What Would You Say to Your Younger Self?

When using Time Machine Therapy, we travel up and down the timeline of your life, checking in with you and your surroundings in a therapeutic manner. If you could have a chat with yourself at any age, what would you say to your younger self? At what age would you meet yourself? What time and location would you meet yourself at, and what advice would you give to your younger self?

Time Machine Therapy is very effective when dealing with people who have aged enough to have a variety of life experiences, which may include a high degree of drama and trauma. Thankfully, there is a growing trend of these aging people seeking someone to talk to about their past.

We now know that if you harbor ill feelings about your past deep inside (some so deep, in fact, that they cannot even recall what happened when they were younger). These hidden wounds, left to themselves, will spread disease throughout the body from where these tragic memories are stored.

Another reason for vising your timeline might be for the growing amount of regret that Americans feel about things they could have done better in their past if given the chance. If this regret is left to ferment within the soul, you could get so depressed, that you may question whether life is living another day and become obsessed with suicidal ideation.

In chronic cases, hypnotherapy or Angelic Prayer Therapy could be effective in reprogramming the memory enough to re-engage with life again, but in most cases loving and encouraging your younger self will do the trick.

What would you say to your younger self?

If you’re like most people, you will opt to visit yourself at the age of eighteen, and you are likely to advise yourself about how to deal with relationships, various learning opportunities, and self-care, in that order.

Around the age of 18, is when most of us experience frustration with the challenges of the juxtaposition between childhood and adulthood, and as we are exercising our ability to make our own decisions, often regret those decisions, as we learned the hard way what the consequences of those decisions were.

Unfortunately, this is the way life works. Sometimes, you just have to earn from making mistakes, and the older you get, the more you see the perfection in all the drama and trauma endured from not doing it right the first time (or subsequent times).

Relationships

If you could, you would certainly warn yourself about getting into relationships which turned out to not work well for you.

Opportunities

You would also tell yourself that if given the decision to take a break or delay seizing the opportunity for a significant learning experience, you would beg your younger self to seize the opportunity.

Self-care

And when it came to sacrificing the tending to yourself, your needs, wants, and desires, to benefit someone else? You would encourage yourself to take care of him or her -self first, then tend to the needs of others.

If it were me? I’d hug myself, and tell me something like, I love me with all my heart, and let him know that everything is going to be okay. Even when things look really bad, try not to worry, because all of this is necessary for what is coming ahead. Trust me, everything gets so much better, amazingly better, because you make it through this, and we are making it through this together. I am so proud of you. You are never alone and I will always be here for you.

Another challenge to yourself:

If you think about it, what might your future self say to you, if he or she could travel back in time to talk to you, right now.

You might be surprised to discover that it is not much different than the advice that you would have given to your younger self.

Think about it.

What would you say to your younger self?

(leave comments below)

You can’t want for someone more than they want for themselves

You can’t want for someone more than they want for themselves. You’ve been around people you cared about to varying degrees, people who you just knew if they would embrace this little insight or piece of wisdom from you, their life would be much greater, healthier, more satisfying, and they would be genuinely happy.

You’re so sure this one little change would change everything for the better for them.

Would you do it? In a heartbeat. In fact, you may have already done it, and seen the rewards that came from it. You can care about a person so much, see the bright future which is waiting for them, if they could only take this step in a new direction, but they cannot see it or will not do it, even if it means saving their own life.

Yesterday, I lost a friend, who passed on, well… by choice.

She, and others whom I’ve cared deeply about, continued to make life choices which led to their leaving this planet’s third dimension, in my opinion, prematurely. Its as if they willed their early departure.

I would talk to them, reason with them, and eventually, once I understood that they understood what I was trying to tell them, continue to love and bless them as I watched them continue down a path that I would have regretted, had it been me walking in their shoes.

You can’t want for someone more than they want for themselves, even if thier own lives hang in the balance.

When I was younger, I saw people I cared for making choices that would greatly affect their lives when they were older. While they may have suffered the consequences of their action in their youth, rarely did it cost them their lives.

Back then, they were more likely to suffer a decrease in their quality of life. Most of them found ways to feel as though they were thriving in the bed(s) they had made for themselves. I continued to bless and love them, as our lives grew further and further apart.

Now, that I am older, many of the people I love and care about are older, and their choices have far greater impact, and the price to pay may be their very lives. And I see it more and more, all around me.

People dying for no good reason

I realize the divinity in all things. I know that my path not your path, as similar or as dissimilar as our paths might be. I honor your ability to follow any path you choose and hope that you can have the same respect for me and mine, no judgment, only blessings and love.

Even so, every once and a while, you can want something so badly for someone else who just will not make that little change to their life which would change everything, not only their life but exponentially the lives of others, even the whole world.

You can’t want for someone more than they want for themselves.

A few weeks ago, I was with a friend when he suffered a heart attack, shortly after he’s arrived at the hospital. I was with him when the doctor can in and advised him to check in for further testing. He was also advised not to leave the hospital because he might not survive another attack of this type.

My friend refused to stay in the hospital and not to submit himself for further testing to determine the intricacies of the issues concerning his heart. He told the doctor that he would take holistic responsibility for his own health care management.

I expected the doctor to protest, to plead a case for obtaining more information about my friend’s heart condition, but the doctor got up and said, “You take as much time as you need to think about this, then you are free to leave. If you change your mind, just press that button and a nurse will be here to help you get ready.”

At first, I thought the doctor had very little decorum, then after my shock resided, I realized the doctor’s wisdom and respect for my friend, honoring him and empowering him to be the master of his own fate.

Duly noted.

Once you’ve made yourself clear in love, without judgment, ridicule, disrespect, or sarcasm, and they choose to do it their own way, you must love and respect them for their decision. As much as you might want for them this thing which would result in so much good for themselves, their family, friends, circle of influence, and even the world, you cannot want it more than they want it for themselves.

I mean, you can want this thing, whatever it is, more than they want it for themselves, but to continually bring it up for them, to rub their nose in it, or browbeat them with your ideas which are contrary to their views, ideals, and decisions, is nothing short of abuse.

Simply make your views known in a non-threatening manner then love and bless them as they do with it what they may. Their life is their sacred journey. Honor it, no matter where it leads.

You can still harbor your feelings that they could do better, continue to meditate on their behalf, or pray for them, but know this is thier life not yours. They cannot do anything wrong, for their journey is perfect, in every way, just the way it is.

Sure, they may protest periodically, even blame you for some of their life’s discomfort, and chances are, you have done the same thing when things became challenging in your life. So challenging in your life, that you thought you’d barely escape with your life intact, but you made it.

At times in your life, people have advised you to do this or that, to go this way or go that way, but you decided to make your own way, and suffer the consequences or reap the rewards for doing so.

Why would you dishonor anyone’s ability to do the same no matter what the outcome?

I know, your response is,

“But if it were me”
or,
“If I could do it all over again…”

It is perfectly admirable for you to share the insights gained from your experience with others, but their journey is not yours.

In regard to giving advice, my friend, Edward, says, “Some will. Some won’t. Next.” In a sense, saying to share your stories and experiences with them, then let go of any expectation that they might take any of your advice at all.

No, “Only ifs…”

Good friends are hard to come by, and it’s hard to watch them leave.

I miss my friend. Wish she was still here.

I know she is happier now. I celebrate the time that we spent together and share her joy in the hereafter.

Still, a part of me is sorrowful.

This, too, shall pass, as love and joy overshadow my selfish sadness.

Loved, blessed, and missed nonetheless.