Lack of Privacy What They Know

Can you believe that people are still paranoid about privacy?

Granted, I know some people are invisible. They have successfully dropped out of the system and cannot be found. They have no legal name, address, phone number… You will never be able to find them via Google search, Facebook or any other social media. Criminal records have no search results. It is likely that even Homeland Security doesn’t even know they exist.

These folks are of the persuasion that Big Brother is alive and well and wants to track every move you make.

And you know what? They’re absolutely right. … And it’s not only Big Brother; it’s the government, accumulators and purveyors of data, social agencies, businesses, advertisers, some authorized others more stealth, even criminal. It goes on and on, 24 hours a day, seven days a week.

They are watching you What do they know about you Lack of privacy

They know who you call on the phone and what words you prefer to use, on the phone and off. They know what routes you routinely travel and your preferred mode of transportation. They know what times you’re likely to be online, and what you’re most likely to look for with a certain sense of predictability. They know what you’re likely to buy at the store… and to some degree, they know what items will distract you from your predetermined shopping intentions. They know what foods you buy, how you store and prepare them; when you eat at a restaurant, which restaurant you’re likely to visit, what you are most likely to order and how much of a tip you will leave your server.

They know where your eyes are likely to navigate to as you go about living your everyday life. They know where you work, how effective you are at work, what location in the building you occupy, when you take your breaks and what you do while you’re on break. They know what you watch on TV, what you listen to on the radio or even in the privacy of your own home.

They know your political views, religious preferences, what makes you laugh, cry and what gets you angry or defensive.

They know your friends, relatives, acquaintances… and, yes, even when you are most likely to make a trip to the bathroom; and why.

You say, “Oh, Masters, you must have lost your mind; you’re just paranoid.”

Actually, nothing could be less true. Either fortunately – or unfortunately – I have worked with people who have engaged in the collection of this data, from military surveillance to law enforcement and mostly business-related entities who track everything.

For the sake of protecting confidentiality – and to prevent causing alarm or paranoia – I would not go into the specific detailing of all of the tactics I have witnessed first-hand in the collection and management of all the aforementioned data. Suffice it to say, it is both compelling and overwhelming to say the least.

All of that to ask myself (as you are probably asking yourself, right now),

“How do I feel about my lack of privacy?”

I mean, I could let the angst consume me, attempt to unplug from life as we know it and go underground; but that kind of quality of life does not interest me. So, I just realize that

It is what it is

There really is nothing I can do about it, except to accept the izness of it all.

No, it doesn’t sound much like the “freedom” that I thought we were honored with as citizens of the Unites States of America.

The best I can do, is to stay on-track; not let the knowledge of the lack of privacy consume me or derail me from my life’s mission and allow others – whose mission it is to ferret out the details and present other options, or not – to take on this topic and support them in their efforts.

Let this not be a distraction to you in your mission to live a better lifedo your best, or make the world a better place.

This is only a clear indication that the world needs you as a force of all that is good – now more than ever – to help preserve a sense of balance and not to stop our evolution.

If they are watching you
– give them your best for their viewing pleasure –
and prove to them that one person can make a difference.

Dream, Team, Laser Beam

Okay, you have your dream, you have your team, now focus like a laser beam.

You know what you want, you have a support system in place, now it’s time to create a map that will be a straight line from where you are to where you want to be.

(Ignore the laughter you hear from entrepreneurs in the background…)

Chart your course from here to there.

Let’s say you want to buy a business for $200,000.00 in one year. That means you’ll have to raise around $17,000.00 a month to reach your goal.

You have one main goal of $200,000.00 in 12 months; next you create smaller bit-sized goals to get you from here to where you want to be. In this case, it’s about $3850.00 per week or $548.00 per day.

If your goal is to write a 350-page book in a year, the math is simple. One page per day will get you from here to your goal in 12 months.

Oh, about the laughter from the entrepreneur’s peanut gallery… They know that even the best mapped out plans rarely goes as planned. This is why you need a team.

Success what it really looks like

Your team is there to help you trouble-shoot in the moment when Murphy’s Law rears its ugly head.

You are prepared for any challenge. This is the advantage of having as many intermediary goals as possible because as soon as you are able to determine a glitch (not reaching your short-term goal) you can call an emergency meeting with your team.

Your team can review all the available data and help to re-structure advertising, marketing or promotional approaches to recover the loss as quickly as possible to get you back on track.

After your team has revamped your system, if the results were unrecoverable; then it might be time to restructure your goals completely. Maybe reaching your goal in one year was too lofty, it may be time to stretch it out to 18 months or two years.

This is the nature of the creation process; it rarely goes according to plan. You must allow for unforeseen contingencies and be able to make minute or major adjustments on-the-fly as necessary at the earliest determinable point in time.

The quickest way between two points is a straight line (which can be arguable according to some engineers and physicists), yet in real life – even the best laid plans – the road is a twisting and curvy path with unexpected detours, accidents and road construction that lies ahead.

The key is to stay true to the course regardless of the changing terrain or travel conditions.

Exception: Know when it’s time to abort your dream and dream a new dream.

Your team can also help you determine when it is not feasible to continue pursuing a dream that may not be attainable at all.

How many times has an entrepreneur remained committed to a project that was an endless money pit? It happens. Sometimes the passion of the dreamer exceeds the required components necessary to see it through to fruition. Not that it is not possible, because everything is possible given enough time and money, but your combined resources may not be adequate to make it happen.

Likewise, knowing when to bail and seek a new project can keep you out of trouble.

Be willing to let go, if necessary, it can save your business (and possibly your family and life expectancy).

Keep on keeping on…

Is It Time for TEAM?

I work with people on the move, movers and shakers that are dominating markets and having a significant impact on society and the future… And they are NOT doing it alone.

I know lots of people with a dream. They are aware of the work that I do and know about the kinds of people that I work with. It’s not uncommon for one of them to come up to me with an idea and say something like, “Here’s this great idea. Give it to one of your clients – or do it yourself – and give me half the money.”

While I do work with people who have – and do – develop products; they are in the business of bringing their dreams to life, not the dreams of others. I am aware of licensing agents who are looking for product ideas, but getting in front of one (that is qualified and will actually do the work – not just be a money-sucking machine) takes work in preparation and some expenses related to getting an audience.

My work is conducted with individuals who take personal responsibility for their own projects and are fully entrenched in the operations (possibly not the day-to-day details) of the production, promotions and creating the results they desire.

Now, if you’re one of those people, you’re ready to roll up your sleeves and make your dreams come true. We can talk. One of the first questions I am going to ask you is, “Who is your team?” and I am going to want you to tell me about them.

If you don’t have a team, you’re not ready, yet. If you have a team, you need a super-hero mastermind group. In some cases, your mastermind group could double as your team in the beginning. A part of what I do, is mastermind facilitation (assist others assemble, learn how to manage their mastermind group and maximize it’s efficacy).

What does your superhero mastermind group look like

What is a mastermind group?

A mastermind group is made up of several (four to six) individuals, usually with different backgrounds and industries (the more diverse the better) who are committed one-to-the-other to offer their resources and special abilities to the other members of the group to move their interests to a higher level.

Many authors and researchers have attempted to define the magic that happens in a mastermind group. Suffice it to say that an effective mastermind group combines the minds of all the members and the combination thereof creates an extra mind (or force, a master-mind) that pulls thoughts and ideas from the universe making them accessible to members of the group.

That is my brief, over-simplified woo-woo version that might seem somewhat outside the box for some. Regardless of how uncomfortable embracing the idea of creating your own mastermind group sounds, the fact remains: The most successful innovators and entrepreneurs in the world attribute much of their success to their mastermind group.

If you are considering embracing your innate superpowers and launching your own brand of world domination in a particular market, talk is cheap.

You can start taking steps to realize your dream, if you assemble a supportive team and/or mastermind group, meeting regularly, brainstorming, planning, while to build your faith in yourself and your vision.

But remember, “Faith without works is dead.”*

That is to say, no matter how much you believe in your project or idea, if you don’t take personal responsibility for taking action and doing the work to make your dream a reality, your chances for success are bleak at best.

* = swiped from James 2:14-26

Is it time to assemble your team?

What Are You Afraid Of?

This last week, someone asked me, “What are you afraid of?”

Most people who know me think I am somewhat fearless, tackling projects and placing myself in situations that would be intimidating or overwhelming to others. So, my answer was probably an unexpected reply,

“I’m afraid of everything.”

(Yes, I’m a scaredy cat…)

I went on to explain, I am frightened of everything I do that I haven’t done before; I just don’t let those fear overcome me. I muster up as much courage as I can and do what it takes to put myself fully into the circumstance enough to reasonably expect a positive outcome.

My gender refers to this as, “Manning up.” I found it humorous, this week, that a woman referred to her setting her fears aside to get things done by saying, “Sometimes you just have to woman up.” (I had never heard that expression before.)

I think it all started at an early age, when we as children would dare each other to do something that someone in (or a majority of) the group of kids would think was scary. We would dare someone to do it and based on their success (or failure) some of the rest of the kids would attempt the feat, or not.

I was that go-to kid. Though I was terrified by everything, I felt as though I had to take the dare (not to mention the dreaded Double-Dog dare) assuming that if it didn’t kill me, it would make me stronger. Very few, if any, of my youthful companions had any clue as to how frightened I was, yet I would take the dare. I could (and would) do almost anything on a dare.

I am so glad that I stopped accepting dares as I grew older, dismissing them as folly, because as I aged, my friends’ dares escalated to insane proportions… and I’d probably be long dead by now.

As I matured, I embraced the idea of having courage instead of being the dare-devil and exercising as much thought as possible about the task at hand to be able to predict a positive result from my courageous efforts. Though this is not always possible due to time and circumstance, as sometimes action must be taken immediately, in the moment.

I am so blessed in the work I do, to have trained in (and have access to) many different modalities that help others overcome their fear and I get to pick and chose which methods might be the best for me in any given circumstance.

I utilize many techniques to gear myself up to accept the challenge of an unknown or fearful pending event.

Some of my favorite tools for raising courage or overcoming fear include:

  • overcoming fear courage builders prayer visualization modeling tapping affirmationsIntegrity (strength and honor)
  • Prayer
  • Self-center
  • Increase awareness
  • Visualization
  • Modeling
  • Tapping
  • Affirmations
  • Education
  • Recruit assistance
  • Selfless abandon
  • Brute force

Using these tools or methodologies helps to get me from point A to point B in any overwhelming situation I might encounter – and in most cases – I can arrive victorious on the other side of struggle or conflict.

So, enough about me… How about you?

What are you afraid of?

And how to you overcome your fear(s)?

Branding You dot Com

Branding-You-dot-com-Connect-the-dotsOne of the best communication tools available is to establish a platform from which to deliver your message.

Your brand can do a great deal of the heavy lifting when attempting to communicate or deliver a message to your audience.

Effective branding will establish you as an authority and will pre-qualify your target audience. Properly branded, makes you more identifiable and accessible to your supporters.

Start with a dot-com to connect your dots.

Who are you?

The very fist consideration in branding one’s self, is to establish your name – and to distinguish it as apart from those who have similar names.

In the current level of technology in the world’s methods of communication, the dot-com is the definitive qualifier for effective branding.

Your ability to purchase your own dot-com may determine what your brandable name might be.

For instance, if your name is John Smith and you discover that johnsmith.com is not available, you must continue to research additional variations until you find a brandable dot-com.

If after exploring all the possible variations of your name to establish your dot-com identity only to find that they have already been scooped up by others sharing your name (which you may have never known how common your name was prior to this exercise) there may be a last-ditch-effort available to you.

You could resort to using dashes, like: john—r-smith.com but if you must do this, I would also suggest in backing it up with another domain extension (like a dot-net or some other available extension without the hyphens).

You should have two dot-coms one representing who you are (your personal name) and what you do.

What do you do?

Next is to establish your brand in your area of interest or expertise.

Let’s say that you make homemade beer; to brand yourself you might attempt to get homemadebeer.com. You discover that domain is taken, so you must do additional work to find an available dot-com that pertains to you.

This is an excellent procedure to encourage you to expand your scope to include an arena for fans and fellow aficionados to interact with you, so you expand your scope to include room for others bolstering your influence.

Your resulting dot-coms from this exercise might result in obtaining:

Johnronaldsmith.com
Privatelabelbeer.com

Establishing your identity and are of interest or expertise in the dot-com arena is your first order of business and all of your activities after securing your dot-coms should reflect your branding.

If most of your friends call you “Johnny,” but your dot-com is John, then start correcting your friends – and by all means, anytime you do anything in public – make certain that you are identified as “John Ronald Smith”. Not John R. Smith. You must identify with and protect your brand, just as if it was your trademark (and it is).

What about the rest of the dot family?

A common question I get asked is, “What if my name-dot-com is not available, can’t I just get the dot-net or some other Internet extension?”

My initial response is, “No.”

The reason is simply that as a general rule, people who use the Internet tend to automatically type dot-com following a domain name. The risk is, of course, that someone else can hijack your identity or fan base by having the dot-com.

That said; the dot-com extension should always be your preference. To establish further protection of your brand, you may want to purchase some of the associated domain extensions (i.e., dot-net, dot-org, dot-info) to prevent someone else from diluting your branding.

Securing your dot-com identity should be your first course of business prior to coming up with a name for any new endeavor. If you come up with a great name for a new project that you are working on and the dot-com is not available… keep working on the name until you find a dot-com-brandable name.

March 2016 Image Directory

Wrapping up the month of March, here’s a quick screen shot review of the month’s news. Let me know which ones you like the most. Thanks for your input, -David M Masters

Do you believe in angels
Do You Believe in Angels?
7 Steps to get out of your way and get what you want
Get Out of Your Way
There is more unseen than seen The unseen is waiting for you
Believing in Things Unseen
Love-is-a-terrible-thing-to-waste-shredder-sign
Love is a Terrible Thing to Waste
When Things Couldnt Get Worse They Do and then butterrflies emerge from caterpillars
When Things Couldn’t Get Worse, They Do and then…
Quantum mechanics theories and mysteries
Quantum Mechanics Theories and Mysteries
Guard your heart and mind Defend your right to live laugh love
Guard Your Heart and Mind
You want to live how long shocked baby how long do you want to live
How Long Do You Want to Live?
thought is precgnition you can see the future
Thought is Precognition
To blog or not to blog my favorite blogs
To Blog or Not to Blog My Favorite Blogs
Are scientific discoveries a distraction Take the high road Be Open
Scientific Discoveries and Distraction
Media Distraction Challenge
Media Distraction Challenge
Vegetarians vs Carnivores
Vegetarians vs. Carnivores
We are doers we are heroes God bless the doers
God Bless the Doer
If I had a dollar for every person
If I Could Just Get One Dollar from Every Person…
Love is all there really is everything else is an illusion
Love is All There Really Is
You are my favorite super heroes
Acts of Kindness Superheroes
Beware Individuality Psychosis DSM IV mental illness disease question authority
Beware Individuality Psychosis
operation cookie drop girl scouts cookies jaycie wakefield thankyouaaron
Girl Scouts Operation Cookie Drop Supporting the Troops
The best way to help someone in crisis is to listen to them until they are done sharing
Listen: Help Someone in Personal Crisis
Your highest and best specialize on purpose determine define specialize
4 Steps to Specialize on Purpose
Everything is connected everything happens at the right time everything is perfectly perfect
Everything is Connected and Perfect?
You are such a blessing to others offering love support and assistance
What Can I Do for You?
Which kind of cat are you cat personalities purr sonality
What Kind of Cat Are You?
Im not interested in what you say about me unless its true
What Are They Saying Behind My Back?
The war that we wage is not against flesh and blood
Looking for a Fight?
Question How does it make you feel when someone tries to bully you
Should Believers Be Bullying?
Anything is possible youre almost there Everything is
Anything Is Possible… Everything Is
Cant we all just get along
Can’t We All Just Get Along
Dave Michael Valentine with acoustic guitar
Sing Your Song
I am whats wrong with the world
I Am What’s Wrong With the World

March 2016 wrap up images

Do You Believe in Angels?

Believing in angels does not have any bearing on the kind of person you are; it doesn’t reflect whether you are a good person, bad person, religious/spiritual or not.

What’s interesting to me, as I meet men and women across many years of life, there are moments when people who would have never given a moment of thought about angels begin to question if, or believe that, angels are everywhere.

Do you believe in angelsIn a society whose faith is dwindling, angels still represent hope, resonating with individuals whose faith has waned, or express no faith whatsoever.

While educated atheists contend that belief in angels is part of the dumbing down of the United States, nonetheless 77% of Americans, including believers of all religions and those who refuse to have any religious belief at all, believe that angels are real. Yes, even some atheists believe in angels.

Here’s some exciting news: Angels don’t really care what you think.

You can believe – or not – it matters not to them. They are there, watching everything in life, gently nudging us to the left or right, whispering marvelous things inside our heads, protecting, guiding us and allowing us to make our own way (and our own mistakes) along the way. And, yes, they are with us when it is our time to exit this life.

Angels are not religious. Man is religious. Religion is man’s way of trying to conceive of the creator and have some understanding or connection with the creator. Religions may come and go, change and grow, yet angels are – as they have always been – never changing.

Do I have a guardian angel?

My personal belief is, “Yes,” you do have a guardian angel – but this is a matter for you to investigate for yourself – I would never persuade you to believe one way or the other. Since I have a religious background and some angelic work in my history, I am pre-disposed to certain ideas about angels and how we can interact with them, but everyone is different; just as every angel is also different.

Most people who once had no belief in angels begin to believe following an inexplicable angelic experience.

It’s not like the angels are clamoring for acknowledgement; they could care less what we think about them. Still, in that moment – when human stares into the eyes of an angel, face-to-face (figuratively) – it suddenly becomes clear: Angels do exist.

You believe in angels. That statement will apply to 8 out of every 10 people who read these words.

There are sound reasons why you believe, it may be religious persuasion, blind faith or in many cases you believe because of your experience and you know that you know that angels are among us.

Regardless of your belief in anything (or nothing) there are undoubtedly unseen energetic forces all around us in other dimensions that appear to display intelligence and have the ability to influence life, as we know it. For the moment, let’s suspend disbelief and refer to these energies as angels.

So, tell me…

Why do you believe in angels?

 

Get Out of Your Way

When you look at your life, the way it is now, and you think that you’d rather live a different life; what keeps you from doing it?

In most (if not all) cases the only thing that is holding you back from having everything that you desire is you.

You think that having everything you’ve ever wanted isn’t possible – but it is – if you’re willing to step out in faith and make it happen. Isn’t it time you got out of your own way?

Get Uncomfortable

My friend and one of my mentors, Robert Allen said to me, “Everything you’ve ever wanted is just outside your comfort zone,” and he is spot on.

It can be frightening to consider doing something that you’ve never done before – or more importantly – thinking, like you’ve never thought before. It’s all in your thinking.

I know people – right now, in this very moment – whom would be wildly successful, if they could change their thought process, just enough to reach outside their comfort zone.

7 Steps to get out of your way and get what you want

It is Possible

First, you must be able to wrap our head around the idea that your dream is a possibility; it could happen. It’s happened to other people, “So, it could happen to me.”

They have the dream; they can see it, taste it, touch it… playfully imagining and fantasizing about what they could have, what their life could be like, all the success, love and happiness they have ever wanted… Yet there is a key component in their plan that is missing.

Take Action Now

Tony Robbins calls it, “Taking massive action.”

You must be willing to commit to doing the work that it takes to allow your dream to come true. You must be able to place yourself in the right time and place in space to let it be your new normal.

And you must do it now, not put it off until tomorrow because we know too well that tomorrow never comes.

Identify Obstacles

Figure out what keeps you from making it happen and deal with it, or forget it. See a therapist, your doctor, a coach, a hypnotist, the preacher, etc… (Don’t seek out a friend, unless your friend is wildly successful, then seeking them out might be advisable) whatever it takes to break you out of your self-imposed limiting beliefs.

You know the ones; I’m not good enough, worthy enough, educated enough, don’t have enough time, energy, money… The list goes on and on.

Doing Beats Luck

Also resist the idea that what you want is going to just happen by fate, luck or magic because you heard about the someone, somewhere who was struggling along through life and woke up one day to be unimaginably successful. While this does happen, it is very rare. You’re chances are better at winning the lottery; if you buy a ticket. Forget about it. Far more people become successful by doing what it takes.

No one else is going to do this for you. Resign yourself to take responsibility of your life and purposefully do something about it.

Do What It Takes

If you need skills, get them. Read a book, Google it, figure it out and start going through the motions of having the skill, practice it until you can get a grip on it.

You don’t have to do it all at once, but you must do something every day.

Resist the thought or feeling that an action you might be taking is uncomfortable; of course it is. Doing something you’ve never done before, going somewhere you’ve never been before is uncomfortable, but isn’t it often an exhilarating experience to be on the other side of something that you never thought was possible?

Map It Out

Chart your course (the most successful people create a specific map denoting their starting place and where they want to be) and stick to it. By having your goals clearly defined – and keeping your list with you at all times – you can keep yourself from being distracted or thrown off course.

The next time I see you?

I don’t want to hear. “If only…”

I want to hear, “Guess what I did?”

Now, you’ve got my undivided attention; I love the doers.

My response is something, like, “Wow! Tell me more,” followed by, “What can I do for you to make it even better?”

And I’m not the only one. Men and women who are on the move, gravitate toward people on the move and many of them help to bolster others who are movers and shakers, or are taking action to move themselves into position of being a mover and shaker.

We’re constantly on the lookout for you.

Are you there?

What have you done lately?

 

Believing in Things Unseen

Ever wonder if there’s some force that animates all the life around us?

Ever wonder if you have any effect on the source, or if it’s all just predetermined fate?

Have you ever asked the questions (either aloud or silently to yourself):

Who am I?

Where did I come from?

Why am I here?

If you have, you are not alone. There are many of us asking those questions and thanks to emerging science we are starting to get answers, though you may not be able to access the scientific facts as they come to light.

Why? – Because there are those who would like you not to know this information. There are people who are charged with managing us, the masses of the earth’s peoples that continue to grow and expand. They cannot have us knowing that there is the possibility that we are more… three-dimensional beings living simultaneously alongside other dimensions teaming with vibrant life.

It is not my lot in life to convince anyone of anything, though regularly while conducting my work with clients it is part of my function to challenge a client’s belief system; not to persuade the client in one way or the other, only to get him or her to consider there might be other possibilities that may not have been considered previously. This awakens one’s sense of wonder.

Wonder is the bane of the controllers’ quest for power.

We, as a people, are much easier to manage if we are taught by wrote, example and trained to believe, act and react in certain ways; and this training starts at birth as we are trained by parents who have been trained and shuffled into learning institutions who have been heavily programmed to deprogram your sense of wonder.

What if we were surrounded by power that was so great that it could only be imagined but even our imaginations have fallen under the power of the controllers. The mere though – let alone mention – of the idea of supernatural power elicits the pre-programmed response, “If I can’t see it, it is not true.”

Then, if someone insists that a certain unfathomable idea might have some merit, the pre-programmed response escalates into questioning one’s mental acuity and/or sanity. Certainly such a person would run the risk of being crazy, labeled a kook or insane.

If they can only keep us thinking that a thing must be seen to be believed; they retain control.

I have always wondered if there was something more… Even in my youth (I know; the pre-programmed response would try to blame my early exposure to marijuana fog or hippie communes leading to brain damage, so as to discredit any experience or factual data that I might try to deliver, nonetheless) I knew there was something so incredibly bigger than we had been told was going on.

My early foray into the ministry was my first attempt to find out more. I was full of wonder, starving for the truth and open… so very open. So open, in fact, that the ancient texts that I had access to were not enough to quench my thirst.

Why? – Because no matter how advanced or open-minded the reign of thought within any particular model, each expounded thought was placed neatly within a box – the box was secured and protected. Yes, this new revelation is the highest form and it stops here. This is our definitive truth.

Immediately, my feathers begin to ruffle, “Are you kidding me?” Surely this is a joke. Didn’t you just explain to me all the series of revelations that have been revealed to man via God or science, and how it superseded all thought up until that point of revelation?

Is it just me? – Or is the fact that you just said, “This is it!” sounding a little like the unenlightened folks that you ridicule for embracing their beliefs in the same manner?

Could there be more?

Maybe I am not normal (dear God, please don’t let them ever make me the N-word) but I have the wonder of a hundred men.

Do I believe in things unseen?

Absolutely.

There is more unseen than seen The unseen is waiting for youAlong my life’s journey I have witnessed things – and connected with people who have witnessed things – that could never be rationalized… Or is that true?

Far be it from me to say that a thing is this, or that, or limited in any way; leaving the door open… for even more…

Could it be that it’s not just me and a chosen few?

Could it be that there is a growing awakening among all the people who are readying themselves for the nest step of human evolution?

And does even the thought of such a possibility make anyone, who thinks it is their duty to prevent this evolution and to control us, shake in their boots?

Consider this:

There is more unseen than seen; so much more that you can’t even conceive of it.

The unseen is waiting for you.

Love is a Terrible Thing to Waste

Surely there is no greater love than to experience that sweet connection between two human beings, separated by bodies but united in a strong love-connection that transcends time and space. This love can take many forms, like friendship, familial love, appreciative/respectful love, romantic love, eternal love, love for the others and the world, etc…

Being a love-child of the sixties (this is where I place the blame, though I realize the source could have come from elsewhere) I resonated with the love vibration that permeated the time. I was not attracted to – nor did I participate in – the “free love” movement that was prevalent back in the day, rather I embraced the idea of loving one another, accepting people for who they are and allowing everyone to find their own way, loving them all along their journey.

My sincere desire to participate in management of great love is likely why I was so attracted to ministerial work early on because the religious model that I was exposed to (then, in the late seventies) seemed to promote this kind of love. My fore’ into the business of religion did not turn into a life-long occupation, yet I continued in my personal work of helping others achieve their highest and best, while continuing to seek and promote higher forms of love and respect for others.

Throughout my life I always found it interesting (not only from a purely scientific viewpoint) that – even though I believed that each human was blessed with an innate capacity for love – some people seemed to be incapable of being able to truly connect to other individuals, experience compassion, empathy, or have a love-appreciation for concepts or things, like art. To witness the most beautiful sunset, or some other scene in nature, examine the details of someone’s art, see a heart-felt musical performance, see someone struggling for survival and to not be emotionally impacted; this surprised me.

Nowadays, I can wrap my head around the concept of someone who is devoid of an ability to love (as most the rest of us would define it), as is the case for most sociopaths, psychopaths or others at various locations along the anti social personality disorder spectrum; but otherwise “normal” people?

People with the inability to be moved to tears for anything except for pain or great fear…

Of course, I was raised under the tenet of, “big boys don’t cry,” like many of us (especially those of the male persuasion) and I maintained a tearless approach to life until the fateful day in 1982, following the viewing of E.T. with my young son, Nathanial. As the credits rolled, we both sat in silence, until he broke into the tearful sentiment, “I didn’t want him to go.” I joined in, and haven’t stopped since.

And I get that in our current societal structure, love is seen as weakness. In this respect it is understandable that one might numb one’s self to the idea of opening up enough to allow a wildly painful experience. These people had the capacity to love, but have taken extensive efforts to dismantle the ability in favor of self-preservation.

To complicate the landscape even more, there’s the whole “battle of the sexes” role reversal that figures into the picture of our love metamorphosis. In the past men were dominant over women, now women are exerting their dominance in an unlimited variety of ways.

Love is a terrible thing to waste shredder sign love waste
And still there are others who have never really had the ability to love… What about those people? Are they more inclined to use and manipulate other people serving their own selfish wants, needs and desires (but not in a narcissistic way)? Do they maintain relationships that are seen as highly disposable? And how does this all impact others who are authentic, loving people?

In my work (and in my life) it is not uncommon for me to meet people whose hearts have been broken by others who never had the capacity to return love in kind. Some of them heal and look for a more authentic love, while others allow their hearts to harden vowing to never love again.

To those with hardened hearts, I beseech you, consider learning to love again; the world needs your love now, more than ever.

I believe there is a progressive wave of love that is spreading throughout this planet as part of our human evolution.

What part will you play in this loving future?