We Are One

I am one. We are one. I am a divinely made unique individual. I am also one part of the body of like-minded individuals who are united in faith, as well as one with all who are blessed to call this planet our home.

Imagine if this were true. What would that look like?

A celebration of individuality and collectiveness simultaneously. Neighbors as brethren, lifting each other up, loving and helping each other for the common good. If my brother or sister is in need, wouldn’t I find a way to help him or her in his or her time of need? Absolutely.

Younger generations would have no compulsion for separation. No prejudice. No social cliques. No murmuring or conspiring behind someone else’s back. No bullying. This could be the loving example that would lead to healing future generations.

If we, as the human race, could see each one of us as a part of everyone else, this is the path to peace and harmony for the future. For if I disrespect you, I am disrespecting myself. I honor you, just as much as I expect you to honor me.

What would be the need for war in a world like that? Your land is my land. Your oil is my oil. Your son or daughter is my son or daughter. Just as I would not kill my own son or daughter, I would not even think of having my son or daughter kill your son or daughter.

Peace will only come when we realize that it cannot be achieved by violence.

You cannot legislate love. You cannot fight, argue, debate with, imprison or kill enough people to proliferate love. Only love can perpetuate love.

And faith? Your Beliefs? They should be as unique as you are. Believe what you like based on who and where you are at the time because while we are individually unique, we are also each other expressed in different ways.

Just like in me, there are many facets that make up who I am on this day at this moment, and I am ever-changing and evolving as I interact with those around me, within the circumstances and the environment in the world where I live.

I may believe one thing today and another thing tomorrow based on new information or experience. I expect to be respected for doing the best with what I have and reciprocate such respect to anyone else.

I see a world where we all are grateful for the life with which we have been gifted, so we care for each other and respect the world that we have been bequeathed. I love the idea of reforestation. I am so glad that we are going there.

The idea that as we take something from our environment to benefit us in any given way, we honor the earth’s sacrifice by replenishing it as best we can, is impressive and can be extrapolated to include all resources. Our planet is a closed system. We have abundant yet limited resources. Let’s use them with gratitude, wisely, giving back as we consume responsibly.

If we have faith and love it should be apparent as a part of our life’s expression, without fear, separation, disrespect, the threat of harm, loss, or destructive violence. Instead edifying each other’s uniqueness in love as we are all a part of the “us” that makes the world go round.

In honor of this authentic synergy of myself, the peoples around me and abroad, and the planet for all that she does to support us all, I often find myself sending love to the world, for an even brighter future for all life.

 

It Is Not True Or It Is True

It is like you have these two choices, either it is not true, or it is true. So, which is it? I hear a lot of people arguing about what is not true and what is true. Is truth absolute? We fight for our right to defend it, as it separates us one from the other, and some are even ready and willing to commit murder in the defense of what is true.

What is truth? When you believe in something so much that it must be “true?” And what is belief? Abraham says, “Belief is only a thought that you keep thinking.”

If you think about it, you can probably think back to a tightly held belief that you knew was true. In fact, you would bet your life on it, even defend your belief and risk your life for it. Why? Because it represented the truth.

I know that was me. For me, love and belief go hand-in-hand, and I would fight, even risk my own life, in the defense of true love, or the truth. (Oh, the self-righteousness of youth.)

We are so polarized by this idea of defending the truth, that we, as a people, can hardly communicate about some ideas without risking conflict.

Why can’t we all be right?

I think about our forefathers, the founders of The United States of America, how brave they were to think they could establish a country that was free. An environment where people could have freedom of thought, expression, and belief, without risk of being forced to fit into social molds.

If I were around then, I would have been overjoyed to have been invited to participate in developing such an environment. They had such a good idea. But like all attempts to establish a Utopian society, it’s just too difficult to maintain on our world at the moment.

I like the idea of loving in a world with freedom of thought, expression, and belief, so much, that I do what I can to create such a world around me. I do my best to honor what others think, what they do, and what they believe, even if their point of view is vastly different from what I think, do, or believe.

Even so, I do occasionally catch myself being assertive about what I think, do, or believe, and when I do, I quickly back down and remember that everything, every thought that has ever been thought and every belief which has ever been believed is in the truth continuum. That is to say, everything is, or has been, truth at some time or place in time and space.

So, what’s the big deal?

Just because I am not in alignment with someone else’s truth doesn’t mean whatever it is isn’t true.

When I look back and think of all the things I’ve fervently believed in the past, I could feel bad about being so judgmental or could easily fall into judgment of myself because I should have known better, and certainly do now, because I have new information that I didn’t have back then.

But in the truth continuum, all things are true. So, the things that I believed to be true were true, and they are still true for someone, somewhere, and I honor that. It lets me off the hook with myself, and with others as well.

It’s not about asserting, “It is not true,” or, “It is true.” It’s more about your right to be you.

The next time you feel compelled to debate over what’s right or wrong, you might consider thinking (and even saying out loud), “That’s interesting,” instead of asserting your point of view over someone else’s. And isn’t someone else’s point of view interesting? I find different ideas that people are passionate about fascinating.

As we, as humans, continue to grow and evolve, there will be a lot more of this lifestyle of tolerance without judgment, and there will a lot less, assertion, or compulsion to control others. The natural state of being will be peace and harmony.

I remember a tenet from the sixties and seventies that promoted the idea that you should be free to do whatever you want as long as it doesn’t infringe on the rights of others to do likewise. That thought resonated with me. It’s like we have all these laws to control each other, when we could be just allowing each other just to “be.”

While Jesus had His moments of telling people what to believe and what was right and wrong, He hit the nail on the head (carpenter reference) and summed it up beautifully, when He said, “love your neighbor as yourself.” That is really the key to the evolved world that is coming our way.

Later in life, John Hospers introduced me to Libertarianism, and in that moment, I thought, “Whoa, I thought I was the only one who had thoughts, like this.”

I’m not promoting any political agenda. Nor am I saying that anyone is right or wrong. All I’m saying is that I had run into a group of contemporary thinkers who were thinking in the same way as I was at the time, and I found comfort in that.

As we evolve, politics, as we know it, will look very different, because the current state of affairs will not be sustainable in an enlightened world.

Maybe you can find a place in your heart to continue to let go, allowing the evolutionary process to continue and give peace a chance.

May God bless you in all you think, do, and believe.

Oh, and by the way, “You’re absolutely right.”

 

Allow Unto Others

Everyone remembers the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you” (Matthew 7:12) but I would like to see it upgraded to the Diamond Rule rewritten to say, “Allow unto others as you would have them allow unto you.”

That is to say that you allow everyone else the same respect and courtesy that you would like to receive from them. Not to hard to imagine how this diamond rule could be a huge improvement on the simply doing of things, which is great, but to simply allow someone to be, as you would like to be allowed to be, is a far superior concept.

The precepts for the diamond rule are that all of us are equal, we are all in the process of being, we are all in different stages of growth and change, no one is better than anyone else, we are all individual, yet one and the same.

Some of the ways we can prepare our mindsets to appreciate others in this way would be to honor our differences. Realizing that we are all uniquely different, seeing and celebrating our differences instead of putting others down for being different.

Not being afraid about getting to know someone who is different and might have potentially hugely differing points of views on things, may have an accent, might look and act different, maybe even have a sense of wonder about what it might to be like that person.

You might be able to develop a genuine curiosity about other people, how they go here, their history, heritage, and details about the place that they came from. No need to be timid shy about asking someone about their lives if its non-threatening and tempered with compassion, sharing, and caring.

If something someone says generates a negative feeling inside you, do not lash out at the person who is sharing. Instead, think about looking inside of yourself and ask yourself why you might have responded in that manner to his or her words?

There’s a good chance that you have some hidden (or maybe not so hidden) negative programming at work which might have made you feel that way. Might be an indicator that some deep inner work is necessary for you to continue your own growth and evolution.

As you get to know someone else’s world, continue to grow in your own sense of self, and what you believe. The more self-confident and secure you are in yourself you are, the less defensive you will have to be. If you are very secure about you, there is no need to be threatened by a differing viewpoint, and you can honor someone else’s point of view, like you would want them to honor yours.

Don’t be afraid about using your imagination to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. What might it be like for that person, having lived the life they lived until now? Even in the most difficult circumstances, if someone is disrespectful or expresses anger, instead of posting up to fight back, why not try to understand why he or she might be responding that way?

Chances are, if you’d lived that person’s life, step by step, having endured everything in life that led up to that point, you would have reacted the same way.

When someone’s reaction surprises you or seems to be out of character, you may become curious and wonder why? They might even want to talk about it if you’re non-threatening and genuinely concerned and can have this conversation compassionately without pride or judgment.

Just remember that deep down, we’re all the same. In fact, just to put your mind at ease, even with all our differences, we are 98.2% exactly the same.

So, maybe – just maybe – the next time you think about judging someone or feeling different, you might think about my diamond rule and, “Allow unto others as you would have them allow unto you.”

It doesn’t seem like too much to ask, allowing someone else the same respect and courtesy that you would like to be treated with.

What an excellent way to be different, by allowing others to be different, too, while feeling safe and secure in the knowledge that we are all in this together.

And if you are very brave, you can let the diamond rule flow over into all areas of life where you feel separation or negative feelings about other people, places, or things.

What Are People Like Who Are Tolerant?

There is a lot of talk about what it means to be tolerant. While the idea of tolerance, by definition, can vary from person to person, everyone has their own take on what being tolerant means. So, what are people like who are tolerant?

Autumn portrait of a beautiful young woman laying on dry autumn leaves

In general, they have a positively wider view of life, the world and its interaction with the universe, as well as the part people play in the world and the overall scheme of things which take place and change over time.

In our common societal nomenclature, tolerance is often seen as a disrespectful allowance of things less desired. To tolerate something is to allow something to play out which one believes or knows to be “wrong” while silently resisting the making fun of or ridiculing the subject, painfully restraining their wanton expression of disapproval, anger, or trying not to throw up. This is not tolerance.

Tolerance is the basis of the Golden Rule, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.” (Matthew 7:12). While popularized by the words of Jesus, the idea of treating others as we would like to be treated spans as a common thread among most, if not all, religions from Confucius (and even before) to more recently evolved religious thought which continues to emerge throughout the world.

In the United States, tolerance is the basis of the First Amendment to the Constitution, which grants Americans the right to embrace any religious ideology and the right to express themselves freely in word and peaceably in deed without interference or threat from the Government.

Tolerant people are less likely to judge others as they are more accepting of people who share differing opinions or world views. They are more likely to see the varying shades of gray in thought patterns and are intrigued about them, seeing their similarities, differences, and allow (may even celebrate or defend) the differences of thoughts and beliefs among people.

It would be difficult to find a racist among a group of people who were truly tolerant, as people who practice tolerance see the human race as one, without ethnic divisions.

Those who practice tolerance are more likely to accept things as they are, even in the worst of circumstances. Tolerance leads to believing that things will happen along one’s life journey which are unexpected, even oppressive painful, and this is all of a higher, grand design.

Tolerant people are more apt to learn from mistakes and hardships suffered in life, and to look for the sacred message or gift hidden amongst the drama or trauma of life.

Tolerant people seek to understand without judgment. Someone who practices tolerance is likely to wonder rather than defend. That is to say, a tolerant person’s first reaction to a new idea or a concept which on the surface appears to be undesirable or conflictive is wonder rather than the intolerant person’s first line of defense, to reject, defend, and ready themselves for debate or battle.

A tolerant person asks themselves to wonder why someone might think, speak, or do something that might be interpreted as disrespectful, rude, abusive, or mean. Keeping in mind that if he or she were in the shoes of the abrasive person, the tolerant person would have done the same thing, because this person has lived an entire life preparing to act out in just this way.

Therefore, tolerance is kind and compassionate about other people’s state of mind, even though they may be vastly different, for they are just like us, we’re all doing the best we can with what we have.

Tolerant people are curious about what might be going on “behind the scenes” but contemplate these things without judgment, without blaming or demonizing anyone or anything which might be perpetrating the conflicting thought or situation.

The tenet of the tolerant is to live and let live without prejudice.

You tell me: What are people like who are tolerant?

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Life of Light Among the Darkness

You’re awakening. You’re seeing things from a different perspective. You’re becoming more aware that things are not as they appear. You are growing and changing living a life of light among the darkness. As those closest to you are viewing recent changes in you, they try to be supportive, tolerating your expansion, hoping you’re just going through a phase.

Nonetheless, you persist. You continue to evolve and expand, and as you do, you are having less and less in common with those who previously were tethered to you. As they witness your transformation, they may try to “save you” from evolving too far away from your former you.

The person you were before was more like them, embroiled in the darkness. Now you are a child of the light, and your light is shining ever brighter. What fellowship can light have with darkness?

As you continue along your journey, you end up being further away from the vibratory state of those who are dependent upon the darkness for their sense of security in leading a “normal” life. They prefer to engage in the socially acceptable lifestyles which they have been programmed to align themselves with. You, on the other hand, are experiencing a growing desire to do other things, exploring other interests and activities which wouldn’t interest anyone who resides in darkness in the least.

Freaking Out

Those you were tethered to (and still may be deeply connected to) do not want to see you go, and they may express themselves in various ways. They may have played along, feigning interest or support, then, one day, they crack. They just can’t take it anymore, and they strike out at you. Their freaking out can be very unpleasant, potentially abusive, or be fueled in self-righteous anger as they are seeing you as the freak.

Even on your best day, such an entanglement can be difficult and can hurt your feelings as you now see your former friend as he or she really is. This can be heartbreaking and make you feel alienated or rejected by those whom you thought loved you for who you are, no matter what. Alienation does not serve you.

Some people may be resilient enough to support you as you grow as they choose to remain living their lives in a lower vibration. Even so, you feel yourself drifting away from them because they’ve become accustomed to, even love the darkness and cannot understand that which they are unable to see of the light.

The more enlightened you become the less you and your friends who remain in lower vibrations have in common.

Love Them

Those who live in the darkness may associate negative thoughts and feelings about the distance growing between you. You cannot blame them for the way they are. No one knows better than you because you, too, were once among the darkness.

Have compassion for them. Negative thoughts and feelings have no place in the light. Keep your heart pure. Remember their intention is good even though their execution may falter. They cannot understand what they cannot understand.

Love and bless them. They are doing the best they can with what they have, as are you. Love can build a bridge and your love may encourage them to see the possibilities which exist beyond the darkness.

Respect and honor every individual. Do not be afraid to meet them where they are at. You cannot change anyone, only they can change themselves when they are ready, just like you have.

There is no need to argue, debate, or have any conflict regarding differing ideas. Allow everyone and everything to be who or what they are, for all is perfection in the eyes of God.

Honor the sanctity in all things and remember that there exists only truth. All thoughts, fears, ideas, and dreams exist in the truth continuum and are subject to change at any moment in time.

Your responsibility is to you. Focus on you and your own path, stay true to you and do not alienate those who dare to not reject you. Greet them in love, with compassion, understanding, and do not judge. For no man is better than any other man, we’re all doing the best we can with what we have.

Alienation Does Not Serve You

No need to alienate your friends just because you no longer see eye-to-eye about some things. You may no longer desire to engage in particular activities which no longer resonate with you but you don’t have to run away and hide. Alienation does not serve you nor the greater good.

There may have been a time when finding socially acceptable ways to wile away the hours with meaningless activities such as watching the TV, shopping for designer items, frequenting bars and clubs, rushing to keep up with the Joneses, engaging in mind-numbing activities.

Now that your conscious is expanding outside the box of social structure you will find yourself less interested in all the drama of life. You find it more difficult to engage in conversations about what is wrong with the world, how exciting sports can be, how to improve on your personal appearance, comparing yourself with others, pointing out others’ shortcomings.

You are no longer interested in talking about what the current fads are, what’s the next item you must buy to make you feel better. Gossiping or stalking the lives of others whether they be neighbors or celebrities no longer interests you.

Even so, there’s no reason to cut yourself out of social interaction altogether. Even though there is a noticeable and apparent demarcation between a life of light and that of darkness does not mean you have to resign yourself to a solitary existence.

St Paul set forth the best example when he asserted that his approach was to attempt to relate to all peoples to “become all things to all men.” If he was talking to a Jew, he would relate to him like a Jew. He would adopt the same respect and honor, as if he were one of them, whatever their profession or station in life, whether they be attorneys, law enforcement officials, broken, or homeless. He saw himself as a servant to all men, equal to but never better than whoever he was in the presence of. (2 Corinthians 6:14-18)

When in the presence of someone who remains in the dark, you are honored to see him or her as your equal. You are no better because you choose to live in the light than anyone who chooses to remain in the darkness.

You are not threatened by any assertion by someone who is in the dark for you honor their right to believe whatever it is that they believe. You don’t take it personally if they accuse you of being or doing something wrong. There is no reason to argue or debate because you know that he or she has the same right to their truth as you do yours.

Besides, all truth is truth, no matter where it resides within the truth continuum.

So, even if someone’s truth does not resonate with you, you honor their truth as being true, and bless them for believing in something, for even to believe in nothing is a valid truth for some.

You might long to share your findings and new ideas with those within or on the fringes of your special network, but you have such a great deal of respect for them and their beliefs, that you may have to squelch your ideas, conversations, or presentations, so as not to offend them.

You can live “in the world” and not have to be “of the world,” honoring those who are, thereby leveling the playing field and having no negative impact on others. From life in the light, no one is broken, needs fixing, or is ever wrong.

People who live in the darkness live in fear and cannot handle too much in the form of new ideas, they can get violently upset at having their beliefs challenged, so don’t do it. Being gentle, loving, and empathetic is the order of the day when associating with them. It’s the least you can do, because wouldn’t you want to be treated that way?

I Am Evil and Hatred

I am evil and hatred. All that is evil, the propensity to be the worst person you can ever imagine, engaging in the deepest and darkest deeds imaginable, is part of who I am.

I have been in the presence of the worst, most hated, and despicable individuals, some regarded as the most evil humans to step foot on our planet, and I am just like them.

If I see myself as no better than someone who might be considered as a “bad person” then I am free to separate the sinner from the sin.

Any one of us is one heartbeat away from being one of these individuals. There are falsely accused innocent people branded as “evil.” There are good and decent, loving and upstanding citizens who are doing time behind bars, or on death row, for one misstep, miscalculation, or the moment when overcome by emotion.

We all have the same propensity to be as vile as any other one of us.

Just befriending the wrong person, trusting someone who couldn’t be trusted, or being in the wrong place at the right time, could make even someone as self-righteous as yourself infamous in the worst possible way(s).

Just because someone does something you dislike or despise, doesn’t justify reacting like a knee-jerk fascist, nor does being able to separate the sinner from the sin make you a bleeding-heart pacifist.

It’s just a knowingness that in spite of the word being as disconjointed as it is, we are all in this together. We are all one.

We all have been sold a bill of goods. We have been led to believe that hate is an appropriate approach to smashing out hate when the truth is only love can abolish hate. Hate exponentially engenders more hate, suspicion creates suspicion, violence begets violence, evil promotes evil, and wars lead to more wars.

When wars and rumors of wars are pervasive on our planet, it infects the whole world, no matter how far from the source of conflict you might be.

When you let someone, who does something bad make you feel bad, you have allowed yourself to be infected with the virus which breaks down everything good within us and keeps us separated one from another.

You spread the virus and become the problem, potentially become that which you hate, and promoting the pervasive evil which is leading to the breakdown of all human potential.

As Martin Luther King, Jr. said, “There is some good in the worst of us and some evil in the best of us. When we discover this, we are less prone to hate our enemies.”

When you feel like you are superior to someone else, you deny our sameness and keep yourself separated from the rest of humanity.

No one is suggesting that you condone the wrongdoings of others, only to remain consciously compassionate enough to realize that under different circumstances, you might have reacted, said, or done the same thing.

You disarm your enemy when you do not respond to hate with hate. When you counter attack your opponent with hate, your opponent wins. The person who has offended you has infiltrated your heart and infected you with his or her virus.

This virus persists and spreads until it is treated with the vaccine of love. Responding to that which offends you with love not only disarms your opponent but injects a bit of love vaccine into your opponent.

Responding to hate with love is the only hope for peace and harmony visiting planet Earth on a global scale.

When I see myself as being just as evil and possessing as much hatred as anyone else, I am empowered to make the decision not to follow the path to evil, and with every breath choose to do that which is good, proper, and in harmony with the life, I choose to lead.

Build Bridges Don’t Burn Them

We all need people to get the best things in life, paradoxically, there are many people who will block your attempts to live a better life. So, to protect yourself, you hold the supportive people close to you and reject those who don’t. Build bridges don’t burn them.

Its no secret that we are surrounded by others who are there to share this experience of life, both the good and the not so good. Once you start focusing on your individual journey it’s easy to get in the pattern of extricating people from your life.

You first understand that there are those in your life who are toxic people or energy vampires, so you remove them from your circle of influence to protect the sacred space you need to do your deep inner work.

There is a certain as you clean up your people space, you realize how powerful you can be in controlling your personal space, and you get used to the idea of pushing others away. While this is important in the beginning, as you mature you realize that is better to build bridges instead of burning them.

It’s a fact, we need people. They help support us, and even the most difficult people can hold the keys to greater personal growth and expansions. They might even be the gatekeepers of the one elusive thing you are looking for.

If you are in the habit of pushing others away, it is likely that you are pushing other opportunities away as well. It is far better to allow and gather than to burn and clear. They are on opposite ends of the energy flow spectrum.

If you want the best things in life to be attracted to you and come easily then you want to remain in a state of loving acceptance, building bridges as you go. Those who are burning bridges can still have everything they want in life but will have a more difficult road ahead as they work hard and fight for everything their heart desires.

It takes far more time and energy to build and maintain bridges, rather than just burning them as you go. Building bridges, keep the line of communication open between those who are less desirable without having to burn the bridge and completely cutting off the relationship.

Building and maintaining a bridge with people who are abusive to you is never encouraged unless you can manage a way to maintain connection without being at risk of further abuse. Otherwise, it is likely important and meaningful to keep lines of communication open with those people in your life which might look as if they appear not to be beneficial at first blush.

Difficult people who are brought into your life often are the most valuable as you grow and expand, as they are placed in your life at the most provocative times to help either challenge or redirect you to opportunities which would have otherwise not been overlooked by you as you were focused on your journey, without taking the time to slow down, stop and smell the roses, so to speak.

In this respect, you are far better off to embrace the advice to build bridges don’t burn them, in effect to keep yourself in a state of openness and allowance, so that the best things in life can come to you easily.

A requirement to have the greatest state of welcoming and allowance is to wrap your head around the idea of not taking things personally and allowing what is to be.

Not taking things personally means that you are open to all possibilities, When someone says or does something, you realize that it has very little (probably nothing) to do about you at all. In most (if not all) cases, when someone says or does something that doesn’t sit right with you or is contradictory to what a concept that you hold dearly, it is not about you, it’s about them.

When people are hurting and in pain or incongruence in their life, they strike out at others. This is simply a person crying out, not attacking you. Once you understand this, you can be more compassionate and empathetic to their plight.

Allowing what is to be is simply what it is. What is, is what is, and it doesn’t need your attention or intervention if it doesn’t directly affect you. You can look at something that doesn’t resonate with you, acknowledge it, shrug your shoulders and just accept that it is happening, but not letting it derail your vibration or train of thought.

Build bridges don’t burn them. Without subjecting yourself to abuse, welcome and allow others to be in your life without taking things personally and allowing what is to be.

What Is Accepting What Is?

The idea of, “Accepting what is,” was introduced to our consciousness by contemporary spiritual leaders and thought leaders as a method of enhancing a higher vibration of life to be experienced by human beings who embrace the idea of accepting what is, rather than succumb to the feelings of sadness, worry, frustration, self-righteousness, disgust, anger, and hate associated with not accepting what is.

What is accepting what is?

Accepting what is, is the practice of filtering everything that is presented to your consciousness with a moment of conscious review, then to think, feel, and act accordingly in the present moment in a responsible manner; fully aware and as in control of your state of being as possible with as little negative impact as possible and responding with reasonable reaction to appropriately affect change, achieve resolution, or avoidance of further negative impact.

In its most basic form, accepting what is, means,

Accepting What Is and Let It Go

If you are not in danger, and this thing (person, place, situation, or circumstance) is not affecting you in real time, in this moment, take note of it, but do not let it upset you. If there is something you can do about it, take appropriate action, without losing your mind. If there is nothing you can do about it, let it go, and do not let it hold you back from loving, giving, and living your life in a more positive, higher vibration.

Accepting What Is and Take Action

If you are in danger, respond appropriately, without giving in to panic or over-reacting. Fight or flight are still appropriate measures if they are an effective way to respond. You should never willingly avail yourself to abuse or dangerous circumstances. Take the appropriate actions to maintain a reasonable degree of safety and security, but stay present in the moment, and do not allow your fear to overtake your ability to manage life day-to-day.

If you have faced an issue in your life, have taken action, and achieved no desirable results, this is a clear indication that Accepting What Is and Let It Go is a more appropriate course of action. Take the steps to back away, create a safe environment for yourself and focus your efforts in a more effective direction for promoting love, a better life, your best life, and make the world a better place.

Not Accepting What Is = Death

As harsh as it sounds, equating not accepting what is with death, seems like an exaggeration at first blush. Nonetheless, resistance to acceptance promotes emotional incongruence, which overrides your ability to reason, causes people to overreact, and respond inappropriately, i.e. “overkill” (killing a housefly with a hand grenade).

In essence, you get so upset, you want to smash anything or anyone that you disagree with or doesn’t make you feel good. While this may eliminate the source of your disdain, it does not result in making you feel much better.

Plus, the negative impact of the feelings of sadness, worry, frustration, self-righteousness, disgust, anger, and hate take an incredible toll on the psychological and physiological state of the human body, depleting energy reserves, causing rapid decline of the immune system, leading to advanced aging, propensity to contract disease, and increasing the chances of experiencing premature death.

Where is the life in that?

There is no life in not accepting what is. In fact, not accepting what is keeps us, all peoples, separated from each other, fearful, and intolerant. This is not a sustainable way of life for long. Left to itself, not accepting what is, will eventually lead to extinction of humanity.

Accepting What Is

In contrast, accepting what is, allowing what it is to be (if we are unable to change it), without judgment or criticism is approaching life with the power of love.

In fact, you can only accomplish the feat of accepting what is, and allowing who or what it is to just be, with the power of love. It takes the most powerful force in the universe to accomplish such an act.

That is quite a high expectation to have for the world. The world changes to a more loving state moment by moment every time one of its people embraces accepting what is and allowing it to be and maintains a higher vibrational state of being.

Doing so, affects your life, permeating the energy field around you from three to five feet in every direction and creates a positive, loving energetic ripple effect throughout your community and the world.

One person can make a difference and have a huge impact on creating a better world for our planet and all its creatures.

Will you be a part of the change?

I’m Pissed Off!

You’ve been abused, neglected, or disrespected, you’ve had about all you could take. If asked how you feel, you might grit your teeth and express, “I’m pissed off!” if you were able to practice some restraint. You might like to express yourself with other superlatives, but nonetheless, you’re mad, and rightfully so.

Someone has hurt you. Maybe they did not slash you with a machete or shoot you with a gun, but the pain is just as real, possibly worse, because a physical wound could be treated at the hospital and you could return to normal physical operation with nothing more than a scar to remind you of the initial wound, while emotional wounds of those who have hurt you remain and can persist for much longer.

How you respond to being pissed off for being hurt or suffering some injustice has a huge impact on the quality of life you experience along your life’s journey. If you harbor bitterness and resentment, you will experience premature aging, advanced illness, and a shorter lifespan. There is also evidence which suggests if you entertain thoughts of being victimized by someone or something, you will attract more victimization, thereby increasing the damage done by just thinking about former transgressions.

If you are in the frame of mind of feeling or saying,

“I’m pissed off!”

At someone or about something, you’re inviting more reasons to be pissed off.

Do you like the feeling of being pissed off? (Most people do not) and there’s good reason, because if you’re pissed, or have bitterness or resentment in your heart, your body is actually suffering deterioration. Your otherwise healthy state of being, both physically and emotionally, is breaking down. Your immune system declines making your more subject to illness and disease and your state of mind becomes fragile, leading to anger, outrage, sadness, or depression.

What Can You Do When You’re Pissed Off?

So, what can you do when you’re apt to shout out, “I’m pissed off!”

You basically have two options in general. You can be part of the problem and fight back, or you can be part of the solution, practicing tolerance and let it go. Revenge and tolerance are on opposite ends of the spectrum.

Fight Back

The emotional stance of fighting back can be performed either by launching a counter-attack of any kind in the real world, in your mind, or by adding to the energetic momentum by focusing on the cause of your angst, or the negative results of it. Whether you’re fighting back in the real world, or just in your mind, the psychological and physiological deterioration is the price you pay for entertaining the idea or engaging in a battle over the even that pissed you off.

While holding it in may help you to save face in the real world, far more damage is done to your body, mind, and spirit in the process of burying the emotions inside. Doing so will literally decrease your quality of life and lead you to an early grave, but you will be more respected in the community for your ability to handle whatever life throws at you.

In this respect, it’s healthier to have expressive emotional outbursts or to launch revenge-fueled counter-attacks, but depending on your definition of integrity or dignity, this may not be the best approach to promote a better world, for retaliation only makes whatever your fighting against more powerful.

You don’t want to become a generator of negative energy. If you want to take a stand against something, do not oppose it, instead support and turn your attention toward a positive solution.

It may be wiser to consider a bit of,

Tolerance

From the perspective of tolerance, you see things from a different point of view. You imagine what it must be like to walk a mile, or live a life, in someone else’s shoes. From this compassionate and loving viewpoint, you can understand and see that most injustices are neither malicious or fueled by any intention to harm you or make you feel bad in any way. More the most part, people are just trying to get through life the best they can with what they have.

You could forgive your transgressor, but that establishes you as a victim. A higher resonating vibration is not to need to establish yourself as a victim requiring recompense or forgiveness but to disempower the whole affair by realizing there was never an intent to harm you. You realize that had you been that person, living their life in their shoes, at that moment in time, you would have done the same thing. You know this is true because you witnessed it.

Now you can have compassion for that person (being careful not to self-righteously judge or demean) understanding that we’re all just doing the best we can with what we have,

The practice of tolerance is the moral high road, and it does not come easily because we are trained from birth to practice separation and opposition, whereas tolerance promotes unity and harmony. Tolerance takes practice, but the benefits are more of the qualities in life that you desire.

More love, happiness, wellness, peace of mind, longevity…

Then there are the cases of malicious intent to deceive or harm you directly, these are really quite rare and might be associated with someone who is potentially a psychopath or sociopath, but that’s a different story.

What approach are you likely to take the next time you feel like shouting, “I’m pissed off?”

See also: How to Keep from Getting Pissed Off