Love Being a Hater

You know what I’m talking about, some people just love being a hater. They get a thrill out of putting other people down, making them feel miserable, or going as far as doing their best to destroy the lives of others.

Why would someone love being a hater?

Haters Just Wanna Have Fun

Believe it or not, haters feel their best when they’re putting other people down. To them, this is the ultimate form of entertainment. The worse they can make someone else feel, the better they feel and the more satisfaction they attain from dishing out their own special brand of destruction.

It’s not uncommon for such a person to suffer from a dark or malicious form of Narcissism, helping them to remain somewhat isolated from the pain they cause and enabling them to extract a sense of joy from hurting others. They are the center of the universe and others are just players for their amusement performing their roles in the hater’s sick drama.

What’s so great about being a hater?

You might wonder why would a hater love destroying others so much? What do they get out of it?

In most cases, you wouldn’t even notice a hater if he or she was not dishing up hot, steaming serving of hate on a regular basis, they would just silently and insignificantly disappear into the background of life. They have discovered that they can easily garner the attention of others and not be taken for granted by making others feel bad. When they spread their hate and discontentment, the spotlight is refocused upon them, enhancing their perception of their own significance in a world where they would otherwise be invisible.

Often, very early in life, they discovered that negative attention was better than no attention, and they carried this perception of life into adulthood.

The haters who love hating feel as though they command the respect of their peers (or potential victims), although this is misinterpreted as respect because in real life others are fearful (not respectful) that they might be the next target of his or her pending venomous attack.

You see this type of abuse in authority figures who lord over others whose lives they can destroy on a whim, whether he or she is in politics, law enforcement, a teacher, a parent, or any of the other positions in life which imbues them with power over others.

Any challenge of their power or authority is followed by their quick and brutal display of power with little regard to how devastating their actions might be to their victims.

This sense of power is the lifeblood of the ravenous hater. Having the ability to hold the lives of others in your hands is almost god-like. The power-hungry hater thrives in wielding the power to be judge, jury, and executioner in an instant.

The craftiest and most stealthy power-hungry haters use misdirection and deception to destroy the lives of others employing a more passive-aggressive method of disseminating their destructive payloads. These are the most difficult hate-lovers to identify, maintaining a meek exterior appearance all the while, making people feel threatened or awkward by claiming their selfless concern was misinterpreted as an insult or threat.

Haters love the acquisition of material goods or financial reward for spreading hate. You see these haters with everything from small businesses to corporate giants who benefit from bad-mouthing and putting down other businesses, organizations, or competitors who might be a threat to their own success.

Anyone can now afford to join the ranks of the most comprehensive lovers of hate due to the readily accessible power of the Internet which can be easily adopted as a method to destroy others quickly, effectively, and inexpensively.

Keep in mind, there are many types of haters who hate for all kinds of reasons. While this may not apply to all haters, this represents those haters who love being a hater and receive the most enthusiastic enjoyment from spreading the hate and hating others.

You Hurt Me!

If someone intentionally and maliciously does something to hurt your feelings, what is really going on?

You could be moving on down the road of your life humming and singing along with your life’s soundtrack, smiling and having the best time and a friend might take note of it and say, “I wish I could be more like you.”

Of course, they could, if he or she chose to do so, but after a while, their reverence for your optimistic lifestyle wears on them and can turn to resentment. Because he or she cannot understand what it’s like to live a life in a higher vibration this person might secretly wish something ill, bad, or evil will visit your life for a little reality check from his or her point of view.

People who do not live their lives in the higher vibrations often cannot conceive of such a thing. To them, the good things they covet in life (like happiness, beauty, abundance, freedom, good health, and life, etc.) are only available to those who are unworthy. By unworthy, their paradigm would suggest that one may only possess the good things in life by working hard, sweating blood, forsaking all, in selfish dedication to the pursuit of money.

And even if the object of their attention is a person who has done just that, and is by their own definition “deserving” of such favor, they demonize that person for being a selfish glutton and money-grubbing fiend, or even worse, if they haven’t earned it, or it came to them easily by inheritance, winning the lottery, or some other undeserved good fortune.

Journalists and paparazzi cannot resist the idea of knocking someone down a rung or two if given the slightest opportunity, likewise your friend or neighbor might like to see you have a little attitude adjustment every once and a while, and might be willing to play a role in it behind your back.

This kind of tug-of-war isn’t just between the haves and the have-nots, you will also see this in moral fixations. For instance, if someone is always polite or kind, generous and serving others, is always on time or maintains a strong work ethic, or any other life choices one may have made which separate themselves from the majority their peers.

If you are one of these people, you have chosen to live your life in a way that is differentiated from the rest of the people who choose by default not to do so. In this respect, you are no longer normal, and you cannot blame normal people for acting normal.

While normal people might admire your qualities or lifestyle, they’d feel much better seeing you fall to a level of “normal” and be like them.

Sometimes, the same people you hope to trust, or call friend will do or say something intentionally to hurt your feelings or even damage your reputation, in hopes of bringing you down to a lower vibration.

Then there are other times when you find yourself compromised, disrespected, and hurt by someone, at least not maliciously or on purpose, “but you have intentionally hurt me.”

In neither circumstance, whether you were maliciously attacked or unintentionally harmed in some way, you cannot blame this person for doing so.

It’s easy to make it all about you because you’re the one who has been attacked and is hurting, but you fail to see the pain being borne by the person who has lashed out at you. You have no idea what he or she is going through. This I know, if you were that person, who had lived his or her life up until that moment, you, too, would have done exactly the same thing in that moment in time.

When people are feeling bad, sometimes making someone else feel bad makes them feel better. Can you blame anyone for looking for any means to relieve some of the pressure of the constant pain of living their lives? Maybe yes, maybe no, but who knows what you might do if you were in such pain?

If someone is mean to you, how should you respond? With dignity and compassion. If someone says something behind your back with is not true, ignore it. If you are confronted with it, laugh it off and walk away. You do not have to dignify a false accusation with a response.

Don’t pay attention to what anybody says about you unless it is true.

You are not obligated to ever participate in the perpetuation of anyone else’s drama. Simply, let, “your yea be yea and your nay be nay,” (because anything else is plain evil, anyway) Matthew 5:37 (my translation). Just don’t go there.

Always be kind and compassionate, being mindful to not call-out the state of pain your accuser might be in. Just smile, gently laugh (not to humiliate), and thank them for sharing their point of view, possibly inviting them to do some fact checking elsewhere.

People who like you, admire you, maybe even love you, might do or say something to hurt you, either intentionally or unintentionally. And when they do, remember this,

It’s not about you

It’s about them

Let them now that no matter what they do or say, you’re not going to take it personally, and you still care for them. Bless those who hurt you.

Bless Those Who Have Hurt You

How can we, “Bless those who have hurt you,” (Romans 12:14) when you and I have probably experienced having interactions with other people who have been less than integrous, possibly even nefarious and/or malicious, but at the very least, dishonest; anything from deceitfully maintaining different versions of one’s Facebook account and sneaking around to physically abusing you or embezzling millions of dollars, everything in between, and more.

Bless Those Who Have Hurt You

If you’re like me, your first reaction is to be offended and rush to playing the part of the victim, getting your feelings hurt and accusing the offender of disrespecting or hurting you by their devious acts.

Take the High Road

Now, you could wallow in self-pity and victimize yourself over this issue, allowing your mind, body, and soul to deteriorate, becoming susceptible to degeneration and disease, or you can take the high road and bless those who hurt you. If you can find the wherewithal to bless those who hurt you, you will expand your ability to strengthen your immune system, maintain a more youthful physiology, and enjoy a happier, more exhilarating lifestyle, and enhanced longevity.

Bless Those Who Hurt You

The meat of St. Paul’s letter to the Romans excerpt includes suggesting that we bless those who persecute us and refrain from cursing those who might have even intentionally and maliciously deceived or attacked us.

The power of your spoken response, lies in the ability of your vocal chords in conjunction with your cognitive and vocal abilities to produce a verbal response. The utterance of these words dictates whether your response is a blessing or a curse, and you know the difference.

To bless someone who has wronged you is not only counter-intuitive it is quite the opposite of how our society conducts itself and how you were raised. You’ve been taught that wrong-doers should be punished, and it is the first feeling that we have when someone has disrespected or hurt you either emotionally or physically. Your instinctual caveman or cavewoman response is to smash the thing that makes you feel bad. That more-evolved spiritual version of yourself is completely tolerant.

That means blessing that person, sincerely wishing for them that they find all the love and good things in life in any way that is a perfect match for them, whether you agree with their choice of methodology or not. Even if you are insincere, by going through the motions of forming the blessing with your ability to do so with your ability to vocalize the words, both you and the person who has caused you these ill feelings will benefit from your blessing.

Nothing good comes come from uttering a curse. Interestingly enough, a crafty, maliciously-motivated individual could spin those negative utterances against you, to cast an evil shadow over you, one of the most effective weapons wielded by the psychopath.

When you’ve used your tongue to cast a blessing rather than a curse, the power that creates worlds launches a wave of all good things coming to all participants.

St. Paul understood that you will get more of how you react in this critical moment in the cycle of abuse. Cursing will add more momentum to the negativity by you uttering a curse (or ill will) even if you are hoping that your response will initiate an equal (or greater) negative response, and will offer some form of retribution or justice. But Paul knew, that a negative response begets more negativity, and a positive response begets more positivity, and how much more positive can it get than to bestow blessings upon another.

This is a painful part of your human evolution, the letting go of your intention to demand punishment and revenge. I know, it’s against everything you’ve ever known, but it is a necessary component of your metamorphosis.

Even if it doesn’t feel right, be aware you will receive the same benefits, if you can only gain control of your tongue. The rest will follow in kind.

You have the power to control whether the energy vortex you’re living your life in is positive or negative in this critical moment.

Let love fill you to overflowing and empower you to initiate love’s response in all that is.