Focus on what you don’t want, and you will see more of what you don’t want with more intensity. As you see more of the things you despise, your negative energy rises, exponentially creating even more. This is the basic premise of the “law of attraction.” The more you focus your thoughts on anything (positively or negatively) the more powerful that which your thoughts are focused upon become.
The choice is yours.
You choose what thoughts you will focus your attention on, and you can choose to make a new choice at any moment in time, the sooner, the better.
When you think a thought, you have a seven-second delay before momentum starts to build promoting the thought that you are thinking about.
If you can quicken your consciousness within those precious seven seconds and focus your thoughts upon something you intentionally desire to promote, you have not given your energy away to the thing that is unwanted.
When you catch yourself, you don’t have to rush your thoughts straight to sitting in the sun under a shady tree by a babbling brook, lowing bubbles as butterflies fly around you. You can strategically center your thoughts on the opposite of the thought that you don’t want more of.
If your attention has been grabbed by negative media (this is the intention behind the creation of media, to keep you at a low vibration frequency) of, say, starving children in America, you can wallow in those thoughts of how wrong this is, and pointing it out to anyone you know about how terrible this is, which is a form of vibrational sabotage.
Or you can as quickly as possible start thinking about all the ways all the children in America, even the world could be well fed by people just like you.
More importantly, you. The sooner you can add momentum to the solution by taking action, even the smallest action, you are no longer energetically part of the problem you are proactively part of the solution.
Make a five-dollar (or more) donation to a worthy organization which feeds American children, then if you are so led, use media against itself. Then share on social media links to the organization that is feeding children in America, and tell everyone about this good work, and encourage them to follow your lead in the support of this movement.
The same goes for your innermost thoughts about those things which are not satisfying about the way your life is in the now.
If your thoughts are focused upon things from your past which bring you down, you are inviting more of this negative frequency (what you don’t want) to appear more frequently in your life. If you want to add more power to that which you do not want in your life, talk about it.
Talk to a friend. Like memes which resonate with what you don’t want in social media and share them with the world. Share links about the travesties which have wounded you with anyone you can think of and people you don’t even know, and you will increase the suffering from this thing exponentially.
You already know this is how it works.
Or, you can stop thinking about it as soon as you can.
“But what if my husband is having an affair?”
Infidelity is not just sexual, and if you focus on the unfaithfulness you will experience more of it, you will distance yourself, build a stronger wall separating you, and reduce your personal vibration to places you’d rather not be found.
Or, you can love your husband so much, that whatever he is doing (or what you think he might be doing) doesn’t matter to you, because you are focused on you, and focus your thoughts and attention on maintaining your own vibrational frequency high.
And you dare to love unconditionally. Willing to say (with heartfelt intention), “I love you no matter what.”
Not because your husband deserves it, because it what your heart desires.
Love yourself, don’t focus on what you don’t want, and focus your attention on what you do want.