Lie of Omission and Truth

Just as deceitful as right out telling a lie, is the lie of omission, where you actually refrain from saying anything, as an alternative to blatantly lying.

If you feel your personal exposure is too great to be honest and lying feels like too extreme an option, you might opt to initiate a deception by omission, to deceive by saying nothing. And if you do, a peculiar thing seems to take place. In most cases, even if with the best intentions, even though you have said nothing, people who have lies of omission between them tend to drift apart.

You can justify to yourself, “Well, at least I didn’t lie,” but the consequences are dire, if not worse than outright lying.

By withholding the truth, you also withhold vulnerability, love, and connection. Any authentic connection which may have existed between two individuals where one or each harbor lies of omission continues to erode until nothing is left.

Not being able to live life as an open and honest individual could very well keep you from achieving your highest and best, from having all the desires of your heart. All the life to live that is your divine birthright withheld from you as you practice deception by withholding.

Oh, you may have some degree of success as measured by your peers, but true love, joy, and happiness will remain elusive experiences and expressions in this life.

A deep connection between two individuals includes celebrating each individuality, understanding that no two people are identical, allowing and honoring those things that make each of us unique. That means that there will be times when we experience separation having different past experiences, differing points of view, and moments of uncomfortableness, as we are equally vulnerable and honest which strengthens the relationship.

No one can tell you what is true. Only you can know what truth at any given time is, for everything you believe is true. You know it. You can feel it, and you must find a way to express your truth. You should be able to attract those who are willing to listen to those things that are important to you without judgment, and you likewise in loving reciprocity.

If you are honest, you are true to and honest with yourself, then you can speak your truth with integrity and honor, which can (and should) make you vulnerable. Being transparent and honest leaves you at risk of being disagreed with, challenged, attacked, or left wide open for haters to exploit.

Honesty can include the truth in general, as follows:

Question: How are you feeling today?

Honest Answer: Okay, I’ve been better, but seeing you makes me feel better right now.

You can give an honest answer to most anyone, but vulnerable answers are best saved for only those people who you can trust with more intimate details of your life. You have vetted them, and you quite convinced of their trustworthiness.

Vulnerable Answer: Okay, I’ve been feeling like I’ve let my family down because I could be making more money and giving them a better quality of life, but I’m working on my attitude and trying to find other ways to show them how much I love them.

Some things are best kept in private, while others can be shouted from the rooftops, and if you have promised a friend to be discrete with the sensitive details of their life, by all means, do so. Unless you are a priest, you may be lawfully compelled to testify under oath, but in the absence of such a court order, honor your friend’s request and keep it to yourself.

To trust your friend means you believe that your friend will keep those things which you have shared in confidentiality will remain safely guarded by your friend, and your friend believes you to be trustworthy in kind.

Honesty Dishonesty and Lies

Honesty means telling someone how you think or feel about something knowing that there may be at risk of disagreement from the recipient of your honest statement.

To the degree that you can be honest plays a big part in your ability to be trusted. While honesty can be a one-way street, alternatively “trust” is a two-way street. We are honest with someone, then step back to review how our honesty was received, responded to, or revered it was. Based on the results, we determine if someone can be trusted or not.

If we can be open and honest with others, we are promoting our trustworthiness. Over time we can gain people’s trust by representing ourselves as being honest. Vulnerability and honesty build trust.

Why would you lie?

  • Fear of hurting someone’s feelings
  • Fear of retribution or punishment
  • Fear of not being accepted
  • Fear of risking your reputation
  • To protect yourself
  • To protect someone else
  • To defend yourself or someone else
  • To bolster your image or the image of someone else to others or among the community
  • You want to present yourself as on par with someone else
  • You are communicating with someone with whom you have little or no respect
  • You want something from someone, but do not have anything of equal value to trade

And potentially a million other reasons why you might lie, though the reason you are most likely to lie is due to fear or some perceived threat. Fear can be disguised as many things, and hiding behind a shield of fear can prevent you from having all the best things this life has to offer.

You lie because lying is an effective tool that protects you from discomfort or pain.

There is a huge contrast between being honest (which makes you vulnerable) and lying (which protects you).

When you are dishonest, it implies that you cannot trust the person you are misrepresenting yourself to.

You are afraid they will misunderstand or hurt you. Alternatively, you may fear they will not like what you have to say or might get their feelings hurt by your being honest.

When you lie, there is the hopeful expectation that your deception will not come to light. But for most of us, lying comes with some form of guilt. A part of us desires to be open and honest in all things, so when we lie, we feel bad or at least, regret not feeling safe enough to tell the truth.

Often if you have negative habits or addictions, you are likely to lie to present others from seeing your weaker side.

It is exceedingly difficult to feel safe with someone who you cannot trust.

What about the lies you tell yourself?

  • What does your lying to yourself say about your relationship with yourself?
  • Do you trust yourself with your most intimate details?
  • How about when you think, say, or at out in some way that is not congruent with who you really are?
  • Do you lie to yourself to cover up or justify your indiscretions?
  • If you want to feel competent or confident, are you apt to lie to yourself to make yourself feel better?
  • Is it possible to be truly open and honest?

If you have lied about a thing in the past and felt uncomfortable for doing so, you will experience a great sense of relief from being able to tell the truth, to essentially “come clean.”

Your Special Abilities Could be Holding You Back

We are all born with special gifts and abilities. Some things just come more easily to you than your peers. You settle into a comfort zone of confidence about your innate skills, and you may even take them for granted, but your special abilities could be holding you back.

When a thing comes easily to you, it’s easy to just be aware that this is so and leave it at that.

If you are working with me or one of my contemporaries, there’s a good chance that you might be encouraged to focus on developing your innate skills even more.

Your first response might be, “But I’m already good at that.” And you might interject your desire to focus on developing other skills and abilities to augment your existing innate skills to maximize your efficacy, “I’d rather work on things that I’m not that good at.”

You have a point, and we will focus on some of those other areas, but not honing your special abilities prevents you from moving past the phases of competency and into mastery. Then, and only then, do your innate skills become superpowers.

This can make all the difference in your pursuit of achieving your highest and best and attaining your full potential in this life.

In the classes of ultimate high performance, those individuals who stand out far above the crowd in their ability to achieve unparalleled levels of achievement, they are said to be driven to excellence.

What does it mean to be driven to excellence?

Those who are driven to excellence are different from the rest of us because they approach life and honing their skills to a higher degree than the rest of us.

Top 4 Keys to Excellence

  1. Determination

  2. Persistence

  3. Passion

  4. Reverence

When applied to one’s innate skills and abilities, these four attributes separate the superstars in any given field from the rest of us.

To move to the level of mastery, you must not only be driven to excellence but also we willing to

Learn More

The best masters are also the best students of their craft. They are not content to be competent. They continually study their craft and desire to know more, never falling into the trap that they already know everything there is to know about a given thing.

Masters are also continually practicing their craft to keep that edge, never falling into complacency.

Masters are students, always open to learning more about their craft.

They do often find themselves teaching their craft to others, and report learning things that had gone unnoticed in their own training from experiencing the growth and advancement of their own students. Masters learn from students and others.

Unrelenting desire to achieve

Some masters are born to be masters, others have developed the skills to achieve mastery by the sweat of their brow, but in either case, there is an underlying compulsion to excel that supersedes the desire of their peers.

These are the masters of our day.

Will you be one of them?

 

Skittles Time Management

In today’s world, there are those who command the details of their lives. As an Olympian Life Coach, you will encounter individuals who deeply desire to make the transition from one of the ordinary people in the world into the world of the extraordinary.

One of the most powerful levers that you can throw that powers your ability to create huge momentum toward the life that you desire, the life that is yours for the having is to gain power over the one thing which once it is gone can never be recovered: Time.

If you can learn to manage your time, you can easily become the maximizer of your efforts and desires. You can harness this power over time and pass it onto your clients who up until now may have been victims of time instead of its master.

As you begin to wield the power of time, your mind, your body, and your higher self become more exponentially powerful. It permeates all areas of one’s life, increasing potential, possibilities, healthfulness, happiness, and love, and things, the desires of your heart, start coming to you more easily.

There are many time management techniques, some will work better for some people than others. You need to find the system that works best for you, who you are, but you will have to try them, to see which one(s) are the best fit, and your clients would be advised to try them on for size as well.

While we understand that you cannot actually change time to fit your needs, you can change the way you interact with and use the time that is available to you.

Before you start to experiment with different methods of managing your time, you need to first evaluate how time is managing you.

The Skittles Time Evaluation is my favorite method to use for myself or my clients in a colorful (and flavorful) way to take a snapshot of what one week of time will look like at any given time. Plus, it’s fun. It’s a light-hearted approach to a heavy subject in life.

Get a weekly time management sheet by the hour, like this one:There are five colors of Skittles available to designate the five most important areas of life which are restricted by the power of time. Use one Skittle to represent one-half hour of your time in life.

Once you have your Skittles chart of how time is passing day-in and day-out, you can find ways to maximize your efficacy inside the time which you are already using, as well as the undesignated time left available.

While over the course of your life and your work with others, you will learn many techniques to home your time management skills, here are the top 5 ways to manage your time from in the beginning.

5 Ways to Manage Your Time

1 – Set Goals with Intention and Purpose

Most people are not productive when it comes to setting goals. You will be miles ahead if you are mindful of the goals that you set. Prior to setting your sights on a goal to achieve do a heart-check and ask yourself,

“Is this in line with my highest and best?”

This will help you sort through those things that are in your best interests, and those that are not. If you are uniquely aligned with a particular goal, your success is more likely assured, otherwise it would be more of a distraction or side-gig.

2 – Prioritize

As you sift and sort through the tasks that you perform each day, separate them at least into two categories: Important and Unimportant. Focus your attention on the important things first.

A more advanced method of prioritization includes separating goals into short-term and long-term goals, then applying Steven Covey’s 4 Quadrants

Quadrant I is for the tasks which are both immediate and important. Do these tasks.

Quadrant II is for strategizing and development of long-term goals. If they are in alignment with your highest and best, make plans for them.

Quadrant III is for distractions that have pressure attached to them. (Someone wants you to do it now, but it’s not really that important.) Delegate these things for others to do, if you can.

Quadrant IV is for all those activities which do not serve you, have no effect on your life or sense of contribution, and are basically a waste of your time. (Think mindless internet browsing or binge-watching series on Netflix.) Eliminate these things from your list, your schedule, your life.

3 – Map Out Your Day

Make sure you don’t get overwhelmed with putting all your focus and attention on work-related activities. Make time for family, time with your partner, and time for yourself. This promotes healthful balance in all areas of life. Make time for those things that are good and important areas of your life.

Be certain to include time for healthy eating and exercise.

4 – Use or Create a System

I started using the Franklin Covey time management system. FC now has an app for your phone, consider giving it a try. No one system is perfect. Once you find a system that works for you, do not let your commitment be set in stone. It is likely that any form of time management tool will help. Some will be more effective than others, and what works best for you will change over time, as you do.

5 – Evaluate and Refine

With all this attention to managing your use or time balanced with heart and intention, you can maximize your efforts by regularly evaluating where you are at any given time. Do the Skittles project every once in a while and review where you are. Then always be looking at ways you can refine and enhance how you use each hour that is available to you each day.

What Are the 3 Circles of Influence?

As coaches, we are often charged with helping individuals carve out better paths to travel along their life’s journey. What are the 3 circles of influence? The three circles of influence were brought to light in mainstream coaching by Stephen Covey in his 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and it is a highly effective method of helping sort out the concerns one has in a client’s life.

Your concerns can draw an enormous amount of energy from your resources, so it is important to sort out the details to better focus your attention and energy where it can be useful and have the most impact on your life. The three circles of influence are a great tool for use in this sifting and sorting process.

Once you have completed the work of delineating the three areas which include the things you can control, those things which you can influence, and those things which you have no influence over, then you can choose to focus your energy and attention on the appropriate information as they come to your awareness. This leads to a happier more productive life.

To start, draw three circles on a piece of paper and label them as Control, Influence, and Concerns.

Next place the subjects which you are concerned about throughout your day is each appropriate circle.

Control

In the circle titled “Control” put all the things, you are concerned or passionate about over which you have total control. These will come easily to you, slowly at first, then more rapidly as we go along.

Influence

The “Influence” circle is for all the things that you are concerned about that you may not have direct control over but may have some influence over and could potentially shift the direction of a concern or its momentum by adding your attention or energy to it.

For instance, you may not be able to tell someone what to do, but you could influence them by talking to them, persuading them, or helping to emotionally support or finance them. These are examples of influence.

Concerns

While all these issues which you may or may not have control or influence of garner your attention and could potentially distract you from achieving your highest and best, the circle of “Concerns” contains all those things that you neither have control nor influence over.

No matter what they are or how passionately you feel about them, you simply cannot do anything about them. They go in the circle of concerns.

As you move through this process, if you think more about the items in your circle of concerns that you feel like they are totally out of your control whatsoever, you may realize that you may be able to have some influence over them. Then you can move them to the influence circle.

And if you discover that you have more control over things in your circle of influence than you first gave yourself credit for, you could move them to your circle of control.

Once you have completed this task, you will have charted out those things which you have control or influence over and those that you simply can have no effect on, no matter how passionately you feel about them.

The remaining list of concerns? Just forget about them. Stop wasting your time, attention, and energy thinking or worrying about them.

Focus your attention and energy on those things you either have control of, or can influence, and avoid the others, they are only distractions which drain your precious energy and resources. Stop worrying about them.

Everything You Believe is True

This one thing you know for sure, everything you believe is true. You are so convinced of it that you are willing to testify under oath in court to convince a jury or your peers of it. You believe what you think is true so much that you will gladly shout it from the rooftops, engage in arguments with strangers who dare question you, or defend your truth, even if at the cost of your own life.

If you look back at your life, you will notice that there were instances where what you believed to be true changed dramatically or instantly upon your access to new information which changed the way you thought about something.

Once a belief changes, a domino-effect takes place, one thought topples its neighboring thought in a complicated chain of successive transition as entire concepts of thought are dismantled and rebuilt based on your new information or experience.

Following this process, not unlike a rebirth, your new thought patterns are formed, solidified, and you believe something else to be true, and so it is. And in that moment the whole world changes.

It would not be unusual for you to have second thoughts about your expansion of knowledge and belief, even to have remorse or guilt regarding what you had believed prior to your mind-change.

You might even think something, like

“I can’t believe I believed in a lie.”

We are programmed to think of anything that we don’t believe in as an untruth, or in the extreme, a lie.

If you have discovered anything by now, you know that truth is not black and white. Truth is always expressed in shades of gray, and you, yes you, are the determining factor in what truth is at any given time.

Just try to nail down any philosopher to any distinctive and limited idea of any “truth” and they are often geared-up and ready to act as the “devil’s advocate” in response. They often have a propensity (or training) to blow away any absolute thought or principle, even if they agree with your point of view.

They are likely to reply with something, like, “Yes, I agree with you, but what about in the case of…?” as they challenge your idea, which may be solid as a rock, and permeate your absolute truth with holes that make you think there are certainly exceptions to any hard and fast rule or idea.

And there are.

Change any number of circumstances, and any immutable truth begins to breakdown.

But what about that thing that you believed in the past that you no longer believe to be true?

You feel bad about wasting your time, effort, emotional investment, and maybe even financial support in the belief of something that you no longer believe to be true.

Instead of beating yourself up over having believed in something in the past that may not be aligned with you in the now, think of truth as not being absolute. Instead, think of it as being in the Truth Continuum.

Truth is always a moving target, and it is never untrue or a lie. Just because any truth is not true for you in the here and now at your place in time and space, does not mean that it is not true somewhere else in time and space, or highly held to as immutable truth to someone else now, or in the past.

All truth is evolutionary thought, and it changes as you grow and change.

Therefore, do not limit others in what they choose to believe. Respect others just as you would expect to be respected for what you believe to be true, and don’t think of it as a personal attack if someone challenges what you believe or doesn’t agree with your point of view.

truth is like a garden with all varieties of flowers in bloom
Truth is like a garden with all varieties of flowers in bloom

Think of truth not as a single red rose but as a beautiful garden with all varieties and colors of flowers in bloom. When you do, it is all there to be enjoyed, cherished, and shared, without disrespect or malice of intent.

One day, you might prefer the rose, another day, a bright daisy, and you would never feel bad about someone loving a sunflower at any moment in time, even if you have no interest in the sunflower.

There was a time when I loved dandelions. Even though they don’t do it for me anymore, when I see one, I still remember how fondly I used to think of them.

Truth. Stop and enjoy the full beauty of the garden in bloom.

 

Wheel of Life Balance

Coaches all around the world use the wheel of life to help clients find out where they may be out of balance in particular areas of their life. One of the goals of a coach is to help you achieve balance in life, and this is the generally accepted method of doing so. Please feel free to give it a go and use the wheel of life balance tool to discover where you are at in your life’s balance.

It is well known that those who achieve a consistent degree of balance in their life enjoy a higher quality of life and increased potential for efficacy as they feel better about all the things they do. You could say that they enjoy a smooth ride in life.

A smooth ride is empowering, enabling you to accomplish more with less effort and allows you to essentially remain “in the zone,” positive vibration, or flow of life.

How to Use the Wheel of Life Balance

The wheel of life is a template of ten concentric circles, one inside the other, you can print the template above, or feel free just to draw a bulls-eye-target-like set of ten circles on a piece of paper. On the example I’ve provided, I’ve predetermined a pie chart of the eight most common areas of life balance, but as we work with professionals, there well could be eight areas of balance inside any one of these pieces of the life balance pie.

In this example, the eight areas are Family, Social, Community, Profession, Personal, Recreation, Spiritual, and Financial. Depending on where you are in your life’s path, your coach may help to better determine eight areas that are more pressing in a particular area of your life. For instance, a business person might have Administrative, Legal, Accounting, Marketing, Sales, Management, Customer Service, Website Presence, and Social Media.

You will want to design your own, but for starters, we’ll begin with this general life wheel.

On a scale of one to ten, rate each area and outline the degree of time, focus, attention you give to, and satisfaction you feel about any of the areas of life. When you have completed this task, fill in and darken the area of your wheel of life. Your wheel could look something, like this:

If you were to think of this wheel as being the shape of the four wheels on your car, how smooth of a ride would you feel as you drive along? Pretty bumpy, right? … and you’re likely not going to proceed at a rapid rate.

And so it is with life.

This expresses the efficiency of this tool. Now that you have a visual representation of your life’s balance, you know where you need to make adjustments in your life to better enable you to optimize your performance by achieving a more balanced life, thereby smoothing out your ride.

You can use the wheel of life to check your balances in all your relationships. A couples’ relationship coach might present a romantic wheel of life with areas like Communication, Quality Time, Honesty, Like-mindedness, Trust, Intimacy, Gratitude, and Commitment.

Think about different ways you can use the wheel of life in your personal growth process.

Here’s a blank wheel of life template for you to use. Customize if for your specific needs.

September 2020 Image Directory

Wrapping up the month of September, here’s a quick screenshot review of the month’s news. Let me know which ones you like the most. Thanks for your input, -David M Masters

Phases of Competency Vulnerability and Honesty Build Trust Third-party Threat to Your Relationship
Why Would My Partner Lie to Me? Is Your Partner Being Unfaithful? I Want to Change But I Don’t Know How
Transform From Victim to Mastery What Are the Odds? Fear of the Unseen
Do Dream Then Do Live in a Perfect World and Have Everything You Want?

 

 

 

Moving Through the Phases of Competency

If you find yourself working with a good coach, counselor, or consultant, you will be evaluating and exercising your thoughts, applying them to your skillset, then depending on where you are in the competency scale, you will find yourself moving through the phases of competency.

Not unlike the 7 phases of personal growth, where your mentor encourages you to move up the scale, your coach or mentor will be encouraging you to develop your innate skills to higher levels of competency.

The four phases of competency are

  1. Unconscious Incompetence
  2. Conscious Incompetence
  3. Conscious Competence
  4. Unconscious Competence

At the bottom of the phases of competence, is Unconscious Incompetence. This is to say that you only know what you know, and you have no idea what you need to know, and that’s okay. But when you are quickened, when a thought comes to your awareness regarding a skill you may need that is latent within you, you move from the first phase to Conscious Incompetence, because now you know you need the skill to be activated, but you haven’t done anything about it, yet.

In the third phase, Conscious Competence. You know you need a particular skill and you are actively practicing it. The more you practice, the better you get at it.

Your goal in personal or spiritual growth should be to seek out and embrace those skills which are a good match for you. Skills that resonate with you, who you are, what you do, and what you want to accomplish in this life.

Do not get distracted by skills that do not resonate with you. This is a trap that can keep you focused on trying to acquire skills that are not a good match for you. Too many people on a path to personal, professional, or spiritual excellence get distracted by trying to practice these skills.

Conscious Competence is a very important phase where you are trying on the skill for size to see if it is a good match for you. Once you’ve tried it on, you can see how it feels. If it is not a good match, you can invite someone into your inner circle, or hire someone who is extremely proficient in that area of expertise. You don’t have to master everything, but you do have to try it on.

Why?

Because when you hire someone, how will you know when they are doing a good job at practicing this skill? You will know if you have personally acquired some conscious competence about the skill because you’ve been there, done that.

You will know how to keep an eye on the people you are trusting to perform these skills and tasks for you. The general rule of thumb, when trusting those who are assisting you in your journey is to,

Trust, but Verify

You’ve invited these other people to assist you in your evolutionary process or achieving your highest and best, you’ve entrusted them with participating in your most sacred journey. So, keep a watchful eye on them, because even though you have the best intentions, there are wolves in sheep’s clothing who will seek to thwart your dreams.

Trust, but keep your security mindset about you. If you carelessly allow someone to take down your dream, you really have no one to blame but yourself for more being more cognoscente.

This doesn’t mean to go overboard and remain in a constant state of alert awareness, as this would keep you in a potential virtual state of panic which will wear you down, causing undue energy drain, and deterioration of your health and being.

Practice your due diligence. Know enough about the skill or task that you could do it yourself, but find someone you feel like you can trust who excels at this thing that is not a good match for you but be aware enough to check their work.

Then there is Unconscious Competence. This is when you’ve practiced a skill so much that you do it without thought or effort. You are so good at this thing, that you don’t even have to think about it. It is no longer a process or learned skill so much as it is just something that you do naturally.

Good coaches are always encouraging their clients to move those innate skills to a level of Unconscious Competence, not unlike training a champion archer to shoot blindfolded to move their skills into the Unconscious Competence phase.

 

Vulnerability and Honesty Build Trust

Trust is not just something you bestow upon an individual “just because,” at least not as an adult, especially if you’ve trusted and been betrayed. Only vulnerability and honesty build trust, whether you’ve had it before and lost it, or are trying to share trust in a new relationship.

The depth of a relationship is determined by the amount of trust which can be shared between two people. Vulnerability and trust are the foundation of deep trusting connection.

If you are thinking about offering up a little trust in a given someone’s direction, a wise person does not just throw caution to the wind and say, “I trust you,” (though many of us do, myself included). I tend to be open and honest and just expect others to be the same way, though that is rarely the case as many people have an underlying or hidden agenda in many of their affairs.

When you meet someone, it’s a good idea to trust them with some small things, bits of data which wouldn’t harm you much if they were to get out. Then watch and see how they do. If their trustworthiness appears to be worthy, you could up the ante and see how they handle a little more sensitive information.

Vulnerability is the precursor to trust.

The more you are vulnerable and the more you determine that this person can be trusted, the more you can trust this person.

I have made the mistake of trusting someone whose trustworthiness was unwarranted, and in retrospect, wished I’d followed this sage advice. I would have suffered far less had I taken the time to trust them a little and taken the time to observe their ability to be trusted, before moving into more sensitive areas.

This does not guarantee a foolproof trusting relationship, but it can certainly reduce your losses due to people’s tendency to stab you in the back.

If you previously trusted someone and that trust was broken, it can be rebuilt, but it will take time, effort, vulnerability and honesty, and it will be uncomfortable, the process may even be painful.

There can be no trust without vulnerability.

Before you can rebuild trust, it’s a good idea to start with a clean slate. Not that you simply erase any of the betrayal which has occurred in the past, but you have discussed it. The offender (the one who broke the trust) discloses all the details of the lies, deceit, misrepresentation, and unauthorized disclosures to the victim.

Once the victim has been made aware of all the details, there is a normal negative reaction time, wherein the victim tries to resolve the revealed information. Allow time for the victim to process the information, being vulnerable and honest can be awkward and uncomfortable.

The offender may ask for forgiveness, but this is not necessary. It is up to the victim to decide if rebuilding trust is an option for him or her following the full disclosures.

This serious breach of trust can be overcome using this same process. You allow yourself to be vulnerable a little at a time, and the trust relationship is rebuilt slowly over time.

Note that people are just people, we are all different, and they will do what they will do.

Some people could not tell the truth if they tried. Others couldn’t be trusted as far as you could throw them.

It’s up to you to discover who the people area who pass through your life. To do so you must be aware and the more you trust your intuition, the more you will be likely to ferret them out quickly.

So, the next time you get that feeling inside that “something’s not right,” or you hear something that feels like a lie, pay attention and become aware that you may be trusting someone that may not be trustworthy.

If the person turns out to be a narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath, you would have been able to minimize your exposure to this kind of toxic personality.