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Heart-led Acceptance and Transforming Relationships in Peace

Preparation for life’s challenges begins with a shift in mindset. Instead of resisting situations that have caused irritation or suffering, affirming readiness can transform your experience. Consider this affirmation:

“I am ready to experience what I previously resisted—in this case, my partner not showing me more loving care and attention.”

This acceptance brings peace, breaking the cycle of suffering. As you cultivate happiness and contentment within yourself, the energy you project naturally draws others closer. Improved relationships often follow as positivity inspires connection and mutual understanding.

Releasing Resentments with Byron Katie’s Method

Byron Katie’s method, as described in Loving What Is, provides a powerful framework for letting go of resentments. Her four-question process offers a psychotherapeutic way to:

    1. Identify a troubling thought.
      Example: “My partner doesn’t care enough about me.”
    2. Ask the following questions:
      • Is it true?
      • Can you absolutely know it’s true?
      • How do you react when you believe that thought?
      • Who would you be without that thought?
    3. Shift the thought.
      Transform “My partner doesn’t care enough about me” to “I don’t care enough about myself” or “I don’t show enough care toward my partner.”

This reframing reveals new perspectives, helping you dissolve emotional pain and find peace. Practicing this method consistently can shift your relationship with yourself and others.

When Deeper Patterns Persist: The Role of Kinesiology

While emotional work is transformative, deeper patterns may require additional exploration. Subconscious beliefs often drive persistent issues. This is where kinesiology, through muscle testing, becomes invaluable.

Kinesiology accesses the subconscious mind to uncover hidden stressors, patterns, or beliefs contributing to emotional and physical challenges. Once identified, specific exercises or remedies can help restore balance.

For instance:

    • Persistent anxiety might stem from unresolved childhood fears.
    • Physical symptoms, like chronic pain, may link to emotional suppression.

By addressing these root causes, kinesiology facilitates profound healing.

Holistic Healing: Integrating Mind and Body

Kinesiology is particularly effective as part of a holistic approach to healing. Many physical ailments have emotional or stress-related origins. For example:

    • Chronic back pain might arise from dehydration, limiting beliefs, or financial stress.
    • Digestive issues could reflect an inability to “digest” emotional turmoil.

By identifying these stressors, kinesiology complements therapies like homeopathy, osteopathy, and acupuncture, creating a comprehensive treatment plan.

This integration of mind and body promotes true well-being, targeting both symptoms and their underlying causes.

The Importance of Emotional Healing

At the heart of any healing process is the need to release what is making us unwell. Emotional wounds such as anger, resentment, or guilt often manifest as physical or mental ailments. Addressing these factors through psychotherapy, kinesiology, or other modalities is essential for recovery.

    • Unresolved anger can lead to hypertension or chronic tension.
    • Prolonged resentment may manifest as digestive issues or immune dysfunction.

Letting go of emotional baggage clears the way for healing and growth.

Psychotherapy’s Role in Emotional Health

Psychotherapy is a versatile tool for addressing emotional health. It’s not solely for severe mental illness—it benefits anyone seeking growth and clarity. Its value extends beyond the emotional realm: studies show psychotherapy can enhance physical health outcomes, such as recovery from surgery.

Psychotherapy helps to:

    • Uncover and resolve past traumas.
    • Reframe negative thought patterns.
    • Build resilience in the face of life’s challenges.

For those seeking balance, psychotherapy complements holistic approaches, fostering a deeper connection between mind and body.

Cultivating Peace and Healing

Acceptance, emotional healing, and holistic tools like kinesiology offer profound pathways to well-being. By embracing challenges with readiness and releasing what no longer serves us, we free ourselves from cycles of suffering.

Tools like Byron Katie’s method, kinesiology, and psychotherapy guide us toward deeper understanding, peace, and transformation. As we heal and cultivate contentment, our relationships and lives reflect this newfound harmony.

Healing begins with a single step: accepting what is and choosing to grow.

The Abundance Mindset Impact on Personal Success, Well-Being

Defining success is a personal journey, and one’s mindset plays a pivotal role in shaping the outcomes of that journey. Consider the significance of cultivating an abundance mindset by overcoming personal challenges and adopting a powerful self-belief system for exponential success. Find assurance in scientific data confirming that your evolutionary success is not limited by age or financial independence. Your positive mindset can yield transformational positive change, placing the measurable achievement and attainment of visionary goals abundantly within your reach.

Building Momentum Toward Abundance:

Success is a subjective concept, and its meaning can evolve as individuals grow and develop. The importance of aligning personal goals with a mindset that builds momentum toward abundance cannot be overstated. This alignment ensures that what is perceived as realistic and achievable expands, creating opportunities for personal and professional growth.

Overcoming Personal Challenges:

Consider the stories of successful individuals like J.K. Rowling, who overcame adversity and financial struggles to become one of the most renowned authors of our time. Rowling’s journey exemplifies the transformative power of a positive mindset, illustrating how belief in one’s abilities can lead to extraordinary achievements.

Seek out information about others who have successfully made the leap from a less than lustrous life to one of magnificence. Doing so will help support an alternative evolutionary path that you could follow, blazing your own trail toward a future destination that you may have previously felt was beyond your reach.

These real-world examples underscore the impact of your abundant mindset, thereby shaping heretofore perceived as unlikely outcomes into hugely successful manifestations to be realized by you.

Self-Belief for Exponential Success:

Believing in intelligence, kindness, creativity, and quick-thinking abilities is foundational to fostering an abundance mindset. Research in positive psychology, such as studies by psychologist Carol Dweck, highlights the connection between self-belief and exponential success. Individuals who perceive themselves positively are more likely to take proactive steps in their business and personal lives, overcoming challenges with resilience.

Unlimited by Age or Financial Independence:

Contrary to common misconceptions, age, and current financial status do not impede the development of an abundance mindset. Drawing on studies conducted by psychologists Angela Lee Duckworth and Martin Seligman, it becomes evident that adopting an abundance mindset is not constrained by age or financial circumstances. Positive changes can manifest at any stage of life, fostering a sense of empowerment and growth.

Positive Mindset = Positive Change:

Cultivating an abundance mindset is a powerful catalyst for positive change. Studies in behavioral science, such as those by psychologist Barbara Fredrickson, highlight the reciprocal relationship between positive thinking and positive outcomes. The idea that thinking abundantly leads to finding abundance resonates with the notion that belief in one’s capabilities precedes remarkable achievements.

Cultivating a positive mindset involves transforming negative thinking into a more optimistic perspective. While this process is straightforward, establishing a new habit requires time and consistent practice.

Six strategies to encourage positive thinking and behavior:

  1. Identify areas for change: Pinpoint aspects of your life where negative thoughts frequently arise, whether related to work, daily commute, life transitions, or relationships. Begin with a slight focus area and strive to approach it more positively. Manage stress by replacing negative thoughts with positive ones.
  2. Check your thoughts: Take moments throughout the day to pause and assess your thoughts. If you notice a predominance of negative thinking, actively seek ways to infuse a positive perspective into those thoughts.
  3. Embrace humor: Grant yourself the freedom to smile or laugh, particularly in challenging situations. Find humor in everyday occurrences, as laughter can alleviate stress and create a more positive mindset.
  4. Adopt a healthy lifestyle: Incorporate regular exercise into your routine, aiming for approximately 30 minutes most days of the week. Break it down into shorter intervals if needed. Moving the body has a positive impact on mood and stress reduction. Maintain a nutritious diet to nourish both your mind and body, prioritize adequate sleep, and learn stress management techniques.
  5. Surround yourself with positivity: Ensure that the people in your life are positive and supportive individuals from whom you can seek valuable advice and feedback. Avoid negative influences that may heighten stress and undermine your ability to handle stress constructively.
  6. Practice positive self-talk: Adhere to a fundamental rule – speak to yourself with the same kindness you would extend to others. Foster self-encouragement by evaluating negative thoughts rationally and responding with affirmations highlighting your positive qualities. Reflect on aspects of your life that evoke gratitude.

By consistently applying these strategies over time, you can create a gradual shift toward a more positive and optimistic mindset, fostering resilience in the face of life’s challenges.

The link between mindset and outcomes is undeniable, with an abundance mindset serving as a critical determinant of personal success and well-being. Real-world examples, supported by research in positive psychology and behavioral science, underscore the transformative potential of believing in oneself and adopting a positive perspective. Regardless of current circumstances, age, or financial standing, the development of an abundance mindset opens doors to positive changes and a life lived on one’s own terms.

References:

  • Dweck, C. S. (2006). Mindset: The New Psychology of Success. Random House.
  • Duckworth, A. L. (2016). Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. Scribner.
  • Fredrickson, B. L. (2001). The Role of Positive Emotions in Positive Psychology: The Broaden-and-Build Theory of Positive Emotions. American Psychologist, 56(3), 218–226.

When the Rest of the World Has Given Up on You, I Still Believe in You

Once you realize that you have a reason to live and that you have the knowledge of a better life waiting for you, you begin your magnificent journey. You may stumble and fall, but when the rest of the world has given up on you, I still believe in you.

The people with whom you’ve shared your life until this awareness may not believe you. While on your journey, you will experience challenges and opportunities for growth and change, which will prepare you for the next level of growth, expansion, or evolution, which may be necessary for seeing your vision become reality.

Once I have seen a vision for a client, the vision is complete and already a certainty and reality, but the client must, in a sense, become all he can be to embrace the vision in its entirety. Most of the time, the client is able to see the vision, but his or her ability to imagine it is clouded by the deprogramming that has occurred since birth.

When you or any of us come to this earth, they know their mission in life. By the time you are five to seven years old, the idea has been lost because of the many layers of programming that have all but wiped out your awareness of your destiny, and your existence is reduced to being a worker bee or rat in the maze of life.

I work with people who are awakening. They are wrapping their heads around the idea that things may not always be as they seem, that there is more to this life than they’ve been told, and that much of what they’ve known and believed about this world and this life is not true.

This process of awakening also often reconnects them to their authentic selves, allowing them to reconnect to their higher self and see glimpses, if not fully exposed visions, of their destiny, which gives their lives meaning and purpose.

You are one of these expansion explorers who dare to walk a different path than your peers, and you’ve started taking inspired action that moves you closer and closer to that vision that has already been prepared for you and is waiting for you to arrive.

The journey is not without twists and turns, challenges, and obstacles, which are all provided to help prepare you for the magnificent life with its own idiosyncrasies that lie ahead—not unlike your past.

If you are awakening, you can look back at your past objectively and see that as focused as “the system” was to squash any hope of you embracing your true identity and divine assignment, the power that created the universe has walked beside you step by step and created an alternate path within the system to lead you to the point of awakening and giving you the ability to see your highest and best.

Those who are unawakened may have little concept of what is happening in you. They have been thoroughly programmed to see you as someone who has gone astray and have been trained to do whatever they can to bring you back into the fold.

So, when they see you making changes in your life and doing things that are contrary to their expectations of you, they are apt to act in ways that will be unsupportive, possibly even rejecting you, in the hope that you will fail and come running back when you do.

You may feel as if the rest of the world has given up on you and are all alone on your journey. Be aware that you are not alone. Many people are awakening and, in similar ways, facing the same challenges as you with the process and moving forward in divine expansion and evolution.

You are not alone. Find other people who resonate with you. Share and learn from one another. Grow and expand while keeping one foot in the world if you can.

Many people like me work with people like you, and we believe in you. We know what is happening and are here to support you on this journey.

Once I have seen your highest and best potential, I cannot unsee it. Once you are on the track to your highest and best, you may falter here and there. It happens. The pull of the world can be so strong that it could derail anyone who would otherwise be on track.

It is okay. No one will judge you, as your divine vision still awaits you. It may change along the way due to any side journeys you will make between here and there, but know that these changes will only make it exponentially better when you finally arrive.

While the people watching from the sidelines or afar might look at your experience as a failure and an opportunity for you to be lulled back into your former life, there are those who know that nothing wrong has happened. It is all a part of your growing, changing, and obtaining the skills necessary to make it to the next level.

Everything is still intact, and any changes that have been made are only exponentially far better than envisioned previously.

If you are working with me when the rest of the world has given up on you, I still believe in you.

Any of my contemporaries would say the same thing,

When the rest of the world has given up on you, I still believe in you.

Your destiny cannot be broken. Of course, for the most part, society is successful at keeping most people from awakening and achieving their highest and best. Many who have had the courage to step out in faith have been lulled back into “normal life” when things get too complicated, and that’s okay, too.

I’ve seen it with my clients, but more and more people like you are continuing to move forward in faith, enthusiasm, and determination, helping you to have the wherewithal to overcome and persevere through any challenge or obstacle you may face.

If you feel like you have to take a sabbatical, do so. Your destiny is waiting for you. We will be waiting for you.

And if the rest of the world has given up on you, I still believe in you.

When Bad Stuff Happens

What can you do when bad stuff happens?

Life is not always going to be great. No matter how spiritually evolved you might be or bullet-proof you might feel, occasionally, life will catch you off-guard, bad stuff will happen, and you’ll find yourself amidst yet another psychological challenge.

Why do people do what they do?
(Don’t ask why.)
What can you do about it?
(Better question.)

Don’t let your public image of yourself keep you from expressing your concerns about the bad stuff that happens and things are bothering you. This is your egoic mind-trip trying to take over your life again, and you’re not falling for it this time. Find someone you can trust to talk out your frustrations or write about those things that are bothering you in a private notebook.

Don’t bottle it up inside, discover ways to release the pressure because pent-up emotions can destroy your otherwise healthy, happy life. Think about taking a break from you otherwise calm demeanor and have a 3-minute rant.

Remember you always can choose how you respond to any unexpected circumstance which arises or how to respond to any bad news when it is encountered. Stop and think about your options before you give in to unbridled emotional outburst.

Look at the situation from a higher perspective. Apply wonder to and question what’s going on. How might God look at what’s happening? Is there some more grand purpose behind what’s happening right now? Is this bringing awareness to something that has been allowed to go on for far too long? Could something ultimately far better emerge from the current state of affairs?

Think about it… you’re probably not the only one who sees and feels frustration is this situation or circumstance. Someone else is feeling the same thing about this somewhere else, right now. In this moment you are connected, even if on the other side of the world. Many others, possibly millions, may be connected to the event in question. The way you choose to handle this will affect the other person’s or people’s ability to handle this, and vice versa. We’re all in this together.

Your feelings about this may make you more a part of the problem than the solution. Be proactive, turn this thing around and ask, “What can I do, right now, to make this better?” Think about it; and take action. Write a letter. Make a donation. Find a way to apply love to that which is troubling you.

See this as a part of your journey. Often obstacles or challenges which catch us off guard are a method of getting our attention, redirecting our path, or preventing us from suffering an even more devastating situation. This may be preparing you for a more difficult challenge up ahead, or you may be learning a valuable lesson or skill through this scenario. Look for the blessing.

Remember, everything is connected and perfect.

Don’t let this slow your roll. You got this.

Love you.

Who Are You Under Pressure?

Who are you when the heat is on? When you feel like you’re at your wit’s end and you just can’t take one more step, where do you go? What do you do in that moment when who you are is all you have left? Who are you under pressure?

The best of us finds a way to put themselves in the zone, in the now, centering their conscious and gathering their strength to rise above the panic of the situation at hand and carefully, calmly, and methodically take the steps necessary to move through the most difficult or challenging circumstances.

For the rest of us, it seems impossible to fathom that we might be able to possess the ability to summon such resolve in the heat of the moment. How could you hope to call forth such superhuman ability?

Unless you are born with the natural ability to have an unshakable resolve and an iron will, you are a mere mortal and the skill is one that can be learned if you’re so inclined.

Masters of resolve discover a way to find a sacred space within. In this space, you are one with everything, in perfect harmony with life, and you know that anything you face, any situation or circumstance is utterly divine, possibly unpleasant, but necessary for achieving your highest and best.

Being able to place your holistic self (mind, body, and soul) into “the now” separating yourself from the demons of the past and the specters of the future help attune you to the present moment, enabling you to focus on the intricate details at hand.

In this space, you have the awareness that everything is connected and perfect and you know that everything happens at the right time. You know that everything has led to this moment and that nothing you do will be wrong.

If you’ve self-centered, have a clear mind and approach this with your own divinity intact, you can rely on your higher guidance system knowing you will do what is right for you. There will be no need for you to justify your words or actions because when you do the right thing for you, guided by your higher self, you automatically do the right thing for those whom you care most deeply for, even if it doesn’t look like it at the time.

Relax, and from a place of peace and harmony, approach this with love and joy, honoring all the players and participants. There are no good guys, no bad guys, only people just like you and me, who are doing the best they can with what they have.

Approach this challenge without contempt, judgment, anger, or malice, as these are representations of varying frequencies of fear which will only introduce more difficulty and pain into the process and fallout from this affair.

When you approach any situation with only love, there can be no fear, and love will prevail.

The next time you face a challenge think about creating or finding a sacred space from which to launch your love approach. Not doing so will have you facing from a place of inadequacy or helplessness, which only leads to anxiety, depression, and fear.

You got this, and you would never be faced with a challenge that you are not pre-equipped to handle.

Who are You Insurmountable Odds?

What you do every day defines you, exponentially overshadowed by who you are and what you do when facing insurmountable odds. Who are you insurmountable odds?

When all hope is lost and you feel like you just can’t go on… There is hope. It may only a glimmer of the slightest otherwise failing ember, but it is there, waiting for you to reignite the flame.

Who you are and what you do in the face of insurmountable odds further defines you influencing your capacity to be an inspiration for others in their most challenging moments, possibly raising your status to legendary.

Though who you are and what you do when facing those critical, pivotal moments in life are not about others, it’s about you. Even so, when it seems like there is no energy to draw from left within you, thinking about how your actions might affect the community at large, people you know, your family, or your children may be the catalyst to afford you a second wind.

Somewhere from within, you are able to find the strength to take a deep cleansing breath, you re-center yourself yes, you utter, “It’s all I can stands, and I can’t stands no more.”

This can be the turning point in your story. If you think about the greatest stories, don’t they feature the main character facing insurmountable odds? Just as when you’re reading a book or watching a film, this is often the most exciting part of the story, right?

Well, this is your story. You are writing your story from moment to moment every day. You make 35,000 decisions every day. That’s 35,000 times you can influence the direction your story takes.

You are living your story right now, and you are the star, of what very well could be The Best Story Ever! It’s up to you. How will you decide to write your story?

What do you do when you face the most difficult circumstances, when it appears that all hope is lost?

You can be miles ahead in the game of facing challenges and obstacles which may appear to be overwhelming if you have a strong sense of who you are, your Purpose, Message, Passion, and Mission (PMPM).

By reviewing your most meaningful personal motivators with love, strength, and honor, it will help dictate what the next steps should be in accordance with your purpose, message, passion, and mission. You will be able to ascertain what your character (you) should do in those moments when facing insurmountable odds.

To support you in those times when you feel you just can’t go on, you should be able to draw upon a wealth of experience where you have been faithful and true in the little things. This is the character-building actions you take every day that strengthens your resolve and stores up for you hidden treasures of integrous and powerful resources which you can call upon when the going gets tough.

Your diligence and commitment to follow through in small things regularly builds your discipline and determination. It is the faithfulness to do the small things, even when you don’t feel like it, or you’re unable to recognize a particular value in what you’re doing, that builds your resilience and strength of character; your ability to do the right thing. These are invaluable resources when facing the life’s biggest challenges.

When you are exercising diligence, you are working through the discomfort, and developing a vibratory state which you can work within which enables you to continue to do the right thing, regardless of the extraneous circumstances. It may not seem like much when you’re practicing this every day, but when it matters most, you will find yourself courageously and powerfully prepared to deal with the most difficult issues when they arise, all do to your developed skill of entering a state of productivity which cannot be shaken by external circumstances.

Your integrity will help in being true to your word. You said it, so it is. If you’ve made a commitment, you said you will do something, you will do it, come hell or high water, and you expect nothing less from those who are on your team. If you have a team, you hold each other accountable with the highest levels of integrity.

If all things are possible, then the real question is, “Who are you in surmountable odds?”

This is your story.

You are the hero.

So hero up.

What Stands Between You?

You already know you need to stop putting things off, watch news and the tube less, and stop participating in activities that are pure time-suckers. You know you need to be more proactive, set goals and deadlines to achieve them. And if you’re more aware, you know you need a system to track your progress and increase your accountability when it comes to doing the things that need to be done to create your highest and best.

Okay, you know what you need to do, you can see it clearly over there, on the other side of the crevasse which stands between where you are and where you know you want to be.

If you really want to get from here, you need to take a look at what stands between you and where you want to be. Here are some of the things that may be keeping you from having what you really want (what you really, really want):

You’re Afraid

Fear is probably the number one thing that stands between you and what you want, it is by far the most powerful influencer in the mind of all human beings. And in terms of making changes to your life, fear of change, and fear of failure are at the top of the list.

And at any point, if you decide to bail out on pursuing your dreams, there is a mob of folks waiting to welcome you back to your life of mediocrity, they’ll hug you, kiss you, tell you how sorry they are for you, they’ll make you chicken soup and nurse you back to mediocrity any way they can.

The best lives are enjoyed by those who have forged their own trail, conquering their fears along the way, knowing that the road ahead is going to be a challenge.

The road may be longer than you thought it would be, have more twists and turns, and you might even take a wrong turn every now and again, but you must start the journey and follow it wherever it leads if you want to get to where you want to be.

Paralysis of Analysis

Sometimes you can get so lost in the study or preparation of a thing that you become frozen in time and space. There is so much to learn, there’s always another book, seminar, class, workshop, a course of study, or guru who you’d like to meet that stands between you and where you want to be.

As prepared as you could possibly be, you could not possibly anticipate anything that might appear on your radar along the way. And if you tried to study and prepare for any possible scenario, chances are you’ll be lost in the prep and never feel prepared enough to confidently leave.

You’ve got to be ready and willing to act on what you have, and gather more information along the way. Otherwise, you will remain stagnant, a victim of the paralysis of analysis. If you run into an unexpected challenge along the way, you just have to do what every other expansion explorer does, scramble like hell, reach out to others, try to figure out a way to get around it, or slay the dragon and keep moving.

Lack of Motivation

If you really want to change your life, you need to be willing and committed to your continuing to make progress even if you’re not feeling it. Motivation is great, but it is often fleeting, what then?

That’s when your true character shines through, you can be a whiner or a winner. Your choice. If you’re going to pick up your toys and run home to mommy, that’s okay, maybe it’s not your time to be the winner. But if it’s your time to dominate your life and emerge the triumphant victorious winner you were always destined to be… Keep going, even if you don’t feel like it.

Winners make their doingness a habit, which requires no motivation. Doing isn’t just what you do, it’s who you are.

Passivity

There is a huge trend toward using, “Whatever,” as a general excuse for anything that might not turn out the way you like as if it justifies walking away from anything because “shit happens.” And there are a thousand excuses that will sound like it justifies your quitting.

You just can’t have that attitude, if you really want what you really want. If it’s true, and you want it, and you think you can to what it takes to get it, you won’t be dissuaded by the first obstacle that shows up and say something like, “Oh, I guess that just wasn’t meant for me.”

No, it was meant for you, you just bailed out on getting what you wanted. What stands between you and what you want is not, “Whatever,” it’s you.

If it’s you, then start practicing doing things. Make a commitment to do something every day – no matter what – and do it. It doesn’t have to be anything big. It could be something like making your bed every day, or writing in your journal every night, and prove to yourself that you can learn to do something without letting life’s excuses get in the way.

Slow and Easy Wins the Race

Don’t take off in a full sprint toward achieving what you want. It’s better to take small steps toward what you want than no steps at all, and making continual progress assures that every day you are getting closer to what you want.

Sometimes, the over-ambitious person has a clear vision of what they want and they take off with the fervent expectation to be able to get there quickly because it is so clear to them, that they could actually reach out and touch it. Then, fail from utter exhaustion, possibly warranting a trip in an ambulance, then having to start over again from scratch, if they survive the ordeal.

(I did that once in Vegas. From the strip, I said, “Look! There’s the Rio, I’ll race you there…” My friend and I started out… It looked so clear, so close. Not my best moment, but a great analogy, eh?)

When is Now the Time for You to Start

You are ready. In fact, you’ve never been so ready. If you readied any longer, you’d start to rot.

You know what you want. Now go get it.

But keep your wits about you, be cautious but keep going, slow and steady.

What you do today brings you so much closer to what you want.

What are you going to do?

I’m About to Explode!

Everyone deals with trauma and crisis differently. With me, and people like me, no one on the outside will ever know what we are going through. People like us, put on our happy face and keep going, regardless of the inner struggles we may be dealing with.

Why?

Because we would never concern others with our problems, when there are so many who depend on us for strength and our ability to deliver, follow through and execute, no matter what; and this is where we shine. We excel at being dependable and demonstrate relentless integrity.

I'm about to explode and you don't even know.
I’m about to explode and you don’t even know.

This requires mountainous internal work behind the scenes, if there is any hope of continuing our pace of service to others, our communities, or the world at large.

Our inner struggles could be enormous, but we maintain an even keel for the greater good, even though inside,

I’m About to Explode!

And you don’t even know.

Thank God for those of us who are highly committed, dedicated to serving the greater good and on a higher personal spiritual path because we connect to (or create) resources for ourselves that enable us to push through life’s adversities, making our way safely to the other side. And no one is the wiser.

No one has any idea the deep inner work we go through, often alone, to make it to the next level, and this is the greatest gift of enlightenment and self-empowerment. We do this, and the greatest honor in maintaining this most personal sacred space, is finding that one person who wants to do likewise.

In our society, this attitude of individualized deep inner self-work is shunned.

Granted, their surface rationalization is a good one. They say, while solo inner work might be highly effective, so many people do not have the strength to survive the process; they end up more broken than when they started the process, may realize rapid decline in health, an increase of disease, and potential for committing suicide; all valid points.

Underneath this rationale exists a more sinister plot to control the mental health of individuals and the population en masse. Individuality is discouraged, and taking an individualized approach for one’s personal expansion or evolution is clearly a rejected concept due to the impossibility of being able to control one of these radicals, not to mention a world full of them.

The answer? Create social structures where we can contain them in their prisons, some with walls and others with invisible walls of containment, which we secretly control (or at least monitor and influence). This keeps us “in charge,” and we’ll use a bit of sleight-of-hand to make them think it’s their idea, and we’ll provide enough variety, diversity and opposing ideas to keep them polarized against each other to keep them from uniting, greatly reducing the threat it would create for our control, if they could unify, potentially taking down the entire system.

So, they let us have our own boxes of clinics, social programs, clubs, organizations, societies and religions to keep us moving in separate directions in groups, adding to the confusion. Only they are not confused, we are. They look at all of this as a perfect construct to keep us distracted in groups, focused and polarized against some other group.

They sit back in their easy chairs made of power, money and gold, and smile, high-fiving each other for a job well done.

But then there is me, and you, and others like us, who are seeing things from a different point of view for a change, and “change” is the name of the game.

We are willing to let it look like they’re controlling us, but they’re not.

We are on our own, individualized, highly personal path, and there’s nothing they can do about it.

Sure, they can try to extricate, exorcise or diagnose us with an incurable mental illness, such as individuality psychosis, and threaten us with mandatory medication, hospitalization, imprisonment or death, but we cannot and will not be stopped.

I can already hear the clamoring of those in opposition of this expanded, illusive, yet true freedom, and there are those who would ask questions, like,

“Aren’t you just trying to develop another ‘group’ not unlike those other groups you say are part of the problem?”

The answer is, both “Yes” and “No.” Yes, we are a group. No, we are not a group that sees ourselves (collectively or any single one of us) as separate from any other group(s), but a group of individuals including and transcending all members and all groups in an effort to be uniquely “one,” each of us as individuals, and “one,” together as a whole, which cannot and will not be confined, once critical mass is achieved.

There is a revolution coming and it is powered by the evolutionary power of individual hearts set ablaze for a better world.

Things are changing, and we are that change; one heart at a time.

Carpe diem!

Hit the Wall for a Change

Invariably when you’re in the process of growing and expanding into the higher version of yourself, your evolutionary process of you, and, “Wham!” You hit the wall.

Just when you least expected, here you are facing someone, something, some situation, circumstance, or even yourself in the mirror, and you ask, “How the hell did I get here?” (of all places).

Get ready for a rude awakening: This is for your highest and best, and this process will lead you to change. Yes you. Even if it looks like it has nothing to do with you, moving past this obstacle will take a change, maybe outside yourself, but you will have to change first before you can change anything outside of you.

If you can wrap your head around that whenever you find yourself up against any obstacle, seek what you can change inside first, then seek to deal with the whatever it is head on, you are so far ahead of the game.

Obstacles which interrupt our flow are indicators that we have something within that needs tending to, even if it’s not specifically associated with this obstacle. It may be to equip you with a skill to prepare you for something else further down the road.

What? Me change?

Your belief system might be resistant to change. Say the words out loud, “It’s okay for me to change.” Check in with your feelings. How does it make you feel about the idea of embracing change?

It’s really no surprise really, it’s a part of your genetic, cellular memory that was firmly set in place generations ago, when change was dangerous. Survival was based on a strong sense of maintaining a small community, with staying in the same location, supported by the same people, doing, thinking and being pretty much the same. Straying and exerting individuality could lead to loss of health and/or one’s life.

Things have changed and your changing leads to your expansion and evolution into the highest and best version of yourself.

Try being open to the idea of change, even embracing it. All it takes is a little allowing. Change doesn’t have to be forcible. I mean, if you aren’t open to change, you will still be susceptible to it, when it is forced upon you. If you think about it, you know it’s true.

Grounding yourself in a solid place where you are open, allowing change, receiving all the good things, including lessons waiting to be revealed to you, is so much better than fighting for your right to resist.

Think about what allowing change might look like. It can look like allowing people or things to leave your life, including ideals, thoughts and feelings about the past and the things associated with them. You can also allow new things to be revealed and come into your life.

You can allow yourself to want things you may have never wanted before. You can allow yourself to try something new, create something, or think differently. Allow the letting go or ideas or things you held onto tightly in the past and allow new thoughts and things pour over you, like a gentle rain.

You’re open to new possibilities, even if superficial, such as a change of shampoo, hair color, career, even relocation.

A deeper sense of change is initiated by the heart. Heart-felt change is powered by love. This is the most meaningful moment of change, a paradigm shift.

So, think about it…

What change is on the horizon for you?

It very likely holds the keys to unlock many doors.

You ready?

Make a T Chart

A great method for determining what is in your best interest, using a T chart is an easy way to logically evaluate the weighing of pros and cons in any situation when making a decision and taking any particular resulting action may have far reaching results and/or consequences.

I use this method with my clients as well as in my personal life. It’s a good way to keep your linear wits about you when your heart and/or feelings may not be reporting proper resonance in the particular moment in time (which is one of my personal weaknesses).

Using a T chart is easy and can make all the difference both in the short run and the long run.

The only tools you need to use a T chart is a piece of paper and a writing instrument for weighing out the pros and cons of any situation, challenge or obstacle that you face.

On your piece of paper, simply draw one line across the top and a vertical line down the middle forming a T. On one side of the page list all the positives and on the other side the negatives. This can be immensely valuable when considering any upcoming action or decision that you might be facing.

Let’s say you’re offered a good job with benefits in another city and state requiring relocation. You proceed by drawing your T and writing “My New Job” at the top. On the left list the positives, on the right the negatives (or switch up left and right, whatever feels best to you). By reviewing your resulting lists, side-by-side, you are able to see which way you should lean in your decision-making process.

You could apply this method to anything such as

  • What would be the best kind of pet for me?
  • Where should I plan my next vacation?
  • Who should I spend my time with?
  • Where should I live?
  • What occupation is best for me?
  • How should I invest my money?
  • What should I do when facing a challenge?
  • How should I handle distractions?

The T chart is not the end-all-be-all in decision-making, it is only a tool used to evaluate and weigh the pros and cons in any given circumstance. It can also be used in other ways.

I used this method to create my Soul Mate List, where I utilized a T chart to review previous relationships.

The first list was a T chart consisting of all the things I didn’t like about my past romantic relationships, which I listed on the left-hand column. Then on the other side, opposite the negative items, I re-framed the negative into a positive attribute. For instance, if in the left-hand column it said, “Can’t be trusted,” opposite the negative statement, I would notate the positive virtue on the other side, like, “Can always be trusted.”

Using a T chart in this way helped me to re-frame and focus on the attributes I sincerely desired, not the negative ones which would only bring me more of the same.