Tag: unrequited love

To My Beloved Who Could Never Be

This is me, bearing all, without polish, softening, without wrapping it in spiritual language. Just the truth. My truth. The truth of a man whose heart has seen enough life to know exactly what it’s feeling.

The moment I met you, something in me shifted. Not a spark. Not a flutter. A recognition, deep, grounded, ancient.

My heart, this solid, loyal, battle-tested heart of mine, looked at you and said, “There you are.” My soul stepped forward like it had been waiting for you longer than I’ve been alive.

It didn’t make sense then. It doesn’t make sense now. It won’t ever make sense to the outside world. But to me, in that moment, everything came into focus in a way that nothing else ever has.

I fell for you; fully, immediately, without hesitation. Something in the axis of my life shifted around you. Every quiet ache, every unanswered longing, every part of me that wondered if a connection like this even existed, all of it moved toward you and found its answer.

When I’m with you I feel alive in a way that’s rare. The laughter, the ease, the way time feels different, lighter, electric, it’s real. And I know you feel that part of it, too. I see it in the way you relax, the way you smile, the way you let the world fall away for a moment.

But here’s the truth I’ve had to face:

The depth I feel does not return to me in the same way. Not in your eyes. Not in your heart. Not in the current of your soul.

You care. You enjoy the moments we share. You appreciate the unlimited potential in what the future might hold.

But you don’t meet me at the depth where I stand. And that isn’t your fault. It’s not a flaw. It’s simply the truth.

Still, I love you. Not in a desperate way, not in a way that begs or clings, but in a way that is steady, rooted, and undeniable.

So what does a man do when he feels something this strong for someone who cannot meet him in the same place?

He stands in the truth of it without demanding anything in return.

I love you quietly. I love you privately. I love you without expectation. And I pull back, deliberately, consistently, even when it costs me something to do it. Not because I want distance. Not because my feelings fade, but because letting myself fall any further toward someone who cannot catch me would break something essential in me. And I don’t allow myself to break, not like that. So I do what strength requires.

I hold myself back. I ground myself in reality. I act composed when inside I’m managing pressure no one else can see.

Each day I choose a quieter form of love, one that doesn’t disrupt your life, one that doesn’t burden your heart, one that honors both of us.

Some days that choice feels light. Other days it carries weight, but I carry it all the same, because that’s what a centered man does. He honors the truth without trying to bend it into something else.

And yes, there’s a part of me that wishes we could be a forever “us.” A real, balanced, chosen us. A love built on reciprocity, alignment, and equal depth. But wanting something doesn’t make it possible. And forcing something that isn’t mutual only destroys what was beautiful in the first place.

So I accept the reality: A “never us” protects the very thing in me you awakened. A “never us” keeps my heart intact. A “never us” is the most honest path forward.

Still, in the quiet moments, before the day begins, after the world goes dark, I think of you. Not with ache, but with truth. With gratitude. With a kind of stillness I don’t feel for many people.

I imagine other lifetimes, other timelines, other versions of us where the gap between our hearts didn’t exist. Not because I’m longing for fantasy, but because the soul has its own way of remembering possibilities. But here, in this life, in this moment, I love you from the distance that keeps us whole.

I love you from a place of choice, not need. I love you with a loyalty I didn’t ask for, but one I’m grounded enough to carry.

You may never know how deeply you’ve shifted the landscape of my inner world. You may never understand the way you’ve awakened parts of me I thought were long settled, but I know, and that is enough.

Even if we never become “us,” you will always live in the part of me that loves without condition, without demand, without regret.

Always thinking of you. Always accepting what is. Always loving you, from a distance that honors us both.

—David

 

Your Sacred Love Energy

Beyond three-dimensional love, there is a more powerful energy that can be shared between two lovers who are awakening to true love. On this higher dimension of love, your sacred love energy swirls within the heart clockwise, waiting to be released and given to a sacred other. When the sacred other receives the love energy from the lover, he or she swirls the love energy with his or her own love energy and gives it back to you. It grows into a powerful, passionate sacred fire.

When two awakening lovers continue to give and receive this love energy sharing, it grows and can become more powerful than our burning sun. This is when two people are truly making love, and this is the most powerful creative energy in the universe.

What if one of the lovers fails to return the love in fashion?

For whatever reason, one of the lovers may receive the love given but may not swirl the love received with his or her own love and return it. This breaks the cycle of exponentially compounded love energy. Love remains, and enthusiastically sharing lovers may not even notice that love is not growing exponentially.

Often, this is a temporary state. When the other lover is ready, the swirling, growing, reciprocating love resumes, and this is love’s healing bliss.

What About Unrequited Love?

There may be an inability for one of the lovers to be able to participate reciprocally at all; the reasons are vast such as an inability to raise their love vibration to a level to initiate or participate in this level of vibrational love exchange, a transitionary phase of life that has left them unable to connect in this way, or perhaps maybe your unequally yoked, possibly with an energy vampire that will suck all the love energy he or she can extract from your being.

In any case, you may have found yourself giving your love to someone who doesn’t have the ability to or will not cooperate in your calling to create exponential universal love. The best thing you can do is detect this early—the earlier, the better—so that you can do something about it.

When reciprocated, your source of love energy is endless, and if you both are tapped into God’s source energy, it is infinite. When unrequited, you give of your love energy, just as you would normally. However, while you are giving, you do not get the amplified love in return to add your love to give in the next wave, so you add twice as much of your love, swirl it up, and send it out again.

And it feels good. It feels incredible to be giving your authentic love unreservedly to another being, and using your imagination, you can feel that love being swirled, amplified, and returned in synchronous harmony, and you are in heaven. You can’t wait to do it more and more… Only your partner takes it all in and gives nothing back. Since it is feeling so good to you, you don’t notice.

This is not the same thing as knowing that your partner is going through a trial or challenge that has him or her in a weakened state. Of course, you, well aware of the circumstance, would gladly serve heaping helpings of love-enhanced God-source energy to your partner in the hope that you might be able to offer love, healing, and support to your lover. You may give and give and give unrequited love transfusions in an effort to save your partner in times of trouble. But this is something completely different.

Here, you have someone draining you of your precious love energy reserves, maybe maliciously. Left unchecked, you could be drained completely until there is no love and very little life left in you.

As soon as you realize there is a terrible mismatch in your energetic love exchange, it is time to have a serious talk and consider the possible necessity of curtailing the relationship altogether. This could be a very toxic situation for you, especially if there is any malevolent intent at work here.

And I know, with all this talk about love swirling, you’re thinking about this taking place during the act of making love, but know that love-making does not require sexual activity. Of course, in its highest form, love swirling is at its highest and best amidst two lovers exchanging in the most connective state of sexual intimacy, but it is not in the least bit restricted to this type of activity.

The love-swirling exchange can take place during a kiss, when holding hands, or even during a brief eye-joined love lock from across a crowded room. Love is not limited to time and space; it can be sent and received by two lovers whose hearts beat as one. This is great love.

In all its magnificence and limitlessness, “love” is a powerful energy sought to be had, used, and possibly abused by others who would gladly take it from you, and if the result is to leave you loveless and potentially lifeless on the floor, so be it.

It is up to you to protect your heart and your love.

If Love Leaves

If your lover leaves, it makes sense, if you don’t understand why, to hold sacred space and send love to your lost love, with the hope that he or she will come back to you to resume your love relationship or move on to the next phase of love together.

No one would blame you for using all the tools that you have available to save a love that you believe has so much potential. This is admirable, and it’s the kind of love that inspires us, and we all desire to have it, but exercise caution in holding sacred space and sending love to the lover who has left.

If your lover has left for dishonorable or nefarious reasons, there may be no coming back, and even if you could conjure enough love to bring your tainted lover back, you could find yourself in much worse shape.

Probably one of the worst things you could do is to send what energetic love you have to the lover who has left you, leaving you with nothing left, and doing so will cost you your natural immunity, leaving you vulnerable to ill health, greater risk of disease, and even a disruptive premature end of life.

In your lover’s absence, it is far better to focus your love on yourself and build your own energetic love reserves. By doing so, you are honoring your love and your lover who has left so that if he or she returns, you have some high-quality love energy to share, which may be the most valuable life-saving commodity to offer if the lost love returns.

In the event your lost love does not return, you will have plenty of love energy that will attract your next big love like a magnet.

Unrequited and lost love are hugely complicated issues, and I by no means expect this to be the only thing to consider, as there are multitudes of issues and possibilities to consider in these situations. However, this is intended only to address one of the components: the care and feeding of your love.

It is your precious love; tend to it as though it means everything because it does.

 

Make Someone Love You

As much as you love someone, you can never love them enough to make them love you. Someone will either love you or they won’t. You will be able to trust them, or you won’t. They will either stay, or they will leave and no matter how much you love them, you cannot make someone love you back.

Since people have been exchanging love one to another, unrequited love has been an issue. It’s nothing new, and it’s not likely to change any day soon.

The False Accusation Breakup

There is a growing trend of demonization that is becoming more commonplace in the breakup process. When someone is secretly planning a breakup, they start collecting words and phrases uttered by you dating back to the origination of your relationship.

Data will likely include decisions you made or actions you’ve taken, which all can be spun into wild false accusations which would make others, possibly even yourself, question your capacity for love or sanity, which could be considered as abusive.

The false accusation breakup model is designed to hurt you and make you feel better about this person’s departure.

Until recently, this was a psychological tool utilized by psychopaths, sociopaths, and narcissists. Today, this is more common in our contemporary culture. When something invades popular culture, like this, there is little you can do about it, so until this method runs its course, try not to take it personally (though nothing could be more personal than a personal attack focused on you and your integrity).

Your attacker (the person breaking it off with you) has had plenty of time to prepare, and there is no way for you to compete or respond appropriately to each and every accusation, which will be voluminous.

If you find yourself on the receiving end of such an attack, your best move is just to listen, try not to let yourself be offended by all the accusations, and just let him or her air all their issues. Try to listen and interject with the, “Oh, I’m sorry,” or, “I didn’t realize that.”

The key is not to become offended or defensive about these exaggerated charges against you. This whole process is far less about you than it is meant to appear.

Your accuser has already left and has likely already made plans that do not include you. He or she has already left, and this particular act of demonizing you is his or her way of justifying their recent actions and final disconnection.

Any attempt to reason with someone who is unjustly rapid-firing a long list of false accusations will only delay the false accusation breakup performance and its ultimate outcome. So, just let them do what they have to do, and let them go.

Will it be painful? Yes, it will because you’ve been blindsided. You didn’t see this coming and it’s shocking when it happens. And because this break-up method is becoming more and more popular, you’re likely to encounter it more than once.

Remember that when someone is done with you, they are done. When they’ve initiated your crucifixion on their own, acting as accuser, judge, and jury. There is nothing you can do about it but delay the inevitable.

You cannot make someone love you, who has already left and disconnected from you. He or she may return later after they have put you through this and accomplished whatever it was that motivated them to do this to you.

If he or she returns, you have to seriously ask yourself if this is the kind of person you want to align yourself with. There is the likelihood that you will have to suffer this again in the future, and it will be worse the next time.

No one can make this decision for you. This is something you have to work out for yourself and whatever you decide will be right for you, because all things work out for good, even if it looks unlikely at the time.

So, see it for what it is, and let him or her say whatever is necessary to justify him-or-her-self. Let them go and remember,

You cannot make someone love you.

See you at the Soulmate Wizardry event.

Disingenuous Lovers

Disingenuous lovers include those who are insensitive, having little ability to possess or share the heartfelt love that you might have, and will also include partners who approach love from completely different perspectives, these are the survivors, manipulators, and predators, among others.

With all the attempts to try to find a suitable partner who can love you in the very same way that you can love him or her, still there can exist an incompatibility in the type and style of love and loving which you share. Sometimes you discover yourself unequally yoked with a disingenuous or fake love.

Probably the most difficult part of finding a vibrationally matched lover, one that approaches the idea of love in a way that is harmonious with you, is so elusive, sometimes we just give-in, compromise, and accept what is more attainable, then work out the details later in the relationship.

The earlier in your relationship that you are able to identify the energetic love vibration which is incompatible with you, the better. Regardless of when the identification becomes aware to you, and you or your partner take the action(s) necessary to lead to the relationship’s cessation, the process of disengagement and disconnection can be quite painful for either or both parties in the relationship which has become unmanageable.

Insensitive People

Those people who are less sensitive than the rest of us, may have limited capacity for love and the feelings which are associated with love and romantic relationships. While they are able to connect to another person, their ability to connect is somewhat limited, therefore they are not easily hurt when the relationship begins to uncouple or fall apart.

Insensitive people are not bad people, even though they can easily be demonized when the relationship begins to deteriorate, and they are not as moved emotionally as the other partner might be. It’s easy to assume they don’t care, are mean, or evil, even though their motives may be absent of malice. Lacking in capacity does not make them bad people, it’s just the way they are.

This type of coupling, the sensitive with the insensitive, is not uncommon as in the courting process, these opposites are generally attracted to each other. Insensitive people can change and become more sensitive over time, but the sensitive partner cannot change them (so give up on any expectation that you might be able make him or her more sensitive, this is a solo part of the journey for the insensitive).

Survivors

Survivors are those who will do or say anything in order to survive. This was a far more popular motivator in the acquisition of love and finding a suitable mate in our not too distant past. In a time when it was difficult for a single person of low or normal means there existed a great deal of importance focused on finding someone to cohabitate with or marry to prevent homelessness or being shunned by society.

Even though in modern times we embrace the idea of being able to survive (and sometimes thrive) as adult singles, there are still those who seek out a mate to enhance their ability to enjoy the basic necessities of life.

Manipulators

Manipulators take the idea of surviving to the next level. They desire not only to survive but to benefit greatly from their matchmaking efforts. They find suitable mates based on what they can bring to the relationship which is highly sought after by the manipulative love-seeker, who may also lean toward narcissism.

They have an uncanny ability to pour on the charm to persuade the object of their affection that he or she is indeed, “the one.” The answer to all your hopes and dreams in terms of love, and we all, regardless of our station in life, desire and long to be loved, therefore may fall victim to this type of manipulation in the courting process.

Predators

Predators are those who maliciously exploit the unsuspecting tender hearts to their benefit, using romance and the promise of love to defraud or abuse their love-prey for their own satisfaction. These are most likely the predatory sociopaths and psychopaths who are just out to exploit love-seekers for whatever they can get.

With the least ability to have compassion or feelings, they are especially gifted in their skills as users and abusers. They will only leave when your supply has been exhausted and you are no further use for them, or you have identified them, insulated and separated yourself from them.

Let ’em Go

Even though it can be painful and difficult to let the disingenuous lover go, let him or her go.

If your love is not recipricated and/or not a match for you, let him go. You are not obligated to stay in a relationship without love. Set yourself free and open for love.

Not to do so, is self-abuse and you have no one to blame but yourself.

Stay Open

Not to cast a dark could on your love seeking, because there are authentic genuine lovers who are perusing the landscape of people in search of you and your unique ability to love and be loved.

Stay open and aware that there are more people whom you are incompatible with than those with whom you are compatible with to varying degree in terms of your unique love vibration.

Don’t be in a hurry or try to rush things, as he or she may not be perfectly aligned with you at the moment. Your soul mate may be looking for you while in the process of working on his or her alignment, just as you are, in this moment.

When you are both a vibrational match, you will find yourselves looking into each other’s eyes.

See you at the Soulmate Wizardry event.