I Want to Change But I Don’t Know How

Change is inevitable. No matter how hard you try to manage and control your world, it is constantly in a stage of metamorphosis. Life, our planet, the universe is ever-changing. So, what will you do about it? Will you resist the change or choose to change? Many people want to change, but do not know how to go about changing their life. They say,

I want to change but I don’t know how.

Of course, there are the vast majority of people who accept life as it is, and they find comfort in the sameness in life, staying as they are, and accepting whatever comes their way as inevitable. Most, if not all of us, are programmed from birth to adopt this (or some similar) world view.

We keep our heads down, keep moving along, and doing the best we can not to make waves or draw attention to ourselves. Things could be better, but

I’m okay.

Even so, among those who prefer to stay under the radar, many of them desire to have a better life. For those who desire to have a better life than their neighbors, social mechanisms have been put in place to make them feel like they can have some control over their destiny, while still remaining as part of the structured herd.

They can increase their efficacy via personal or professional growth, go to school to learn a trade, get a fancy degree to join the ranks others who have highfalutin college degrees, if they will let you into their “club.” It’s a lot more convoluted than you might think.

Others like the idea of change but see it as something to be avoided due to increased risk. They could put life as they know it at risk. By deciding to change, you may alienate friends who would rather stay the same and never change, except when change is forced upon them.

The idea of change makes us somewhat fearful because we all have some degree of

Fear of the unknown

and we feel safe in our little cocoons of life, swaddling ourselves in as snuggly as possible.

The world outside of ourselves can be a frightening place.

Then there are those who find themselves in the offices of my contemporaries who are coaches, consultants, and counselors. These are those who want to change their lives in a dramatic way.

Like you, they are dissatisfied with the same ol’ same ol’ and they have a yearning for more from this life.

You want to live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place, even if

You don’t know how

Maybe you tried to change before, and it didn’t stick, or you just couldn’t get from Pont A to Point B. You may have been unable to achieve the results you desired. Don’t let this get you down or keep you from moving forward.

Knowing how to change your life is not necessary. The desire to change your life is the most important place to start, for without the desire to change, you are unlikely to have the fortitude necessary to sustain the transformative process and make it to the other side of your personal metamorphosis.

If your desire is strong enough, you can endure the expansive evolutionary opportunities which are often accompanied by challenges that will be encountered along your path of growth and change.

 

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