olympian life coach | David M Masters

What Are You Doing About It?

Yes, alright, so, I’m an Olympian Life Coach. I work with people who are kicking ass and taking names, people who are on the front lines of their personal evolution and actually doing something to make the world a better place. I also work with practitioners, therapists, healers, coaches, ministers, doctors, people who help people for a living.

And I’ve been doing this for a long time. My early life started in the ministry, and over the years, I’ve met just about every kind of person there is. I’ve seen and heard it all.

What surprises me most? How many people are upset about something, angry about politics, the economy, their boss, their ex, the news, or “the system,” and yet, when I ask one simple question, everything falls silent.

“What are you doing about it?”

That’s it. That’s the question.

If you’re not actively doing something about the thing you’re complaining about, then honestly… maybe just stop talking about it. Because all that energy you’re pouring into being upset, outraged, or “raising awareness” without aligned action—it’s doing the opposite of what you think.

It’s feeding the problem.

It’s self-sabotage.

You’re locking yourself into the vibration of a victim mindset—and let me tell you, that’s one of the hardest addictions to break. Just as tough as alcohol, drugs, gambling, or pornography. The victim mindset provides a twisted kind of comfort. It gives you something to blame, a sense of identity, a reason why things aren’t working. But it also steals your power.

The Many Faces of the Victim Vibration

This addiction shows up in an infinite number of ways.

You might:

- Constantly put yourself down with negative self-talk.
- Tear others down to feel better about yourself.
- Have a short fuse and explode over minor things.
- Think the world owes you something.
- Gossip, criticize, and complain about others’ success.
- Play the martyr—“I give so much and get nothing in return.”
- Sabotage good opportunities because you “don’t deserve” them.
- Blame your parents, your partner, your job, or “the government” for your lack of progress.
- Overwork yourself to exhaustion and call it “hustle.”
- Or, on the flip side, do nothing and justify it with excuses like, “I’m waiting for the universe to align.”

See? Endless forms.

So Where’s Your Peace and Harmony?

You ever wonder why peace and harmony seem so elusive?

It’s because you’re too busy feeding the chaos.

You’re surrounded by drama because you’re addicted to the energy of it. Every thought, every complaint, every story you repeat about what’s wrong in your life keeps you magnetically connected to that same energy field. You’re basically broadcasting, “More of this, please.”

And look—I’m not judging you. I get it. You’ve had it hard. Maybe life’s been unfair. Maybe you were betrayed, abused, neglected, lied to, or left behind. You’ve been doing the best you can with what you’ve got. No one blames you. Not even me.

But there is another way.

The Real Work

This is what I do with my clients. Not everyone is ready for it.

Some people say they want to change, but they drop out before the breakthrough because deep down, they’re still more comfortable being the victim. They want change without challenge. But the truth is—freedom isn’t free.

If you want real change, you have to do the work.

And no, I don’t hand out cookie-cutter, A-B-C programs. That’s not how true transformation works. You are not a formula. You are a living, breathing, divine being who came to this planet with a unique purpose—and that purpose was hijacked from you when you were five, six, maybe seven years old.

The world had its way with you. You got swept into the raging current of expectations, limitations, and conditioning. And now, if you’re ready to reclaim your original blueprint—the real you—you’ll have to swim against the current.

It’s not easy. But it’s worth it.

True Freedom Is a Do-It-Yourself Project

There are programs, religions, and systems that will take you in, comfort you, and tell you exactly what to do, as long as you comply. And there’s nothing wrong with that. But that’s not true freedom.

True freedom is when you blaze your own trail.

It’s when you rediscover your life purpose, align it with your message, ignite your passion, and commit to your mission. That’s the work.

And here’s the ground rule:

You have no right to complain about anything unless you are actively doing something about it.

You say, “But it’s my moral duty to spread awareness about injustice!”

Okay. But unless you’re doing something—volunteering, donating, building, teaching, healing—you’re just amplifying the frequency of the very thing you hate.

You don’t get the right to complain about the price of tea in China unless you’re supporting your local tea growers. You want cleaner oceans? Stop using single-use plastics. You want a better government? Run for office, or at least vote intelligently.

When you’re taking action, then you’ve earned your authority to speak. Now, we’ll listen.

People Who Do Something About It

Look at people who didn’t just talk – they did.

- Oprah Winfrey turned her childhood trauma into a global platform for healing and empowerment.
- Elon Musk didn’t complain about fossil fuels, he built Tesla.
- Malala Yousafzai didn’t just lament women’s education, she risked her life to advocate for it.
- Greta Thunberg didn’t just post online about climate change, she started a worldwide movement.
- Keanu Reeves quietly donates millions to children’s hospitals and cancer research without press coverage.

These people act. They align. They do something.

That’s what makes them magnetic. That’s what makes them powerful.

So, What Are You Doing About It?

You can talk, or you can act.

You can stay stuck in the same old story, or you can write a new one.

Your power begins the moment you decide that you are done being a victim—and you are ready to be the hero of your own life.

If you’re ready, I’m here. That’s what I do.

But until then, before you start venting about what’s wrong with the world, take a deep breath and ask yourself the question that could change everything:

“What am I doing about it?”

That’s where transformation begins.

Life Coaches Overcoming Fear, Self-Doubt & Impostor Syndrome

Embarking on a journey to become a life coach, or seeking one for yourself, can be both thrilling and intimidating. You aim to empower others to lead their best lives, yet fear, self-doubt, and impostor syndrome often stand in the way. However, these obstacles don’t have to stop you! This guide provides essential steps to help you overcome these limitations and move toward your best life.

Acknowledging Your Fears and Impostor Syndrome

- Recognize Your Fears: Identify and accept your fears, understanding that they are a natural response to stepping out of your comfort zone.
- Own Your Emotions: Acknowledge your feelings of impostor syndrome to gain power over them.
- Pause and Reflect: Take deep breaths, introspect, and write down your concerns.
- Seek Perspective: Consult trusted friends, mentors, therapists, or coaches.

Rewiring Negative Self-Talk

- Identify Negative Thoughts: Pay attention to self-doubt and impostor syndrome patterns.
- Challenge Assumptions: Question the validity of negative thoughts and find empowering alternatives.
- Use Positive Affirmations: Replace negative self-talk with reminders of your strengths and achievements.

Setting Small, Achievable Goals

- Break Down Goals: Divide your larger goals into smaller, manageable steps.
- Celebrate Successes: Acknowledge and celebrate each small victory to build confidence and momentum.

Seeking Support and Building Resilience

- Build a Support Network: Reach out to friends, family, or colleagues for encouragement.
- Learn from Others: Connect with mentors or peers who have similar experiences.
- Embrace Vulnerability: Share your fears and doubts to gain insights and strengthen connections.

Continual Learning and Growth

- Invest in Education: Enroll in training programs, workshops, and courses to enhance your skills.
- Read Widely: Study books and articles related to coaching, psychology, and personal development.
- Attend Events: Participate in conferences and seminars to network and gain new ideas.
- Practice Self-Reflection: Regularly evaluate your strengths and areas for improvement.
- Seek Feedback: Encourage clients to provide feedback to facilitate your growth.

Becoming a life coach or seeking one is a journey of personal and professional growth. Overcoming fear, self-doubt, and impostor syndrome is crucial, followed by setting achievable goals, seeking support, and embracing continuous learning. This process not only helps you inspire others but also fosters your own evolution.

Action Steps

- Acknowledge and work through your fears and self-doubt.
- Challenge negative self-talk and use empowering affirmations.
- Set and celebrate small, achievable goals.
- Build a supportive network and resilience.
- Commit to lifelong learning and self-improvement.

Ready to embark on this journey? You can join our Olympian Life Coach support community committed to living their best lives. Together, we’ll overcome fears, self-doubt, and impostor syndrome, guiding you to become the life coach you aspire to be or finding the perfect coach for your needs.

From Advice to Empowerment: The Art of Supportive Conversations

In the heart of every coach is a sincere desire to help. We see someone struggling, lost in confusion or pain, and everything in us wants to reach out, fix it, and make it better. It’s a noble instinct, but it’s also where many well-meaning conversations go off track.

The difference between advice and support is the difference between control and freedom.

Giving advice can feel like the fastest route to helping someone. But in truth, advice is often a shortcut that bypasses the person’s internal wisdom. When you tell someone what to do, you subtly imply, “I know better than you.” You might not mean it that way—but it’s often how it lands.

Supportive conversations, on the other hand, build trust, self-confidence, and personal growth. They say, “I’m here with you. I believe in you. You’ve got this.”

Let’s go deeper into this art—because supportive conversation is not just a skill. It’s a way of being.

Why Quick Fixes Undermine True Growth

Imagine this: a friend tells you they’re struggling with their marriage. They feel unheard and disconnected. You immediately say:

“You just need to communicate more. Have you tried date night? That worked for me and my spouse.”

What just happened?

- You’ve made an assumption about their problem (communication).
- You’ve inserted your own experience and projected it as a solution.
- You’ve taken the wheel of their emotional process.

They might nod and smile. They might even try your suggestion. But deep down, they don’t feel seen. Their pain hasn’t been explored, their voice hasn’t been heard, and they’ve been handed a tool that may or may not fit the job.

Support isn’t about handing someone a hammer. It’s about helping them build their own toolbox.

Creating a Container for Empowerment

At Olympian Life Coach training, we teach that the most powerful transformation happens when we resist the urge to give answers and instead become a sacred witness to someone’s journey.

This is what I call Creating the Container. It’s a safe, nonjudgmental, sacred space where someone can:

- Speak openly,
- Hear their own thoughts,
- Feel their emotions without fear,
- And discover their inner truth.

Let’s look at the key components of this sacred art of supportive conversation.

Listening Without Agenda

True support starts with deep listening. That means:

- No interrupting.
- No fixing.
- No steering the conversation to your own stories.

It’s about being fully present with another human being, with nothing to prove and nothing to fix.

Example:
Your client says,

“I feel like I’m failing at everything lately.”

Advice might sound like:

“You’re being too hard on yourself. Just make a to-do list and knock one thing out at a time.”

Supportive listening sounds like:

“That sounds really heavy. What does it feel like when you say you’re failing?”

You’re not trying to cheerlead or strategize. You’re honoring their experience.

Ask Empowering, Open-Ended Questions

Questions are the coach’s most sacred tool. But not just any questions—empowering questions. These are questions that point the person back to their own wisdom.

Empowering questions:

- Start with “what” or “how”
- Avoid “why” (which can feel accusatory)
- Focus on possibilities, not limitations

Examples:

Instead of…	Try…
“Why didn’t you speak up?”	“What made it feel difficult to speak your truth in that moment?”
“Have you tried this method?”	“What approaches have you considered so far?”
“What should you do next?”	“What is your gut telling you about your next step?”

When you ask the right questions, people light up. Their posture shifts. Their energy rises. You see the spark return. Not because you handed them the answer—but because you reminded them that they already have it.

Reflective Listening: The Art of the Mirror

One of the most validating things we can do is reflect someone’s words back to them.

This helps them:

- Hear their own thoughts clearly,
- Feel understood,
- And deepen their self-awareness.

Technique:

“What I’m hearing is that you’re feeling exhausted, not just physically, but emotionally—like you’re carrying too much without being supported. Is that right?”

This kind of reflection shows that you’re not only listening—you care enough to slow down and get it right.

Honor the Silence

Sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is… nothing.

Don’t rush to fill every pause. Silence is sacred. It’s where clarity and inner knowing emerge.

After a deep question, let the silence sit. Breathe with them. Hold space. Trust that their answer will arise, not from your words, but from within.

Avoid the Hero Trap

As a coach, your job isn’t to be the hero. It’s to help the other person become the hero of their own story.

This means:

- Don’t rescue them from discomfort.
- Don’t try to shield them from pain.
- Don’t take on the responsibility of their outcome.

You are their guide, not their savior.

Empowering phrase:

“This is your journey, and I have no doubt you’re equipped to walk it. I’m here to walk alongside you.”

Validate Without Agreeing

You don’t have to agree with someone to validate their experience. Validation simply means acknowledging that what they’re feeling is real and worthy of compassion.

Examples of validating language:

- “That sounds incredibly painful.”
- “Anyone in your situation might feel overwhelmed.”
- “You’ve been through a lot—it makes sense that this is weighing on you.”

Validation builds trust. It tells the other person, “You’re not crazy. You’re not alone.”

Celebrate Sovereignty

Every time someone finds their own insight, makes a decision they’re proud of, or leans into their intuition, celebrate it. Affirm their sovereignty.

You might say:

“That’s powerful. You just made that discovery on your own. That’s your inner wisdom coming forward.”

These moments build lasting confidence—because the answer didn’t come from you. It came from them.

And they’ll never forget that.

From Advisor to Empowerer

Let’s take a common scenario: A client comes to you saying they hate their job.

Advice mode:

“Maybe you should just quit. Life’s too short to stay in a job you hate.”

Support mode:

“What about this job drains you the most?”
“What does your ideal workday feel like?”
“What part of you is still choosing to stay?”

You’re not telling them what to do. You’re helping them uncover what they really want and why they haven’t acted yet. Then, when they’re ready—they make the move with clarity and confidence.

That’s empowerment.

The Sacred Role of the Supporter

When you truly support someone—without trying to fix them—you give them something far more valuable than advice.

You give them their power back.

You remind them that they are whole, even in their confusion.

You show them that they are strong, even in their vulnerability.

You become a sacred witness to their unfolding—not because you know the way—but because you trust that they do.

And that, my friend, is the essence of true coaching.

You are not here to push anyone forward. You’re here to remind them that they can fly.

— David M. Masters

The Alien Perspective Method: A New Way of Seeing Clients, Coaching, and Life

One of the greatest challenges in coaching, or in any human interaction, really, is the temptation to assume you already know. You’ve studied, you’ve learned, you’ve lived. You have a working map of reality that makes sense to you, and it’s natural to think that map is universal. But here’s the truth: your map is not their map.

Every person you meet is a universe unto themselves. Their beliefs, experiences, wounds, victories, and dreams create a world as unique as a distant star system. When you approach someone with the assumption that you already know what they need, you’re not really seeing them, you’re projecting your own reality onto theirs.

That’s why I developed what I call The Alien Perspective Method.

It’s a way of approaching clients, colleagues, and even friends and family with the kind of reverence and curiosity you would offer if you were meeting an alien being from another world.

Because in a very real sense, you are.

Step 1: Suspend Assumptions

The first step is humility. When a client sits in front of you, release the idea that you already know who they are or what they need. Catch yourself in the moment you think, “I’ve seen this before” and remind yourself: you haven’t. This is not a category. This is a person.

Step 2: Enter the Client’s World

Imagine this person as an alien visitor. If that were true, you wouldn’t assume you knew their culture, their values, or their history. You’d ask questions. You’d listen. You’d lean in with curiosity. And you’d let their world become the sacred space for the session, not yours.

Step 3: Honor Their Momentum

So many well-meaning coaches derail progress by insisting on their own paradigm. But what if your client already has positive momentum in some area of their life? Why knock them off course? Honor what’s working. Build on it. Use their existing momentum as fuel for the next breakthrough.

Step 4: Co-Create Possibilities

Instead of prescribing pre-packaged answers, explore possibilities together. Let solutions arise naturally from the client’s own worldview. You don’t have to be the all-knowing authority. You can be the co-creator, the partner in discovery. That’s where the magic happens.

Step 5: Invite, Don’t Impose

Your role isn’t to force your perspective, it’s to offer it as an invitation. Lay the options on the table. Share the tools you know, but let the client choose which ones resonate. Respect their right to walk their own path, even if it looks different from yours.

Step 6: Remain Curious

The moment you lock into, “This is this, that is that,” you stop learning. Stay open. Stay curious. Let yourself be surprised. Every client is not only a student, they are also a teacher. If you’re listening, you’ll leave every conversation wiser than when you arrived.

Why It Matters

When you coach from the Alien Perspective, you create space for genuine transformation. Clients don’t feel forced into your box; they feel seen, heard, and honored in their uniqueness. That kind of respect accelerates growth.

And here’s the bonus: you grow, too. By suspending assumptions, entering their world, and remaining curious, you expand your own universe of understanding.

That’s the Olympian Life Coach difference. We don’t just coach for results, we coach with reverence for the infinite possibilities each soul carries within them.

So the next time you sit across from someone, remember: you are meeting an alien. Step into their universe with curiosity, and together, you just might discover a whole new world.

You Are Better Off Paying Someone You Respect for Coaching U

“Look, I love you. I care about you and want to help you, but I can tell you this sincerely from the bottom of my heart: you do yourself a disservice by asking me for advice. You would be far better served by seeking out someone you respect enough to pay them for their assistance.”

If you are my friend, and I’ve responded to your request for assistance in such a manner, there is no need to be offended. What I have said is true. I care about you and strongly desire that you see results similar to those I serve. And one of the reasons they achieved the results you have witnessed is their insistence on paying for the services rendered. That way, we have an equal investment and a commensurate energy exchange. We are then equipped to advance in partnership, forging into new and exciting territory.

You Are Better Off Paying Someone You Respect

When you pay someone, we call this having skin in the game. You are unlikely to achieve stellar results if you haphazardly desire a better life. Those who rise to new heights of fulfillment and success are fully vested. These are the movers and shakers. I do not motivate or create movers and shakers. The people I work with have taken full responsibility for their becoming the types of leaders they are. I assist them along on their journey.

Here’s How Professional Coaching Works

Importance of Investing in Professional Coaching as a Way to Demonstrate Commitment to Personal Growth:

Seeking professional coaching requires an investment, whether in the form of time, money, or both. This investment exemplifies a commitment to the process of personal growth and addressing specific concerns.

Placing a Tangible Value on the Advice or Coaching:

When you pay for professional coaching, you are assigning a tangible value to the expertise you receive. Putting a price on the coaching leads to a more serious and dedicated approach to implementing the progression process. It emphasizes that you recognize the value of the service and are willing to invest resources in its various forms of application.

Commitment Enhancing the Effectiveness of Coaching:

A commitment, especially a financial one, can enhance the effectiveness of the coaching you receive. When you have invested in seeking a coach, you are much more likely to follow through on your commitments to your progress, actively engage in the process, and take the necessary steps toward positive outcomes.

Acknowledging and Honoring Professional Dedication:

Olympian Life Coaches dedicate significant time and effort to developing their expertise. By compensating them for their knowledge and services, you are acknowledging and honoring their dedication to acquiring the skills and experience that make their services valuable. This recognition can contribute to a more meaningful and mutually respectful exchange.

The idea is that by investing in professional coaching, you demonstrate a commitment to your growth, assign tangible value to the support received, potentially enhance the effectiveness of that support through commitment, and acknowledge the dedication of the professionals providing their expertise, all leads to the impressive results you have seen.

“But I want you to do what you did for him or her for me.”

First of all, I did not do the work they did. My part in their success was supporting and being their accountability partner. And while their success might look like “an overnight success,” it was years in the making.

I worked with him every week for 15 years and with her for 12 years. It’s no surprise they are as successful as they are. They have focused on, worked on, and invested in their success for many years.