Okay, I have received some notoriety and obtained a level of expertise thanks to my interactions with a psychopath.
Believe me when I say, I would have rather avoided the whole affair and remained in my naïve little world concept believing that all people were basically good, with the capacity to love, if only given half a chance.
Because of my particular level of expertise people seek me out for information and support in the areas of psychopathy and dealing with predators along the Anti-social Personality Disorder spectrum (ASPD). In my work as a coach/counselor I will take on clients who are embroiled in the psychopathic struggle. Though I restrict my work with psychopaths and/or victims of psychopaths to a ten percent limit.
Limiting my work to 10% in regard to dealing with psychopaths and their victims keeps me from getting distracted from my main mission of helping others achieve their highest and best.
Doesn’t life seem to want to do that to us all? To throw us off-track and distract us from our life’s purpose?
It’s as if, when you’re just getting your life on the right path and everything seems to be just right, that something knocks you off kilter, derailing your train of thought (or life’s progress, altogether).
When I do engage in psychopath-work, I usually find myself in service to a particular segment within the psychopathic community. Victims of psychopathic predators are the people who need the most help getting back on their feet, though it is important to note that not all psychopaths are predators (even though this is their natural inclination) and victimizers.
I find myself also working with psychopaths who lead normal lives, serving the community at large in beneficial occupations and providing enormous value to the world. As hard as it may be for them, they continue to work hard at staying focused on living a “normal” life; they also, seek out people like me for assistance.
Diagnosing a psychopath is difficult work. It can consume the lives of the psychologists and psychologists who work with them. For victims – or potential victims – of a psychopathic predator, it is of primary importance to
#1 – Identify the psychopath
So, I’ve devised a short list of attributes to quickly identify a potential predator who is a psychopath. Here is is the short list:
3. NO FEELINGS
6. NEVER WRONG
While this list is not complete by any means, it is an effective way to quickly identify a psychopath, enabling the victim to take action (which is the next step).
What if the predator is not actually a psychopath?
Does it really matter? Shouldn’t the victim take steps to protect themselves as quickly as possible to eliminate additional suffering and loss?
#2 – Take immediate action
The best way to deal with a psychopath is to take immediate action to protect yourself. Here is my short-list of steps you can take:
1. NO CONTACT
2. GET HELP
3. BE QUIET
4. STAY STRONG
6. FORGIVE YOURSELF
The best revenge is to live your happiest days ever, free from psychopathic influence as you achieve your highest and best.