Tag: how to be happy

Are you feeling down? Do you feel like you’re surrounded by nothing but bad news, failing relationships, and a generally poor outlook for the future ahead? Feeling like you just can’t get a glimpse of happiness in your life?

Let me ask you this:

Do you want to be happy?

THEN STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING

That is to say, if you are not experiencing the level of happiness that you would like to see in your life, then you’re obviously not doing it right. Right?

It’s easy to look around when things look dismal and see others living fascinating lives, having fun, and having generally good lives, and wonder,

How could they do that?

I mean, don’t they know that the world is falling down all around us? Don’t they know that in the United States nearly a thousand kids are sucked into human trafficking and sex rings every day? Our monetary system is failing. People are losing their homes, veterans, and hard-working Americans are losing their jobs and joining the ranks of the homeless. 2 percent of Americans are homeless and their numbers are growing every day. 1 in 7 kids in the United States does not know where their next meal is coming from. We send so much overseas to feed other kids, while ours starve to death at home? Don’t you ever watch the news?

STOP!

Just stop it. Can’t you see what’s going on here?

You’ve fallen for the oldest evil trick in the book. “Keep them in a state of fear because they’re easier to control.”

“They” own the media, and they believe they own you, and if they can control your thoughts, keeping you in a state of fear or negative vibration, then in a sense, they do own you. They can manipulate you, and keep you compliant, in exchange for as little safety and security that you will allow.

Know that at any moment in time, you can opt out of this system which inordinately keeps you bogged down with feeling bad about your life, and life in general.

How have others made the transition from sappy to happy?

This is a journey that starts from within.

Loving yourself unconditionally is where the embers of happiness lay in wait. That means you love yourself “no matter what.” You know sometimes you miss the mark, and that’s okay because no one is perfect, and you love yourself anyway. If you experience a misstep, do not beat up on yourself. You love yourself. Let yourself know that you have learned valuable lessons from the experience and vow to take better care of yourself and do it differently the next time.

You need to love yourself and look out for yourself because no one else will.

You must find ways to feel happy. Make your own opportunities to feel good.

Find and/or make ways to feel good about all the things around you. You, the way you look in the mirror, the car you drive, your home where you live, your family members, friends, acquaintances, coworkers, your possessions, find or make a happy thought and associate it with all these things, and when you think of them, even if initially a negative thought, as soon as you can catch yourself, shift your attention to the happy thought about that person or thing.

You can’t find happiness in stuff, or anything for that matter, as happiness is always changing, growing, and expanding, and that’s the way it should be, as happiness is a reflection of the love-energy which is the source of life. It is never stagnant, so just be aware that your happiness target will always be in a state of metamorphosis. What brings you happiness today, might not tomorrow, so always be on the lookout for new things that raise your happiness quotient.

After a while, you’ll notice that the happiness attained from nice or fancy stuff does not last very long, but the happiness you can find in the things that you accomplish, the new and exciting places you like to visit, the fun activities that you enjoy, and the people you love, these are more meaningful and promote happiness longevity.

And when you stumble and fall, you can smile, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and laugh it off, knowing you’ll do better next time, loving yourself unconditionally all the way. As you start treating yourself this way, you will find yourself more tolerant of others as they stumble and fall. For after all, aren’t we all just doing the best we can with what we have.

When your heart is full of love and overflows into the lives of others around you, you become a love magnet, and even more love comes to you from others and the source of love, as you become more connected to the ever-expanding world of love by which you are swathed.

I was out having dinner with my friend, Norman, and he couldn’t help but notice the uplifted countenance of our server. Unable to help himself, he asked, “Why are you so happy?”

Somewhat surprised the he’d even notice, the server smiled and told us about her painting she had entered in the State Fair and that she’d just received a text on her phone that she’d won first place in her division.

Her exuberance was apparent. I remembered a song we used to sing with the kids that went like, “If you’re happy and you know it clap your hands…” No hand clapping was needed here. You could tell she was happy.

I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but you can pretty much tell when anyone is really happy, even if they’re trying to conceal it, you can just tell.

So what makes people happy?

Good News

Good news, like hearing that you’ve just won an award for your artwork, would certainly make you happy, Even if you were depressed moments before, good news can fire up you happiness hormones and usher you into joy in a heartbeat.

Ever know someone who was happy all the time?

I know it’s harder to come by these days, but most everyone knows someone who is disgustingly perpetually happy. You probably think to yourself, “No one could really be that happy,” assuming that they must be faking it, have something to hide or are full of crap; all reasonable thoughts for a person who finds it difficult to maintain a high level of joy for very long.

Now, ask one of these annoying happy people the same question, “Why are you so happy?”

They’re likely to go on and on about how the whole world is comprised of beauty, kindness, benevolence and goodness… enough to make you think that either they’ve taken some amazing illicit hallucinogen or simply lost any sense of reality and their mind to boot.

They are also likely to be thinking about all the good things in life they are anticipating, as well as what they are doing to move themselves closer to the things they truly desire for themselves or their loved ones. How could they not be happy, thinking thoughts, like those?

You might walk away, shaking your head, thinking this person might be better off suited for a straight jacket.

Nonetheless, they aren’t hurting anyone – if anything, just the opposite – their positive and outlook directed at the right person at the right time might just save a life, or in some small way make the world a better place. The cumulative effect of happy people, like these, can have enormous impact on the planet and its peoples.

Yes, you think, but what about all the pain, violence, poverty, injustice, etc…?

The people who are happy likely know about and acknowledge all the evils of the world but choose to focus instead on all the good things of the world. For every bad thought you could think, there is a good one that you could choose to spend your time dwelling on instead.

One thing for certain: Bad thoughts make you feel bad and good thoughts make you feel good.

So, when it comes down to it, happiness is a choice.

And if you’re happy and you know it, clap your hands.