It’s safe to assume that you would be considered an “A” type personality. You’ve carved out your niche in the world, and you are achieving new heights in your specialized field, and there’s plenty of room for you to grow and expand. Ain’t nothin’ gonna slow your roll.
For the purposes of mating and having a successful love relationship, a solid “B” personality man or woman would make the best match for you. Someone who could use a little nurturing and leadership while effectively sharing the life that on you are able to give him or her. Someone who would respect you and be grateful for the lifestyle they can enjoy.
Someone who understands that you’ve got an hour-and-a-half commute in unbearable traffic after a stressful day doing what you do to get things done, and by God, things better be okay at home. The last thing you need is more drama and trauma, right? And your “B” type personality partner gets that, and is willing to put off his or her needs, waiting for a more appropriate time, when you have the bandwidth to see to his or her needs.
Now, what happens when you’re coming home to another mover and shaker mate? Someone who is your equal, equally powerful in the world, who has also been moving about the world in a massive flurry of activity?
What is you’re both coming home from a stressful day at work and need to let off steam?
This is the toxic combination, and it’s why most power couples fail. But you can manage a successful power couple relationship, if you can find the wherewithal to be thinking about how to keep your private home life separate from your public life. Both can be powerful, but the power most likely must be very different.
Believe me, you do not want to try those success tactics that are so effective in your public life on your power mate. He or she will see it coming a mile away, and if your mate takes a defensive position, Armageddon is on the horizon, and there may be bloodshed.
The good news for the power couple, is that your partner understands or “gets you” in a way that no one else could. He or she knows exactly what you’re going through, even if the two of you are successful in totally different arenas, you both get it.
You will be miles ahead toward a successful, loving power couple relationship by creating transitional space between your public powerhouse and your private love life.
I’ve found that power couples need time and sacred space to transition from their fierce lion or lioness persona to their loving partner persona. And there should be a clear difference.
I know a power husband who has an hour-and-a-half commute home from his full-on powerful business environment, and he stops by the drive-in coffee stand after work, gets a hot chocolate drink, and turns on the Christian radio station as he merges onto the highway. Now, he’s not a Christian, but he finds the music soothing, and by the time he gets home, he’s ready to unite with his lover.
His power wife is keeping track of the time, she doesn’t have a long commute, so she tries to manage her transition at approximately the same time as her husband’s commute. But she is more likely to put on soft music, meditate, or soak in a hot bath, while filling the house with aromatic therapeutic scents.
It’s not important what you do, what’s important is that you are creating a transitional space where you have the ability to decompress and transform from Godzilla to the loving man or woman you desire to be with your partner and he or she is doing the same.
This is on you. You need to find effective non-destructive ways to help you wind down and transition as an expression of your love, honor, and respect for your sacred union.
Making room to spend quality time together outside of your hectic power schedules is a given. You need to have these special times away from the hustle and bustle to align and just get lost in each other’s presence.
It is likely that in these moments of private prolonged bonded solitude that your best ideas will emerge of co-creative ideas that will have a huge impact on your family, friends, community, the greater community, and the world at large.
So, make time to get away to co-create, live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.
I think it’s really important for a power couple to have a powerful support system. I would serve your best interests to have a therapist and relationship coach on board, and the more powerful you are, the more support you might need. Maybe each partner has his or her own therapist and relationship coach, just sayin’.
And if you’re doing it, and you are a power couple, by all means, you are becoming an incredible force of nature and the two of you can bring so much to the world.
You can grow in your relationship by combining your special powers and abilities.
God bless the power couples.
And God bless you for being willing to go forth, against all odds, to be the next power couple for the rest of us to admire.
Thank you for all that you do.