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The Abundance Mindset Impact on Personal Success, Well-Being

Defining success is a personal journey, and one’s mindset plays a pivotal role in shaping the outcomes of that journey. Consider the significance of cultivating an abundance mindset by overcoming personal challenges and adopting a powerful self-belief system for exponential success. Find assurance in scientific data confirming that your evolutionary success is not limited by age or financial independence. Your positive mindset can yield transformational positive change, placing the measurable achievement and attainment of visionary goals abundantly within your reach.

Building Momentum Toward Abundance:

Success is a subjective concept, and its meaning can evolve as individuals grow and develop. The importance of aligning personal goals with a mindset that builds momentum toward abundance cannot be overstated. This alignment ensures that what is perceived as realistic and achievable expands, creating opportunities for personal and professional growth.

Overcoming Personal Challenges:

Consider the stories of successful individuals like J.K. Rowling, who overcame adversity and financial struggles to become one of the most renowned authors of our time. Rowling’s journey exemplifies the transformative power of a positive mindset, illustrating how belief in one’s abilities can lead to extraordinary achievements.

Seek out information about others who have successfully made the leap from a less than lustrous life to one of magnificence. Doing so will help support an alternative evolutionary path that you could follow, blazing your own trail toward a future destination that you may have previously felt was beyond your reach.

These real-world examples underscore the impact of your abundant mindset, thereby shaping heretofore perceived as unlikely outcomes into hugely successful manifestations to be realized by you.

Self-Belief for Exponential Success:

Believing in intelligence, kindness, creativity, and quick-thinking abilities is foundational to fostering an abundance mindset. Research in positive psychology, such as studies by psychologist Carol Dweck, highlights the connection between self-belief and exponential success. Individuals who perceive themselves positively are more likely to take proactive steps in their business and personal lives, overcoming challenges with resilience.

Unlimited by Age or Financial Independence:

Contrary to common misconceptions, age, and current financial status do not impede the development of an abundance mindset. Drawing on studies conducted by psychologists Angela Lee Duckworth and Martin Seligman, it becomes evident that adopting an abundance mindset is not constrained by age or financial circumstances. Positive changes can manifest at any stage of life, fostering a sense of empowerment and growth.

Positive Mindset = Positive Change:

Cultivating an abundance mindset is a powerful catalyst for positive change. Studies in behavioral science, such as those by psychologist Barbara Fredrickson, highlight the reciprocal relationship between positive thinking and positive outcomes. The idea that thinking abundantly leads to finding abundance resonates with the notion that belief in one’s capabilities precedes remarkable achievements.

Cultivating a positive mindset involves transforming negative thinking into a more optimistic perspective. While this process is straightforward, establishing a new habit requires time and consistent practice.

Six strategies to encourage positive thinking and behavior:

Identify areas for change: Pinpoint aspects of your life where negative thoughts frequently arise, whether related to work, daily commute, life transitions, or relationships. Begin with a slight focus area and strive to approach it more positively. Manage stress by replacing negative thoughts with positive ones.
Check your thoughts: Take moments throughout the day to pause and assess your thoughts. If you notice a predominance of negative thinking, actively seek ways to infuse a positive perspective into those thoughts.
Embrace humor: Grant yourself the freedom to smile or laugh, particularly in challenging situations. Find humor in everyday occurrences, as laughter can alleviate stress and create a more positive mindset.
Adopt a healthy lifestyle: Incorporate regular exercise into your routine, aiming for approximately 30 minutes most days of the week. Break it down into shorter intervals if needed. Moving the body has a positive impact on mood and stress reduction. Maintain a nutritious diet to nourish both your mind and body, prioritize adequate sleep, and learn stress management techniques.
Surround yourself with positivity: Ensure that the people in your life are positive and supportive individuals from whom you can seek valuable advice and feedback. Avoid negative influences that may heighten stress and undermine your ability to handle stress constructively.
Practice positive self-talk: Adhere to a fundamental rule – speak to yourself with the same kindness you would extend to others. Foster self-encouragement by evaluating negative thoughts rationally and responding with affirmations highlighting your positive qualities. Reflect on aspects of your life that evoke gratitude.

By consistently applying these strategies over time, you can create a gradual shift toward a more positive and optimistic mindset, fostering resilience in the face of life’s challenges.

The link between mindset and outcomes is undeniable, with an abundance mindset serving as a critical determinant of personal success and well-being. Real-world examples, supported by research in positive psychology and behavioral science, underscore the transformative potential of believing in oneself and adopting a positive perspective. Regardless of current circumstances, age, or financial standing, the development of an abundance mindset opens doors to positive changes and a life lived on one’s own terms.

References:

Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Random House.
Duckworth, A. L. (2016). Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. Scribner.
Fredrickson, B. L. (2001). The Role of Positive Emotions in Positive Psychology: The Broaden-and-Build Theory of Positive Emotions. American Psychologist, 56(3), 218–226.

You Are Called No Lies

There are two versions of yourself trying to express themselves in your world today. Most of us are allowing the pre-programmed slave of the flesh to dominate our existence. That’s not to say that you’re expressing yourself as a bad person, just that you’re more yielded to the social programming you’ve been subjected to ever since you took your first breath.

The other part of you which remains hidden for the most part is that highly sacred part of yourself that has come to this planet to express itself fully, adding value, sharing and caring for others in expansive growth and change, ushering in increased human performance and evolution.

This higher part of you is the only thing that frightens the powers which seek to control and profit from all the peoples of this world. These are the social engineers who will stop at nothing to get people to believe that we are destined to just play our part in the societies which they have created for us.

They taught your parents how to think, what to believe, and their parents before them, going back countless numbers of generations, to the beginning of humanity.

But the times are a changing, and you are becoming aware of your higher self as he or she longs to be revealed and expressed in all its divinity, which is your purpose in this life, if you let this part of you come forth, answering the call of love.

Recognizing the difference between these two parts of you, you can begin to hear the distinctions which separate the inner voices you hear within. Depending on where you are in your growth and awakening, the pre-programmed inner voice which does not serve your higher purpose dominates because this is the default setting for most humans.

Your higher self will be encouraging you, even daring you to grow and change, while your programmed mind will be giving you every excuse to stay just the way you are and do not aspire toward anything above the status quo.

When your inner voice starts barking limiting excuses, stop listening to them, and start listening to what your heart has to say instead. Stop believing any of the following lies…

You can’t do this.

You can, but your critical inner voice will tell you it’s too hard, or if you try to do something different, it will never last. You’ll just revert to your former self. Maybe someone else did it, but they were luckier than you, or more entitled in some way. You will hear the myriad of excuses about why you are not good enough to see this through. You’re not thin enough, good-looking enough, don’t have appropriate apparel or an adequate car. Your house is not nice enough. You don’t belong to the Country Club, don’t have the right friends, proper pedigree, or education.

All lies, because if you look around, you will find people who are or were far worse off than you would ever think of being who persevered, pushed through and accomplished so much for themselves, their families, and helped to pave the way for others, just like you. That is the truth.

You just want to be comfortable.

Yes, you do deserve to enjoy the comforts of life, unless they are standing between you and your true calling. Let’s face it, it’s much easier kick back on the on the sofa, chill, and watch Netflix than it is to get up, get out, and do something that can impact your life and the lives of others. Who wants to go to the gym and work out, when you can stay at home and relax? Building muscle is not unlike growing outside your comfort zone where al the best things in life are waiting for you. Comfort represents the same ol’ same ol’ which represents mediocrity and complacency for those who are otherwise called to some higher calling.

There must be an easier way.

Growth necessitates change, and change can be uncomfortable. Challenges will abound as you push through to respond to your sacred calling. There will be opposition, and people who you thought had your back may no longer be supportive. There will be times when it’s hard, but there will also be times when answering your call is extremely rewarding, even easy, as your determination to move forward helps enhance your life, affecting the lives of others, and makes the world a better place.

You don’t know what you’re doing.

Okay, any uncharted territory can be scary, when you don’t know exactly what to do or what lies ahead. How many things have you done in your life that you have never done before? If you think about it, your life is full of a succession of firsts, all cumulatively leading to the full life you experience now.

Today you have tools available to you now that you live in the information age. You have access to the tools you need to familiarize yourself with the potential unknown territory, with maps, pictures, video, and lots of data to help you get acclimated to any calling which beckons you forth. There are online recordings, podcasts, vlogs, classes, seminars, summits, and webinars. This puts you miles ahead of generations which went before who were forced to go forth blindly.

Not knowing is not a valid excuse any longer.

You’re not ready, maybe tomorrow.

Procrastination is the thief achieving your highest and best. How can you justify putting off the answering of your sacred call when so much hangs in the balance? Those who are waiting to be introduced to your purpose, message, passion, and mission are neglected or suffering while you put off your taking action, claiming, and stepping into the fullness of your sacred birthright.

Taking that first step leads to taking the next step, even if they’re small steps. Every step is cumulative and brings you closer to the goodness and blessings which is in store for you, others, and the world as you answer the call.

Now is the time to take that step in faith. Don’t let any negative self-talk stand between you and that for which you were created. You are an invaluable part of the coming evolution, and we need you now.

Talk to Yourself

Okay, at first blush you’re probably thinking, “Talk to yourself? If I start talking to myself, next thing you know, they’re coming to take me away, ho ho hee hee ha haaa.”

Nothing could be more untrue, notice I said talk to yourself, not with yourself. You need to talk to yourself to reprogram data routines that undermine getting the things that you want in this life. In the coaching business, we refer to this as reciting affirmations, in the religious business, we call this positive prayer.

The key is in properly constructing the affirmation or positive prayer. Certainly, it must be positive. When you tell yourself (or pray about) something negative you are indicating to both your mind and your higher power that you have more lessons to learn. So, you attract more negative circumstances in answer to your words, in an effort to give you enough negative circumstance to realize that negative begets negative and positive begets positive.

If you want your life to move in a more positive direction, you must fuel the engine of your life with all the positive energy you can, and your higher power rewards your positive effort with even more momentum, the more positive you are.

When you’re structuring an affirmation, it should be positive, even if it is rooted in negativity.

For example, let’s say I think life sucks, am annoyed experiencing a low income level and am unable to make ends meet. I might be feeling helpless and hopeless and if I’m of a religious persuasion, I might pray a prayer, like

“Dear God, Why would you let me suffer like this? I’m broke, I’m tired, nothing ever seems to work out for me; it’s like everyone’s out to get me. I don’t see any hope of recovery and I feel so awful because I let down my family and people who believed in me and depended on me. I’m feeling worthless and alone, so very desperate, please save me.”

That is a prayer placing an order with God for an intense degree of frustration and difficulty ahead, which I’m sure you would rather avoid. Plus, the more you pray a negatively-charged prayer, like that, the worse it gets.

When in contrast, if you were to reframe your prayer to be more positive, it might look something, like this

“Dear God. Thank you for all the wonderful things in life that you have given me and the best things that are coming to me now. I am a successful and financially secure person with an unlimited supply of energy and resources thanks to you. Everything always works out for my highest and best and everyone and everything supports me in all that I do. I am wealthy in all things including finances as well as the love and support of family and friends. I am so blessed to have these people in my life. I am worthy leader, powerful and mighty. I have the ability and wherewithal to do whatever is necessary to allow even more prosperity in my life, and give you the glory. Thank you, I love you.”

Don’t just pray that positive prayer once and forget it. If you’re serious about it and serious about seeing the results, do it at least three times a day out loud.

If you’re uncomfortable with the religious references in the aforementioned example, no problem, there is still hope for you. All you have to do is to re-shape your life by using the same process without the religious jargon. So if you’re thinking

“Why do I have to suffer like this? I’m broke, I’m tired, nothing ever seems to work out for me; it’s like everyone’s out to get me. I don’t see any hope of recovery and I feel so awful because I let down my family and people who believed in me and depended on me. I’m feeling worthless and alone, so very desperate.”

Then your reprogramming positive affirmation would look like this

“The best things are coming to me now. I am a successful and financially secure person with an unlimited supply of energy and resources. Everything always works out for my highest and best and everyone and everything supports me in all that I do. I am wealthy in all things including finances as well as the love and support of family and friends. I love having these people in my life. I am worthy leader, powerful and mighty. I have the ability and wherewithal to do whatever is necessary to allow even more prosperity in my life.”

This positive re-framing, is a clear indication that you are nearing the end of this chapter in your life and as it prepares for positive resolution, you are ready to embark on a new journey, moving onto the next level of your life, as you leave these issues behind you.

I’ve seen religious folks have an easier time with embracing the idea of the power of positive prayer because these people are used to hearing stories of how prayers, like this, achieve miraculous results. Yet, non-religious individuals achieve the same results, without the benefit of acknowledging, recognizing or worshiping a deity at all.

It’s as if this concept is universal and available to all who engage in it.

To review the process would be to write down your concerns in their negative format on one piece of paper. On the other piece of paper, write out your positive script.

When posi-scripting keep everything in the first person. Let everything reflect your situation as you desire to be as if it were already so (in the present tense).

Read or recite your positive prayer or affirmation aloud at least three times a day. The more excited and animated your spoken delivery with a happy expression and enthusiasm, the more powerful it becomes. Start looking for things to change in our favor, and they will begin to appear.

Keep refining your affirmations or positive prayers and make way for a new style of living a better life, your best life.

How to be Confident Self Talk

Throughout the course of my career as my calling has taken on different colors, shapes, and forms, people have come to me with a variety of issues. One of the most common challenges that I find people struggling with self-esteem.

Back in the day I would work with individuals specifically with overcoming their personal concerns. As I refine my work, currently I work mostly with people who on the move; they’re the movers, shakers and risk takers, who need to be on their game to increase their probability of success; massive success.

Many of the modalities that I use deal with overcoming issues with one’s physiological, psychological or spiritual status. When dealing with issues associated with self-confidence it is often necessary to deal with underlying issues on all three fronts; the body, the mind, and the spirit.

When I am working with someone whose confidence level is a three on a scale of 1 to 10 and they have plans of making a presentation to an important audience, readying for a pitch for Shark Tank or getting to make an appearance on the Oprah Winfrey Network, it is imperative that you raise your self-esteem to a higher level. My goal is to get my client to a confidence level of ten.

Level 10 Confidence

When your self-esteem is at its peak and you’re exuding level 10 confidence you are unshakeable and unstoppable. You have the internal fortitude to take on any challenging situation or circumstance that would be intimidating (if not crippling) to anyone maintaining low self-esteem.

That’s why I’ve developed the TENNERCISE system, to raise anyone’s self-confidence level and increase their powers of personal performance to achieve their highest and best. Tennercise utilizes components from a myriad of modalities to get you from where you are to where you want to be.

One of the first actions you can take to get a grip on your self-esteem and raise your confidence is to address your

Self-talk is that voice inside your head, sometimes that still small voice, other times like a roaring lion, insisting that you are unworthy, to be shamed or disrespected in some way or not good enough.

Low self-esteem – as well as high self-confidence – requires constant maintenance. If you’re feeling like you’re not on your game there’s probably a lot of negative programs running in the background to keep you down (or safe). You might ask, how do I banish,

Negative Self Talk

Negative self-talk has to go. It is working hard to keep you down, so you have to man up (or woman up) and claim authority over the source of your lack of self esteem.

Whack a Mole

You have to interrupt the negative self-talk with a quick and effective whack as soon as it rears its ugly head. Whack! How do I whack the negative self-talk mole?

If I’m at home alone, I clap my hands (loudly, creating a little pain) stop… and turn an abrupt about-face. If I’m sitting at a table or desk in view of others, I might flick my ear. In a meeting, I might (literally) bite my tongue.

Mock the Voice

The mole’s voice inside your head can be quite ominous. I find disarming the mole’s voice by reducing it to a funny cartoon baby-like caricature-sounding voice removes all the negativity from the negative thought. Then I make fun of it by repeating it in the silly cartoon voice (using my outside voice or inner voice, whichever is more appropriate at the time) and laugh (or smile) at it. After you’ve don’t this a few times, the next time it pops up, it does so in the revised silly voice (you might not even have to whack it when it shows up in this manner).

Positive Self Talk

Now it’s time to reframe for more positive thinking. Now, in your most authoritative voice, restate the negative as the most positive affirmation that you can conjure up. This is your new positive self-talk. Take note of your new positive reinforcement and use it any time your negative mole-speak pops up. Feel free (you are encouraged to) modify your positive affirmation as you think of ways to make it even more positively reaffirming.

Whacking and disarming your negative self-talking mole can be an excellent method of building self-confidence as you begin to rebuild your new and improved vision of yourself, ready to take on the world.

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