In a world that has gone mad in many ways, it leaves so many depressed, hurting, broken, suffering, and even suicidal. This is the time of year that so many people commit suicide, when all the while incredible love and charity are thick in the air.
You walk down the street and you see the streets decorated, couples walking hand-in-hand, lights sparkling, cleverly adorned store windows. It’s the time of year that people feel more love, are more compassionate, share their abundance with others, are more likely to help others less fortunate, and family comes together to share in the love. And the kids, the kid’s hearts are filling with love and anticipation as they bask in the awareness that this is their favorite time of year.
Ahh, so lovely.
If this is the street you walk down. You stay there. Whatever you do, do not veer off the main thoroughfare. Because there is so much reality happening all around you that you might not be aware of. And if you did know, you might be shocked. And if you knew the truth about it, what would you do? What could you do?
You don’t have to look very far to have access to an enormous, overwhelming barrage of bad news about how horrible life is on this planet every day. Turn on the TV, radio, cell phone, tablet, any device any time and you will be instantly bombarded by how our planet is falling apart, our resources are dwindling, our people are dying, and more and more of them are taking their own lives because it’s just too hard to face one more day.
What’s the fastest-growing age range for suicide today? 10- to 14-year-old children. If that doesn’t get your attention, I don’t know what could.
That’s on one side.
On the other side is the statistics that bear out that our world is evolving, growing, and expanding. There are miraculous moments throughout this life happening every day. Miracles. People’s lives changing for the better. There is more growing awareness, prosperity, love, and compassion on this planet than ever before. And our resources are expanding as our consciousness and awareness expand and we are not limited to the resources that are doled out to us by corporations. We are getting smarter, wiser, healthier, living longer, and there’s nothing the pharmaceutical companies or the government can do to stop us, no matter how they try.
Everything is always getting better.
My friend is driving down the alleyway and he sees a man lying alongside the wall. He pulls over to offer the man his Chinese take-out, he was on the way home with. He pulls over, walks over to the guy and says, “Hey buddy.”
Gently nudges him with his foot, “Hey, guy.” And the guy is stiff as a board.
My friend calls 9-1-1 and they ask him not to touch anything and to stay with the body until they get there.
What happened? I don’t know.
But on the other side of that building, the sparkling holiday decorations, smiling kids, and shoppers did not miss a beat. Unaware that there was a man whose life had ceased out back in the alleyway by the dumpster.
This is the reality of it. Even as much as everything is getting better, there are those who do not want the news to get out about how better its getting. There is advanced science and technology happening right now, and some that have been around for years, that we will never hear about, if the corporations and the government have anything to say about it. And they do, for now, but we are becoming more and more aware.
Even so, while we’re living on a planet with more potential than ever before, we are being pummeled by the media and a system dedicated to keeping us enslaved and beat down. Many of us suffer every day, so depressed, and feeling more hopeless every day. So much so, that we cannot find the wherewithal to justify taking another breath from someone else who might be more deserving. So, we might think, “Why can’t I just die?” and left alone to that thought process, might even consider, “What’s the point? I’d be better off dead,” and start ideating about suicide.
And this life can exert enough pressure on your heart, your body, and your soul, that there’s just nothing left to give. Your life’s cup may be empty, leaving you with nothing left to motivate you to have any desire to wake up tomorrow.
But here’s what you failed to remember, and there are powers that exist in our world who hope you never remember who you are, and they’ve been doing everything possible to keep you from realizing who you really are.
Who are you?
Well, we don’t have time to go into every detail, but know this: You came to this planet with a unique set of skills, special abilities, and message to deliver, and when you were very young, you knew exactly who you were, but by the time you were five or six, the system had wiped any hope of you remembering who you were.
Now you are awakening. How do I know? Because you’re reading these words, right now. You are coming to an awareness that has never occurred to you with such clarity as at this moment. While from your current vantage point, it may appear cloudy, you are seeing things more clearly for the first time.
It’s no wonder you’re feeling a bit off. You’re just now realizing things are not as they seem.
You’ve got to hang in there. Dig down deep, remember who you really are, get to know and love that version of you, embrace your passion and your calling. Get out there and do what you were meant to do, say what you sent here to say.
Love is the most powerful energy in the universe. True love energy is the source energy of God, and if you are open, aware, and loving, you can master this powerful love energy. To do so, you must apply this love energy to everything that is happening around you, appearing before you, and being felt within you.
It sounds like a tall order, but you don’t have to master all of this instantly. In fact, that would be extremely difficult to do because it takes discipline and a great deal of retaining the way you think.
You have been programmed since your earliest of ages to not think in this way, even though in your purest form when you first arrived in this world, you were a natural-born master of love. Since your birth, you have been retrained to be a master of fear.
Fear is exclusion and isolation of self, while love, on the other hand, is inclusive, embraces all things as divine and absorbs all the positive energies in everything, regardless of how it may look on the surface.
Love is a state of being which is associated with a particular frequency of energetic vibration. When you are in it, you can feel it. You know it when you are there. To apply this energetic state of being to every moment of every day, that is mastering love.
Interestingly, those who are able to maintain this level of energetic love mastery, their lives look very different from the rest of us, because this energy attracts those things which are an energetic match to the energetic “love field” they have created for themselves.
Love Masters love everything around them, the way that it is. They love others; their families, their neighbors, friends, coworkers, management, law enforcement, governing officials, all of them, just the way they are. They love the nature which surrounds them; the chirping birds, the trees swaying in the breeze, the bud of a flower as well as in full bloom, the grass as it grows and the smell of it after its been freshly cut, the taste of a freshly picked juicy apple. They love where they live, the sounds heard from outside that verify their existence in this place, they love the transportation vehicle(s) which allow them to move about freely in this exciting world where we live.
So, things show up that are a match to their energetic vibration of love which flows through them.
To love is a choice, and you could choose to adopt this vibrational state of being for yourself and enjoy all the good things in life that are a harmonic match to your new love vibration.
As a Love Master, you will be imbued with special abilities to influence the world around you with this new energetic power of love, but to take full advantage of your love prowess, you’re going to have to let go of all the “separation” you’ve been taught and have grown so accustomed to.
Love Masters love everyone and everything, just the way it is. They find a sense of balance in all things working together for good, even when they appear to be quite bad at any particular time in space. People are not bad, just as you are not bad, and everything is perfect as it is. All things are always changing, growing and evolving, and nothing is wrong or broken, nor does it need fixing, though there may be many things to which you are not a match at any given time.
If you are not a match for any given thing, it is of little concern to you. When you notice such a thing, you honor it and acknowledge that it is something you do not want in your sphere of influence, unless you have received the calling address the issue for the greater good. If you have not been called upon, it is someone else’s calling. To assert your attention or influence would only cause your vibration to deteriorate unnecessarily and add more momentum and energy to that which is unwanted, if this is not your calling. To do so would hinder the work of those who are called to address the issue.
Rather than focus your attention on the thing(s) that you don’t want, focus your attention on the solution, the cure, and support those who have been called to the fighting of the fight. Celebrate and support those who have been called, do not focus your attention on the things which cause you to be upset.
I know this is counterintuitive because you’ve been programmed and trained against such things, but this is the gateway to widespread peace, love, and happiness.
People can see Love Masters from afar because they have a particular glow about them. This is due to their fully love-charged energy field or aura which gives them the ability to more greatly affect the world around them in the most positive ways, and they are often kindly referred to as being blessed, or in the extreme as miracle workers.
Love Masters are tolerant, patient, confident, respectful, and courageous, yet practice humility. They realize that everything is in a constant phase of change, always for the better, realizing that everyone is doing the best they can with what they have (as we all do) as they refrain from judgment.
They embrace the practice of meditation as a method to raise their vibration, while avoiding practices that lower it, when appropriate. (Life is what it is, and we all succumb to its pressures at times.)
If you look at the most powerful people who have raised from the ranks of the working class, you will find that they are Love Masters. You will find them, helping others, edifying others, encouraging others without exclusion. They share their energetic resources and attract even more as they do.
When you fill your heart with love from the pure source of all life for yourself (without the need to receive love or validation from others) your love cup overflows into the energy fields of all others who are in your presence.
How do you know you’re in the flow of love? You know by how you feel. If you feel good, you’re in. If you feel bad, you’re out.
Make more opportunities to feel good and stay in the flow of love.
There are those who will be upset by your abundance of love and they may try to drag you down. Just remember that their need to feel like they should knock you out of your love-flow has far less to do with you than it does them.
They are hurting. They want the love you have, but they have ascribed themselves to the belief, and have aligned themselves with a world that teaches against such things as folly. Do not judge them. Have compassion for them. Know that they are in a process of change and evolution, and everything will get better for them.
Don’t try to educate or convert them (they are unable to receive words to which they are not a match anyway). Love and bless them because they’re doing the best they can, and things will get better. They always do.
The holiday season is a glorious time of love, laughter, giving, sharing, support and represents a time to celebrate family, friends and loved ones in all their many forms.
While many people are surrounded by others with whom they will celebrate this time of love and everything that is precious, others may be spending the holidays alone due to changes in life circumstances or other reasons.
For instance, on November 11th, we honor all those who have served our country in military service. On Veterans Day, the very day we honor those who have served, veterans are taking their own lives, not just on Veterans Day, but every day of the year.
During the year people commit suicide every day, 18% of these suicides are veterans who have served in various branches of the United States military. There is a significant increase in suicides during the holiday season beginning on November 11th through January 1st.
The concept of Sending Love to the World 2019 is not focused on being an anti-suicide campaign. The increase in suicides is only a signal and a sign indicating a greater underlying problem of the deterioration of mental health and love, during a time when most of us are feeling full of love. It is such a dichotomy, for you to have your heart so filled with love at this time of year, yet your neighbor is so severely lacking love that he or she might be considering suicide.
Many people whose hearts are filled to the brim and overflowing with love during the holiday season may not have an avenue to set their love free, to share it with another and bask in its glow.
Love-filled hearts without a venue to share this love can lead to a degeneration of the love vibration; alternatively, the sharing of one’s love causes the love vibration to increase exponentially.
Sending Love to the World 2019 is an excellent opportunity for anyone to share their love vibration with the world. Imagine many people pouring out love for our planet and its inhabitants during a time when there exist extremes; on the one hand, peace, love, and happiness while on the other hand or end of the spectrum sadness, depression and loneliness.
The economic decline, post-traumatic stress, feeling hopeless, helpless, and a vast variety of issues lead to the rise of poverty, depression, domestic violence, theft, and other crime all steadily increasing since November 11th.
The most staggering data shows that the loss of life also spikes during the holiday season especially on December 25th and again on January 1st.
The purpose of Sending Love to the World 2019 is two-fold.
To offer those heart-filled individuals – especially those who would otherwise be alone and not have an ability to share and give their love at any time from November 11th through January 1st – and anyone else who would like to join the outpouring of love to have an opportunity to support and bathe the world in unconditional love.
And to send this love out to heal others who are struggling during these tough times, our country and the world at large.
Bound together with like-minded purpose, we can help to make the world a better place.
Join us, here – on this website – for a streaming guided meditation to heal and love those in need… Together we will be sending love to the world… that by all means, we might save some.
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The meditation stream will be running from November 11th through January 1st. Feel free to join at any time and spend as long as you desire to love.
Are you feeling down? Do you feel like you’re surrounded by nothing but bad news, failing relationships, and a generally poor outlook for the future ahead? Feeling like you just can’t get a glimpse of happiness in your life?
Let me ask you this:
Do you want to be happy?
THEN STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING
That is to say, if you are not experiencing the level of happiness that you would like to see in your life, then you’re obviously not doing it right. Right?
It’s easy to look around when things look dismal and see others living fascinating lives, having fun, and having generally good lives, and wonder,
How could they do that?
I mean, don’t they know that the world is falling down all around us? Don’t they know that in the United States nearly a thousand kids are sucked into human trafficking and sex rings every day? Our monetary system is failing. People are losing their homes, veterans, and hard-working Americans are losing their jobs and joining the ranks of the homeless. 2 percent of Americans are homeless and their numbers are growing every day. 1 in 7 kids in the United States does not know where their next meal is coming from. We send so much overseas to feed other kids, while ours starve to death at home? Don’t you ever watch the news?
Just stop it. Can’t you see what’s going on here?
You’ve fallen for the oldest evil trick in the book. “Keep them in a state of fear because they’re easier to control.”
“They” own the media, and they believe they own you, and if they can control your thoughts, keeping you in a state of fear or negative vibration, then in a sense, they do own you. They can manipulate you, and keep you compliant, in exchange for as little safety and security that you will allow.
Know that at any moment in time, you can opt out of this system which inordinately keeps you bogged down with feeling bad about your life, and life in general.
How have others made the transition from sappy to happy?
This is a journey that starts from within.
Loving yourself unconditionally is where the embers of happiness lay in wait. That means you love yourself “no matter what.” You know sometimes you miss the mark, and that’s okay because no one is perfect, and you love yourself anyway. If you experience a misstep, do not beat up on yourself. You love yourself. Let yourself know that you have learned valuable lessons from the experience and vow to take better care of yourself and do it differently the next time.
You need to love yourself and look out for yourself because no one else will.
You must find ways to feel happy. Make your own opportunities to feel good.
Find and/or make ways to feel good about all the things around you. You, the way you look in the mirror, the car you drive, your home where you live, your family members, friends, acquaintances, coworkers, your possessions, find or make a happy thought and associate it with all these things, and when you think of them, even if initially a negative thought, as soon as you can catch yourself, shift your attention to the happy thought about that person or thing.
You can’t find happiness in stuff, or anything for that matter, as happiness is always changing, growing, and expanding, and that’s the way it should be, as happiness is a reflection of the love-energy which is the source of life. It is never stagnant, so just be aware that your happiness target will always be in a state of metamorphosis. What brings you happiness today, might not tomorrow, so always be on the lookout for new things that raise your happiness quotient.
After a while, you’ll notice that the happiness attained from nice or fancy stuff does not last very long, but the happiness you can find in the things that you accomplish, the new and exciting places you like to visit, the fun activities that you enjoy, and the people you love, these are more meaningful and promote happiness longevity.
And when you stumble and fall, you can smile, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and laugh it off, knowing you’ll do better next time, loving yourself unconditionally all the way. As you start treating yourself this way, you will find yourself more tolerant of others as they stumble and fall. For after all, aren’t we all just doing the best we can with what we have.
When your heart is full of love and overflows into the lives of others around you, you become a love magnet, and even more love comes to you from others and the source of love, as you become more connected to the ever-expanding world of love by which you are swathed.
So much talk about meditation but there’s nothing to fear, it’s just enjoying a relaxed state of unfocused focus, which enables you to expand your consciousness and wellbeing, empowering you to enjoy a better, higher quality of life.
There may be hesitation to embrace the idea of meditating due to its being strongly associated with mystical and spiritual disciplines. You needn’t worry because you don’t need to believe in anything to receive massive benefits from meditation. Don’t let your preconceived ideas keep you from some safe exploration and experimentation to see for yourself how beneficial meditation can be.
If you seek out information on meditation, you are likely to stumble across a wide variety of methods of meditation, some practitioners will assert some methods are better than others. There is truth to be uncovered here, but meditation is not unlike medication, in that different things will work differently for different people. That said, if you keep an open mind, and are willing to allow yourself to explore the possibilities, you will discover what works best for you, but know that in the practicing of any of the many forms of meditation that you will receive great benefit from the meditating in whatever form you practice.
You need not be concerned about what other people might think about your meditating for it can be done in private without anyone aware that you are even doing it. If you’re living in a busy home with lots of activity, you can go to your room, lock yourself in the bathroom, or meditate while soaking in the tub.
The main thing is to find some solitude and to quiet your mind from all the constant barrage of information and thoughts associated with navigating the world you live in. As you know, your mind is overwhelmed by thoughts about everything all the time. Your family, the bills, other drivers, your to do list, and endless questioning, what’s coming up next for you? What’s happening in my family, with my friends, my community, the world?
And if that wasn’t enough, there’s plenty of (mis-) information constantly vying for your attention to add to the flood of emotional drama and trauma via any method of delivery, though at the moment, the Internet, Google, and social media seem to be the largest purveyors of emotional distractors which overwhelm the average human being, and these distractions are not beneficial to the human condition nor the body.
Meditation helps to mitigate the damages suffered by those of us (any, mot, or all of us) who are suffering the effects of this constant overwhelming thought process which is causing us to deteriorate mentally, emotionally, physiologically, and spiritually (if you are so inclined).
Meditation is a safe and effective method to retreat from all the crazy thoughts and mind chatter which can be exhaustive, even debilitating. In this relaxed, sacred space of meditation, you are able to cleanse your mind and your soul from all the stress, worry, and distractions of the world to find a place of peace in solace.
In this profound emotional state, your body recovers, your cells thrive, blood vessels relax, and your immune system gains power, while you are able to from this place of clear consciousness allow higher thoughts to come to your awareness. This is the place where some of the deepest, meaningful, inspired thoughts, and creations emanate from.
You are in a sense, “in the zone.”
Many people approach this state of mind for many reasons, some for the biological benefits, some for freedom from emotional overload, some for relaxation or peace of mind, and others for inspired data for problem-solving, among hundreds, if not thousands, of other reasons.
Once you start calming your mind, you may find yourself becoming more aware of the natural life which exists all around you. In your meditative state, you may become aware of life going on which you previously took for granted. You will become more aware of your body, feeling your breath, blood pumping, feeling the fabric touching your skin, and the world around you, the dew droplets, the bird singing, the grass growing, etc.
You might associate meditation with the Lotus position, the cross-legged pose of perfect posture, though be aware that this is not necessary, as the vast majority of people who practice meditation do so more casually, for it is far more about function than form. You can practice meditation, comfortably seated in a chair, lying down, standing, or while you are walking, as long as you have the wherewithal to focus and relax. Note that relaxing enough to find yourself “sleeping” is not meditating.
Comfortable, loose-fitting clothing will help you to relax and focus while meditating.
Some people prefer to have a designated space to practice their meditation techniques. If you are so inclined, do create a sacred space where you can feel safe and secure. Decorate your space in such a way that it will make you feel calm, peaceful, serene, creating a soothing, meditative atmosphere.
Not having a lot of distracting sounds can make it easier to concentrate and enter a meditative state more easily. Having a location where your attempt to focus is more likely to be uninterrupted will be helpful. If you have some scented oils that make you feel peaceful, a little aromatherapy while you meditate can be a good thing.
You might feel intimidated if you’ve seen or heard traditional monks chanting, singing sounds, or otherwise vocalizing while meditating. You do not need to do this. They are practicing a mantra or particular ritual which is not necessary. You could hum if it helps you to concentrate and keep from being distracted by the world around you, but I think you will find focusing on your breathing, in and out, is more than satisfactory.
You can meditate with either eyes closed (which is more common) or with your eyes open focused on something, like a flickering flame of a candle.
Meditation is an effective method of releasing tension throughout your body. Once you’ve achieved a meditative state, simply scan each of your body parts silently by name, and as you focus upon it, just allow any tension in that area to release.
There is nothing to fear in practicing meditation. It is 100 percent safe and effective, and there is no wrong way to do it. Just allow yourself to enjoy a bit of experimentation and find out what works best for you.
I’m gonna go enjoy my meditation in my place in space now…
In our society today, we’re seeing work ethic decline at a rapid pace. If you look around your work environment, you see it every day, coworkers doing the bare minimum to get their pay. But there’s something inside you that makes you strive to excel, even in the midst of such mediocrity, as you take work ethic personal integrity to heart.
You see others waiting for their orders, waiting to be told what to do, and if they haven’t been told what to do, you’ll see them leaning back in their chairs, checking their phones, participating on social media, searching for something on the Internet, wandering the halls, playing Candy Crush, or solitaire, while you feel the urge to do something different. You have an inner compulsion to do something to increase your working environment, support the organization, increase your own personal and professional integrity and productivity.
You could be a huge influence on the world around you.
You might look around at the leadership where you work and think that they were endowed with certain stages of life which prepared them for their positions in the organization. Maybe they were born with it, inherited it, or went through expensive training to qualify for it, but there are others hidden within the ranks of staff which have the drive, enthusiasm, and experience in the trenches to make huge contributions and increase productivity exponentially.
Management can be found regularly honing their skills, by taking continuing education classes and courses to expand their knowledge base beyond whatever they may have learned in the past because running any organization effectively is a moving target, especially as general work ethic and commitment to productivity among the workforce declines.
Management teams are made up a variety of individuals who have varying areas of expertise, some are formally trained, and others rise up from within the ranks of an organization. Those who rise up find the decline in a personal commitment to work ethic and professional integrity unsettling.
If you are thinking you’re prime grade material for moving up into management, you might be right. If you are, you will notice that you have a commitment and dedication to life, which you approach much differently than your coworking peers. While others are perfectly content to punch in, and punch out, to get their wage and go home to lay on the couch in front of the tube and drink beer, you can be found studying after work, and engaging in activities which make you feel like you are enhancing your quality of life while doing so.
But if you really have what it takes, you have some good communication skills and are able to influence others to take the high road. While in the trenches, you will find yourself encouraging others to do better, to achieve more, to offer greater contribution to the organization. In a sense, you are like a cheerleader, making others feel better about contributing to the greater good of the organization, and getting them to play (work) with others. These are earmarks of an effective team builder.
You may be in an organization where micromanagement abounds, which generally promotes a lackadaisical working environment, where people are unwilling to work unless they are ordered to do so. This is not a productive work environment and it puts tremendous pressure on management to adopt even more types of pressure to get production numbers out of staff, which leads to poor worker satisfaction and high turnover rates in human resources.
Effective management is more about promoting the vision of the company through empowered workers who share the vision of the organization, who desire to support and receive satisfaction for playing out their role in the best way possible. This is the difference between leadership and dictatorship.
In the most effective organizations, how are they able to get the ranks to join the team and offer their skills, talents, and abilities to support them?
The workers are empowered, they have a clear sense of where the organization is going, they not only see the vision, but they clearly see the part they play is integral in moving the organization from where it is today, to where it wants to be.
Our society has gotten extremely lazy due to technological advances. Back in the day, if you were going on a trip, you had to plan, get fold-out maps printed on large pieces of paper, chart your course from where you were to you wanted to be. This skill (which transfers nicely to management) was lost in our society, because now, when we want to go somewhere, we only need input our destination and don’t have to think or do anything else, except to turn when our phone (or other navigational device) says to turn.
Unfortunately, this is the attitude of the current workforce today. Not to think or do anything until your told to do so.
Of course, this does not apply to you. You’ve taken an interest in the organization where you serve. You know the management, the leaders, their particular styles, the hierarchy, their ideals, goals, challenges, and achievements. You’ve taken interest in these things because for you, this is not just a job, this is your profession, and you feel like having a good working knowledge of your surroundings is a key component in your readiness for joining the ranks of leadership.
You know the workforce cannot be bullied into productivity, they can, though, be encouraged to ins a sense, follow the leader, if they have a powerfully positive leader to follow. You know that if the greater part of the workers could adopt your model of work ethic and professional integrity, this organization would thrive.
Leading in this manner is all about relationship. Building on a foundation of trust and integrity. How you interact, positively influence, and communicate with your people, helps to create a powerful team which is highly supportive and effective.
This relationship exemplifies your ability to connect with the team. Not to worry if it’s not 100% on point, as team building is a process, and it is continually in a metamorphosis to the next level, so persistence and reliability are so important.
The best leaders have good judgement. If you don’t have a natural inclination to quickly assess and given set of circumstances, weigh all the data which is available at the time, and head toward a solution, these are skills which can be learned and honed over time.
These skills in particular will help build relationship throughout all ranks as you can be relied upon to keep the organization positively focused and moving forward without loss of momentum.
The most successful organizations are not dictatorships, they are families. Many family members with varied skills, talents, gifts, and abilities gathered together, supporting each other for the familial organization.
Be aware of the individual strengths and weaknesses of each family member and help create for them environments where they can shine, and the whole family organization becomes more than it’s ingredients. It transforms into a work of art.
Are you ready to make a difference by encouraging others to take a more effective role in the world in terms of work ethic personal integrity?
We all want to be loved, and there’s nothing better than being in the throes of love and passion.
With many years consulting in love and relationships, it’s generally accepted that when two people get together there are going to be problems. All this relationship drama contributes to the bottom line of so many industries in America, it’s not just the relationship coaches, keeping their caseloads maxed out, with the constant struggle of helping couples with their constant struggle.
In the office, there are issues that show up regularly, and every once in awhile, you are truly surprised or shocked by something new. But the struggle remains. My book, 7 Phases of Love, depicts a general path of growth amidst the romantic love spectrum and offers assistance to those on such a journey, as well as tips, tools, and techniques for the people who work with them, assisting couples to navigate the treacherous waters of romantic love.
Oh, yeah, I am David M Masters, Lead Coach, Trainer, and Transfiguration Specialist at St. Paul’s Free University, and you can find out more about me at davidmmasters.com. The word on the street is that St. Paul’s Free University is looking for teachers, trainers, and instructors. If you think you might be interested in joining us to help make the world a better place. Feel free to contact me or talk to any of our presenters here, today.
The 7 phases of love follow the path from hormonal, horn honking, drooling, lust-driven love, all the way to the harmonic love frequency fully honoring each other in positive partnership.
No matter where you are on your love journey, there are bound to be some challenges along the way, and at any time, either you, your partner or both of you can call it quits and walk away.
Call it quits?
That’s worldly love, and you know what I’m talking about. The kind of love that’s like a disease that eats away at your heart until there’s nothing left. No love. Love is a heart-eating disease.
Love is like a poisonous virus that spreads the highly contagious disease of love’s toxins that promote possessiveness, jealousy, envy, suspicion, bitterness, dishonesty, controlling, abuse, and the judgment of others and yourself.
You’ve loved, stood there in faith, totally open and naked to your partner, and where did that get you? Far more misery than pleasure, that’s for sure. It’s no wonder you want to bail out of the love boat. Who wouldn’t?
Especially in our present-day society, where relationships are disposable, and in worldly love, “the world” profits when relationships thrive, and even more when they fail.
It is easier to walk away (and far more profitable for the powers that be) than it is to do the work necessary to create a sustainable relationship. So, at the first sight of something you don’t like in a relationship, you start looking for the EXIT sign.
Anyone want to know what the Top 10 Reasons Relationships Fail are?
Top 10 Reasons Relationships Fail
lack of trust
Of course, this is an over-simplification of what is really going on behind the scenes because you have a lifetime of accumulated pain, wounds, and emotional triggers, that cause you to recoil at the first hint of trouble (even if there is no actual trouble at hand).
Your friends will counsel you to, “Run, David, run!” because they don’t want to see you suffer needlessly (or again), plus, they miss your uninterrupted attention. There’s a good chance that your best friends see their relationship with you as far more meaningful than that of your mate, and in those times when things are not looking good, they can taunt you with, “See, I told you so.”
You might be surprised that your friends are really not looking out for your best interests in your partnership relationship as much as they are their relationship with you, and there may have been some building animosity since you’ve been distracted by your love relationship.
So, things are not going as well as you might like them to, and that’s when you find yourself in my office, or the office of any of my contemporaries, asking, “Is there hope for us?”
Relationship counselors make bank on your struggle in relationships. The more dysfunction, the more money the therapists make. When you come in as a couple, we get a hundred bucks. When you drift further apart and come in separately, we make twice as much.
We do our best to coach you through the 7 phases of love, and the further you progress, the easier it gets.
And we expend our greatest efforts to help you negotiate as we mediate and try to help you discuss and argue about your relationship endlessly, making agreements, and promises to each other in our presence, knowing that as soon as you leave the office, all bets are off.
It’s just deteriorated too much for far too long. You’ve tried to fake it till you make it, and you just can’t take it anymore.
But totally bailing out is hard, and frightening. I mean, take a look around at all the other relationships you can see self-destructing before your very eyes, and you’ve heard the horror stories. The heartbreak, the battles over this and that.
It’s no wonder you feel helpless, hopeless, like a victim, or a prisoner in your own life.
Can you make it work?
Yes, with enough hard work, if both partners cooperate, and pay a relationship coach to help level the playing field, you can find a way to make your relationship work.
Let’s face it, you’re two different people, and you’re supposed to aspire to becoming “one?”
Is that possible?
Yes, you can each remain to be fully yourselves, and combined, the two of you culminate in another entity, as a couple, your relationship is expressed as another being, not unlike a corporation, and incorporation of two souls into one entity.
But rarely does this happen naturally, usually, it is due to patience, sacrifice, and lots of hard, sometimes painful work. And amidst all the hard work and pain of trying to work it out, it’s easier, to say,
And if you bail out, the system profits wildly from your decision.
The system profits from two households being supported when there used to be one. Everything from toiletries to insurance rates and taxes go up.
There is hope?
And there is. And it can be summed up in these two words,
Which sounds so wonderfully romantic.
What does it mean?
It means your partner will love and respect you 24/7. Isn’t that what you want? Isn’t that what we all want?
You want to be with someone who trusts you. Who doesn’t question you? Who allows you to be the person you really are?
You want this unconditional lover not to question your underlying motives, constantly asking about your whereabouts when you’re out of sight.
You want someone who loves you no matter what. No matter what challenges you may face in life. Just to be there, supporting you, in the knowledge that everything will work out okay.
If you need help, he or she will be there for you, supporting you, loving you, without accusation or judgment.
When you boil it down to its simplest form, you want someone who loves you unconditionally. Someone who will hold your hands tenderly yet firmly, look you in the eyes, and say to you from the bottom of their heart,
“I love you no matter what.”
No matter what you say, no matter what you do, I love you.
No matter what happens, what challenges you may face, I will be here for you, loving you, no matter what.
Wow! That’s it!
THAT is unconditional love, and we all want that.
Do you want that?
If you do, say it by declaring a resounding, “Yes!” (Yes.)
In order for you to get what you want, that unconditional love, you need to define what that looks like for you.
Take three minutes and write down at least 10 ways that you know you will feel like you are loved unconditionally by your partner. Ready? Go…
What are the ways you know you can feel totally loved and accepted unconditionally by your partner? Write them down.
Some ideas: Believes me, doesn’t argue, challenge or debate with me. Does not lay down the law. Doesn’t threaten the relationship by threatening to walk out. Loves me just the way I am, warts and all. Cherishes all the little things I do for us. Listens to what I have to say. Negotiates with me, so that we both can have what we want out of life. Wants to support and work with me for the greater good. Never raises his or her voice, threatens, or abuses. Wants to show me love when I need it, when I want it. Loves and respects me, my family, my hobbies, my potential.
Whatever it is for you, write it down.
This list represents how you know you are loved unconditionally.
You say, Oh, yeah, baby, I want a man or a woman, like that.
And if you’re in a relationship with someone, right now, unless you are our hosts today, Mark and Lynetta, you’re thinking I need to find someone, like that because my partner is not capable of being what I want.
And this is the one biggest key in a sustainable loving relationship:
If you really want it, let me hear it from you again, and say, “Yes!” (Yes)
Now, keeping all that in mind, here’s something that you might find as interesting as I do:
When I ask a client if he or she wants unconditional love, they enthusiastically declare how much they really want to be loved unconditionally, no matter what.
But when I ask them if they are willing to
LOVE THEIR PARTNER NO MATTER WHAT
Their response is a resounding,
We want it. We want it more than anything, but we’re unwilling to give it, and therein lies the rub.
In these workshops, we take the love relationship to a whole new level, far beyond the 7 phases of love, where we work with people in traditional relationship counseling.
In traditional or “worldly love,” unconditional love is not possible because we get in the way of giving it. It’s not that we don’t want it, because we want it desperately, but, for the most part, we do not have the ability to give it within ourselves.
In awakened love, in contrast to worldly love, the couple is encouraged to focus more on truly loving one’s self, more than trying to impress or serve the other person in the relationship.
Once they’ve done the work of cleansing, removing blockages, and healing wounds from the past, they are in a far better place to truly love themselves.
Following this sacred work, the couple is able to fully open up and allow their love to overflow to the other partner.
The competition fades away and the two can truly become one. Both individuals, completely separate but together unlimited possibility and extremely powerful in the world working in perfect harmony.
We have a ceremony at the conclusion of the Awakening to True Love Workshop where we release all those things that stand between us and the authentic true love we desire, and send it off in a burning love lantern, and those things that held us back soars off with the glowing lantern.
And I’ve done this often enough to know, the question that is on your lips, right now:
“What happens, if it doesn’t work?”
It always works, 100 percent of the time.
Your lives can grow apart, and in an awakened love relationship, you can both agree to go your separate ways, no harm, no foul. Without guilt or blame, only love. True love.
This is the nature of true love.
If we are meant to be, then fine. If not, then, fine. God bless you, and God bless me, as we make our own way to our destiny, wherever that might be.
It’s a little like dropping your partner off at the airport.
I love you no matter what.
In awakened love, love is unconditional. I love me so much I can love you no matter what.
I love you no matter what you think.
I love you no matter what you say.
I love you no matter what you do.
And if we’re no longer meant to be? I love you then, too.
I love you enough to let you do whatever you need to do, even if it’s without me.
That is unconditional love.
My name’s David M. Masters, and you can find out more about me at davidmmasters.com
You ever notice how many distractions abound in the world around you? It seems like every second of every day, you are hit with a constant barrage of data, information, unsettling news, wild stories, other people’s complaints, things that bother or upset you, life tugging on your shirt vying for your attention. It’s as if there was an unseen force exerting itself via any means available to keep you from doing what it is that you want to (or need to) do.
Especially, if you’ve done the work of determining what your Purpose, Message, Passion, and Mission (PMPM) in life is. You’ve discovered what will bring you real satisfaction, joy, peace, and harmony in life, but all these constant distractions are keeping you from focusing on fully living the life you were intended to live.
What if everything that distracts you was designed to do just that?
What if there was an entity comprised of individuals and/or energies whose entire purpose was to keep you from achieving your highest and best? What if this group, organization, or other type of entity was charged only with your distraction 24/7? To design a constant flow of data and/or drama to interrupt any divine thought you might have about being all that you could be?
There is no doubt, that every time you try to focus on doing something massively good, really making a valid contribution to your family, community, or the world at large, what happens?
You are interrupted by distraction. Sometimes the distraction is just a part of ordinary life, in other times it is Earth-shattering. Interestingly enough, the result is the same.
Any momentum you may have gained building toward your heart’s desire, fulfilling your purpose, spreading your message, engaging in those activities that you are passionate about, while accomplishing your life’s sacred mission, is lost in a heartbeat when you stroll is completely disrupted by anything but that which you would love to have active in your life.
It’s the commercial about abused animals, it’s the neighbors arguing loudly in the middle of the night, it’s the dent in your car which showed up while it was safely parked, it’s the lack of finances, it’s the inconsistencies your noticing in your partner, it’s the feeling like you’re not being recognized for your contributions, it’s the Facebook meme that infuriates you, it’s the unexpected attention of an old friend (or foe) from the past, its any of 35,000 things that interrupt your thoughts and intentions every day.
Do you think its any coincidence that all this news, the rumors, and circumstances are slowing your roll or derailing your train of thought constantly all day, all night, long?
Think about it.
What if you were able to achieve your highest and best, to live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place? What impact would that have on your family, friends, community, and the world?
Maybe, if one person could break through the muck and mire of everyday existence to answer their life’s calling, the system might be able to quash the inspired murmurings of one person. One. But what about two, or more? What about hundreds, or thousands, of inspired individuals reaching for the stars, embracing their own power, and having a massive impact? What would happen then?
The system which represents the life we’ve all come to expect as “normal,” the profiting of the few off the backs of the many, would no longer be sustainable. The system would collapse, and an enlightened people would rise up with true individual valuation and freedom, unencumbered by the profiteers.
In the meantime, none of us (because I include myself in the equation) is exempt from the constant attention-grabbing tsunami which fights to keep us distracted from achieving our highest and best.
I can hear a horrifying story on the news and be completely disempowered in the moment, just as any one of us would be.
Psst… (here’s a secret): If I allow them to throw me off-track, they’ve won, again. They’ve won.
There is a way to thwart the power-hungry “powers that be” (I intentionally put that in quotations because I think their days are numbered) who seek to keep an unenlightened populace enslaved can be challenged.
But it’s up to us (you and me) to recognize all those distractions for what they are. It’s all illusion, just smoke and mirrors, designed to keep us from achieving our full potential and evolving into the next generation of Earthlings which will emerge is a power unlike any other known in the universe.
So, the next time you see it (whatever it is), see it for what it is: a distraction. You may acknowledge it, the importance of it, but then quickly refocus your attention on those things which feed your soul and promote your life’s work.
Don’t let them distract you anymore.
Whatever it is, it is not your department. If it is outside of your direct control, it is what it is. Let it be, and keep moving forward.
Then, let them deal with you, and all of us who are joining you in the evolutionary expansion of mankind.
As we do, each of us individually and all of us collectively, their system will crumble and fall to the ground.
Our expansion and authentic freedom is just around the corner (and they are not liking it. Not one bit).
FREE EVENT. Open to all victims of predatory psychopaths, sociopaths, or toxic narcissists. Take control of your life, stop the abuse and victimization. Disarm the predator, get your life back, and heal from the trauma from your psychopathic encounter.
Schedule of events:
Full Spectrum Victim Recovery
Class Description: If you feel victimized by life, this attitude will continually create more experiences of victimization.
Mark and Lynetta will lead you through 3 interactive exercises to bust the victim game and reclaim your power. When you transcend Victim Games, you become Victorious in your life and begin the new game of empowered creation.
Class Description: Toxic people are everywhere, and they’re here to stay. You may not be able to escape them completely, but there are simple tricks that you can use to overcome their toxic behavior. Learn how to come out on top in a confrontational situation without stooping to their level. Take steps to repel psychopaths at every level in your life. And develop the ability to set your life on the right foundation to stand tall above toxicity at every level.
Class Description: Predatory psychopaths are the most harmful members of society, and fortunately 90% of Americans never encounter the dark side of the psychopath who lives and operates on the dangerous end of the antisocial personality disorder spectrum. Often confused with the narcissistic sociopath, the predatory psychopath will drain the life, finances, and any other resources he or she may access, leaving the victim broken and broke. Early detection with a simple psychopath test, and protecting yourself right now can help.
I will be attending this event and will be sharing a case study about my experience with an infamous predatory psychopath, known as Richard W Bennett who reportedly died on October 12, 2015.
Note: This event is open to predatory psychopath victims. In our right to limit access, our intention is to protect victims of psychopaths for whom the event was created. We do expect psychopaths to attend the event. Know that psychopaths will be excluded from the event. We are aware of the skill of psychopaths to masquerade as victims to exploit them and to promote their own agendas. These sheep in wolve’s clothing will be permitted to attend if they do not break character during the event. Upon the identification of any stealthily disguised psychopath in the room, such threats to victims attending and our event will be escorted from the premises.