What Do You See?

How are you approaching life every day? When you observe your surroundings do you see drama and turmoil, or do you see divine synchronicity? When you start to awaken, to see things as they really are, not as you’ve been programmed to look at them, not only do things appear differently to you, but your attention and unique vantage point actually changes the world around you.

You could let the media influence your vantage point, allowing this data to pull your vibration into the muck and mire of it all, or you can see it from a bird’s eye view, to rise above and see the sacred, harmonious orchestra of life playing out all around you.

Everything perfectly timed and played out to perfection, and you can rest assured in the fact that you know, regardless of how things look at any particular time, that everything works out for good. Everything, every “thing,” whether it appears to be bad or good, each plays an integrative role in the whole of all that is.

And you know what? It’s all good.

If you’re not there, I know it sounds crazy the first time you hear it, but if you can find a way to bet there, you will discover, as so many other people are, as they continue to grow, expand, and evolve, a serene sense of calm strength, happiness, and peace in what others see as utter chaos.

When you look at the world, do you see a perfectly balanced group of really different people of varying races, backgrounds, ideals, hopes, and dreams, all trying to do the best they can given the options they’ve been given?

Or, do you see a bunch of people fighting for what they believe, trying to force others to be like them, willing to go to any extreme to force their particular view and compliance thereof on everyone else?

No matter which way you look at it, can you possibly conceive of the idea that this complex clockwork is all working together in perfect harmony to usher us into the new world that awaits?

Are you noticing the contrast? Does the contrast make you realize there must be a better way?

Is the contrast so great that you feel like if one person could make a difference? If only… Maybe you’re that one person who could make a difference?

Does this contrast make you want something different, something more?

Are you starting to see that things are not always as they appear to be?

Do you feel every cell in your body wanting to give in to the evolutionary process, empowering you, and any of us, all of us, to be more than we could ever imagine? If only we could break free from the invisible “cells” we’ve all allowed ourselves to be confined by.

This is true freedom. The freedom to grow, expand, to broaden your horizons, to be more than you ever allowed yourself to believe you could be.

Once you start to see this as a possibility for yourself, you might be able to understand there is an invaluable group of people all in the process of doing the same thing in their own way.

Now when you look at the world, you see it differently, as it really is, in all it’s sacred harmony, while you

Live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.

You are an integral part of the evolution of humankind.

May you be blessed on your journey to achieving your highest and best.

Is It Your Time?

In your attempts to live a better life, your best life and make the world a better place you can reach out for all the energies which are available to you at any time and place because you have learned by experience that to get from you to get from where you are to where you want to be will take more ability than you possess in your flesh only.

Your intention, dedication, and willingness to do the work does propel you in the right direction, yet with all your abilities and militaristic forcing of yourself to go through the motions and do the work, you realize that there are other resources outside yourself which you can draw upon, if you dare.

Is it your time?

Has the time come for you to evaluate your life, considering your vibrational frequency, and struggle with the question of whether you are willing to do the deep inner work necessary to raise your default frequency setpoint?

Is it time for you to look into your life, all the details which have brought you to this point in time and space. You look at all the things which have molded you into the person you have become ‘til now since you’ve taken your first breath. Unfortunately, on our planet in its current sociological state, your separation from who you are starts with your first breath.

Would you dare to be you?

Will you evaluate all the times in your life where you have missed the mark, even with the best of intentions, you fell short? Maybe you overreacted in a situation where you would have rather expressed yourself in love but found yourself throwing an inner child tantrum instead. Have you ever unintentionally hurt someone?

In the getting to know yourself more deeply, you gain the understanding of who those around you really are as you come to realize things are not always as they appear on the surface. When people show you who they are, you believe them.

Are you ready to start doing the work of clearing your social and sacred space? To investigate your circle of influence, to see who you can rely on and truly trust with your dreams and desires? To reduce your access to toxic friends and energy vampires by setting boundaries?

Are you willing to love more? Might you consider increasing the love vibration so much as to love like it’s the only thing that matters? Can you feel yourself unequivocally telling everyone and everything, “I love you no matter what,” with your heart and your entire being fully engaged?

Do you think marriage is good medicine, or are you refusing to even think about matrimony because you’ve loved and lost, or, “I just got dumped?” Are you able to open your heart and mind to the possibility of having a successful love relationship? In terms of romance in your life, is your awakening to true love a valid option for you?

Will you embark on a journey which leads to your spiritual awakening? Can you conceive of the idea of being completely open and honest with yourself about who you are and who you could be, secure in the knowledge that you can’t do God wrong, and are grounded in the knowingness that everything is connected and perfect in every way?

Will you be willing to allow the powers of the universe to integrate more fully in your life?

Will you welcome the idea of angels and dimensions with exist beyond your scope of rational thought?

Are You a Shaman? I believe you are.

Can you hear it?

That’s the sound of your evolution, your life in the process of a massive transformation.

It is your time. Your time is now.

Just remember, as you do your own work, we’re all in the same process, individually and collectively.

The world is a better place because of you.

Stepping into the Unknown

When you’ve acted out in faith, readjusted your direction and continued to move in a path that is unfamiliar to you, how are you stepping into the unknown? You know, you’ve observed your unfamiliar surroundings, saw the dark void ahead, slowly and carefully you take that step and move yourself into the void.

Fade to Black

You find yourself standing in utter darkness. You cannot hear anything. There is no sense of which way the air is moving. You can breathe, feel something solid beneath your feet, and you exercise your ability to vocalize, “Hello?” and you notice your voice appears to be dead as you can hear yourself speak the word but there is no reverberation.
You wonder where you’ve found yourself, if there’s anyone out there? “Is anybody there?”
Silence.

There you are. You. Only you.

You are here. Feeling lost and alone.

What do you do when you find yourself stepping into the unknown?

No one would blame you for immediately turning about-face and running back to what you know, what is familiar, in the direction which seems more safe and secure.

You might find yourself carefully crouching yourself down into a face forward lotus position placing yourself in a meditative state or sending out your extended senses, projecting them forward to see if you can “feel” what’s ahead.

Or you might curl up in the fetal position and go deep inside yourself, evaluating where you’ve come from, what brought you to this place, and contemplate your decision to take this step in this direction which has led to your stepping into the unknown.

You may have the composure and dedication to realize it was you who brought you here, you know why, and you’re committed enough to keep moving forward, so you take half a step forward. You may not be able to see what’s ahead or know if your next step will offer you a firm footing, or if you will find yourself falling into eternal darkness. Determined, you take another step.

Then there’s the you who channels your inner Rambo. Finding yourself stepping into the unknown, your quickened as you stop to evaluate your surroundings as you find yourself stepping into the unknown, grit your teeth as you summon all your inner strength, and let out your mightiest warrior call, as you run straight forward into the void.

If you’re like me, your life has had a lot of situations where you have found yourself stepping into the unknown. At different times, we’ve tried all these approaches to finding ourselves in the unknown void.

Sometimes, turning and running is the best option.

I find myself transitioning through all the phases.

But in all cases, the best opportunities for growth and change comes from moving forward into the unknown.

When you step into the transitionary vacuum corridor, you have no idea what is on the other side of it.

There is only one way to find out.

For what is unknown to be known, you must move forward. It need not be at supersonic speed, baby steps will do. It is there, ahead of you, waiting for you to discover it.

If you’ve done it before, what did you find there?

If you are stepping into the unknown, right now, what do you think might be ahead waiting for you?

Check back with me and tell me what you found on the other side.

When the Rest of the World Has Given Up on You, I Still Believe in You

Once you get the idea that you have a reason to live and you have the knowingness of a better life which waits for you, you begin your magnificent journey. You may stumble and fall, but when the rest of the world has given up on you, I still believe in you.

The people with whom you’ve shared your life ‘til this awareness, may not believe you. While on your journey you will experience challenges and opportunities for growth and change which will prepare you for the next level of growth, expansion, or evolution which may be necessary for seeing your vision become reality.

Once I have seen a vision for a client, the vision is complete and already a certainty and reality, but the client must in a sense become all he can be to be able to embrace the vision in its entirety. Most of the time, the client is able to see the vision, or his or her ability to imagine it is clouded by the deprogramming which has occurred since birth.

When you, or any of us, come to this earth, they know what their mission in life is. By the time you are five to seven years old, the idea has been lost because of the many layers of programming which have all but wiped out your awareness of your destiny, and your existence is reduced to being a worker bee or rat in the maze of life.

I work with people who are awakening. They are in the process of wrapping their heads around the idea that things may not always be as they seem, that there is more to this life than they’ve been told, and much of what they’ve known and believed about this world and this life is not true.

This process of awakening also often reconnects them to their authentic selves, with the ability to reconnect to their higher self and see glimpses, if not fully exposed visions, of their destiny which gives their life meaning, and purpose.

You are one of these the expansion explorers who dare to walk a different path than your peers, and you’ve started taking inspired action which moves you closer and closer to that vision which has already been prepared for you and is waiting for you to arrive.

The journey is not without twists and turns, challenges and obstacles, which are all provided you to help prepare you for the magnificent life with its own idiosyncrasies which lies ahead. Not unlike your past.

If you are awakening, you can look back at your past objectively, and see that as focused as “the system” was to squash and hope of you embracing your true identity and divine assignment, the power that created the universe has walked beside you step by step and created an alternate path within the system to lead you to the point of awakening and giving you the ability of seeing your highest and best.

Those who are unawakened may have little concept of what is happening in your, and they have been thoroughly programmed to see you as someone who has gone astray and have been trained to do whatever they can to bring you back into the fold.

So, when they see you making changes in your life and doing things which are contrary to their expectations of you they are apt to act in ways that will be unsupportive, possibly even reject you, in the hope that you will fail and come running back when you do.

You may feel as if the rest of the world has given up on you and that you are all alone on your journey. Be aware that you are not alone, as there are many people who are awakening and in similar ways facing the same challenges as you with the process and moving forward in divine expansion and evolution.

You are not alone. Find other people who resonate with you. Share and learn from one another. Grow and expand while keeping one foot in the world if you can.
There are many people like me who work with people like you, and we believe in you. We know what is happening and are here to support you on this journey.

Once I have seen your highest and best potential, I cannot unsee it. Once you are on the track to your highest and best, you may falter here and there. It happens. The pull of the world can be so strong that it could derail anyone who would otherwise be on-track.

It is okay. No one will judge you, as your divine vision is still waiting for you. It may change along the way due to any side journeys you will make between here and there but know that these changes will only make it exponentially better when you finally arrive.

While the people watching from the sidelines or afar might look at your experience as a failure and an opportunity for you to be lulled back into your former life, there are those who know that nothing wrong has happened. It is all a part of your growing, changing, and obtaining the skills necessary to make it to the next level.

Everything is still intact, and any changes which have been made are only exponentially far better than envisioned previously.

If you are working with me, when the rest of the world has given up on you, I still believe in you.

Any of my contemporaries would say the same thing,

When the rest of the world has given up on you, I still believe in you.

Your destiny cannot be broken. Of course, for the most part, society is successful at keeping most people from awakening and achieving their highest and best. Many who have had the courage to step out in faith have been lulled back into “normal life” when things get too complicated, and that’s okay, too.

I’ve seen it with my clients, but more and more people, like you, are continuing to move forward i.n faith with enthusiast and a determination helping you to have the wherewithal to overcome and persevere through any challenge or obstacle you may face.

If you feel like you have to take a sabbatical, do so. Your destiny is waiting for you. We will be waiting for you.

And if the rest of the world has given up on you, I still believe in you.

You Feel Like You Don’t Fit In

Every day we’re surrounded by people, all different kinds of people, and no matter how you try, you feel like you don’t fit in. The good news is: This is really a good sign.

If you think about what the majority of the greater community represents the mindless majority blindly following society’s sleight of hand manipulations to keep us all manageable as a herd of cattle. While it sounds simple, the methods utilized by the social engineers to control us all en masse is extremely complex.

So, if you feel like you don’t fit in, this is a very good sign that you are awakening and your heart is evolving. Something inside you knows that there are huge problems with whatever societal view has been imposed upon you since birth.

If you dared to be different and decide to let your freak flag fly, who’d blame you (if not applaud you)?

As much as life tries to corral you and manage you along with the rest of the herd, there’s something inside you which is screaming, “I am not cattle!” You felt it at school, in your neighborhood, at work, in churches and organizations.

Maybe at one point, you did feel more comfortable in your environment, but things change. Your friends change. There was a time when you trusted your best friend and you believed this most trusted friend would be your best friend forever. But he or she changed, and so did you, leading to your drifting apart. At some point you realize you’re so different from each other you have little left except common courtesy at best, sometimes not even that.

Everything changes, even you.

This growing and changing as you adapt to life which is always in a state of flux, makes you feel awkward. Especially if you are noticing inconsistencies in the state of affairs all around you and God forbid, are questioning what may or may not be actually trustworthy and true.

The secret is not to cut yourself off from others or society and become a total recluse. Isolation is unhealthy and can cause psychological and physiological deterioration. You might just toy with the idea of giving up, squelching the beckoning of your heart which is evolving in its connection to your brain, and nestling yourself back into the herd, where you can embrace your former sense of safety and security, as false as it might have been. Taking the easy way out, refusing to be a part of the next evolutionary step of mankind. Or you can find someone who resonates with you.

Just start to gently speak your questions to people you come in contact with. Most of the people you talk to will instantly reject your thoughts and concerns. Do not press the subject any more with that person. Bless them and move on. Keep gently speaking your piece (or peace) to someone else, and move on, until it finds a spark of interest.

Then share your thoughts until that person becomes resistant, then bless them and move on. Using this process of elimination method will keep you true to you and will identify people inside or outside your circle of influence who may share the same thoughts, concerns, or conscious frequency. Feel free to restructure your circle of influence accordingly. These are your people.

Note that your people will change, for each and every one of them are on their own individual journey of growth, expansion, and evolution. At times, you will find those who are keenly matched to you in vibration and frequency.

While you are in the process of expansion be aware of how you represent yourself with the remainder of society. Be careful not to fall into the egotistical trap of thinking that you are in any way better than anyone else. And for God’s sake, do not engage in hate speech, ever. Hate speech is the precursor to hate action and hate crime. Fear masquerades as hate and cannot exist in love.

Choose love. Be respectful. Honoring each person’s right to his or her individual journey, just as you would expect them to respect your right to evolve at this time.

Find security in the idea that everyone is doing the best they can with what they have at every moment, just the same as you. Bless and love them as they find their own way to their individual destiny. You needn’t separate yourself totally from the rest of society while you are finding your people.

Once you have found people to associate with whom you can be open and honest, by remaining among the herd, you can be a subtle light influencing those around you.

Your evolved heart/brain-connected energy is felt by people and the world around you at least three-and-a-half-feet in every direction around you. As you continue to evolve, this energy reaches farther and farther in every direction all around you. No need to speak, just your being there affects the lives of others and the word in a positive way.

You may speak as you let your light shine but do so with grace, dignity, and love, keeping in mind that people can only handle what they can handle, so give them a little something to think about without having to threaten the world they live in. If they start to question, they may seek you out.

You might be one of their people when they’re feeling like they don’t fit in. Let them be able to find you.

Resistance Amidst Change

When you get going on your mission of transformation and growing expect some resistance to start showing up as you as you start forging your fresh trail to your new life. Be prepared to expect resistance amidst change which will present challenges and vow to face them head-on when they appear before you.

There’s going to be a bit of struggle which takes place inside you, between the you which has always been basically in charge of running your life until now, and the new you which is trying to come forth and express itself as the new improved version of yourself as it is growing and expanding.

If that wasn’t enough, it’s like the whole universe wants to participate in the transitional metamorphosis offering you opportunities and challenges to test you; to see if this is a good decision for you at this time in your life.

Your old like will be beckoning you not to change and to return to the comfort and security of your old life. When you’re thinking about moving on, opportunities will arise for you to fall back into the same ol’ same ol’.

The friends who haven’t contacted you for years will start calling on you to celebrate your old lifestyle. The higher-ups at your crummy job will offer you opportunities for advancement and attractive compensation packages. You will second-guess and wonder if it’s such a good idea to stick around or to take such a huge step in moving on from your old life.

Fear of the unknown can be an overwhelming deterrent to moving on with your life, as there is a certain degree of comfort in remaining where you are. It may not be great, but it is what you know. You may have spent a great deal of time and effort building your life-nest around you. While life is not the best it could be, you’ve successfully carved out a very special place for you, one that others may even envy. How could you leave all this behind? What if you’re unable to do better on the other side?

You can reduce some of the friction by keeping your thoughts about your decision to move on from your old life to yourself. While in many of life’s decisions the counsel of many brings safety, remember that safety represents your old life. Counselors will emerge from the old wood of your life who will caution you against change, especially any radical change. The people who represent your old life will do almost anything to prevent you from leaving. They will use guilt, blame, indebtedness, obligation, what is “right” and what is “wrong,” anything they can come up with, to persuade you to stay behind.

It is still a good idea to garner support and counsel amidst your transition, just be careful about those whom you trust with the intimate details of your metamorphosis. Be certain they have your best interest at heart.

If you are aware that these tendencies are common occurrences when tackling change, you can strengthen your resolve and stay the course when awakening to your new perspective and taking the steps necessary to carve out a new life, free from the struggle for survival. For on the other side of this bit of chaos, there is a much better life waiting for you.

Be willing to step out into new directions. If you’re more comfortable doing one thing, try to accept more invitations to do something less comfortable. Doing things differently will bring you new opportunities, and the best, most exciting things are waiting for you just on the other side of your comfort zone.

When you ask, it is given.

Everything you want is created and waiting for you. In most cases, it will not simply fall out of the sky and drop into your lap on command (though this has been known to happen). It’s up to you to place yourself in the time and place where what you want is waiting for you.

Turn Over a New Leaf

So, you’ve taken a look at your life until now, and after a brief review, you come to the conclusion that you’re ready to turn over a new leaf. Looking back, you realize there were a great many things you could have done better, and that your life would be far more miraculous if you start living your life in a better way. Now’s as good a time as any to make the changes necessary for you to turn over a new leaf.

The two keys to successfully turning over a new leaf are taking inspired action and to keep moving ahead to get to the new-improved you and the vastly better life which is waiting for you and may very well be the keys to begin to achieve your highest and best potential.

Inspired Action

While the idea of inspired action seems simple enough, it encompasses a great many sacred components which will empower your ability to change your life miraculously. We all know the idea of cause and effect which supports the idea that any action will cause a resulting reaction which changes your life. You can easily look back at your life and see this is true.

Instead of taking action, which will change your life, taking inspired action will always change your life for the better.

Keep in mind that change can be messy, and sometimes to make a change you may have to experience some discomfort to get you to the right place and time to move in a decidedly different direction. It can be awkward and painful, but if the action you’re taking is inspired, you will find yourself in a far better position to move forward to the life you both want and deserve.

Inspired action should be taken without negative motivation. If you are taking action in anger or to get revenge, there is no chance of it being inspired. Rethink your underlying motive before making any major changes.

Inspired action is not taken due to lack, need to change, or have what you don’t already possess. Inspired action comes with a sense of excitement without expectations attached to it. Inspired action is not about trying to make something happen, more it is about creating new opportunities for new things to unfold before your very eyes.

Inspired action takes courage but is not fear-based action, though there may (and probably should be) some trepidation or fear about taking a huge step outside your comfort zone. As with all huge advances in personal growth and change, there is going to be some fear of the unknown. But as any of us, or even you, can attest, all the biggest and best advances in life come from stepping out in faith.

The potential for miraculous results grows exponentially the further away from your safety zone you veer. God and all the potentialities of love’s pure energy go to work to vector-in a whole new variety of supporting energies and players to support your stepping out in faith, as you in effect leave the old hood and make new friends.

Keep Moving

Once you’ve taken a step in faith, no matter how great or minuscule, the key is to keep going. Keep taking additional steps toward your something new, and something new, exciting and unimaginable begins to unfold before your very eyes.

Failing to continue to move will leads to complacency and stagnation, then “home” the place you’ve taken inspired action to move on from begins to look like someplace you might like to return to.

If you do fall back into the same ol’ same ol’ know that the opportunity for you to turn over a new leaf never goes away. Maybe now, is not the time for you. Try again when you are inspired to try something new.

Growth Amidst Chaos

When you’re trying to stay focused on your balancing and maintenance of personal, professional, and spiritual growth, many distractions abound to break your stride, interrupting your maturation and expansion.

As you turn your attention toward maintaining your love vibration and protect your sacred space, circumstances, challenges, and situations crash into your otherwise upwardly mobile progress by any means possible, using the manmade distractors such as “the news,” TV, media, personal communication devices, Google, social media, books, magazines, celebrity gossip, money hardship, relationships with others, or other emotional stressors.

The crux of your growth and expansion is to focus your attention within, yet there are so many methods which society and the “powers that be” utilize to keep you so distracted that staying in the zone for any amount of time is difficult at best.

Taking time to center yourself in quiet repose can give you the pause necessary to adequately review the events of your life in the recent past (yesterday, last week, last month) to give you a good idea about which distractions have the greatest distractibility quotient over you. This recognition sheds light on the areas in your life that may need tending to.

“Everything was going along great, then all of a sudden…”

Whatever comes after that helps to identify particular weaknesses or chinks in your armor. With a little attention to these areas you can repair the damage, or eliminate altogether, any future risk of penetration.

And if that weren’t enough, there’s enough discord among the faith systems of the world to keep you utterly confused about which way to go, as you’re trying to make your own way while staying true to your own purpose, message, passion, and mission.

Everyone has their own idea of how you should approach your spiritual relationship with the ultimate power of the universe, but others are not aware enough to know that while their path may be a perfect match for where they are in their own journey, it may not be perfect for you. In fact, someone else’s path may actually be counterproductive for your continued growth and expansion; another distraction.

The perfect clue to help you identify that someone else’s faith-system is not for you and does not support your highest and best will be the degree of pressure they impose upon you to convert or conform to their point of view. If their insistence is unfailing, threatening, borderline abusive, or destructive, common sense dictates this is not the path of love’s growth and expansion.

Love’s growth and expansion includes the divinity of all forms of life in all their various styles and perspectives, all in various stages of awakening. Even though some may be stagnant, immature, against the flow, or even considered to be controlling, predatory, or evil, all are perfectly divine in their own way.

Separateness keeps us divided, does not support expansive growth, makes humanity stagnate, and is unsustainable, while allowing other people and their ideas simply “to be” while finding more ways to grow and expand one’s self, understanding that we are individuals, yet “one” in love, is the current evolutionary process of the human race.

How we interact with others reveals the nature of our emotional/spiritual condition. If your approach is to either accept like-minded people and reject those who present different approaches to life, you could do better. A fully engaged love vibration will have you seeing the sacredness in all life. The contrast actually helps to promote the evolution of humanity.

At some point, when the evolution hits critical mass, only love will be sustainable, and that which is not love will simply deteriorate and fade away. Until then, the best we can do is to love everyone and everything with all we’ve got, doing the best we can to move this expansive evolutionary process forward.

Don’t take things personally, find opportunities to accept what is, love and bless everyone and everything as you discover new methods of staying focused within yourself, tending to your own life and growth, while allowing others the same courtesy.

The distractions and interactions with others actually support your continued growth, if you increasingly approach all these things in love, and training your attention to focus on the sacred divinity of all things, while focusing on that which is good, beautiful, and loving.

Flexibility Love and Stability

The 7 Phases of Love depicts the love relationship which exists between most mortals. It is used as a text for lovers, relationship counselors, and coaches to give you reference points which are common among love relationships, even so, there is a great deal of variation among love relationships which enter offices seeking love therapy.

The problem with most love relationships which persist over time is that growth and change are not factored into the confines of the love relationship.

At the outset of your love affair, you and your beloved agreed to a certain set of parameters which represented each of your wants, needs, and desires of your hearts. You carve these love commandments in stone and hold each other accountable.

This is all well and good if you are in love with a robot and you are also a robot, otherwise it is destined to be problematic because people do change, and in the best-case scenarios they grow, and growth necessitates change.

Flexibility

The most successful love relationships are constructed with enough flexibility to account for growth and change, for not to presents the couple with a rigidity which is more likened to a prison sentence, or contractual agreement, which is all but impossible to maintain over time, unless one or both parties are willing to sacrifice their own growth and expansion.

Those who willingly acquiesce to resign themselves to a contractual relationship, in a sense agreeing to the long-term martyrdom of self, do so out of fear, and are likely not to achieve must satisfaction in life but are willing to sacrifice for some degree of stability.

In most cases, I see it as a matter of priorities when in the process of engaging in the love relationship.

While many people have a certain set of priorities to maintain in their lives, there are two which seem to impact love relationships more than others, and they are

Love and Stability

If these priorities are mismatched it can invite a lot of complications in the love relationship due to incompatibility. Both partners can have love and stability as their top two priorities, but which one comes first can have a huge impact on how the relationship is approached.

For instance, if stability comes first, then you will not be able to fully love until your needs for safety and security (whatever that might look like because it’s different for everybody) are satisfied.

On the other hand, if love comes first, then you will not be able to willingly do whatever it takes to supply safety and security until your need for love is met first.

You can see why having these priorities mis-matched can cause a great deal of conflict within the relationship. One is not right or wrong, it just is what it is. Everyone is entitled to his or her desires of the heart.

Realistically, if you want to have any hope of longevity in your love relationship, you must allow for flexibility, renegotiation, and change.

You may not find out that your love and stability priorities were improperly aligned until long after you’ve committed yourself to your relationship. This is just one instance when discovering such a discrepancy would call for an important heart-to-heart conversation and coming up with a new plan to address the differences.

All this negotiating is necessary when you’re in a love affair of the flesh. If you are in a relationship which is founded purely on unconditional love (which is very rare, even though many of us claim we love “unconditionally”) then, you are always open to growth and change within your relationship of true love.

Does “loving unconditionally” mean that you and your partner will live happily ever after? Or, “stay together forever?”

No.

It means that you love your partner so much that you want only the best for him or her.

If the day comes when your partner might be better off without you, then you bless him or her and let them go, in love.

You love so much, that you can not only survive but thrive in their departure, though it might be difficult at first, because above all when you love someone unconditionally, you desire only the best for him or her.

Unconditional love is a tall order, and it is not for the weak-at-heart. Loving someone, “no matter what,” is far more than the mere mortal can endure.

Relationships Come and Go

Living life is all about advancing, growing and changing. Not settling for mediocrity, nor staying in the same place. Real life is about transitioning from one stage to the next, making the necessary adjustments along the way, and relationships come and go, though some remain.

As you move through this life, you will encounter and bond with people along the way who will vary in significance. You may develop deep relationships which serve you in the deepest, most meaningful ways. You would like to believe that people who play such a key role in your life today will be there tomorrow. Yet in many cases, this is not meant to be.

The best lives are built on a foundation of growth and change, and sometimes, the people who mean the most to you today may not be suitable for the path you are destined to follow. Everyone has their own journey; some relationships can be sustained longer than others.

In order to keep growing, changing, and continuing on your sacred journey, you must be able to find comfort in moving on from relationships that no longer serve you, as you move on.

You’ve shared life and love with them, will cherish the memories, carry them always in your heart, and keep moving.

Everything is in divine order, and these people of varying significance were integral to your success and metamorphosis. They were there for you, supported you, cared for you, loved you, and gave you the strength to keep going on.

Returning to places or revisiting people from your past via celebration or reunion brings a flood of nostalgic emotion, instantly taking you back to the moment in time when these moments from your past were so integral to your survival and transition, and you are blessed.

As much as you might want to return to those times, you know you no longer are connected to those people, places, and things, like you were before. You are an entirely different person now, and so are they, living lives so different, each better in your own ways.

Realizing that relationships come and go helps you to appreciate the people who have significance in your life. You are far more appreciative, cherishing and honoring each moment because you know it may not last forever, though it may feel like it in the moment.

When relationships come to us we are blessed, sometimes sharing the most intimate of moments, when relationships go, it can be hard to say goodbye, even lead to heartbreak, or depression, but life goes on.

New people will be attracted to you to help you on your journey, and others will come into your life who will test you, help you to learn, grow, and expand into the best version of yourself.

There will be those who may be on a similar enough path to yours to accompany you for much, if not all, of your journey. These are those, the most special of whom will be there forever.

For those who you’ve left behind, they can live on forever in your memories, in the deepest most precious recesses of your heart, always honored and remembered for their blessing you along the way. In a sense, still encouraging you and supporting your continued growth and transformation from within.

Continue to love and bless them, and they may continue to love and bless you, even though you may never cross paths again, as you live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.