Okay, at first blush you’re probably thinking, “Talk to yourself? If I start talking to myself, next thing you know, they’re coming to take me away, ho ho hee hee ha haaa.”
Nothing could be more untrue, notice I said talk to yourself, not with yourself. You need to talk to yourself to reprogram data routines that undermine getting the things that you want in this life. In the coaching business, we refer to this as reciting affirmations, in the religious business, we call this positive prayer.
The key is in properly constructing the affirmation or positive prayer. Certainly, it must be positive. When you tell yourself (or pray about) something negative you are indicating to both your mind and your higher power that you have more lessons to learn. So, you attract more negative circumstances in answer to your words, in an effort to give you enough negative circumstance to realize that negative begets negative and positive begets positive.
If you want your life to move in a more positive direction, you must fuel the engine of your life with all the positive energy you can, and your higher power rewards your positive effort with even more momentum, the more positive you are.
When you’re structuring an affirmation, it should be positive, even if it is rooted in negativity.
For example, let’s say I think life sucks, am annoyed experiencing a low income level and am unable to make ends meet. I might be feeling helpless and hopeless and if I’m of a religious persuasion, I might pray a prayer, like
“Dear God, Why would you let me suffer like this? I’m broke, I’m tired, nothing ever seems to work out for me; it’s like everyone’s out to get me. I don’t see any hope of recovery and I feel so awful because I let down my family and people who believed in me and depended on me. I’m feeling worthless and alone, so very desperate, please save me.”
That is a prayer placing an order with God for an intense degree of frustration and difficulty ahead, which I’m sure you would rather avoid. Plus, the more you pray a negatively-charged prayer, like that, the worse it gets.
When in contrast, if you were to reframe your prayer to be more positive, it might look something, like this
“Dear God. Thank you for all the wonderful things in life that you have given me and the best things that are coming to me now. I am a successful and financially secure person with an unlimited supply of energy and resources thanks to you. Everything always works out for my highest and best and everyone and everything supports me in all that I do. I am wealthy in all things including finances as well as the love and support of family and friends. I am so blessed to have these people in my life. I am worthy leader, powerful and mighty. I have the ability and wherewithal to do whatever is necessary to allow even more prosperity in my life, and give you the glory. Thank you, I love you.”
Don’t just pray that positive prayer once and forget it. If you’re serious about it and serious about seeing the results, do it at least three times a day out loud.
If you’re uncomfortable with the religious references in the aforementioned example, no problem, there is still hope for you. All you have to do is to re-shape your life by using the same process without the religious jargon. So if you’re thinking
“Why do I have to suffer like this? I’m broke, I’m tired, nothing ever seems to work out for me; it’s like everyone’s out to get me. I don’t see any hope of recovery and I feel so awful because I let down my family and people who believed in me and depended on me. I’m feeling worthless and alone, so very desperate.”
Then your reprogramming positive affirmation would look like this
“The best things are coming to me now. I am a successful and financially secure person with an unlimited supply of energy and resources. Everything always works out for my highest and best and everyone and everything supports me in all that I do. I am wealthy in all things including finances as well as the love and support of family and friends. I love having these people in my life. I am worthy leader, powerful and mighty. I have the ability and wherewithal to do whatever is necessary to allow even more prosperity in my life.”
This positive re-framing, is a clear indication that you are nearing the end of this chapter in your life and as it prepares for positive resolution, you are ready to embark on a new journey, moving onto the next level of your life, as you leave these issues behind you.
I’ve seen religious folks have an easier time with embracing the idea of the power of positive prayer because these people are used to hearing stories of how prayers, like this, achieve miraculous results. Yet, non-religious individuals achieve the same results, without the benefit of acknowledging, recognizing or worshiping a deity at all.
It’s as if this concept is universal and available to all who engage in it.
To review the process would be to write down your concerns in their negative format on one piece of paper. On the other piece of paper, write out your positive script.
When posi-scripting keep everything in the first person. Let everything reflect your situation as you desire to be as if it were already so (in the present tense).
Read or recite your positive prayer or affirmation aloud at least three times a day. The more excited and animated your spoken delivery with a happy expression and enthusiasm, the more powerful it becomes. Start looking for things to change in our favor, and they will begin to appear.
Keep refining your affirmations or positive prayers and make way for a new style of living a better life, your best life.
