How to Get What You Want

I’m in the business of helping people achieve their highest and best and this often also means I can help you get what you want. Now, I can’t give it to you. Where would be the fun in that? But I can help point you in the right direction to achieve your goals, dreams and discover how get what you want, though you must do the work yourself.

Looking for a free ride? Okay, there are free rides available for freeloaders, although my clients are what I refer to as “doers.” That is to say they are willing to do the work to achieve their goals and get what they want. You might think, “That’s the hard way,” and indeed there are many ways to get a thing done, though the most intelligent people focus on doing what appears to be hard or overwhelming in the easiest way possible. If you’re in the know, you may find it is not as hard as it seems.

My favorite – and easiest – way to get from where you are to where you want to be is by simply taking

Baby Steps

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I mean, think about it; every baby wants to learn to walk, so they start with the smallest wobbliest steps. As difficult and awkward as it is, the stepping process in cumulative, every step makes the next one easier and before you know it, the baby’s walking confidently.

We can apply this same principle to ourselves, and you actually have been doing so your entire life, or else you would still be living in your parent’s home (no disrespect to those who are still living at home, you know what I mean).

One Step a Day

Even if you only took one step a day, eventually you would reach your destination. Some days you could take many steps, or walk a mile bringing you even closer to that which you seek. But even the smallest step brings you closer than you were the day before.

This concept can be applied to anything; obtaining physical items, amazing experiences, good health, healthy relationships, financial health, education, personal satisfaction, increased quality of life, happiness, whatever you want.

While this is a simple concept it is also profound and useless if you do not continue to take action and keep stepping toward what you want.

Accountability

It is on you to keep yourself accountable for your progress.

If you really want to get from here to there, then by all means track your progress. It not only allows you to see how far you’ve come, but it establishes the reasonable expectation that you will take a step to move you closer to what you want every day, no matter how small.

If you’re serious about getting what you want, you will review your steps every day. Every evening before you call it a night and ready yourself for slumber, ask yourself, “What did I do today?” to move closer to what you want.

In the event that you cannot recollect any step, there is still time. In those final moments do something – anything – that will move you even the slightest bit closer to that which you desire and make a promise to yourself to purposefully move closer tomorrow.

There is no judge or jury here, only your own accountability to yourself.

These daily steps are key to the success of the doers who make things happen and enjoy the best this life has to offer.

What do you have to show for today?

If the answer is “nothing,” then all your wanting is for not and you are not likely to get what you want.

You can do this.

What will you do today?

Tomorrow?

Energetic Exploration

Ever know someone who seems to be an over-achiever possessing almost superhuman abilities to go and go this way and that, with enthusiasm and energy that seems to never run dry?

Their energy generates a magnetic field that attracts new possibilities and opportunities they seize the ones appealing to them as they race past the others. They appear to have the best luck, achieve more than the rest of us and are generally happier most of the time.

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And you think, “I want some of that,” as you try to reverse engineer it. Is it the Starbucks? Green tea? Working out at the gym? A magical supplement? Or you wonder if he/she made some kind of deal with the devil?

This energetic magnetic field is created when you spend more time exploring uncharted territory. This unprecedented stamina is the result of continually pushing forward into areas of life that are new, different, challenging and unfamiliar.

It doesn’t take any magic pill or concoction, what it does require is enough raw courage to begin the process of launching your exploration of the unknown.

There is a certain amount of comfort associated with the safety of keeping things the same, at an even keel, surrounded by familiar faces and circumstances (even though they might be undesirable at times) there is an uncanny feeling of security associated with our complacent lives as we continue to feather the nest around us.

Then there are those jumping out of the nest from tree to tree soaring and exploring the vast horizon.

All it requires is you willing to take the leap out of the nest of your comfort zone. Albeit, it doesn’t have to be all at once, you can exit the next the first time as awkwardly as possible. It’s likely that you’ve been in the nest so long there is no one to toss you out, so you’re going to have to do it on your own.

It’s reasonable to experience an amount of trepidation when first launching from the nest, in fact the first attempt may more resemble falling than flying, but it gets easier and you get better at it every time you do it.

I’m a big fan of baby steps. No need to bite off more than you can chew, just make progress between where you are and where you want to be – no matter how small – it still moves you closer to the things you desire and can have, if you close the gap between what you want and that which you possess.

There are some components which can make closing the gap more expedient and efficient; they are courage, determination, planning, commitment and reward.

Courage: We’ve already ascertained courage is required to initiate the process.

Determination: It will take a certain degree of determination – of overcoming the inner dialogue which is resistant to change – to move into uncharted territory. Resist negative self-talk and start affirming your impending better life.

Planning: This represents charting a course from where you are to where you want to be, with mile markers along the way. For instance, if you were travelling from Seattle to New York, you might have significant stops to make along the way, like Spokane, Glacier National Park, Fargo, Minneapolis, Milwaukee, Chicago, Cleveland and Pittsburgh, then your final destination of New York.

Commitment: It will take commitment to leave your home and head out for New York with your first goal of making it from Seattle to Spokane, then each other destination successively between where you are and where you want to be. With courage initiate the fortitude necessary to stay true to your journey.

Reward: Make sure to reward yourself and celebrate each charted milestone as a win bringing you closer and closer to the end result of everything you desire.

Of course, I’m using an example of a coast to coast road trip but any goal including subsequent goals can be used with this process.

Allow for the unknown: On any journey the traveler is likely to encounter unforeseen circumstances. Embrace the challenges appearing along the way, conquer them, retain the learning and resume your journey. No need to let a bump in the road to cause you to abort your travel plans altogether.

Ever notice how exciting it is to go on vacation or a road trip to some place you’ve never been before?

At the beginning 3,000 miles seems like a daunting challenge, but moving from milestone to milestone gets you there… and the trip is enjoyable, possibly with stories of challenges that needed to be overcome to get from here to there, but it was exhilarating.

You had more energy, excitement and attracted new possibilities along the way.

This is the life well lived, the secret ingredient, of the energetic explorer.
What do they do when they reach New York? Chart a new path. And you might be surprised to discover they are running many journeys concurrently, ‘ere their overzealous enthusiasm.

How much better does it get?

Life Sucks

You’ve heard people say things, like

I feel bad
I’m depressed
Nobody loves me
I have the worst luck
Nothing good happens to me
There’s no happiness in my life

Ever notice how true these statements appear to be for the people who say them? And the fact that it seems they get more of what they don’t want the more they complain about it appears to be statistically verifiable.

It’s true. The people who say, “I feel bad,” feel even worse. Depressed people who confess how depressed they are become even more depressed (I am not discounting any therapeutic modalities dealing with depression, just stating “what is”). People who say, “Nobody loves me,” find it more difficult to have a love connection. People saying, “I have the worst luck,” do. Nothing good comes to those who say it never does and happiness eludes those who speak those words, or post negatively on social media.

On the other hand, there are those who live a

Charmed Life

They have that Midas touch, everything they touch turns to gold. They are always in a good mood, feeling unusually good, everyone seems to be attracted to them, good fortune visits them often and they are so happy, you just want to do something to disrupt their groove (slap them, trip them, somehow put them in their place, because this is just ridiculous. Nobody should be allowed to live this kind of life. If I were jealous or vindictive, I might secretly proclaim, “One day, they will get what’s coming to them.”).

Nonetheless, there they are… squeezing all the best juices out of this life and savoring every drop, while the rest of us wallow in the reality of everyday life.

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Life Sucks

While these folks living a “charmed life” live life like it revolves around them, the rest of us with our feet firmly on the ground know the reality is that life sucks. And for those who say, “Life sucks,” it does.

So there we are confident, without a doubt, that this life has nothing much to offer us – except to succumb to the hustle and bustle of being a member of this earthly rat race we call life – while we carve out our meager existence.

Yet, something within us yearns for something more…

Something inside us wants what some of those crazy people pretending-to-live-in-a-fairy-tale have.

What would you give for some good somethin’ somethin’?

The Best is Yet to Come

Want a little peace and happiness in your life? Think you’re ready for something good?

Isn’t it time you stuck your toe in the water, just to see what could happen… if you really could change your life?

The only difference between these two types of people is their attitude. Their attitude determines their vibrational frequency. This frequency acts like a TV or radio tuner, adjusting the programming that you get to experience.

Therefore, if you can change your attitude, you can change your life. The more positive your thoughts are as you develop a more positive mental attitude, the more good things will be attracted to your life’s experience, like these people whose lives should have turned out bad, but they decided to tune-in to the positive. It’s a fact.

Create Some Good Life

If you’re ready for a little of the good life, start by proclaiming it. Try switching out the words that you speak (of the thoughts that you think) for the antithesis. For instance

Instead of Exchange for
I feel bad I feel good
I’m depressed I am getting more optimistic
Nobody loves me Love is coming my way
I have the worst luck I am attracting good fortune
Nothing good happens to me I’m ready for the best things
There’s no happiness in my life I find happiness when I look for it

Baby Steps

Talk to Yourself

These positive statements are referred to as positive affirmations, and the more you use them (and you can make up your own and crank them up… you get the idea) the more powerful they become. It may seem ridiculous, or silly, at first but just try it on, and see what happens.

What have you got to lose?