Blog | David M Masters

I Know That You Already Know

When I am working with a client, sometimes I find myself in the presence of a know-it-all. You really cannot help someone who has no room for coaching. If this is the default natural state of the client, I am likely to refer him or her to another coach, counselor or consultant, someone who “specializes” in whatever the client is seeking. When you say, “I know that” you already know all there is to know, you’re disconnected, shut down and unable to receive.

I prefer to work with individuals who are movers and shakers in the process of taking massive action, who are open and eager to look at things from another perspective, available to receive new ideas, and have the wherewithal to execute what we have learned. (I intentionally said, “we have learned,” because in most cases through this process we both attain new perspectives and knowledge.)

When you have an opportunity to attain a different perspective, grow, expand or learn something new and you say to the person you are working with, “I know that” alternatively, “I knew that already,” or any variation of, “I already knew that,” you have shut the door on attaining something valuable or have stated that your cup is already full and there is no room for you to grow.

It’s like the Asian tale of the student who seeks out the master, who upon making his acquaintance, insists on telling the master how great he is, how full of knowledge he is, in an effort to impress the master. Waiting to get a word in edgewise, while the student pauses, the master asks if the student might like some tea. The master hands the student a cup and begins pouring tea into the cup, but does not stop when the cup is full. The student protests, “Hey, old man, what’s wrong with you? You’re spilling tea everywhere!” Still pouring the tea, the master says, “You are like this cup. You are already full and there is no room for more.”

This is what you’re saying, when you say, “I know.”

The best students are the ones who come into any potential learning situation having first created a sacred space for new information. The best way to discover something new, or to see something from a different perspective, is to approach any opportunity as if you know nothing, as if you were a blank slate.

Yes, you may sit through a seminar, or an entire course, and you may have already studied the subject intensely (may even know more about the subject than the teacher) but you are open, looking at this opportunity with new eyes, as if you knew nothing previously.

Why? Because, who knows? If you are open and there is room in your cup, there may be that one drop of precious tea that is the game changer. You may take away something priceless, even if it’s only a drop, the drop that makes all the difference in your quest for knowledge. And, if you are open and have space set aside, you are likely to get so much more than a drop, maybe more, possibly an entire cup.

Whenever I meet someone who is proficient or an expert in my field, I am more likely to play down my part, to be humble and respectful, honoring the other person. I am more likely to ask them questions about their practice or expertise, listening to every word… for that one priceless drop of sacred tea.

Let’s face it, you can’t know everything, but if you do, more power to you.

If I’ve learned anything throughout my life’s journey, it’s that,

I may know a lot.

More than everything I know,

I know that I know nothing.

So, I am always open.

How about you?

What Are Type A Personalities Hiding?

You know those Type A over-the-top powerhouse performers? I shouldn’t really say this due to confidentiality (so I won’t use names or personally specific information) nonetheless most, if not all, of these amazing demonstrative people on the outside, are harboring deep emotional wounds on the inside.

I’m not passing any judgment, or encouraging you to judge or challenge these kinds of people in any way. I’m just trying to point out that even the people who we might look up to, those who are the superheroes in our organizations and communities, are commonly acting out these magnificent feats as a sort of self-medication, or to keep up such a pace so as not to give them much time to face the issues that remain hidden under the skin.

We all do this to some degree, but these folks seem to have the market cornered on their deep unresolved personal issues. In my work, I often find myself working through a lot of surface issues before ever even getting close the deep work these people need. When we get there, though, the work is always highly rewarding and freeing.

And here’s the interesting part: In most cases, the super-human demonstrations of wildly enthusiastic workaholism tends to fade as they migrate to a more calm and peaceful state of mind. They still retain all their talents, strengths and super abilities, but find more cause and time for relaxation, stopping to smell the roses, and generally experiencing the joy life on another level.

Most of this work is related to issues that have crept into the psyches at an early age, and that little boy or girl who got his or her feelings hurt is still alive and well inside of you. You might be surprised at how much of who you are and how the world perceives you are attributable to the child inside of you.

The most successful people, to whom we look up to, are amazing, it’s true. Even so, they lack a sense of happiness or fulfillment if their excellence is due to their dull out exertion in an effort to cover up, disregard, or deny the need to address their own deep inner work.

If they have a tendency to express rage (at sometimes inopportune moments) the good news is, they will live longer, because this kind of lifestyle is terribly incongruent and causes a great deal of turmoil within. Releasing the tension helps to mitigate the damages. If they forever hold it inside, the body and its internal chemistry begins to breakdown.

Doing the deep inner work helps to resolve these issues that are warring against each other inside of you. All of us have degrees of inner turmoil that is the result of childhood inconsistencies, hurt feelings, trauma, abuse or other issues that leave us feeling unworthy of love, have low self-esteem, fearful of being victimized or having a lack of control. We create magnificent personas, wearing masks and costumes and acting the part of someone else so that others would not think we have this wildly conflicting inner pain.

In an effort to cover up, these folks exert a great deal of energy to take on attributes that do not come naturally, while their innate skills may be repressed because the inner child keeps them locked away. By resolving these issues, work that used to be difficult may come much easier, while others are outsourced to others whose talents make them better suited to complete certain tasks. In this way, the lone wolf becomes the orchestrator and valuable teammate.

We are all WIPs (works in progress) and we all need to do the deep inner work to resolve our inconsistencies, enabling us to fin our natural frequency of flow. This will allow our lives to align and prepare our DNA to change and evolve into the greater version of ourselves that is yearning to emerge.

Your true purpose awaits your seamless union and a better life and world is welcoming your participation. Watch you and your world open like a beautiful flower as you learn to enjoy life, seeing what you have been too busy to notice and realizing that all of this is for you.

Pain Is A Gift

Life is fraught with pain. We will all experience pain in this life, but you get to choose whether the pain you experience will be long term suffering or healing pain.

You may be taken aback by the idea of choosing how you experience pain, if you are unfamiliar with the discipline of choice. You’re in good company because most people cannot wrap their head around the idea of choosing their pain.

Most people resign themselves to play the part of the victim and allow the forces around them to dictate when to be happy or sad, when to feel love or hate, when to feel good or bad.

If pain is inevitable (I don’t know if there’s any way to avoid pain) could you consider, if only for a moment, that you could make a conscious choice to have a perspective of fear which plays out as long term suffering, or from a perspective of love which uses the pain to heal, promote personal growth and the nurtures the advancement of your human potential.

When you assume the role of the victim, you allow something or someone else to have control over you and your emotions, and you can continue to give them this power over you over a prolonged term, even a lifetime, making you a slave to the pain.

Or, you can change your perspective by taking full responsibility for the pain (thus disarming the person or thing that was causing the pain) and look for the blessing.

While it may be hard to consider the idea that your pain can have blessing attached to it, this is an immutable reality.

All Pain Is a Gift

Better said, everything painful that you experience has within it a gift, a blessing. Something good and wonderful is waiting for you to discover it hidden within and masked by the pain. But you must diligently look for it to find it.

Pain is God’s way of saying, “Trust Me.”

If you surrender to the pain and focus on the circumstances outside, the landscape will be so cluttered that it would be impossible to see the forest for the trees.

But if you can take responsibility, possession, and ownership of the pain, you can gain the perspective necessary to find the hidden gift. And in many cases, once you are able to do this, you will find the pain may have kept you safe from something far worse, possibly even saved your life.

You could spend a lifetime, punishing yourself, or someone or something else for some injustice. You see it all around you, people who are ever masking their pain, parading as a victim or self-medicating to mitigate the damages of being wronged. This is not only acceptable in the society which we live, but promoted as our slavery to pain enslaves us into addictions for profit.

The worse we feel about being victimized, the more we focus on abusing ourselves with alcohol, drugs, work, sex, hatred, anything that will give us a momentary sense of relief. Yet, try as we may, when the smoke clears, the lights go on, or the next day dawns, the pain remains. Unless you take action.

At the very least, do a search on YouTube for “Emotional Freedom Technique” (EFT). This is an effective method of breaking the neurological connection between the thought of the source of your pain and the physiological manifestation of the pain in your body.

You could visit an EFT practitioner to do the deep work, but you can easily find relief just by spending a few moments perusing YouTube, or if you have time, investigate via Google search.

This one simple technique is quick, easy and painless, freeing you from the evil grip the pain has on you. This can give you enough space to catch your breath, regain your equilibrium and exert your cognitive skills enough to start looking for the gift that is waiting to be uncovered.

Vow to never be enslaved by pain again. You are beginning to evolve into the more advanced form of yourself. Taking this action causes your life – even your DNA – to change.

You are awakening the new you trying to emerge, and all you have to do is to be open and proactive, allowing the transformation to take place naturally.

Raise Your Money Vibration

If you find yourself working very hard and barely getting by, there’s a pretty good chance that you’re not doing it right.

You have every right to work hard and be compensated appropriately for your efforts. If your income-to-outgo ratio is out of balance, this is an indication there are other imbalances in your life. The good news is that you can correct these imbalances with some adjustments. Once corrected, you will find yourself in a greater financial flow.

The first place to look is your budget, and in many cases, a budget analysis can expose areas in your spending habits that may not be in your best interests. With a few tweaks here and there, you can find yourself with more money than bills at the end of the month.

The other thing you can do is to raise your financial vibration. Everything is energy, including money, and your income matches the frequency of your money vibration. By raising the frequency of your money vibration, your income adjusts itself to match.

Of course, changing your frequency, or the channel you are tuned into, will take more than the casual flip of the switch. You will have to make adjustments in your life to accommodate and maintain the frequency shift to make it work. While a temporary shift will give you relief at the moment if the essential adjustments are not made and maintained, your windfall will be short-lived, and you will return to your substandard frequency.

This is why lottery winners are usually broke in a few years because while they had fun when the money was there, they did not do the work of raising their money vibration, so it was not long until they returned to their previous frequency.

In m work with business people, often they are not getting paid what they are worth. Maybe they are not serving in a marketplace that is better suited for their abilities, and they are undercharging for their services.

The imbalance is likely found in the balancing of how one is charging for their services and how value is represented in the marketplace.

One of the biggest adjustments to make is how you charge for your services. You will never be remunerated for your true value if you’re charging by the hour. To say it another way would be, “If you are charging by the hour, you will never get paid what you are worth. Never.”

So, just get over any idea(s) you might have about charging by the hour because that’s how you’ve always done it, or it’s how everyone else does it, or whatever. The amount you charge by the hour is your frequency set point. It’s not unlike setting the thermostat on your heater; in this case, it’s freezing outside, and it’s no surprise you’re uncomfortable if the thermostat is set to 35 degrees. And simply charging more per hour is not going to do it.

You need to be thinking more in terms of value rather than exchanging dollars for time. The dollars-for-time scenario might offer you the ability to pay the rent and get by, but it will never lead you to abundance.

Stop charging for your time and start charging for your value. If you are working with a client and have helped them increase their business tenfold, how much was your assistance worth? You might think easily $10,000. Anyone would pay $10,000 to increase their business ten times its current volume. What if it only took you making three phone calls in 20 minutes?

Well, let’s see; if you charged by the hour – even if there was a one-hour minimum, or even if you charged for a full day, you can see the only person you did a disservice to is yourself. Definitely, the client received their benefit, but there is a huge imbalance in your compensation for the results provided.

It doesn’t matter how long it takes you to solve your client’s problems or provide your service. What matters is the client getting what he/she needs and wants. If you’re creating value and you’re giving them value, they’ll pay you for that value.

Now, it’s time to figure out what your real value is.

Ask yourself the following questions:

• What are the results of your efforts?
• What services do you offer, and how does your involvement provide solutions? How does your client benefit from your services? Do your services make a difference?
• What is important to your client? Why? What level of importance?
• Have they paid for similar services in the past? If so, what were the results? Why? What was that experience like?
• Why do you think your client was attracted to you and/or your services?
• What are your client’s expectations? How will your client know your efforts are successful? What would that look like?

By getting the answers to these questions – not guessing what the client will say, but actually getting the client to answer these questions – you will have the information you need to create VALUE in the mind of the client.

If your work is perceived to have value, they will be delighted to pay you. If they do not perceive your value, they will not pay you, no matter how low you go on the pricing scale.

Deep Inner Work

Doing the deeper, inner work is the most rewarding work that you can do, yielding the greatest results allowing your personal evolution to take place changing your quality of life, affecting the lives around you, even changing your DNA and the DNA of those whom you are close to.

While some people read a paragraph, like the previous one, rolling their eyes and expressing how ridiculous it might sound, you either know, or have a sense of knowingness, this deep inner work is the most rewarding work.

I absolutely love (sometimes its fun and amazing and other times its dreadful and draining) doing my deeper work for the benefit I receive on the other side, and when I am blessed enough to assist someone else achieve a breakthrough in their inner work, there is no greater blessing and honor.

It’s all about love. Love is the highest vibration. For everything that troubles you or makes you feel bad is based in the lowest vibration: Fear. Every emotional state – and whatever it represents – consists of varying degrees of love or fear and carries with it a particular vibrational frequency.

When we tune into this frequency, we attract life circumstances that match the channel we are tuned into. If you are tuned into a negative emotion, you actually attract and transmit (adding power to) that particular negative frequency. You actually become a negative power cell, even though it is the furthest thing from y0ur intention.

Drilling down and doing your deep, inner work, can help you to remove the power from these negative anchors which trigger your negative downward spiral into lower frequencies or emotional states.

You are doing the work, you are taking back the power over your life which is your birthright and you are helping to make the world a better place by becoming a positive powerhouse, welcoming in the next phase of human evolution, starting with you.

It all starts here, with you, the one evolving cell, empowered to multiply.

Doing your deep inner work allows you to discard the things in life that are holding you back or keeping you down, so that you can rise to your potential and watch the world around you change for the better.

Find out what really matters and see these areas of your life flourish without being squelched by negative frequencies.

Will this work be easy? No. But it will be worth it. Especially when you begin living the life you were born to live, feeling all the love your soul can bear while travelling your new journey to experience the metamorphosis from the way things were to the new life that waits ahead.

Sure, there will be obstacles and challenges along the way, and those who scoffed at that first paragraph, will try to pull you back into the mundane pit, they’ve become so accustomed to. For it would be far more convenient for them to be able to prove to you that the idea of life outside the pit is ridiculous, if not dangerous.

But as they witness your escape, and see that over time you did not return… They will start to question whether there really is a better life outside.

It is not your job to tell them anything about your new journey, as it is your journey and yours alone. As much as you might want to have your friends follow you, that would be not be good.

While you may encourage people to follow you on your journey, it is yours, not theirs. You are doing them a disservice if you do not encourage then to find their own way.

Love to the doers of the deep inner work.

There Is Hope

Regardless of what challenges appearing before you, the demons you may be facing, or when you feel you just can’t go on because you’ve reached the end of your rope, there is hope.

When you realize for every negative there is a positive, like the idea of Chinese philosophy’s yin and yang combined with the Newtonian third law, which states For every action there is an equal and opposite re-action, it all leads you to the conclusion that all things are in always in a state of perfect balance.

Even so, you may find yourself in a particular state of imbalance. No matter how desperate things may seem, in the same time and space where you are feeling so out of sorts, or even desperate, exists everything you need to access to experience the polar opposite emotional state.

Though it is common to be unable to see the forest for the trees. You find yourself so embroiled in a certain experience that the landscape and alternate methods of escape or salvation cannot be seen or even imagined due to the overwhelming state of affairs.

In these times it is imperative that you persevere and have hope. This hope will keep you looking outside yourself or aware that options abound, if only you could access it. This is why we are drawn to the stories of others who have faced seemingly insurmountable odds and survived, even thrived following an inexplicable or impossible life event.

This gives us hope. The common thread among those who have survived was the hope or belief that there must be a way… a way to mitigate the damages, a way to find a sense of peace, a way to survive, or a way to escape… This alerts the central nervous system to find connections to energy sources otherwise unavailable to the conscious mind to entertain the idea that other options are all around, if only they could be accessed.

We hear stories of fire-walking, telekinesis, spontaneous remission of advanced cancer, 110 pound mothers with the ability to lift a 3,000 pound car off their child, out-of-body experiences, contact with alternative realities, and an endless supply of stories and experiences of others who have encountered unbelievable circumstances and emerged to share their stories with us.

Whether the stories are true or not is irrelevant, because we know that truth changes over time, resulting from new information. In any case, the stories do give us hope. Hope that could be enough to enable you to access resources otherwise unavailable to you.

The existence of unlimited resources and alternatives is ever present, only the limitation of our mind through constant programming by societal constraints makes impossibility a reality, though nothing is impossible. Nothing.

We know that to be true, because in the last 100 years, we have seen the impossible become possible before our very eyes. So if nothing is impossible, the antithesis is also true, everything is possible.

Everything Is Possible

This is the hope, that we embrace. Unlimited resources, unlimited possibilities, if only we can find a way to allow our minds to be free enough from the limitations imposed on our ideals and beliefs to allow them to appear before us.

In your time of need, everything you could possibly need to counter any obstacle or injustice is there, if only you could let go of your self-imposed limitations, knowing anything is possible… Everything is.

Heal Yourself

There is a growing sense that all things medical may not actually be as presented by the current medical community. Increasingly people are starting to take full responsibility for their own healthcare. Even though it has been thoroughly beaten into every fabric of our being that to do so would not only be folly, but potentially suicidal to attempt to heal yourself.

There is that part of me that looks at the magnificence of the human body, and I feel coherence with the idea that this gift that I’ve been given of this body comes prepackaged with all the science and technology necessary to maintain itself for some 120 years or so.

Certainly, there will be times, when push comes to shove and something exposes a chink in the armor and something gets through that is incongruent with your body’s otherwise healthy state of being and intervention is necessary.

So what do you do, if you’ve taken responsibility for your own healthcare?

You try to heal yourself in any way that might be available. Fortunately, I know a PhD of Natural Medicine with whom I consult. Don’t tell him I told you this, but I always fact-check his advice on Google before jumping into any regimen he might suggest. And you know what?

Nine times out of ten, I could have just gone straight to Google. You might be surprised at how much genuine alternative resources are available with the typing on a few letters into a search engine. Keep in mind, that for as much valid information is available via the web, there is just as much misinformation, and sometimes, it’s impossible to determine which you’re looking at.

On either side of the fence you will find representations and exaggerations of otherwise commonly believed ideas supported by wild claims and/or death warnings for anyone who might even consider such a type of alternative approach to healing.

I might be much more cautious if I didn’t personally know of people who were given death sentences by Medical Doctors, threatened with certain death from unspeakable maladies if not offering to sacrifice their bodies on the altar of pharmaceuticals in exchange for a few more moments on planet earth, who did heal themselves.

Your body will heal itself if you love it with everything youve got You cannot chastise punish or poison yourself to health — Your body will heal itself if you love it with everything you’ve got. You cannot chastise, punish, or poison yourself to health.

Knowing hand fulls of folks who have successfully looked professionally prophesied death in the eye and decided to heal themselves, did just that. I mean, I couldn’t possibly disclose the details of these true life stories without risking being thrown in prison or at the very least being labelled a liar and a kook, here and everywhere else. The fact remains, these people are not only not dead, they are quite fruitful and are thriving healthfully.

And if you know someone, like that, it can’t help but make you wonder…

You might find me studying alternative therapies from time to time along my journey. To date, I have not been diagnosed with one of those frightening diseases that makes you feel like if you don’t submit to the full barrage of authorized treatment, the result will be certain death, so I can say for certain what my response would be. But since I know so may people who have done so, successfully, I would think I would give it a go.

I partake in some natural maintenance regimens, and tweak my own personal cocktails according to the natural response of my body, as well as a bit of research and checking with my inner circuitry to keep myself from falling prey to some nasty malady.

I also feel that I, along with all the others who are taking responsibility of healing themselves, are making a contribution to humanity in some small way, as though my self healthcare might be contagious.

I realize there are wildly opposing point of view on this pharma vs. farm-a idea of natural healing, but I can see both sides, and I am not – by any means – suggesting that someone not go to the doctor. I have both a primary care medical doctor and my natural health doctor that I keep open lines of communication with, so I feel I’ve got both feet on the ground, but I must admit, I am more inclined to seek a natural alternative rather than a pharmaceutical intervention, but if I need it, it’s there.

What about you?

Heal yourself lately?

How to Not Take It Personally

When you see that person who is calm, in a state of zen, and nothing seems to bother them, you think, “What the hell is wrong with that person?”

What you might find, is that they have mastered the idea that nothing is personal. They don’t seem to get uptight (much) and stuff just seems to roll off their back, as they don’t get overanxious or take things personally. They embrace the idea that things are as they are and that’s okay.

You, too, could begin living a life free from the angst of others, because, after all, people will disagree with you, even scheme to trip you up, or try to make you look as if you’re overreacting in front of peers or coworkers, just to prove they can.

Rather than react, you could opt to stop taking things personally and take away their superpower in an instant.

First of all, make a list of the things that piss you off (you know the people that piss you off have this list, shouldn’t you?). Next, review the list. What do yo find? Look for the key components that bother you (this can be an exciting journey in self-discovery, as you find the things that irk you the most often are related to key life moments in your past – or early childhood – torturing you in the present).

Try to look at the issue from other perspectives and think about how a particular thing or topic that carries with it a powerful negative charge and ask, “Does it really matter?” In the scope of the life and times of the human race, many a mountain has been made of molehills, just to cause division between peoples, when in reality, very little is truly meaningful. And when you think of it, nothing has meaning, except for the meaning that you give it.

Take a look at celebrities, politicians and other public figures that take massive stands, expecting others to conform to their point of view. How is that working for them?

I discovered long ago, you are more likely to get someone to see from your perspective if you love and accept them just they way they are without expectation, rather than entering into a heated debate or brow-beating them.

If community or global issues get you riled up, realize whatever it is, is not happening to your, personally. Position yourself as a supporter instead of a protester. Protesters (those who expend a great deal of energy in opposition to something) actually add more energy to the thing they are standing against, strengthening the very thing they don’t want. On the other hand, supporters put their energies toward what they do want (the solution) thereby increasing its effectiveness.

Remember that life is what it is. It takes all kinds of people to make the world go ’round, and start making room in your psyches to allow others to be as they are. Take the position of the observer rather than the enforcer. It’s not your job to control others, so try to find opportunities to sit back, relax, and enjoy the show.

As you are growing into a more tolerant lifestyle, embracing who you are without having to have anyone conform to your personal standards, you may begin to see others doing the same thing. Finding opportunities to spend time in their proximity will make your allowance grow even more.

Does that mean life will be rosy? No, not really. You can wear all the rose-colored glasses you want, and still, people you trusted will fall short of the mark, those you love will hurt your feelings, and you will do likewise (either intentionally, or not). This is a fact of life. Do your best to realize that it is what it is, any tr not to judge others (or yourself) too harshly when it becomes apparent.

How can you disarm those who would like to attack you, or put you down?

Easy, don’t give them any ammunition. When you practice tolerance, there is no opposition. When you can wrap your head around that everything and everyone is perfectly fine just the way they are and no one is right or wrong, allowing for differing opinions, what is there to fight against? Nothing.

And what about your idea of truth? Do you find yourself being defensive, fighting for what you believe? Well, just sit back and think about it… Where did you get this idea of truth? Did someone plant the idea, or did it originate from within your own mind, with your own reasoning and rationale? Then review all the things you strongly believed in… Has your belief changed over time? In most cases, truth and what we believe does change over time, as new information becomes available. It’s inevitable. Things change. So cut yourself some slack and admit to yourself, “This is what I believe to be true at this moment in time.” Based on the information at hand. Who knows what you might believe tomorrow.

Have good intentions and hold yourself to the standard of the Hippocratic Oath, “to do no harm.”

Stop adding energy to the bad things that are brought to your attention. If you see something bad in the media, switch it off, change the channel, refuse to engage in it. Just the welling up of negative emotion within you makes those things that you dislike more powerful. Avoid all negativity.

When people are acting poorly, it is not up to you to try to change them, punish them, or make them feel bad. Do not talk about them behind their back or try to ridicule them for their actions, confront them or offer them advice.

If you find yourself in close proximity and a confrontation is unavoidable, try to speak your peace with lighthearted humor, remembering that it’s not about you. When someone is in opposition of you and you find yourself in an uncomfortable situation, keep in mind that this person is acting out because of their own inner demons. It has nothing to do with you. In fact, it can be somewhat of a blessing that you were chosen to participate, because the more tolerant, new you, is less likely to fight and more likely to understand and have empathy for the person who is acting out. Try to put yourself in their shoes.

If you don’t like haters, don’t be one. How hard is that? Only share positive support and do not put others down, not for anything. After all, aren’t we all just doing the best we can with what we have?

If yo have an opinion or want to share some factual data, please do so, but share your information humbly, without the expectation that anyone should believe you or conform to your thought patterns. Think of it more like planting seeds. Share your information and allow it to take root and grow on its own, or not.

Practice the Golden Rule (Jesus’ sermon on the mount, Matthew 7:12) by treating others as you would like to be treated.

Congratulations, you are on your way to the tolerant new you, who doesn’t take things personally, because it’s not. Everything and everyone just is as it is, and that’s okay.

How Can I Allow Evolution?

Someone asked me, “Evolution? What do you mean? How do I allow evolution to happen for me?”

The answer is a little tricky because it’s different for everyone, but there are similarities that are shared among many who are allowing the evolution to take place in the life you are living in real time.

1. Evolution Is Calling

The first thing is to wrap our head around the idea that you – every part of you, from your mind to your body, right down to the DNA – is yearning to evolve, right now. There is an advanced being longing to experience all the best things this life has to offer, and beyond. And you don’t have to do much, except for to allow the evolution to take place, by preventing you from getting in the way of the impending expansion.

2. Avoid and/or Limit Impeding Distractions

There is an underlying conspiracy in our society that does not want you to evolve. There is a great deal of non-stop activity and programming that is designed to keep you distracted and resistant to the idea that this evolution is longing to release and allowing the new you to emerge. No need to try to explain or rationalize why this is happening, you can do this on your own. All you need to know, really, is that distractions abound to prevent your evolution and expansion. If you are aware of this, you can side-step the distractions and allow your evolution to take place.

What are the distractions to be on the lookout for?

Your life experience is hindered by many things designed to keep the frequency level of your life low enough that evolution and expansion is hardly possible what with the barrage of drudgery involved with everyday life, with our countless routines, and pressure from looming bills, our efforts to try to get ahead, our jobs, maintaining our abodes, dealing with the many levels of relationships that we manage on a daily basis, raising the kids, taking care of our pets, trying to fit in time for others, and on top of all this a constant overflowing of information via media and the Internet designed to keep you hovering at a low vibration. It’s no wonder so few of us are able to break-free enough to allow any expansion to take place. But if it is your time, you will be able to let this pressure subside as you make room to embrace your evolutionary process.

3. Be Prepared to See Things Differently

Expect to start seeing things differently. As your evolution starts to take place, you begin seeing things in a different light. You may start to realize that everything you’ve been told, everything that you feel is true and have sincerely believed in, may not be as you previously thought. When this juxtaposition begins to take place, over-analyzing the contrast between what you previously thought was one way and understanding that what you previously believed was true, you could find yourself bailing out of the evolutionary process. Why? For some, the idea of seeing things as differently is too much to imagine, and if so, that’s okay. It might not be your time to evolve at this time.

4. Find Your Own Way

What do I do next? This is entirely up to you. Your evolution will take place using any number of methods, just be open to what seem right and true in the moment that you are willing to let go of the distractions (of course, you may not be able to unplug completely, but just to give less importance to the pressure and more importance to your evolution is enough).

So, what will it look like? Whatever resonates with your willingness to be open and available to what is reaching out to you. Just have an open mind and allow your inner self to find the path that is perfect for you at this time. Some will lean toward prayer, religion or spirituality, while others may find submerging themselves in nature or meditative states or disciplines. You might be drawn to losing yourself in the arts or artistic expression, or find yourself in deep analytical study or contemplation. Whatever it is that you are drawn to, you will know that it is right at this time because it feels good. This is where your evolution begins to take place. Just be open for the method to change and shift over time as you evolve.

5. Allow Expansion

Allow expansion. As your evolution begins, you may find a comfortable place within a particular method of expanded presence. It is acceptable to enjoy this new vibrational state of awareness for a period of time, for the remainder of your life, if you so choose. This is your evolutionary journey, just know that for every plateau of awareness to which you arrive and enjoy, there is another one waiting to be discovered. If you allow it, the next level will begin to appear on the horizon. The choice to investigate or explore the even greater expansion is entirely up to you. Just know there is so much more out there waiting for you, and excited about your arrival.

6. Individual Tolerance

Don’t worry about anyone else’s journey. Just as your evolutionary journey is your own, anyone else’s is their own journey. It’s natural to get excited about your evolution, as it takes place, and want to share your expansion with others. Be aware that your path is not for everyone, in fact it is only for one: You. Allow anyone and everyone to find their own way. You might find some following the same path, or crossing your path along the way, allow the interaction to take place, and know that people will come and go as the new you continues to emerge along the way. Do not judge anyone, love everyone and wish them the best this life has in store for them.

Congratulations, for embracing the change.

It’s Just Not Fair Haters Gonna Hate

Someone, somewhere at some time planted the idea that life should be fair, and when we recognize that something is not fair, we utter the words, “But that’s not fair.” As if fairness was a default setting, and due to some breach of security an unfairness has slipped through the cracks.

When you feel as though you’ve been treated unfairly, something wells up inside you that makes you resistant to the idea. You do not like being treated unfairly. In fact, the whole idea of any unfairness just gnaws away at everything you believe about what is right and what is wrong, acceptable and unacceptable. When you’re treated unfairly, it goes against everything you believe in and you get angry.

The rejection of any idea of unfairness usually can be traced back to unfairness you experienced as a child. This is where the idea of the injustice of being treated unfairly is rooted, and the angst felt by a child is much more fierce than one might expect from an adult. Depending on where your feelings about being treated unfairly originate, the younger you were when you came across the idea, the more negative feeling you will have about it in the present day.

When you are criticized, you experience a sort of flashback, triggering those early emotions and you feel escalated negative emotion. After all, you’ve worked hard to accomplish this – or that – and how dare some disrespectful ingrate insult all your efforts to bring this thing to this point. And you get pissed because of this injustice hurled by an unrestricted hater. “It’s not right. I worked so hard…”

Although, it is right; it is the nature of the world we live in. When a hater releases an outburst of hate, it’s actually a good sign indicating you are doing extremely well. Haters are what they are, and they will spew their hatred at any opportunity, and if a particular target might seem to over-react, or get their feelings hurt, all the better for the hater. That’s what they want. In order for them to feel good, they must make someone else suffer and feel bad.

When you are experiencing a level above average in anything you do, the haters start taking notice. This is the cue haters are looking for, always on the lookout for someone’s success, indicating to them that it is their job to knock them down a few pegs. If you are having a great deal of success or happiness, the haters start swarming. It’s nothing new, just a fact of life on planet earth.

There are reasons to expect opposition, such as

Seeing things from a different point of view
Differing ideas about values or morality
Everyone struggles with their own inner demons
Someone may act out on a stereotypical basis
They might be jealous of your success
They could be responding to a miscommunication
They might be misinterpreting or spinning your story
Maybe they just hate everything at every opportunity

Haters are not hard to find, they proliferate the Internet and social media lurking and looking for opportunities to spread their hatred far and wide, while they cower safely behind their technology. You can bet, if you’re doing something good, the haters are taking notice as you show up as a new blip on their radar.

Don’t look at it as being treated unfairly; instead try to think of it as a compliment.

Haters gonna hate. It’s a fact of life.

Everyone is entitled t their own point of view, and just as you have freedom of expression, so do the haters. There is no right or wrong in opposing points of view. It just is what it is.

Some people are going to love you and the things that you do, others… Well, not so much.

When you make a stand for something you believe in and you are disrespected or attacked by haters, it’s okay. Understand that their hatred has nothing to do with you. It is only the haters doing the only thing they know how to do, that makes them feel a little better. This is the pay off for them. They are in a constant state of pain and misery. Hurting someone else’s feelings is the only way they know how to get some relief because making someone feel bad makes them feel better. That’s all they know. Can you blame them?

Stomping Baby Turtles

Put yourself in their shoes. If you were in a constant state of pain, and the only way you could find relief from the pain was to stomp on a baby turtle, if the pain was great enough, you might be compelled to do it. And if you did and it made the pain subside, you might be more inclined to do it again. After a while, you may discover that if you stomped on many of them, not only would the pain subside, but you might even feel exhilarated and happy.

Likewise, when a hater strikes out against you, it really has nothing to do with you, it’s all about them, looking for ways to make themselves feel a little better. It’s the only thing they know of that gives them a sense of relief.

And what if you, too, are a hater?

If you are trying to get people to see a thing from your point of view, even insisting on it, aren’t you doing the same thing? If you don’t like someone the way they are, do you try to get them to change? If so, you might be a clandestine hater (though more subtle in your delivery).

Just because you see something from a different point of view does not make you right or someone else wrong. Be confident enough to share from your perspective, but allow them to see it from theirs. Don’t try to change their mind. Only they can do that. Simply humbly plant a seed and let it go. It just is what it is.

Practicing tolerance, not judging people, allowing them to be what they are, honoring their right to believe whatever they want to, and understanding that we’re all doing the best we can with what we have, will keep you on track to a brighter future.