How to Get What You Want

I’m in the business of helping people achieve their highest and best and this often also means I can help you get what you want. Now, I can’t give it to you. Where would be the fun in that? But I can help point you in the right direction to achieve your goals, dreams and discover how get what you want, though you must do the work yourself.

Looking for a free ride? Okay, there are free rides available for freeloaders, although my clients are what I refer to as “doers.” That is to say they are willing to do the work to achieve their goals and get what they want. You might think, “That’s the hard way,” and indeed there are many ways to get a thing done, though the most intelligent people focus on doing what appears to be hard or overwhelming in the easiest way possible. If you’re in the know, you may find it is not as hard as it seems.

My favorite – and easiest – way to get from where you are to where you want to be is by simply taking

Baby Steps

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I mean, think about it; every baby wants to learn to walk, so they start with the smallest wobbliest steps. As difficult and awkward as it is, the stepping process in cumulative, every step makes the next one easier and before you know it, the baby’s walking confidently.

We can apply this same principle to ourselves, and you actually have been doing so your entire life, or else you would still be living in your parent’s home (no disrespect to those who are still living at home, you know what I mean).

One Step a Day

Even if you only took one step a day, eventually you would reach your destination. Some days you could take many steps, or walk a mile bringing you even closer to that which you seek. But even the smallest step brings you closer than you were the day before.

This concept can be applied to anything; obtaining physical items, amazing experiences, good health, healthy relationships, financial health, education, personal satisfaction, increased quality of life, happiness, whatever you want.

While this is a simple concept it is also profound and useless if you do not continue to take action and keep stepping toward what you want.

Accountability

It is on you to keep yourself accountable for your progress.

If you really want to get from here to there, then by all means track your progress. It not only allows you to see how far you’ve come, but it establishes the reasonable expectation that you will take a step to move you closer to what you want every day, no matter how small.

If you’re serious about getting what you want, you will review your steps every day. Every evening before you call it a night and ready yourself for slumber, ask yourself, “What did I do today?” to move closer to what you want.

In the event that you cannot recollect any step, there is still time. In those final moments do something – anything – that will move you even the slightest bit closer to that which you desire and make a promise to yourself to purposefully move closer tomorrow.

There is no judge or jury here, only your own accountability to yourself.

These daily steps are key to the success of the doers who make things happen and enjoy the best this life has to offer.

What do you have to show for today?

If the answer is “nothing,” then all your wanting is for not and you are not likely to get what you want.

You can do this.

What will you do today?

Tomorrow?

Give What You Want

If you really desire something to be ever present in our life, then give it away.

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There are many ways to get stuff, as in most areas in life, obtaining physical possession or emotional states includes a wide spectrum of possibilities but basically are obtained either by hoarding or giving.

Hoarding is fear-based promoting lack, and giving is gracious benevolence that promotes abundance.

Which sounds more appealing to you?

Fear or Gratitude

Fear

In a fear-based state of mind, the person who is acquiring any given thing, circumstance, state of mind or feeling is doing so from an energetic position of survival, and in a more aggressive campaign for any given thing, survival of the fittest. The extreme is likened to an act of war, where the goal is to conquer the enemy to obtain that which is sought.

In the battlefield of acquisition morality may be compromised in an effort to get what you want. Not unlike war-time. We raise our children not to kill. Later in life, they may find themselves in occupations where they are taught that killing is not only acceptable in certain circumstances, but if they are in a war-time occupation it becomes their job, to kill for their country.

The same is true for fear-based accumulation. To varying degrees (based on the individual) all bets are off. They are likely to do or say anything in an effort to obtain that which they seek. The more desperately they want it, the more desperate the measures they will take to get it.

You might think that this fear-based acquisition might represent only low income individuals. If so, be prepared to wrap your head around the idea that this style of acquisition permeates all income levels from the lowest to the wealthiest people on our planet.

In the fear-based system, the acquisition of that which is sought is not satisfying to the person who obtained it in this manner. While some satisfaction is obtained by getting what they wanted, it doesn’t last long, and they long for something else to get.

I am not offering any judgment on how someone acquires the stuff they want. It’s not good or bad, right or wrong, it just is what it is.

Gratitude

Then there are the people who are thankful for anything they receive and give freely with no expectations and they get everything they want in an abundant fashion, while the rest of us look on in utter amazement wondering, “How do they do it?”

They don’t work hard for anything, do not obsess over its absence, just believe they will have it and whatever it is they’re wanting finds its way to them.

They tend to be extremely generous, helping others, giving of themselves in a variety of ways to offer energetic assistance, contribute to the evolution of peace and/or a better world in some way.

Whether they are aware of it or not, they are participating in what we currently refer to as the Law of Attraction. Some people just do it naturally and the rest of us can learn how to live a life like this, although it will take some effort on our part if we are to move from fear-based acquisition to gracious abundance.

Reduced to its simplest form, I see the fear-based acquisition and gracious abundance not as good and bad, but more like the hard way or the easy way. To me it is easier to freely give, love and promote peace, kindness and a better world and enjoying all the things that come my way, than to fuss and fret about not having what I want, scrimping, saving or manipulating people or circumstances (including finances and financing) to get what I want.

If you are in the fear-based mindset, the scrimping, saving, financing sounds much more practical and easier than letting go enough to find joy in allowing what you want to come to you at the perfect time. To you, the concept of giving-and-allowing sounds impractical or ridiculous at first blush.

Think about it

This applies to all things, material things as well as emotional states.

In this respect it is true: you cannot buy love or happiness. Oh, you can achieve that state for a while via any means possible, but it does not satisfy as much as when that which you seek is obtained by giving of it freely, and receiving it in return.

What do you think?

You Can Get What You Want

Love Mick Jagger You Can Get What You Want photographed by Gered Mankowitz 1966I was just listening to Mick Jagger saying, “You can’t always get what you want.” And to tell you the truth, I was offended by that programming. Then, to try to smooth it over by saying, “But if you try sometimes you might find you get what you need.”

I had a chat with God and told Him I want to know what it’s like to be one with my soul mate. As the story goes, I saw her at the reception, the whirlwind romance ensued and many years of happiness and bliss were the result.

I got what I wanted.

And in a moment… that moment had passed.

Ended up, what I got was not exactly what I wanted but for a moment I had what fulfilled me.

What? Is this a lesson in mediocrity?

Look, Mick, I love you. But I believe I can get what I want, especially if it’s for my highest and best.

Just have to reevaluate and restate my case.

Okay, God:

I am attracting a partner with the same capacity for love that I have… not expecting anything less than I am willing to give, in an amazing woman who is traveling in the same direction that I am headed in this life’s journey, so that we can do this thing (life) together hand-in-hand, supporting each other, for the remainder.

Thank You, for I know it is already so.

-Amen

Sounds like a tall order?

It’s not for everyone. This is just me. You have your own calling for your highest and best, that is perfect for you.

So, I’ve been holding out for just the right person who is my highest and best… I am being patient, observant and diligent.

Her journey to me must be an interesting one, because she sure is taking her time, and it’s starting to cause concern for others who love and care about me.

Friends and family are starting to freak out, claiming that I am too picky and need to compromise to, “get what you need,” so that I can get on with my life and not be the only single guy at group functions.

I’ve tried to explain to them that I am totally open but unwilling to compromise because I believe she is on her way. Do I have any illusions that she will be perfect in every way? No; only that she will be perfect (including all her imperfections) for me, as I am for her and she will be, “going my way.”

What about your list?

Yes, I have a list of attributes that I find desirable. (Wouldn’t it be silly not to?) Without such a list, how would I even be able to recognize her when she gets here? Hopefully, she has a list, too.

Besides romance, Mick makes reference to being willing to publicly make a stand for what you think is important and people with failing health.

You want a better world? You can have it.

You want to be healthy? You can have it.

You don’t have to settle for what you need. You can have it all.

You can be, do or have anything you want.