Thanksgiving Leftovers

After the thanksgiving festivities are over, and the Black Friday mayhem has begun, many of us are left with that warm, fuzzy feeling of having spent precious moments with the people we love. Bust as we all know, even after the event has come and gone there are always Thanksgiving leftovers.

Not just the goodies piled up in the fridge as late-night snacks, or foods to be repurposed for lunch meals or TV dinners, but the most precious leftovers of all, the memories of spending time with loved ones which welcomes a cascade of even more nostalgic reminders of love’s power and infinite endurance.

This year, I was so blessed to spend the holiday with my people, especially my children, Nathanial, Tabitha, and Jaycie and their families. And, OMG, could anyone have known that EJ and Tim (and all the others who helped in meal prep) would be able to create the most heavenly vegan Thanksgiving meal-spread of all (my favorite was the brussels sprout culinary delights). Family-time, like this, is precious and priceless, and it feels your heart with much love which lasts for long after Thanksgiving Day has come and gone; Thanksgiving leftovers.

You feel the combination of the love and the gratitude and you might like to share some of that amazing energy with someone less fortunate. But this, these precious moments, are your prized possessions and may not be embraced with as much tender honor as you might bestow on these times. Far better to share love with others from an infinite source.

You have the right idea, about sharing love with others who may not have had the opportunity to have an experience like yours, and may be feeling desolate, alone, totally lost and without hope. Rather than share my Thanksgiving leftovers with those who could use some love during the holidays, I prefer sending love to the world from the infinite source of all life and love.

So overwhelmed with feeling so full of love and blessedness that while others were fighting over sale items on Black Friday, I took a long (very long) leisurely walk via a nature trek on one of the most amazing, moderate winter evenings in the Pacific Northwest, and spent almost the entire time sending love to the world.

The beauty of sending love to the world via the infinite source is that it does not deplete any of your own love resources and if you do it right… (drum roll…) it ramps up your own love vibration exponentially. Wa-hoo! (If you could only imagine how I feel, right now… so far above Cloud Nine!)

Now, imagine if you felt like you had no love to share. None. Even the thought of love is like staring into a black vacuum, no feeling, no joy, nothing.

Here comes the good part.

Let’s say, there is no love in you, but you still might like to wish love could be apparent and felt by others, even if you, yourself, could not imagine having any love to share. You, too, could try sending love to the world.

By sending love to the world from an infinite source (such as via the method I walk you through in my Sending Love to the World guided meditation) you become a conduit for love. The love comes down and flows through you as you shower this infinite love over your family, friends, neighbors, community, town, state, country, and the whole world. You cannot conduct this exercise without realizing the residual benefits from doing so.

First, and foremost, you are no longer loveless. You cannot send love to the world without feeling some love leftovers. This residual loveliness is yours to keep. It is your reward for taking a few minutes out of your life to send love to others who may desperately need it. But there’s more…

The act of sending love to the world ramps up your immune system and promotes inner healing (not just psychological, but physiological, also) for up to eight hours. Plus, you feel better and every time you send love to the world, you add exponential time to your life and reverse the process of aging.

Who wouldn’t want to receive love, experience self-healing, feel better, be younger, and live longer?

Taking a few minutes out for Sending love to the world is a small price to pay for all that.

If you might like to give it a try, check out my,

Sending Love to the World Guided Meditation

Thankful and Sending Love to the World

I am so thankful and blessed, not just on Thanksgiving, but every day that I get to spend living life on this planet. I have experienced the greatest of all peak experiences to their fullest and I have weathered the desolate valleys, and if I had a chance to do it all over again, I wouldn’t change a thing.

I am thankful for all the people whom I know and have known, the people who love and support me, and those who don’t particularly care for me, even the haters. They all have been integral parts of my life, which is the most magnificent tapestry.

Of course, I wish everyone could love me, but I am an acquired taste, and not everyone can appreciate me for who I am. I am blessed either way because if it weren’t for those who would rather avoid me, I might take the respect and love I receive from others for granted. It just makes them all the more precious to me.

I suppose life has led me down a path accompanied by a soundtrack I sing along with as I traverse which is often optimistic. Even in the worst of times, I can see the good in all things (albeit, not necessarily at the get-go, but I get there).

It is from this blessed space that I like

Sending Love to the World

Initially, a solitary and private undertaking, I invited others to join me in sending love to the world, for the sake of others who are unable to find joy and may be suffering hardship, especially during the holidays, for, “There but for the grace of God, go I.”

It could easily be me in such a state of loss or disrepair, that I could not see the light, any glimmer whatsoever, and might even contemplate whether my life was worth living at all. It is for these people that I try to remember to take a few minutes out of my holiday season to send them love. And not just them, but broaden my scope to include my family, friends, community, state, country and include sending love to the world.

As I invite people to join me, all I ask is that you set aside at least three minutes from your holiday activities for sending love to the world. I usually send love in ten-minute intervals, but only three minutes of sending love to the world increases the love which radiates in your life, boosts your immune system for up to eight hours, and reverses aging. (Who wouldn’t want to do that?) It doesn’t cost a dime, and is beneficial to others, as you join in, even if only for a few minutes because the effects are cumulative and exponential.

You can send love in any manner which resonates with you. You can pray, meditate, light a candle, or whatever other way you choose to send love to the world. If you’re at a loss about how to engage in sending love to the world, then, by all means, you are invited to try my

Sending Love to the World Guided Meditation

Please, if you have known love, even if you are like me and have loved and lost, at least you have known it, given love, even if it wasn’t reciprocated. So many, have not even had the privilege of knowing love at all.

And for those who are reserved, withdrawn, suffering and in pain, a little love vibration might just be what they need to make it through this tough time in life, and you helped by sending love to the world.

If you’re reading this on Thanksgiving, please consider being bold enough to take a few minutes out of your family celebration to join in sending love to the world. And if Thanksgiving day has passed, please consider doing it anytime during the holidays.

Sending Love to the World runs from November 11th, through the 1st of January, with the most important days being Veterans Day, Thanksgiving Day, Christmas, and New Years. These are the days, when the people who are not doing well may feel the most desolate. You and we can make a difference.

Thank you for joining me this year in sending love to the world.

Please share this with your friends, and invite them to join us.

It Takes All Kinds

Take a walk down any metropolitan street in America today, you will clearly see a wide variety of peoples represented. There is no doubt that it takes all kinds of people to make the world go around and in order not to get in the way of progress, we are better off if we can practice tolerance. And these differences are only apparent from outside appearances. What about what’s happening on the inside?

It Takes All Kinds

It takes all kinds of people who vary massively on the inside to make the world go around. As much as you might like everyone to think just like you do, the chances of you finding anyone anywhere who thinks like you is highly unlikely, if not impossible.

Personal Isolation

Now, you can ostracize yourself in an effort to isolate yourself, only surrounding yourself with like-minded people. The less tolerant you are of others, the fewer people you will enjoy in your social circle. You might like existing as a solitary power of one. For some, there is safety in being alone and not a part of society at all, and that’s perfectly fine because it does take all kinds.

If you do not live a solitary life and you have an open mind, it is likely you can learn extremely valuable information from someone who is extremely secluded from modern society.

Evolutionary Expansion

The practice of tolerance may not be necessary for some anti-social types of individuals, but for the rest of us, tolerance is the key to the successful future liberating all human beings to share in all the benefits offered the human race, including our eventual progressive evolution.

While society would like to separate us and keep us opposed to each other either based on what we look like, how and where we live, how many financial resources you control, or how much royal blood runs through your veins, the trend among ever expanding and evolving peoples are becoming increasingly more tolerant embracing all peoples unconditionally in peace and harmony.

Think about it, when we are intolerant and judge others as being right or wrong, what is the outcome? Dissention, disrespect, separation, wars, and rumors of wars, to say the least. Do you really want to be a promoter of separation?

Something inside you (that higher part of you) knows there’s something about disrespecting or hating your neighbor that does not sound or feel right. And the bases resonance of maintaining separation is not hate, it is the frequency of “fear” which is the polar opposite of love.

Love is the resonate frequency which evolution is moving toward; toward love and away from fear. For years, ever since humankind can emotionally recall, which is a part of our biological makeup, fear has kept us alive and prevented us from being devoured by beasts who might think of us as a nutritious meal.

At this point in our history, human beings are evolving from a fear-based life to a love-based life, and this looks very different from the way we approached living in the past, or even in the now, nonetheless this evolution is taking place and there is nothing you can do to stop it. You can choose to opt out of the evolution, but your refusal to participate will fade generationally.

Science substantiates the benefits of practicing tolerance as an extremely healthy exercise. Every minute you live in the vibratory state of unconditional love, you reap the biological benefits of boosting your immune system exponentially and adding many times to your healthful longevity. Imagine what the possibilities which may be at your fingertips if you could maintain healthful tolerant loving vibratory state. This promotes your evolutionary process, and you can feel the difference.

This further evolved human being enjoys an incredibly fascinating, happy, and healthy prolonged life, with more prosperity and abundance than their lesser-evolved peers, and everything becomes possible.

As we evolve, not only do we resist the tendency to judge others, but we are less likely to judge ourselves, and silence your negative inner voice as well as any hidden demons which may haunt us from our past. Living life on planet earth has never been so free, and if you’ve achieved this level of conscious evolution, you are truly free indeed.

Mood Enhancing Quick Fixes

As good a person you are, you’re reaching out and helping others, taking care of yourself, offering your best to your family and friends, and doing your part to make the world a better place. There’s no doubt you’re living the good life… Still, every once and a while you feel a little down, and you need a little mood enhancement.

If you’re feeling a little down, there can be a host of reasons why your mood takes a nose-dive every so often. When this happens to you there are some things you can do that can get you back on track and feeling better.

Shifting your mood can be done by making a few adaptations that do not take much time nor effort, and can have a profound and immediate effect on your outlook and make you feel even better in no time.

Mood Enhancing Quick Fixes

Some of the most rapid ways to affect your mood include getting your feet off the floor, put them up and take a fruit or veggie break. Dab a little mood-enhancing essential oil on your wrists and neckline, or refresh your favorite fragrance. Take a 5-minute funny break, read some funny comics, one-liners, or make funny faces in the mirror. Take a splash-and-dash (a quick shower) or splash cold water on your face.

If you have a little more time, you could read a few pages, possibly a chapter, of an inspirational book or magazine. Close your eyes and meditate or just listen to the sounds of nature (if you’re able to find some nature to listen to, otherwise silence is golden). Do some stretching exercises, or take a brisk walk to the mailbox or car and back, Pick a small designated area and clean or organize it. Make a green or fruit smoothie and enjoy it peacefully while you are taking a break. Think of all the things your grateful for so far today, boldly jot them down, and while you’re at it, think of people you haven’t contacted for a while; look them up on your phone and send them a text, or at least a smiley face.

With a little more time on your hands, you could get some noise-canceling headphones and listen to your favorite mix, just relax and enjoy the peace and quiet, or set the alarm and take a 20-minute power nap. Pick up the phone and talk to someone you haven’t talked to in a while, or write a letter and mail it. Take a walk down memory lane by creating a new, or going through your photo albums and re-arranging the photos.

Search for possible locations for your next vacation. Get out, take a walk, greet everyone you meet with a smile and a, “Hi,” maybe include a little shopping trip and get yourself a little something-something. Or, light a scented candle and take a half-hour soak in the tub.

You could search-out a new recipe on Google, and plan a little romantic candle-lit meal (could be for one, two, or more).

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Entertained Angels Believe It Or Not

Regardless of what you believe about angels, the fact remains, many have entertained angels unaware (Hebrews 13:2), believe it or not.

Entertained Angels Believe It Or Not
Many have entertained angels, believe it or not

There are many things in life which might seem illogical, unexplainable, or mysterious, like the existence of angels. There are religious texts referring to these angelic beings and if you’ve aligned yourself with or subscribe to the teachings of a particular text which discloses information regarding angels, then you have a particular view or idea about what an angel is.

Angels are not apparent to us in (our) real time due to their inhabitance of another plane of existence or dimension. Even so, just as we can make our presence known and influence the first and second dimensions for our plane of existence, the third dimension, angels can interact with us in our dimension from their higher dimension.

Also, just like consciousness which might inhabit the first and second dimensions might find it difficult to comprehend what we might try to communicate from the third dimension, even with the best intentions, likewise, it is hard for us to wrap our mortal heads around what angels might be trying to tell you.

Ofparticular interest is the fact that some angels have the ability to walk beside us, just as fellow human beings and interact with us, with us none the wiser. In this way, many have entertained angels unaware, believe it or not.

Unfortunately, intellectualism is prevalent in our society has for some time rejected the idea of the paranormal while focusing the attention of knowledge to what can be represented in the laboratory or evaluated via scientific method. This, of course, is a huge problem when approaching concepts, ideals, or facts which we are not able to have access to with any of our five senses nor can we control from the dimension to which our conscious awareness is limited to.

Though there is a conscious evolution taking place that is undeniable which is infecting all life as we know it, and the quest for knowledge and science is not exempt from the evolutionary process taking place.

The seat of this evolutionary process is in the human heart and the expansion of the consciousness, and those who are on the

Just as technology has five stages of adoption,
1. Innovators
2. Early Adopters
3. Early Majority
4. Late Majority
5. Laggards
the same is true for the evolutionary expansion of the consciousness.

The advancement of technology will not stop any day soon, and the eventual adoption of it will be inevitable. Some will resist it, nonetheless, it charges forward, with some people more open to the idea of embracing something new, and others not so much.

In terms of our awareness of angels, their existence, and our ability to interact with them, there also have been innovators, early adopters, an early majority (where we are now, with more people believing in angels than not), the late majority, and the laggards, who will reject the idea of angels, even when it is clearly apparent to the rest of the world.

Even so, evolution continues, and after a while, there will come a point when even laggards will no longer be represented.

In the meantime, angels continue to make themselves known to those of us who are sensitive enough to experience the awareness of their presence and maybe even be privy to understand some of their attempts to communicate with us.

Are angels correctly represented in religious texts? The answer is both yes, and no. The writers and linguists of the time were limited in their ability to understand and document their knowledge. In our present day, we possess a far expansive knowledge base to evaluate data considered as it is revealed to us. In this respect, those who have reported and/or documented regarding angels in the past, may not have been able to have as clear an understanding as we might be able to grasp in the present-day.

But if it were not for those innovators, we might not have any awareness of the existence of angels at all.

So where are you in the five stages of angelic adoption?

Are you an innovator, early adapter, or early majority?

Or are you still skeptical, resigning yourself to be a part of the later majority or among the laggards?

There is no right or wrong here, evolution simply is what it is, whether it is physical or metaphysical.

It is happening now, and you are free to decide where you will be amidst this expansive evolution.

Bless Those Who Have Hurt You

How can we, “Bless those who have hurt you,” (Romans 12:14) when you and I have probably experienced having interactions with other people who have been less than integrous, possibly even nefarious and/or malicious, but at the very least, dishonest; anything from deceitfully maintaining different versions of one’s Facebook account and sneaking around to physically abusing you or embezzling millions of dollars, everything in between, and more.

Bless Those Who Have Hurt You

If you’re like me, your first reaction is to be offended and rush to playing the part of the victim, getting your feelings hurt and accusing the offender of disrespecting or hurting you by their devious acts.

Take the High Road

Now, you could wallow in self-pity and victimize yourself over this issue, allowing your mind, body, and soul to deteriorate, becoming susceptible to degeneration and disease, or you can take the high road and bless those who hurt you. If you can find the wherewithal to bless those who hurt you, you will expand your ability to strengthen your immune system, maintain a more youthful physiology, and enjoy a happier, more exhilarating lifestyle, and enhanced longevity.

Bless Those Who Hurt You

The meat of St. Paul’s letter to the Romans excerpt includes suggesting that we bless those who persecute us and refrain from cursing those who might have even intentionally and maliciously deceived or attacked us.

The power of your spoken response, lies in the ability of your vocal chords in conjunction with your cognitive and vocal abilities to produce a verbal response. The utterance of these words dictates whether your response is a blessing or a curse, and you know the difference.

To bless someone who has wronged you is not only counter-intuitive it is quite the opposite of how our society conducts itself and how you were raised. You’ve been taught that wrong-doers should be punished, and it is the first feeling that we have when someone has disrespected or hurt you either emotionally or physically. Your instinctual caveman or cavewoman response is to smash the thing that makes you feel bad. That more-evolved spiritual version of yourself is completely tolerant.

That means blessing that person, sincerely wishing for them that they find all the love and good things in life in any way that is a perfect match for them, whether you agree with their choice of methodology or not. Even if you are insincere, by going through the motions of forming the blessing with your ability to do so with your ability to vocalize the words, both you and the person who has caused you these ill feelings will benefit from your blessing.

Nothing good comes come from uttering a curse. Interestingly enough, a crafty, maliciously-motivated individual could spin those negative utterances against you, to cast an evil shadow over you, one of the most effective weapons wielded by the psychopath.

When you’ve used your tongue to cast a blessing rather than a curse, the power that creates worlds launches a wave of all good things coming to all participants.

St. Paul understood that you will get more of how you react in this critical moment in the cycle of abuse. Cursing will add more momentum to the negativity by you uttering a curse (or ill will) even if you are hoping that your response will initiate an equal (or greater) negative response, and will offer some form of retribution or justice. But Paul knew, that a negative response begets more negativity, and a positive response begets more positivity, and how much more positive can it get than to bestow blessings upon another.

This is a painful part of your human evolution, the letting go of your intention to demand punishment and revenge. I know, it’s against everything you’ve ever known, but it is a necessary component of your metamorphosis.

Even if it doesn’t feel right, be aware you will receive the same benefits, if you can only gain control of your tongue. The rest will follow in kind.

You have the power to control whether the energy vortex you’re living your life in is positive or negative in this critical moment.

Let love fill you to overflowing and empower you to initiate love’s response in all that is.

Let’s Do This Motivation

You want to, you get the best ideas, even get started on making your dream come true then, well, your best intentions sort of peter-out. What do you do then? Looking for some ideas to help you get back in the game?

Sometimes, just the need to get ‘er done is enough to get you through if your integrity is high and you are in the habit of meeting every deadline in your life, no matter what. If you’re not that self-abusive, you might need to find another way to rustle up some motivation to get you through.

You can look for keywords and catch phrases that get you over the hump. There are lots of quotes which you might find inspirational, search google and find the ones that resonate with you and your project. Review or recite them when your motivation needs a little boost, here and there.

Guilt can be a good motivator. When people depend on you, you might be able to find the wherewithal to follow through with a high sense of obligation to others.

Your sense of pride and integrity might be enough. In fact, many people’s humble sense of pride, the being able to set back and confidently ask yourself, “Did I do that?” Yeah, you did, and you’re very heroic in your effort. Well done, you can congratulate yourself for a job well done, and you pushed through even when the going got rough.

Want to make the world a better place? Your sense of making a contribution, to offer something meaningful for the greater good is an incredible motivation for doing the work necessary to have an impact and make a difference. If your project is congruent with performing your life’s work or accomplishing your life’s mission. Leaving something behind for future generations, having something significant to add to your resume, and possibly be a highlight of your eulogy.

A mastermind group could be huge, and many people report the mastermind being the secret weapon of their success tactics, alternatively any type of group which supports you and your project can help you get over the hump.

Intimidation can also be very motivational. If someone told you that you would never amount to anything, and you know that if you did this thing it would prove them wrong, or even a dare or a bet could be enough to keep you going. Success is the best revenge.

The threat of an undesirable alternative might get you from here to where you want to be. Like, considering what life might be like if you wouldn’t have taken this challenge or embarked upon this particular journey. What if you lost your job, had to take a demotion, got passed up for a promotion, had to take your old job back, or had to learn a new trade?

Setting small goals for mini milestones and achieving them along the way can be extremely motivational and keep you moving forward.

If you’re having a tough time imagining what it would be like to make it through this project to completion, try seeing it in your mind’s eye. Visualization is a powerful motivational tool, to fully see you on the other side of anything that might stand in your way can help give you the oomph you need to make it through.

If you’ve been down this road before and you’ve bailed or failed the last time you tried to put yourself out there, learning from mistakes you’ve made in the in the past can make you more determined not to give in to weaknesses or give you the ability to find more creative solutions this time around.

Review and count your wins. You’ve faced challenges before and made it to the other side, lots of times. Reviewing your success when the going gets rough, can make all the difference, reminding you about how good you are at breaking through.

You might be your own worst enemy unintentionally sabotaging your own success, getting in the way, or making things harder than they need to be. Lighten up, get a second opinion, ask for help, and outsource. You can do this.

Let’s get something done.

Avoid False Love

Have you ever fallen in love with someone only to find out he or she was not everything you thought they were? Who hasn’t? Most of the time if you’re discovered that someone is not appearing to be congruent with what you thought he or she was it’s on you. You gave his or her the benefit of the doubt and wanted to believe the best about him or her, so you turned a blind eye to inconsistencies in the beginning. Other times, something more sinister is at hand and you may find yourself a victim of false love. Is there a way to avoid false love?

When a relationship which has one or both partners engaged in false love, the relationship is unsustainable, and it will not end well. The false lover asserts, “everything ends badly, otherwise it wouldn’t end.”

What attracted butterflies and roses, in the beginning, has turned to trash attracting flies and decay. This happens to most, if not all, of us, as we learn that some things are only for a season and if you’re able to keep your wits about you, you can extract the learning, let go as quickly as possible and continue on your journey more knowledgeable and powerful than you were before finding yourself in false love.

The false love can be on either side. It could be that your partner is the one feigning love to achieve his or her intended purpose. He or she may have led you along, only to accomplish what he or she needed to do. Then, when you outlived your usefulness, he or she moved on, leaving you holding the bag of confusion, wondering, “What’s happening,” “Where’d you go?” or, “What did I do wrong?”

What did you do wrong?

You didn’t do anything wrong, except for to love someone who you thought was authentically loving, just like you were. How were you to know you were just being played?

On the other hand, you may have been the one who engaged the false love in the relationship. If so, you probably know that you had entered the relationship with little or no intention of following through. You have to do what is best for you and if you are unable to have an authentic loving relationship, good luck to you, and I hope for you that you find the love within you to experience greater love for yourself and others, and have more love to share with the world. If this applies to you, the least you could do is to be more honest and open about what the limitations are which should be expected in this relationship early on. To suddenly disappear in a dramatic display of accusations of your partner’s unfounded transgressions out-of-the-blue, is rude and does not reflect on you well. If you think about it, you could do better.

How do you know you were in a false love relationship?

When one or both of you are having false love in your relationship, things go well but the good times are unsustainable because one or both of you lack the depth of real love. Real love empowers he or she who possess it the ability to work through issues (even if they are difficult issues) that may arise in the relationship, while the false lover can easily disregard circumstances and situations which may not be in the best interest of the relationship. Why? Because he or she who is in false love can always leave if things are not going his or her way.

If you are in a relationship with a false lover, you will probably notice your identity begin to fade into a long list of compromises in an attempt to support the relationship. This is because you are in real love. God bless you for your real love, though, as you may know by now, your real love is wasted on the false lover.

A false love relationship is like an emotional roller coaster, and you might find yourself on pins and needles, in a constant state of alert, so that you can avoid any pending drama which may show up and disrupt your life, like an atom bomb, at any moment in time.

When you really need a bit of help and support from a false lover, you will rarely find it, even if you’ve given and supported your partner immensely, you find out that you cannot expect the same in return. This massive inequality is probably the biggest reason you must avoid false love.

When you’re in a false love relationship, you may have intimacy, and the intimacy may be incredible, but it leaves you thinking that something’s missing. Well, you’re right. What’s missing is the key ingredient: Love. Without it, there is no real connection which is required for real intimacy.

Real, authentic, love is not false; it is true love. You know this because you’ve either had it, given it away or had a glimpse of it sometime in your life. In all of the ways love can be given, received, or communicated, the highest and best form of love is unconditional.

Unconditional love is selfless, honors others, does not disregard them, and makes you want the best for, and to please, someone else.

Whatever you do for someone else, if it is not rooted in true love, there is little or no love behind it, only a false love, whether you use the word(s) or not.

True love awaits anyone with the wherewithal to seek it, though the learning curve may be steep, the process is worth it.

True love is waiting for you.

Avoid false love.

Your Highest and Best

I’ve been in the business of heling people achieve their highest and best since following high school. But what is your highest and best anyway? What does it mean to achieve your highest and best?

Your highest and best represents state of being where you are in touch with and congruent with your authentic self. Knowing one’s self helps to make the impossible possible, which is the other basis of achieving your highest and best. While the first part, knowing yourself, facing and dealing with who you are prepares you for the second part which is the achieving of potentials that may have seemed beyond your grasp previously.

The better equipped you are by getting in touch with your unique talents, skills and special abilities, the more empowered you will be in attempting to take on challenges that will enable you to fulfill your life’s purpose, message, passion and mission. Doing so is achieving your highest and best, enabling you to live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.

The work of helping someone achieve their highest and best is fascinating for me because quite often I have the privilege of being in the presence of people when they experience epiphanies. There is no greater satisfaction in my work.

So, what is the work that is done in helping someone achieve their highest and best? Well, it is unique to every person. It is not a one-size-fits-all fill-in-the-blanks-type approach to personal growth. It involves finding that harmonious sweet spot integrating the best (and worst) from your past, exorcising your demons and exercising your unique strengths and special abilities, resulting in an empowered, more evolved, expanded version of your self.

It’s a process of dealing with, rectifying and eliminating regrets from the past, while carving out sacred space to full engage in the now. In this sacred space, you are able to do the work of finding clarity. The more precise your clarity in the things of life, your purpose, message, passion and mission, the more succinctly you can achieve your most incredible potentials.

Everything you have experienced in this life ‘til now has represented a sacred course of study qualifying you for your fulfilling your life’s purpose by proclaiming your unique message with passion which is part of your mission (over the course of our life, you could be called to a variety of missions).

The goal is to integrate all this into an organized approach to do all this with the least amount of struggle and with the greatest possibility of success.

And who does all this work? You.

Often people come to me and ask me to take on their projects and make their dreams come true because to them, that’s what I do (helping people achieve their highest and best) looks like, offering to pay me handsomely to do it. Nothing could be further from the truth. That is not my ministry.

In my line of work, I am not the hero. All I am doing is to help you achieve your highest and best. You. You do the work. All I am doing is supporting you, and helping you see and avoid potential pitfalls and act as your accountability partner. I am not the magician.

The real transformative magic is all the work of you. Your work determines your ability to achieve your highest and best.

This is your mission, should you decide to accept it, to achieve your highest and best, live a better life, your best life and to make the word a better place. This is you. It’s who you are. It’s what you do.

This is you. This is your life. It all comes down to this.

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Friend Betrayal

What can you do about friend betrayal? You trusted your friend, you believed you could trust your friend, you felt confident that your friend had your back, and now you’ve discovered that your friend could not be trusted. You’ve been betrayed by your friend. You didn’t see it coming, and little feels worse. Your heart sunk and you feel like you’ve actually been stabbed in the back as this person, whom you’ve trusted has betrayed you and is twisting the knife, even now.

Friends can surprise us by doing the darndest things when they betray us. You could never have prepared for friend betrayal and they will betray you in ways you could have never even thought of.

Friends have broken trust with friends and betrayed their friends by having an affair with your partner, by sabotaging and keeping you from achieving your highest and best, rallying your other friends to turn against you, spreading rumors, gossip, dirty laundry, or telling others tales of sensitive information you shared in confidence, talking behind your back, breaking promises, assaulting your financial wellbeing, fronting you off in public humiliating you, judging you for circumstances beyond your control viewing you in a negative light, blaming you for something they (or someone else) did, aligning themselves with someone else’s false accusation(s) about you, and the list goes on and on… as the betrayal leaves wounds and scars.

How can you deal with the betrayal?

Review the betrayal but don’t ruminate over it endlessly, every time you imagine the betrayal, it creates the emotional response and damages your wellbeing. Reliving the betrayal reduces your immune system and causes emotional and physiological deterioration. Stop it.

Try to think about the betrayal from your friend’s point of view. Considering his or her life, what’s led up to this point of betrayal, what might it have felt to the betrayer? Ask yourself, is this a one-time event, or is it something you might witness again?

If you are able to look at the betrayal from a wider perspective, taking all things into consideration, could your friend have thought he or she was doing you a favor or helping you out in some way from his or her perspective? Intention may offer the opportunity to avail the benefit of the doubt, or was he or she deceptive or maliciously motivated?

Remember that your friend is more than this betrayal. There is a real person in there and the person who betrayed you may not have had any intent to do so, taking an action (or not taking action) without thinking through the consequences of his or her action or inaction. Review the good qualities your friend has and balance these against the betrayal.

Ready yourself for having a conversation with your friend about the betrayal. Find a centered and calm space within you for having this uncomfortable conversation, without accusing or blaming your friend. Simply and honestly tell the story from your perspective, let your friend know how you feel, and let your friend respond from his or her point of view.

As your friend explains his or her side of the story, try to listen without judgment, you might be surprised at how differently the situation looked from your friend’s perspective. Or, on the other hand, your friend may only be harshly defensive or defiant and unapologetic. Take the negative response under advisement as a red flag for maintaining a friendship into the future.

Fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me

If your friend has betrayed you once, you could give your friend the benefit of the doubt. If you’ve been betrayed twice by the same person, now you know that you can expect to be betrayed again.

Remember that your friend is not a bad person, but you must manage the sacred space which surrounds you. This is your responsibility to create a safe environment for you to live your life. You may have to change the relationship, proceeding with caution in the realization that your friend cannot be trusted with certain things, just understanding that your friend just is as they are, and you cannot (and you shouldn’t even try to) change him or her. Another option is to sever the relationship altogether.

Friend betrayal will certainly have an effect on the viability of your friendship over time, and it’s up to you to decide whether you can successfully manage a friendship which has suffered such a transgression, or whether you’re better off without having this person in your life at all.

Life is short. Create a life for yourself that leans toward your enjoyable, life-affirming better life, your best life, and find ways that you can live in a manner which can lead to making the world a better place with integrity and love.