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Become the Observer: When You Find You Are Not Your Thoughts

Most people go through life believing they are their thoughts. Every passing worry, doubt, or fear becomes part of their identity. But here’s the truth: You are not your thoughts. You are the observer of them.

Thoughts are like clouds drifting across the sky of your mind. They come and go, constantly shifting, yet the sky remains unchanged. That sky is you—the real you, the unshakable awareness behind the noise.

99% of Your Thoughts Don’t Belong to You

Have you ever stopped to ask yourself, Where did this thought come from? If you do, you’ll quickly realize that most of the thoughts floating through your mind aren’t even yours. They are echoes of:

    • Conditioning: Repetitive patterns drilled into you since childhood.
    • Societal Programming: Expectations, fears, and limitations imposed by culture.
    • The Energies Around You: Thoughts aren’t confined to your own mind; they are frequencies moving through the collective consciousness.

If you’re not intentional about filtering these influences, your mind can become a crowded room filled with voices that don’t serve you.

The Power of Stepping Back

The moment you step back and witness your thoughts instead of identifying with them, something incredible happens—you reclaim your power.

When you say, I am angry, you are binding yourself to that emotion. But when you shift to, I notice that anger is arising within me, you create space. You separate yourself from the thought and regain control over whether to feed it or let it pass.

This is the difference between being controlled by your mind and mastering it.

Feeling Overwhelmed? You’re Just in Too Deep

If you ever feel overwhelmed by your thoughts, emotions, or life itself, it simply means you’ve gotten too deep into the mental storm. You’ve been pulled onto the stage, lost in the role, tangled in the drama.

When this happens, back off, disengage, and resume the perspective of the observer.

All the world is a stage. Sometimes, you have to play your part, delivering your lines and engaging with the story. But sometimes, it’s okay to step backstage, take a seat in the audience, or even watch from the projection booth, even take a sabbatical.

Life is not about being trapped in every moment of the performance. It’s about knowing when to engage and when to retreat into quiet awareness. The ability to shift perspectives—between actor, audience, and observer—is the key to peace.

The Real You

So, who are you, if not your thoughts? You are the awareness behind them. You are the stillness, the presence, the conscious being who gets to decide which thoughts to engage with and which to release.

Imagine standing in the middle of a river. You can either fight against the current of endless thoughts, or you can step onto the shore and simply watch the water flow by. The more you practice stepping back into your awareness, the more you free yourself from unnecessary suffering.

The Art of Thought Selection

Not every thought deserves your attention. Your mind is like a radio constantly tuning in to different frequencies. Some stations play empowering messages, while others feed fear, doubt, and negativity. You get to exercise the power of your thought choice.

Try this simple practice:

    1. When a thought arises, pause and observe it.
    2. Ask yourself: Is this thought helpful? Does it align with my highest self?
    3. If it doesn’t serve you, release it. Imagine it dissolving like a cloud.

The more you do this, the more you strengthen your ability to consciously direct your mind, rather than letting it control you.

Reclaiming Your Inner Stillness

Beneath the chaos of thoughts, a deep stillness exists within you. This is your true self. The more you connect with this awareness, the less you get caught up in the noise of the mind.

Meditation, prayer, breathwork, and mindful presence help you tune into this stillness. But the most powerful practice is simply remembering: You are the observer, not the thoughts.

The moment you embody this truth, you step into real freedom. You break free from old programming, societal conditioning, and unconscious mental patterns. You reclaim your sovereignty.

Because the real you isn’t lost in thought, you are the one watching. And when life becomes overwhelming, you always have the power to step back, take a breath, and return to the peaceful awareness that was there all along.

 

 

You and Your Puppets

There is you. Then, there is the “you” which you present to others. No one knows the real you, except for you, and you create a disguise which you operate, like a puppet, to present to the world. After one realizes the efficacy of puppeteering, you create an army of puppets to represent yourself in any situation and circumstance.

You expend a great deal of effort adorning your puppet(s) to present to particular audiences. You clothe and accessorize and present each puppet in such a way to have a particular impact on others, or to get what you want or need from others to make you feel good about yourself.

Masquerading is an effective way to interact with the world, but it doesn’t work that well with you, because you know the real you who dresses up your puppet(s), surrounds him/her with supporting evidence. You adorn your puppet’s environment to validate his/her personality by decorating his/her home, earning certificates and take taking photos to hang on the wall, driving a particular kind of vehicle, and a myriad of other supporting evidence to in essence prove to the world that your puppet is the real deal.

You’re constantly looking for new ways to support the identity of your puppet. Every time you think this is the one thing that will finally cement your puppet’s identity, it satisfies for a moment, then you discover it just didn’t quite accomplish you intended purpose, like you thought it would. So, you seek out another piece of supporting evidence.

You surround your persona with collections of supporting evidence which could be anything from material items to acts of service to others, or even vices or debilitating disease. All in an effort to convince the world to accept the identity you’ve designed for yourself. But no matter how hard you try, you know this is all an act. Regardless of how much time, effort, and finances you’ve dedicated for supporting your persona, as pretty or magnificent it is, you know it is all a worthless façade.

Then there is the most valuable and precious activity of life, and that is the real and authentic personal work performed by and on the behalf of the puppeteer. Unlike the things you do to support the identity of your puppet(s), the effort you put forth to support your true self which stays hidden from the external world, it is the best and most intimate thing you can do for yourself. This is your deep inner work.

There is great contrast between your deep inner work which cannot be seen by others, and the external representation of yourself which can be acknowledged and revered by others. The support and admiration you received from others creates an addiction to the maintenance of your façade, which clouds your judgment, preventing you from seeing the value in expending efforts to conduct your intimately private deep inner work.

Once you start to look deeply inside yourself, if you dare, you can start adorning your inner self, the real you, with mindfulness, self-care, support, therapy, forgiveness, and unconditional love. Just as you adorn your public persona(s), you beautify your inner self, connecting to that greater part of you which is a higher energetic vibration than could ever be represented by any material possession.

Nothing gives you such lasting satisfaction as doing your deep inner work. And as you conduct this deeply personal and intimate work on yourself, you can influence your persona(s) in ways that can offer glimpses of the changes taking place inside the puppeteer.

These subtle nuances cannot be hidden, as they can be seen by the trained eye, every time you pull a string, redecorate the surroundings, or operate your puppet.

Empowered by the energy emitted from your heart of hearts, your deep inner work begins to affect the world around you in even the smallest of ways like a pebble creating a ripple effect which radiates throughout the otherwise still pond of life.

You are love. Embracing your love life, loving yourself, all the deeply intimate and harrowing parts of yourself as all being in divine order, is the greatest love-work of all.

You are doing it. As you do, you create hope and inspire others to shift the focus of their lives from keeping up appearances to focusing within, and life by life, heart by heart, the world evolves and becomes a better place.

God bless you for all that you do.