Dare to Be You

I have friends who have dared to share their innermost feelings in publicly accessible formats. Dare to be you. It takes an enormous amount of courage, to be honest, open, and incredibly vulnerable in an effort help prevent others from suffering your fate(s), even at the risk of opening yourself up to ridicule, spectacle, and attacks by the haters scouring the waves looking for their next victim.

Unless you are a psychopath, sociopath, or narcissist, you can imagine the strength it would take for someone who has been victimized to muster the wherewithal to make a stand for him or her self, maybe against his or her predatory abuser, only to be further victimized and abused by haters and trolls for doing so.

Why would anyone want to do such a thing?

Haters are gonna hate because there’s a basic flaw in the human condition, one that is constantly comparing ourselves to everyone else and judging everyone else at the slightest hint of not seeing eye to eye with us. Unfortunately, when we’re feeling a little down, nothing makes us feel better than seeing someone else suffer more than we are. It makes us feel a little better, even if it means we must knock someone else down a few notches ourselves.

Part of the latest evolution among human is moving away from the barbarian mindset of judgment and the tendency to see ourselves as superior to other human beings in some way.

We have this proclivity to judge others based on their beliefs. If they believe a thing to be true which we also believe, we find it easier to accept them. On the other hand, if they believe something which we cannot conceive of, we judge them. We might try to convince them to think the way we do, which only makes them defensive, driving us further apart, so we reject them.

Yet there is room for all things to be true, just as they are in the truth continuum. The truth continuum is vast and includes all things, all beliefs, all ideas and imaginations, real and unreal, all possibilities and impossibilities.

If you think back only five years, you will likely conclude that even you have learned something in these recent years which has changed the way you believed about something, likely many things. Life and knowledge are progressive and what is true today, may not be true tomorrow.

Then, on a deeper level, those things which we fail to face that are hidden deep within ourselves, are the things we hate to see in others, and it becomes our mission to stay as far as we can away from them, to in effect keep ourselves safe from we cannot face ourselves. This is the function of your shadow self.

This letting go of judgment lends itself to the acceptance of others just as they are, wherever they are, realizing we are all in this (human) experience together. Not only that, but we’re all intrinsically connected and essentially “one” in our shared experience of life, while each of us maintains our own unique individuality.

From this more evolved perspective, all things are good, and we believe that everyone has the right to believe whatever they want, and we can compassionately concede that if we’d lived the life of that person, we’d believe the same way in this time and space. We would also defend another person’s right to believe whatever is true for them and realize that truth is an endless continuum.

Still, here we are in the midst of this emerging growth among the human populous, some of us growing and expanding into the higher evolved beings that we are becoming, and others not so much.

For a while (it could take years) the barbarians will continue to walk among us, and as much as they might be unlike us, they are still a part of us, as we are represented in this day and age, of humanity.

So, there will be haters, who will challenge, belittle, and attack you at every opportunity. Don’t let them stand between what you were called to do, or to prevent you from embracing all your special qualities, or make a stand for what you believe in.

Just know this, you are always right, and there is nothing wrong with you. Dare to be you. And consider this, there is nothing wrong with them. It just is what it is, and we’re all doing the best we can with what we have.

And I love you, just the way you are.