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Edify Others

If you really want the good things in life to come to you then make it a priority to edify others. In this life you get what you give, if you are building others up you will be raised up and find yourself in harmony with being receptive to all the good things in life.

If you are disrespectful and put others down, you can still have some good stuff, but you will work hard to get it and it will be less satisfying once you do get some of the good stuff.

Not tearing others down and simply edifying or lifting them up, being supportive and lighthearted is a much better approach and pays you back for your sincere effort in increased joy, satisfaction, greater manifestation ability, and sense of contribution.

Plus, isn’t that what you want?

Don’t you want to be respected and honored for all you think, say, or do?

If you think about it, it takes a great deal of effort just to make it through a normal day. Think of all the things you do, all the decisions you make every day (you make about 35,000 of them each and every day), even on days when you’re not working. It’s exhausting just to think about it.

And what do you get for it?

Nothing. Little or nothing. Maybe earn a few dollars for your efforts on workdays, but let’s face it, you’re worth far more than the few bucks you get from working for the right to live. Right?

Would it be so hard for someone to stop, even if just for a few seconds, and notice your efforts, the sacrifices you make every day, day in, day out. And if it weren’t too much to ask, wouldn’t it be nice if someone complimented you for something? Anything?

Imagine you’re being that person. The person who does take the few seconds required to notice something about someone else and compliments them. You don’t have to fawn over them, and it can be something as little as, “Oh, I love your shoes,” that makes someone’s day just a little bit better.

You’d be surprised at how little it takes to change someone’s day, or make life a little more worth living (unless you think about how much you appreciate being appreciated, even if in the smallest of ways).

The universe repays you for your efforts energetically by raising your vibration, and before too long, you find yourself in the higher frequency of open receptivity for an easier life. Suddenly things are requiring less effort, and the good things in life start finding their way to you, instead of you’re having to work so hard for the good stuff.

All because you were willing to make a small contribution to the world around you.

The more you edify others, the more you receive. But don’t think you’ll be getting edification in kind.

There are those whose gift and ministry it is to edify others. They sometimes give up and break down because they’re surrounded by an ungrateful, selfish society. With all their efforts to take the time to notice others and build them up, no one recognizes the edifier for their contribution, and this can leave them feeling unappreciated. This can make them feel less inclined to do the work, falling into the same trap as the rest of society, as their vibrational frequency sinks.

It’s good to keep your intentions in check. If your intention in edifying others is simply to receive, this will work, but by lifting others up simply out of honest love and respect, increases your energetic return even more. You are rewarded for all you do with the best intentions and a pure heart. Maybe not the way you expected, but energetically, which is far more powerful in the long-run.

So, edify others, raise your vibration, and make the world a better place.

I get excited just thinking about you doing this.

May you be blessed in all that you do.

(smile)

Helping someone who hasn’t asked for it

I know you like to help people. You see someone struggling and you want to lend a hand to offer them support so they can have a better life. This is all good and shows you have a servant’s heart.

It’s a tough row to hoe when you’re helping someone who hasn’t asked for it.

The key is to be gentle when dealing with someone who hasn’t really asked for your help. You cannot assume where they are in their life’s journey and you cannot know what’s going on inside someone else’s head or heart.

You cannot want something more for someone else than they want it for themselves.

Just be humble and offer him or her a choice. As you are encouraging others, try to remain empathetic and let them know you’d like to have them as a part of your circle of friends, and let them opt in or out. Let it be their choice.

You can’t really help someone who doesn’t want your help.

Letting your inner love-guidance system lead you, invite them to play with you in your world. You could invite them to share a meal or attend an event with you, and see how they do.

You hear many stories of personal metamorphosis which started with someone taking notice of them and inviting them along to experience something new. All they need was that little nudge to engage more fully in the spectrum of life.

A person might reject your initial invitation because they have low-self esteem or is not feeling up-to-par or lacking in self-confidence. So, it might be a good idea to walk away after the first rejection but give him or her another opportunity or two.

If you can find out why they don’t want to join you, maybe you can address that issue, then move on. Otherwise, don’t make them feel as though you are pressuring them.

You can help them by offering helpful comments about your observations of their social interactions if they are open to it, remembering to be gentle and kind as you do so.

The best way to give someone advice is to model the behavior yourself, like, “Watch me. See how I do it.” Let them observe you, then encourage them, “Now, you try it.”

In social situations, you can do the heavy lifting by setting up introductions for them, like,”Hey, this is my friend Jason. He’s an expert in repurposing technology. He’s amazing at taking old tech and turning it into something amazing. Don’t you have some old technology collecting dust?” Then, let them take it from there, as you continue to mingle elsewhere.

If you notice him or her struggling, don’t rush to their rescue. Just make a note of it for review later, in private. You are not coddling anybody, just giving him or her an opportunity to find their own way.

Be careful not to criticize but offer support humbly. You can lightheartedly mention that maybe next time, he check for toilet paper attached to his shoe before he leaves the restroom, without intimidating.

If you’re going to confront them on a bigger issue, like, let’s say she is a Debbie Downer, you might have to do a little more coaching on the many ways they can have more positive interactions with others in social settings.

Always remember, no one is broken or wrong. Everyone is just doing the best they can with what they have. You can offer assistance if they are willing to do their part along the way.

If they are not willing to participate with you in kind, then bless them as they make their own way. You may not be the best match to assist them or maybe this is just not a good time for them.

God bless you for reaching out, the world is a better place because of you.

Encouraging Others

You can have a huge impact on someone’s life just by adopting the ministry of encouraging others. I try to encourage others by edifying them, lifting them up, and trying to help them see the world of possibilities which we are all surrounded by every day but rarely see.

People are so focused on the “just getting by” or making it through to another day that they miss the incredible opportunities to embrace the idea that life can be so much more than just the same ol’ same ol’ day-to-day drudgery.

You are a child of God and as such, you are entitled to all the good things this life has to offer. You know this to be true because regardless of life circumstances, social programming, some inner personal wounds, and maybe not feeling worthy, or due to a lack of self-esteem, you want something more out of life.

You have the desire to live a better life because deep inside you know you were destined to live a better life, you best life and maybe even be so enthusiastically living such an incredible life that you might like to serve the greater good and make the world a better place.

Maybe all you need is a little encouragement, and as you’re feeling better about living this life, you can feel that tug on your heart to reach out to encourage others who are feeling awkward about embracing all this life has to offer them.

Most people find it hard to believe that they can, in a sense, “have it all.” Even though, if encouraged to step back and take a wider view of the world, they can see so much more than they could previously. The slightest change of perspective could make all the difference.

Many people have had such a difficult time with their life’s journey they are unable to see their own amazing qualities, skills, and gifts, which make them so incredibly valuable, even priceless, to the greater community around them.

When you become aware of someone’s unique abilities, please take the time to compliment them on their specialness. It may be the only encouragement or recognition they get. Why? Because the world we live in today has left us all so frantically trying to manage our waking hours in such a flurry of activity that we (feel like we) don’t have the time to spend our limited time (or attention) on someone who would have little or nothing to offer us in return.

Certainly, we do have to focus on our own stuff as we’re growing, changing, and evolving into the better version of ourselves, but our growth must include the encouragement of others around us, otherwise, we would be just selfish narcissists.

Would it be too much to ask if you witnessed someone exercising their ability to do or say something that sets them aside from the rest of the pack to encourage them with a compliment? Even if all you say is something rudimentary, like, “Hey, that thing you just did was so cool.”

I meet a lot of people at various stages along their walk of life who report they contemplated, then decided to make massive, more positive changes, in their life due to the slightest encouragement of someone they barely knew. That life-changing person could be you.

Encourage others without being critical. Try not to follow a compliment with a “but.” You can gently encourage others to do better without discounting your original compliment.

There’s no need to point out someone’s shortcomings (most people beat themselves up enough already).

Celebrate someone when you see them doing something good or expressing their individual gifts.

Do encourage others to stretch themselves to reach higher by complimenting them helping them to recognize their strengths, abilities and consider the unlimited potential they have while supporting them to do even better.

Step back, and watch them grow.