The Love of Jesus Mindset and Unconditional Love Then or Now

Examining the love of Jesus mindset unveils the power of Jesus’ life and teachings. This love of Jesus mindset set Him and His message apart from the other thought patterns and mindsets of the day. That is why I have chosen to specialize in nothing more than the love of Jesus. When I look at other teachings of present-day Christian ministries, I find that many of them are contrary to the love of Jesus mindset, and I apply the love of Jesus mindset to them.

If I were to come up with a single attribute to define the love of Jesus mindset, it would be “unconditional love.” However, unconditional love includes a wide variety of attributes that make up the love of Jesus mindset.

In our society today, unconditional love is an elusive dream concept. Everyone wants it, but no one wants to give it, and so it is lost, for the most part. We can recapture this mindset, and I have dedicated my life to preserving it to the best of my ability. That is all I can do. I am not perfect by any means, but I have incredible adoration for Jesus and his setting the example for me to follow.

The unconditional love of Jesus underscores the idea that God’s love is not dependent on human achievements, societal status, or adherence to a strict set of rules. Instead, Jesus emphasized a love that reaches all individuals, embracing them in their imperfections and offering the possibility of redemption and transformation through that love. Unconditional love is a central theme that permeates various aspects of Jesus’ interactions, parables, and teachings, making it a distinctive, definitive characteristic of the love of Jesus mindset.

In general, let’s look at the unconditional love of Jesus and how it might contrast the current outlook or state of affairs in the religions of His day.

Jesus exemplified and preached unconditional love. His teachings, such as the parable of the Prodigal Son, underscored the idea of a forgiving and unconditionally loving God. Jesus emphasized love that extends beyond social boundaries, personal merit, or adherence to religious norms.

In contrast to some religious sects that might have conditional expectations for love and acceptance, Jesus’ unconditional love challenged the notion that one needed to earn or deserve God’s love.

The unconditional love of Jesus exemplified compassion, forgiveness, inclusiveness, and a genuine concern for the well-being of all individuals. Understanding and practicing unconditional love today involves embracing these principles in our interactions with others. Here’s a breakdown of what the unconditional love of Jesus looked like and how we might practice it in contemporary times:

Compassion for the Marginalized:

Jesus: Jesus consistently showed compassion toward those on the fringes of society, including the poor, the sick, and social outcasts. He reached out to those who were marginalized and demonstrated a deep empathy for their struggles.

Practice Today: Embrace compassion by actively seeking to understand and empathize with marginalized individuals and the challenges they face in our communities. Advocate for justice and equality, recognizing the dignity and worth of every person.

Forgiveness and Grace:

Jesus: Jesus forgave sins and offered grace to those who sought repentance. He emphasized the transformative power of forgiveness and encouraged his followers to extend grace to others.

Practice Today: Cultivate a forgiving spirit in personal relationships. Understand that forgiveness is not condoning the wrongdoing but releasing the burden of resentment for your own well-being. Extend grace to others, recognizing that everyone is on their own journey.

Inclusive Community:

Jesus: Jesus welcomed people from diverse backgrounds and social statuses into his community. He broke down cultural and religious barriers to create an inclusive and loving environment.

Practice Today: Foster inclusivity by embracing diversity in your community. Reach out to those who might be marginalized or excluded. Create spaces where people feel valued, regardless of background, beliefs, or identity.

Selfless Service:

Jesus: Jesus demonstrated love through selfless service, washing his disciples’ feet and ultimately sacrificing his life for the salvation of humanity.

Practice Today: Engage in acts of selfless service. Look for opportunities to serve others without expecting anything in return. Volunteer, help those in need, and contribute to the well-being of your community.

Radical Hospitality:

Jesus: Jesus practiced radical hospitality by sharing meals with diverse groups of people. He broke bread with sinners, tax collectors, and social outcasts.

Practice Today: Practice radical hospitality by welcoming others into your life and community. Share meals, listen to their stories, and create spaces where everyone feels valued and accepted.

Nonjudgmental Love:

Jesus: Jesus demonstrated a love that transcended judgment. He emphasized addressing one’s own shortcomings before passing judgment on others.

Practice Today:

    1. Strive for a nonjudgmental attitude.
    2. Instead of immediately criticizing or condemning others, seek to understand their perspectives and challenges.
    3. Cultivate a mindset of humility and empathy.

Unconditional Support:

Jesus: Jesus offered unwavering support to those who sought him. He provided comfort, healing, and encouragement to those in need.

Practice Today:

    1. Extend unconditional support to those around you.
    2. Be a source of encouragement and comfort.
    3. Listen actively, offer help without expecting reciprocation, and be a reliable presence in others’ lives.

Promoting Unity and Reconciliation:

Jesus: Jesus emphasized the importance of unity and reconciliation. He encouraged peacemaking and resolving conflicts.

Practice Today: Actively work towards unity and reconciliation in your relationships and communities. Seek to mend broken relationships, promote understanding, and contribute to a culture of harmony and peace.

Practicing the unconditional love of Jesus today involves embodying these principles in our daily lives. It’s about treating others with lovingkindness, compassion, and respect, regardless of differences or perceived shortcomings. By actively living out these values, we can create a more loving and inclusive world, reflecting the transformative impact of the love of Jesus’ mindset.

 

All We Need is Love

You are taking your love relationship to the next level, and you’re convinced that, “All we need is love,” but you’re going to need more than love to truly bond with each other in this critical phase which moves you to the most meaningful of romantic relationships. You’re willing to say to your partner, “I love all of you,” and mean it with all your heart, and if your partner loves you just as much, how do you grow together even deeper? Is it possible to, in a sense, become one flesh? Can you break the boundaries of a normal relationship and potentially become more connected than other couples?

 

You’re ready to take your love relationship to a whole new level, and you know, as a couple all we need is love. Not the sophomoric, “All You Need is Love”, like the Beatles promoted, or the immature, “We don’t need money, we can live on love,” that parents have heard from their children who have fallen head over heels in love. <sarcasm>Yes, two can live on love… half as long.</sarcasm> Young love can easily forsake the responsibility and reason which should also accompany true love as well, and just let their emotions run rampant.

Not to be confused with young love, you know you’re ready for something more meaningful. You can see love all around you and you’re willing to let go and love with all your heart. You’re willing to set aside your pride and let the protective walls fall down, as you reveal your true self to your partner in unguarded openness, and brutal honesty, tempered by compassion.

This is a two-way street. Don’t even think you can survive this kind of relationship, if your partner is not reciprocating. You do need to proceed with caution when taking your relationship to this deeper more mature phase of love.

Why?

If you really want to make a go of this and move into greater relationship, it takes two, baby, and if you’re partner is onboard, it is possible to entertain the idea of unconditional love.

Unconditional love sounds good at first blush, because it’s what we all want. But when we’re challenged with the idea of giving it, that is a completely different proposition.

Unconditional love means I love you no matter what. You know that’s how you want to be loved. I want you to love me no matter what. Regardless of what I do or say, I want you to love and respect me anyway, because I am just doing the best I can. My intentions are good, and I would never intentionally do anything to compromise our relationship.

And it’s easy to see this from your perspective, but when your partner feels this say, you are suspicious, your feelings are easily hurt, you take it personally, get upset, and accuse your partner of disrespecting you and the relationship that you share.

This is love, but it is not unconditional love.

This is that immature, “I love you if,” kind of love. I love you if you do this, I love you if you don’t do that. But to love someone unconditionally, means, “I love you no matter what you say. No matter what you do.”

When most people hear that initially, they recoil and burst out with a resounding, “Oh, hell no!”

Because you feel like you’ve dome that before. You loved. You let your guard down. You trusted your partner, and where did that get you? Likely you were hurt, betrayed, you suffered and your heart was broken.

But the desire for true love still lingers within the recess of your heart, longing for something more deep and meaningful, a soul-to-soul heart-to-heart connection with that special someone.

If you think you’re ready, you might consider attending an Awakening to True Love Workshop, which represents that kind of love that surpasses Hollywood’s love, or any other type of love that you might have experienced in the past.

Be forewarned, this expanded type of love is not for the weak. In fact, when you emerge on the other side of this workshop, you will be an entirely new you, ready to take on love and the world in an entirely, more empowered way, full of happy expectation and pure love.

You Are Evolution

As the world and its inhabitants continue to evolve and expand in consciousness (as science is now recognizing that all matter is energetically connected, alive and conscious) perceptions of human are starting to make a grand shift from believing what we’ve been told and obediently following the rules to having independent thought and being open to the expansiveness of infinite possibility.

You Are Evolution

As you awaken you become aware of the great lengths society and its social programmers will go through in a powerful and determined effort to control you, how you think, what you believe, what you do, and what you are afraid of. Fear is their most powerful weapon, and it’s worked superbly, until now.

Fear is losing its power to control us, for there is a far more powerful energy which dissolves any fear in any of its many forms to meaningless nothingness. The most powerful energy is love, and it is love that is disarming those who seek to control your mind (where your thoughts are easily manipulated by fear).

Contemporary society, as well as its barbarian ancestors, have thrived in a state of fear, but the evolution of an emerging awakened human being is only now beginning to see that things may not be as they appear. Once the veil has been lifted, you start to see things as they really are. You are evolution.

Due to medical advances in the world, a growing number of individuals are dying… and coming back from death. Their reported near-death experiences (NDE) are vastly contrasting the reports of our lesser-evolved ancestors. They are discovering, and science is confirming, there is far more taking place within, without, and throughout all existence.

The awakening of humanity is exposing the concept of infinite possibility which exists all around us and we are able to increase our interaction with it.

Fear among the living is fading as the energy of love continues to expand, rendering fearful energies impotent. The fearful social constructs used to manage and control us are losing their grip. The power of the organized methods created to imprison the minds of humanity are failing to force efficacy in the brainwashing of you and me, and love is breaking through the barriers of fear among our peers all over the planet.

And for those among the awakening are expanding, the understanding of infinite possibility offers growing empowerment to create new opportunities for an expansive stress-free lifestyle without the constraints of fear. Life and the living of it become your superpower.

There is an energetic consciousness all around us where anything is possible. All the limitations which have been imposed on you are little more than sleight of hand tricks to make you believe that you are not divinely empowered to have access to the unrestrained power of God and the universe, enabling you to imagine first, then do, be, or have anything your heart desires.

Unconditional love, the ability to deeply connect with others, a unique purpose, a powerful reason for being, joy, prosperity, and abundance are among the concepts which are being bestowed upon those who are awakening.

While the process of awakening is simply the raising of your vibrational frequency from fear-based to love-inspired, it is difficult to overcome a lifetime of social programming. It requires what appears on the surface to be illogical. Logic relies on evaluating data which is known while expanding in consciousness relies on being open to what is not known.

Even so, as science progresses, they are discovering new data amidst the unknown. God bless those who dare to explore these new uncharted expanses which are challenging the constraints of primitive data.

Drop Out Plug In

Increasingly there are those, just like you, who are dropping out of the primitive life system and plugging-in to the vastness of all that is, being open to all the infinite possibility, growing, expanding, and continuing to evolve.

And the powers that be are taking notice. They are ramping up their efforts to dominate us exercising their management of the educational system, media, electronic communication, data overload, crisis creation and management, mental health and legal systems, and any other methods they can utilize to garner greater control of our youth, in an effort to build up reserves for the future. They are convinced their control will quash and outlive the current evolution, but it will not.

You are dropping out of the systems organized to control you. You can no longer relate to these systems any longer because you can see the fear-based “truth” they claim is eternally powerful to have authority over you is neutralized by the power of unconditional love.

Have you noticed, as you exit these systems, that the members will exert various fear-based methods to force you to return to their conformist standards to return to the fold?

They have been deeply programmed to do the bidding of the powers that be to see your departure as something dangerous, even life-threatening, and they might do anything to see you return to the organization, exerting fear-based tactics such as intimidation, threats of consequences, excommunication, or even eternal damnation.

Plugging-in to the infinite power of unconditional love gives you the fortitude to be strong enough to walk away from the barbarian drama without judgment because you know they are only victims of a larger system, as you once were.

You can love and bless them as they make their own way in life, as you continue to find your own way.

You are no longer blinded nor controlled by “the system.”

You are among the awakening. You are courageous and powerful. Your evolutionary process will yield to you everything you need to grow, expand, and be more than you could have ever imagined.

Bless you, for having the courage to drop out and plug-in.

When Love Dies in a Marriage

You got married with the best intentions. When you got married you vowed to love each other for life, but something happens after you’ve signed your affirmation of love on the dotted line, the love you had begins to fade. What can you do when love dies in a marriage?

Love is like an ocean, with ebb and flow. There are good times, bad times, and most of the time you just sort of modulate within the “okay” sense of being neither good nor bad, just somewhere in between, finding the marriage somewhat tolerable.

Like incoming waves, your marriage is visited by incoming waves of love which nourish the relationship. Every seventh wave (as each relationship is different so is the time differential between waves of love) is good enough to make you feel good and strong enough to stay in the love cycle for another round.

The only problem as you stay in this cycle of love waves, the incoming waves of love decrease in their volume as your ocean of love evaporates and can dry up completely. This is when love dies in a marriage.

When your love has died, what’s the point of being at the beach at all? You think both of you would be better off just to cut your losses and go your separate ways, and the thought of revisiting another love beach is either vastly appealing or sounds like an ominous devastating idea inviting dissatisfaction and broken heartedness.

If you choose not to throw in the beach towel of love, you could alternatively choose to love again.

You can infuse your marriage with love just by being willing to step out in faith and recreate the environment of past love and reinvigorating your marriage by acting as if your love never waned.

All you have to do is to remember the way you felt and think about the things that you did when you felt you were overwhelmed by love’s magic spell. Back when you were in the throes of love, you did different things than you do today, You may have done anything for the object of your spouse. All you wanted to do was to express your love and feel the love emanating from your partner.

By doing the things that you did when you were “in love,” even though it doesn’t feel the same or like you’re just going through the motions, you will notice the feeling of love returning to your heart and countenance.

When you feel like love has died in your marriage, remember this…

Love is not dead. Love is, always was, and will forever be. Love is eternal.

You can keep your love ocean full and vibrant by turning on the tap of unconditional love.

Unconditional love is such a high concept and it is frightening for the average mortal to even consider. What? To love someone no matter what?

To say to someone, “I love you no matter what you say, no matter what you do,” just sounds like you’re inviting disrespect, pain, suffering, and abuse. You imagine nothing good could come from that because everyone is always out to get you or take everything from you and victimize you.

Just the idea of giving unconditional love, even though you want to be loved in this way, can make you feel angry.

Sounds like a lot of fear, and fear is the opposite of love. There is no love in fear, but often there is fear in love, and love cannot be raised to its highest form (unconditional love) in fear.

It starts with you. If you can allow yourself to tap into the unlimited source of unconditional love (God), you can have so much love for yourself that it overflows into the world around you.

In this state of unconditional love you can fully love anyone, even your loveless spouse, so much that you don’t require receiving any love in return. One person in unconditional love can sustain an otherwise loveless marriage indefinitely.

A common response of a loveless spouse in a marriage with one partner loving unconditionally is to reciprocate love, leading to a profoundly loving marriage between the two.

Love not only returns to the marriage, but it surpasses any love that has gone before. This is the power of true love which is unconditional.

Think about these things and when love dies in a marriage know that it does not necessarily indicate the marriage is dead. Love is all around and true love is lying in wait, ready to breathe new life into any relationship, eliminating fear, if you dare to release it.

Want to learn more? Consider attending an Awakening to True Love seminar near you

See you at the Soulmate Wizardry event.

Romantic or Unconditional Love

Two people meet, fall in love, pledge their vows of love to each other, and live happily ever after. This is the romantic aspirations of most people who seek romantic love in the world today.

There are many forms of love which are active in our society. Love is used on a wide spectrum including many possibilities and representation. On one end of the spectrum you can love chocolate cake, and on the other, a desperate heartbroken young child can find solace in his or her mother’s embrace accompanied by the speaking of the words, “I love you.”

All love is good love and the more there is of it in our world, the better the world can be. For a moment consider there might be a difference between romantic love and unconditional love.

There is nothing better than entering a relationship in love with the expectation that it would last forever. There is an instinctual part of you that wants to go through life with someone by your side. Having to decide who that might be only once, sounds like a dream come true.

When you are attracted to someone or something, this is an expression of your flesh, creating a desire for it whether it be a particular type and color of a car or a prospective mate. Certain hormones create a chemical reaction in our brain which makes us love one thing over another.

The love chemical reaction fades over time and so do the feelings of love. That’s why your admiration of that new car is often replaced by resigning yourself to drive the darned thing, while you long for another car that is more appealing; one that causes your love chemistry to kick in. And so it is with romantic love.

Romantic love projects expectations on your partner. If they look and act in a way that is in line with your expectations of him or her, your love is sustained. If not, you are disappointed and may respond negatively, potentially giving way to disapproval or anger.

Unfortunately, romantic love is based on this expectation and the challenges you face with being shocked by the stark realization that the object of your affection has failed or is unable to meet your expectations.

Instead of fostering togetherness, as in the two of you becoming one, romantic love separates each of you into a my-way vs your-way opposition fostering a push-pull power struggle which can never be won.

Romantic love will have you endlessly attempting to make your partner fit your perception of how he or she should be based on your expectations, with little consideration for who your partner really is in his or her own natural state, or respect of individual potentialities which are yet to be realized.

Romantic love is perpetually fueled by fear of loss, which keeps you looking for clues of potential loss, and as a self-fulfilling prophesy, that which you seek appears, either by using your overactive imagination, or real-life circumstances, which you may have called into being by your fear.

Fear leads to disrespect, suspicion, loathing, and even hatred, when you are jolted into the reality that your love cannot be sustained by whom or what you believed could be trusted to fulfill your expectations of love. This dichotomy creates a violent cognitive dissonance which rocks your world and wreaks havoc on your emotional wellbeing.

Unconditional love, on the other hand, is quite the contrast to romantic love, in that there is no my-way vs your-way opposition keeping you separated. There is no right way, there is no wrong way. There is just you and your partner in love inclusive or all respective possibilities.

This is only possible by allowing true love to flow from the source of all life which does not impose expectations. This true love loves purely, without expectation. It does not look for flaws, nor does it seek to punish. Unconditional love loves regardless; no matter what you do or what you say.

Unconditional love can only be expressed if your heart is full of love for yourself, and to the degree to which you possess this kind of love for yourself, it can overflow into the life of your beloved.

Of course, in unconditional love, there will be differences which appear, but these are allowed to be expressed in love, and you may talk openly about whatever comes up in the contrast of your love experience with openness and honesty, allowing growth or allowing what is to simply be as you move forward.

You were created by this unconditional love source and the potential for it resides in every cell of your body. You can let loose this unconditional love and let it permeate you and the world which surrounds you at any time, if you can allow yourself to consider the possibilities.

Unconditional love is the most powerful force which can be wielded by any man, woman, or child and is more powerful than anything else. It exists in all life, everything, and without it, nothing would be.

God blesses all love unconditionally, from the romantic love looking to be negotiated and contractualized between two, and the unconditional love. Love is love, and everything is love.

God bless you on your journey in love.

See you at the Soulmate Wizardry event.

No Love? You’re Why

Why is it so hard to wrap your head around unconditional love? No doubt, you want unconditional love. You want someone to love you no matter what, but when it comes to your loving someone else, it immediately turns to conditional love, or, “I’ll love you if…”

It might surprise you to discover that if you have no love, you’re why.

You are the reason you are not able to engage in unconditional love because it takes two; your partner and you. The you that keeps all the love you’ve ever imagined just beyond your reach.

Some people refer to this you as “ego.”

Your ego looks at love as a means to an end, a method to get whatever it is that you want, and to provide you with the sense of safety and security that you longed for as a child but rarely, if ever, received from your parent(s).

Chances are, you’ve looked for love in the past and it didn’t turn out the way you thought it would. You may have suffered a few of love’s wounds along the way, and your ego will collect every possible indicator culled from your past to prevent you from falling victim to love’s evil again.

This results in your gathering many (oh, so many) red flags as a method to protect you.

In my Awakening to True Love seminars, we discuss that unconditional love, the only true love, is about the giving of love. It requires nothing from those to whom it is given. True love is a free gift, without expectation of receiving anything in return.

To love unconditionally is to love no matter what you do, no matter what you say.

“Oh, hell no!” your ego shouts out.

Therein is the proof of it.

You want unconditional love, but your ego will not allow you to give it, therefore you can never have true love.

The ego can dress up a romantic affair to make it look and feel like love in an effort to extract a feeling of love or safety and security, but this illusion is not sustainable for long.

As soon as your ego feels the threat of not being able to sustain this love feeling, it will initiate various and sundry irritations, inconsistencies, conspiracies, suspicions, and demons to threaten your sense of wellbeing.

Your ego does not see it as your failure to connect deeply with this person, instead, it will do everything possible to make your partner the focus of your irritation and will exaggerate circumstances and your feelings until you are rescued from this relationship.

The love that you felt previously turns to fear and angst.

True love, your true love, will never come from someone else, it is drawn from an endless well of love which emanates from your heart, which is filled in unlimited capacity by the God of the universe.

If you can get a grasp of this, your ego will post up to guard the gates of your heart against you, with thoughts of “this is preposterous” because “How could the love you’ve been looking for your whole life be inside of you?”

To engage in true love is to surrender your “self” (your ego) and all that is to unconditional love.

In this state of being, all you are is love. Love is all that you see and feel no matter what. Even in the most desperate of circumstances, you can rise above it, see it for what it is, allow all the situations and players simply to be without judgment or blame; and love them and what is.

You can tell if you are in true love by the way that you feel. If you feel uncomfortable, fearful, at risk, or exposed to potential peril, you are not in the true love state. Unconditional love transcends that which is presented to us as a “cover story” or impending doom and gloom.

As more of us surrender to unconditional true love, a shift happens which resonates throughout the universe. At some point, this unconditional love will envelop our planet, and those who do not surrender to unconditional love will no longer be able to thrive.

Non-lovers will lose their power, fear will no longer serve them as a weapon, and they will find meaning in surrendering to true love, or they will deteriorate, and we will love them unconditionally, however they decide to live out their days.

For me and my house, we will love unconditionally.

See you at the Soulmate Wizardry event.

The Perfect Relationship

The perfect relationship looks like what?

If there were such a thing as the perfect relationship it would be the joining of two people who love unconditionally, honor, and respect each other fully for what they have in common, shared goals, individual goals, and passions, celebrating each other’s differences and helping each other do the deep inner work.

While the previous paragraph seems acceptable on the surface, it is a challenge which only the chosen few can even conceive of let alone accept or attempt to embrace.

Imagine what it might be like to love unconditionally. That means, “I love you no matter what.” No matter what you say, no matter what you do, I love you. Marianne Williamson calls it, “Love for no reason.” There is no, “I love you if…” for that is love for a reason. Unconditional love is just that: Unconditional.

When approached with the idea of authentic unconditional love, today’s contemporary independent thinking woman might immediately respond with a resounding, “Hell no.” and who could blame her? If that sounds like your first knee-jerk reaction to loving no matter what, realize that is your head talking. On the other hand, your heart might yearn for such a love. Consider listening to your heart, what does it say?

Don’t you long for someone to love you unconditionally, no matter what? Of course, you do. But for some reason (probably because you’ve had your heart broken in the past) you can’t imagine allowing yourself to be vulnerable to loving someone, like that, again.

How can you want what you’re unwilling to give? Because of a combination of unhealed emotional wounds from the past and the lack of self-love. I know, you feel like you love yourself well enough, but do you love yourself unconditionally?

Honoring and respecting what you and your partner have in common might be easy enough but truly embracing your partner’s differences, all of them, a lifetime of them, the good, the bad, the ugly… All of it, no matter what?

Remembering that you are, each of you, powerful individuals with your own unique and individual purpose, message, passion, and mission in life. Independently, you can live a better life, and make the world a better place, but together your efficacy can become more than the sum of its parts. Bound together in unconditional love your abilities are multiplied exponentially to live your best life together. Imagine the possibilities.

Supporting each other to do the deep inner work, in a sense mirroring your partner’s most tender sensitivities and challenges, can help to encourage the other to rise above his or her own demons, the deepest, most painful wounds hidden from life’s view.

This is the most difficult and messy work, and the person who is closest to you, the one with whom you share sacred space. The one who will not judge you when you are engulfed by your most vulnerable moments which may be full of a myriad of negative emotions. The one who will love you through this process “no matter what” can hold your hand and take you in loving embrace as you trudge through your deepest inner work.

This is the perfect person to be with, in your perfect relationship. Not a perfect person, by any means, for none of us is perfect, but perfectly matched for you, in all you share in common and everything that makes each of you, opposites. The one you can trust with the most intimate details of your life.

It takes a lifetime to learn all there is to know about yourself, who you really are, how you tick… In the perfect relationship, you could do this work in half the time, leaving you much more time in this life to make the world an even better place, together, hand-in-hand.

You can have your perfect relationship. Whether you transform your current relationship to your perfect relationship, or start from scratch, you can do this, if you dare.

Considering Unconditional Love

Take a man from Mars and a woman from Venus (thank you, John Gray) and shackle them together with a contract and public declarations of “love” in front of family, friends, and other witnesses and what you have is the perfect recipe for disaster. And so it goes, day in, day out, every day.

The only people coming out on top of this contractual agreement intact are those who profit from the marriage’s failure, the attorneys, the legal system, the retailers, therapists, purveyors of booze and drugs (legal and otherwise), domestic violence programs, and legal institutions, among others.

Few people actually enter into the marriage with the intent to end it all in a furious blaze, yet it happens every day, and if you’ve entered into the institution with a prenuptial agreement, this signifies the preamble to divorce, a sort of self-fulfilling prophecy.

As divorce rates skyrocket leaving couples previously “in love” at each other’s throats battling for their own independence and survival in the shambles of the relationship, with little thought of what might have been missing, the one thing that could have turned the tables. The secret to a wildly successful love relationship can only be considered by the strongest, most advanced humans among us.

If you are a powerful, enlightened being, you might think about entering into the realm of true love. Not the Hollywood-inspired love, but the highest level of love, which we refer to as unconditional love.

Most relationships are based on fear, not love. I marry you to meet my needs, needs that I am unable to meet on my own, or fear that I might not be able to sustain by myself. The fear of, “what ifs,” of the most impressive negatively-charged imagination, prevent any possibility of true love appearing anywhere on the horizon.

Fear is the reason relationships break down, the only hope of positively-inspired true love is in the embracing of unconditional love between two lovers, but it’s not for the weak at heart.

Without true love, there is a competitive battle for control or supremacy, which can only lead to the destruction of the relationship, where it is thought that there can be a winner and a loser, but when a relationship dissolves, no one wins, regardless of who possesses the most marbles.

Men who are not entitled to engage in unconditional love are those who are physically or emotionally abusive. Those who understand that love is much more than a source of physical intimacy, or having a helpmate, have a grasp of the idea that true love is centered on the heart-to-heart connection between two mates.

Women who are suspicious, interrogate, jump to conclusions, and are critical of their mates, are in the vibration of fear which is the polar opposite of true love and unconditional love is not within her reach.
In a relationship of unconditional love, the man (Martian) provides for the woman (Venusian) and environment where she can self-explore, grow, and expand to her highest potential, while the woman responds in kind with true love.

In a loving environment which is open and honest, men and women are free to admit their mistakes, shortcomings, and weaknesses in full disclosure, without judgment or disrespect. They learn not to just listen with their ears but with their hearts trying to fully understand what it might have been like for his/her mate.

Forgiveness, not defensiveness, justification, or false accusations, is the first order of business in unconditional love among both participants.

Cooperative unconditional love is the powerful force which fuels the most amazing relationship which can be shared between two people and trust bridges the gap between the two.

Love when fully embraced by both parties can heal all wounds, is the secret weapon which can overcome and obstacle or challenge they face together and offers them endless opportunities to grow and expand.

Unconditional love is counter-intuitive. It runs in opposition to everything you’ve been taught about love by society. Love is not a method to be used to get what you want. Love cannot be bridled and forced to fit any contrived mold. True love is free and ever-expanding.

There is hope for true love in the world today. You might dare to entertain the idea by attending an Awakening to True Love Workshop, to see if you have what it takes to engage in unconditional love.

See you at the Soulmate Wizardry event.

You and Your Puppets

There is you. Then, there is the “you” which you present to others. No one knows the real you, except for you, and you create a disguise which you operate, like a puppet, to present to the world. After one realizes the efficacy of puppeteering, you create an army of puppets to represent yourself in any situation and circumstance.

You expend a great deal of effort adorning your puppet(s) to present to particular audiences. You clothe and accessorize and present each puppet in such a way to have a particular impact on others, or to get what you want or need from others to make you feel good about yourself.

Masquerading is an effective way to interact with the world, but it doesn’t work that well with you, because you know the real you who dresses up your puppet(s), surrounds him/her with supporting evidence. You adorn your puppet’s environment to validate his/her personality by decorating his/her home, earning certificates and take taking photos to hang on the wall, driving a particular kind of vehicle, and a myriad of other supporting evidence to in essence prove to the world that your puppet is the real deal.

You’re constantly looking for new ways to support the identity of your puppet. Every time you think this is the one thing that will finally cement your puppet’s identity, it satisfies for a moment, then you discover it just didn’t quite accomplish you intended purpose, like you thought it would. So, you seek out another piece of supporting evidence.

You surround your persona with collections of supporting evidence which could be anything from material items to acts of service to others, or even vices or debilitating disease. All in an effort to convince the world to accept the identity you’ve designed for yourself. But no matter how hard you try, you know this is all an act. Regardless of how much time, effort, and finances you’ve dedicated for supporting your persona, as pretty or magnificent it is, you know it is all a worthless façade.

Then there is the most valuable and precious activity of life, and that is the real and authentic personal work performed by and on the behalf of the puppeteer. Unlike the things you do to support the identity of your puppet(s), the effort you put forth to support your true self which stays hidden from the external world, it is the best and most intimate thing you can do for yourself. This is your deep inner work.

There is great contrast between your deep inner work which cannot be seen by others, and the external representation of yourself which can be acknowledged and revered by others. The support and admiration you received from others creates an addiction to the maintenance of your façade, which clouds your judgment, preventing you from seeing the value in expending efforts to conduct your intimately private deep inner work.

Once you start to look deeply inside yourself, if you dare, you can start adorning your inner self, the real you, with mindfulness, self-care, support, therapy, forgiveness, and unconditional love. Just as you adorn your public persona(s), you beautify your inner self, connecting to that greater part of you which is a higher energetic vibration than could ever be represented by any material possession.

Nothing gives you such lasting satisfaction as doing your deep inner work. And as you conduct this deeply personal and intimate work on yourself, you can influence your persona(s) in ways that can offer glimpses of the changes taking place inside the puppeteer.

These subtle nuances cannot be hidden, as they can be seen by the trained eye, every time you pull a string, redecorate the surroundings, or operate your puppet.

Empowered by the energy emitted from your heart of hearts, your deep inner work begins to affect the world around you in even the smallest of ways like a pebble creating a ripple effect which radiates throughout the otherwise still pond of life.

You are love. Embracing your love life, loving yourself, all the deeply intimate and harrowing parts of yourself as all being in divine order, is the greatest love-work of all.

You are doing it. As you do, you create hope and inspire others to shift the focus of their lives from keeping up appearances to focusing within, and life by life, heart by heart, the world evolves and becomes a better place.

God bless you for all that you do.

A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson

Sometimes you run across a book which is so timelessly written that it is inspirational at all times. Every time you revisit it, new revelations appear via changes in your own evolution. Such a book is A Return to Love by Marianne Williamson.

While the basis of Williamson’s work is based on a Course in Miracles, don’t let that inhibit your potential to gain access to her intuitive interpretations of the course’s material.

The Jewish author who is well-educated and incredibly intelligent details her breakthrough to love via the course’s materials. A Return to Love awakens and inspires all its readers of the possibilities which avail themselves to us, if we only believe, see, and refuse to deceive, ourselves and others.

If you know what it’s like to run into a relationship only to find that heartbreak and discontent are the rewards for your daring to take a chance for love, Williamson’s book will offer inspiration and hope, while challenging your base beliefs which fail to serve you in any authentic manner.

Williamson is transparent about her own experiences and relationships as she bears all to the reader in a smart and honest manner, delineating her own failed attempts at looking for love in all the wrong places.

If you are willing to embrace the material, you can separate yourself from your ego and bask in the presence of your empowered personal freedom. Loving and caring for yourself and allowing this love to expand and envelop not just potential suitors, but anyone that comes within a stone’s throw of you.

If you choose, you could let go of your critical view of others and insecurities which set you and your partner up for a tragic failure. At one moment you can be flying high “in love,” only to leave behind a smoldering crash site.

I applaud Williamson’s daring to challenge readers to consider the idea of entertaining the idea of unconditional love, a primarily unpopular point of view these days in a world overpopulated by wounded victims of Hollywood-inspired love.

Yet, if you dare to choose to love unconditionally, you are rewarded by an unrestrained peace, harmony, and love which spreads across the expanse of your life.

Relationships provide us with opportunities to see those pieces of us which lay hidden within our psyches, tucked away, and preventing us from becoming our highest selves. Understanding this creates a new perspective on all relationships, even – and more importantly – romantic relationships.

Romantic relationships allow us to be naked, not physically so much as emotionally. As you stand before your mate emotionally exposed, those hidden parts of you rise to the surface, and you can become aware of what stands between you and your greatest love.

From this perspective, if you are triggered by your loved one, it is not an assault; it is an invocation to look deep inside and an opportunity to grow and change. This is the miracle of true love.

Approaching love with a divine combination of humility, love of yourself, and passionate love, without judging others or usurping power or ideals over your mate, ushers in the basis of unconditional love, “I love you no matter what,” in contrast to, “I love you if…”

Marianne Williamson’s prayer for impending love goes something, like this:

“Dear God, You know and I know, I have more potential for neurosis in this area than in any other.

Please take my attraction, my thoughts and feelings about this person and use them for your purposes.

Let this relationship unfold according to Your will.

Amen.” ~ Marianne Williamson

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