You Are Sui Generis

If you are pursuing a path that leads to your highest and best, you are sui generis. That is to say that you are creating a higher version of yourself, which defies limitations that previously, defined who you were as a person.

For the fervently seeking sui generis, every day – if not every passing moment – further compounds your evolution toward higher thoughts, ideals, interaction, living life and expression on this planet.

Sui Generis collective evolution of body mind and spirit individually

You take full responsibility for your own personal growth and are amidst a grand transformation that is an ever-changing metamorphosis.

Though you may biologically be defined as homo sapien, your evolution is expanding both in consciousness and physiologically, that the person that you were yesterday is quite different from the person that you are today; even your DNA is documenting the changes as it also evolves on a regular basis.

You are discovering thought patterns; situations, circumstances and concerns of the masses are decreasingly resonating with your evolving state of being, though your capacity for compassion and thirst for higher resonance increases and the things of earth grow strangely dim.

In fact, some things that apply to the masses are beginning to fade away in regard to yourself; disappointment, depression, anger, judgment… even infirmities, disease, pain and advanced aging are applying to you less and less.

Your life changes and love wells up within, you discover that who you are becoming is not easily definable, the sui generis you is so individual as you attract and possess unique characteristics that defy classification.

As your status aparte begins to grow and mature, your realizing that you are

In the world but not of the world

You have followed no prescribed notions, your sui generis self is evolving at its own pace without regard for others, without measure, nor in competition or comparison to others.

Your spiritual awakening no longer meets characteristic definitions, nor do you fit within standard genre boundaries. No reason or explanation is due to justify your sui generis status as you continue to simply be and allow others the same respect and consideration.

And while you are increasingly not of the world, you are still in the world, so you find ways to contribute in an effort to make the world a better place.

You maintain the highest regard for others who choose to follow their individual paths, whatever they may be, while you strive to maintain a communication style and relationships with others compassionately to, in effect, be all things to all men without compromise.

You are not alone

You are part of a expanding evolution in consciousness that simply is. It defies definition and transcends scientific method. This awakening is occurring throughout this planet without regard to origin or who, what, when, where, why and how. It just is… as you are… and together we will be completely and individually separate and sui generis.

Never question your unique authenticity or doubt who you are. Maintain a stealth presence as you traverse your journey through time and space as you continue to question everything else, continuing to gather information and arrive at your own conclusions; which are never set in stone.

You cannot be easily defined as you are fluidly ever evolving and humbly embracing you’re sui generis.

What Are They Saying Behind My Back?

What do you say about me behind my back?

That thought is enough to drive a person crazy.

In your reality, what does it matter what someone says behind your back?

What if it’s my husband or wife?

Okay, I’ll give you that one. Even though it doesn’t really matter what he/she says about you behind your back, it can be a form of spousal abuse, certainly a betrayal of trust, so concern and action could be justified.

And I’ll give you criminal defamation and false accusations (could even be filed in court) may propose a threat to your survivability, so action might need to be taken to defend yourself.

But what I’m referring to is the murmuring that people do behind your back that seems to concern us so much. We can spend too much emotional effort worrying about what other people say.

I remember the first time that people started talking about me behind my back. It was after I exited the ministry. People just couldn’t wrap their heads around any rational reason that would justify what they perceived as me bailing out on God. So they talked… and rumors spread… some of the ones that made their way back to me were hateful, hurtful (and some were) hilarious.

I ended up relocating and I figure they found someone else to talk about. I’m so grateful that they didn’t have Facebook back then.

Years later, people started talking about me behind my back after a direct encounter with a criminal psychopath and his family. This time, it was post social media, and the defamation spread across the Internet, including twitter and Facebook.

What to do?

My philosophy to start with is:

I’m not interested in what you say about me… unless it’s true.

Im not interested in what you say about me unless its trueI am not going to dignify any false accusation with a response; so don’t even ask.

That is my personal policy. I really don’t care what other people say; but I think that if you’re going to jump on the ill-report-train, you would be better served doing some fact-checking before doing so. I’m just sayin’, you don’t want to look like the fool when the truth comes out.
Sure, people can use the Internet to cyberbully you but does it really matter?

I have a lot of friends who monitor their social media accounts like a hawk. The slightest negative comment sends them on the rampage. So, what about the haters?

There are going to be haters and thanks to the Internet, these otherwise silly-low-self-esteemers can hide behind their computer screens, tablets or phones and feel like a big, powerful bully by slamming someone on the Internet.

So let them. What’s the harm in that? Is what they said true?

In fact, I have a client who prays for people to talk bad about him on social media. Why? Because he’s in business and when a hater rallies against him, his sales increase. It’s not based on, “all publicity is good publicity – even if it’s bad,” it’s more like he benefits from having his name out there, and for people who have not heard about him, they fact check. The fact checking by an otherwise unknown potential client, turns into a sale and a satisfied customer. Go figure.

I like holding onto a phrase from the Bible (Genesis 50:20) that states:

“You meant evil against me, but God meant it for good”

It’s like you’re intention was to defraud, defame, hurt or destroy me but there was a higher purpose that came through.

When I was dealing with the defamation by the psychopath and his family, I let it go. When people would walk up to me and ask, “What about?” or “I heard…” I would simply reply, “I don’t know where you heard that, but you should go back and check for facts.”

Other than that, Masters don’t respond to nonsense.

And if you don’t respond, what happens? It just fades away.

If you feed the fire with a response in your defense, now it requires more energy – by the messenger, the reporter, the accuser and you. Do you want to go there?

You have to decide which battles you want to wage, and which you can walk away from.
For, me? I don’t care what they say, unless it’s true.

 

Anything is Possible… Everything Is

I’ve spent most of my life in the personal and professional growth industry, surrounding myself with clients and mentors who are striving to be on the leading edge or have a burning desire to help make the world a better place. I have been blessed to work with some of the best minds in the mind sciences.

Anything is possible youre almost there Everything isOne common theme that runs throughout the waves of thought that permeate the sea of higher consciousness, is the belief that, “anything is possible.”

Under normal circumstances, people are programmed to doubt their own sense of value – even though they came to this planet with a unique set of skills, abilities and unique message to share with the local community or the world – feeling as though they were not qualified to be a worthy messenger.

Usually, when I begin working with someone they are already on the path of achieving their highest and best or at the very least they have knowingness that their life is beckoning them to a higher calling and sense of fulfilled purpose.

Personal performance coaches start with the tenant of getting the client to a baseline understanding that there is ample well-documented, verifiable proof of things once thought to be impossible became possible starting with the thought that anything is possible.

This is not a new concept, as even New Testament’s Jesus proclaims that all things are possible for he who believes (Mark 9:23) and many have gone on since to spread these words with different themes attached to it for clarity in certain situations, such as:

“If you believe in yourself anything is possible” or “Impossible only means that you haven’t found the solution yet.” A scientist-and-engineer friend of mine (referring to a quote by Henry Ford) says, “Anything is possible, with enough time and money.”

Celebrities have chimed in with their varied view about anything being possible:

“With self-discipline, most anything is possible.” ~ Theodore Roosevelt
“The best scientist is open to experience and begins with romance – the idea that anything is possible.” ~ Ray Bradbury
“Nothing is impossible. The word itself says ‘I’m possible’.” ~ Audrey Hepburn
“If you lead with passion anything is possible.” ~ Paula Abdul
“Once you chose hope, anything is possible.” ~ Christopher Reeve
“Anything is possible, if you’ve got enough nerve.” ~ J.K. Rowling
“When doubt is banished, abundance flourishes and anything is possible.” ~ Wayne Dyer

Even when Alice in Wonderland says, “This is impossible.” The Mad Hatter counters with, “Only if you believe it is.”

All this to say, anything that has ever been conceived, discovered or achieved was birthed in the thought that anything (currently believed to be impossible) is indeed possible – and someone believed it with enough fortitude – and had undertaken the task of making it so.

Napoleon Hill said, “Whatever the mind can conceive and believe, it can achieve.”

We believe that anyone – yes, even you – have everything that you need to bring this thing to pass; and for some of us, it is our mission in life to support the efforts of an inspired individual to achieve the impossible.

But wait! There’s more!

Believing that anything is possible is only the beginning. Yes, it can get you from here to there and beyond.

There is a superior concept that lies ahead in the horizon, that once it is truly grasped, changes everything and the belief that all things are possible begins to fade as one begins to understand:

Everything Is

I’ll let you ponder that one…

Anything is Possible (you’re almost there)… Everything Is

Sing Your Song

I grew up around music and was constantly singing to the radio or vinyl recordings as a youngster. From 1974 to 1994 I was chronicling my life’s journey in song. I started playing professionally in nightclubs at a very early age. Overhearing instructions by the nightclub owners, “You can only play songs that are BMI licensed,” and seeing musicians being sued over music rights in the news put the fear of the music industry in me.

Dave Michael Valentine with acoustic guitarSo, I thought the only way not to get sued for playing music, was to write my own songs (originally fear-based songwriting). As I embraced the process, these songs became my musical scrapbook, the soundtrack for the stories spanning twenty years of my life.

I always knew – even as a young child – that I had a message and a mission, and though it has taken many forms along the way, I have stayed active and true to my life’s calling; and sometimes my message is sung. I never claimed to be a proficient singer or songwriter, only a man with a message burning inside, aching to get out in any way possible and I didn’t let my ability (or lack of ability) keep me from singing my song.

You came to this planet with a song So singYou came to this planet with a song to sing. What is your message, your song? Your message/song is unique to you. No one can tell you what song you should sing because it is your song, and your song alone.

Managerial structures that govern the publicly accepted views revered by our earth’s inhabitants would like you to think it is okay to sing a song, as long as it isn’t too radical or upsets the status quo. Plus, just like anything else, only individuals “qualified” should participate in such activities.

This underlying philosophy will keep most of the individual song-singers in check and when you’re trying to find or sing your song, you may start to interrupt yourself due to doubt propagated by the idea that

  • I’m not good enough
  • I’m not educated enough
  • I’m not strong enough
  • I’m not qualified enough
  • I’m not a good singer
  • I’m not from a musical family
  • I’m afraid to sing in front of people

And any other barrage of self-doubt and excuses to keep you from singing your song. If you don’t sing, they win; your message is stifled, your candle light is snuffed out and the community at large suffers.

Believe me, there is someone who needs to hear your song. I have countless stories of people who were moved by particular songs that I’ve written and/or performed… some have truly amazed me. Because even though I wrote a song with a specific subject matter or purpose, the listener was moved in an impactful manner; and when they explain to me how the song spoke to them, I can’t even imagine how they could have interpreted the subject in such a way.

Obedient sharing will bless others in ways you could never expect

It’s like being obedient to sharing your message, will bless others in ways you could never expect.

If someone is drawn to you, they may need to hear your song… If you are singing, the universe will bring people to you to hear your song. It may be only one person, a small group of folks or thousands of people; it doesn’t matter.

What matters is that you sing your song. So sing.

I Am What’s Wrong With the World

I am whats wrong with the worldThe world is in disrepair, the United States is in shambles… If you don’t believe me, turn on the TV and it won’t be long, you will see that our nation and the world are sliding down a slippery slope.

How did we get into this desperate cycle of degradation? I mean, here we are on the epicenter of technological advancement; it wasn’t long ago (only several generations) that there were no toothbrushes, electricity, cars, toasters, telephones, radios, televisions, let alone computers or the Internet.

It wasn’t until the 1600’s that the printing press allowed information to be controlled, doled out to the general population and used as a means to persuade collective groups of people to embrace particular types of thought. Following the 200 years of the printing press’s dominion, the propaganda strings became stronger and swifter with the introduction of better methods of communication, like the telephone, radio and television; let alone more recent technologies including the personal computer and the Internet, leading to present-day communication technologies.

And still, with all this technology that we currently hold in our hands, the world remains in a state of decline?

Things will go on as they are as long as the majority of our populace is made up of puppets manipulated by puppeteers; the one’s that consume and those who control the media.

Oh, sure, we hear rumors of people willing to “make a stand.” Only to find their efforts are fruitless, as they are silenced. The boisterous rebels willing to publicly draw a line in the sand and attempt to influence the masses, whose messages fade away as they disappear, are murdered or die of natural causes.

The only way to change the world is one person at a time, from the inside out, and it starts, here and now with me. I am the problem. I am what stands between the world as it is today and the brighter future for tomorrow.

What can I do to change who I am?

I can turn off the TV. I can reject fear and find ways to love more deeply and passionately, embrace my personal power and a more intimate connection to the source of all that is and ever will be. I can conduct my affairs with integrity, have compassion for all peoples of all nations; including those within the boundaries of the nation where I reside who see things differently than me.

My power of influence will be focused on myself and who I am; not in an effort to convert or persuade anyone to accept my unique and individual point of view on these or any other matters. I will gently and humbly share my ideas, only when prompted; and when questioned I will respect the perspective of my audience, only disseminating that which the hearer may hear in a manner that will have the best likelihood of being understood.

I will allow everyone to go it alone, to find their own way at their own pace and celebrate their right to do so because, after all, aren’t we all just doing the best we can with what we have? I know I am.

And as I focus on me and who I am, there is the possibility that someone, somewhere else is turning their attention inward in a similar manner. I believe that as the number of these empowered individuals becomes more enlightened, as their consciousness is raised, it will clear the airspace for other individuals to begin to think for themselves.

This continued individual growth of consciousness grows exponentially as the number of enlightened increases forming a collective consciousness. Once national consciousness is raised to critical mass, then we will see change; not until then.

One man cannot conduct a battle against the world, but I can fight the battle for who I am. This I can do, for this is who I am.

Consider opening your heart to who you are to be a part of this change.