love between friends

Who is your best friend? That person who is always there for you, listens to what you have to say without judgment, laughs with you when you fall short of the mark, eager to see things from your point of view, encourages, supports and cares for you unconditionally is your best friend.

Your best friend builds you up, doesn’t tear you down, and when your world is crumbling all around you, is the only one who risks all to stand beside you when everyone else is running to save themselves from the falling debris.

A best friend will soften the blow of harsh truths and also can face you with the most piercing truths without tiptoeing around the most sensitive details. In a sense, helping you see the things in yourself that even you might find hard to face.

Your best friend maintains a delicate give-and-take balance. I help you, you help me, and we celebrate each other’s wins and failures, with a supportive smile. Even in our darkest hour.

Your friend accepts you for all your strengths, weaknesses, catastrophes, and doesn’t talk behind your back. Your friend sees and believes in your greatest potential while inspiring you to achieve your highest and best.

You can trust your best friend with the most intimate details of your life, your dreams, your fears, your innermost thoughts, and personal struggles.

A best friend brings out the best in you.

Without friends, joy would not be as sweet, and grief might be utterly intolerable.

Your friend is the witness to your life and the part you played in this life. If anything were to happen to you, your friend is the one person who might be able to tell your story, if you weren’t there to tell it.

You don’t have to pretend to be anything. In the presence of your friend, you are safe to be who you are, honest, open, vulnerable, without fear of being betrayed. You can trust that your friend will maintain confidentiality, no matter what.

Friends will come and go, but your best friend, will always be there. Even if you are separated by time and space, your relationship survives perfectly intact. When you are reunited, you pick up right where you left off without missing a beat.

A true friend survives the test of time.

Lovers may come and go but the love of a true friend endures. While the temporal waves of this life crest and trough, your friend is the buoy willfully tethered to you for better or worse.

In a perfect world, our family would be our best of friends. In the world where we live, our friends become our best family, bound by more than flesh and blood.

There is tremendous gratitude for the friends who have stood by me, in the good times, and the bad. Friends who did not judge, berate, and helped me to look at the bright side, even when things looked bleak, and hope was all but lost.

There is great love here for my family of friends.

My wish for you, is that you can find such friends in your life.

A true friend can make all the difference, adding sacred spice to your life.

The following is a poem written by Aaron (Ben-Neth) Fairbairn written in 2002:

My Friends

I think that I may tend to overlook
What I read in an assigned textbook
But one thought fills my heart with cheer
It’s the thought of my friends I’ve made this year

School, to some, may appear too tough
Too hard, too simple, not fashionable enough
Still I go, I attend with school pride
Because I have my friends by my side

Everyday wondering what I should wear
What clothes, what shoes, how to fix my hair
I don’t know why I fret, or even care
As long as I know that my friends will be there

School can be a hassle, getting up early everyday
But it all seems worth it in some strange kind of way
As another school year comes to close and ends
I know those I’ll miss the most are my friends

Sometimes in life, your desires for love fall flat compared to your expectations.

There are four basic types of love, such as

One World Love

There is an innate part of us that expects that all peoples can mutually respect, love each other unconditionally and live in harmony. We all want to love and be loved without division, no matter what. Yet, we are disappointed to find division prevails so predominantly that we are more often than not at odds with each other and peoples find themselves warring against each other.

You have grown up with someone or met someone with common interests and something in you reaches out to them connecting with them in an effort to appreciate them, feel an affinity, even love them for who they are, what they stand for and you feel compelled to protect the relationship between you. You hope that this friendship-type-of-love will last forever. It doesn’t take long to find out that people are often not who they appeared to be, as we project ourselves onto them in an effort to establish such a love, nonetheless, some deep friendship connections do withstand the test of time.

Love of Family

When a mother gives birth to a child there is a deep connection a love-bond that is possibly closer than any other bond between two people. This love connection can spread throughout a family with the possibility of establishing a love relationship amongst all family members. Some love among friends can grow to familial proportions. While some families are united in love, some family and friends are united by bonds fueled by other adhesives.

Even though we want to love our parents and want to be loved by them, often the love we desire is not the love we receive, so we are inclined to accept whatever love we can receive from parents and/or family members if we are able to receive any at all.

Romantic Love

Romantic love is the most potentially powerful love between two people. So powerful in fact that the participant (or participants) in this type of love are willing to risk with in the belief that the potential for living the highest quality of life is more meaningful and enjoyable when shared by two of the most intimate of partners. This love includes a deeply emotional and strong sexual attraction, the feelings that fuel this type of love often do not last long but the relationship can survive out of a sense of duty or necessity.

Why is it that most all the love we desire seems to elude us?

Try this:

Exude the love you desire to receive regardless of the circumstance or lack of reciprocity.

If you feel separate or different from the other people in the world, send love to the world, love all other people, even if they do not appreciate or love you. Love your neighbors and friends likewise, even if they mistreat you. Love your family members as if they loved you more than anything, whether or not you feel there is any evidence of their affection or support for you.

The love you seek would be a combination of all these types of love and you may be surprised to discover you will not find it outside yourself until you’ve found this degree of love within. Only then can you expect to attract the kind of person who also has the same capacity of love.

So ask yourself, “What would it look like if I loved all the people of the world, my neighbors, friends, family, and potential mate completely?”

Love like it’s the only thing that matters…

because it is.