What to Expect as You Awaken

Everyone’s individual awakening is separate from anyone else’s, so there is no need to compare the intricacies of the evolution of others – and keep in mind, this is not a competition – as your evolution is as individual as your DNA, probably more so. That said, there does appear to be similarities among those who are consciously allowing their evolution to take place.

Prior to awakening, a great deal of focus and energy is preoccupied with temporal things, the day to day frustrations and details of life as we find ourselves struggling to get by when our concerns are emotionally charged by the news and media as we worry about employment, interpersonal relationships, transportation, meal planning, home maintenance, raising the kids, caring for pets, and keeping up appearances.

1. Peaceful Perspective

As your awakening begins to expand and you begin to evolve, the immediacy and importance of day to day life decreases as your awareness is lifted to a higher perspective. Rather than seeing yourself lost to the struggle for survival, or a victim of life, you are able to find a sense of peace in an aerial perspective, seeing life as it is, and a more calm sense of awareness and allowance when you are able to view the big picture. From this vantage point you can see life as balanced and integrated as your life becomes more rich and fulfilling.

2. Tolerance

As you let go of things outside of your control and allow life to be as it is, without taking anything too personally, life takes on a different flavor. You don’t hold tight to personal expectations or rigid ideas of how things should be. Tolerance is the idea of allowing things to simply be. You have a growing sense that everyone has their own right to make their own way and see things from their own perspective, only expecting the same from others but understanding that few can accomplish this state of mind, and that’s okay, because after all aren’t we all only doing the best we can with what we have?

3. Abundance

When we are focused on struggle, all we can see is our competition for limited resources. As you awaken, you begin to realize resources are not as limited as we once believed. Once you start seeing things in life, circumstances, people, things and lifestyle as energy, you entertain the idea that by adjusting your energetic state or frequency, the details of life within your proximity simply match your personal vibration. You realize the better you feel, the better life goes for you. By finding the best feelings you raise your state to a frequency which attracts all the best things in life and you take an active role in manifesting your desires.

4. Love

As you awaken, love takes on a new paradigm that is unconditional. It takes time to move from the concept of the selfish type and style of love we learned to expect to unconditional love. It is an evolutionary process, moving from contractual expectations to a love that persists regardless of circumstance or the actions of anyone outside of you. You are becoming an unconditional lover, one who is compassionate and understanding of others, loving them regardless of the people (even those considered evildoers), their actions, beliefs or their imperfections. You have empathy for those who have yet to awaken, without requiring them to conform to any ideals you have.

5. Creativity

As you continue to do your own inner work, you will find an increase of intuition and creativity that allows you to pull ideas and make connections in ways that seem otherworldly. This is a natural aspect of allowing your connection to the source of all life to permeate your being, specifically your thoughts and feelings. You develop a sense of knowingness with an increased capacity to resolve uncomfortable situations, circumstances and challenges as they arise.

6. Everything Gets Better

You find a growing tendency to experience good luck and clever coincidences as more and more of life seems to be going your way. In fact, life is going your way because you are allowing yourself to flow with the current of life, rather than to fight or swim against it. You begin living the good life as onlookers think you are just lucky or living a charmed life, but you realize you are just finding your happiness within and avoiding negativity (including negative self thoughts), which brings your life a balanced goodness.

7. Wisdom

Your growing awareness of life, the laws that govern the universe and the specific role playing of the peoples who populate our planet, gives you an alternate perspective of life, its meaning and the condition of the world as it is. This awareness will have subtle, yet impactful affect on the growing consciousness of the world. You become a humble, yet powerful source of life and substance, often without saying a word (or very little, if anything at all). Your vibrational state affects the world around you in positive ways.

8. Nowness

You are seeing the value in the sense of nowness. You are less concerned about the things that went before as you increase your ability to live in and focus on the now. Less and less will you find yourself worrying about the past or hoping for a better future as you are increasingly living in the moment and enjoying all this life has to offer: Now.

You can start to allow your conscious evolution to take place now. Actually, now is all there is. Of course, much of these ideas will appear to be silly or inconsequential if you have not experienced it first-hand, and that’s okay.

May you experience all the good things in life that are waiting for you.

Relationship Truth and the Soulmate List

Okay, you asked for it, so here it is: The truth about romantic relationships is that most of them (the successful ones) take work. Sure you have to have all the components…

Broken heart

First you have to start without a broken heart. If you’re looking for mister or miss right, you have to be ready to have a relationship. That means, if you’ve been in one prior, you’d best get a handle on recovery from your previous romantic episode before you go running headlong into the next one, otherwise, you’re just not ready. That’s the truth.

Lonely

“But I’m lonely and don’t want to be alone.”

Okay, I get that. But how long do you expect someone to stick around if they are unable to stand the whirlwind you bring to the table. If he/she reminds you of your ex- either you’re still hung up on your ex- (and not ready to be seeing anyone. See Broken Heart, above) or you’re attracting the same type of person (and how did that work the last time?).

Get Busy

Get busy doing the things that make you feel good, the things that you love. If you’re feeling good all the time, you don’t have the time (or energy) to feel depressed or lonely. I try to stay busy, focused on my clients and spending quality time with my friends (who, unfortunately all are paired up, but fun nonetheless). I can always relax and take time off for her, after I’ve found her.

Awakenings

When you start to realize these things, you can either forge forward with little regard to them or start to wake up to the music. The title of the song you want to hear from within is, “Do Something Different,” or learn to find happiness in the same old types of relationships that you’ve had in the past.

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I have this formula that I use; maybe you will find it helpful for you (maybe not). I call it my

Soulmate List

I have a list of fifty-or-so attributes that I am looking for. In an extra-large font, it takes up three pages.

I came up with the idea, while working with a coach and mentor in Florida, who had used some of these techniques to find her life-long soulmate (that’s what I’m looking for, too) and I’ve added my own tweaks to form a new system. Briefly, it goes, like this:

1a. To first make a list of all the things that you didn’t like in the men in your past relationship.

1b. Then go over the list and translate those into a list of positive attributes (the opposites) that you would look for in Mr. Right. (Ditch the negative list.)

2. Next, make a list of all the things that you liked (or thought you liked) in the men in your previous relationships.

3. Combine the two lists of positive attributes, and you’re almost there…

4. Then, being as specific as you can, think of all the attributes that you would like that aren’t already on the list. (The Floridian coach cautioned me not to leave anything off, because she had neglected to put down, “Physically healthy,” on her list, and wished she had, later.)

Then she says read the list every day, out-loud, once in the morning and once in the evening, and you will get what you confess.

I told the story to my grief counselor, he thinks it’s a great idea and is going to start using that model in his practice.

If you decide to give-it-a-go, I’d like to see your list. (It’s also a great way to turn around some of the pain of past relationships and turn them into positive attributes. It keeps you from focusing on the garbage, leading to real healing.)

The Real Truth

Finally, the real truth is this: My intention was to write and create a book based on this system called, “The Soul Mate List,” with the intention of telling my world’s greatest love story of all time and describe how I found the love of my life quickly and easily using my system.

I find that this system has been highly effective in preventing me from being sidetracked by potential romances that were not my highest and best (nor I theirs). = WIN

On the other hand, seven years… No soul mate… LOL