Tag: blessing and lesson

Watching the People You Love Ruin Their Lives

You love them with all your heart, yet they make choices and decisions that bring discomfort, despair, and chaos into their life. There’s little worse than watching the people you love ruin their lives. You want to help. You give your input and suggestions, still, they insist on being their own worst enemy.

It breaks your heart every time they do it, yet you cannot prevent them from exercising their own free will and living the life they were meant to live.

What? “the life they were meant to live?” That’s right. Everyone is on their own individual journey. Each one is different and different people are destined to have different experiences, in a sense to play out the hand they were dealt in such a way to get them where their life’s journey leads.

You know, in your life, you’ve made bad decisions which have led to uncomfortable consequences. But didn’t you learn from those experiences? Weren’t there critical pivot points in your life which made you evaluate your decision-making process, change your life, and make better decisions in the future?

This is the process, and you can’t do it for anyone else. This may make you feel like you’re watching the people you love ruin their lives, but you’re not. You are not watching them ruin their lives, what you’re doing is watching the people you love make their own way through life, just as you’re making your own way through yours.

We’ve all learned key values based on our individual experiences, such as being a people pleaser or keeping up with the Joneses. Taking the easy way out, procrastination, giving up too soon or holding on too long. Asserting your superiority or not valuing others. You know all the right answers and everyone else is wrong. Not speaking your peace, or not being open to new ideas.

You know from your own experience that it’s not a good thing to bury the past and ignore it, to judge others harshly, to engage in hate speech, to think that what you want is all that matters, or to hold onto expectations so tightly that if something doesn’t go your way, your whole world collapses.

You’ve learned valuable life lessons, like having a bad experience doesn’t mean that everything associated with a similar focal point of your bad experience (stocks, cars, investments, mate choice, religion, social cliques, pets, children, relatives, etc.) is patently also potentially “bad.” You know better to throw the baby out with the bathwater. You’ve learned this over time.

You know if you feel like you can’t do it, you probably can. You’ve learned to be open to new ideas because you might end up making your own life easier or better. You’ve discovered that cutting yourself some slack, not judging yourself harshly, and taking time to relax and smell the roses are not only beneficial but necessary for living a good life.

You’ve learned that not all advice from people you care for and trust is not always the best advice.

Failure is not fatal. If you fall off the horse, you dust yourself off and get ready to give it another go. You’ve learned that you cannot give to others or love with all your heart if your cup is empty.

You’ve learned to graciously accept assistance if someone offers to lend a hand, and to avoid being seen as narcissistic by others.

You’ve learned to accept others as they are, where they are on their own individual journey. You love them, you let you make their own way, and you bless them as they learn from their own experiences.

Many of the most valuable lessons in life are learned by living life, by making mistakes, and learning from them. Why would you deny anyone that part of their journey?

The people you love have to find and make their own way, to discover all these things on their own. You may share your own story as an interesting anecdote, but do not preach to nor condemn them for having the courage to make their own decisions, and do not coddle them when they suffer the consequences.

This is their life. Honor them.

Yes, it can be hard to watch them go through it. You can pray for them, bless, them, love them, but do not judge them, for they are doing the best they can with what they have, as so have you.

Remember Everything Learn Nothing

Your memory, the things you hold inside you from your past, represents a crippling disease which stands between you and all the good things in life that are waiting for you just beyond your view. Warning: Remember Everything Learn Nothing.

That negative feeling in the pit of your stomach, the ache in your heart, any of these negative physiological manifestations of your incongruence when you think of something from your past blocks the abundance, peace, harmony, prosperity, and true love that awaits you.

Holding a grudge or discontent blocks you from love. The negative feeling associated with any memory from the past pulls you out of the flow of love, the vibration which encompasses abundance, peace, harmony, and prosperity.

Therefore, if you seek all the good things this life has in store from you with the least amount of effort, all you have to do is to attune yourself to loves vibration, take the inspired action, and all these things will come to you.

Everything you’ve ever wanted, or dreamed of, is just waiting for you. God would not have put those ideas in your head or those desires in your heart if He did not want to give it to you. All you have to do is to let go of anything that is preventing you from being in the vibration of having it, and you will find yourself enjoying it, first unmanifested (enjoying the expectant feeling of having it, while it has not been realized), then manifested. Here it is, in your life, in all its glory to be thoroughly enjoyed by you.

Now, you can also have all the things you want in life by making them happen all by yourself without regard of any vibration whatsoever, but this method is generally not associated with joy, at least not for very long.

Living in a higher vibration, attracting the things you desire and love into your life, is far more sustainable and prolongs the joy of the whole affair indefinitely.

To achieve the desires of your heart through the flesh only, by sheer determination, hard-work-and-dedication, or brute force, is effective for the accumulation of material things, wealth, or the appearance of wealth, but there is rarely any lasting joy, and the satisfaction of attainment is fleeting.

And the secret code to unlocking the sustainable love vibration is this:

Remember Everything Learn Nothing

Remembering everything (every detail of something that made you feel bad or caused you pain) leads to holding grudges and lowering your vibrational frequency, and also prevents you from extracting the precious learning which is lovingly provided to you by the experience. The more you remember and think about these things that make you feel bad, the further away you move from what you want.

Every experience you traverse through along your life’s journey has a treasure inside of it just for you. This treasure is usually represented as the gift of knowledge, something for you to learn which may not have been possible (or more effective a lesson to be learned) in any better way.

Every challenge or occasion for you to feel pain, bad, or as though an injustice has occurred, is an invitation for you to move closer to the life and everything that you want. Without the token gained from this experience, you will not be able to make it through the next gate.

Yet, God is holding all the desires of your heart in store for you and desperately wants to shower you with all you deserve, if you will only come to it. So, if you do not receive the token to allow access for you to pass through the next gate, a new opportunity will be presented to you.

As you may have noticed, some people get stuck between two gates for a prolonged period of time because they are unable to take hold of the gift to be learned which is necessary to move on. You may even have noticed yourself caught in this cycle of similar recurring challenges.

Now you know why. It is God giving you opportunities to move closer to everything you want. In this way, all pain is a gift. Pain is God’s way of saying, “Trust Me.”

Pain is a feeling. When you feel it, if it is God begging you to trust, you will find when you actually do trust Him and know in your heart that all things are in divine order, then you find yourself not feeling the pain of whatever it was that was upsetting you in the past.

You must be able to truly forgive, acknowledge the divinity of the conflict, bless all participants without judgment, and let go of the negative feeling. Wipe your memory of the negative associations you previously held in attachment to this event. Retain the lesson, the blessed learning, and move on.

When you are able to do this, you will find yourself hovering in unconditional love’s vibration, free from the negative strongholds (the feelings) of your past.

Now you are

Remembering the Blessings and Learning in Love

This is the fast-track to your heart’s desires.

Disaster or Miracle Find the Blesson

Life is a crazy journey. It’s full of unexpected twists, turns, trials, and tribulations, with the occasional tragedy thrown in for flavor. What you get is a cocktail for disaster or the foundation for limitless miracles. The tipping point, the pivot which lays perfectly in the center of your life delicately balancing every situation and circumstance, is controlled by you. So, it’s up to you whether is is a disaster or miracle and to find the blesson

Every challenge you face comes with emotional weight on either side of life’s balance beam.

The slightest influence, what you feel, what you think, what you do, even the smallest bit of energy equivalent to the weight of a snowflake, is enough to upset the delicate balance, sending all that emotional weight tumbling on the side of either disaster or miracles.

No two life events are the same. Each has different degrees of emotional weight associated with it. Some have such little emotional weight, that whether it falls on the side of disaster or miracle the emotional impact is barely noticeable. In other cases, the emotional weight is so heavy that it could have life-threatening emotional impact if hurled on the side of disaster. On the other hand, if sent cascading on the side of miracles would be cause for incredible celebration.

In either case, the actual upsetting of the balance, the process of tipping it one way or the other, is shocking and unsettling. Even if very heavy emotional weight is sent crashing on the side of miracles, an uncomfortable period of adjustment may be necessary before the celebratory outcome can be felt or realized.

Curse or Blessing

It’s all up to you, whether every challenge you face feels like a curse or a blessing. You will feel the emotional outcome according to which side it falls on.

Turning Emotional Disasters into Miracles

What if all the weight shifted and crashed down on the negative side of disaster? Is there a way to convert negative emotional weight into positive, even miraculous, emotional weight?

The answer is, and will always be, unequivocally, “Yes.”

You can turn bad emotional weight into positive emotional weight, but it will take some inspired, attentive, and focused work to be done by you if you are interested in engaging this transformative process.

This is the work that my colleagues and I do every day when helping people overcome the emotional trauma experienced by individuals just like you who bear the burden of carrying a high-level degree of heavy negative emotional weight.

The very carrying of such emotional weight takes a toll on your body, mind, and soul. You feel the negative impact of it and carry it around with you wherever you go. Sure, you can find ways to mitigate the damages or stave off the effects for a while, but when the smoke clears from whatever method you’ve used to stop the pain, all that weight is safely stored and remains.

To move it from one side to the other will take some work on your part.

Whether it looks like medical intervention, therapy, counseling, consulting, coaching, or private personal or spiritual growth, there are many resources available for you to achieve the process of metamorphosis, turning your tragedy into priceless treasure.

Find the Blesson

The starting point is to find the blesson; the blessing and the lesson that was hidden amongst the pile of negative emotional weight which was represented by the specific event, situation or circumstance to which it is associated.

In this way, you can start the cleanup process. Some of the negative weight can be eliminated, destroyed, demolished and swept away or discarded, if necessary, while the rest (all the good, valuable and blessed weight) can be transmitted to the positive side of miracles. Following the period of adjustment, not only will you feel the relief from there being significantly less weight on the negative side (never having to carry it again), but you will also feel the positive attributes associated with moving weight to the positive side, which makes you feel better, satisfied, fulfilled, even joyous and blessed.

And your efforts of doing the work necessary to diligently execute this process are forever accompanied by a sense of pride in the knowledge of the fact that you did this deep and meaningful work on your own.

Be an Inspiration

Having gone through this process of personal discovery, healing and transmutation of negative emotional weight into positive, you have become an expert, like only you could be, regarding the challenges which you have overcome.

There was a divine purpose for your enduring both the challenge and the overcoming of it, and that is to offer hope to others who without your encouraging story of having been there, done that, and not only survived but thrived from having come out on the other side.

You have become the lighthouse, saving others from the potential dangers of encountering similar plights.

You are the lighthouse beaming your beacon of hope to the world; a world facing little hope of a positive outcome when facing unbearable odds and having little hope, if any.