Invisible Abuse

Ever notice the stuff that makes you angry about the world?

It happens every day, if not all day long, something captures your attention, spins you up, and you can’t believe this kind of stuff happens in our world today, yet, here it is.

You think (if you don’t say it), “Aargh!” and might add, “I hate it when that happens!” You feel your negative emotions swell up and they overcome your rational mind, even if nothing happened to you directly.

It’s as if you’ve been physically assaulted even though no one has touched you.

You are the victim of invisible abuse

The societal structure which is the containment method of those who seek to control and herd a massively growing population is formulated in such a way to use fear and belief systems as a method to invisibly restrict and harness its inhabitants.

Not unlike the electronic invisible fence method of placing a shock collar on a dog. The collar emits an electric shock when the dog gets too close to the perimeter, keeping the dog from making a break for it and running free. No physical fence which can be seen by the naked eye is seen, only a wire buried beneath the surface to trigger the shock collar is all that’s needed.

You are being invisibly controlled by your negative reactions (the electronic shock collar), just like that invisible fence method keeps the dog invisibly restrained.

This constant barrage of negative shocks (which really are represented as electric shocks firing inside the brain, flooding your body with chemicals that cause you to fear, panic, or get upset and angry) is the invisibly abusive control tactic wielded by those who are charged with seeing that you are controlled, obedient, and easily handled (manipulated).

This all seems quite normal. Just as it would appear to be a perfectly normal way of life for the dog, had the dog been fitted for a shock collar since it was birthed. Likewise, we accept this invisible abuse as a part of life and it keeps us easily manageable as we stay inside the invisible fence.

As effective as the invisible fence is, every now and then, you see a dog wearing a shock collar running free, admiring its ability to find a way to break free from the invisible abuse.

Our fence of invisible abuse is not one hundred percent effective. Every once in a while someone breaks free from the system and finds true freedom and liberty.

From inside the invisible fence, you could hardly imagine why anyone would want to be outside the invisible electric fence of negative emotional shock treatment. We’ve become so accustomed to it being the natural state of things, that we wonder why anyone would even think of anything differently. Even if you were inclined to dare to imagine what might be outside the fence of invisible abuse,

ZAP!

Your attention is interrupted with a negative shock to the brain, which distracts you from the passing thought that there might be a life outside the negativity as your body starts to react with rage, fight or flight, in the struggle for survival inside the fence.

“Look at what’s happening!” (Not at what might be on the other side of the invisible fence. Let the invisible abuse overtake you.)

This doesn’t even take into consideration, that you are surrounded by other people who have been trained by electroshock therapy to do whatever they can to keep you victimized by the negative electric voltage. They’ve become so used to the invisible abuse that they’ve learned how to create and disseminate their own form of shocking attention-grabbing invisible abuse to keep you restrained within the invisible fence of their own creation.

And so, it is.

But there are those who have made it outside the invisible fence of abuse who can see clearly what is happening from this vantage point of real freedom and liberty.

Increasingly, more and more people are awakening to the idea of the invisible fence of abuse and they are finding the courage to make a break for it, finding themselves on the other side.

Sometimes, they go back, because they can’t imagine living outside the invisible fence of abuse, while the others find new ways to live outside the fence.

The next time you find yourself “shocked” by negative thought and you’re thinking, “Aargh! I hate it when that happens!” what will you do?

 

Getting to Know You

When you’re getting to know someone, you are also letting them get to know you better. The best way to do this is to be open, honest, find common ground and communicate with each other as you build a relationship without judgment. Especially in the beginning, it’s best to avoid conversations which can lead to disagreement or conflict.

Not being quick to assume, accuse or judge someone can go a long way in building rapport, so just don’t go there. If you have some pressing thought, idea or question that might be offensive, wait until you have built rapport and get to know each other better. This will also help you to have a better idea about how to approach the idea or question in a way that is respectful of his or her personality and communication style.

If I am getting to know you as a person, you are no threat to me. I am investing my efforts to get to know you better, without you having to prove yourself worthy of my attention or friendship. As I get to know you better, I learn whether I can trust you. If I can, trust develops, and you move closer to my inner circle of relationships.

Invite those you are getting to know to ask questions if anything is unclear about what you are talking about, especially if it is in regard to you or the kind of person that you are. It is common for someone who is harboring an unspoken question to file it away as if it was asked but left unanswered. This figures into their continuum of understanding or judging who you are as a person.

There is no blame associated with this process, it is just how the human brain works. By being open and inviting invitations to query you, the unspoken questions may be addressed and clarified.

When I’m getting to know someone, I like to add value to the conversation by giving them something to think about, challenge them (without overwhelming them) or make them feel a little better than before we exchanged ideas. If it’s appropriate, I might suggest a little homework assignment and invite them to get back to me on how it turned out.

You never know which acquaintances might grow and develop into lifelong friends, so leave the door open for them to reconnect with you again. It might be a good idea to set a date and time for reconnecting at the end of this conversational exchange.

If it sounds like they are uncertain about their schedule or may not feel as though this might be more than what they bargained for, not to worry. Make sure you arm them with a manner by which you can be contacted in the future, if they are feeling like they might like to reconnect or get to know you better later, at a time when it is more convenient for them.

If you’ve been able to garner some valuable insight or nugget of truth from your interaction with this person, by all means, tell him or her. Every interaction between two people has the potential for enlightenment, acknowledging such opens the door for even more. Everyone feels good about lending value to another’s life, even if only in small, otherwise insignificant ways.

So, be on the lookout for something positive in each interaction and chances are you will find something beneficial, helpful, or a thought or idea which raises your enthusiasm or joy.

Take advantage of the digital tools you possess. Exchange email addresses or offer to hook up on social media. This helps to maintain contact or allow this person to reach out to you when the timing is better for him or her.

Not all the people you meet will be a good match for developing a deeper relationship with. In fact, some can even be disadvantageous or harmful. If the new person you’ve met becomes a drain on your resources, then know when to move along.

Some people can be like a black hole of negative energy, draining your and others whenever they are around. There is no judgment here because it’s just the way they are. You cannot change an energy vampire or prevent them from draining your energy but you must find ways to isolate yourself enough so as to not let them drain you and move on.

If you are sensitive and aware enough to identify this person as a potential energy drain at the get-go, there is no need to offer an opportunity to reconnect at a later date. Be polite, trust your instincts and proceed appropriately.

Be gentle with those you choose to move on and away from. Honor them and protect yourself. Be mindful of who they are as a person and have empathy for their plight without exposing yourself too much or offending them.

Many an offended person with low self-esteem has taken to the Internet with false accusations, negative reviews, and public forum bad-mouthing in an attempt to seek revenge for having their feelings hurt.

This is bound to happen occasionally but being mindful and cautious can help you in taking the high road to living a better life, while honoring others who are only doing the best they can with what they have, just like us.

Will You Do It?

You have a dream. You can do it. Will you do it? That’s the question.

Occasionally, someone crosses my path and I am empathetically drawn to him or her. I can see his or her potential and I sometimes get lost in the fullness of the vision. On rare occasions, I reach out and invite this person to join me in the performance of my mission because I can see the synergistic relationship between our combined missions. Sometimes I jump the gun.

My vision of his or her potential is so clear, that I overlook the current status he or she is in along his or her life’s journey. If he or she is not ready, willing, or able to fully embrace their individual purpose, message, passion, and mission yet, then I am doing him or her an injustice my presuming they he or she is fully engaged or capable participating in this time in space.

Everyone is on their own path, doing the best they can with what they have, and there is no reason to engage when the timing is not right for you. Only you can know when you are in the right place at the right time to fully embrace your higher calling, and only then, will you know the answer to, “will you do it?”

Will you do it?

Sometimes it’s when you’ve had it up to here (as Popeye the Sailor might say, “That’s all I can stands and I can’t stands no more!”), other times you might have been just waiting for the appropriate bandwidth in life to have the time and space to dedicate to living your own life to your highest and best potential.

There are others who have a pretty good idea what their life’s purpose is (may even know precisely what their divine assignment is) and have decided never to engage in it fully.

I owe a huge debt of gratitude to Mark Victor Hansen who taught me to work with people and clients in lockstep fashion. Previous to Mark’s coaching, I could get so excited about someone else’s possibilities that I’d sacrifice everything on his or her behalf, only to find out later, that he or she had no intention of following through on fulfilling his or her life’s purpose.

Until Mark’s diagnosis, I would passionately overextend myself, even put myself in harm’s way, allow myself to be drained by emotional vampires, exploited by sociopaths or psychopaths who would seek to exploit my naivety and enthusiasm.

These days, my ministry is far more streamlined, I have staff and friends looking out for me and I am more cautious and disciplined. I realize now, that I cannot want something for you more than you want for yourself.

I will fully support you and walk with your hand-in-hand step-by-step toward you accomplishing your goals, realizing your dreams, achieving your highest and best, living your best life, and making the world a better place, but I will not do it for you.

I show you how, and help you do anything you want, but you must be motivated, willing and capable of doing the work necessary to bring your vision to fruition.

If you think you’re ready to go forward with all you’ve got, then I’m ready to go with you. You could do this on your own, no doubt about it, but together we could rock this thing.

Call me.

5 Questions to Ask Yourself

When you start embracing your life’s purpose, moving in alignment with your mission, sharing your message with passion, you start small. There’s a good chance you’ve already been doing the work you’ve been called to do. God is like that.

God will put you in situations where you can recognize and exercise your special gifts and abilities which are all a part of your unique and individual calling. Ask yourself these 5 questions:

5 Questions to Ask Yourself

1. Do you feel like you just don’t fit in?

If you’re feeling like you just don’t fit in with the rest of society, it is likely that you are marching to a different drummer because you are called to a special purpose with a unique counter-culture message and mission.

No matter how hard you try to cover it up, play nice, and blend in with your peers, something inside you knows this is not the life you came here to live. There is something more. So much more, and it is calling you out.

Sure, you can push it down and cover it up, just like you have in the past, and don’t worry about it too much because God still wants to accomplish this thing, and if you refuse to embrace your calling, God will find someone else. Your right to choose is always honored. You are blessed for all your decisions, and never judged.

2. Are certain people with similar problems drawn to you for support?

If you are seeing a distinct pattern in the types of people with particular problems drawn to you, that’s like the Cosmic Director shining a spotlight on you, and sometimes you get the idea of this being your calling, other times not so much.

Why?

Mostly because you second guess yourself, feel inadequate or let that inner voice do whatever it can to talk you out of it. You’ll find some reason that you’re not good or worthy enough to accomplish the work you are being called to.

Yet, all the while, you are still attracting these people to you (who while they come to you for advice, they do not honor you fully for your gift and abilities because you haven’t fully embraced them).

3. Do you find yourself in recurring problematic scenarios?

You may be a problem-solver with world-transforming potential but resign yourself to just being good at your job, or lucky when you step into uncomfortable situations which resolve positively.

You just accept your ability but humbly downplay your potential impact for the greater good because you lack self-confidence or are shy.

Or maybe you find yourself in these situations but refuse to do the work of learning to move through these challenges for your own benefit, as well as being able to help others to do likewise. If this is your choice, it is like that you will continue to find yourself in these circumstances, until you do.

You are potentially a game-changer, not just for your local community but the world at large.

4. Are there things happening in the world that upset you more than others?

You may have been called to be a warrior or champion, standing up for the rights of others, or defending those who are unable to defend themselves.

5. Do you see things differently from other people?

Those whose things differently from their peers are the visionaries, the people who have been called to challenge our belief systems, to break us free from the societal trance the rest of us have fallen victim to,

Again, you let the doubts of your insecurities keep you from moving forward.

Yet, all these types of people who struggle with this inner conflict are drawn to me. This is my calling.

Maybe it’s time for you to come out of the shadows and embrace the life you were blessed to be called to.

I have a gift which allows me to see glimpses of you at your highest and best, and I am unlikely to let you know what I see because to do so would only break your heart if you continue to stand in your own way, preventing you from embracing all you were meant to be, enjoy, live your best life and make the world a better place.

On the other hand, if you are ready to go, and give it all you’ve got, I will be there with you every step of the way.

Devastated by Your Lover

When you’ve loved so deeply and survived the most chaotic and destructive relationship leaving you feeling helpless, lost, and potentially suicidal, thank God for being devastated by your lover because you are being prepared for the best love ever. When a love has all but destroyed you, your greatest love is very near and is yours to embrace, if you do not turn away from it.

Devastated by Your Lover

Love is a process of growth. If you were open, vulnerable, and loved so deeply that you could be reduced to a smoldering pile of ash in the wake of a relationship’s end, the truest, greatest love of your life is not far off, though you must move from where you are to where your highest and best love is. If you stay where you are, there will be another tragic love waiting for you to continue your preparation process.

How often will you have to repeat this cycle until you realize that your path to true love is in a different direction from where you’re currently headed. Continuing to traverse in the direction you’re currently going, will only yield more of the same because you’re on Love’s Train Wreck Road.

When you’re face-down in the rubble of a relationship where you have been devastated by your lover, hopefully, you start looking for a way to get off LTW Road.

Granted, you’re feeling unwell, and can barely move, and maybe all you can do is to roll your body off of the road and into the ditch, where you can gather yourself and figure out a way to get off this road.

If someone drives by and offers you a ride to the hospital, this sounds like a good thing when you’ve been beaten and bruised, lying in the ditch. You overlook your rescuer’s rugged appearance, and otherwise repulsive characteristics because in this moment, you feel as though this person is an angel of God.

So, you get into his (or her) truck and you get taken to a cabin in the woods, not a hospital. Still, on Love’s Train Wreck Road, your feeling of relief is interrupted by the idea that this is starting to look more like a horror film, instead of a romantic movie.

You can see (or feel) a blinking yellow light on the dashboard, “Service Engine Soon,” and this is that still small voice speaking directly to your heart.

Stop the insanity, get off this road and find your own way to service your love engine.

The fact that your love relationships are not working out right is a clear indication that you are not doing it right. You must find a way to get off the road you are on and do it differently if you want different results.

I know you’ve heard this before,

The Greatest and Truest Love Starts with You

You are quick to disregard such a trite statement with, “Yeah, I know that. I love myself. Leave me alone. I got this.”

(Uh oh, the three words that cut off the source of all future awareness: “I know that.”)

Do you?

Clearly, you do not.

Finding the wellspring of love within yourself is not as easy as it sounds, because it is such a powerful treasure trove of energetic power, that tapping into it not only changes your life, but the world.

7 Phases of Love

You have been programmed to disregard this powerful source of love energy, which not only causes your heart to beat and your mind to think, but also holds the stars in space, and you have a direct connection to this power within yourself.

That’s the purpose of my Awaken to True Love Workshop. It’s helping people plug into the love source of all life and everything. (There are many paths to awaken to true love, this workshop is just one of them.)

Once you tap into this source, honor and love yourself deeply, your life and the whole universe shifts, and love, true love is the life you live.

Then, you do not find your love in another person, but a person who is perfectly matched to you (along with his or her imperfections) appears, willing and able to reflect this new love energy back to you.

Together, the flame of your love experience influences and warms the hearts of others, affecting and changing the vibratory state of your community and makes the world a better place.

And you’ll never find yourself devastated by your lover again because you will never find yourself on LTW Road again.

If you decide to do it differently.

Are to ready to Awaken to True Love?

See you at the Soulmate Wizardry event.

Pursue Your Purpose

Finding your purpose can be scary business. As much as those of us in the discovering your special purpose business would like to reduce it to a particular formula, since everyone is different, the layers that need to be peeled away to uncover your purpose are different, the depth of the layers of programming vary so widely, it just cannot be reduced to a series of checkboxes and processing of a form. (Though many of us have tried.)

There are some similarities among those who are seeking to uncover their life’s calling, and you might be surprised to find out where some of the stones are where missions are buried beneath. Think about looking for the answers you’re looking for under these stones:

Fear

What are you afraid of? In many cases, the struggle you have with a particular fear holds the keys to your life’s purpose. It may not be the endgame, but certainly, those things that frighten you, are generally an indication that what you fear and the overcoming of it is either your calling or your purpose and mission lies on the other side of what you fear.

If you have a pervasive fear of failure challenge about a particular activity or endeavor, this is a priceless clue. If people have approached you about doing a particular thing, and you thought to yourself, “I could never do that,” because you felt as though you were unable or unqualified to do it, that’s a pretty good indication that this challenge is an invitation to lead you to your purpose.

Serve Those You Admire

There are those people whom you come into contact with or become aware of that inspire you. You resonate with their calling, you get excited when they step up and express their life’s purpose.

Seek to support or serve those whom you admire, by assisting them (you don’t even need their permission, you could support them via positive social media support, or leaving positive comments on their posts, referring others to investigate their work, etc.) you acquire their positive vibration.

The more you align yourself with the people who are actively engaged in doing their thing, you get exposed and used to the idea that you could/should be following your path to your destiny.

As you start to raise your own personal vibration in congruence with your purpose, you may notice that your desire to spend time with people who are not supportive of your pursuing your mission with passion are dragging you down. There are those who just seem to drain the life out of you when they are around, we call these people emotional vampires. It might be time to restructure your social matrix, surrounding yourself with more supportive, positive people.

Your Greatest Challenge

That insurmountable person, circumstance, or thing that you just cannot get beyond. The constant irritation that keeps popping up in your life, over and over again; that thing that makes you feel helpless and hopeless… That’s God holding you in a loving headlock, tapping on your head with a heartfelt noogie and a silly smile, saying, “Hello?”

How many times do you have to be presented with this particular challenge before you take the steps to overcome it? It is highly probable, this is your purpose, to overcome this challenge and possibly be the inspiration for others who struggle with the same issues(s) in life.

Is There More?

These things which frighten you, the people who inspire you, the challenges and obstacles that feel insurmountable, either are your special purpose or point the way to your purpose, so don’t be intimidated about looking at what’s next?

Also keep in mind that you may have more than one special purpose, if you are a very special person with an impressive destiny.

If your impassionate mission is multi-faceted, the caveat is to not spread yourself too thin, or you may have to prevent yourself from being drawn away from your own purpose in the support of someone else’s mission.

The process of discovery consists of asking questions and taking steps, one at a time, then asking yourself a “Yes” or “No” question. “Am I on the right track?”

“Do I feel like I’m headed in the right direction?”

If the answer is, “No,” re-evaluate and try something different. If it’s “Yes,” keep going.

See also: How to Find Your Purpose

Being Open and Available

There are people who are on the fringe of your business, people who are acquaintances, those who are prospective clients, clients and associates, and if you think of these categorically as concentric circles of, at the center are your lifelong clients and friends. The goal would be to continually invite people into the next level of your business relationship.

To do this you must be available. Create a method of communication which may be accessed anytime your prospective client might need to get ahold of you. This is fairly easy to manage in this digital age, and/or with a virtual assistant.

You don’t necessarily have to be available 24/7 but your communication method does need to be available, so at least they can send you an email, text, or leave a voicemail.

In order for this to have any hope or working, you do need to reply as soon as possible. The highest success rates for converting prospects to clients comes from live interaction in the moment of contact. If this is not part of your marketing paradigm then make sure your people know that if they leave a message you will get back to them as soon as you can and do it, remembering that the longer it takes you to return the call, the more likely that your prospect will go elsewhere.

Before you meet with a prospective client, acquaint yourself with his or her business, and personality, so that you can have some idea about how to best communicate, relate, and help them. Fortunately, this is much easier in this day and age due to most everyone having a web presence and social media activity.

When you meet with a prospective client be sure to show them your best stuff. Leave them with something of value, a tip, secret, tool, technique, something that builds their confidence in your ability to be their go-to man or woman. You have skills, skills that they need. Make it easy for him or her to think of you in their hour of need.

Adjust your business model to not be a one-shot deal with your clients, building long-term business relationships over time, with regular consistency reduces your marketing expenses and increases your profitability over time. Make your business model all about repeat business, ‘ere the importance of keeping the door open over time.

Let them know that you will be contacting them in the future and make sure that you follow up. Remain in your prospect’s conscious awareness. People are different and prefer to be contacted in different ways. Try to reach out live and in person. If your potential client is unresponsive, find better ways to keep the lines of communication open, such as texts, emails, message chats, etc.

Out of sight, equates to out of mind, and if you’re not reaching out to your clients, they are unlikely to reach out to you in their hour of need,

Once you’ve met with your client or prospective client, you want to leave the meeting in such a way to be open and inviting to avail yourself to continue to do business or build a relationship with your people.

Following your meeting, recap what you have discussed. This lets them know you’ve been attentive and care about their needs or concerns, and this review can also achieve a greater degree of clarity, as they refine their assertions, or clear up any misunderstanding you may have had during the meeting.

A follow-up email is an excellent way to document the meeting and create a hard copy of the meeting which can easily be accessed by either of you in the future.

How to Live Your Life

Everyone always thinks they know what’s best for you, and though they think they have your best interests at heart, they all have their opinions about how to live your life. Only thing is, they are not you and, therefore, are not qualified to tell you how to live your life at all.

Your journey is your journey. No one has lived a life like yours, though some other people’s lives may have shared similar experiences. You may even have shared the same experiences with others, but your individual experiences can be (and generally are) completely different because you are different people.

No one has the right to tell you how to live your life; only you can decide how you will live your life.

You can choose to take direction or advice from others, and if you are wise you can avoid the pitfalls suffered by others by observing how they have executed decisions which they could have done better. Using your sense of reason and skills of observation will help in your deciding how you will navigate your life’s journey for yourself.

We’ve been trained from birth to care about what other people think of us, and desire to be accepted in the eyes, minds, and heart of others, so we find ourselves trying to please others and tend to make adjustments in our lives to accommodate the other people in our world.

In many cases, we are frightened about what other people might think about us and are inhibited by the idea of exerting our independence because we want to please others or desire to be accepted/admired by others.

How to Live Your Life

Exerting your independence does not mean isolating yourself from the rest of the population (unless you decide to do so). Certainly, you should do your best to learn from others and listen to what they have to say, but at the end of the day, how you decide to accept or apply any of the information you have been exposed to is up to you.

And no one has the right to judge you for how you live your life or what you choose to believe, as long as it doesn’t infringe on the rights of others.

Be fiercely independent, fully exercise your freedoms, offer others the same courtesy, and do no harm.

Of course, there is the common-sense factor. It behooves you to be cognizant of the world around you as you exercise your independence. There are laws that have been structured to control your behavior.

Find ways to exercise your independence within the parameters society has set forth, unless you’ve decided that breaking the law is necessary for your executing your independent beliefs, then be prepared to accept the consequences of your decisions.

All decisions have consequences.

This is the only caveat: Do not hurt anyone or impose your beliefs on others. That’s it.

In my life, some of my personal tenets include,

Edify others.

Love and live your life and do no harm.

Let go of perfection, except in honor of its imperfection, for no one is perfect (especially not me).

Try to see from someone else’s perspective because, after all, we’re all only doing the best we can with what we have.

Love and respect others as you love and accept yourself, or honor and treat others as you would like to be treated.

Some positive quotes from others who assert your right to live your own life include:

“Only you can control your future.” ~ Dr. Seuss

“You can influence, direct and control your own environment. You can make your life what you want it to be.” ~ Napoleon Hill

“Control your thoughts. Decide about that which you will think and concentrate upon. You are in charge of your life to the degree you take charge of your thoughts.” ~ Earl Nightingale

“Take control of your consistent emotions and begin to consciously and deliberately reshape your daily experience of life.” ~ Tony Robbins

“You only have control over three things in your life – the thoughts you think, the images you visualize, and the actions you take.” ~ Jack Canfield

Food for thought to inspire your own thoughts.

What Are You Hiding?

I have had the privilege of having people confide in me, telling me their deepest, darkest secrets. I know what the “official story” is about a great many things, and I have heard the truth behind the headlines directly from the sources. I have also been massively deceived by a sociopath, the greatest keeper of secrets, only to find out the truth at great expense.

One particular psychopath with whom I’d become acquainted with who was referred to by prosecutors as inherently evil and claimed himself to be a pathological liar could wield lies like his identifying superpower. With a keen ability to defraud, counterfeit, and masquerade, he enjoyed false careers as everything from an airline pilot, attorney, mental health counselor, therapist, investment banker, real estate, precious metals, and Wall Street broker, just to name a few.

The psychopath was the embodiment of the phrase, “If his lips are moving, he’s lying,” (according to one Chief Investigator) as he committed a wide variety of crimes while bilking unsuspecting widows, and vulnerable adults, among a long list of other types of victims, left wounded, alone, and penniless. Lying, he claimed, was his form of exercising his First Amendment right to free speech, which he was entitled to by constitutional law.

Being proficient at lying is not relegated to narcissists, sociopaths, psychopaths, pathological liars, or evil people.

As much as we’d like to say, “I could never lie, like that,” the truth is all of us, including you and me, lie all day long, every day of our lives, albeit without any malicious intent.

What are you hiding?

You are deceptive, hide the truth, and lie every day; we all do. It’s a standard human basic survival skill.

You’ve learned from a very early age, generally two years old, that telling the truth does not serve your best interests. It usually starts with you being sent to your room or otherwise punished by a parent (or parental figure) for honestly fessing up to something that your parent(s) disapproved of. So, you learned to lie and have perfected the craft over time.

You learned to lie (just like we all did) to avoid punishment, disapproval, or pain, and to make life easier to manage, to make friends, to advance in careers or society, and to be attractive to others, especially romantic partners. Leaving you wondering why lovers lie?

Other reasons for lying include getting what you want, to be recognized, establish and maintain an image, to garner attention or sympathy, and to find out if someone else is lying or trustworthy.

No matter how much you know someone, how close you are to anyone, you can’t tell what’s going on inside someone else’s head, it’s just not possible. Just like no one can tell what’s going on inside your head, and you do the best you can to present yourself as the person you believe yourself to be, even if it means lying.

Those of us who might be on the autism spectrum are probably the worst liars (by that, I mean, not very believable when lying and lie the least), but the rest of us are fairly competent at lying.

The fact is, the whole world, the three-dimensional world that we all inhabit, is entirely an illusion of belief systems which are hardly based on truth, but on lies, we’re programmed to believe as truths, and we believe them so much, that we would defend them with our lives.

If we live, we live a lie to the best of our abilities, where we are surrounded by lies, but most of us do it with the best intentions.