Haunted by Ghosts of Life

Ever feel like you’re being haunted by past experiences of your own life?

It’s as if ominous ghostly specters are floating around you at all times haunting you, reminding you of past occurrences that hold you back or keep you down. The ghosts of your past find ways to remind you of things that have happened before, especially when you’re about to experience a breakthrough or contemplate a potential opportunity to change your life for the better. You are reminded that you are unworthy or damaged goods because of the past experiences.

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It’s possible these ghosts of your life’s past started to accumulate since an early age. Maybe an injustice at school where you were belittled or bullied, or you felt an absence of love and as if you were not good enough, and for some they get even more intense as we continue to grow into high school and beyond.

Maybe a romance gone bad or sour business venture caught you off guard resulting in a gnarly ghoul who keeps you from moving out in faith and love to achieve your highest and best.

Whatever the reason, you have these unfriendly ghosts hovering around you, ever reminding you that things did not turn out either nicely or the way you had planned.

ghostbustersI know a ghostbuster (who even teaches classes and certifies other ghostbusters) whose process of dealing with ghosts is to lead them to their higher destination. Once they’ve graduated, they’re not stuck anymore and they’re no longer interfering in the lives of the living. They just didn’t know any better, the same goes with the ghosts from your past haunting you.

If these ghosts keep persisting to keep you from living a better life, then it’s time for a little ghostbusting for you. You could seek some outside coaching, counseling or therapy; then again, you may be able to battle the ominous specters on your own.

When ghostbusters deal with ghosts, they try to start at identification and that’s there you need to start, too. Create a profile of your ghost, when did it first appear? What incident is it connected to? What does it moan, chant or whisper to you? And when does it rear its ugly head?

If you didn’t already know this,

The Ghost is Dead

It is no longer among the living, but it does not know that. Nothing that happened in the past that is no longer happening has any life in it. It is dead and buried in the past.

The ghost strives to survive due to its struggle to live and torturing you makes it feel as though it is alive. And the ghost’s intention is good, though misled. It thinks by keeping you in fear, it is protecting you from evil.

The ghost has led you to believe that the incident(s) or series of circumstances it represents are bad. It’s up to you to lovingly present a case to the ghost that though the event appeared to be bad – and, certainly it was bad – the experience and the learning that you gained from it was highly beneficial, not only to you, but armed you with skills and abilities to relate to others in a similar situation.

You may find it helpful to write out your story on paper and refine it, being certain to list all the good things that resulted from the bad thing that happened.

Trust me, the ghost is watching your work intensely and reading every word. It may even try to taunt you while you’re conducting this work, but don’t give in. Push through and show the ghost your completed report.

Thank the ghost for trying to protect you all this time. Let it know that you understand that its intentions were good in trying to protect you, but you don’t need its protection anymore. In fact, to tell it the truth, all this protection has actually prevented you from achieving you highest and best.

Thank your ghost for all its effort to protect you, but now it is time that both you and the ghost be set free. As you destroy the list, tell your ghost that you love it and send it to the light.

Start living your life ghost-free

If another ghost rears its ugly head, apply the same procedure when you and your ghost are ready to move on.

The Past is the Past

One of the most debilitating conditions humans can encounter is that of emotional pain, from loss, abuse or regret. Interestingly, we suffer this pain independently of any physical condition, yet the physiological distress can be as serious as the psychological discomfort.

Indeed our thoughts control our emotions, and our physiological wellbeing. When the past haunts us in our present state of mind, the past is not in the past as it keeps impeding on the present becoming a component of “now,” instead of being safely stored in the past where it belongs.

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When one has suffered a psychological trauma (which can be demonstrated physiologically as illness or disease) as a result of something that has happened in the past (like, post traumatic stress disorder, for instance), the standard response from someone who hasn’t walked a mile in your shoes is, “Just get over it. The past is the past.”

Ah, “the past is the past;” the mantra of the psychopath. That’s what a psychopath says when he or she has committed a significant transgression, and expects you to disregard the past because it cannot be changed (here’s where they insert assertions about how much they’ve changed, assuring you that you would never be at-risk again) all in an effort to set you up for the next unexpected blow.

In general, psychopaths are unique in that they have no feelings, no feeling of love, remorse, guilt… they are psychologically bullet-proof (or bankrupt)… they have no need to seek forgiveness, nor do they accept responsibility for their missteps… To those of us who suffer emotionally from being abused, wronged or traumatized, this would be considered a superpower… and in some ways, it is.

Bottling up suppressed emotional trauma related to the past weighs heavily on the normal operating condition of the human body and is not an effective approach to dealing with PTSD.

Thankfully, there are therapeutic models that help people deal with traumatic incidents that have been experienced in the past that continue to thwart our sense of well-being. Enter what I refer to as, “Time Machine Therapy.”

I know that the idea of a time machine seems like a bit too much science fiction for the average person… but time travel has been accomplished using the power of the mind for thousands of years, though some intellectuals insist that it’s only been about 150 years… It doesn’t really matter how long it’s been, what does matter is that it is an effective process that can have valuable healing power today.

With access to this potent therapeutic modality we have challenged that famous catch-all phrase, “the past is the past,” because now, we have a method not only to access the past, but to manipulate or even change the past.

It’s also important to have access to the skills that it takes to let go of the past, to disconnect the physiological connection that leads to discomfort and stress. There are many methods available to help you overcomes traumatic loss or change in your life, and to put you back in the driver’s seat of your life.

Being distracted by the concerns about one’s past makes it difficult to navigate one’s present. That is why it is imperative to deal with the issues of the past for a normal person (does not apply to psychopaths or sociopaths) in order to not have your cognitive resources bogged-down with the burden of yesterday.

It is imperative to begin to live in the present, and you can get you from there to here and powerfully empowered to be the best that you can be.

You might ask, “When accessing or altering the past, do we still retain the lessons learned?”

That’s a good question; and the answer depends on the client. In most cases, we can retain the memories, disconnecting the feelings connected to them. In rare cases, entire memories need to be altered or erased in order to preserve a healthy perspective of the client.

A common response to that is, “That sounds like brainwashing!”

You may associate a lot of negative associations to the idea of tampering with one’s memories, but this is done at the request – and with the full cooperation and consciousness – of the client; and in times of emotional crises time machine therapy is a healthy alternative to a condition that might otherwise be unmanageable.

In the event that wiping the slate clean is necessary, the client is always equipped with the combination to the mental safe that keeps those memories locked safely away, if it becomes important to access them once again.

Once you are in charge of your life again, you will find yourself making positive progress, changing your future and the world for a better life, your best life and make the world a better place. You may feel regret from opportunities that were lost as a result of your previous struggles with issues from your past – as though you have lost a piece of your past that may have been better spent – and may have thought that you lost your chance for this or that… Not true. Once you are back in the present you can be and do more than you may have ever imagined because you are more empowered and aware than ever before.

You will no longer be limited by false inhibitions or past burdens. Everyone deals with the issues of their past in different ways, and there are a quantity of tools and techniques that ensure that you can have a positive outlook for you and those whom you care about.