embracing your divine nature, prevents you from living a better life, and limits your ability to achieve your highest and best.

The division of corrections which exists only in your mind keeps you small and separated from others who would otherwise be an extension of yourself as you are of them. You have a set of limiting beliefs which cause you to compare and judge everyone and everything that goes on around you, in a constant underlying state of fear.

These emotional restraints are associated with feelings of inadequacy, envy, jealousy, as well as a sense of entitlement, supremacy, and the desire to see others suffer or be punished for having something which appears to not be within your grasp.

Rather than applaud someone’s massive success, you secretly hope they experience a massive correction and lose it all, for they are not any more deserving of the windfall, inheritance, or profit from their labor than you, or anyone else.

If you have to struggle and suffer, it would make you feel better if everyone in life had to share your lot in life.

Fear can be effectively restraining you from reaching out, celebrating your individuality exercising your ability to grow, change, embrace your divine nature, your talents, gifts, and destiny to expand and evolve, affecting not only your life but the lives of others, your community, and the world at large.

Fear of non-conformity, fear of not being accepted by friends, family, the community, fear of non-support, fear of correction, and fear of failure. How horrible would it be to step out of cadence and exercise your sacred right of full personal expression, only to fail, to be ridiculed and made fun of by your peers for daring to even think about such insanity?

The prison of the mind can keep you in a constant state of considering yourself to be a victim of life, when all the while you have all the power of the universe at your fingertips if you only dare to claim it.

Yet, the fight to control us by the prison of the mind is a war that is waged 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, utilizing all methods of influence and control in an effort to keep us subservient.
Even so, there is a growing awakening among the populous.

Are you among those awakening?

Conspiracy Theories

Conspiracy theories are designed to distract you from pursuing your Purpose, Message, Passion, and Mission (PMPM) in life. While many unbelievable truths are true conspiracies, many are falsely spun by the spin doctors to confuse you, they murk up the truth so much that truth can be indiscernible.

There are those who have the ministry of deciphering the deeply coded mysteries of life. They must dig through countless piles of documents, data, soundbites, and information from sources (mostly unknown to us mere mortals) which we just don’t have the psychological bandwidth for. This is a lifetime endeavor, one that only a special few of us are called to.

This particular calling (investigating conspiracies) is an all-consuming preoccupation, which many of us could easily fall victim to, once making the acquaintance of the inconsistencies of life.

It is wise to be somewhat knowledgeable about the real condition of the world and to be aware of the methods used by the powers that be which are used to manipulate the peoples en masse. For those of us who are becoming more aware, we are not easily shaken by such things.

Why are we not shaken by conspiracy theories? The truth is, we know that there is a high probability that the cover story is not true, a cleverly conceived lie, which is spun to manipulate, control, cause us to believe something as a group, or keep us separated, or in fear.

Even amongst all this dark energy, focused on us, to keep us fearful and distracted from focusing on living a better life, our best lives, and making the world a better place, there are those who are able to focus on achieving their highest and best.

A growing number of us are continuing to evolve into the greater versions of ourselves while being aware of the truth and lies of all these conspiracy theories without being derailed of consumed by them. This, thanks to those who have been called to the ministry of demystifying and decoding the mysteries of life.

Yes, thanks to them, we can take the occasional conspiracy theory side-road, enjoy the show, take what knowledge is necessary, then return to our regularly scheduled programming of continuing to expand and evolve, without having to spend our whole lives immersed in this dark energy.

God bless the demystifiers.

Then, in the background, those who have a tendency to entertain the idea of conspiracy theories, they are being tracked and cataloged.

Why would the government want to monitor and track people who are likely to consider conspiracy theories? This is quite a conspiracy in itself.

We are programmed by social engineers to throw off any idea of conspiracies as ridiculous fantasies which can put someone’s ability to be “normal” at risk, to even suggest the propensity for insanity. To believe in the possibility of a conspiracy is to suggest compromising one’s otherwise stable mental health and wellness.

There are drug therapies which can be used to reel a conspiracy theorist back in to make them a more productive (non-resistant) member of society. Problem solved. Even though, in the present day, this normalizing drug therapy is elective.

But, as the mental health community continues to agree to the idea of managing (enforcing) what is “normal,” those who question authority and/or may be rebellious to social standards or beliefs, may be diagnosed with Individuality Psychosis.

This is a valid concern.

Until we uncover what the intentions of the “powers that be” are, or we (as humanity) have evolved enough that their attempts to manipulate and control for profit is no longer effective or sustainable, it might be a good idea to maintain a low profile.

The next time you get access to information about a particular conspiracy theory, listen briefly, take in the key points, and tell yourself, “I care, but not too much.” Why? Because while it may be true, it doesn’t really affect you or your journey, if you are able to keep it filed away and maintain the ability to get back on track of personal growth and mastery.

There are things in life that may (or may not) be true that don’t matter to you. (It’s all in the truth continuum, anyway.)

Be aware, but keep moving forward, focused on you, your personal growth and change in spirit and in truth. Live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.

Don’t let the thoughts of an overbearing, frightening, and confusing government or conspiracy theories dissuade you from seeking the truth, or you’re continuing to expand and evolve.

It is your birthright to be happy, to enjoy a bountiful life, and to have and share all the love you desire.

This better world is yours for the asking, for if you ask and believe, you will receive all the good things in this life which are waiting for you.

Overcoming Addictive Behavior

You probably have succumbed to an addictive behavior in the past. For some of us, our personal resolve is so great that all we need to do is to say, “I quit,” and we don’t do it again. For others, overcoming addictive behavior can be a struggle, sometimes a life-long struggle.

Some of us have the personal strength and fortitude to quit engaging in a particular activity which might not be in our best interest using little more than sheer determination and integrity. If you’ve done this, you might have simply said to yourself, “I said I wouldn’t do it, so I won’t” when faced with the opportunity to reengage in the addictive behavior.

Then there are others who have a more difficult time with it. A first blush, you might consider these people as weak, especially if you’ve easily overcome an activity in the past. But the truth is, these people who struggle with addiction are actually very powerful at manifesting.

We are energetic beings and our bodies resonate at a particular frequency based on the desires of our heart. People can study this phenomenon for years to try to master their vibrational frequency in order to rise to heightened state of awareness and love.

Whatever your vibrational frequency is set for, easily attracts the opportunities and things which are a vibrational match for the frequency you are maintaining.

For instance, if you are mostly in a state of mind where you think, “I never have enough money to make the ends meet,” you will attract situations and things to match the vibration of your thoughts. If these thoughts are commonly prevalent, you will find this the basis of your life, constantly struggling with your lack of resources.

People who desire to change their frequency and raise their vibration can do so my many methods starting with the way they think, because your thoughts set the tone of your vibration. For some, this comes easily, for others, they could use a little help.

Tools are available via coaching, counseling, various therapies, social groups, religions, and drugs for those who need a hand getting from where they are to where they want to be.

Religion is a powerful frequency adjuster. I started by work in the ministry in a Christian drug and alcohol program helping teens overcome their addictions. This method, still today, has the lowest recidivism rate of any addiction treatment. God is a powerful intervention for addiction, or for people who want to change their lives from one lifestyle to another.

Having a propensity for addictive behavior is a common indication the addict is compensating for some fear, pain, or trauma by numbing it with the addiction which distracts one’s consciousness enough to make it through life ignoring the things from the past, so they can just keep moving along through life the best they can.

Addicts do not sacrifice their quality of life due to their addictions but by their inability to deal with the underlying issues from which they are fearful. Which may be the underlying cause of death by natural causes.

It’s easy to blame addictions on trends of family, culture, personality, brain activity, DNA, or any other popular trend of the day which justifies addictive behavior. But as those of us who are active in the transformative work of overcoming addictive behavior know, addiction is the unconscious preferred method of coping with underlying, deep inner wounds which are buried and left to fester inside.

Addictions help to soothe the pain from these deep inner wounds. For those who have ceased to participate in a particular addiction, if they have not dealt with the inner wound(s) which caused the patient to seek relief in addiction, they are likely to replace the former addiction with another addiction.

It’s easy to fall into the trap of judging and ranking addictions, as some addictive behaviors are more socially acceptable than others. For instance, it’s more socially acceptable to be addicted to alcohol than crack cocaine. Or it might be considered to be better to be addicted to food than cigarettes.

The true freedom that comes from overcoming addictions is in the liberation which comes from identifying, dealing with and clearing the shadows, hidden traumas, and wounds from our past.

The most effective surgical tools for cutting out these pervasive inner infected psychological wounds (which are potentially more dangerous than any known disease) are forgiveness and love.

Overcoming addictive behaviors can be the key to eliminating the blockages which might be preventing you from achieving your highest and best.

Doing this deep inner work can lead to living a life of love and changing your vibrational frequency. This leads to a massive change of life and love enabling you to live a better life, your best life and making the world a better place in this high state of love.

 

When Love Dies in a Marriage

You got married with the best intentions. When you got married you vowed to love each other for life, but something happens after you’ve signed your affirmation of love on the dotted line, the love you had begins to fade. What can you do when love dies in a marriage?

Love is like an ocean, with ebb and flow. There are good times, bad times, and most of the time you just sort of modulate within the “okay” sense of being neither good nor bad, just somewhere in between, finding the marriage somewhat tolerable.

Like incoming waves, your marriage is visited by incoming waves of love which nourish the relationship. Every seventh wave (as each relationship is different so is the time differential between waves of love) is good enough to make you feel good and strong enough to stay in the love cycle for another round.

The only problem as you stay in this cycle of love waves, the incoming waves of love decrease in their volume as your ocean of love evaporates and can dry up completely. This is when love dies in a marriage.

When your love has died, what’s the point of being at the beach at all? You think both of you would be better off just to cut your losses and go your separate ways, and the thought of revisiting another love beach is either vastly appealing or sounds like an ominous devastating idea inviting dissatisfaction and broken heartedness.

If you choose not to throw in the beach towel of love, you could alternatively choose to love again.

You can infuse your marriage with love just by being willing to step out in faith and recreate the environment of past love and reinvigorating your marriage by acting as if your love never waned.

All you have to do is to remember the way you felt and think about the things that you did when you felt you were overwhelmed by love’s magic spell. Back when you were in the throes of love, you did different things than you do today, You may have done anything for the object of your spouse. All you wanted to do was to express your love and feel the love emanating from your partner.

By doing the things that you did when you were “in love,” even though it doesn’t feel the same or like you’re just going through the motions, you will notice the feeling of love returning to your heart and countenance.

When you feel like love has died in your marriage, remember this…

Love is not dead. Love is, always was, and will forever be. Love is eternal.

You can keep your love ocean full and vibrant by turning on the tap of unconditional love.

Unconditional love is such a high concept and it is frightening for the average mortal to even consider. What? To love someone no matter what?

To say to someone, “I love you no matter what you say, no matter what you do,” just sounds like you’re inviting disrespect, pain, suffering, and abuse. You imagine nothing good could come from that because everyone is always out to get you or take everything from you and victimize you.

Just the idea of giving unconditional love, even though you want to be loved in this way, can make you feel angry.

Sounds like a lot of fear, and fear is the opposite of love. There is no love in fear, but often there is fear in love, and love cannot be raised to its highest form (unconditional love) in fear.

It starts with you. If you can allow yourself to tap into the unlimited source of unconditional love (God), you can have so much love for yourself that it overflows into the world around you.

In this state of unconditional love you can fully love anyone, even your loveless spouse, so much that you don’t require receiving any love in return. One person in unconditional love can sustain an otherwise loveless marriage indefinitely.

A common response of a loveless spouse in a marriage with one partner loving unconditionally is to reciprocate love, leading to a profoundly loving marriage between the two.

Love not only returns to the marriage, but it surpasses any love that has gone before. This is the power of true love which is unconditional.

Think about these things and when love dies in a marriage know that it does not necessarily indicate the marriage is dead. Love is all around and true love is lying in wait, ready to breathe new life into any relationship, eliminating fear, if you dare to release it.

Want to learn more? Consider attending an Awakening to True Love seminar near you.

I Didn’t Mean to Be Mean

Have you ever been accused of disrespecting, treating someone poorly, of being mean? Your natural response was, “But I didn’t mean to be mean.” And it’s true you didn’t mean to be mean.

You had no intention of being mean, but you are, being accused of being mean when it was never your intention to be disrespectful or to make anyone feel bad.

First of all, you do not have to accept responsibility for something you never intended to do. Know it is far more likely that the responsibility for the conflict in a situation where you’ve been accused of wrongdoing, like this, has to do with the person who is accusing you of the transgression.

Communication between any two people has the potential for misinterpretation from the get-go. Just because two different people are not unlike aliens from different planets trying to communicate with each other.

Our lives, pasts, and entire world concepts are vastly different, even if we feel like we are like-minded. It’s surprising that any two people can communicate and connect deeply at all.

Some people are just socially inept and hurt other people’s feelings out of ignorance. They have no clue they are saying things that hurt other people’s feelings. They’re just blurting out whatever comes into their mind with no thought of how their delivery might be received.

People who lack the social skills to communicate effectively may be unintentionally offensive, even when they are in the process of learning better social skills, which is awkward at best, as they continue to hurt people’s feelings while they are exercising their communications skill set.

Today, it’s really easy to hurt someone’s feelings unintentionally because we have common methods of communication which do not deliver 70% of the message correctly. You can text someone on your phone, but because the recipient does not have the ability to see your body language, expression on your face, or hear the tone in your voice, can be offended by something you communicated with the best of intentions, or were just being cute or funny.

Sarcasm is potentially hurtful, even face-to-face with full view of the total delivery process. It’s far more potentially misinterpreted via limited communication methods like texting, email, or other social messaging formats.

Then, there are those who have the best intentions. They just want to reach out and help someone in trouble, pain, or struggling.

Sometimes, people just want to share how they are feeling, only needing someone to listen to their expression of their conflict because it helps them release pressure and helps them figure things out for themselves. But you, because you are sensitive, empathetic, or really want to help this person, may try to give advice which is offensive to the person who was just looking for a compassionate ear. Now, you’ve hurt someone’s feelings when you were just trying to help, and you’ve made things worse.

Realizing this can help you to understand what’s going on when your feelings have been hurt by someone who didn’t have any intentions of being mean at all.

Then there are those who are on the path of self-growth. They are learning to hold up their hand and say, “no,” in an effort to set healthy boundaries and protect their sacred space. This can be awkward at first, and it could unintentionally hurt other people’s feelings. Hopefully, they continue to build their communication skills so that it doesn’t seem offensive.

In all honesty, though, there are those who will hurt people on purpose and use the same phrase, “I didn’t mean to be mean,” to cover up the fact that they actually had the full intention of delivering a message they knew would hurt your feelings.

For them, using the “I didn’t mean to be mean,” is a cop-out used as a method to sidestep any responsibility for hurting your feelings when inside they are secretly feeling better or even pleasure from causing you emotional trauma.

Why would someone intentionally want to hurt your feelings?

The World is a Better Place Because of You

Your life is so important. Even if you can’t see it, every moment you spend on this earth, you are affecting and changing the lives of others for the better, and the world is a better place because of you.

I love and worked with a woman with whom I worked with both in ministry and in business. There were years when we worked in concert with one another when miracles happened before our eyes.

We saw people’s lives miraculously changed, we taught relationship seminars together. Together we partnered in an alternative energy business that spanned five states, and a local recording studio. In this nine-year span, we, each of us, performed our individual functions that together changed the loves and lives of those whom we were blessed to interact with.

Life happens and we both went our separate ways. I focused on my ministry and career, while she did hers, as we just sort of drifted apart and lost touch.

Then, I heard the news. My former partner had taken her own life.

When I heard the news, my heart sank, and I fell to my knees. Here was a powerful, successful woman, who had married, she raised children who had grown and had successfully powerful lives of their own. She was respected and loved deeply.

I know two other highly successful people who also elected to opt out of life. All people who have impacted my life, and the lives of others, making the world a better place.

No one knows what’s going on inside someone else’s head, or why people commit suicide. I wished I could have pleaded with them not to do so because their lives were so impactful in a world that desperately needs their influence which was cut short.

I’ve worked with people who were ready to give up and check out, now these people are back on track and every day their contributions make the world a better place.

The World is a Better Place Because of You

Even if you can’t see it because of how you’re feeling and it’s preventing you from seeing your impact, every day you are among the living, the world is a better place because of you.

Plus, in terms of your maximum potential, while you still have breath in your body, there is the possibility that you haven’t yet achieved your highest and best. Even if you have experienced massive success in your life, the possibility exists that you could do something even more powerfully impactful. If not in your life, in the life of others.

The effect of your life is influential far beyond your own because your presence influences others and has a ripple effect which can impact the entire planet. Even the power of your unexpressed thoughts helps to create a better world through your energetic vibration.

If you can imagine it, there are some people who live their entire lives without purposefully strive to achieve their highest and best, live their life to the fullest, or consciously make the effort to contribute to humanity, and their lives all play an integral part of the evolving world where we all live,

How much more is the world a better place because of you?

You have seen the people you’ve loved and looked up to, the people who have helped you or inspired you to live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place, who have given up and checked out.

If you’re able to see the impact of your life or suffering from depression, take a moment to look at how your life is integrated and affecting the lives of others around you. Your life is so important, and there is still time for you to do even more to influence others, to tell your story, and make the world a better place.

You could use what you’re feeling and use it for the fuel to empower you to take your life to a whole new level in this life. You could make depression a good thing, a method to increase your impact in the world even more.

Do you think there are others who are watching you live your life, even now?

If all you do is to care about someone, to express compassion, to encourage someone, or show somebody love, your life is hugely impactful as the resonance of your life flows throughout the community and the world at large.

You may never even know the full impact of your life, nonetheless, your life is so important to those around you.

By living a better life, your best life, and continuing to make the world a better place, even if against all odds, you are not only the hero of your own life, you inspire others to achieve their highest and best.

Your life is so amazing, we need you, your fresh and individual perspective and influence.

I need you. We need you, and the world is a better place because of you.

You have so much more to give.

Live your life every day in love.

Personal Growth and Change

There is little that brings more personal satisfaction to a person than personal growth and change, breaking through to a new level of existence among others with whom we share life on planet earth.

There is a growing number of people who are part of the next evolution of the human being, and these are the people embracing a variety of personal growth and change in all areas of their lives, including family, friends, careers, health, emotional wellness, volunteerism, love, and spirituality among others.

Why might some otherwise “normal” people seek to separate themselves from the pack via personal growth and change, embracing their individuality, purpose, message, passion, and mission?

As you might already know, there is this still small voice inside you. You hear it, mostly in those rare moments between frantic activities and the constant barrage of media and information, and it begs the question,

“Is there more to life than this?”

Deep inside you, the knowingness resides in the answer, “Indeed there is,” but so does the awareness that the true meaning in life is not found in the quest for status, power, or things.

The “more” that awaits is in your own evolution and expansion beyond that which the status quo might dictate.

So, you, like so many others embark on a journey, risking the safety and security of family, friends, and the constant droll of everyday life to forge your own path to where ever it leads.

Again, you ask, “Why?”

Besides the answering of your sacred call against all odds, there is the self-satisfaction that comes from being your own man or your own woman. Realizing that you are not merely the sum of your experiences and pedigree on this planet, you make your own way, discovering the nature of your true self.

You chart out a journey or discovery within and without to places unknown, which may have been explored by others who dared to attempt similar journeys in the past, but even so, yours will be completely unique to you as the entire landscape of these unchartered (or previously chartered) landscapes change, evolving, moment by moment. That is the nature of evolution.

You are on the path to getting to know you better than anyone has ever cared to. You are dealing with the programming, ideas, and issues from your past which were designed by social engineers to keep you small and subservient.

You are no longer shackled by the chains of society. As you exercise your true independence you see the effects of your personal growth and change as you evolve into your highest and best version of yourself.

You see life as something new; as if seeing it for the first time from a unique, new perspective, becoming more aware of your surroundings, free from the filters and restraints of your social programming.

You see your value in the world, how you can help others, and contribute in making the world a better place. You see each step toward a better life, leading toward your best life, as you build cumulative momentum toward the realization of an entirely new world of unlimited possibilities.

You find the fuel to go on from within, not needing the support or acceptance of others to see your way through this higher process of expansive self-growth, and when you face a challenge or obstacle you find the strength within to persevere and keep on going, when anyone else might have turned tail and run the other way.

You find new strengths, gifts, and opportunities appearing all around you as you move forward in faith, with each new step.

All this builds a new sense of assuredness found within, knowing that you are being true to your divine calling and living out your purpose. You are more self-confident and cannot be threatened by nay-sayers as you have nothing to prove to anyone.

You respect and love others, just like you would like to be respected and loved. This opens new opportunities for you in managing your relationships. Now, they are healthier, more authentic, full of love and happiness, as judging others fades into the distant past your can love and accept people for just being who they are, whoever they might be.

Your heart is full of love as you grow in strength and honor, unshakeable in your new versatility and sustainable expansion.

You are love. Your personal growth and change have taken you to a new place in the universe where you bask in the love, with inner peace, and happiness, ready to share your message with the world.

Abusive Relationship

You might be out there, loving, caring, and sharing yourself with other and find yourself the object of someone’s affection. Even the best of us aspire to put our best foot forward at the outset of a potential relationship, as also do those with less than your best interests in mind.

Before you know it, you could find yourself in an abusive relationship.

While all abusive relationships have certain commonalities, they vary wildly across the spectrum of abusive potentialities. Among them, there are 7 signs which might indicate that you are in an abusive relationship.

7 Signs You’re in an Abusive Relationship

Your partner

1. Does not trust you
2. Criticizes and puts you down
3. Asserts superiority over you
4. Puts down your opinions or accomplishments
5. Abuses you, then turns it around and blames you
6. Makes self-serving demands irrespective of your desires
7. Threatens you, your well-being, your reputation, or family

All this dysfunctional madness can leave you feeling like a victim of abuse, even if the abuse is not physical, the pain of being in an abusive relationship can be very real and just as painful, if not worse, because there is no physical manifestation of the abusive relationship.

You are never required to stay in an abusive relationship. No one has the right to abuse you. You should (and there are resources available to you of you need help getting out) remove yourself from the abusive environment as soon as possible.

This doesn’t mean the relationship is over, you and your partner (if he or she is willing) could seek counselling to see if the relationship is salvageable. If the abuse is likely to continue, it is not.

Someone is waiting to love you for who you are in true love, without subjecting yourself to further abuse.

What Can You Do If You’re in an Abusive Relationship?

The first rule is to remove yourself, get out, find a safe place where you can collect your thoughts. This is the only way to stop the abuse while you can take the time to figure things out.

If you feel like you’ve been victimized, after you’ve found a safe place to do the work, an important step might be to find a way to prevent yourself from being victimized.

How to Not Be a Victim of an Abusive Relationship?

You can prevent yourself from ever being in an abusive relationship by not participating in the abuse… at all.

You’re likely to feel like a victim in an abusive relationship if you assume the role of the victim, feeling as though you have a weakness which can be exploited which makes you feel bad, while your abuser assumes the role of “the bad guy.”

What if there was no good guy, no bad guy, just two people who disagree?

If you can realize your potential abuser is only expressing his- or her-self in such an abusive way because they are suffering inside from some pain or trauma from his or her past, then you can understand his or her outburst has nothing at all to do with you.

This is the most common underlying motivation for abusers who have no other way to release the pressure from deeply hidden pain or trauma suffered in their past except to strike out at someone else.

If you can wrap your heart around this concept, you can feel compassion for the one who is striking out at you, being careful not to feel pity for him or her, because that would assume that you are in some way better off than him or her.

The truth is, we’re all flawed and just doing the best we can to make it through this journey with the tools that we possess. Even though some of us have more tools than others, we are in no way any better off than anyone else.

None of us makes it through this life without struggle or gets out alive.

But that doesn’t mean you have to succumb to the whim of anyone else to abuse you.

What to Do

The next time someone tries to interrupt your life with abusive behavior, understand it has nothing to do with you, bless them, and walk away.

If someone does or says something disrespectful to you, acknowledge their right to feel or say anything they want. For, after all, they are only asserting his or her own perspective, and you honor their right to do so. You have no need or requirement to defend yourself, or respond, except to acknowledge their right to their own opinion.

You may do so by saying, “You’re absolutely right,” (which disarms their assault) and compassionately walk away, because if history teaches us anything, it is that arguing with someone, or even engaging in a debate, has little of no positive result, and only makes things worse.

You cannot reason with someone who is unreasonable.

It’s up to you to establish your own sacred space and to protect it.