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Want Love? You Got Love

Do you want love? You’ve already got it.

All the love you could ever desire is lying dormant, deep inside of you, waiting to be discovered. Let’s meet this love that’s already a part of you.

Imagine there’s a little four-year-old child living within you—a child who is naturally loving, caring, and deeply sensitive. This child relies on you for their sense of safety and wellbeing.

 

Now, ask yourself: what would you say to this child to make them feel secure? How would you nurture them to feel respected, self-confident, joyful, and loved?

On the other hand, what might you say or do that could hurt this child? Could you unintentionally make them feel fearful, neglected, or unloved?

While this might seem like a silly exercise, there is a little one who lives inside you who wants to talk to you, and this is a crucial step toward understanding the essence of love within you. This child represents your inner self—the neglected, vulnerable part of you that has been hiding in the shadows, afraid to burden you. For too long, this inner child has felt unseen and unheard.

Isn’t it time you finally met this little one?

The Key to Unlocking True Love

When you embrace your inner child, offering love, care, and reassurance, something incredible happens. As your inner child feels safe, secure, and excited to reconnect with you, your capacity to love yourself—and others—grows exponentially.

Neglecting this child, however, causes love within you to wither. Left unattended, your inner child may manifest frustration through emotional outbursts or even tantrums, disrupting your life in unexpected ways.

The truth is, loving yourself is the foundation for loving others. You can go through the motions of showing kindness and affection, but to share authentic, life-giving love, you must first cultivate it within yourself. Without that love energy flowing inside, any outward expression is simply a kind gesture—nice, but not transformative.

Your inner child longs to be loved by you. By nurturing and cherishing this part of yourself, you build the love energy that sustains and overflows into your relationships.

Love Starts Within

True, lasting love begins with you. You must honor and cherish yourself before expecting to love—or be loved by—someone else.

If your heart is empty and someone else’s love fills you up, that good feeling will inevitably fade. Without a wellspring of love within, you may become dependent on others to feel whole, leading to unhealthy cycles of seeking love outside yourself.

This is how love addiction begins: constantly craving external validation to fill an internal void. But when your heart is full, love becomes something you give freely, not something you desperately seek.

Authentic love is an energetic exchange. When the love within you overflows, it naturally reflects back from others who are also overflowing with love. This mutual exchange creates a profound, sustainable connection—a reflection of the awakening love energy emerging in humanity today.

You Are Whole

You are already complete. You don’t need another person to “complete” you or to fill a perceived gap. You are not broken or incomplete.

When your heart overflows with love, you no longer need to seek it outside yourself. Yet, the beauty of life lies in love’s reflection—the way it intermingles and grows when shared with another.

Love Without Struggle

Love is not about struggle, control, or manipulation. It’s not about bargaining, conquering, or clinging. True love flows effortlessly, without fear or conditions. It doesn’t need guarantees or expectations.

Love is sacred, fearless, and safe. It protects, trusts, honors, and hopes. Authentic love overflows naturally, like water finding its level, seeking the path where it can flow freely.

This kind of love is pure, like the bond between a loving mother and her newborn baby. There’s no jealousy, no contracts, no trading “this for that.” Just pure, unfiltered love that simply is.

Are You Ready for Authentic Love?

If you’re ready for a deeper, more fulfilling love, start within. Meet your inner child. Nurture them. Love them.

As you fill your own heart with love, you’ll find that love flows effortlessly into every corner of your life. You won’t need to struggle, strain, or seek love. Instead, you’ll discover the joy of letting love flow naturally—both within yourself and with others.

Love begins with you. Are you ready to embrace it?

 

Talk to Your Inner Child

We all have that inner child which resides within us. This child represents your younger self, and inner being who is very much alive, but for the most part hidden from your consciousness until you meet your inner child.

Once you’ve become acquainted with your inner child (refer to him or her by name, your name), it’s prudent to pay attention to him or her, and to maintain a tender, caring relationship with your little tike. Your inner child is just like any other child and longs to be acknowledged, loved and cared for.

You don’t need to pay a therapist to talk to your inner child; the power of your imagination, is all you need to access and interact with your inner child.

Using your imagination, allow your inner child to appear to you and periodically tell that little guy or gal how much you love and adore him or her.

“I Love you. I adore you. You mean the world to me, and I will never let you down. I am here for you. I love you with all my heart. I Love you so much. I love you.”

There are other things your inner child needs to hear from you. Here are some ideas to think about what to say to your inner child. You may use these words, or come up with your own, as may be appropriate.

Because your inner child wants to be heard and understood, it’s good to establish an open and understanding relationship.

“I hear you. I know you’re going through things and I care so deeply for you. I am listening to you. You can always come to me, no matter what. I want to know how you are feeling and I am here for you any time you need me.”

Due to their increased sensitivity, whenever an inner child has their feelings hurt (they can hold a grudge for a lifetime), whether it was the past, or even in the present, they need to hear your validation of their being wronged, acknowledging the injustice.

“That was awful. No one should ever treat you like that. You’re a pure, loving child, undeserving of any disrespect, abusive behavior or words. This is just wrong, and of course, your feelings would be hurt; anyone’s would. You did nothing to deserve this.”

Remember, your inner child (just like everyone else) is only doing the best he or she can possibly do in terms of how they respond to things based on the tools he/she has access to at the time. Don’t ever let him or her think they could ever let you down, or disappoint you. Over time, he or she may mature and you might be able to equip him or her with understanding and coping mechanisms. Empower them to be who they are, where they are, right now.

“I know you did the best you could and you’re doing the best you can, right now in this moment. I will not judge you. I love you and in my eyes, you could really do nothing wrong.”

It’s good to say you’re sorry, whether it’s about you’re not paying attention to or listening to your inner child, or when something has taken place which has made them feel bad; something from an outside source that wasn’t their fault, that they had no control over.

“I am so sorry that I didn’t listen to you. I’m doing the best I can and I know that you are, too. And I am sorry that person made you feel bad. No one should have the right to do that. I am sorry, I love you.”

Sometimes your inner child takes responsibilities for things that was not his or her fault, or has unjustly carried a grudge against someone or something for a period of time (maybe a long time). Let your inner child know that you forgive him or her and that you harbor no ill feelings or judgment.

“I know you feel bad, maybe even mad, but this was not your fault. I totally understand why you might feel this way, and I totally forgive you for feeling this way, or even making me feel this way. You are my cherished treasure and in my eyes, in my life, and in my heart, you are utterly amazing. I forgive you.”

Validate your inner child’s existence, thank your him or her for being there, for being a part of your life.

“Thank you for being such an amazing part of my life. You are the most important thing to me, and I love everything about you. Without you I would be more than alone. You help give my life meaning, purpose and someone to love, no matter what. Without you I would be lost. I love you so much. Thank you, thank you, thank you.”

This, by no means, represents the only chats you can have with your inner child. Just as with anyone else, your conversations could be limitless.

If you would like to share conversations you’ve had with your inner child, feel free to note them below.

 

Inner Child Tantrum

And then, totally unexpectedly, you burst into fight-or-flight, in an over-reactive defensive emotional outburst. After a moment, your state of mind relaxes enough to notice the expressions on the faces of the people witnessing your outburst; they must think you’re crazy. As you feel your emotions subside you’re wondering if you’re crazy, too. You know you were out of pocket, and can’t figure out what just happened.

Say, “Hello,” to your wounded inner child, who is throwing a tantrum.

Your inner child can break through and expose itself at any time, and usually expresses itself defensively, fearfully, frantically, or shamefully, in a way that is inconsistent with your normal adult state of being. Most of the time your inner child occupies the space in your mind and your heart but sometimes it breaks out in a way that encompasses your entire being.

Your inner child doesn’t always express itself negatively, it can also revel in joyous celebration in the best of times, but in most cases, your inner child hides in fear of being hurt due to wounds you may have suffered as a young child.

Since your youth you have grown into a strong adult and as you grew and matured your inner child fractured and found a safe place to reside inside you, so the more aware and physically demonstrable you could mature as you found your methods of interacting with your adult world in the most effective manner. Meanwhile, your inner child took the back seat.

Your inner child is content in hiding safely away deep inside you, but every once and a while gets it’s feelings hurt or feel threatened by something happening in your present and asserts itself, feeling its life is at risk or pitches a fit.

The inner child is always in a heightened state of awareness looking for potential threats. When something triggers it, he or she panics, initiating our instinctive reaction to either fight for life or flee in hopes of finding a safe retreat. In that moment your inner child has usurped your ability to cognitively manage your adult life. As you review the over-reaction, you can see there was no apparent threat, but your inner child perceived some detail that caused you to instinctively react as if there was a real threat.

When we are young, we find it hard to rationalize or make sense out of the injustices we suffer as a child. It isn’t long and we often realize that if we protest, we suffer negative consequences, so instead we learn to find ways to bottle up those fragile emotions and that part of ourselves which feels small and powerless fractionates from our conscious awareness and finds a safe place to hide inside of us. All that part of us wanted was to be accepted, loved, and protected, and even now, that’s all it really wants.

Therein lays the key to resolving the conflict between the adult rational part of you and your inner child.

You can give your inner child the love and acceptance he or she longs for and invite him or her to have an honored and safe place to live in your current world, where you can share life in harmony, no longer fractionated, safe and secure, with no need to hide.

Meet Your Inner Child

Ever notice someone’s irrational outbursts? Does it evoke recollections similar to a child throwing a tantrum, but on a grander scale, within the context of adulthood? The person who is acting out in such a manner likely needs to reconcile their adult life with their inner child.

While it may sound like faux-psych new age folderol, all of us started as children, and as such, that young child within takes up residency deep within our being. For the most part, it remains hidden because it has no physical form, but its existence and struggle for survival are undeniable. For the most part, your inner child resides safely protected in your unconscious mind, while your adult mind dominates the conscious mind. When your adult and inner child conflict with each other, behavioral and emotional inconsistencies become apparent, often leading to difficulties in relationships and managing adult life.

When your inner child asserts itself over your cognitive abilities, you will notice a variety of behaviors that are inconsistent with what would be considered normal thought patterns. Some indications of inner child outbursts range from self-sabotage to criminal behavior. The playground of the unbridled inner child often includes overreacting, hostility, violent aggression, destructive behavior, and other narcissistic tendencies.

Not to worry; we’re all in the same boat. We – all of us – are harboring our inner child. This is not a psychological condition; it is a very real part of who we are and how we evolve as adults. Becoming aware of your inner child’s existence is the first step.

Now that you are becoming aware of your inner child, the next step is to reconcile with and learn to live with them. It is likely that for far too long, your inner child has been neglected, abandoned, or rejected. You can instead begin to acknowledge, honor, love, and accept your inner child, allowing for two-way communication and a back-and-forth exchange of thoughts and feelings.

Your inner child’s identity is the result of the programming that has taken place throughout your young life. Many of these are considered positive qualities, such as uninhibited creativity and joy; however, negative attributes also become apparent, stemming from childhood experiences that foster hurt feelings, anger, fear, and other traumas.

The majority of our fellow earth dwellers will not embrace this idea, and God bless them as they continue to suffer from their inner irreconcilable differences. Why? Because we’re programmed by society to consider our childlike nature to be suppressed as we grow into adults and find our place within the societal structure. We are trained to starve the innocence, relentless inquisitive nature, playfulness, and ability to fantasize wildly until there is nothing left but leaving your inner child locked away in prison, quietly ignored until he/she asserts their existence.

Now that you are aware of your inner child, take the time to communicate and honor it. They had been neglected for too long. Now is the time to reconcile.

Getting to know your inner child can be one of the most exhilarating experiences, and will help you to overcome the inconsistencies in your life. It’s time to love and accept your inner child as a part of who you are. Invite them to play a part in the conscious part of your life and see how life becomes more brilliant.

A severely wounded inner child may be problematic due to unhealed wounds, but with loving, nurturing care and conscious effort, these wounds can be healed, allowing you to flourish as a whole being.

Congratulations on creating an incredible partnership with your inner child; get ready to enjoy all the sweet life that awaits, and have a great time.