There’s a Pill for That

Medications to Prevent Free Thinking

No matter what you believe in, there are medications that will counteract your inclination to engage in such thought processes. If you so desire, at any time, you can be medicated to prevent you from obsessive thinking or believing things that do not serve you, so that you can live a “normal” life.

There are pharmaceutical drugs in the form of pills, injections, psychiatric re-programming techniques, and medical-surgical procedures to keep you from suffering from the effects of being in love, or grieving the loss of a loved one, so that you can get on with the living of life as a (nearly) normal person.

And for those who desire such relief, thank God it is there. For the rest of you, free thinkers a conspiracy looms in the distance.

There’s a Pill for That

If you are thinking that this (or anything else) might be a conspiracy, there’s a pill for that.

If your child is a bit too creative, inattentive, or is not easily managed, there is a pill for that.

If you’re too zealous about your religious endeavors, there’s a pill for that.

If you are resistant to the idea of supporting modern pharmacology, there’s a pill for that.

If you believe in angels or aliens, there’s a pill for that (same pill).

If you believe the government is watching and monitoring you (and you care about it), there’s a pill for that.

If you think you should have rights beyond those which are offered by the current administration, there’s a pill for that.

If you believe in natural healing, homeopathy, energy healing, laying on of hands, etc… there’s a pill for you, too.

There’s a bigfoot pill, a “hearing the voice of God” pill, a deep spiritual connection (with anyone or anything) pill, and if you’d do anything to help someone else who is unable to help themselves, there’s a pill for that, too.

Our society is getting ready for controlling the masses. Yes, you may have the right to “free speech” (although, from what I’ve seen lately, I’m beginning to wonder about that… and I know, there’s a pill for that, too) but increasingly, it looks like the government and medical institutions backed by pharmaceuticals are gearing up for “normalizing” the general population.

I get it. Our numbers are growing and a majority of us are calling out for being supported by the system, which would be nearly impossible to manage if we all were independent thinkers.

Agreeing to accept some degree of normality, will mean you get help, medical, food, housing allowance, a government stipend. But, if you “color outside the lines” you may risk being diagnosed with

Individuality Psychosis

If you are labeled as having some form of individuality psychosis, where will you be then?

Cut off.

And if you persist in your refusal to comply, there may be legal consequences for refusing.

So, you must be “normal.” What is normal?

Ask any public servant what normal is. He or she will answer, go to school, get a job, pay for rent and utilities, go to enough school and learn to be obedient and you could get a State-job, so you can drive a nicer car and buy a pretty good house with a white picket fence and garage with an extra fridge for beer and/or a wine cellar. Oh, and don’t forget a huge cable package and blistering-speed Internet.

And when you’ve served your time, you can have a little retirement to hold you over while you grow old, deteriorate, and get ready to make room for someone else.

It’s all a part of the “normal” cycle of life.

This system makes perfect sense, and those who have devised it, profit wildly from it.

But free thought is likened unto criminality, familial dysfunction, potential violence, and abuse.

To think for one’s self, to imagine yourself evolving to a higher state of being, would be considered as the same type of problems that would be presented by persistent rule-breakers, substance abusers, the unemployed, homeless people, and those who regularly engage in domestic violence.

Individuality breeds chaos, where anything could happen. It’s a problem.

How in the world could we ever manage a populace of freethinkers?

Impossible.

So, they create elaborate social structures to keep people thinking that they are free within the invisible walls which we keep them safely restrained within, and we make them think that because they have freedom of choice, to choose between two options, they are free.

But the world, the universe, is not limited in choices or options. If you were able to think freely, were allowed to grow, evolve, and expand in conscious awareness, you would know that options are limitless, and possibilities are infinitely endless.

But that would be crazy!

There’s a pill for that.

 

Lab Mice

Let’s say you are a member of a team of scientists whose job is to run tests on mice 24/7 just to see how they react to certain stimuli or forced to make their way through some series of circumstances or to see how they respond to threats or dangerous situations.

You and your team have a nearly unlimited amount of space in your laboratory, and thanks to the nature of your test subjects to multiply, there is never any shortage of them. In fact, their tendency to continue to multiply could exceed the number of tests that could be run on them.

Losing some of the test subjects along the way is expected and a normal part of the scientific process. Granted, if their populace becomes overwhelming, riskier or disastrous tests could be run to thin out their tendency to overpopulate every so often.

With the exception of the first pair of mice which came to the laboratory while it was being built, all the mice have been born into this laboratory environment. To them, this is their home, and all the lights, testing equipment, and observation gear, is their normal environment, and they are quite content to accept their life as it is.

They know, for the most part, that their basic needs will be met, with few interruptions, and they will have to endure some challenges.

The scientists, you and your colleagues, are charged with coming up with an endless supply of these challenges to see how they react, how you can manipulate them en solo or en masse.

Long ago, even with the first pair of mice, the founders of this project determined that fear was the most powerful weapon which could be wielded in an effort to control the behavior of the mice.

Every now and then, in the course of running an experiment on a group of mice (sometimes a very large group) one of the mice will stop amidst the flow of energy. Just stop in its tracks, and look up, as if to stare one of the scientists in the eyes.

In that moment, this mouse experienced a moment of clarity, essentially triggered by something in the DNA which was bestowed by the original mice. That first pair of mice knew what it was like to be free, to wander and frolic in the wide-open spaces, to not have anyone or anything experimenting on them. And this cellular memory was passed onto every mouse which they spawned.

Every now and then, a mouse (though not all mice) experiences that moment when they break character and start to see things clearly.

Not a problem for the scientist. By simply wrapping on the glass, or frightening the mouse in some way, quickly returns to mouse into its “natural state” of being a faithful test subject.

Occasionally, a mouse will often have these moments of clarity, and they are quickly identified, marked, and tracked. If their resistance to participate in the experiments continues or becomes problematic, they are set aside and become test subjects of experiments designed to break their inclination to see things as they really are, or other types of experiments which could have the most dire results.

The team has agreed that one subject (or group of subjects) must not be allowed to compromise the entire project at hand.

Unless, of course, the team has selected a mouse to be a part of an experiment to see what effect it might have on other mice in its social circle. This is an entirely different type of experiment, maybe one of the experiments you, as a member of the scientific team, might enjoy the most.

In my opinion, you as the scientist, have the most amazing job in this scenario. You get to control everything, which to the mice, all seem very natural and normal, supernatural, or as acts of God. To be the lab mice? Not so much, but it is what it is.

You, as the scientist, can expose certain mice to information but not the others to see what happens. You can program or expose one mouse to all kinds of drama and trauma then throw it in with another group of mice to see what happens. You can put chemicals in their food or water and chart the results. You can expose them to “natural disasters” and track the data. The opportunities are endless.

And every once in a while, if you’re feeling anxious, you can run your own experiment, just to see what happens in some crazy scenario that maybe no one else would have even thought of trying, just to satisfy your own sense of morbid curiosity.

Not to worry; after all, they are only mice.

Even if the mice think they are more than test subjects in a laboratory, limited to this lab environment, the fact remains: They are.

Try as they might, it is highly unlikely that any one of them could escape the boundaries of the laboratory. Though a few have, over the years, escaped the lab to live the life which they knew to be possible, a life of freedom enjoyed by their ancestors.

Every time one escapes, new procedures are protections are put in place to make sure it never happens again.

You can be sure, right now, one of them is thinking about what life would be like outside the lab.

February 2020 Image Directory

Wrapping up the month of February, here’s a quick screenshot review of the month’s news. Let me know which ones you like the most. Thanks for your input, -David M Masters

What to Do When Feeling Overwhelmed 7 Bonding Hormone Boosters for More Oxytocin

Trust the T Word in Love and Relationships

A-type Personalities in Love What is a Power Couple? How Long do You Date Before Becoming Boyfriend Girlfriend?
7 Infatuation Signs Difference Between Love and Infatuation 7 Steps to Attract Your Soulmate
The Search for Love and Romance

 

 

 

 

What to Do When Feeling Overwhelmed

Your intentions are good. You want to make the world a better place. You’ve found opportunities for yourself to answer the call and take action. you’ve volunteered and are pushing forward at an incredible pace. Then, as your energy and enthusiasm reservoirs begin to deplete, you can start to feel overwhelmed.

Your enthusiasm, willingness to be supportive and commit to positive action exceed personal capacity and you feel as if you’ve overcommitted, overbooked, overworked, and are overwhelmed. What can you do?

What to Do When Feeling Overwhelmed

Every now and then I need to remind myself to better enforce my own personal boundaries and just say, “No,” to some invitations to participate, even when I really, really want to play on a particular project.

Some basic methods to apply to your sense of feeling overwhelmed include a review of what you actually have to deal with. Take a look at your schedule and map out on a calendar all the things you’ve committed yourself to, while categorizing your activities. This might sound like a daunting task, but you can make it fun.

I’m a visual person, so I grab a few bags of Skittles before conducting a review and use specific colors for different categories of tasks. Each tasty morsel represents an hour of commitment.

If you’re like me, I do tend to let my enthusiasm overpower my capacity, and seeing this visual representation is eye-opening. It’s no wonder I feel overwhelmed. There are not enough hours in a day to process all these sugary colors of the rainbow.

Are there any of these candies that can be removed or delegated? Can you find better ways to reduce the time it takes to complete a task? Reducing a task from a row of five green Skittles to two could give you a huge advantage over your sense of feeling overwhelmed about that item.

If your Skittles are all in order and your obligations do not exceed your capacity, you can still feel overwhelmed due to limitations of your mental capacity. This is to say that some projects require more mental focus and may be more challenging than others, and this can cause you to feel more anxious and overwhelmed when engaged in them.

There is usually an element of fear associated with them, as they may be well outside your comfort zone. But note that the highest levels of satisfaction are achieved from working in this area, and the result is increased self-confidence and personal growth.

You may have fear associated with your ability to perform. You may have those negative inner voices telling you you’re not good enough, not qualified, not deserving, not born into the right family, not worthy of achieving your highest and best, when nothing could be further from the truth.

You may be fearful that things may not turn out the way you had planned. You may be afraid that other people will see you not perform as well as you had hoped. You may have tried something in the past that did not turn out well, or possibly even suffered some negative result from having tried at all, and this might have you afraid that something bad might happen.

These kinds of fears and activity going on inside your head and added stress felt in the body can exasperate your feelings of being overwhelmed exponentially.

When you start feeling overwhelmed and feeling like you’ve bitten off more than you can chew, you need to get a grip on yourself, and realize that most of what you are feeling is not real. I’m not saying that your feelings are not real. What I am saying is that your feelings are exaggerated by your thoughts.

So, if you can center yourself, stop all that activity that’s causing your mind to spin wildly and negatively, while calming your nervous system, you might be able to have a moment of peaceful clarity, possibly many moments.

Be still and meditate or find your place in space. Meditative practices, guided visualization, prayer, or just immersing yourself in a peaceful loving environment and state of mind can offer you this peaceful state of mind. You may also release emotional trauma with Tap Cross Therapy.

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Focus your attention on being in the now of this present moment. Even though you may have felt as though you were in a state of panic, which is no surprise as your fight-or-flight mechanisms were triggered as if you were under attack and prepared for battle, just moments ago.

In this space, you will be able to have the peace of mind and fortitude to examine your obligations and rate them according to your values and priorities. Without being harassed by your mind and physiological responses to your thoughts, you may find that you’re not actually as overwhelmed as you thought you were.

You may also find that some obligations you’ve committed yourself to do not actually align with your long-term goals or life’s purpose. If so, you may need to find ways to gracefully bow out of these projects or offer someone else the opportunity to serve in that capacity.

Remember who you are, and seek to engage in activities that resonate with you and can lead you to living a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.

7 Bonding Hormone Boosters for More Oxytocin

Sharing activities that boost Oxytocin and mix a dash of adrenaline in the cocktail have the most lasting effect on increasing your love bonding.

And here are 7 other well-known activities you can do to boost the bonding hormone, Oxytocin, that will also help to deepen your love relationship:

1. Listen to music together

The act of two people sharing a song together boosts the bonding hormone. Share each other’s favorite playlists. Go to a nightclub that provides good music, kick up the ante by kicking up your heels and getting out on the dance floor. For the biggest boost, go to a concert together.

2. Go on an adventure

Do something or go somewhere you’ve never been before. Anything you can do to make it a little more exciting, like trying a paddleboat, going on a hike, riding go carts, going on a roller coaster. The more you add a little adrenaline, the greater the bond.

3. Snuggle

Oxytocin is known as the “cuddle hormone,” so do more of that. The 7 second hug is notorious for boosting the bonding hormone. Make more occasions to snuggle on the couch, and embrace each other more spontaneously, it works.

4. Have meaningful sex

Sex is fine, but when you make it something meaningful when a couple is aligned and the lovemaking is an extension of your heartfelt connection one with the other, this is the physical representation of genuine bonding through physically sharing each other, essentially drinking in the full flavor and thoroughly enveloping of each other.

5. Meditative practices

Meditative practices, such as guided visualization, meditating, or practicing yoga together will ramp up your Oxytocin-fueled bonding mechanisms.

6. Volunteer

Get out and do something together for the greater good, to add value to your community, help someone in need, and make the world a better place.

7. Gift giving

Even the smallest token of appreciation or expression of affection in the form of a gift can light up Oxytocin and deepen your bond with your partner. It doesn’t have to be big or store-bought, something you make with your hands, even a note or silly poem will do the trick.

All this attention to detail and each other with an open mind, and without judgment, increases your level of trust as your hearts meld together in truth and honesty.

Will it be easy? Hell no. The best stuff is never easy, and if it were, it wouldn’t last long.

You are both on independent journeys, but this co-creative journey which you share, could be the highlight of your life’s path, an integral part of your unique destiny.

And if you can survive this deepening relationship, you are well on your way to true and enduring love.

Want to learn more about how to best love your beloved, or help others explore the boundaries of their love?

Check-in with my friends at St Paul’s Free University, or contact me, I’m David M Masters, and you find out more about me at davidmmasters.com

Trust the T Word in Love and Relationships

Trust the “T” word in love and relationships. I know, we hear more about trust, and its antithesis, betrayal, all the time. And though it is rare, you may encounter the occasional narcissist, sociopath, or psychopath, who will lure you into what appears to be “genuine bonding” but is only a scam, to exploit you, and leave you broken and nearly lifelessly discarded when he or she is done with you.

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But if you’ve vetted your partner, and you’re sure you can trust him and her, and you can feel your love one for another growing, then you are ready to move to the next phase of love.

You need to know that,

“If I gave you all my love, metaphorically standing naked before you, allowing you to see all my most private, sensitive, and highly guarded secrets and insecurities, I know that you would honor this openness, and return the openness in kind. And I feel assured, that as we enter this new phase together, no matter what happens, no matter what becomes of this, you will love and honor me, as I will you. Because, after all is said and done, I know you really love me underneath it all.”

If you can say that in lovingly assured confidence, you are ready to trust your partner even more.

When you get to this stage, there is a major shift in your love relationship. Your love that you share with your partner is a strong bond like an impenetrable fortress that radiates love to all those who approach your loving energetic field.

Now, it is rare that lovers make it to this stage. More than likely, couples will have thrown in the towel and given up by now. For others, just the idea of moving a relationship to this level of openness is just too frightening, and they will begin reacting in ways that will cause the relationship to deteriorate, fail, or just walk away.

I mean, think about it. If you’ve been protecting yourself just to make it through each day of life ‘til now, just ignoring and denying the past, your inner demons, and cries of your inner child, just to get to today… why would you risk all the effort you’ve exerted? It’s been like a brutal battle that you fight every day. Why would you risk it all?

Then there are other couples who have survived together for decades drenched in denial, secrets, and live a good life, without taking any risk of truly opening up, and that’s okay, too. There’s no judgment here, we’re all just doing the best with what we have. Right?

But just like in the personal performance or spiritual growth and expansion paths, it is the digging down and allowing all those negative energies to bubble up so that you can deal with them, and let them go, that takes us as people to the next level, and is an important part in our expansive evolutionary journey as the human race.

To be free from the past, to be free from the fears, to be free from the chains that bind you, is where true freedom can be found, and to have the chance to share that kind of freedom with another leads to true freedom, and bliss.

And know this is a process. It’s not like it’s a one-shot deal, where you go away for the weekend and tell each other’s everything to each other. No, it’s a lifelong process, as each of you peels back more and more layers of the onion which is you.

This is hard work. Sometimes tragic. You might be privy to information that you might have rather not known, sometimes about people who you have to see and interact with periodically throughout your life.

You love your partner, and when he or she tells you these most intimate details, you don’t judge, ridicule your partner, or make light of it, because you love your partner, more than anything. You might find yourself being strong for your partner, or joining in a tearful brigade that could fill a lake.

And your genuine bonding need not only be deep and dramatic, you could do eye gazing. Just 5 minutes of doing nothing but facing each other and staring into each other’s eyes will release significant levels of the bonding hormone, Oxytocin. What happens after that is up to you.

A-type Personalities in Love

It’s safe to assume that you would be considered an “A” type personality. You’ve carved out your niche in the world, and you are achieving new heights in your specialized field, and there’s plenty of room for you to grow and expand. Ain’t nothin’ gonna slow your roll.

For the purposes of mating and having a successful love relationship, a solid “B” personality man or woman would make the best match for you. Someone who could use a little nurturing and leadership while effectively sharing the life that on you are able to give him or her. Someone who would respect you and be grateful for the lifestyle they can enjoy.

Someone who understands that you’ve got an hour-and-a-half commute in unbearable traffic after a stressful day doing what you do to get things done, and by God, things better be okay at home. The last thing you need is more drama and trauma, right? And your “B” type personality partner gets that, and is willing to put off his or her needs, waiting for a more appropriate time, when you have the bandwidth to see to his or her needs.

Now, what happens when you’re coming home to another mover and shaker mate? Someone who is your equal, equally powerful in the world, who has also been moving about the world in a massive flurry of activity?

What is you’re both coming home from a stressful day at work and need to let off steam?

This is the toxic combination, and it’s why most power couples fail. But you can manage a successful power couple relationship, if you can find the wherewithal to be thinking about how to keep your private home life separate from your public life. Both can be powerful, but the power most likely must be very different.

Believe me, you do not want to try those success tactics that are so effective in your public life on your power mate. He or she will see it coming a mile away, and if your mate takes a defensive position, Armageddon is on the horizon, and there may be bloodshed.

The good news for the power couple, is that your partner understands or “gets you” in a way that no one else could. He or she knows exactly what you’re going through, even if the two of you are successful in totally different arenas, you both get it.

You will be miles ahead toward a successful, loving power couple relationship by creating transitional space between your public powerhouse and your private love life.

I’ve found that power couples need time and sacred space to transition from their fierce lion or lioness persona to their loving partner persona. And there should be a clear difference.

I know a power husband who has an hour-and-a-half commute home from his full-on powerful business environment, and he stops by the drive-in coffee stand after work, gets a hot chocolate drink, and turns on the Christian radio station as he merges onto the highway. Now, he’s not a Christian, but he finds the music soothing, and by the time he gets home, he’s ready to unite with his lover.

His power wife is keeping track of the time, she doesn’t have a long commute, so she tries to manage her transition at approximately the same time as her husband’s commute. But she is more likely to put on soft music, meditate, or soak in a hot bath, while filling the house with aromatic therapeutic scents.

It’s not important what you do, what’s important is that you are creating a transitional space where you have the ability to decompress and transform from Godzilla to the loving man or woman you desire to be with your partner and he or she is doing the same.

This is on you. You need to find effective non-destructive ways to help you wind down and transition as an expression of your love, honor, and respect for your sacred union.

Making room to spend quality time together outside of your hectic power schedules is a given. You need to have these special times away from the hustle and bustle to align and just get lost in each other’s presence.

It is likely that in these moments of private prolonged bonded solitude that your best ideas will emerge of co-creative ideas that will have a huge impact on your family, friends, community, the greater community, and the world at large.

So, make time to get away to co-create, live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.

I think it’s really important for a power couple to have a powerful support system. I would serve your best interests to have a therapist and relationship coach on board, and the more powerful you are, the more support you might need. Maybe each partner has his or her own therapist and relationship coach, just sayin’.

And if you’re doing it, and you are a power couple, by all means, you are becoming an incredible force of nature and the two of you can bring so much to the world.

You can grow in your relationship by combining your special powers and abilities.

God bless the power couples.

And God bless you for being willing to go forth, against all odds, to be the next power couple for the rest of us to admire.

Thank you for all that you do.

 

What is a Power Couple?

If you’ve contemplated the melding of two powerful love personalities into one, you may have asked, “What is a power couple?” and could you and your partner ascend into such a powerful love relationship? Discover what does power couple mean and find out if this appeal to you and your partner. If you’re ready to amplify the efficacy of your relationship as the ultimate gift to the community and world at large. Being a power couple is not for everyone, but if you have the desire and ability, the two of you combined can bring so much more together to the world than either of you could independently. Hand in hand you can bless others and make the world a better place.

You’re no slacker in real life and you may be considered an “A” personality, a leader, or a powerful person, and it would be no surprise if you were attracted to another similarly powerful person. While it is more common for opposites to attract, like an A and a B-type personality, when two powerful people get together, the potential of combining these two powerful forces of nature can be exponentially magnificent, or it can become a chaotic nightmare.

So, what is a power couple?

It is two powerful people uniting their gifts and abilities in love for the greater good. And knowing the potential for this becoming a toxic tragedy may give you a real advantage when challenges come to the surface. Know also that you will have to give more attention to nurturing this powerful romance than your peers.

Be forewarned that far more power couples do not make it for the long haul. We all cheer them on for making the decision to go for it, and we are heartbroken on their behalf when it all comes crashing down.

Power coupling can be scary business, but there’s no doubt for the people who have dared to give it a go and focused on deepening their relationship and sacrificing their egos to unite sincerely, they have succeeded amazingly. To spark your imagination, here are 7 power couples that you might use for inspiration, such as:

1, Eleanor and Franklin D. Roosevelt

2, Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis and John F. Kennedy

3, Johnny Cash and June Carter

4, Kurt Russell and Goldie Hawn

5, Kevin Bacon and Kyra Sedgwick

6, Jay-Z and Beyoncé

7, Kanye West and Kim Kardashian

Okay, so you’ve set your sights on, or already in a relationship with a co-creative powerful being.

Depending on the demands put on you every day, when you’re out there in the world kicking ass and taking names, you can be under a lot of stress, and you wouldn’t have made it this far if you hadn’t already found ways to deal with the stress and come out on top.

You’re creating, managing, delegating, negotiating, making decisions, and giving orders. Whether you were born with the ability to get things done, or if these were learned skills doesn’t matter. What does matter is this is who you are in the world. And the world looks at you, and they are impressed,

How Long do You Date Before Becoming Boyfriend Girlfriend?

Coupling is all about transitioning from a dating relationship, getting to know each other better, to a more significant relationship which is more exclusive in nature where we are concentrating on each other to see if more depth and meaning is awaiting our relationship and to discover more about our compatibility and potential of loving each other. So, how long do you date before becoming boyfriend/girlfriend, and what does it mean to be in this next phase of love? Can friends become a couple? As you become a couple you might ask when should you move in with your significant other?

Okay, you’ve met someone, and you’re hitting it off. You’ve had time to evaluate each other, you may have nothing in common, but you’re attracted to each other. You’ve found common ground. While you have your differences, you enjoy each other’s company and you could see this going forward. So, how long do you date before becoming boyfriend-girlfriend?

When you transition from getting to know each other to become a couple, you don’t have it all figured out yet, you’re just creating a sacred space to get to know each other better, and depending on your desires, you may want to enter into an agreement where exclusivity plays a part in this new phase of love.

The coupling phases is not unlike two coupling of two train cars, which are joined together for a specific purpose, to get from here to there, then to go on to some other location, which may or may not be with the car you were initially joined to, as one car may be en route to an entirely different location.

When you transition from acquaintance to a relationship where you’re getting to know each other better, the whole dynamic changes, and quite often there is an inclination to exclusivity, and you agree not to see other people while you are getting to know each other better.

There is a lot going on in this phase and if you are not specific about where your intentions are focused, there can be miscommunication and misinterpretations causing confusion and a bit of mayhem along the way.

This can be a very sensitive phase for the partner who is more concerned with the possibility of moving forward into a long-lasting love relationship, yet not taken so seriously by the casual dater, so it is important to remain cautious in this phase and the one who is more casual may not be forthcoming of his or her true intentions regarding the potential for this relationship’s potential future.

So, how long do you date before becoming boyfriend-girlfriend?

When do you become boyfriend and girlfriend?

Certainly, not at the outset, just because you’re getting to know each other better. I mean, I remember when I was six years old, and I wrote a love note to Tamara Watts. I drew a big heart on the paper and wrote: I love you. Do you love me? Check one: __ Yes  __  No  __  Maybe  __ You want to marry me.

And if she’d replied at all, we would have been boyfriend and girlfriend on the playground and possibly even talked about getting married.

You’re not six years old anymore.

Today, you are not boyfriend and girlfriend unless you are in an exclusive relationship, which means you both agree not to see other people while you are getting to know each other better.

If you’ve had this discussion and both agree to the terms of being boyfriend and girlfriend, because it means different things to different people, then you can say your boyfriend and girlfriend.

Remember this: The object of your affection will not be exclusive unless you’ve had this discussion and have agreed to the terms of it.

Sometimes your desire to be with someone in a meaningful relationship can overshadow your sense of reason and you can assume some of the parameters of your prospective relationship as if it was just understood.

Then, when you find out that your boyfriend or girlfriend was “seeing” someone else. And the seeing could include anything to varying degrees of disapproval by you. But you have no right to be upset because you have not agreed to any terms considering those things.

If you have had this talk and agreed to the terms, then okay. You do have a right to be upset and maybe you’ve just discovered that your boyfriend or girlfriend is a scoundrel. Good thing you found out now before you started living together.

The number one thing you want in a relationship, if you are normal, is trust. But you cannot impose trust on anyone who has not agreed to the terms.

So, the answer to how long do You Date Before Becoming Boyfriend Girlfriend, is not a specific number of days, weeks, months, or even years. It’s until you’ve had the boyfriend/girlfriend discussion and have agreed to the terms of the potential deepening relationship.

But we’re such good friends. Can friends become a couple?

I mean, you need to be with someone you can trust, and I’ve been attracting people who are less than trustworthy. But I can trust my friend, shouldn’t we consider becoming a couple?

Let me offer you a WARNING:

If you are attracting people who are not trustworthy, it will be unlikely that you can trust anyone who is attracted to you.

If you can trust your friend, there exists the greatest chance that if you enter into a relationship with your friend, you will not be able to trust him or her.

Why?

Because the people you are attracting into your relationships are a perfect match for you and your vibration at that time. So, if you’re attracting people who can’t be trusted, then you will keep attracting people who can’t be trusted unless you change your vibration.

And changing your vibration is a different subject.

Moving in.

As you become a couple you might ask when should you move in with your significant other?

Whoa, that’s a whole new level, right?

You’ve got to have another talk, and this one’s bigger than the boyfriend/girlfriend talk. Because you can put up with a lot that you don’t know about the intricacies about how your prospective partner is in the privacy of his or her own home.

If you haven’t broken up during the boyfriend/girlfriend stage, there’s an increased chance of breakup following moving in with each other.

But if you can survive the boyfriend/girlfriend stage, you are getting to know each other better, and are building your trust one for the other as your relationship grows, and you’re talking about cohabitation, and potentially you might be able to skip some of the less comfortable phases of love.

Regardless of what phase of love you are in, there is hope for you. There is always hope, but you need to have these important conversations and spell out what your expectations are. If you get agreement, you can expect to move forward. If not, well, good luck.

7 Infatuation Signs

What is the difference between love and infatuation? It will take a bit of work on your part to figure out what the difference is, because you will have to help in the defining process. You must have a good idea of what infatuation is, then it’s up to you to determine what love is for you, because as you may already know “love” means different things to different people.

When you’re feeling attraction toward someone you can ask yourself, “Is this love or infatuation?” If you have your wits about you, knowing the answer upfront can have a tremendous impact on how your potential relationship unfolds with the person who has captured your attention.

Both infatuations and love have attraction as a key component, so it’s no surprise that you get confused because it’s confusing, plus you have all this chemistry firing off within your biology which is throwing you for a loop.

Hopefully, you can find the wherewithal amidst all this confusion to review the

7 INFATUATION SIGNS

  1. SUPERFICIAL ADORATION

Yes, you are over-the-top enamored with the object of your affection. You only see his or her amazing qualities and you feel somewhat unworthy of their attention when you compare your humanity to their perfect attributes, which makes you feel like the luckiest person in the world to be with him or her. You focus on your vision of this person rather than really getting to know and connect to him or her.

  1. SENSE OF URGENCY

The way you feel about this person is accelerating at an incredible pace, and there is a sense of urgency to move the relationship forward hard and fast, as if there were no tomorrow, and you might end up losing out on the opportunity to be with this person for the long term if you don’t act now. Your rational self would not want to appear to be in such a desperate rush.

  1. LOSS OF SELF

It’s as if you’ve forgotten who you are, or in the shadow of the object of your affection, you just don’t matter. Your desire to please or appear to be pleasing to your partner is so strong that those meaningful parts of you fade away into the background as you feel less important and you begin to mold yourself into a version of him or her. It’s no longer about you. You are willing to sacrifice yourself for him or her.

  1. SEX DRIVING

Mind you, there’s nothing wrong with having a healthy sexual relationship, but when your sex drive is the driving force and it overshadows your desire to have a meaningful, open, honest, compassionate, and deep connectedness with your partner, there is little or no room for love.

  1. ACTING

The activities that you find yourself involved in, the partnering show that you’re playing out for your partner, and onlookers, does not feel authentic to you. And when you have those brief moments of clarity when you ask yourself, “What am I doing?” Your infatuation brushes that thought aside and forces you to reengage your acting your part again, because that “feels” better than being alone. So, you continue play your part and promote the façade.

  1. SUCCUMB TO CONTROLLING

Normally, you may be fairly confident and independent, but if you’re lost in infatuation, you may be willing to compromise your own personal dignity to unusually acquiesce to your partner, allowing him or her to control or dominate you. If you find yourself willing allowing him or her to control you, this is not love, it’s infatuation.

  1. ILLUSION

The greater part of you knows you’re propagating a relationship which has no chance of lasting and you exert a lot of effort to support the illusion that this is real, even when you know there is no real connection, here. You are delusional and in denial.

 

The fact that you are infatuated and not in love may not be apparent to you, even though you really know better, it’s more often likely than not, that others who see you fawning over your partner and not being true to yourself can see it, but they’re often too polite to tell you.

 

And if they did dare to tell you, you are likely to protest and insist, “No, this is the one!” So, what’s the point.

 

 

 

 

 

 

You think that you are in love, but in reality, it could be mere attraction. These are nothing but signs of infatuation. You don’t think straight and follow only those things which your heightened feelings are telling you to do. Infatuation just keeps throwing you deeper into your delusions, making you think of this perfect life and perfect person. And you always thought these are signs of love?