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I Am Not a Victim of a Psychopath

This is a great attitude to have after having encountered a predatory psychopath, as it is a healthy headspace to be in as you move forward. You have been betrayed, abused, conned, and have certainly lost any combination of precious resources, time, attention, energy, financial, mental, physical, and spiritual health, and wellness. And for what?

For the benefit of a predatory psychopath who seeks to devour the resources of others with no the slightest regard for who they are sucking the life out of, and they will do anything, I mean ANY THING, to do it.

They don’t care if your rotting carcass is left in a ditch somewhere. In fact, they might like that very much, if it couldn’t be linked back to themselves, especially if it looked like suicide. And so many of them are very skilled at making their victims contemplate suicidal thoughts.

These predatory psychopaths only have one program that they run ad infinitum:

Get Everything You Want from Anyone You Can

If you have things he or she has no interest to him or her, you may be able to keep those resources, but be forewarned that even these things, if they can be used against you, may be lost in your predatory psychopathic encounter. And if the psychopath can use these otherwise unwanted or “safe” resources to convert them into something that they do want by another con or series of con games, then you will lose those resources as well.

I have seen the full scale of predatory psychopath victims, from those who have lost a little and were instantly aware of being the “mark” of a predatory psychopath’s scheme, and they were able to stop the process early on. I have also seen people lose everything. I mean EVERY THING, and left to die, with nothing.

It would be a predatory psychopath’s preference to drain you of all your resources, destroy any integrity or relationships that you might have had in your family and the community, and leave you with no way to survive and nothing to live for.

Being a “victim” of such a villain is not a sign of weakness. Though you may resist the thought of referring to yourself as a victim, it is without a doubt, the intention of this “evil” character to fully victimize you. (I put evil in quotes because that’s how prosecutors refer to them if they are known by the system to be predatory psychopaths).

Once I became aware of my predatory psychopathic entanglement, I refused to be the “victim” and took steps to prevent him from further victimizing me. I was confident that I could create a safe and secure environment around me and keep him from doing any further damage.

I was proud of my success in doing so. I maintained a good attitude, kept on living life, maintained a high level of security around myself, and ignored anything he would try to say or do, with confidence that if he could receive no response or energy from me, he would surely just fade away.

While all psychopaths are different and this tactic might work for most of them, this one was infuriated by my ability to neutralize his efforts, and that was when he declared war on me. He spent millions of dollars to discredit and defame me, vowed to destroy me, leaving me in prison, or dead.

So, he launched his campaign. Even with his best efforts, I was resilient, consistent, and firm. Unshaken and actually began to see his efforts as entertainment, as he tried to attack me in any way he could. I saw myself as bulletproof.

That was, until he turned his attacks against my family, friends, and anyone I had any association with.

As these people came to me with their horror stories, I was unable to calm them with, “but he’s just using smoke and mirrors to intimidate and frighten you,” it offered them no relief. They did not know who he was, as I did, and they were deeply concerned, and I tried to explain, they were more offended that it was clear that this was all my fault. That I had unintentionally unleashed the beast on them.

It left me no choice but to put myself back on the front lines and take him on mano a mano.

I would never suggest that anyone attempt to take a predatory psychopath on in a full-frontal attack because, if yours is a masterful one, you, everything, and everyone you care about will suffer the consequences of the assertion of your bravery.

But I felt I had no choice.

As I re-engaged with my psychopath, he immediately stopped attacking everyone else in my circle of influence and refocused all of his efforts on me once again.

I was fortunate enough to complete the battle on top. Again, I would caution anyone to not attempt to take on a predatory psychopath.

I was blessed to be able to exit the battle with very few war wounds (some still remain) and he was forced to fake his death (which he did masterfully) and change his identity (once again).

But the good news is, while he supposed to be dead (just the idea of it gives thousands of victims a sense of peace), he can no longer directly attack me or my people without revealing that he is not dead.

So, all things work out for good.

But I would be wary about ever thinking that I, or anyone else, should take a psychopathic predator on, to teach him or her a lesson.

This has been the knee-jerk reaction of many a victim who has regretted it in the end.

The general rule of thumb is:

Do Not Engage in Combat with a Psychopath

 

Protect Yourself from Psychopaths

If you’re a victim of a predatory psychopath, the most important things for you to do is to stop the abuse, get yourself to a safe place in your life, protect yourself from psychopaths, so that you can have sacred space in your life to do the deep work of healing from your psychopathic relationship.

Of course, it would be great to get third-party help or advice, but to do so effectively, you need to find someone who has had first-hand experience with psychopaths, otherwise whoever you’re seeking counsel from has no idea what is going on in real life.

And if you were to be open and honest about the neglect, deceitfulness, sunning manipulation, and toxic abuse that was taking place, chances are no one would believe you. It’s just too much for a rational person to conceive of, unless they know from experience.

If you go to a run of the mill therapist, they might encourage you to prolong the psychopathic relationship while he or she collects data, tries to diagnose your psychopath, while he or she is being conned, if your psychopath is among the most proficient of psychopaths.

No. Stop the abuse first. Then focus on your recovery from your psychopathic exposure.

You might consider attending an event, like the

Victims of Psychopaths Event

 

October 19th, 2019, Olympia Center

Admittance: FREE

FREE EVENT. Open to all victims of predatory psychopaths, sociopaths, or toxic narcissists. Take control of your life, stop the abuse and victimization. Disarm the predator, get your life back, and heal from the trauma from your psychopathic encounter.

Schedule of events:

How to Deal with a Psychopath

11:45 a.m.

Class Description: Predatory psychopaths are the most harmful members of society, and fortunately 90% of Americans never encounter the dark side of the psychopath who lives and operates on the dangerous end of the antisocial personality disorder spectrum. Often confused with the narcissistic sociopath, the predatory psychopath will drain the life, finances, and any other resources he or she may access, leaving the victim broken and broke. Early detection with a simple psychopath test, and protecting yourself right now can help.

Instructor: David M Masters

Dealing with Toxic People

10:30 AM a.m.

Class Description: Toxic people are everywhere, and they’re here to stay. You may not be able to escape them completely, but there are simple tricks that you can use to overcome their toxic behavior. Learn how to come out on top in a confrontational situation without stooping to their level. Take steps to repel psychopaths at every level in your life. And develop the ability to set your life on the right foundation to stand tall above toxicity at every level.

Instructor: Daniel Mark Schwartz

PTSD Recovery

9:45 AM a.m.

Class Description: We will learn what PTSD is, as well as signs and symptoms of PTSD in adults as well as children. We will explore some positive ways of coping with PTSD and its fears and anxiety.

Instructor: Wendy Lynn Johnson

Full Spectrum Victim Recovery

9:00 a.m.

Class Description: TBD

Instructors: Mark Siedler & Lynetta Avery

 

Event Location: Olympia Center, Rm 200, 222 Columbia St NW, Olympia, WA 98501

For more information, visit St. Paul’s Free University

Psychopath Victim School

As much as I try to avoid it, there is an area of expertise which I have been introduced to, and people gravitate toward me for training in it. Due to my own experience with predatory psychopaths, my eyes were opened to the existence of a type of person whom I’d believed previously were the result of paranoia or an overactive imagination.

Soon thereafter, I began to attract victims of psychopaths who sought me out for assistance. Not long after that, other practitioners in the therapeutic community were seeking me out for coaching, which developed into a course that I created for therapists and victims.

To help the greatest number of people in the least amount of time, I set out to make a comprehensive 3-minute video which I would make available to the masses, in an effort to get the word out, to help as many people stop these predators in their path, and stop any continued pain, suffering, or loss the victim might experience.

The video, How to Deal with a Psychopath, ended up being 10 minutes, which also led to a Kindle release, and later a textbook for the course the Psychopath Victims Toolkit.

In my personal ministry, I have grown since those days of dealing with psychopaths and their victims, and currently, limit my efforts to ten percent of my time and energy to the continued raising of awareness about predatory psychopaths who are always on the prowl for their next victim(s).

They target certain individuals who possess particular traits which most of us look up to, to aspire to be more like them one day, while it is the chief goal of the psychopathic predator to cut them down, and leave their broken, weeping, body curled up in the fetal position on their bed (if they are lucky enough to have a bed when the psychopath is done with them).

I have found that my efforts are better spent in the training of professionals and laypersons who seek to help others stop the poisonous abuse or recovery from the loss or having been exposed to a psychopathic predator. They are more qualified to assist victims of psychopaths who need empathy and support. In this way, I can help more people in less time.

If you are a victim of a predatory psychopath, then, by all means, seek out the assistance of a coach, counselor, or therapist with experience in dealing with psychopaths and their victims. Someone without knowledge or expertise in this area will be of little real help to you. (Admittedly, just as useless as I was before I learned about these people who walk among us, like wolves in sheep’s clothing.)

While predatory psychopaths are those who are actively engaged in the fleecing and destruction of people whom they’ve qualified as vulnerable or deserving, remember that psychopathy is a spectrum. On one end you have psychopaths who are not destructive, maybe they have a dark side, a sinister sense of humor, and are prone to (almost) harmless pranks. On the other end of the spectrum are serial killers.

And psychopaths do possess particular sets of skills that are invaluable as active functioning members of our society.

In our politically correct world, we no longer refer to them as psychopaths or sociopaths. Now, we refer to their place among the Anti-Social Personality Disorder spectrum.

I would not wholeheartedly throw out the entire lot of psychopaths, for they are not all (as most of the district attorneys I’ve met refer to them as) “evil.” Only those who seek to destroy the lives of others for their own enjoyment or gain are the ones that we need to be aware of and prepared to take action when we, or someone we know, has been assigned as their next potential victim.

I have had non-predatory psychopaths on my caseload and they, just like the rest of us, are just doing the best they can, and are well-suited for many positions which would make the rest of us somewhat squeamish.

If you are in the process of being victimized by a predatory psychopath now, the best thing you can do is watch my video: How to Deal with a Psychopath, take action to save yourself from further pain, suffering, or loss, and find someone you can trust to talk to, who will not judge or downplay the effects of being victimized by a psychopath.

There is hope for a life after your encounter with a psychopath. Be true to you and stay the course for your continued safety and recovery.

You are a good person. That is likely why they sought you out. Don’t let him or her stomp out the best parts of you. Healing is here for you, where you are loved and cherished.

You might be interested in attending the Victims of Psychopaths Event