Ever since I was a little tyke, I fantasized about one day finding my one true love and living happily ever after.
Then all my dreams came true; I was never so thrilled as to have found the woman of my dreams right after high school, fell deeply in love, shouted from the rooftops, “I found my soul mate!”
I got married, raised a family and lived happily ever after. (That is, if you can define “ever after” as being a limited amount of time.)
Even though I was armed in relationship training – and helped others find ways to prolong their relationships – I discovered individuals participate in relationships for different reasons (want more on those details? Don’t hesitate to ask).
While we might desire to find our soul mate, it appears the soul mate relationship is transient.
It’s one thing to enter a full-on relationship with the first pretty gal or handsome fella to pay attention to you, but if you’ve exerted a great deal of effort to find “the one,” you’d think it reasonable to expect a higher degree of relationship longevity.
As I witnessed the relationships of others struggle, change and disintegrate, I began to wonder why?
Even I, the devout love seeker and purveyor of love, could not seem to sustain a life-long relationship.
Is it possible to find the perfect person to live out the rest of your days with?
The answer must be, “yes,” because other people do it; or do they?
Certainly there are examples of relationships that are sustained over a lifetime… at what cost?
If you are in a position to allow the participants to be open and honest about their relationship, separately and together, you may discover most of them are not as lovely as they appear to be on the surface.
I reasoned there are different kinds of soul mates who make appearances throughout your life’s journey. Some are not going to play the “mate” part very long because it is their job to affect the growth and expansion of your “soul.”
Granted, it can take some time and effort to first imagine, and then realize, the blessing in each wild and crazy relationship entanglement; but it is there.
Friedrich Nietzsche blessed our vernacular with words that have become commonplace, “That which does not kill us, makes us stronger.” These words ring true, unless you choose to let whatever-it-is destroy you, as you give up, allow yourself to deteriorate and finally cease to be.
Every action has a reaction, but you get to determine in which direction the energy will flow – whether positive or negative – the choice is yours.
You also have the opportunity – at any given point in time – to change.
If the direction that you originally recoiled was southerly, toward the negative… that’s okay.
“I will never fall in love again.”
You can – now, whenever you are ready or now – change your direction to your northern-bound more positive destination.
“I am ready for the best love ever.”
Life is a journey; and exciting plethora of emotional experiences all designed to allow us to grow into the highest and best version of ourselves.
Is it hard?
Sometimes it is hard – and you may not be able to see it, in the tragedy of the moment – but as you review the tapes of the game (yes, this is a sports reference) you will discover how each misstep helped to educate you, giving you the opportunity to hone your skills and make you better (even better, thanks to slow motion and frame-by-frame review).
Is it worth it?
Nothing else is.
Are you ready to receive your soul mate now?
I believe You Can Get What You Want