As the title suggests, author David M Masters, takes a different path in the Psychopath Victims Toolkit, as it was not intended for psychopaths or people who would like to know more about psychopaths, or those who are as fascinated by the characteristics of psychopaths, as most of us are. No this is an offering specifically intended to be used as A Guide for Victims of Psychopaths and Those That Serve Them. More specifically, this work is dedicated to the victims and those who offer support for the victim’s recovery, not those who victimize them.
Although enforcing accountability consequences for crimes committed by the psychopaths is briefly addressed, as is the victims’ desire for revenge, the status of the victim while being exploited by a psychopath, separating oneself from the psychopathic stranglehold, and supporting the victim through the recovery process is the goal.
The author’s goal is to first and foremostly see the victim as first protected, then supported, followed by a variety of options that can be of assistance in the psychopath victim’s recovery.
Masters asserts that just as there are such a wide variety of psychopathic styles, variety is also shared among survivors of psychopathic abuse. What both psychopaths and their victims share is vast uniqueness. Just as there are no two psychopaths that are alike, the same goes for the victims.
So, there is no cookie-cutter, one size fits all answer for psychopaths or their victims.
Each case is unique, and each victim, while sharing some similarities with other victims. Each will require his or her own customized approach to the recovery process.
That being said, unsurprisingly, The Psychopath Victims Toolkit, A Guide for Victims of Psychopaths and Those That Serve Them is a hit with the unintended audience of psychopaths as well. The psychopaths who read this material find some of the material contained herein as abhorrible, and they have attempted to discredit this work and to personally attack the author, which does nothing more than to prove his point.
Psychopath Victims Toolkit
To reduce this book to its simplest form,
You will find psychopaths in all stations and levels of society and life. The majority of them are unlikely to intimidate or abuse you, some might even focus their unique skillset so as to provide you with protection or a better life. The predatory psychopaths are to get you. If not you, someone else, and they will do everything in their power to succeed at whatever it is they desire at any given moment.
As a victim of psychopathic manipulation or abuse, you are not responsible for this. You were sought out and preyed upon by a psychopath because you served a purpose for the predatory psychopath. Early detection and taking action to separate yourself from the predator are of primary importance. Raise your awareness and proceed with caution.
Then from a sacred safe place, you, the psychopath victim, can do your work to remain as safe and secure as possible to conduct the work of taking your life back, healing from the damage done, recovering, and growing to a better personal station in life.
All this can be possible with the tips, tools, and techniques suggested in this text.
If you are in the role of supporting victims of psychopaths, this reference will help you better understand the victim, enabling you to offer a higher degree of understanding and support to the victim without judging or adding to the abuse the victim has already received at the hands of the psychopath.
About the Author:
David M Masters appears to be a motivational speaker, author, and life coach. His focus seems to be on personal development, self-improvement, and achieving success in various aspects of life. He offers guidance and support to individuals seeking to improve their lives, find their purpose, and overcome challenges.
The basis of David M Masters’ philosophy seems to revolve around empowering individuals to take control of their lives and create positive changes. He emphasizes the importance of personal growth, self-reflection, and transforming limiting beliefs into empowering ones. Masters believes in the potential for individuals to shape their reality, achieve their goals, and find fulfillment.
People who might be attracted to David M Masters for assistance are likely individuals who are seeking personal transformation, motivation, and guidance in various areas of their lives. This could include individuals looking to improve their relationships, careers, finances, or overall well-being. People attracted to his philosophy may be interested in personal development, self-discovery, and unlocking their full potential.
I work with clients of all kinds. In the olden days, people with predatory anti-social personality disorder, specifically psychopathy, high-ranking officials in church and government claimed these individuals were born without a soul. Even recently, I was asked, “Is a psychopath demon-possessed?”
There were rumors that spread prior to current waves of thought that suggested what we would today call “psychopaths” were conceived while the mother was in an altered state, which left her impregnation vulnerable to invasion by an entity that had never experienced life as a human. Extremists may have claimed that the mother was raped by an incubus (a malevolent demon spreading evil seed while victims slept), resulting in the birth of a psychopath.
Scientists agree that psychopaths are unique in that they fail to have certain human feelings and have over-the-top behaviors, feeling that they are better than “other” (weaker) people, and are prone to highly predatory impulses. They are born that way, and there are scientifically based brain scanning tests that can adequately determine the authentic psychopath.
In my work, I often find myself walking the tightrope between spiritual and scientific. Let me run this one by you:
Rebuke the Devil!
I have had clients who were working with what appears to be a psychopath and they believe that he needs to be exorcised. They believe that he is possessed by an evil spirit. Yes, there are those who believe this in modern times.
I had the struggle of having to explain to them that there is nothing to exorcise. If a person has been born with this condition, whatever you want to call it, or however you would like to try to relate to it, if you could remove “it” (the psychopath) from the human body, there would be nothing left. There is nothing for this person to revert to.
Psychopathic Tendencies
Now, if you have a normal person who has led a “normal” life who has suddenly been possessed by an evil spirit or alien, has a biological problem, mental health challenge, or whatever, and is expressing psychopathic tendencies, that is a different topic of conversation.
Keeping in mind that a psychopath can easily play a part for years, only to reveal his true nature after his needs have been served, and therefore, it could look like a sudden change of personality. If given legal pressure and the opportunity, he may claim that he is a victim of some disease that may have compromised his mild-mannered character, if it will help his situation.
Psychos are Tricky
Whether you believe that psychopathy is basically a brain-borne birth defect or a baby born as part human/part non-human, he or she is what he or she is. He or she will be charismatic, intelligent, and will have no feelings, which is the perfect cocktail for a master manipulator. Add to that impulsivity, someone who will do anything to win, and feels as though they are never wrong, and you have a disaster in the making. The evidence of this will have been noticeable in teenaged years or earlier, and there is likely to be documentation to back this up.
Psychopathy Cannot be Cured
You can try to train him or her to act like a normal person or go through a ritual to try to accomplish the same thing, and you might look at the results and claim victory. But if he or she is a true psychopath, he or she is playing you like a Stradivarius. While you are celebrating, he or she is laughing his or her arse off!
They are often the greatest actors who will do or say anything to get what they want and fooling you at any cost is at the top of their list, especially if doing so will benefit themselves in some way. Psychopathy cannot be cured.
Lie, Cheat, Steal
They lie, cheat, and steal without thinking about the consequences, they believe the rules do not apply to them, and if they must pay a price for their liberties, this is a temporary situation that was an unintended cost of doing business, that is all.
Cannot be Punished
You cannot punish a psychopath because they have no regret or remorse for any of their actions, or how they might have affected others. Sending them to prison might be inconvenient, but there are plenty of opportunities for them to thrive while confined as well. Many continue their plans, conducting business from inside the walls of the prison, while incarcerated.
Psychopaths in Relationships
If you find yourself dating a sociopath or psychopath, is there anything you can do? No. This is going to end badly, no matter what you do. Challenge them and They will dump you, like garbage, if not something worse, like endless terrorization, or destroying your life completely, which would make them feel truly satisfied.
Marry a psychopath and you will have to put up with his affairs and debauchery. You cannot counsel, medicate, or exorcise the psychopath out of him. If you dare to try to challenge him, he will take you to court and destroy you by manipulating the legal system and using any means possible to exploit you.
What Can You Do?
The best thing you can do is to proactively take steps to protect yourself from the psychopath, which is to basically, have no contact with them, get help, be quiet and don’t talk about what is going on, and stay strong however you can. Be sure to document everything and forgive yourself for letting yourself get into a situation, like this. You did nothing wrong.
Google search: How to Deal with a Psychopath or Psychopath Victims for more information.
FREE EVENT. Open to all victims of predatory psychopaths, sociopaths, or toxic narcissists. Take control of your life, stop the abuse and victimization. Disarm the predator, get your life back, and heal from the trauma from your psychopathic encounter.
Schedule of events:
Full Spectrum Victim Recovery
9:00 a.m.
Class Description: If you feel victimized by life, this attitude will continually create more experiences of victimization.
Mark and Lynetta will lead you through 3 interactive exercises to bust the victim game and reclaim your power. When you transcend Victim Games, you become Victorious in your life and begin the new game of empowered creation.
Class Description: We will learn what PTSD is, as well as signs and symptoms of PTSD in adults as well as children. We will explore some positive ways of coping with PTSD and its fears and anxiety.
Class Description: Toxic people are everywhere, and they’re here to stay. You may not be able to escape them completely, but there are simple tricks that you can use to overcome their toxic behavior. Learn how to come out on top in a confrontational situation without stooping to their level. Take steps to repel psychopaths at every level in your life. And develop the ability to set your life on the right foundation to stand tall above toxicity at every level.
Class Description: Predatory psychopaths are the most harmful members of society, and fortunately 90% of Americans never encounter the dark side of the psychopath who lives and operates on the dangerous end of the antisocial personality disorder spectrum. Often confused with the narcissistic sociopath, the predatory psychopath will drain the life, finances, and any other resources he or she may access, leaving the victim broken and broke. Early detection with a simple psychopath test, and protecting yourself right now can help.
I will be attending this event and will be sharing a case study about my experience with an infamous predatory psychopath, known as Richard W Bennett who reportedly died on October 12, 2015.
Note: This event is open to predatory psychopath victims. In our right to limit access, our intention is to protect victims of psychopaths for whom the event was created. We do expect psychopaths to attend the event. Know that psychopaths will be excluded from the event. We are aware of the skill of psychopaths to masquerade as victims to exploit them and to promote their own agendas. These sheep in wolve’s clothing will be permitted to attend if they do not break character during the event. Upon the identification of any stealthily disguised psychopath in the room, such threats to victims attending and our event will be escorted from the premises.
If you’re a victim of a predatory psychopath, the most important things for you to do is to stop the abuse, get yourself to a safe place in your life, protect yourself from psychopaths, so that you can have sacred space in your life to do the deep work of healing from your psychopathic relationship.
Of course, it would be great to get third-party help or advice, but to do so effectively, you need to find someone who has had first-hand experience with psychopaths, otherwise whoever you’re seeking counsel from has no idea what is going on in real life.
And if you were to be open and honest about the neglect, deceitfulness, sunning manipulation, and toxic abuse that was taking place, chances are no one would believe you. It’s just too much for a rational person to conceive of, unless they know from experience.
If you go to a run of the mill therapist, they might encourage you to prolong the psychopathic relationship while he or she collects data, tries to diagnose your psychopath, while he or she is being conned, if your psychopath is among the most proficient of psychopaths.
No. Stop the abuse first. Then focus on your recovery from your psychopathic exposure.
You might consider attending an event, like the
Victims of Psychopaths Event
October 19th, 2019, Olympia Center
Admittance: FREE
FREE EVENT. Open to all victims of predatory psychopaths, sociopaths, or toxic narcissists. Take control of your life, stop the abuse and victimization. Disarm the predator, get your life back, and heal from the trauma from your psychopathic encounter.
Schedule of events:
How to Deal with a Psychopath
11:45 a.m.
Class Description: Predatory psychopaths are the most harmful members of society, and fortunately 90% of Americans never encounter the dark side of the psychopath who lives and operates on the dangerous end of the antisocial personality disorder spectrum. Often confused with the narcissistic sociopath, the predatory psychopath will drain the life, finances, and any other resources he or she may access, leaving the victim broken and broke. Early detection with a simple psychopath test, and protecting yourself right now can help.
Class Description: Toxic people are everywhere, and they’re here to stay. You may not be able to escape them completely, but there are simple tricks that you can use to overcome their toxic behavior. Learn how to come out on top in a confrontational situation without stooping to their level. Take steps to repel psychopaths at every level in your life. And develop the ability to set your life on the right foundation to stand tall above toxicity at every level.
Class Description: We will learn what PTSD is, as well as signs and symptoms of PTSD in adults as well as children. We will explore some positive ways of coping with PTSD and its fears and anxiety.
In our complex and diverse society, psychopaths can be found among us, lurking in the shadows, preying on unsuspecting individuals. However, what often goes unnoticed is the minute and unique segment of our culture that comprises the victims of psychopaths. These victims navigate a challenging path to recovery, marked by distinct stages on the psychopath victim recovery spectrum. Unraveling the mystery behind these stages can empower us to identify potential victims and extend a helping hand in their journey towards healing.
The Psychopath Victim Recovery Spectrum:
Shock and Denial:
The initial stage on the psychopath victim recovery spectrum is characterized by shock and denial. Victims may struggle to accept the reality of their situation, clinging to the hope that the psychopath’s actions were a mere aberration. Identifying individuals in this stage requires a keen eye for subtle signs of distress, such as increased anxiety, withdrawal from social activities, or difficulty trusting others.
Anger and Betrayal:
As the shock wears off, victims often transition into a stage of intense anger and betrayal. They may grapple with the realization that they were manipulated and deceived. Recognizing a psychopath victim in this stage involves observing heightened emotional responses, outbursts, and a profound sense of injustice.
Grief and Depression:
The next phase involves grieving the loss of trust, innocence, and sometimes, financial or emotional stability. Victims may experience deep sadness and depression as they come to terms with the aftermath of the psychopath’s actions. Indicators of this stage include prolonged periods of withdrawal, loss of interest in once-enjoyed activities, and a pervasive sense of hopelessness.
Acceptance and Empowerment:
Progressing along the recovery spectrum, victims reach a point of acceptance and empowerment. They begin to reclaim their lives, rebuild their self-esteem, and learn from the experience. Identifying individuals in this stage involves observing positive changes in behavior, increased self-confidence, and a renewed sense of purpose.
Identifying Potential Psychopath Victims:
Changes in Behavior:
Watch for sudden and unexplained changes in behavior, such as social withdrawal, mood swings, or a noticeable decline in self-esteem.
Isolation:
Psychopath victims may isolate themselves from friends and family, fearing judgment or believing they cannot trust anyone.
Hyper-Vigilance:
Victims may exhibit hyper-vigilance, constantly anticipating harm or betrayal, as a result of their traumatic experience.
Difficulty Trusting Others:
A profound difficulty in trusting others, even those close to them, can be a clear sign of a psychopath victim.
Assisting Psychopath Victims:
Provide a Supportive Environment:
Creating a safe and non-judgmental space is crucial for psychopath victims to share their experiences. Encourage open communication and active listening.
Offer Professional Help:
Encourage victims to seek professional therapy or counseling to navigate the complex emotions associated with their experience.
Educate on Psychopathy:
Help victims understand the nature of psychopathy, emphasizing that they were not at fault. Knowledge empowers victims and aids in the healing process.
Promote Self-Care:
Support the development of healthy coping mechanisms and self-care routines to foster emotional and mental well-being.
Conclusion:
The victims of psychopaths occupy a unique and often invisible segment of our society. By understanding the stages of the psychopath victim recovery spectrum, we can better identify and assist those who have endured the devastating effects of psychopathic manipulation. Through empathy, education, and a commitment to fostering a supportive community, we can contribute to the healing and empowerment of psychopath victims on their journey towards recovery.
A little about me, I’ve been counseling and consulting since the late seventies/early eighties. Occasionally, in the course of my coaching, I would encounter a client that had to mitigate the damages in their life due to the influence of a third-party individual, a “bad person.”
From my perspective, there were no such thing as bad people, just lost souls wandering aimlessly through life with little regard for others; and so, the advice that I gave to individuals in those days was very different than I might suggest now.
What I learned, was that there are people who are devoid of particular mental, emotional and spiritual components that compromise their humanity when integrating with other persons, we call these people psychopaths, sociopaths and the recent, more political correctly referred to as being on the Antisocial Personality Disorder spectrum.
That said, there are thousands of variables and no two psychopaths are identical, but they do share many similar characteristics.
So, how can you tell if you’re dealing with a psychopath? Here are some common signs that would indicate that you might be dealing with a psychopath in your life:
1. CHARISMATIC
Psychopaths are charismatic and are able to attract supporters easily.
They are wonderful speakers who are able to engage their audience and can easily engage the emotions and attention of those fortunate enough to be in their presence.
They exaggerate stories skewing the truth for their self-serving benefit and will go as far as to lie and place themselves in someone else’s story and claiming it is their own.
2. SMART
Psychopaths are intellectual. They have a gift of having incredibly sharp wit and intelligence enabling them to masquerade as highly-educated as they bob and weave socially in live situations.
This also makes them excellent con artists able to conceive, plan and execute elaborate schemes, while staying one step ahead of the authorities.
3. NO FEELINGS
Psychopaths have no feelings. They do not grieve, are incapable of feeling guilt, shame or remorse, empowering them to easily victimize anyone. They will enthusiastically engage in anything that bolsters their position at someone else’s expense.
They do not love. They are incapable of giving or receiving love, but terribly acute at acting as though they are madly “in love,” if it will help them achieve a desired result.
They are great actors/performers giving them the ability to create any perception of themselves that will achieve for them their desired result.
Even though they can appear to have emotions and use them as tools to manipulate their victims, let there be no doubt, they have no real feelings whatsoever.
4. IMPULSIVE
Psychopaths are impulsive, often acting or speaking without thinking through potential consequences of their words or actions, and are more likely to spontaneously take risks.
They are free of repercussion since they see themselves as above the law or the constraints of the social norm. No social filters, consequences or guilt.
5. WINNERS
Psychopaths never lose. They will dominate anyone who gets in their way, will viciously defend their position, often by telling lies and spinning wild tales in an effort to discredit anyone with the inclination to disagree with them.
If you are naïve enough to challenge them, be aware that they will wield their powers of persuasion to make you look like a fool for questioning them. Which presumes that they believe themselves to be:
6. NEVER WRONG
Psychopaths are always right. They never apologize; do not feel remorse for hurting others and are incapable of feeling guilt.
If asked to apologize, a psychopath will often strike out and attack their victim, rather than admit they may have made a mistake or misstep.
Now ask yourself, is the person you’re dealing with a psychopath?
Are they charismatic, smart, have no feelings, impulsive, always the winner and never wrong?
Chances are, you’re face-to-face with a psychopath.
You’re probably saying to yourself, “I knew it. I knew there was something wrong with that person…” You are realizing that you should rely more on your intuition that may have been warning you when you first met this person that something was not quite right. If only we learn to listen more to our gut, we would live happier, safe and secure lives, free from those who seek to exploit us.
If nothing else, that is the lesson to be learned from encountering a psychopath, is to trust your instincts and to not let yourself be taken advantage of by a cunning predator.
I would not, now, be an expert in the field of psychopathy had I not had my own first-hand experience with an evil psychopath that opened my eyes to the realities of the disorder. And now I have deep regret for all the folks that I was ill-equipped to be compassionate enough to reach out to them appropriately.
In this way, I may have attracted this psychopathic presence in my own life to benefit those whom it is my calling to assist along their life’s journey.
So, we’ve established that you have found yourself to be the unfortunate victim – or mark – of a psychopath, sociopath or someone amidst the antisocial personality disorder spectrum…
What Can You Do About It?
How to Deal With a Psychopath
1. NO CONTACT
The very first thing to do is to create as much separation as you can as soon as possible between yourself and the psychopath.
You need to distance yourself physically, financially, emotionally, spiritually and in any other way possible from the psychopath and cease any and all communication with him or her, period.
Any further communication or contact after correctly identifying a psychopath will only lead to more risk or potential loss to you and yours.
Be aware that as you distance yourself, the psychopath will try to cling to you or play on your emotions in order to further victimize you. Do not fall for their manipulation or pity ploys from this point forward. They will try to appeal to your feeling but keep in mind they have no feelings and no regard for yours, except as a method to further victimize you.
You must cut them off. No contact, means no contact. Though this may not be possible, if you work or live with the psychopath; but that will be an issue to be handled specifically and independently of the scope of this primary message.
2. GET HELP
Next, you will need a strong support system. You should seek out a professional, a counselor or therapist, with experience in dealing with psychopaths. Note that early in my practice, even though individuals sought me out for assistance, I was ill-equipped to offer them the support that they needed at the time.
How can someone understand what you are going through if they do not understand what you are going through… because – and I am as guilty of this as anyone – “things can’t really be all that bad.” But they are, and they can be very bad, and they can get worse if you do not take the appropriate actions.
Seek out a specialist, or at least someone with experience dealing with victims of psychopaths.
3. BE QUIET
Do not talk to your friends about the psychopath. You might think this is a good time to reach out to those in your circle of friends that you can depend on for support, but chances are (if the psychopath has done his or her homework) they have already gotten to them in advance.
If your friends have not been compromised by the psychopath, there is a good chance that they will be, and be forewarned very few people can compete with the ability to manipulate the minds of the unsuspecting, like the psychopath.
Keep things quiet. Do not confront your psychopath, engage in a battle of wits, challenge or attempt an intervention with your psychopath. This will only open you up for further potential pain, suffering, and potential loss.
They psychopath has the uncanny ability to turn anything that you say against you. Don’t give them the opportunity.
4. STAY STRONG
Stay the course. If the psychopath has counter-attacks you, don’t respond.
If you communicate anything to this person it should only be silence. Be steadfast and unshakeable, solid as a rock.
He or she must realize that you cannot be manipulated or be bullied into making any kind of response, no matter what they do or say.
Keep a good posture, positive outlook, smile and be confident (even if you don’t feel like it) at all times.
Any indication of weakness will be seen as an opportunity either to insert themselves or launch another attack.
5. DOCUMENTATION
Document everything. Keep hard copies of everything you can to document any interaction or statements made by your psychopath and keep it at a secure location.
Watch what you say. Act as if every word you speak is being recorded, and may be read to a jury in the future word-for-word, twisting your words and spun out of context in an effort to make you look like a lunatic.
Maybe someday the people who once trusted you will see the truth, but even so, if your psychopath was a masterful one, they will still wonder about you, even after the true colors of the psychopath are made known.
So, don’t hold onto the false hope of one day being vilified of all the illicit accusations that were made against you. In most cases the effects are permanent, though may fade over time. Maybe, in the afterlife…
6. FORGIVE YOURSELF
Most of all, forgive yourself. You were not the perpetrator, here, you were the victim. And as a victim, you may have found yourself invulnerable or compromising situations, and you may feel like the fool. But you were not the fool. Anyone could be victimized by the proficient psychopath and it happens every day in all walks of life and levels of society.
You could not have seen this coming… but now that you are aware, you are less likely to become a victim again… and maybe you can help others to see the signs – or at least be aware – that there are evil people out there, the virtual wolves in sheep’s clothing, who seek to destroy the lives of others without remorse.
Thank you for joining me for this message. It is my hope that this information will help to save you and other from further potential pain, suffering or loss at the hands of the psychopath. Pass this information on to others who may be potential victims.
