You know those Type A over-the-top powerhouse performers? I shouldn’t really say this due to confidentiality (so I won’t use names or personally specific information) nonetheless most, if not all, of these amazing demonstrative people on the outside, are harboring deep emotional wounds on the inside.
I’m not passing any judgment, or encouraging you to judge or challenge these kinds of people in any way. I’m just trying to point out that even the people who we might look up to, those who are the superheroes in our organizations and communities, are commonly acting out these magnificent feats as a sort of self-medication, or to keep up such a pace so as not to give them much time to face the issues that remain hidden under the skin.
We all do this to some degree, but these folks seem to have the market cornered on their deep unresolved personal issues. In my work, I often find myself working through a lot of surface issues before ever even getting close the deep work these people need. When we get there, though, the work is always highly rewarding and freeing.
And here’s the interesting part: In most cases, the super-human demonstrations of wildly enthusiastic workaholism tends to fade as they migrate to a more calm and peaceful state of mind. They still retain all their talents, strengths and super abilities, but find more cause and time for relaxation, stopping to smell the roses, and generally experiencing the joy life on another level.
Most of this work is related to issues that have crept into the psyches at an early age, and that little boy or girl who got his or her feelings hurt is still alive and well inside of you. You might be surprised at how much of who you are and how the world perceives you are attributable to the child inside of you.
The most successful people, to whom we look up to, are amazing, it’s true. Even so, they lack a sense of happiness or fulfillment if their excellence is due to their dull out exertion in an effort to cover up, disregard, or deny the need to address their own deep inner work.
If they have a tendency to express rage (at sometimes inopportune moments) the good news is, they will live longer, because this kind of lifestyle is terribly incongruent and causes a great deal of turmoil within. Releasing the tension helps to mitigate the damages. If they forever hold it inside, the body and its internal chemistry begins to breakdown.
Doing the deep inner work helps to resolve these issues that are warring against each other inside of you. All of us have degrees of inner turmoil that is the result of childhood inconsistencies, hurt feelings, trauma, abuse or other issues that leave us feeling unworthy of love, have low self-esteem, fearful of being victimized or having a lack of control. We create magnificent personas, wearing masks and costumes and acting the part of someone else so that others would not think we have this wildly conflicting inner pain.
In an effort to cover up, these folks exert a great deal of energy to take on attributes that do not come naturally, while their innate skills may be repressed because the inner child keeps them locked away. By resolving these issues, work that used to be difficult may come much easier, while others are outsourced to others whose talents make them better suited to complete certain tasks. In this way, the lone wolf becomes the orchestrator and valuable teammate.
We are all WIPs (works in progress) and we all need to do the deep inner work to resolve our inconsistencies, enabling us to fin our natural frequency of flow. This will allow our lives to align and prepare our DNA to change and evolve into the greater version of ourselves that is yearning to emerge.
Your true purpose awaits your seamless union and a better life and world is welcoming your participation. Watch you and your world open like a beautiful flower as you learn to enjoy life, seeing what you have been too busy to notice and realizing that all of this is for you.