How to Make Better Decisions and Manage Our Time Effectively

Just like anyone, I’ve faced those proverbial forks in the road where the choice isn’t obvious. Should I go this way or that? What I’ve learned over time is that decision-making and time management don’t have to be complicated—they just need systems that work for you. Let me walk you through my favorite methods that help me navigate confusion and stay productive, along with a few more techniques you might find helpful.

When I’m confronted with a choice, the first thing I turn to is a T-chart. It’s a simple yet powerful tool. I divide the options into two columns—positives and negatives for each choice. Writing it out gives clarity and structure to what might otherwise feel overwhelming. Once I’ve listed everything, if one side clearly outweighs the other, I base my decision on that outcome.

But sometimes, it’s not that simple. What if it’s a tie?

Adding Weight to Your Options

When the T-chart alone doesn’t deliver a clear winner, I add weight to each item. You can use anything uniform—washers, coins, or even pre-1982 pennies, which are excellent conductors of energy, if you have a collection like mine. I assign a number of pennies to each item based on the energy or importance I feel it carries, then weigh the options. The heavier pile wins my vote.

Still tied? No problem. That’s when I turn to a pendulum. It can be as simple as a string and a nut or any weighted object that swings freely. A pendulum gives three potential answers: yes, no, or the frustrating round-and-round (like waiting for a slow internet connection).

The Game-Changer: Muscle Testing

Eventually, I discovered muscle testing (also called applied kinesiology). It’s a technique that helps me connect to my subconscious and bypass analysis paralysis. Using simple tests to gauge my body’s responses, I get clear yes-or-no answers. For me, this method demystifies decision-making entirely.

Decision Journaling

Another technique I use is decision journaling. When facing a big choice, I write down:

      • The situation
      • My options
      • How I feel about each choice
      • The reasons behind my decision

Not only does this help me process my thoughts, but it also creates a record I can look back on. Over time, I’ve been able to identify patterns in my decision-making and improve how I approach challenges.

The 10/10/10 Rule

If I’m stuck on a decision, I use the 10/10/10 Rule:

      • How will I feel about this choice in 10 minutes?
      • How will I feel in 10 months?
      • How will I feel in 10 years?

This method shifts my focus from immediate emotions to long-term outcomes, helping me make choices that align with my deeper values and goals.

The “Regret Test”

Sometimes I ask myself: If I don’t do this, will I regret it later? If the answer is yes, it’s a clear sign to move forward. This approach is particularly helpful for decisions about opportunities that might not come again.

Managing Time to Boost Productivity and Balance

Time management is just as crucial as decision-making. If you don’t manage your time, your time will manage you! Here are some of the strategies I use to keep my schedule balanced and productive.

The Skittles Time Management Method

I love the Skittles Time Management method which involves creating a weekly calendar and using brightly colored Skittles candies to map out how I use each hour.

Here’s how it works:

    1. Assign each color of Skittles to a specific activity or category. For example:
      • Red: Work
      • Green: Exercise
      • Yellow: Family time
      • Orange: Relaxation
      • Purple: Personal growth
    2. Go through your weekly schedule and mark out each hour with the corresponding Skittle.
    3. Step back and look at the distribution of colors.

This visual method helps me spot areas that need adjustment or find hours where I’m wasting time on less productive activities.

The Pomodoro Technique

When tackling a task, I often use the Pomodoro Technique (developed by Francesco Cirillo in the late 1980s) to stay focused:

    1. Set a timer for 25 minutes and work on one task without distractions.
    2. When the timer goes off, take a 5-minute break.
    3. Repeat this cycle four times, then take a longer 15-30 minute break.

Breaking work into short, focused intervals helps me stay productive without burning out.

Batching Similar Tasks

To save mental energy, I group similar tasks together. For example, I’ll respond to all emails at once, make all phone calls back-to-back, or do all creative brainstorming in a single session. This minimizes the time and energy wasted on task-switching.

The 2-Minute Rule

If a task takes less than two minutes, I do it immediately. This rule keeps small tasks from piling up and becoming overwhelming.

Weekly Planning Sessions

At the start of each week, I set aside 30 minutes to:

    1. Review my goals.
    2. Schedule my priorities.
    3. Block out time for rest and self-care.

Having a plan in place gives me a clear roadmap for the week and helps me stay on track.

Learn to Say No

One of the most effective time management tools is the word “no.” I evaluate every request or opportunity against my goals and values. If it doesn’t align, I politely decline. Saying no to less important things gives me more time for what truly matters.

Review

    1. Simplify Decision-Making: Use T-charts, weighted options, pendulums, muscle testing, decision journaling, and long-term thinking tools like the 10/10/10 Rule or the Regret Test.
    2. Visualize Your Time: The Skittles calendar offers a colorful and fun way to assess how you’re spending your hours.
    3. Maximize Productivity: Techniques like the Pomodoro Method, task batching, and the 2-Minute Rule help you get more done with less stress.
    4. Plan Ahead: Weekly planning sessions ensure you prioritize your goals while leaving room for rest.
    5. Protect Your Time: Learn to say no to distractions and commitments that don’t align with your values.

By combining these strategies, you can make decisions faster, manage your time better, and create a life that feels balanced and purposeful. Which of these methods resonates with you the most? Let me know if you’d like help getting started!

 

Make a T Chart

A great method for determining what is in your best interest, using a T chart is an easy way to logically evaluate the weighing of pros and cons in any situation when making a decision and taking any particular resulting action may have far reaching results and/or consequences.

I use this method with my clients as well as in my personal life. It’s a good way to keep your linear wits about you when your heart and/or feelings may not be reporting proper resonance in the particular moment in time (which is one of my personal weaknesses).

Using a T chart is easy and can make all the difference both in the short run and the long run.

The only tools you need to use a T chart is a piece of paper and a writing instrument for weighing out the pros and cons of any situation, challenge or obstacle that you face.

On your piece of paper, simply draw one line across the top and a vertical line down the middle forming a T. On one side of the page list all the positives and on the other side the negatives. This can be immensely valuable when considering any upcoming action or decision that you might be facing.

Let’s say you’re offered a good job with benefits in another city and state requiring relocation. You proceed by drawing your T and writing “My New Job” at the top. On the left list the positives, on the right the negatives (or switch up left and right, whatever feels best to you). By reviewing your resulting lists, side-by-side, you are able to see which way you should lean in your decision-making process.

You could apply this method to anything such as

  • What would be the best kind of pet for me?
  • Where should I plan my next vacation?
  • Who should I spend my time with?
  • Where should I live?
  • What occupation is best for me?
  • How should I invest my money?
  • What should I do when facing a challenge?
  • How should I handle distractions?

The T chart is not the end-all-be-all in decision-making, it is only a tool used to evaluate and weigh the pros and cons in any given circumstance. It can also be used in other ways.

I used this method to create my Soul Mate List, where I utilized a T chart to review previous relationships.

The first list was a T chart consisting of all the things I didn’t like about my past romantic relationships, which I listed on the left-hand column. Then on the other side, opposite the negative items, I re-framed the negative into a positive attribute. For instance, if in the left-hand column it said, “Can’t be trusted,” opposite the negative statement, I would notate the positive virtue on the other side, like, “Can always be trusted.”

Using a T chart in this way helped me to re-frame and focus on the attributes I sincerely desired, not the negative ones which would only bring me more of the same.