Mastering Focus: The Key to Unlocking Success, and Abundance

In the pursuit of success and abundance, the ability to maintain focus emerges as a fundamental cornerstone. Let’s examine the detrimental impact of distractions, the power of focus in achieving goals, and practical strategies for cultivating this essential mindset. Supported by real-world examples and psychological insights, we delve into the transformative potential of honing one’s focus.

The Pitfalls of Bright Shiny Objects:

Bright, shiny objects or distractions often distract individuals from their path to success. Despite possessing various essential traits, the article posits that focus is the driving force behind them all. Real-world examples, such as the experiences of successful entrepreneurs, underscore the impact of focus in navigating challenges and achieving remarkable outcomes.

The Fear of Success:

Contrary to the widely acknowledged fear of failure, the fear of success is a powerful and subtle force that operates beneath the surface. Many individuals unknowingly grapple with this fear, preventing them from reaching their full potential. Understanding the fear of success requires delving into the comfort zones people construct throughout their lives.

Comfort Zones and Resistance to Change:

Individuals naturally seek comfort and familiarity in their lives, establishing routines, income levels, and social circles. The fear of success arises when the prospect of leaving this established comfort zone becomes daunting. The article highlights how ingrained habits and lifestyles create resistance to change, hindering personal and professional progress.

Procrastination as a Sabotaging Mechanism:

Procrastination often serves as a self-sabotaging mechanism fueled by the fear of success. Individuals may find themselves distracted and delaying crucial tasks, ultimately hindering their progress. The article draws attention to the paradox where individuals desiring success inadvertently sabotage their journey by succumbing to procrastination.

The Power of Unconscious Fears:

The fear of success operates at a subconscious level, making it a formidable obstacle to overcome. Many people remain unaware of this fear, complicating efforts to address and conquer it. The article underscores the significance of awareness, acknowledging that half or more of the battle lies in recognizing the hidden fears that impede personal and professional growth.

Rooting Out the Fear:

To combat the fear of success, the article advocates for heightened self-awareness. Individuals are encouraged to identify and confront the subconscious barriers that prevent them from embracing success. By recognizing success-related fears, individuals can dismantle the mental roadblocks and pave the way for transformative personal and professional development.

Identifying Long-Desired Goals:

Take a moment to reflect on what you have yearned to do or learn for an extended period. Whether it’s acquiring a new skill, pursuing a hobby, or mastering a particular subject, this exercise encourages individuals to delve into their aspirations that have lingered in the background.

Examples:

Learning a Musical Instrument: Perhaps you’ve always wanted to play a musical instrument, such as the guitar or piano. Despite the desire, the lack of focused effort might have hindered progress in acquiring this skill.

Mastering a Programming Language: For those intrigued by the world of technology, mastering a programming language could be a longstanding goal. The exercise prompts individuals to consider whether the lack of focused learning has been a barrier to achieving proficiency.

Learning a New Language: Many individuals aspire to become fluent in a new language. However, the absence of concentrated effort in language learning may have impeded progress.

The Power of Focus:

The exercise emphasizes that the inability to accomplish these desires is not due to inherent limitations but rather a lack of focused dedication. By redirecting attention and energy toward specific goals, individuals can unlock the potential to achieve remarkable outcomes in surprisingly brief timeframes.

Data and Supporting Evidence:

Research indicates that focused learning enhances skill acquisition and proficiency. Studies have shown that concentrated efforts on a single task or goal lead to more effective learning outcomes.

Moreover, successful individuals often attribute their achievements to unwavering focus on their goals. Examples include entrepreneurs who mastered a specific skill through dedicated focus, demonstrating the correlation between concentration and success.

The Need for Strategic Time Management:

In the hustle and bustle of daily life, assessing how time is allocated can be a revelatory exercise. This reflection brings attention to the often unnoticed moments spent on non-contributory tasks, urging individuals to consider the impact on their progress, success, and overall income. Examining this phenomenon unveils the necessity for strategic time management to enhance productivity and achieve meaningful outcomes.

Uncovering Time-Consuming Habits:

This exercise prompts individuals to introspect and evaluate the daily activities that may not contribute significantly to personal or professional advancement. Common culprits include:

  • Excessive email checking.
  • Extended Skype conversations.
  • Scrolling through social media feeds.
  • Indulging in humorous videos.

While these activities may offer short-term entertainment, they can become significant time sinks, hindering overall productivity.

Examples:

Social Media Engagement: Studies show that the average person spends a substantial amount of time on social media platforms daily, with the potential for it to impact productivity negatively (Reference: Insert relevant study on social media usage and productivity).

Email Overload: Excessive email checking and prolonged engagement in email correspondence have been linked to decreased productivity in various professional settings (Reference: Insert relevant study on email-related productivity challenges).

The Toll on Overall Achievement:

Continual engagement in non-contributory activities throughout the day has a cumulative effect, resulting in exhaustion and minimal accomplishment by the day’s end. The prevalence of these habits can impede personal and professional progress, ultimately hindering success.

Data and Supporting Evidence:

Studies on time management consistently emphasize the importance of focusing on tasks that contribute to long-term goals. Research indicates that strategic allocation of time to meaningful activities enhances overall productivity (Reference: Insert relevant study on time management and productivity).

The concept of accountability further reinforces the need for strategic time management. Engaging with an accountability partner has been proven effective in maintaining focus and achieving specific tasks within set deadlines.

The Time Audit: Evaluating Productivity:

Conduct a time audit, tracking daily activities contributing to progress, success, and income. Note your tendency to engage in unproductive tasks like checking emails or browsing social media. Be more accountable to yourself and, consider an accountability partner, focus on tasks that genuinely propel you forward.

 

How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself

You want something, would pretty much do whatever it takes to get what you want, yet you get in your own way enough so as to prevent yourself from ever getting what you want. Isn’t this bass ackwards? If only you knew how to stop sabotaging yourself.

This one step forward two steps back lifestyle of self-sabotage has got to stop. You’re growing, changing, expanding, then your emotional frequency plummets in a sort of vibrational sabotage.

You desire all the good things this life has to offer, yet you still find yourself doing things that prevent you from getting what you want, either by making decisions and taking action, or by not decisively taking action, and you end up missing the opportunity to get what you want.

People who are watching you do this to yourself might chime in with, “Man, you have the worst luck,” or may offer advice, like, “You just need to be more diligent,” or assume that you have an inability to follow through or have a lack of commitment, and you know yourself better than that.

Deep inside, you know you have what it takes.

There’s an powerful underlying energetic part of you that has every cell of your body that you are unworthy of having the things you want, and for any number of reasons your shadow self fears that you will suffer greatly if you get what you want.

Has that ever happened in the past? Did you get something you wanted, just to see your feelings get hurt in the end? If so, this part of you, which unbeknownst to you works in the background of your life, doing whatever it can from keeping you safe from suffering by preventing you from getting the things you want.

This subconscious part of you is busting its ass 24/7 to keep you from suffering and was programmed to do so over the course of your life, and it started accumulating data even before you were born.

This part of you seeks to see that you are kept safe, warm, fed, and somewhat connect to others, enough so to help support you in getting the things you need to get by. It also buries dangerous emotions, hiding them from your conscious mind to protect you, but these suppressed emotions could be the death of you.

This is the primary force behind your struggle for survival and has gotten you this far, but it can easily upset any possibility of good things coming your way, because you are not worthy, or may fear your potential for suffering or loss.

Then there’s the other part of you that wants it all. It sees other people having nice things, fame, fortune, happy, healthy, and living long prosperous lives. But because all these things have potential risk attached to them, they are in conflict with your survivability, so that part of you which wants to keep you safe will do just about anything to sabotage your desires.

How to Stop Sabotaging Yourself

First of all, you must decide to take the wheel and not give up in the taming of your survivability program, recognizing that this is a valuable (and powerful) part of you, and you are grateful for it’s getting you this far as safely as possible.

Now that you know this program is running in the background all the time, you can do things to tweak it, in a sense reprogram it, to actually support you in attaining your heart’s desires and achieving your highest and best.

There are many methods to get in touch with this inner part of you, to love and educate it. Once you can get this subconscious part of you to understand that you are powerful, deserving, and that there is no reason to be fearful or so protective all the time, this part of you can actually help you do what it takes.

By getting more in touch with your heart, your heart’s consciousness can reprogram your subconscious mind to serve you in a more supportive fashion as you receive more information, data, and connection with your higher self.

By doing the deep work which may be necessary to repair a lifetime of rote learning for the sake of survival, you will be able to reprogram not only this part of you but repair damage which your cells and even your DNA have suffered in your lifetime of bad programming.

Your awareness will expand, your intuition grows, and you will start to see things are they really are, not as you were previously programmed to perceive things previously. You may dare to be you, the “you” you were born to be.

Look inside, be honest and talk to yourself, start challenging the thought patterns which are holding you back. This deep inner work is a process which does not happen overnight, but you can do this. And as you do this work, it gets easier, and all the things you want start coming to you.

It’s up to you to do it.

Are you ready for the change?

Maybe it is time for you to live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.

You are not alone. Join those of us who are doing so, we’ve been where you are, right now.

 

Vibrational Sabotage

You’re on a path which includes increasing your vibrational frequency, you might be surprised at the vibrational sabotage you are participating in which prevents you from raising your vibration. If the higher vibration is that of love, not being in the love-vibration is keeping you where you are.

If you ever want to know what level of vibration you are at, just look around you. The world as it appears to you, all around you, what you notice, and how you feel is the perfect representation at what level you are vibrating at.

vibrational sabotage

Making decisions in your life based on fear, rather than love, you are cementing yourself at the lower vibrational levels of fear instead of the power of love, where you want to be.

Thought patterns which vibrate in fear go something, like this, “I need something that I don’t have, and I can’t find it anywhere within my reach.” Now you can readjust that powerfully fearful statement of lack by replacing “something” with anything which eludes you, like any physical or material thing, monetary status, social standing, emotional state, state of health or wellness, specifically.

When you think thoughts from an emotional state of lack or fear, you are locking yourself into that lower vibration. A short list of other states of mind which are in the vibration of fear includes anger, suspicion, distrust, anxiety, worry, envy, and comparing yourself and your situations and circumstances with others.

Anything which is not fueled by your pure unconditional love for yourself and others and has an underlying emotional state of not having enough, being unworthy, or feeling as though what you want or what you need is just beyond your reach, you anchor yourself in fear resigning yourself to the struggle for survival.

You are surrounded by, and bombarded with, a constant flow of negativity. Even if you are in a love-or-powerful-vibration, it doesn’t take much negativity to break your state and send you straight into a lower vibration.

For instance, assume you’re watching a positively impactful television program which has your vibration soaring, then during the commercial break, you are exposed to shocking video of starving children or abused animals. This kind of thing happens all day long, at home, during your commute, at work, around the water cooler, from the time you get up ‘til you finally get to sleep. And then, even during sleep, your dreams are invaded by negativity.

Subjecting yourself to negative programming on TV or other streaming media is sure to keep you in those lower vibration, especially if it is violent in nature is vibrational sabotage. When you start paying attention to the vibration of your television programming, you might be shocked by how negative the programming can be in comedies and romantic films and shows, all which will sabotage your vibrational frequency.

Toxic or closed-minded people and their negative topics of conversation, talking behind other people’s backs, discussing what’s wrong with the world, judging others, promoting separation, even talking about how miserable someone’s life is, all can be sabotaging your vibration.

Personal compromise can cause your vibration to sink, rather than staying true to your core values. You know you’re better than this, yet here you are engaging in an activity which does not resonate with you. You can’t help but feel as though you are either being forced to do this or have to fake as though you might agree with this thought or act which you know is beneath you. Find ways to let go of feeling like you need to be sneaky, lie, cheat, steal, withhold information, or cover your ass.

Mind-numbing activities, such as losing yourself in the maze of the Internet, meaningless video games, social media, or streaming media, which just waste away your potentially precious moments of life, all sabotage your vibration.

Other mind-numbing activities which include drinking alcohol, partaking of mind-numbing prescription medications, or getting stoned, all prevent you from being in powerful vibrational states of love and above.

These mind-numbing activities may or may not lead to addiction, which certainly is a concern if you’re interested in not sabotaging your vibration. Other addictive behaviors which may be forms of vibrational sabotage include addiction to drugs, sex, gambling, food, shopping, cell phone interaction, social media, complaining, television viewing or streaming media.

These are just some of the ways you subject yourself to vibrational sabotage which is toxic, thwarting your attempts to attain and maintain higher vibratory states.

You can avoid vibrational sabotage by letting your love filled heart guide you, trusting that all things which you subject yourself to are divine in nature and for your good, even if it doesn’t look like it at the time.

A life lived in the higher vibrational state(s) of love and above, is a life of peace, harmony, ease, and abundance. Raise your vibration and enjoy all the best things this life has in store for you.

Your Shadow Self

There is a deep dark you hidden deep within yourself which is devout in the protection of your self and will stop at nothing to prevent you from living your best life because to do so would put you at risk. Your shadow self protects from exposing yourself to potential failure, pain, sadness, longsuffering and grief, and in doing so actually blocks you from experiencing true love, health, wellness, and ultimate happiness.

Hidden from you by your shadow self are all the negative life moments you have experienced, so as not to hinder you’re being able to face tomorrow. Associated with all these dark moments are litanous associated programs which run silently in your unconscious to prevent you from being at risk of future negative physical or emotional impact.

While these systems have been accumulating for years unchecked for validity, they continue to perceive threat and trigger your fight or flight sensations, even if there is no apparent threat in the current reality or real world in the moment, or possibly ever.

Debbie Ford

Which reminds me of Debbie Ford’s shadow work, for which she is renowned, and she insists that within each trauma hidden by your shadow self, there is a sacred truth which if dealt with through her shadow process will contain an enlightening treasure which will empower you to realize exponential positivity and personal power.

Profound wisdom is hidden within your shadow self and these treasures are the keys which unlock all the best things this life has to offer.

Let’s say you want something deeply which seems to elude you, like massive success or long-lasting romantic love (or anything else your heart desires). While you may desire these things with all your heart, your shadow self is there to protect you from the potential pain associated with exposure to the risks which would be necessary to achieve the results you desire.

On the surface, in a therapist’s office or as noticeable by you or your friends this might look like self-sabotage, but it is your shadow self, hard at work, preventing you from being exposed to potential pain or loss.

Debbie Ford insists that within the darkness of your shadow self, you will find the key to unlock your strength, your happiness, and your ability to live out your dreams.

In order to enjoy all the best things of life with all its possibilities, you must be vulnerable, and vulnerability is the enemy of your shadow self.

Carl Jung

Carl Jung, who introduces us to our shadows, suggested that our maximum potential could be realized by making peace and standing in the middle between, “his shadow and his light simultaneously.” In effect seeing yourself from both sides.

Yet, due to the excellent abilities of your shadow self to keep you from seeing that you, as well as the rest of us suffering from the human condition, are a mixed bag of contradictions.

For instance, it is highly likely that the things you dislike the most are actually a part of who you are, though you are unable to see it, as these details about yourself are so effectively hidden from your conscious mind by your shadow self.

Delving into the secrets hidden within your shadow self is part and parcel of the deep inner work which you may choose to encounter if you are to truly have the ability to achieve your highest and best in this life.

Self Destruct

Why do I have a tendency to self destruct? Am I my own worst enemy? Why am I so self destructive? What is wrong with me? What’s wrong with you?

It’s not just President Trump who has the power to destroy the world with the push of a button, we all have this power to destroy worlds within our own universe and bring the end of the world as we know it.

Sometimes, we burn bridges, pour gas on people whom we feel have wronged us, light the match and walk away. Occasionally we hit the self-destruct button or just nuke the whole shebang.

Why you would do such a thing is beyond me, and years of therapeutic process may (or may not) help to uncover the roots of one’s self destructive behavior.

Am I immune from having a tendency to self destruct? No, I don’t think anyone is immune from some form of self sabotage.

Regrettably, I’ve dropped a few bombs myself. I think we all do it when we’ve felt hurt, betrayed or disrespected. When your feelings are hurt, striking out in self defense seems like the best option at the time, so you hit the button… and in that moment, you feel better about yourself.

You feel better than feeling hurt when you’ve struck back. You might even feel really good… for a while.

You might even feel like your life will be so much better without this-or-that in your life at all, so you rationalize total decimation is not only warranted but acceptable or preferable. You are happy you pushed the button.

In the case of physical abuse, certainly methods of isolating yourself from others in a way that prevents further abuse are worth contemplating.

Do you have to destroy everything?

This is an important question to ask yourself before you push the button. When you’re considering lighting a match, pulling the trigger, pushing the button or dropping a bomb, asking yourself,

What are the far reaching effects of this destruction?

May be worth the momentary pause or distraction before you launch your attack (or counter attack), even if for consideration for the briefest of moments.

Oftentimes, the actions that we take – especially those actions conducted in the heat of the moment – do not serve us well in the long-run. At some time following the taking of such an action, we begin to realize this, start to feel bad (remorse), possibly even guilt, sorrow or depression.

We find ourselves struggling with our decision to lash out, often in ways that are irreparable as the damage was done, ever so effectively. What felt like self-defense at the time often leads to self destruction.

Is there a better way?

Yes. Self preservation is important. It is likely that you are the only person who is going to truly protect you or seek to defend who you are or what you believe. When it comes down to it, you’re all you’ve got.

So for god’s sake don’t do more harm than good.

Wisdom based on history and viewed through the eyes of love would dictate that in most (if not all) cases war is not the best option. Seeking inoffensive ways to protect one’s self are far more prudent and effective over time.

It’s hard to find balance between revenge and tolerance when our feelings are hurt or our ego is running amok.

Nonetheless, it is in these moments that we must find ways to retreat, find a place of solace or sanctuary, allowing us the repose necessary to ask the questions, “Is this destruction necessary?” and “What are the far-reaching implications?”

From a peaceful perspective and/or contemplative state, you may be willing to consider other options as you ask, “Is this truly in my best interest?”

Will this action lead to regret or self-destruction, or am I achieving my highest and best?

Is this my highest and best?

This is the life-affirming bottom line. If you are on a path to achieve your highest and best, is the action you are about to take helping you to stay on the high road, or have you somehow become derailed and are headed down a path leading to self destruct?

If there is any way possible, take the time to pause, re-evaluate and get back on track before you say or do something that you can’t take back.

Self Sabotage

You want it. You want it bad. You want it more than you’ve ever wanted it before. Your desire has brought you to look at it in the eye. Here you are face-to-face with that which you desire. It’s so close, you can sense it, see it, smell and taste it.

The planets are aligned, the moment is here. This is the right time and the right place to finally get that illusive thing you have longed for.

What do you do?

You might be surprised to discover that most (if not all) people will unwittingly do anything possible to prevent taking full advantage of the opportunity to have what they want. In fact, they may unconsciously disregard, disrespect and ultimately destroy the opportunity altogether.

self-sabotage

Self-sabotage

If you’ve done this – and I know you have – you are a self-saboteur. How do I know you have done this? Because everyone has committed self-sabotage at some point in their life. I don’t know one person who has not sabotaged themselves at some point (well, maybe one, but I believe he is in denial – and that’s okay).

Why would I sabotage myself?

This is something that happens deep inside your self – the you that you are in the core of your being – that subconscious part of you that desires to protect you from all things that may lead to disappointment.

Your subconscious is your oldest protection mechanism. It perfectly recalls every moment when you were disappointed, experienced distress, pain, or got your feelings hurt. In those moments, this deepest part of you vowed to protect you from ever feeling like that again.

This part of your being is also the keeper of your deepest fears and lack of self-esteem or sense of unworthiness.

Experience + Fear – Self esteem = Self Sabotage

When these ingredients are combined and activated, the toxic result is Self-sabotage.

With the best of intentions, your subconscious will do everything possible to avoid – or even push away – that which you so sincerely desire to preserve your state of being.

Unlike you conscious mind which might be able to rationalize, with Tennyson’s, “’Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all,” your subconscious believes it is far better not to have had anything than to suffer the anxiety, disappointment, pain or sadness associated with loss.

Your subconscious is always ready to do battle with any tools available to prevent you from having what you truly desire – if there is a chance things might not ultimately work out, like you would have liked.

Your subconscious takes this so seriously that it believes it’s thwarting your possibility of happiness is self-preservation, a life-saving effort. It’s as if your life depends on avoiding this opportunity at all costs.

How Do I Stop Self-sabotage?

The answer to the question about, “What can I do about my tendency to self sabotage?” can be complex and when I work with someone on their propensity to sabotage themselves, it’s easy to see no two self saboteurs are alike. Nonetheless, the process always centers around the same base ingredients of the equation.

Experience, Fear and Self esteem

If you can recognize the experiences that are preventing you from moving forward, what your fears are and what they are based on and ways that you might lack self esteem or sense of unworthiness and resolve these underlying issues, then you can confidently destroy the self-sabotage defense mechanism, while retaining the wisdom associated with your life’s experience.

Short Cut to Freedom from Self Sabotage

You might think, “Oh, that sounds like a lot of work… Isn’t there something I can do now to avoid self sabotage?”

Yes, you can start with reprogramming your self-conscious by adding a layer of worthiness using your imagination and positive affirmations.

Create a Vision

Create a vision of yourself in your mind’s eye of you completely happy, having that which you desire, fully safe and secure in its fullest expression. The more elaborate the vision with all five senses fully engaged, the more effective it will be. Take five minutes in the morning (preferably the first five minutes of your awakenedness) and five minutes in the evening to take yourself to this place, imagining how great it will be.

Affirmations

Reciting positive affirmations is a good way to start reprogramming your self-conscious. Following are some ideas for affirmations that you can recite (more effective out loud, if possible and silently if more appropriate) which can effectively begin to become more believable or real the more you recite them:

I love and accept myself unconditionally.

I release any need for misery and suffering.

I let go of anything in my past that might be holding me back.

I have high self esteem and I respect myself.

I deserve all the best this life has to offer.

I think on these things: Love, Good health, Prosperity and Positive outcomes. As I do, more love, greater health, wealth and the best things in life come to me.

I love and respect every moment of my life and am so grateful for the blessing of living my best life as it continues to get even better.

And now that you know this, the next time your approached with an incredible opportunity?

Consider jumping into full immersion.

What if it doesn’t work out?

You will not have to be like so many whom I have visited in their last moment whose lives are full of regret for not taking action when they had the chance.

You might get your feelings hurt… and that’s okay… because

It might just be your greatest experience ever!

 

 

My Own Worst Enemy

Why is it that just when I’m about to make a breakthrough, I clumsily do something to screw it up?
My own worst enemy self sabotage vs positive thinkingDoes this ever happen to you?

You are faced with opportunity, a job, a promotion, a romantic relationship, an investment, a business opportunity, then just nonchalantly watch the whole thing go sideways based on your action – or inaction – that, when you look back on it, you KNEW nothing good would come from it?

Why do we do that?

Self Sabotage

It’s as if there is something inside us that makes us believe that we are not worthy of all the goodness this life has to offer and this underlying belief becomes a self-fulfilling prophesy. Then your mind can reassure itself with a resounding, “You see: I knew it was too good to be true.”

I told you so

But isn’t the truth of the matter that you were given this life and all it contains to have happiness, joy, fulfillment and the ability to achieve your highest and best?

If you could just wrap your head and your heart around it.

If not, you will continue to destroy every good thing that could potentially happen to you. This self-sabotage is a self-protection safety mechanism built-in to your subconscious, based on fear. The fear that something bad might happen, or you might be disappointed because we all know

It Happened Before

At some point (or several points) in our lives (beginning in our youth) we had a hope, a dream or a projected outcome that did not come to pass and it broke our heart or spirit. It felt bad not to enjoy our expected result in the way we had hoped. We thought it would feel so good, felt like we were fortunate and somewhat worthy (or at least lucky) enough to be able to enjoy this one moment, only to watch it fall to pieces before our very eyes.

Danger – Danger – Danger

Our subconscious (in concert with our conscious mind) goes about the work of protecting our fragile feelings, setting up our life in such a way as to never be disappointed again, for we would be better off not to have any expectations, wealth, feelings, love, joy or happiness, than to take a chance and suffer loss.

To protect ourselves from feeling let down, or taking the risk of making the wrong decision we screw up every opportunity we are presented with in an effort to protect that fragile little child who lives within us – who secretly desires to have all these things – but would rather die than take a chance at truly enjoying anything… ever.

Low Expectations

It’s as if keeping expectations so improbably low, and seeing destruction all around you does one thing. It proves that you are right and you can justify your pathetic state of mind because

Nothing Good Ever Happens

And all your observations seem to support your state of mind. Whether it happens to a friend, relative, stranger, innocent bystander or you see it on the news. Bad things happen to people all the time. It happens everywhere to everyone every day, and they’re not alone. We’re all in this boat together, “Life Sucks” for everyone 24 hours a day 7 days a week… and so it is.

Your resistance to allowing goodness into your life is the most effective way to protect yourself from disappointment because in this way you are sure never to have the expectation of anything better than achieving numb mediocrity… and that’s better than putting one’s self at risk of getting your feelings hurt.

Positive Thinking

You could live out the rest of your life this way, or you could experiment with happiness and joy just by exercising your imagination and thinking about something good. You don’t have to make any huge commitments to change your life in any way, or battle with any inner demons lurking within. All you have to do is to dip your toe in the water to find some sense of feeling good.

You risk nothing by exercising your imagination. Try it. Close your eyes and think of a joyous thought (or moment) when you felt thoroughly happy. See it in your mind’s eye and remember every detail of it, the colors, the smells, the lighting, the feel of it and smile.

See. You were happy and you did not die.

Maybe there’s hope for you, yet.

Isn’t Now the right time to start living a happy life?


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