You woke up this morning and you thought, “Oh, another day.” And in most cases, you might admit, that this day is not much unlike any other day that went before. If you dared, you might even reminisce about a time when you believed, believed in a better life, one where you might even be able to find joy in each day and/or to make a difference.
For after all, what good is it to have been given such a wonderful gift as life on this planet without leaving so much as a mark, or making a contribution in some way.
There was a time, and there have times when you truly valued, loved people, places, activities passionately. What were they? Make a list of all the things you love or have loved. Remember? The ideas, the ideals… Remember. What about your dreams, the ones you’ve forgotten, or walked away from, because you thought they were just too impossible, or you may have felt yourself unworthy of them? Write them down.
Pick one of the items off your list, the one that you used to feel the best feeling about, and speak it out. Talk about it, maybe first to yourself out loud. There’s something about the vibration of your vocal chords that ignites the higher vibration of the energy which surrounds you. Then talk to someone else whom you predict will have a supportive and positive response to your sharing. Their affirmation helps to raise the vibration, too. You are breathing new life into your former passionate flame.
Find ways to raise your personal energy point, so that you don’t get caught in the rut of run of the mills day in and day outs. Make excuses to smile and laugh more. Watch comedies and sitcoms and laugh along with the laugh-track (pre-recorded laughter). Read, then tell bad jokes, and laugh at how bad they are. And do something that moves you. I mean, moves the muscles of your body in a positive way, take a hike, dance around the house (or at a club, if you’re so inclined), go to the gym, try some yoga.
If you don’t feel like doing anything, this is exactly the moment when you should take control and do something. This gives you control of your life and takes it away from the people and circumstances that are holding you down and keeping you from living the life you want, deserve, and is waiting for you to arrive. When you feel yourself thinking, “I don’t want to do this,” that’s your cue to do this thing. When you’re done, smile, pay yourself on the back (maybe even treat yourself) because you’re the bomb. Dom this, and you will never be a victim of this life again.
Next up, do something that you haven’t done before. Get out, go to a free seminar at the library, or attend a meeting, go to the court house and randomly pick a court case to watch, attend a church function, or school play. No need to critique the event or activity, just go along and enjoy it for what it is. Just the action of doing something you haven’t done before can excite the synapses in your brain.
Now that you’re on track to feeling more like a real person again, pick something from your list and spend some time with it. If it’s too far off, start making plans. If you always wanted to go to Paris, go online and start picking out things you’d like to visit and see, where you might like to stay, and check out different flight options. (You don’t have to actually book anything, just enjoy the dwelling on and dreaming about it.) If you haven’t talked to your best friend since high school, look ‘em up on Facebook. Reconnect. Call him or her.
Just have fun with going over the items on your list, maybe adding new ideas that occur to you along the way. When you start feeling better, you can start making plans to meet with your friend face-to-face, or pricing out your trip to Paris and figure out, with a little pinching and saving, how long it will take you to tuck aside enough to take that trip.
Planning gives you a huge advantage over not doing anything (like other people). If a $2,000 trip sounds unmanageable, don’t think about having it all, right now. No need to go in debt, or put it on a credit card. Save for it, a little at a time. You could save $5.50 a day, and take that trip in a year. Think of ways you could save a few dollars a day to do something you’ve always wanted to do. What if you could save $10, or more?
This is the beauty of combining planning with action. In all areas of life, you can expect a 300% increase in effectiveness and efficiency from any effort spent in planning.
So, dream, make a plan, and take action.
Now you’re on track for a better life.