What If You Create Your World?

Let’s say for a moment (I’m not expecting you to fully embrace this concept at the outset, only proposing that you follow along and consider the point of view momentarily, to think about it) that you have 100 percent control of your life. I’d expect you to immediately respond with a Scroogesque, “Bah! Humbug.”

What if you create your world... every detail of it?
What if you create your world… every detail of it?

But just for fun, let’s say there is a person in a massive control room who can orchestrate and influence every detail of your life, not unlike The Truman Show.

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If you’ve seen the film, it’s not too much of a stretch of the imagination to consider the possibility that in some ways – in this life – that you are playing the part of Jim Carrey unaware that you are participating in a sophisticated, “reality show.”

Only, it’s not quite as simplistic as all that. This is merely an introduction. What if we kicked it up a notch and made it much more sophisticated, along the lines of The Matrix.

THE MATRIX, Carrie-Anne Moss, Keanu Reeves, 1999. (c) Warner Bros./ Courtesy: Everett Collection.
THE MATRIX, Carrie-Anne Moss, Keanu Reeves, 1999. (c) Warner Bros./ Courtesy: Everett Collection.

Ugh, “thanks a lot,” you think, but the main component in this scenario is to consider that you could be in two places at once. There could be two parts of your self running concurrently, one on-camera and one off-camera so to speak.

Either way, you are living out a dramatic life somewhat scripted (if not completely scripted) by a director who is manipulating all of the players and scenarios with whom you interact. All the people, nature, coincidences, personal achievements, surprises, pain, suffering, accidents, random events, natural disasters, all carefully played out before you for someone’s viewing pleasure.

Now (just for fun, keep playing along), let’s say it occurs to you that this might be true, you, like Keanu Reeves’ Neo, are becoming more aware. So much so, that you start challenging the capabilities of the sets, equipment and energies that create the construct of the world that you’ve come to believe is “real.”

What if there was a way to breakthrough to the other side to see who is running the show behind the curtain.

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Via some magical adventure, you find a way to approach the control room, like Judy Garland’s Dorothy in the Wizard of Oz; only in this pivotal moment you discover it is not Frank Morgan behind the curtain at all.

Oh, you might have expected some gray-haired deity pulling the strings, manning the levers and programming the computers, though there is something oddly familiar about the person who instructs you to, “Pay no attention to that man behind the curtain!”

It is not a cast member from your set, back home… No, it is you.

From this perspective, it is you orchestrating every minute detail of your life, the way it plays out and how you integrate with others as you travel along your life’s journey. All in an effort to fully experience everything this life has to offer.

Not for a viewing audience, exposed to advertising and commercial interruptions, but for you. For without you, there would be nothing. None of this would exist.

Yes, you are surrounded by the largest cast ever. Some are extras, but most are individuals, just like you, living out their own “reality.”

This is the scenario I play out whenever I am overwhelmed or unable to make sense out of events playing out in my life. You might even catch me breaking character, looking into an unseen camera off-screen and ask, “Who writes this stuff?”

Sometimes, I fall to my knees, look up at the sky and dramatically query, “Another plot twist?”

Other times, full of gratitude, “Oh, thank you. That was a good one.”

Most of the time, I am thoroughly enjoying every experience I can think of to throw at myself.

My hope for you is that you find a way to enjoy the journey as much as I do.

Have a nice day

Are You Ready to Change Your Life?

Yes, you have had the thought of living a life that is better than the life you’ve lived up ‘til now. Yet, somehow you feel as though living a better life is just beyond your reach.

I can tell you, many people started with similar limiting thoughts, just like yours, and decided to begin living their best life ever, regardless of how they felt unworthy of being blessed with an amazing life.

It will take work, tenacity, commitment. You will need to conjure up enough self-esteem and courage to keep pushing forward when the gravity of your old life tries to drag you back into your old life.

Making a massive change in your life – from mediocrity to magnificence – is not going to be easy, so you have to be ready and willing to do the work.

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How do you know you’re ready for change?

 

 

You’ve had it up to here

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It seems like everything is going wrong, every time you turn around you’re faced with adversity and while you do your best to battle it, more often than not it wins over all your attempts to overcome it. You know minor shifts are not going to get you from where you are to where you want to be. You are dissatisfied, disappointed, frustrated and broken but you’re ready to dig in and do whatever it takes to break through come hell or high water.

Life is a prison

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You feel as though your complacent life is holding you back. You feels as though you are restrained from the life you desire and cannot break out of the imprisonment of your own life. But you are beginning to see a glimmer of hope. For if your prison sentence is somehow self-imposed, there is an increasing awareness that you must have access to the key and the time has come for you to orchestrate our prison break.

Life is demanding change

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What is with the constant struggle in life? It seems you just can’t get a break or catch your breath, and you’re faced with another change. A job that you liked comes to an unexpected end. Your relationship falls apart. It’s like every time to start to find a little comfort, your world changes, knocking you off-balance. It’s as if the universe is demanding you change or forever resolve to live a constantly difficult life.

Love is lost

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Once you had an enormous capacity for love. Love for yourself, your family, your fellow man, the community at large, even the whole world seemed to be full of love. Then, due to changes, challenges and circumstances, your love of others and life diminished, leaving you broken and void of love. Yet within you lies the smallest spark waiting to be fully engulfed in the flame of a greater love that cannot be quenched and you know you have been called to share this love with others.

You’ve had a dream

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You have had a dream, a plan, goals and aspirations for your life but just can’t seem to create enough momentum to get you from where you are to where you want to be. Whether it is only now occurring to you or it’s been a lifelong vision of the possibility of living a better life, this dream is calling to you to bring it to pass. The magnetic attraction of this calling is getting stronger, strong enough is it’s pull, that you are ready to embrace a brighter future.

It is your time to become a champion

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Whether it is out of a sense of duty, or a highly spiritual motivation, you know it is your time to make the move and begin the transformation, unleashing the champion who lies dormant inside you. You know your life has greater meaning and purpose and the time is now to begin the metamorphosis, fully embracing your gifts, talents, special abilities and sense of purpose in an effort to make the world a better place.

The time is now

When is now the time to take the action necessary to create massive change in your life?

It’s time you became who you know you’ve always been called to be, enjoying all this life has to offer and giving to others in a way that creates a better future and world for you, your family, and the community at large.

You know you can live a better life, live your best life and make the world a better place.

Do it now.
The world needs you now, more than ever.

My Life Has Been So Awful

Ever have those debilitating thoughts that keep you from pursuing an enormously successful life? You might have resigned yourself to recite the mantra, “Life sucks,” ad infinitum or may have heard the thought inside your head,

“My life is so awful, I could never amount to anything”

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Have you suffered what seem to be insurmountable life circumstances that prevent you from being able to have the success you desire?

Let me propose to you that inside every adversity and substantial life challenge there is the seed of a brighter future, but it’s up to you to nurture it to see your life flourish either in spite of or as the result of a tragedy or injustice.

For instance,

A three-year-old boy abandoned by his father, as he grew he was moved constantly from town to town, struggling to make ends meet, reading and learning was complicated due to dyslexia and he was unable to complete high school.

A ten-year-old innocent child suffered familial sexual abuse. Unable to cope, she became sexually promiscuous, became pregnant at age 14 and lost her son shortly after giving birth.

A fifteen-year-old girl witnessed her mother shoot and kill her out of control alcoholic father in self-defense.

An eighteen-year-old boy whose father committed suicide following his parents divorce.

A nineteen-year old young woman was given less than a two per cent chance of living when she contracted an infection went into septic shock resulting in amputation of both legs and the loss of her spleen.

A twenty-year-old man with a dream, set out to share his cartoon art only to find himself unable to support himself became homeless, found a friend in an equally lonely rodent, showered at the train station at was forced to file bankruptcy.

A 25-year old burgeoning drug dealer was arrested at the Kalamazoo airport with over 650 grams of cocaine and promptly sent to prison.

A 28-year-old man burned over 65% of his body in a motorcycle accident, and if that wasn’t bad enough, four years later was involved in an airplane crash that left him paralyzed from the waist down due to spinal injuries.

There is no doubt these people represent those of us who face challenges that make us feel unworthy of accomplishing much at all, due to what might appear to be insurmountable circumstances.

Yet, even faced with such adversity, as these people were, they turned their hardships into the fuel that would lead to living lives that inspire as the rest of us admire them for the people they have become.

keanu-reevesThat three-year old boy became a well-known actor, producer, director and musician. You might remember Keanu Reeves from Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure, The Matrix, or any of the other films which have contributed to his notoriety.

oprah-winfreyThe ten-year-old sexual abuse survivor grew up to be a talk show host, actress, producer, publisher, owner of her own television network and philanthropist, Oprah Winfrey, the wealthiest African-American in the 20th century.

charlize-theronThe fifteen-year-old girl who witnessed the murder of her father by her mother is a South African and American actress and film producer. Charlize Theron has received acclaim for her work as well as recipient of the Academy Award, Silver Bear, Golden Globe Award and Screen Actors Guild Awards.

larry-birdThe eighteen-year-old boy whose father committed suicide following his parents’ divorce turned his attention toward sports and ended up playing for the Boston Celtics. Larry Bird is a 12-time NBA All-Star, won the gold medal at the 1992 Summer Olympics and currently serves as team president of the Indiana Pacers.

amy-purdyThe nineteen-year old who lost her legs is an American actress, model, world-class snowboarder and 2014 Paralympic bronze medalist, co-founder of Adaptive Action Sports, professional motivational speaker, clothing designer and author, Amy Purdy.

walt-disneyThe twenty-year-old bankrupt cartoonist who befriended a mouse was entrepreneur, animator, voice actor and film producer, Walt Disney won twenty-two Oscars, two Golden Globe Special Achievement Awards and an Emmy Award, among other honors. As well as founding Disneyland, Disney World and EPCOT (Experimental Prototype Community of Tomorrow).

tim-allenThe 25-year old imprisoned drug dealer survived his prison sentence using humor as his coping mechanism. Following his release, he tried standup comedy on a dare, and developed his “toolman” persona based on personalities of other prison inmate personalities. Actor and comedian, Tim Allen is best-known for his ABC television show Home Improvement and has enjoyed success during his Hollywood film career.

w-mitchell28-year-old man with the worst luck of all became known as W Mitchell, an American motivational speaker and businessman. He lives in Santa Barbara, California and maintains a second home in Hawaii, is a millionaire, former member of the United States Marine Corps, a paraplegic, and was elected mayor.

… And you think you had it bad.

What’s your excuse?

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There is treasure in your tragedy

only you have the key

It’s time you started to turn your adversity into the fuel to empower you to live a better life, your best life and make the world a better place.

Are Angels Real?

If you’ve ever wondered, “Are angels real?” you can feel safe in the knowledge that angels are so real. In fact, possibly more real than you and I are, though you are welcomed to deny their presence and they do not take it personally. They are still around you, love and protect you, regardless of what you believe.

Angels are a peculiar lot; they are not human, are dimensionally separated from us but even so, are always present and aware and able to interact with us if necessary. They have seen and heard everything as their existence predates humans and they do not have a limited lifespan like we do, they do not have language barriers and can be an incredible resource with or without our permission but far more amazing if we acknowledge their presence and choose to interact with them.

Contrary to popular belief, angels are not religious.

Angels don’t care if you are of a particular religious persuasion, they don’t care if you’re “saved” or even believe in them – or anything – at all. No matter how we try to explain or rationalize them, angels exist.

You might ask, “Why do angels exist?”

Throughout the course of my life, I have heard many answers to the “why” query in regards to angels, and I have heard the wide variety of answers from both experts and laypersons with responses spanning the spectrum of knowledge from spiritual to scientific. My conclusion is that why is irrelevant and just as elusive as trying to determine “how” they even exist at all (though there is no shortage of hypothesis about angels) as I find myself more inclined to believe in things unseen.

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Signs of Angels

How do you know angels are around? Depending on the type of person you are and the life that you are living on this planet, if appropriate, angels will seek to get your attention in the hope that you may understand that, regardless of your situation, you are never alone, even if you are in total isolation.

Though we normally cannot see them (some can or have) they are ever present and will occasionally give us clues or signs indicating their presence. If you are able to get a clue or a sign from your angel it will likely be at the most opportune time, when you’re feeling less than your best and can use a lift. Especially if there is not much around to lift your spirit, angels will sneak through the dimensional divide to let you know you are not alone.

Some common signs that angels will use to make you aware of their presence include the appearance of physical objects on your path, such as feathers or pennies. Other visual cues would include seeing rainbows (especially in the absence of rain) and sparkles or flashes of light without an apparent light source.

Other methods of efforts to communicate their presence may be audible, like hearing someone say your name when no one is around or hearing an angel’s message by highlighting a particular line from a song. Messages may also appear in an otherwise innocuous line of text read in a newspaper, online or even on a billboard or other signage.

Angels represent love and light, and when you can feel being embellished in the tender field of an angel in close proximity you experience an inexplicable sense of feeling love and safety. It’s like the best hug from God or the universe as an angel wraps his wings around you. There is a knowingness that you are not alone, you are loved, divinely protected, everything is connected and will work out for the best.

September Image Directory

Wrapping up the month of September, here’s a quick screen shot review of the month’s news. Let me know which ones you like the most. Thanks for your input, -David M Masters

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Coincidence and Accidents

Ever wonder why there are so many coincidence and accidents?

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Think about it.

When was the last time you were thinking about someone, and they contacted you?

These types of “coincident” happen far too often to be reduced to mere chance, if so, then someone has stacked the deck, and it appears that you have the ability to influence the stacking of the deck in your favor.

I have observed – and you may have too – that when I am in a good mood, good things happen. When I am in a bad mood, bad things happen. When I am on highest of emotional peaks, I am unstoppable.

Not to disregard the inevitable, “Hey, I’m feeling great!” only to be interrupted by what seemed to be an unexpected tragic event, decimating my emotional high.

When was the last time that you were delayed due to some unexpected interruption?

Accidents happen, there is no doubt of that, but what are they really?

Let’s say you’re a singer scheduled to perform on the second night of a week-long special event in New York then travel to San Francisco, the next day. Unexpectedly, your mother has a stroke. The New York venue compassionately reschedules you for the first night, so that you can be with your mother.

So, Patti Austin flew from Boston to San Francisco on September 10th, 2001 and not on her scheduled flight on United Flight 93 on September 11th.

I could have gone my whole life without having to deal with a flat tire on the freeway, but there I was, running a few minutes late trying to make it up on my commute when suddenly my right front tire blew. I was able to make my way through the traffic to the side of the road.

My first idea was to call AAA, but I would have missed my appointment altogether, rather than show up late, so I reacted quickly and decided to change the tire myself. A few thoughts crossed m mind at the outset of the process, as it was evident that I was having to change a tire on the side of the road yet no one stopped to help, and there was no State Patrol or police car in sight.

Then I noticed the traffic crawl to a stop. Even with people stopped on the freeway, they still avoided making eye contact with me as they kept their attention forward. As I continued to change the tire, emergency vehicles forced those stuck in the fast lane to merge to the right and a Life Flight helicopter flew overhead.

As I finished up and merged back into traffic myself, I couldn’t help but think, “That could’ve been me in that accident, if not for this flat tire.”

When I showed up at the location, my first stop was the washroom to clean up my frazzled appearance, then to rush into the meeting which I was clearly late for. The company president promptly stated the obvious, “You’re late.” To which I replied, “You’re lucky I’m here at all.” And not missing a beat, jumped right in, as if I had been there all along.

Many seemingly random incidents interrupt or alter the remainder of your day, and in an instant, any one of these seemingly insignificant alterations can lead to a dramatic, life-altering change in your life.

Conclusion: There is no such thing as coincidence and accidents may serve a higher purpose than we are able to recognize from our vantage point on planet earth.

I am a dichotomy of psychological preferences. Part of me is very firmly grounded in science and technology and the other part of me romantic and mystified by the magnificence of a higher power.

More and more, as I am exposed to a growing collection of personal data on which to draw my own scientific conclusions of life, I find myself moving from Terra Firma to the divine.

There is so much more to this life than I had originally allowed myself to believe and the vastness of it expands beyond my cognition. The awesomeness of it is overwhelming, as I recline and observe it, taking in as much of its beauty as I can comprehend, in awe of its limitless grandeur.

What about All the Evil in the World?

How can you not pick up your sword and join me in the battle against (insert evil)?

Answering this question honestly might widen the social gap between you and the proponent of the warrior who has taken it upon himself/herself to wage a war against a particular evil or injustice.

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The basic concept, which is hard for the self-righteous warrior battling against the machine, is based on the energetic principle,

Whatever you add energy to increases

Mother Teresa understood this principle. While she would not engage in a war protest, she would support a peace rally. Because she knew what when you focus your attention on anything, it gains more momentum and power. So focusing on the solution is far more productive than focusing on the problem.

If you declare war against a particular evil, it requires the evil to defend itself, therefore it increases in power. It collects support and momentum to protect, defend and offensively counter-attack in an effort to survive.

Everything (good or bad) that exists is in a constant struggle to persist and survive, threaten anything and the struggle to survive intensifies. On the other hand, if you are aware of something that is undesirable, unpleasant or evil and do not fight against it, it becomes weaker.

It makes it easier for a young man with a slingshot to deal the deathblow to whatever it is that causes you concern or discomfort.

This approach is found on the high road of promoting a better world, not declaring war against an evil or corrupt one.

Certainly, there are those who are called to be the warriors, the champions whose life purpose is to expose atrocities and to stand boldly in opposition against evil. They are hardwired for this disposition and we need them to defeat the giant, but few of us possess the calling or the skills necessary to assume we could perform this function for the greater good.

Evil is fully aware of the energetic principle of “Whatever you add energy to increases,” and the evil uses this to make itself more powerful.

This is why you see atrocities in the news, in magazines, on the Internet, just about anywhere you may focus your attention. The evil knows if you can be forced to focus on it with a negative emotion, it increases the negative energetic power of the evil itself.

For instance, when you view an atrocity on the evening news and the report makes you feel depressed, sad, hurt, anxious, angry or hateful (or any of the negative emotional responses) you increase the energetic power of the evil you oppose.

Add to your energetic response any action and the evil will push back (reaction).

A more effective energetic approach to dealing with evil in the world is not to post up in an effort to battle it, but to actively support any solution, like Mother Teresa would have done.

Be cognizant and mindful about how you share with others and interact within your social circle about the evil at hand. Most people do not realize that their disapproval accelerates that which they oppose, and they’re not likely to be open to your trying to explain the energetic principle while they are actively engaged in a negative state.

Just be aware of this not being the time to explain such a thing, but do make a conscious effort to not engage in the negativity or wrongness of the subject at hand. Instead, acknowledge the evil, then sway the conversation to the solution.

I really like being approached by someone all wrapped up in negativity (effectively promoted by the evil) complaining about some atrocity or injustice. I acknowledge and affirm their concern, and as quickly as possible simply ask,

“What could we do to change it?”

Bam!

The whole world changes in that moment. The change of countenance in the person is immediately noticeable, and as the conversation focuses more and more about making a better world (instead of hating the one we live in) they add energy to the best things in life.

And I totally understand, and apologize if you are reading these words in a negative state and not open to the ideas proposed here. Please be aware that I am not saying how you feel about anything is wrong. You might be our champion. We need you.

Betrayal Wounds and Scars

It is not uncommon for people to struggle with issues and the aftermath of betrayal. The emotional wounds from these breaches of trust can inflict sufferers in physiological ways. The emotional pain from betrayal can be as devastating as being stabbed in the back with a knife (thereby justifying the origin of the saying).

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Have you been emotionally, “stabbed in the back,” by someone whom you have trusted?

Betrayers come in a wide variety of flavors. Some can be relatives and/or loved ones, sometimes the most intimate love-relationship that one can have with another human being. You may experience betrayal by a friend, co-worker or mentor.

Because we all have different life experiences and personalities, we all respond to betrayal in different ways. A specific betrayal may be of little effect to one person, while another may suffer exponentially; this suffering can be primarily internal, or may express itself externally, or physiologically.

When betrayal has been recognized, the emotional open wound is fresh and the pain may be great. After a while, the pain fades and the emotional scar tissue begins to form. One’s mind begins to filter all information as being potentially harmful, and you may begin to take on the attitude that, “I’m not putting myself out there again,” in a fearful effort to isolate yourself from the possibility of experiencing a similar type of pain in the future.

It is one’s natural fight-or-flight response to protect one’s self from pain and it makes perfect sense… but the cost can be enormous.

The worst thing that can happen to someone suffering from betrayal of trust, is to run the self-preservation-routine resulting in embitterment and over-protecting one’s self in an attempt to prevent anyone from being able to hurt you in such a way again.

The problem with this is; you know, in your heart, that you have so much to give. The sensitive people have special gifts and abilities that help to make the world a better place; they increase the quality of life for others (some who may be extremely less fortunate). Building protective walls around you will also result in cutting off exposure to others who need your light and influence.

The bitterness and fading pain of betrayal breeds a more cynical outlook on life and also comes at a physiological price that may lead to autoimmune deficiencies, illness and a laundry list of diseases.

If left unhealed, little by little, the light of those who illuminate our local community begins to fade and as it fades dramatically, so does the overall general outlook for us (or the world) as a whole.

Since there is no law against betraying another person (although some laws may be broken in the process of the betrayal), those who are emotionally less-equipped to care about the feelings of others run rampant throughout our society victimizing the empathetic shining stars with little regard to the negative impact their actions might have.

I was betrayed and I was hurt Im better now stronger than ive ever beenIf you are suffering from betrayal, scheduling a one-on-one session with a counselor or coach can have an immediate calming effect on your peace of mind and quality of life.

You do not have to be a victim. Instead, you can learn from this event and turn it around. In fact you may find that this event can hurl you into an empowered and optimistic future that can change the future of others and the planet in such a way to bring clarity and focus to your life.

Utilizing specialized skills, a good coach or counselor can work with you hand-in-hand to put you back in control of your emotional wellbeing. You might be surprised to discover that this episode has prepared you as a mentor to help others struggling with similar circumstances.

You can do this; without giving up on being a blessing to others, and continue to achieve your highest and best.

You can find more ways to deal with betrayal in my book: Trust Betrayal.

 

If You’re Happy and You Know It

I was out having dinner with my friend, Norman, and he couldn’t help but notice the uplifted countenance of our server. Unable to help himself, he asked, “Why are you so happy?”

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Somewhat surprised the he’d even notice, the server smiled and told us about her painting she had entered in the State Fair and that she’d just received a text on her phone that she’d won first place in her division.

Her exuberance was apparent. I remembered a song we used to sing with the kids that went like, “If you’re happy and you know it clap your hands…” No hand clapping was needed here. You could tell she was happy.

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but you can pretty much tell when anyone is really happy, even if they’re trying to conceal it, you can just tell.

So what makes people happy?

Good News

Good news, like hearing that you’ve just won an award for your artwork, would certainly make you happy, Even if you were depressed moments before, good news can fire up you happiness hormones and usher you into joy in a heartbeat.

Ever know someone who was happy all the time?

I know it’s harder to come by these days, but most everyone knows someone who is disgustingly perpetually happy. You probably think to yourself, “No one could really be that happy,” assuming that they must be faking it, have something to hide or are full of crap; all reasonable thoughts for a person who finds it difficult to maintain a high level of joy for very long.

Now, ask one of these annoying happy people the same question, “Why are you so happy?”

They’re likely to go on and on about how the whole world is comprised of beauty, kindness, benevolence and goodness… enough to make you think that either they’ve taken some amazing illicit hallucinogen or simply lost any sense of reality and their mind to boot.

They are also likely to be thinking about all the good things in life they are anticipating, as well as what they are doing to move themselves closer to the things they truly desire for themselves or their loved ones. How could they not be happy, thinking thoughts, like those?

You might walk away, shaking your head, thinking this person might be better off suited for a straight jacket.

Nonetheless, they aren’t hurting anyone – if anything, just the opposite – their positive and outlook directed at the right person at the right time might just save a life, or in some small way make the world a better place. The cumulative effect of happy people, like these, can have enormous impact on the planet and its peoples.

Yes, you think, but what about all the pain, violence, poverty, injustice, etc…?

The people who are happy likely know about and acknowledge all the evils of the world but choose to focus instead on all the good things of the world. For every bad thought you could think, there is a good one that you could choose to spend your time dwelling on instead.

One thing for certain: Bad thoughts make you feel bad and good thoughts make you feel good.

So, when it comes down to it, happiness is a choice.

And if you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands.

Half Assing a Million Dollars

Ever know someone who took a half-assed approach to ANTYHING then complained about less than anticipated results?

You know the half assing type of person who tried to fast-track, short cut, or sleight-of-hand trick their way to their anticipated results.

Rhonda Byrne’s The Secret attracted a herd of half-assed folks who came up with the bright idea that they could think positive thoughts and the universe would magically make everything they could possibly dream of appear before their eyes in real life.

Now, at first, the half assing novices noticed some preliminary results indicating their dreams would come true. For instance, if they wanted a new BMW, and posted a picture of the Beemer on their mirror, desktop and other various places where their attention might land throughout the day and took at least five minutes a day imagining themselves driving the specific model they wanted, something happened.

They actually started seeing the BMW appear on the streets, driving by them on the highway; parking in the same parking lots as the car they were dreaming about, seeing them appear more and more all around them. Initially indicating the law of attraction is working and their own BMW was making its way to their driveway.

After a few weeks, no car appears in the driveway, so the disappointed half assing potential manifestor concludes the law of attraction is a bunch of hooey, and stops by the 7-11 to buy a lottery ticket, dreaming about how they’re going to spend the 37 million dollar prize.

How about half assing business?

The novice entrepreneur either saves (but more likely comes into a little extra cash from some other method, like an inheritance or insurance settlement of some kind) and decides to half-ass their way into the American dream.

They get a business license; rent a retail space, get some business cards, signage and phone installed (maybe put some business identification on their car) and maybe even alert the local newspaper and radio stations of their Grand Opening day.

On the opening day, a few friends and relatives show up and congratulate them on their new business.

Three months later, their back at the employment office looking for another job (or approaching their previous employer about getting their old job back).

You can’t really blame the half-assers, because our culture promotes a sort-of, “I can have anything I want and I don’t really have to do anything,” mentality of entitlement.

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What are the top five ways to get millions of dollars fast?

When asked that question, most Americans answer:

1. Win the Lottery
2. Inheritance
3. Win a Large Lawsuit Settlement
4. Marry into a Wealthy Family
5. Have a Great Idea (Invention or Business)

Regardless of how you feel about the top five ways most people think you can get a lot of money quickly without much effort, it is the common consensus of general populace.

I was somewhat enthusiastic about finding out that the fifth most popular way to easily make a lot of money included business, but it actually did not include business (as in starting a business because that would involve work) instead it refers to simply coming up with an idea and you are handed millions of dollars for having the thought magically bestowed upon you.

Just because something is popularly believed (like the top five ways to get a million dollars fast) doesn’t make it true. Similarly, believing that you can use positive thought to make something happen or appear is also not true because all methods require a combination of thought (the more positive the better), planning (more the better), opportunity and action culminating at the time and place.

You might object,

“But I saw on the news,” (or heard a story about, or read a book, etc…) “that” this person or that person magically manifested millions of dollars without doing much of anything. “That’s what I want.”

Is it possible? Yes.

It is possible that you will win the lottery, inherit a million dollars, win a large lawsuit settlement, marry into a wealthy family or have a million dollar idea and get paid for it.

If you’re achieving half-assed results from your half-assed efforts, it may occur to you that if you were to give it your all, your results could be much more in-line with the results you desire.

You are more likely to actually achieve financial independence, make a million dollars, or millions of dollars, if you are willing to do the work. Note that the Law of Attraction and positive psychology works like a dream for those who do the work of embracing the entire process (not just the wishful thinking portion).

I find myself working with the doers on their way to success. Doers who are willing to do the work necessary to manifest the results they desire.

We are so fortunate to be living in the greatest country in the world bestowing upon us the opportunity to achieve massive success regardless of who we are, no matter what age we are.

By all means, keep dreaming…

Wishing you are blessed with only the best.