Are you feeling down? Do you feel like you’re surrounded by nothing but bad news, failing relationships, and a generally poor outlook for the future ahead? Feeling like you just can’t get a glimpse of happiness in your life?
Let me ask you this:
Do you want to be happy?
THEN STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING
That is to say, if you are not experiencing the level of happiness that you would like to see in your life, then you’re obviously not doing it right. Right?
It’s easy to look around when things look dismal and see others living fascinating lives, having fun, and having generally good lives, and wonder,
How could they do that?
I mean, don’t they know that the world is falling down all around us? Don’t they know that in the United States nearly a thousand kids are sucked into human trafficking and sex rings every day? Our monetary system is failing. People are losing their homes, veterans, and hard-working Americans are losing their jobs and joining the ranks of the homeless. 2 percent of Americans are homeless and their numbers are growing every day. 1 in 7 kids in the United States does not know where their next meal is coming from. We send so much overseas to feed other kids, while ours starve to death at home? Don’t you ever watch the news?
STOP!
Just stop it. Can’t you see what’s going on here?
You’ve fallen for the oldest evil trick in the book. “Keep them in a state of fear because they’re easier to control.”
“They” own the media, and they believe they own you, and if they can control your thoughts, keeping you in a state of fear or negative vibration, then in a sense, they do own you. They can manipulate you, and keep you compliant, in exchange for as little safety and security that you will allow.
Know that at any moment in time, you can opt out of this system which inordinately keeps you bogged down with feeling bad about your life, and life in general.
How have others made the transition from sappy to happy?
This is a journey that starts from within.
Loving yourself unconditionally is where the embers of happiness lay in wait. That means you love yourself “no matter what.” You know sometimes you miss the mark, and that’s okay because no one is perfect, and you love yourself anyway. If you experience a misstep, do not beat up on yourself. You love yourself. Let yourself know that you have learned valuable lessons from the experience and vow to take better care of yourself and do it differently the next time.
You need to love yourself and look out for yourself because no one else will.
You must find ways to feel happy. Make your own opportunities to feel good.
Find and/or make ways to feel good about all the things around you. You, the way you look in the mirror, the car you drive, your home where you live, your family members, friends, acquaintances, coworkers, your possessions, find or make a happy thought and associate it with all these things, and when you think of them, even if initially a negative thought, as soon as you can catch yourself, shift your attention to the happy thought about that person or thing.
You can’t find happiness in stuff, or anything for that matter, as happiness is always changing, growing, and expanding, and that’s the way it should be, as happiness is a reflection of the love-energy which is the source of life. It is never stagnant, so just be aware that your happiness target will always be in a state of metamorphosis. What brings you happiness today, might not tomorrow, so always be on the lookout for new things that raise your happiness quotient.
After a while, you’ll notice that the happiness attained from nice or fancy stuff does not last very long, but the happiness you can find in the things that you accomplish, the new and exciting places you like to visit, the fun activities that you enjoy, and the people you love, these are more meaningful and promote happiness longevity.
And when you stumble and fall, you can smile, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and laugh it off, knowing you’ll do better next time, loving yourself unconditionally all the way. As you start treating yourself this way, you will find yourself more tolerant of others as they stumble and fall. For after all, aren’t we all just doing the best we can with what we have.
When your heart is full of love and overflows into the lives of others around you, you become a love magnet, and even more love comes to you from others and the source of love, as you become more connected to the ever-expanding world of love by which you are swathed.
Wrapping up the month of October, here’s a quick screenshot review of the month’s news. Let me know which ones you like the most. Thanks for your input, -David M Masters
The notion that consciousness forms the basis of reality challenges the traditional perspective that matter is the fundamental building block. In the quantum realm, experiments have shown that the act of observation directly influences the behavior of subatomic particles. This suggests that consciousness is intricately intertwined with the fabric of the universe, giving rise to the physical world we perceive.
Let’s delve into the profound relationship between consciousness and the quantum realm, where experiments have revealed that observation directly impacts the behavior of subatomic particles. The implications of this intimate connection suggest that consciousness plays a pivotal role in shaping the physical world we perceive. By understanding the interplay between consciousness and the fabric of reality, we can unlock the potential for profound personal transformation and tap into the essence of our existence.
The quantum realm, governed by the laws of quantum physics, challenges our traditional understanding of reality. Experiments have shown that the mere act of observation influences the behavior of subatomic particles. This phenomenon, known as the observer effect, suggests that consciousness interacts with and shapes the fabric of the universe at the most fundamental level. It implies that the act of observation itself collapses the wave function, determining the particle’s properties and manifesting a specific outcome. This revelation raises profound questions about the nature of reality and the role of consciousness in its creation.
If consciousness has the power to influence the behavior of subatomic particles, it becomes an active participant in the creation and manifestation of reality. Rather than being passive observers, we become co-creators, intricately connected to the unfolding of the physical world. Our thoughts, intentions, and perceptions have the potential to shape our experiences and the events that manifest in our lives. This realization empowers us to harness the power of consciousness and become intentional architects of our reality.
The fabric of reality reveals a profound interconnectedness between all aspects of existence. Consciousness acts as the unifying force, interweaving the tapestry of the universe. It suggests that the separation between observer and observed, subject and object, is illusory. Instead, everything is interconnected in a web of consciousness, where every observation, thought, and intention ripples through the collective field of existence. This interconnectedness invites us to recognize our inherent unity with all beings and the world around us, fostering a deeper sense of empathy, compassion, and responsibility.
As we deepen our understanding of the fabric of reality, we open doors to profound personal transformation. By expanding our consciousness, we tap into the limitless potential within us and align ourselves with the creative forces of the universe. Through practices such as meditation, mindfulness, and self-reflection, we can heighten our awareness, cultivate a deeper connection with the quantum realm, and enhance our ability to shape our experiences. This journey of expanding consciousness becomes a gateway to unlocking our true potential, embracing our interconnectedness, and creating a more harmonious and fulfilling reality.
The revelation of the fabric of reality invites us to embrace the power of consciousness in our lives. It reminds us that we are not passive bystanders but active participants in the co-creation of our experiences. By cultivating mindfulness, intentionality, and a deeper understanding of the interconnected nature of existence, we can harness the power of consciousness to manifest positive change and align ourselves with the highest possibilities available to us.
Through the interplay between observation, subatomic particles, and the power of consciousness, we come to realize that we are active participants in shaping our experiences and co-creating the world we inhabit. By embracing this understanding, we can tap into our innate potential, expand our consciousness, and embark on a transformative journey of self-discovery and empowerment. May the exploration of the fabric of reality inspire you to embrace the power of consciousness and unlock the extraordinary possibilities that lie within.
So much talk about meditation but there’s nothing to fear, it’s just enjoying a relaxed state of unfocused focus, which enables you to expand your consciousness and wellbeing, empowering you to enjoy a better, higher quality of life.
There may be hesitation to embrace the idea of meditating due to its being strongly associated with mystical and spiritual disciplines. You needn’t worry because you don’t need to believe in anything to receive massive benefits from meditation. Don’t let your preconceived ideas keep you from some safe exploration and experimentation to see for yourself how beneficial meditation can be.
If you seek out information on meditation, you are likely to stumble across a wide variety of methods of meditation, some practitioners will assert some methods are better than others. There is truth to be uncovered here, but meditation is not unlike medication, in that different things will work differently for different people. That said, if you keep an open mind, and are willing to allow yourself to explore the possibilities, you will discover what works best for you, but know that in the practicing of any of the many forms of meditation that you will receive great benefit from the meditating in whatever form you practice.
You need not be concerned about what other people might think about your meditating for it can be done in private without anyone aware that you are even doing it. If you’re living in a busy home with lots of activity, you can go to your room, lock yourself in the bathroom, or meditate while soaking in the tub.
The main thing is to find some solitude and to quiet your mind from all the constant barrage of information and thoughts associated with navigating the world you live in. As you know, your mind is overwhelmed by thoughts about everything all the time. Your family, the bills, other drivers, your to do list, and endless questioning, what’s coming up next for you? What’s happening in my family, with my friends, my community, the world?
And if that wasn’t enough, there’s plenty of (mis-) information constantly vying for your attention to add to the flood of emotional drama and trauma via any method of delivery, though at the moment, the Internet, Google, and social media seem to be the largest purveyors of emotional distractors which overwhelm the average human being, and these distractions are not beneficial to the human condition nor the body.
Meditation helps to mitigate the damages suffered by those of us (any, mot, or all of us) who are suffering the effects of this constant overwhelming thought process which is causing us to deteriorate mentally, emotionally, physiologically, and spiritually (if you are so inclined).
Meditation is a safe and effective method to retreat from all the crazy thoughts and mind chatter which can be exhaustive, even debilitating. In this relaxed, sacred space of meditation, you are able to cleanse your mind and your soul from all the stress, worry, and distractions of the world to find a place of peace in solace.
In this profound emotional state, your body recovers, your cells thrive, blood vessels relax, and your immune system gains power, while you are able to from this place of clear consciousness allow higher thoughts to come to your awareness. This is the place where some of the deepest, meaningful, inspired thoughts, and creations emanate from.
You are in a sense, “in the zone.”
Many people approach this state of mind for many reasons, some for the biological benefits, some for freedom from emotional overload, some for relaxation or peace of mind, and others for inspired data for problem-solving, among hundreds, if not thousands, of other reasons.
Once you start calming your mind, you may find yourself becoming more aware of the natural life which exists all around you. In your meditative state, you may become aware of life going on which you previously took for granted. You will become more aware of your body, feeling your breath, blood pumping, feeling the fabric touching your skin, and the world around you, the dew droplets, the bird singing, the grass growing, etc.
You might associate meditation with the Lotus position, the cross-legged pose of perfect posture, though be aware that this is not necessary, as the vast majority of people who practice meditation do so more casually, for it is far more about function than form. You can practice meditation, comfortably seated in a chair, lying down, standing, or while you are walking, as long as you have the wherewithal to focus and relax. Note that relaxing enough to find yourself “sleeping” is not meditating.
Comfortable, loose-fitting clothing will help you to relax and focus while meditating.
Some people prefer to have a designated space to practice their meditation techniques. If you are so inclined, do create a sacred space where you can feel safe and secure. Decorate your space in such a way that it will make you feel calm, peaceful, serene, creating a soothing, meditative atmosphere.
Not having a lot of distracting sounds can make it easier to concentrate and enter a meditative state more easily. Having a location where your attempt to focus is more likely to be uninterrupted will be helpful. If you have some scented oils that make you feel peaceful, a little aromatherapy while you meditate can be a good thing.
You might feel intimidated if you’ve seen or heard traditional monks chanting, singing sounds, or otherwise vocalizing while meditating. You do not need to do this. They are practicing a mantra or particular ritual which is not necessary. You could hum if it helps you to concentrate and keep from being distracted by the world around you, but I think you will find focusing on your breathing, in and out, is more than satisfactory.
You can meditate with either eyes closed (which is more common) or with your eyes open focused on something, like a flickering flame of a candle.
Meditation is an effective method of releasing tension throughout your body. Once you’ve achieved a meditative state, simply scan each of your body parts silently by name, and as you focus upon it, just allow any tension in that area to release.
There is nothing to fear in practicing meditation. It is 100 percent safe and effective, and there is no wrong way to do it. Just allow yourself to enjoy a bit of experimentation and find out what works best for you.
I’m gonna go enjoy my meditation in my place in space now…
In our society today, we’re seeing work ethic decline at a rapid pace. If you look around your work environment, you see it every day, coworkers doing the bare minimum to get their pay. But there’s something inside you that makes you strive to excel, even in the midst of such mediocrity, as you take work ethic personal integrity to heart.
You see others waiting for their orders, waiting to be told what to do, and if they haven’t been told what to do, you’ll see them leaning back in their chairs, checking their phones, participating on social media, searching for something on the Internet, wandering the halls, playing Candy Crush, or solitaire, while you feel the urge to do something different. You have an inner compulsion to do something to increase your working environment, support the organization, increase your own personal and professional integrity and productivity.
You could be a huge influence on the world around you.
You might look around at the leadership where you work and think that they were endowed with certain stages of life which prepared them for their positions in the organization. Maybe they were born with it, inherited it, or went through expensive training to qualify for it, but there are others hidden within the ranks of staff which have the drive, enthusiasm, and experience in the trenches to make huge contributions and increase productivity exponentially.
Management can be found regularly honing their skills, by taking continuing education classes and courses to expand their knowledge base beyond whatever they may have learned in the past because running any organization effectively is a moving target, especially as general work ethic and commitment to productivity among the workforce declines.
Management teams are made up a variety of individuals who have varying areas of expertise, some are formally trained, and others rise up from within the ranks of an organization. Those who rise up find the decline in a personal commitment to work ethic and professional integrity unsettling.
If you are thinking you’re prime grade material for moving up into management, you might be right. If you are, you will notice that you have a commitment and dedication to life, which you approach much differently than your coworking peers. While others are perfectly content to punch in, and punch out, to get their wage and go home to lay on the couch in front of the tube and drink beer, you can be found studying after work, and engaging in activities which make you feel like you are enhancing your quality of life while doing so.
But if you really have what it takes, you have some good communication skills and are able to influence others to take the high road. While in the trenches, you will find yourself encouraging others to do better, to achieve more, to offer greater contribution to the organization. In a sense, you are like a cheerleader, making others feel better about contributing to the greater good of the organization, and getting them to play (work) with others. These are earmarks of an effective team builder.
You may be in an organization where micromanagement abounds, which generally promotes a lackadaisical working environment, where people are unwilling to work unless they are ordered to do so. This is not a productive work environment and it puts tremendous pressure on management to adopt even more types of pressure to get production numbers out of staff, which leads to poor worker satisfaction and high turnover rates in human resources.
Effective management is more about promoting the vision of the company through empowered workers who share the vision of the organization, who desire to support and receive satisfaction for playing out their role in the best way possible. This is the difference between leadership and dictatorship.
In the most effective organizations, how are they able to get the ranks to join the team and offer their skills, talents, and abilities to support them?
The workers are empowered, they have a clear sense of where the organization is going, they not only see the vision, but they clearly see the part they play is integral in moving the organization from where it is today, to where it wants to be.
Our society has gotten extremely lazy due to technological advances. Back in the day, if you were going on a trip, you had to plan, get fold-out maps printed on large pieces of paper, chart your course from where you were to you wanted to be. This skill (which transfers nicely to management) was lost in our society, because now, when we want to go somewhere, we only need input our destination and don’t have to think or do anything else, except to turn when our phone (or other navigational device) says to turn.
Unfortunately, this is the attitude of the current workforce today. Not to think or do anything until your told to do so.
Of course, this does not apply to you. You’ve taken an interest in the organization where you serve. You know the management, the leaders, their particular styles, the hierarchy, their ideals, goals, challenges, and achievements. You’ve taken interest in these things because for you, this is not just a job, this is your profession, and you feel like having a good working knowledge of your surroundings is a key component in your readiness for joining the ranks of leadership.
You know the workforce cannot be bullied into productivity, they can, though, be encouraged to ins a sense, follow the leader, if they have a powerfully positive leader to follow. You know that if the greater part of the workers could adopt your model of work ethic and professional integrity, this organization would thrive.
Leading in this manner is all about relationship. Building on a foundation of trust and integrity. How you interact, positively influence, and communicate with your people, helps to create a powerful team which is highly supportive and effective.
This relationship exemplifies your ability to connect with the team. Not to worry if it’s not 100% on point, as team building is a process, and it is continually in a metamorphosis to the next level, so persistence and reliability are so important.
The best leaders have good judgement. If you don’t have a natural inclination to quickly assess and given set of circumstances, weigh all the data which is available at the time, and head toward a solution, these are skills which can be learned and honed over time.
These skills in particular will help build relationship throughout all ranks as you can be relied upon to keep the organization positively focused and moving forward without loss of momentum.
The most successful organizations are not dictatorships, they are families. Many family members with varied skills, talents, gifts, and abilities gathered together, supporting each other for the familial organization.
Be aware of the individual strengths and weaknesses of each family member and help create for them environments where they can shine, and the whole family organization becomes more than it’s ingredients. It transforms into a work of art.
Are you ready to make a difference by encouraging others to take a more effective role in the world in terms of work ethic personal integrity?
We all want to be loved, and there’s nothing better than being in the throes of love and passion.
With many years consulting in love and relationships, it’s generally accepted that when two people get together there are going to be problems. All this relationship drama contributes to the bottom line of so many industries in America, it’s not just the relationship coaches, keeping their caseloads maxed out, with the constant struggle of helping couples with their constant struggle.
In the office, there are issues that show up regularly, and every once in awhile, you are truly surprised or shocked by something new. But the struggle remains. My book, 7 Phases of Love, depicts a general path of growth amidst the romantic love spectrum and offers assistance to those on such a journey, as well as tips, tools, and techniques for the people who work with them, assisting couples to navigate the treacherous waters of romantic love.
Oh, yeah, I am David M Masters, Lead Coach, Trainer, and Transfiguration Specialist at St. Paul’s Free University, and you can find out more about me at davidmmasters.com. The word on the street is that St. Paul’s Free University is looking for teachers, trainers, and instructors. If you think you might be interested in joining us to help make the world a better place. Feel free to contact me or talk to any of our presenters here, today.
The 7 phases of love follow the path from hormonal, horn honking, drooling, lust-driven love, all the way to the harmonic love frequency fully honoring each other in positive partnership.
No matter where you are on your love journey, there are bound to be some challenges along the way, and at any time, either you, your partner or both of you can call it quits and walk away.
Call it quits?
That’s worldly love, and you know what I’m talking about. The kind of love that’s like a disease that eats away at your heart until there’s nothing left. No love. Love is a heart-eating disease.
Love is like a poisonous virus that spreads the highly contagious disease of love’s toxins that promote possessiveness, jealousy, envy, suspicion, bitterness, dishonesty, controlling, abuse, and the judgment of others and yourself.
You’ve loved, stood there in faith, totally open and naked to your partner, and where did that get you? Far more misery than pleasure, that’s for sure. It’s no wonder you want to bail out of the love boat. Who wouldn’t?
Especially in our present-day society, where relationships are disposable, and in worldly love, “the world” profits when relationships thrive, and even more when they fail.
It is easier to walk away (and far more profitable for the powers that be) than it is to do the work necessary to create a sustainable relationship. So, at the first sight of something you don’t like in a relationship, you start looking for the EXIT sign.
Anyone want to know what the Top 10 Reasons Relationships Fail are?
Top 10 Reasons Relationships Fail
basic compatibility
communication styles
disinterest
abuse
lack of trust
betrayal
unmet expectations
unfulfilled obligations
money issues
infidelity
Of course, this is an over-simplification of what is really going on behind the scenes because you have a lifetime of accumulated pain, wounds, and emotional triggers, that cause you to recoil at the first hint of trouble (even if there is no actual trouble at hand).
Your friends will counsel you to, “Run, David, run!” because they don’t want to see you suffer needlessly (or again), plus, they miss your uninterrupted attention. There’s a good chance that your best friends see their relationship with you as far more meaningful than that of your mate, and in those times when things are not looking good, they can taunt you with, “See, I told you so.”
You might be surprised that your friends are really not looking out for your best interests in your partnership relationship as much as they are their relationship with you, and there may have been some building animosity since you’ve been distracted by your love relationship.
So, things are not going as well as you might like them to, and that’s when you find yourself in my office, or the office of any of my contemporaries, asking, “Is there hope for us?”
Relationship counselors make bank on your struggle in relationships. The more dysfunction, the more money the therapists make. When you come in as a couple, we get a hundred bucks. When you drift further apart and come in separately, we make twice as much.
We do our best to coach you through the 7 phases of love, and the further you progress, the easier it gets.
And we expend our greatest efforts to help you negotiate as we mediate and try to help you discuss and argue about your relationship endlessly, making agreements, and promises to each other in our presence, knowing that as soon as you leave the office, all bets are off.
It’s just deteriorated too much for far too long. You’ve tried to fake it till you make it, and you just can’t take it anymore.
But totally bailing out is hard, and frightening. I mean, take a look around at all the other relationships you can see self-destructing before your very eyes, and you’ve heard the horror stories. The heartbreak, the battles over this and that.
It’s no wonder you feel helpless, hopeless, like a victim, or a prisoner in your own life.
Can you make it work?
Yes, with enough hard work, if both partners cooperate, and pay a relationship coach to help level the playing field, you can find a way to make your relationship work.
Let’s face it, you’re two different people, and you’re supposed to aspire to becoming “one?”
Is that possible?
Yes, you can each remain to be fully yourselves, and combined, the two of you culminate in another entity, as a couple, your relationship is expressed as another being, not unlike a corporation, and incorporation of two souls into one entity.
But rarely does this happen naturally, usually, it is due to patience, sacrifice, and lots of hard, sometimes painful work. And amidst all the hard work and pain of trying to work it out, it’s easier, to say,
“I’m out.”
And if you bail out, the system profits wildly from your decision.
The system profits from two households being supported when there used to be one. Everything from toiletries to insurance rates and taxes go up.
There is hope?
And there is. And it can be summed up in these two words,
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Which sounds so wonderfully romantic.
What does it mean?
It means your partner will love and respect you 24/7. Isn’t that what you want? Isn’t that what we all want?
You want to be with someone who trusts you. Who doesn’t question you? Who allows you to be the person you really are?
You want this unconditional lover not to question your underlying motives, constantly asking about your whereabouts when you’re out of sight.
You want someone who loves you no matter what. No matter what challenges you may face in life. Just to be there, supporting you, in the knowledge that everything will work out okay.
If you need help, he or she will be there for you, supporting you, loving you, without accusation or judgment.
When you boil it down to its simplest form, you want someone who loves you unconditionally. Someone who will hold your hands tenderly yet firmly, look you in the eyes, and say to you from the bottom of their heart,
“I love you no matter what.”
No matter what you say, no matter what you do, I love you.
No matter what happens, what challenges you may face, I will be here for you, loving you, no matter what.
Wow! That’s it!
THAT is unconditional love, and we all want that.
Do you want that?
If you do, say it by declaring a resounding, “Yes!” (Yes.)
In order for you to get what you want, that unconditional love, you need to define what that looks like for you.
Take three minutes and write down at least 10 ways that you know you will feel like you are loved unconditionally by your partner. Ready? Go…
What are the ways you know you can feel totally loved and accepted unconditionally by your partner? Write them down.
Some ideas: Believes me, doesn’t argue, challenge or debate with me. Does not lay down the law. Doesn’t threaten the relationship by threatening to walk out. Loves me just the way I am, warts and all. Cherishes all the little things I do for us. Listens to what I have to say. Negotiates with me, so that we both can have what we want out of life. Wants to support and work with me for the greater good. Never raises his or her voice, threatens, or abuses. Wants to show me love when I need it, when I want it. Loves and respects me, my family, my hobbies, my potential.
Whatever it is for you, write it down.
This list represents how you know you are loved unconditionally.
You say, Oh, yeah, baby, I want a man or a woman, like that.
And if you’re in a relationship with someone, right now, unless you are our hosts today, Mark and Lynetta, you’re thinking I need to find someone, like that because my partner is not capable of being what I want.
And this is the one biggest key in a sustainable loving relationship:
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE.
If you really want it, let me hear it from you again, and say, “Yes!” (Yes)
Now, keeping all that in mind, here’s something that you might find as interesting as I do:
When I ask a client if he or she wants unconditional love, they enthusiastically declare how much they really want to be loved unconditionally, no matter what.
But when I ask them if they are willing to
LOVE THEIR PARTNER NO MATTER WHAT
Their response is a resounding,
HELL NO!
We want it. We want it more than anything, but we’re unwilling to give it, and therein lies the rub.
In these workshops, we take the love relationship to a whole new level, far beyond the 7 phases of love, where we work with people in traditional relationship counseling.
In traditional or “worldly love,” unconditional love is not possible because we get in the way of giving it. It’s not that we don’t want it, because we want it desperately, but, for the most part, we do not have the ability to give it within ourselves.
In awakened love, in contrast to worldly love, the couple is encouraged to focus more on truly loving one’s self, more than trying to impress or serve the other person in the relationship.
Once they’ve done the work of cleansing, removing blockages, and healing wounds from the past, they are in a far better place to truly love themselves.
Following this sacred work, the couple is able to fully open up and allow their love to overflow to the other partner.
The competition fades away and the two can truly become one. Both individuals, completely separate but together unlimited possibility and extremely powerful in the world working in perfect harmony.
We have a ceremony at the conclusion of the Awakening to True Love Workshop where we release all those things that stand between us and the authentic true love we desire, and send it off in a burning love lantern, and those things that held us back soars off with the glowing lantern.
And I’ve done this often enough to know, the question that is on your lips, right now:
“What happens, if it doesn’t work?”
It always works, 100 percent of the time.
Your lives can grow apart, and in an awakened love relationship, you can both agree to go your separate ways, no harm, no foul. Without guilt or blame, only love. True love.
This is the nature of true love.
If we are meant to be, then fine. If not, then, fine. God bless you, and God bless me, as we make our own way to our destiny, wherever that might be.
It’s a little like dropping your partner off at the airport.
I love you no matter what.
In awakened love, love is unconditional. I love me so much I can love you no matter what.
I love you no matter what you think.
I love you no matter what you say.
I love you no matter what you do.
And if we’re no longer meant to be? I love you then, too.
I love you enough to let you do whatever you need to do, even if it’s without me.
That is unconditional love.
My name’s David M. Masters, and you can find out more about me at davidmmasters.com
Opportunities are everywhere, but not everyone sees or approaches them the same way. People’s reactions to opportunity depend on their personality, motivations, and past experiences. Some take action immediately, some hesitate, and others manipulate situations to benefit themselves.
At some point, among those seeking growth and expansion of any kind, entertaining opportunities can be essential in progressing to the next level.
Understanding these thought frameworks helps you align with the right people, avoid wasted effort, and maximize your chances of success. I’ve tried to break down the different behaviors people exhibit when faced with opportunity and this helps me use or share with them strategies on how to best work with them or those whom they might be offered opportunities from.
This is my list of distinct behavioral styles that define how people interact with opportunity, along with real-world examples, famous figures, and celebrity case studies, that you might find helpful. Note that these are subject to change. If I’ve left some out, give me a head’s up.
Behavioral Styles and Their Responses to Opportunity
Behavior Name
Personality Trait
Motive
Example Phrase
The Empty Dreamer
Idealistic, Imaginative
Loves ideas but avoids execution
“I have a great idea; you do it, and we’ll split the rewards!”
The Semi-Optimistic Realist
Balanced, Practical
Open to opportunity but weighs risks carefully
“That could work, but let’s figure out the best way forward.”
The Fear-Driven Avoider
Cautious, Risk-Averse
Conditioned by fear, upbringing, or past failures
“I’d love to, but what if it doesn’t work?”
The Silent Observer
Reserved, Analytical
Watches others succeed or fail before deciding
“Let’s see how this plays out for others first.”
The Opportunistic Exploiter
Self-Serving, Strategic
Seeks to benefit from others’ effort with little input
“I know someone who can do all the work for us!”
The Excited Dabbler
Enthusiastic, Impulsive
Chases every opportunity without deep commitment
“This is the best idea ever! Let’s start right now!”
The Perpetual Skeptic
Critical, Doubtful
Prefers stability and resists new opportunities
“That sounds too good to be true. There’s got to be a catch.”
The Risk-Tolerant Doer
Bold, Action-Oriented
Sees opportunity as a challenge worth pursuing
“Let’s take the leap and figure it out along the way.”
The Delegating Director
Visionary, Leader
Wants to oversee but not handle details
“I’ll provide guidance, but you handle the execution.”
The Opportunistic Friend
Friendly, Resourceful
Sees opportunity as a way to benefit a social circle
“I know someone who could be perfect for this!”
The Overanalyzing Hesitator
Detail-Oriented, Perfectionist
Wants absolute certainty before taking action
“Let’s research it more before we commit.”
The Shortcut Seeker
Impatient, Opportunistic
Wants the fastest path to success, often at others’ expense
“There’s a way to get this done with half the effort.”
The “I’ll Wait for a Sign” Believer
Spiritual, Passive
Prefers external validation before acting
“If it’s meant to be, the right signs will appear.”
The Lone Wolf
Independent, Self-Sufficient
Prefers solo ventures, avoids reliance on others
“I’d rather do this alone so I don’t have to depend on anyone.”
The Burned Skeptic
Experienced, Guarded
Previously betrayed or failed, now distrustful
“I’ve seen this fail before. Be careful.”
The Ladder Climber
Ambitious, Status-Seeking
Chooses opportunities based on personal career advancement
“This could be a great stepping stone for me!”
The Predatory Sociopath
Deceptive, Manipulative
Exploits opportunity with no regard for ethics
“Let’s work together—I’ll handle the details, just trust me.”
Your own approach to opportunity affects how you should engage with others. Here’s a quick guide based on your personality type:
If you’re an action-taker (Risk-Tolerant Doer, Semi-Optimistic Realist):
Partner with Silent Observers or Perpetual Skeptics for balanced decision-making.
Avoid Empty Dreamers and Shortcut Seekers, as they may waste your time.
If you’re analytical (Silent Observer, Perpetual Skeptic, Overanalyzing Hesitator):
Work with Semi-Optimistic Realists for practical risk assessment.
Be cautious of Excited Dabblers who may rush you into poorly planned ventures.
If you’re visionary (Delegating Director, Ladder Climber):
Surround yourself with Risk-Tolerant Doers who can execute your ideas.
Avoid Opportunistic Exploiters, as they may take credit for your ideas.
If you’re a social connector (Opportunistic Friend, Excited Dabbler):
Use your network to bring in talent but ensure your enthusiasm doesn’t lead to superficial commitments.
Pair with Lone Wolves cautiously—they may not need or appreciate networking.
If you’re cautious (Fear-Driven Avoider, Burned Skeptic):
Partner with Semi-Optimistic Realists for logical reassurance.
Avoid Opportunistic Exploiters, who may take advantage of your fear.
Recognizing how people approach opportunity helps you form the right alliances, protect yourself from time-wasters, and ensure you engage with people who align with your work style. No approach is inherently bad—each serves a purpose in the right context—but knowing who you’re dealing with allows you to navigate opportunities more effectively.
Understanding how different people approach opportunity can help you navigate collaborations, make smarter business decisions, and avoid time-wasters. Below, we expand on each archetype with deeper insights and real-world examples of well-known figures who embody these behaviors.
Breakdown of Each Behavioral Style with Famous Examples
The Empty Dreamer
Personality Trait: Idealistic, Imaginative
Motive: Loves ideas but avoids execution
Example Phrase:“I have a great idea; you do it, and we’ll split the rewards!”
Famous Example:Nikola Tesla (Later Years) – Tesla had revolutionary ideas, but his lack of business acumen led to financial ruin. Unlike Edison, he didn’t capitalize on his inventions, often giving ideas away rather than implementing them himself.
How to Work with Them: Use them for brainstorming, but don’t rely on them for execution. They need strong partners who turn ideas into reality.
The Semi-Optimistic Realist
Personality Trait: Balanced, Practical
Motive: Open to opportunity but weighs risks carefully
Example Phrase:“That could work, but let’s figure out the best way forward.”
Famous Example:Warren Buffett – Known for his calculated risk-taking, Buffett doesn’t jump at every opportunity. He studies investments deeply and makes informed decisions.
How to Work with Them: Collaborate with them if you want a rational approach to opportunity. They provide valuable risk assessment without being overly negative.
The Fear-Driven Avoider
Personality Trait: Cautious, Risk-Averse
Motive: Conditioned by fear, upbringing, or past failures
Example Phrase: “I’d love to, but what if it doesn’t work?”
Famous Example:Jay Leno – Avoided risks in digital media, sticking to traditional formats while competitors embraced change.
How to Work with Them: Encourage calculated risk-taking with small, manageable steps. Provide data to ease concerns.
The Silent Observer
Personality Trait: Reserved, Analytical
Motive: Watches others succeed or fail before deciding
Example Phrase: “Let’s see how this plays out for others first.”
Famous Example:Keanu Reeves – Thoughtfully chooses projects, avoiding trends and preferring longevity over hype.
How to Work with Them: Provide them with case studies and proven results before expecting a decision.
The Opportunistic Exploiter
Personality Trait: Self-Serving, Strategic
Motive: Seeks to benefit from others’ effort with little input
Example Phrase: “I know someone who can do all the work for us!”
Famous Example:Elizabeth Holmes – Built Theranos by leveraging investor trust while deceiving the public.
How to Work with Them: Set firm boundaries and demand transparency in business dealings.
The Excited Dabbler
Personality Trait: Enthusiastic, Impulsive
Motive: Chases every opportunity without deep commitment
Example Phrase: “This is the best idea ever! Let’s start right now!”
Famous Example:Will Smith – Explored acting, music, social media, and motivational speaking without deep specialization.
How to Work with Them: Channel their enthusiasm into structured projects with clear milestones.
The Perpetual Skeptic
Personality Trait: Critical, Doubtful
Motive: Prefers stability and resists new opportunities
Example Phrase: “That sounds too good to be true. There’s got to be a catch.”
Famous Example:Simon Cowell – Doubts new talent until proven otherwise.
How to Work with Them: Provide logical arguments and tangible proof before expecting commitment.
The Risk-Tolerant Doer
Personality Trait: Bold, Action-Oriented
Motive: Sees opportunity as a challenge worth pursuing
Example Phrase: “Let’s take the leap and figure it out along the way.”
Famous Example:Elon Musk – Invested heavily in Tesla and SpaceX despite the risks.
How to Work with Them: Complement their risk-taking with sound strategy and planning.
The Delegating Director
Personality Trait: Visionary, Leader
Motive: Wants to oversee but not handle details
Example Phrase: “I’ll provide guidance, but you handle the execution.”
Famous Example:Oprah Winfrey – Built an empire by empowering others while maintaining a strong vision.
How to Work with Them: Ensure they provide clear direction and don’t just pass responsibility.
The Opportunistic Friend
Personality Trait: Friendly, Resourceful
Motive: Sees opportunity as a way to benefit a social circle
Example Phrase: “I know someone who could be perfect for this!”
Famous Example:Kris Jenner – Turned networking into a billion-dollar family brand.
How to Work with Them: Leverage their connections while verifying the value of their introductions.
The Overanalyzing Hesitator
Personality Trait: Detail-Oriented, Perfectionist
Motive: Wants absolute certainty before taking action
Example Phrase: “Let’s research it more before we commit.”
Famous Example:Leonardo DiCaprio – Known for taking years to choose roles, ensuring each film aligns with his vision but sometimes missing out on major opportunities.
How to Work with Them: Encourage them to set decision deadlines. Remind them that perfection is the enemy of progress.
The Shortcut Seeker
Personality Trait: Impatient, Opportunistic
Motive: Wants the fastest path to success, often at others’ expense
Example Phrase: “There’s a way to get this done with half the effort.”
Famous Example:Elizabeth Holmes – Attempted to bypass real scientific progress in favor of shortcuts, leading to the downfall of Theranos.
How to Work with Them: Be cautious when working with them. Verify claims and ensure they don’t cut corners that could lead to long-term damage.
The “I’ll Wait for a Sign” Believer
Personality Trait: Spiritual, Passive
Motive: Prefers external validation before acting
Example Phrase: “If it’s meant to be, the right signs will appear.”
Famous Example:Paulo Coelho – The author of The Alchemist often speaks about fate and divine signs leading to opportunities, shaping his worldview.
How to Work with Them: Encourage them to take active steps toward their goals rather than waiting for external signs. Show them that action creates opportunity.
The Lone Wolf
Personality Trait: Independent, Self-Sufficient
Motive: Prefers solo ventures, avoids reliance on others
Example Phrase: “I’d rather do this alone so I don’t have to depend on anyone.”
Famous Example:Steve Jobs – Known for his independent vision and perfectionism, Jobs often preferred working in solitude before unveiling his innovations.
How to Work with Them: Respect their need for independence but show them the benefits of collaboration. Encourage team efforts without forcing them.
The Burned Skeptic
Personality Trait: Experienced, Guarded
Motive: Previously betrayed or failed, now distrustful
Example Phrase: “I’ve seen this fail before. Be careful.”
Famous Example:Mark Cuban – Frequently skeptical of business pitches on Shark Tank due to past failed investments.
How to Work with Them: Provide data-driven proof and reassurances, but don’t force trust—let them build confidence at their own pace.
The Ladder Climber
Personality Trait: Ambitious, Status-Seeking
Motive: Chooses opportunities based on personal career advancement
Example Phrase: “This could be a great stepping stone for me!”
Famous Example:Jeff Bezos – Built Amazon not just as a business but as a stepping stone to larger industries like space exploration.
How to Work with Them: Align interests so that collaboration benefits both parties. Be mindful that they may move on once they’ve achieved their goal.
The Predatory Sociopath
Personality Trait: Deceptive, Manipulative
Motive: Exploits opportunity with no regard for ethics
Example Phrase: “Let’s work together—I’ll handle the details, just trust me.”
Famous Example:Bernie Madoff – Ran the largest Ponzi scheme in history, manipulating trust to amass billions.
How to Work with Them: Be extremely cautious. Set clear legal boundaries, verify claims, and avoid emotional manipulation. Trust must be earned through consistent, verifiable actions.
Celebrity Examples for Each Behavior Type
Observing these behavioral styles through the personalities of well-known celebrities can help you quickly and easily identify these traits when you encounter similar scenarios.
The Empty Dreamer → Kanye West
Why? Kanye has visionary ideas in fashion, tech, and culture but frequently fails to follow through or executes poorly.
Example: His “Donda STEM school” project closed mysteriously with little to show for it.
Takeaway: Dreamers need strong executors to turn ideas into reality.
Celebrity Empty Dreamers:
Kanye West – Constantly announces grand projects but often fails to deliver.
Lindsay Lohan – Has had numerous ambitious projects (music, fashion) that never materialized.
Amanda Bynes – Frequently discusses comeback plans but struggles with follow-through.
The Semi-Optimistic Realist → Tom Hanks
Why? Hanks carefully selects roles, avoids hype-driven projects, and stays reliable and stable in Hollywood.
Example: Passed on roles that seemed too risky (e.g., Jerry Maguire), but his choices pay off long-term.
Takeaway: Balancing optimism and caution leads to a sustainable career.
Celebrity Semi-Optimistic Realists:
Tom Hanks – Known for his careful, balanced choice of roles.
Emma Watson – Thoughtfully chooses projects aligned with her values and activism.
Ryan Reynolds – Balances blockbuster roles with entrepreneurial ventures like Aviation Gin.
The Fear-Driven Avoider → Jay Leno
Why? Leno refused to embrace new media and digital platforms, missing opportunities that younger comedians seized.
Example: While Jimmy Fallon and Conan O’Brien adapted to social media, Leno hesitated and fell behind.
Takeaway: Fear of change limits growth—adapting is crucial.
Celebrity Fear-Driven Avoiders:
Jay Leno – Avoided major industry changes, leading to career stagnation.
Meg Ryan – Turned down blockbuster roles out of fear of typecasting.
Jack Nicholson – Avoided public appearances and new roles, citing discomfort with fame.
The Silent Observer → Keanu Reeves
Why? Reeves stays quiet in industry debates, rarely taking sides or rushing into projects.
Example: Chose not to engage in The Matrix Resurrections controversy, letting the results speak for themselves.
Takeaway: Patience and observation can lead to long-term respect and success.
Celebrity Silent Observers:
Keanu Reeves – Lets his actions and projects speak louder than words.
Daniel Day-Lewis – Rarely seen in public, takes long breaks between films to carefully choose roles.
Adele – Keeps her personal life private, letting her music speak for itself.
The Opportunistic Exploiter → Billy McFarland (Fyre Festival)
Why? Manipulated investors and customers into believing in a luxury festival that never existed.
Example: Raised millions for Fyre Festival, only to leave attendees stranded without accommodations.
Takeaway: Beware of charismatic leaders who overpromise and underdeliver.
Celebrity Opportunistic Exploiters:
Billy McFarland – Infamous for the fraudulent Fyre Festival.
Elizabeth Holmes – Sold investors on non-existent medical technology.
Anna Delvey (Sorokin) – Convinced high society she was a wealthy heiress while living on deception.
The Excited Dabbler → Miley Cyrus
Why? Constantly reinvents herself in music, film, and fashion but often abandons projects quickly.
Example: Jumped from Disney pop star to rebellious rocker to country artist, shifting her image rapidly.
Takeaway: Reinvention is powerful, but long-term consistency is key to sustained success.
Celebrity Excited Dabblers:
Miley Cyrus – Frequently changes artistic direction, sometimes alienating fans.
James Franco – Dabbles in acting, directing, writing, and academia, often spreading himself thin.
Will Smith – Ventures into various industries, sometimes lacking sustained focus.
The Perpetual Skeptic → Gordon Ramsay
Why? Highly critical in the kitchen, often doubting new chefs’ abilities until proven otherwise.
Example: Challenges contestants intensely before acknowledging their skills.
Takeaway: Skepticism can be useful, but excessive doubt can hinder opportunity.
Celebrity Perpetual Skeptics:
Simon Cowell – Highly doubtful of emerging talent until they prove themselves.
Gordon Ramsay – Strictly evaluates chefs before showing any confidence in their abilities.
Larry David – His humor is rooted in skepticism and questioning societal norms.
The Risk-Tolerant Doer → Richard Branson
Why? Entered multiple high-risk industries, from airlines to commercial space travel.
Example: Founded Virgin Galactic, despite skepticism about the viability of space tourism.
Takeaway: Risk-taking can lead to massive rewards when backed by persistence and adaptability.
Celebrity Risk-Tolerant Doers:
Elon Musk – Takes bold risks in technology and space exploration.
Lady Gaga – Reinvents her musical style and public persona with each album.
Richard Branson – Diversifies into risky ventures like space tourism and adventure businesses.
The Delegating Director → George Lucas
Why? Created Star Wars but delegated much of the execution to other directors and producers.
Example: Sold Lucasfilm to Disney while retaining creative influence.
Takeaway: Visionaries must ensure their delegates execute effectively.
Celebrity Delegating Directors:
Oprah Winfrey – Oversees her empire while allowing others to manage operations.
George Lucas – Delegated execution while maintaining creative influence.
Martha Stewart – Built a brand while relying on teams to execute business strategies.
The Opportunistic Friend → Andy Cohen
Why? Uses his extensive network to create media opportunities and reality show success.
Example: Developed The Real Housewives franchise by leveraging industry connections.
Takeaway: Building strong networks can be as valuable as individual talent.
Celebrity Opportunistic Friends:
Kris Jenner – Uses her network to create opportunities for the Kardashian brand.
Andy Cohen – Capitalized on industry connections to become a media mogul.
Paris Hilton – Built a global brand by strategically leveraging friendships and social circles.
The Overanalyzing Hesitator → Joaquin Phoenix
Why? Takes extensive time to choose roles, often second-guessing projects before committing.
Example: Passed on multiple mainstream roles that could have elevated his career much earlier.
Takeaway: Hesitation can prevent action. Calculated risk-taking is necessary.
Celebrity Overanalyzing Hesitators:
Leonardo DiCaprio – Chooses roles meticulously, sometimes missing big opportunities.
Joaquin Phoenix – Overanalyzes career moves, leading to delays in major projects.
Lauryn Hill – Hesitates to release music, fearing it won’t meet past success.
The Shortcut Seeker → Billy McFarland (Fyre Festival)
Why? Sought fame and financial gain through shortcuts rather than building something sustainable.
Example: Promised an exclusive luxury festival but failed to provide even basic accommodations.
Takeaway: Shortcuts may bring quick wins but often lead to long-term failure.
Celebrity Shortcut Seekers:
Billy McFarland – Built a fraudulent music festival to gain fast wealth.
Elizabeth Holmes – Faked Theranos’ capabilities instead of following proper scientific protocols.
Jordan Belfort – Used illegal financial shortcuts to build a fortune, later leading to his arrest.
The “I’ll Wait for a Sign” Believer → Oprah Winfrey
Why? Often credits fate, intuition, and divine guidance in making career decisions.
Example: Turned down certain projects because they didn’t feel “aligned” with her purpose.
Takeaway: Intuition is valuable, but action is necessary to seize opportunities.
Celebrity “I’ll Wait for a Sign” Believers:
Oprah Winfrey – Uses intuition and spiritual beliefs to guide career choices.
Jim Carrey – Famously wrote himself a $10 million check, trusting that success would follow.
Paulo Coelho – Believes in destiny guiding personal and professional choices.
The Lone Wolf → Elon Musk
Why? Prefers to take control of major ventures, often making decisions without external input.
Example: Took personal financial risks to keep Tesla and SpaceX afloat, refusing outside interference.
Takeaway: Independence is powerful, but collaboration can accelerate success.
Celebrity Lone Wolves:
Elon Musk – Often works in isolation, making decisions that surprise even his teams.
Steve Jobs – Relied on personal vision and innovation rather than consensus.
Prince (Musician) – Took full control of his music and career, refusing industry norms.
The Burned Skeptic → Anthony Bourdain
Why? Highly critical of food industry trends due to past experiences with culinary frauds and dishonest business practices.
Example: Publicly called out misleading marketing in the restaurant industry.
Takeaway: Skepticism is useful but can sometimes limit openness to new ideas.
Celebrity Burned Skeptics:
Mark Cuban – Evaluates deals cautiously after experiencing failed investments.
Anthony Bourdain – Distrusted food trends and industry fads due to prior bad experiences.
Dave Chappelle – Left the entertainment industry for years after feeling exploited.
The Ladder Climber → Kim Kardashian
Why? Consistently uses media opportunities to build her empire, moving from reality TV to business and law.
Example: Leveraged her fame to transition into fashion, cosmetics, and legal reform.
Takeaway: Ambition is powerful, but relationships should be nurtured along the way.
Celebrity Ladder Climbers:
Kim Kardashian – Transitioned from reality TV to billion-dollar business ventures.
Jeff Bezos – Used Amazon as a stepping stone to larger ventures like Blue Origin.
Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson – Shifted from wrestling to acting to business expansion.
The Predatory Sociopath → Elizabeth Holmes
Why? Deceived investors, employees, and the public by falsifying medical technology claims.
Example: Built Theranos into a billion-dollar fraud before being exposed.
Takeaway: Always verify claims and ensure ethical foundations in business.
Celebrity Predatory Sociopaths:
Bernie Madoff – Orchestrated the largest financial fraud in history.
Elizabeth Holmes – Manipulated trust to build a fraudulent biotech empire.
Jeffrey Epstein – Used wealth and influence to exploit and manipulate others.
These different thought frameworks shape how people respond to opportunities. Recognizing these traits can help you:
Partner wisely with people whose approach complements yours.
Avoid time-wasters who won’t contribute meaningfully.
Use the right strategies to persuade hesitant or skeptical individuals.
This is also a very handy tool for coaches. I have offered it to my Olympian Life Coach graduates, and they love it. Mayne you could find some use for it.
You ever notice how many distractions abound in the world around you? It seems like every second of every day, you are hit with a constant barrage of data, information, unsettling news, wild stories, other people’s complaints, things that bother or upset you, life tugging on your shirt vying for your attention. It’s as if there was an unseen force exerting itself via any means available to keep you from doing what it is that you want to (or need to) do.
Especially, if you’ve done the work of determining what your Purpose, Message, Passion, and Mission (PMPM) in life is. You’ve discovered what will bring you real satisfaction, joy, peace, and harmony in life, but all these constant distractions are keeping you from focusing on fully living the life you were intended to live.
What if everything that distracts you was designed to do just that?
What if there was an entity comprised of individuals and/or energies whose entire purpose was to keep you from achieving your highest and best? What if this group, organization, or other type of entity was charged only with your distraction 24/7? To design a constant flow of data and/or drama to interrupt any divine thought you might have about being all that you could be?
Hmm…
There is no doubt, that every time you try to focus on doing something massively good, really making a valid contribution to your family, community, or the world at large, what happens?
You are interrupted by distraction. Sometimes the distraction is just a part of ordinary life, in other times it is Earth-shattering. Interestingly enough, the result is the same.
Any momentum you may have gained building toward your heart’s desire, fulfilling your purpose, spreading your message, engaging in those activities that you are passionate about, while accomplishing your life’s sacred mission, is lost in a heartbeat when you stroll is completely disrupted by anything but that which you would love to have active in your life.
It’s the commercial about abused animals, it’s the neighbors arguing loudly in the middle of the night, it’s the dent in your car which showed up while it was safely parked, it’s the lack of finances, it’s the inconsistencies your noticing in your partner, it’s the feeling like you’re not being recognized for your contributions, it’s the Facebook meme that infuriates you, it’s the unexpected attention of an old friend (or foe) from the past, its any of 35,000 things that interrupt your thoughts and intentions every day.
Do you think its any coincidence that all this news, the rumors, and circumstances are slowing your roll or derailing your train of thought constantly all day, all night, long?
No.
Think about it.
What if you were able to achieve your highest and best, to live a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place? What impact would that have on your family, friends, community, and the world?
Maybe, if one person could break through the muck and mire of everyday existence to answer their life’s calling, the system might be able to quash the inspired murmurings of one person. One. But what about two, or more? What about hundreds, or thousands, of inspired individuals reaching for the stars, embracing their own power, and having a massive impact? What would happen then?
The system which represents the life we’ve all come to expect as “normal,” the profiting of the few off the backs of the many, would no longer be sustainable. The system would collapse, and an enlightened people would rise up with true individual valuation and freedom, unencumbered by the profiteers.
In the meantime, none of us (because I include myself in the equation) is exempt from the constant attention-grabbing tsunami which fights to keep us distracted from achieving our highest and best.
I can hear a horrifying story on the news and be completely disempowered in the moment, just as any one of us would be.
Psst… (here’s a secret): If I allow them to throw me off-track, they’ve won, again. They’ve won.
But…
There is a way to thwart the power-hungry “powers that be” (I intentionally put that in quotations because I think their days are numbered) who seek to keep an unenlightened populace enslaved can be challenged.
But it’s up to us (you and me) to recognize all those distractions for what they are. It’s all illusion, just smoke and mirrors, designed to keep us from achieving our full potential and evolving into the next generation of Earthlings which will emerge is a power unlike any other known in the universe.
So, the next time you see it (whatever it is), see it for what it is: a distraction. You may acknowledge it, the importance of it, but then quickly refocus your attention on those things which feed your soul and promote your life’s work.
Don’t let them distract you anymore.
Whatever it is, it is not your department. If it is outside of your direct control, it is what it is. Let it be, and keep moving forward.
Then, let them deal with you, and all of us who are joining you in the evolutionary expansion of mankind.
As we do, each of us individually and all of us collectively, their system will crumble and fall to the ground.
Our expansion and authentic freedom is just around the corner (and they are not liking it. Not one bit).
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Bruce and I were competing in a musical talent contest. He had a band, and I was a solo guitarist performance. Bruce’s band won the contest, I was proud of him, but disappointed that I did not win. I could have just quit playing guitar and thrown in the towel (which crossed my mind) but I decided to carry on. As confirmation of my refusal to give up, I was approached to teach guitar at school, which I did.
I could have chosen to quit, but instead decided to commit to keep going forward, and received reward for my decision to do so.
Later in life, Bruce and I played in a band together for a while, until our lives took different paths. We’re still acquainted, thanks to Facebook. Good times.
When faced with any quandary, generally there are at least two vantage points to approach any situation from; either the perspective of the pessimist or the optimist.
In general, if you can approach life from the perspective of the optimist, there’s a far greater chance that you will more easily live a better life, potentially your best life, and maybe even desire to contribute to the greater good and make the world a better place.
Why might you want to look at the bright side of life often, if not all ways?
There are many benefits from having your default setting set at “Optimistic,” such as reduced stress, lower blood pressure, more often in a good mood, and have a heightened level of performance in any endeavors with more ease than your pessimistic peers who will find themselves working harder to keep up. (Just saying.)
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but optimists are now being overrun by pessimists as their numbers begin to grow. If you are basically optimistic (not 100% of the time but more often than not) then you are definitely in the minority.
And who could blame anyone in this day and age for being unable to see the bright side of anything? What with having to put up with a constant barrage of negative media pounding you down every day, and that’s completely separate from the attitudes of others who just fail to have compassion or the willingness to create a real connection with others.
In general, our relationships suck, and no one is too terribly surprised when they find themselves stabbed in the back by someone, they thought they could trust. Integrity is just not fashionable anymore. Then there’s disrespect, abuse, broken dreams, and promises. If all that doesn’t beat the optimist out of you, it’s a miracle.
This pessimism promotes depression exponentially, and it affecting us at earlier and earlier ages. It wasn’t that long ago that adult onset depression would commonly develop in adults in their thirties. Now our children are suffering from depression more predominantly at about age fifteen.
Pessimism, it’s associated depression, drama, and trauma is causing our culture to erode.
A little optimism goes a long way in living a better life, your best life, and filling your life with such an exuberant quality of life, you may very well be inclined to want to make a positive contribution to your family, friends, the community, or even the world at large.
Why? Because you “feel good,” and that good feeling is contagious and makes you want to give it to others.
As much as you wish you could give the gift of looking at the bright side, or the blessing in any given situation (even the really bad ones), it’s generally not possible because pessimists just think you’re cazy and living in a fantasy world.
But for those who have chosen to make the transition from pessimist to optimist (and it happens), their lives have changed dramatically (even if their peers do think they are a little whacko).
What can you expect as am optimistic individual?
Well, first off, you have a general expectation that good things are always happening; and so, they do. Onlooking pessimists will observe the happy go lucky optimist encounter tragedy, to find them coming out of a potentially crippling episode in life with little more than a scratch, smelling like a rose.
The pessimist might just think that the optimist was lucky (or might secretly be hoping that they suffer appropriately the next time they encounter hardship). When the truth is, the optimist created the outcome from their own positive thoughts.
The same is true for the pessimist, as his or her thoughts determine the outcome of the challenges they face in life. If they have a generally negative vibration or thought process, this spins every potential scenario in a negative direction, even the good things in life tend to go haywire, and that deepens their depression, as they seek solace in withdrawal from society so as to protect themselves from further risk of more bad news.
Once kicked off the horse, an optimist is more likely to get right back on, knowing that the worst is over, and it can get better, while the pessimist will vow to never look at another horse again.
Rather than accept the role of “victim” by admitting defeat, an optimist will look for the lesson, the hidden secret, the blessing of any negative situation, and see a divine, sacred synergy in all things, and be grateful for the experience. They are far less likely to give up.
If you are of the optimistic persuasion, you celebrate the wins of others, you encourage and edify them. There’s no underlying jealousy, or one-upmanship going on behind the scenes, you really do like to see others shine and enjoy sharing these moments with others. Pessimists are more likely to “have an angle” and feel as though they must control or manipulate situations or others to get ahead.
Unsupported optimists don’t need the feedback from others to make them feel good, they find their good feelings within their own center of gravity.
Fortitude and stick-to-itiveness are attributes you find showing up in optimists as they encounter challenges in life. They have an increased stamina by wielding their own economy of energy, exerting only the amount of force necessary to keep enough momentum to carry them from here to there.
Stress is the battleground of the pessimist, while the optimist has more of a tendency to go with the flow, using the current to their advantage. Pessimists are more likely to struggle and fight against the current.
Good health, a more youthful appearance, attitude, and longevity are the rewards of an optimistic lifestyle. Being in a state of happiness or gratitude boosts one’s immune system, while fear, anxiety, frustration, suspicion, paranoia, jealousy, hurt feelings, and a vengeful heart deplete one’s immune system.
Maybe you might like to join the ranks of the optimists?
Or not.
No one would blame you for not wanting to.
Just know this: You are love, and there is far more goodness waiting to come to you.
