STOP! Heart Says

Here is a simple way to exit the patterns of drama which surround your life. Conflict, upset, and drama could come from anywhere outside yourself and even from within. Just use the STOP! Heart Says approach to redirect your life to a drama-free life.

You know when you’re annoyed at something in life, and you feel your harmonic frequency dropping to a lower vibration where drama hangs out. At your first inclination or awareness that your vibration is dropping, when you feel the slightest degree of upset coming your way, this is the perfect time to take action.

You can start by saying to yourself, “Stop.” At this early juncture of the transition from an otherwise peaceful or serene life, you are in charge. You can stop whatever’s annoying you by simply using your words internally, or if someone is really pressing your buttons, you can use your outside voice.

Once you’ve issued the stop command, you immediately interrupt the energetic flow which is causing your frequency to tank, but only briefly. What you do next is everything.

In the precious second (maybe two) following your stop command, you need to check in with your heat to see what utterance might come from the voice of love if spoken at this very moment. I assure you, it’s probably the opposite of what you want to say, because you’re already triggered.

It’s a little like sacred Family Feud, as if the announcer says, “Stop!” turns and looks at the reader board and barks, “Heart says!” There should be something there within your heart waiting to come out.

You probably are inclined to start any response with “you” or “but” when the heart’s response will always start with, “I.”

Whatever your response is, just know the heart will always start with I. So, go ahead and throw it out there and see what the heart will give you to follow it up.

I like having a little ho’oponopono in my bag of tricks to pull out anytime I am in an awkward moment. Ho’oponopono is a ritualistic succession of short statements in four simple parts. They include,

I’m Sorry.
Please forgive me.
Thank you.
I love you.

Very easy to memorize by rote so that you have them handy and on standby in any awkward moment.

If I am in an awkward situation and I start feeling my vibrational frequency sink, I consciously initiate the Stop command and say, “I.” If nothing immediately follows, I start using ho’oponopono, by adding, “’m sorry,” with no intention except to respond from the heart without having to sacrifice my vibration because to respond otherwise requires my going to a lower vibration to interact at the level of the upset and/or potential drama.

Sometimes (most of the time), just saying the, “I’m sorry,” is enough to cause the whole scenario to veer off on a different direction from the path to conflict which you were on only seconds ago.

If, “I’m sorry,” doesn’t do the trick, and the heart has not provided you with other words or phrases to follow up with, keep going, “Please forgive me.”

You might find words coming up from your heart to follow your please forgive me with, “I didn’t know that…” followed by whatever is coming and relevant. Maybe that’s all you needed to change the whole world at that moment.

Whoever, or whatever, you are facing, knows the origin of these words, and is not used to hearing them as a response to potential conflict or drama, and receiving your heart-inspired love response is enough to break the spell of negative energy flow that you were facing less than a minute ago.

If you need them you still have, “Thank you,” and, “I love you,” as back up, if you need them.

It’s easy to use “I’m Sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you,” anonymously as your sacred chant to interject unbridled love into any situation, it’s entirely a different thing to use it in a verbal confrontation or face-to-face.

It takes a lot of courage. I know it did for me, but once you see the effects it has on the world around you, I think you’ll find yourself using your STOP! Heart Says skills more often, preserving your sacred space and high vibration baseline.

The more you get in time with your heart, the more love words will come to you, but if they do not, you will always have at least four things to say before you have to wing-it in faith.

The next time you’re facing a potentially dramatic situation, try playing a little round of STOP! Heart Says and see what happens. I think you’ll like it.

I’m Sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.

When You Let Someone Hurt You

When you let someone hurt you, it’s easy to jump to the conclusion that someone has struck out at you, even assaulted you. When your feelings are hurt because of what someone else said or did, it might be more difficult to realize that the responsibility for how you feel is on you, not the other person.

You make the choice to allow someone else’s words of deeds offend, hurt your feelings, or affect you in a negative way because you could also choose to not let whatever anyone else says of does to affect you.

While enduring all kinds of torture and suffering, Viktor E. Frankl, said, “The one thing you can’t take away from me is the way I choose to respond to what you do to me. The last of one’s freedoms is to choose one’s attitude in any given circumstance.”

While being beaten for practicing civil disobedience, Mahatma Gandhi said, “Nobody can hurt me without my permission.”

These are both excellent examples of men who chose to rise above their current situation to disallow anyone else to exercise dominion over their state of mind. You too, can have this unshakeable resolve, if you so choose.

We go through life with the default setting of allowing other people to hurt us deeply and even feel the pain in our bodies as if we’d been beaten, assaulted, or tortured, when we have not actually been touched, and this is our choice.

We choose to feel sick to our stomachs, suffer sleepless nights, low energy levels, depression, and little motivation even to eat or get out of bed because of what someone else treated us. This is a lot of power over us to be granted to another person.

As perverse as this might be, it’s an attitude which you have been programmed to hold tight to as a method to control you within the prison of your own mind. Many heroic individuals have discovered this and broken through the programming to find their own peace in any circumstance.

You can choose to have the power to not let anyone shake your state.

Once you discover that you have the choice to be unmoved by anyone or anything outside yourself, you also realize that when you let someone hurt you, have made the choice to allow someone to affect you deeply out of respect or love, if you so desire.

From this vantage point you have the knowingness and power of your control over your state of mind at any time regardless of what other people think, say, or do. You are the master of your emotional state.

This high level of emotional maturity is within the grasp of anyone with the courage to grasp the idea and wrap their heart around such a concept.

There’s no need to look back at all the wasted hours, days, and living of life by being overly concerned about the dominion you allowed others to have over you. What is important is that from here on out, you are the master of your emotional state.

Nothing can hurt you.

Disappointment, fear, offensive statements, abusive circumstances (even the most unimaginable) are no longer effective weapons against you.

Also, letting go of expectations can be an effective tool in allowing others to have control over you, for if you let go of the emotional attachment to the expectation of a particular response or outcome, your emotional state is not at risk and cannot be shaken.

You decide to live your life in a state of pain and suffering or love and joy.

When you let someone hurt you, it is not without your invitation or permission.

Pain Is A Gift

Life is fraught with pain. We will all experience pain in this life, but you get to choose whether the pain you experience will be long term suffering or healing pain.

You may be taken aback by the idea of choosing how you experience pain, if you are unfamiliar with the discipline of choice. You’re in good company because most people cannot wrap their head around the idea of choosing their pain.

Most people resign themselves to play the part of the victim and allow the forces around them to dictate when to be happy or sad, when to feel love or hate, when to feel good or bad.

If pain is inevitable (I don’t know if there’s any way to avoid pain) could you consider, if only for a moment, that you could make a conscious choice to have a perspective of fear which plays out as long term suffering, or from a perspective of love which uses the pain to heal, promote personal growth and the nurtures the advancement of your human potential.

When you assume the role of the victim, you allow something or someone else to have control over you and your emotions, and you can continue to give them this power over you over a prolonged term, even a lifetime, making you a slave to the pain.

Or, you can change your perspective by taking full responsibility for the pain (thus disarming the person or thing that was causing the pain) and look for the blessing.

While it may be hard to consider the idea that your pain can have blessing attached to it, this is an immutable reality.

All Pain Is a Gift

Better said, everything painful that you experience has within it a gift, a blessing. Something good and wonderful is waiting for you to discover it hidden within and masked by the pain. But you must diligently look for it to find it.

Pain is God’s way of saying, “Trust Me.”

If you surrender to the pain and focus on the circumstances outside, the landscape will be so cluttered that it would be impossible to see the forest for the trees.

But if you can take responsibility, possession, and ownership of the pain, you can gain the perspective necessary to find the hidden gift. And in many cases, once you are able to do this, you will find the pain may have kept you safe from something far worse,  possibly even saved your life.

You could spend a lifetime, punishing yourself, or someone or something else for some injustice. You see it all around you, people who are ever masking their pain, parading as a victim or self-medicating to mitigate the damages of being wronged. This is not only acceptable in the society which we live, but promoted as our slavery to pain enslaves us into addictions for profit.

The worse we feel about being victimized, the more we focus on abusing ourselves with alcohol, drugs, work, sex, hatred, anything that will give us a momentary sense of relief. Yet, try as we may, when the smoke clears, the lights go on, or the next day dawns, the pain remains. Unless you take action.

At the very least, do a search on YouTube for “Emotional Freedom Technique” (EFT). This is an effective method of breaking the neurological connection between the thought of the source of your pain and the physiological manifestation of the pain in your body.

You could visit an EFT practitioner to do the deep work, but you can easily find relief just by spending a few moments perusing YouTube, or if you have time, investigate via Google search.

This one simple technique is quick, easy and painless, freeing you from the evil grip the pain has on you. This can give you enough space to catch your breath, regain your equilibrium and exert your cognitive skills enough to start looking for the gift that is waiting to be uncovered.

Vow to never be enslaved by pain again. You are beginning to evolve into the more advanced form of yourself. Taking this action causes your life – even your DNA – to change.

You are awakening the new you trying to emerge, and all you have to do is to be open and proactive, allowing the transformation to take place naturally.