New Love Later in Life

Time just keeps marching on, and you never know what might turn up as you get older. Relationships that were thought to be solid as a rock, fall apart later in life, leaving you wondering, what happened?

The couples that seemed to be the happiest longstanding relationships, the envy of all who beheld them, dissolve in a burning flame of chaotic dissolution and/or sudden abandonment, leaving one (or both) of them seeking companionship or new love later in life.

As you might imagine, there might be a lot of second-guessing and trepidation about looking for love when you’re feeling like you’re well past what might have felt like the prime years of your life.

Then, there’s the loss of trust. You may have been with someone whom you’ve trusted for a very long time, only to find that he or she was not in integrity or as trustworthy as you may have believed.

Finding someone you can trust again can be a daunting task, to say the least.

It doesn’t matter how old you are, there is always ample opportunity to delve into your own personal deep inner work, and nothing primes the pump better than an unexpected loss of a loved one.

This is a time for introspection and personal growth for you, as well as an incredible opportunity to embrace all the best parts of you, your unique gifts, special abilities, all the freedom to think, say, and do all the things that are dear to your heart and bring you joy.

And while you’re pursuing all the best things in life, of course, you have one eye open, as you are keeping open, honest, and vulnerable enough to let love in, if given the opportunity. That elusive, perfect match for you, is still out there in the wings.

No matter how advanced in age you might be, you know the opportunity for true love is there because we all know of couples who are finding love and marrying in their later years.

True love is out there seeking to embrace you if you are not blocking it from revealing the love which is waiting for you.

Seek first to find great love for yourself, the person you are and do the things which keep you in a state of happiness, loving yourself, and those around you. Remaining in a state of love and joy will help you be in the right vibration to attract the right person for you.

Have a good idea of what the right person might look like. Imagine what type of person he or she might be who might be perfectly matched for you. Have fun and think of the hair or eye color which appeals to you most. Will he or she be tall? What kind of body type might he or she possess?

What will he or she smell like? What kind of family might he or she have? Where might this lucky person live?

The more you imagine and ponder the idea of this person, without becoming overwhelmingly obsessed, the more you attract him or her to you.

Love does not appear in a vacuum, so you’re going to have to be finding ways to enjoy life and express yourself in ways that get you out into the community where he or she can find you doing the things you love and caring for yourself enthusiastically.

A love and relationship coach can help you address any blocks and triggers that you might have in the search for love in your later years, as well as offering the support you might need to be open and willing to allow love into your life again.

The greatest love you have ever imagined wants to reveal itself to you, and it is not far off, but you’re going to have to be on your best game yourself if you’re going to be a perfect match for your best love ever.

Stay true to yourself, the course of your life, and finding ways to have fun. Let go of those things that prevent you from loving and true love will come to you, no matter how old you are.

Broken 50 Years Old and Alone

In our youth, we felt as though we could conquer the world. We teamed up with a lovely counterpart with which we would together taste every drop of living this life had to offer. We were optimistic and nothing could stand in our way. We were sealed together in the bond of marriage, made promises and meant every word of the vows exchanged. Together we were the center of the universe.

We made plans – good ones – the kind you would be satisfying to fulfill and leave a better future for those who would carry on. Then life happens. Things didn’t turn out the way we planned.

We muster up as much positivity and fortitude as possible and summate that we have another go left in us. Pulling ourselves up by our bootstraps, we run headlong into another marathon.

Only to see that life (very much) is happening again… and our plans? Well, you know… they didn’t exactly turn out like we thought they would, even with the best intentions, a higher degree of thought and preparation than in our unbridled youth.

It might be late but the best is yet to come

We don’t blame you for asking, “How much more of this can I possibly take?” feeling broken, with infrequent thoughts of maybe the world would be better off without you, or that death might be the only way to stop the pain of disappointment, disillusionment and growing depression.

If you’re like many folks in their fifties with a fear of getting old, thinking that you have nothing left in you to give, consider asking yourself

What is God preparing me for?

What gift am I more qualified to give now?

It is likely that this life of adversity has keenly prepared you, from your most unique perspective, to share something powerful and meaningful for others. You would not have been as qualified – or credible – as an authoritative source had you not gone through those experiences or arrived at such conclusions at this seasoned age (which could be 50 years old, plus 20 or minus 10 or so).

Then some second-guessing begins to set-in to thwart your contribution to the world as you think that you’re not qualified or that fifty’s too old to start over again. Whatever your age when this occurs to you – you could be anywhere from 40 years old or 50 years old to 60 years old, 70 years old or more – let it be known that you are perfectly prepared at this time to achieve your highest and best.

The Best is Yet to Come

Stop thinking that you’re too old or broken to succeed. At 45 years old, Henry Ford didn’t let his age keep him from creating the Ford Model T. Being 50 years old didn’t keep Julia Child from writing her first cookbook, Jack Cover from inventing the Taser gun or Charles Darwin from writing, “On the Origin of Species.” At 52 years of age, Ray Kroc (a former milkshake device salesman) launched McDonald’s, which became one of the largest fast-food franchises in history.

In their sixties, Harland (Colonel) Sanders (62) launched Kentucky Fried Chicken and Laura Ingalls Wilder (65) began writing semi-autobiographical stories as “Little House” books which became children’s literary classics, and the basis for Michael Landon’s “Little House on the Prairie” television series.

If you have an interest in the arts, it’s never too late to pick up a paintbrush, like Anna Mary Robertson (Grandma) Moses who started painting at age 78, or begin writing, which was a hobby of Harry Bernstein until he emerged as the prolific author of “The Invisible Wall: A Love Story That Broke Barriers” when he was 96 years old.

All that to say any self deprecation due to any idea of imposed (from within or without) ageism is complete rubbish. You’re better than you were before, and you’re never too old to rock and roll.

The time to take action is Now

You are awakening and now, more than ever, in the right place at the right time. This is the beginning of the best story ever. Do your thing, tell your story and make your contribution today because

“I’m goin for all that I can get
Kickin at the top ‘cause I’m too legit to quit.”
~ MC Hammer

You are too legit (now, more than ever) to quit.

You got this
(even if it takes a village)