How to Deal With the Emotional Outbursts of Others

Are there people in your life who are a constant source of frustration? People who rub you the wrong way, make you a little crazy, find that single raw nerve, tweaking your otherwise sound sense of calm, then wreck your whole outlook on life, with a single word or gesture?

Consider, if you are willing, to seek out what is hiding beneath the surface.

People will interrupt your state of being for a wide variety of reasons including personality quirks, lack of self-esteem, current or past trauma, inability to handle stressors of life, jealousy, awkward expression or communication styles, mental or physical health concerns, or narcissism are among the most common.

Not possessing the necessary awareness, emotional/communication tools, they may only be able to strike out in an abrasive manner which may be disrespectful, putting others down, making false accusations, demonstrating abrupt, unrestrained angst, anger, or other destructive behavior, including stonewalling (the silent treatment).

When they strike out at you, it’s perfectly understandable and normal for you to think it’s about you because that’s representative of the words they are using when they are pointing their finger at you and addressing “you,” accusing you of being the cause of their emotional outburst.

Even though they are blaming you for their state of mind, this negative energy is sourced and expressed from something deeply disconcerting from deep within themselves. They need to release some of the pressure from these deep, dark secrets and/or unresolved inner conflicts, or else they might explode.

Not understanding how much pain this out-of-control person is, could let you take their emotional display personally. It can actually transfer some of their pain to you, and you get upset or defensive, launching your own emotional overwhelm or outburst.

Losing sight of what’s really happening behind the scenes can cause you to forfeit your power and cause your otherwise high vibrational state of mind to sink to their level, as you do battle in those primal vibratory states of mind.

Following the seduction of your compromised vibration, you might play the event over and over again in your mind, possibly further prolonging your angst about the event, and you might even be distracted by trying to figure out how you could fix things, do or say just the right thing to potentially change the person you shared this experience with.

You may forget that you cannot change anyone, and neither should you even try.

The only thing you can change is you.

How to Deal With the Emotional Outbursts of Others

The next time someone strikes out at you reclaim your power by trying to understand what is happening deep inside the heart and soul of the person who is acting up. Realize, no matter how hard they try to blame or insist that you are the cause for their upset, you are not.

Also, consider that even though you know you are not the cause of their present emotional state, keep in mind that there may be a hidden treasure or truth inside their out of control expression that is a sacred message meant especially for you.

You might uncover something about yourself, where you could grow or change if you can filter out all the upset of the delivery method and find something deep within yourself which could be an opportunity for you to look deep inside from a different perspective.

There will be people whose negative outbursts are just their way of releasing pressure and have little or no prolonged consequence. Try to humbly accept the therapeutic position, possibly even feeling blessed to be the vehicle this person has selected to release this emotional pressure. Some of us are better shock absorbers than others.

It is unnecessary to defend yourself or fight with someone in such a destructive behavioral pattern. Find that safe place within and allow them to release without allowing their upset to compromise your vibration.

You are never expected to remain in an abusive situation. Do not let someone else threaten or terrorize you. Remove yourself from any potentially dangerous circumstances. Don’t let them get to you, retain your power and walk away in love.

You are all-powerful and have full authority to protect your sacred emotional space while allowing life to go on all around you.

You can choose to be unaffected by the dysfunction of others while looking after your own safety and security in peace and harmony.

What Other People Think or Say

You know you’ve come to this planet with a unique Purpose, Message, Passion, and Mission (PMPM). Yours may not be hugely star-spangled and glorious with your name in lights and a guest spot on Oprah’s Super Soul Sunday but yours is just as significant and meaningful, if not more so, because your intention and the effort you exert to communicate and engage with your calling helps to raise the vibration of our planet, encouraging and allowing others to begin to awaken and evolve.

All thanks to you and what you do, because all growth, expansion and inspired action has a cumulative effect on the world. Every inspired heartbeat, display of devotion, encouraging word, loving thought, meditation, smile, or tear shed increases the energy which positively charges our planet for our expansive evolution and makes the world a better place.

In many cases, fear will keep you from doing that thing you’ve been called to do. You’re intimidated by what other people might think of you, so you’re more likely to do what others want you to do, to look, act and try to feel like others expect from you. You’re likely to not pursue a track to your highest and best because of the people you love the most, your family, friends, co-workers, even people you barely even know, because of what they might think.

You spend your life in the service of others, adopting the people-pleaser mentality, for a meager sense of feeling as if you’re doing the right thing, as you neglect your own needs, wants, and desires, in a form of martyrdom. You’re probably engaged in work that is unsatisfying and feeling as if you are not respected or honored for the sacrifices you make on the behalf of others.

What Other People Think or Say

What if I told you that the most powerful people affecting the world for change and evolutionary expansion don’t really care what you, or anyone else, thinks?

If you want to do your thing, stop worrying about what other people think or say.

This is about you, your calling, your contribution to making the world a better place, even if in the smallest way, as you step into the inspiration and power of that which gives your life meaning and allows you to achieve your highest and best.

Loving Me Time

It’s time you carved out some sacred space for you to engage in some loving me time. As you may already have gotten wind of the idea that if you really want love, and to really love others, you have to start by loving yourself.

Dedicate your loving me time to loving yourself, everything about you, from the day you were born until now, and become your own best friend. The more you learn to fill you, your soul, and your life with an empowered higher vibration of love, the more you have to share with others, and the more love, the truest of loves, comes into your life. Turning you into a virtual love generator and love magnet.

From this powerfully love-energized position you are better equipped to positively charge and affect the world around you in your service to others. How much more effective can you be now, when you desire to care for and share with others, as your overflowing love cascades over everything you do?

What if someone puts me down?

When I was a young man, I found a way to make extra money by playing music in bar bands. As a tenor, I was able to harmonize with other band members and add value to the performance. I later decided to do my own music. Intimidated by what people said about my lack of professional singing voice, I surrounded myself with singers who could sing the songs I was writing.

This led to an endless rotation of singers, as well as other musicians, and any chance I might have had to establish “my sound” or make an impact with my music was lost. All because of what someone said about the quality of my singing voice (and my lack of self-confidence).

Later, when I got involved in the ministry, I was so inspired, nothing could stop me from speaking my piece, or singing my songs about God and our relationships with Him and each other. I had to come to the point that I would powerfully pursue my mission to spread love and help others achieve their highest and best, regardless of what other people thought or might say.

As my inspiration, commitment and resolve grew within me, as well as my love for myself and others, embracing my own unique gifts, skills and abilities, I had become bulletproof in my passion and in the expression of my ministry.

Your purpose, message, passion, and mission are your sacred birthright. Nothing anyone could say or do could make that untrue and the onus is on you to embrace your calling and forge your path being true to yourself, sharing your unique skills, gifts, and special abilities, which is the least you can do for being blessed with the opportunity to experience this life.

And,

what other people think or say doesn’t matter.

You are raising the vibration of our planet, encouraging and allowing others to begin to awaken and evolve.

Thank you for everything you do.