Where Did I Go Wrong?

When you’re traveling your road in this life it’s easy to get distracted by your missteps and get stuck in the rut of asking yourself, “Where did I go wrong?” which would otherwise be a perfectly healthy question to ask.

Just like when you’re drive tire gets stuck in the mud, if you spin your wheels trying to get out, all it does is bury your tire deeper in the rut, the same goes for ruminating and going over the details of any mistake in life, repeatedly. Keep doing that and you’ll get stuck there, unable to get out and move on in life.

Okay, so you made a mistake, were blindsided, or sucker-punched by life. You can’t just ignore the fact this happened to you. You should review the situation and circumstances that lead to the unexpected event and extract the learnings from experience. For that is the purpose of all life’s challenges. Inside each challenge is a hidden treasure, a divine piece of wisdom which is a key to your continued personal growth, wisdom, and evolution.

How to effectively review when asking yourself,

Where did I go wrong?

Just like when you get stuck in a rut, in most cases, you can rock yourself out. That is to say you can exert energy in one direction, release the pressure and relax to let momentum take you in an opposite direction, then when the momentum starts in the other direction, exert additional energy, then release and relax again.

Exerting energy in a particular direction means asking the tough questions. Were you aware enough about your surroundings? Could you have been more attentive? Are there things you could have done, attending to details, which could have resulted in a more favorable outcome? Were there precautions you could have taken?

Don’t just review this in your head, get it down on paper. Moving the energy from your heart to your brain, letting it flow down your arm, out your fingers, through the ink in your pen and onto the paper, helps to get it out.

Depending on the condition of your rut, this may be enough energy, that when released (written on paper) and relaxed, may be enough to get you over the edge and ready to face life full on again.

If not, you will have to exert even more energy, when you feel your momentum slumping back toward the negativity of the event again. If so, then this time you will have to be a little harder on yourself, to build up a little more negative momentum.

This time, you have permission to berate yourself. You can totally and disrespectfully rant on yourself, using any disrespectful thoughts or language which otherwise would be extremely inappropriate for up to three minutes (set the egg timer) maximum. Then release and relax.

Rock your experience as often as necessary without getting stuck there. Do not overthink this unnecessarily or allow yourself to fall into the paralysis of analysis.

If you are unable to rock yourself out of the rut on your own, you may need a wench, or a tow truck to drag you out.

Don’t be shy about reaching out for third-party assistance. That’s why coaches, counselors, and consultants are there, for you to call on in times of crisis, when you’re unable get out of the rut and get back on track.

Remember, when you’re asking yourself,

Where did I go wrong?

Do a bit of analysis, extract the hidden treasure (the lesson), and move on.

Whatever you do, make sure you get out of the rut. Release this experience, walk away from it, and let it go.

Take a look around you.

Look for all the people who have encountered an unexpected life event and let it get the best of them… I think we can all agree that there must be a better way.

You don’t want to let this thing cripple your potential over a long period of time. Rock yourself out, or get help to get you over this thing that’s troubling you.

There is so much waiting for you just over the horizon, a better life. Your best life awaits you, and this experience imbues you with the wherewithal to help make the world a better place.

You are amazing.

We Are Power Cells for Negative Energy

Most of us realize by now (and science is catching up with the idea) that our hearts emit an energy field. What does this science mean and more importantly how does this energy affect us, the space we occupy on this planet and the rest of the world as we know it? What if we, each and every one of us, is a power cell for negative energy?

I think we can all grasp the idea that we are all surrounded by a degree of negative energy, and we can easily see the effects of the dominance of negative energy just by viewing a few minutes of any news show or channel. Evidence of this proliferation of negative energy can be witnessed almost any time anywhere, ad if not, it doesn’t take long to find it if you simply look for it.

Negative energy (or “evil” as some may call it) is all around us, but this is not a natural state of our planet. Nature does not maintain a frequency of negativity. You look at nature and there is no evil, there is only life, evolving, changing, growing and continually making way for new life. Yet, in the world which we live (and we have made for ourselves) negativity abounds.

Since negative energy does not originate in nature, then the question remains,

Where does negative energy come from?

The answer, if you could stretch your imagination to postulate for a moment, lies within each and every one of us.

We Are Power Cells for Negative Energy

It’s you, it me, it’s each of us sharing the human condition on planet earth. We are the source energizing the negative energy that we see all around us.

If our heart emits an energetic frequency – and if this energy is negative – it fuels the negativity which permeates our world, creating more and more negativity. We are the batteries that run the negativity witnessed and experienced in our world.

Negative energy which is based primarily on the emotion of fear is transmitted via its various forms of energetic transference to the world around us. Fear is the base emotion that is the foundation for so many emotional states such as anger, depression, disapproval, envy, grief, hate, rejection, sadness and worry that we find ourselves surrounded by most, if not all, of the time.

When we find ourselves engaged in these emotional states, we are turning up the power on our individual power cells to further fuel the negativity in our own world and the world around us.

Here are the top 40 negative emotions and their antidotes:

The Top 40 Negative Emotions and Their Antidotes

Negative Emotional State

Positive Emotional Antidote

aggressiveness
aggravation
apprehension
anger
annoyance
contempt
depression
despair
disappointment
disapproval
disgust
despair
distress
embarrassment
envy
fright
gloom
grief
grouchiness
guilt
hate
hopelessness
humiliation
insult
irritability
jealousy
loathing
loneliness
misery
panic
rage
rejection
remorse
sadness
shame
shock
sorrow
suffering
unhappiness
worry

calm
comfort
confidence
kindness
delight
admiration
contentment
joy
success
praise
approval
pleasure
relief
good fortune
contentedness
courage
gladness
hopefulness
peacefulness
honor
love
encouragement
triumph
compliment
enjoyment
trust
admiration
endearment
gladness
bravery
sweetness
acceptance
satisfaction
happiness
respect
tranquility
blessing
good luck
happiness
certainty

How to Stop Charging the Negative Energetic Field

Fortunately, just as we hold the power to charge the negative energetic field that surrounds us, we also possess the ability, not only to cancel the negative energy, but to emit a more powerful positive energy which not only attracts more good things in life to us but in addition empowers the world for more good fortune.

The act of cancelling and producing positive energy not only benefits our own lives, but the lives of those within our social circles and the world at large.

While this may not be a widely help concept, yet, it is growing and people are making the shift from participating in (and promoting) negative energies and intentionally raising their frequencies in emotional states that are founded in love, not fear.

So when you find yourself experiencing any of the negative emotions via any of your senses, the sooner you catch yourself, stop the exposure and find ways to embrace the antidote, you can stop contributing to this negative energetic field.

Charging the Positive Energetic Field

The more you stop exposing yourself to the negative energy field and curtail allowing your body’s tendency to emote negatively, you can fully embrace more and more of the antidotes, or positive energetic frequencies, to further positively power the positive energetic field that is gaining power as more and more of us participate in this powerful action.

You have the power

You Are The Power

Use it wisely